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Josh
The following podcast is a Dear Media production. Two Jews, both big and tall. No subject too small for the good guys. A mother's dream Premium podcast team.
Ben
Make it your weekly routine.
Josh
It's a good Guys.
Ben
And if you don't give us five stars.
Josh
What are you nuts?
Ben
What are you nuts?
Josh
Yeah.
Ben
We're the good guys.
Josh
They're not the great guys. We're just the good of the good.
Ben
Of the good guys.
Josh
I'm miserable. Here we are in person yet again, another episode, completely different day and time. And we're doing it right on the day that you think it is. Right.
Ben
Yeah. Of course.
Josh
This isn't the second episode of the same.
Ben
We record on Thursdays and release on Thursdays. We're the most topical podcast there is.
Josh
How do we. Let's leave it up to the listeners, because our morons are really smart for being morons. How can we be more topical knowing that there is a work chain workflow with the great Dear Media. They need time to edit. And our video. Shout out. The great Jasmine, the great Olivia. Yes, everything needs. Takes, you know, about five business days to edit. So we're usually about a week behind.
Ben
Yes, yes.
Josh
Is there any way to remedy that?
Ben
No, but I would like to know. Sound off in the comments. Do you care for topical? Do you prefer our nonsense or do you prefer our commentary on current events?
Josh
I think if we could be topical for at least one episode a week.
Ben
It would be great.
Josh
Or. Yeah, I think we'd be the biggest podcast in the world.
Ben
We would be.
Josh
Which we already are. I don't know why.
Ben
No, the fact that we're the second biggest podcast in the world and we talk about nothing.
Josh
Yeah, it's us and Mo Robbins.
Ben
Shout out. Mo.
Josh
Big van.
Ben
Oh, my God.
Josh
Yeah, I think. Or should we do Patreon? Sure.
Ben
I'm in.
Josh
We're going to fight a lot.
Ben
I'm down.
Josh
All right.
Ben
Cheers. Should we do a Patreon?
Josh
Having to schedule a third episode a week? Good luck. Easy.
Ben
Yeah, but we can do that from home. You know, we charge them 5.99amonth and make it the lowest quality possible. But it's not video. It's just audio. Josh.
Josh
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Ben
Maybe we call it the. The walking club, and we're just on our AirPods walking. You go on your nice walk by the beach. I go on my nice walk by the dumpsters, and we're just walking and talking for a half hour. And that's our Patreon.
Josh
I would love it. Can you record that?
Ben
I don't know, I think you can on your Samsung Ultra. Yes, you can.
Josh
My Galaxy S25 Ultra. So we were talking about, you know, the great Claudia Ashri. Great Paige pack.
Ben
Yes. Both great women.
Josh
They are both due.
Ben
Yes.
Josh
Next couple of months.
Ben
Similar timing.
Josh
Similar timing.
Ben
More similar than I realized.
Josh
Yeah, me too.
Ben
Yeah. About six weeks apart.
Josh
And so tell me, what, what. What is the birthing plan? What's our plan?
Ben
Plan is to bh bh bh bhbh. Until the day Claudia has actually started to, like, think, like, okay, what does maybe a nursery room look like? What themes are we going for? All of that stuff. Doing as much planning as she can without, like, buying things. And then, yeah, we're just gonna, God willing, wait until that beautiful day and hopefully she's ready to rock. And we go in and we have a beautiful guy. That's the hope.
Josh
And no induction.
Ben
That's not the plan right now. Yeah, no, no. Just letting nature take its course.
Josh
If her water breaks at a Whole Foods, at a Wegmans, at a Predemon.
Ben
Chair, throw her on my back and run to the hospital.
Josh
Can you imagine?
Ben
Oh, yeah. I mean, I'll deliver it. I'm in. I'm ready.
Josh
If you see Ben sprinting up Madison Avenue.
Ben
Yeah. With. With Claudia on my shoulder, running, just.
Josh
You just hear footsteps. I've never been. My wife's only had C section and so I've never been. Whose water broke. But.
Ben
Interesting.
Josh
I'd be scared.
Ben
Yeah. I can't even imagine. I can't even imagine. I have seen full birthing videos. I have. Have you seen them before?
Josh
We're in like health class.
Ben
No, actually, Brian Kelly showed me a video. Cause he's had surrogates of literally the entire labor. Like I've seen full vaginal labor.
Josh
He filmed it himself, Josh. Wow.
Ben
All of it. All of it. You see everything. So I'm completely ready. It's kind of like that Demi Moore movie, the substance.
Josh
Right.
Ben
It's like that level of gore and yeah, it's. It's pretty wild. And quickly shout out. Demi Moore should have won.
Josh
I do wonder though, when Brian Kelly started filming the actual birth happening, if he went for a second. So that's what it looks like it probably. Yes. The wonderful points guy. Brian Kelly, our amazing gay king.
Ben
Yes. Needs to come on more Ma please of him. So good.
Josh
He's always New York Times bestseller. Lucky little sucker.
Ben
Yeah.
Josh
Well, well deserved. He's well the best. Genius, Pioneer, pioneer, genius.
Ben
Absolutely need to set him up with the queen of Melrose. Loves her. The King and Queen. The king and Queen.
Josh
The king of the Point. The best show.
Ben
King of Queens. So underrated.
Josh
I never really watched.
Ben
What? Jerry Stiller. He takes the cake. He's so good.
Josh
He is so good.
Ben
He's the only reason that that show works.
Josh
I'm going to blow your mind right now.
Ben
Tell me.
Josh
You ready?
Ben
Yeah.
Josh
Name a sitcom of the last 30 years. Name a show of the last 30 years, but more sitcom that meant a lot to you and see if I've watched it. And it can be as ubiquitous and part of the Zeitgeist as anything.
Ben
Seinfeld.
Josh
Not really.
Ben
Curb. Are these.
Josh
Curb's Different. That's. I've seen every episode of Curb. Seinfeld.
Ben
It's. It's interesting. Okay, so you're not. You don't watch them.
Josh
Name another one.
Ben
Modern Family.
Josh
Never seen an episode.
Ben
Really good. Really good show.
Josh
Believe it.
Ben
It doesn't really shock me, though, that you haven't seen Modern Family. It doesn't shock me that. It doesn't shock me that you haven't seen all of these.
Josh
Name another.
Ben
I just know that you haven't seen it and I can't think of them. I just had a bagel.
Josh
The Office. No.
Ben
Insane.
Claudia
We know.
Josh
Bagels give you. Brain fog. What was I thinking?
Ben
I know.
Josh
I'm sabotaging.
Ben
You sabotaged me. This episode's done. This episode brought to you by Brain Fog.
Josh
Oh, my God.
Ben
I need my turmeric to reduce the swelling.
Josh
Brought to you by a neurologist. Name? Friends.
Ben
Friends. No. Nothing I've seen. How about you name what you haven't seen? You name them. I'll tell you.
Josh
Friends. I've seen some episodes. Sometimes.
Ben
All I know.
Josh
Less than a dozen.
Ben
All I know is Jerry Stiller makes everything better.
Josh
King of Queens. Not. I've seen one or two. Seinfeld. I've probably seen two dozen episodes in total. Modern Family? Never seen Office. Saw one episode. Wasn't interested. Have seen all the British Office. Loved American Office. Less interested. No shade. Zero shade. Obviously, these are incredible shows. Obviously. I'm in no position to. To give a reviewer a critique.
Ben
Sure. Just my truth, but just not something that you're interested in watching.
Josh
Yeah. I've never seen Lost. I've never seen.
Ben
Wow. That's. You're missing out. I mean, there are some shows that you're missing out on. Have you seen Desperate Housewives?
Josh
With Terry Hatcher?
Ben
Yeah. And Eva Longoria.
Josh
I'll hate it.
Ben
I swear on my life, you will love it. Josh, this show is so moronically. Fantastically soap opera y drama y dumb, but really well done. I love it. Love it. By the way. That's how it's not topical. But if we watched something and spoke about what we're watching, like even if it was I know Reba, then our beautiful listeners could also watch Reba and then we could talk about Reba.
Josh
Sure, sure.
Ben
You know, and then it doesn't have to be topical because we're watching an old ass show.
Josh
Something like Reba I could see myself getting into. Cause I like when something isn't trying to be more than it is. And I think Reba knew exactly what lane it was in.
Ben
1000% bad.
Josh
Reba horrific. Reba McIntyre sees the bad exit on the very goes. I'll go that way. It's me, Reba. Yeah, I'm just not. I'm trying to think of. Okay, name your top five favorite shows ever. Can you think of them?
Ben
Yes, I'm going to try. Curb is number one. I love, love, love Curb. Love two is probably Seinfeld. I love, love, love, love, love Seinfeld. It's hard because now we're blending comedy. I really am obsessed with Desperate Housewives. It might be Recency Bias. I loved Lost. It's funny that you brought that up. Loved Breaking Bad. Unbelievable. Game of Thrones. Unbelievable. Like, if we're crossing genres, it's very difficult.
Josh
Let's cross them.
Ben
I think that the greatest can't put it down show was Breaking Bad. I loved it. So good. Such a good story. So you just needed more of it. Two if we're crossing genres, Curb. I love Curb. I love Larry. I would just love to sit in a room with Larry and just hear him complain. Like there's just nothing. It feels like a show that was just like made for me and I watch it and I love it. Seinfeld feels like it's in the same vein. But honestly, if you're a Curb fan, you know, Seinfeld's just a little bit worse.
Josh
It is.
Ben
It's just a little worse.
Josh
It is.
Ben
It is. And you really see. Shout out Jerry. Sorry. Larry's the guy. Larry's the genius. It's not that Jerry isn't funny. I'm not saying Jerry isn't funny.
Josh
No, he's. He's brilliant in his own right.
Ben
Brilliant in his own right. But Larry is like another level funny.
Josh
I can't imagine anyone caring less about the comparable genius and comedic ability than Jerry Seinfeld. But he'd be thousand percent now.
Ben
He wouldn't care at all.
Josh
Yeah.
Ben
Wouldn't care.
Josh
Like last time I checked, we're both billionaires.
Ben
Yeah.
Josh
Yeah.
Ben
I think Jerry's probably richer.
Josh
Who? He's.
Ben
I don't really know why not from.
Josh
That pop tart movie.
Ben
Yeah. No, no good. No good.
Josh
Shout out. Great Jewish king, Great Jewish comedian King Jerry Seinfeld.
Ben
The best.
Josh
Speaking of the second best, like my top five are. First is Sopranos.
Ben
Yes.
Josh
Second is Breaking Bad. Third would be the show Transparent on Amazon Prime. Brilliant. Brilliant. Beyond Californication. I loved with David Duchovny. Not probably a show you could still do. And then I'd say five is Curb and somewhere in that maybe Curb and then Californication. But those are my top five. But we were talking on the episode before about Kazi David last week, the great Cassie David. Because you were talking about napping and she recently went viral for saying that naps are ridiculous, overrated and unacceptable. I agree, I agree, I agree. They should not be done.
Ben
No. Unless you're pregnant.
Josh
It's a last resort.
Ben
Yeah.
Josh
It's for pregnant people and kids.
Ben
Yeah. Who have the ability to sleep for three, four hours. Right. Like if you're going into a nap, you need to dedicate the time. Catnap. No good, no good, no good.
Josh
But then there is also studies that a nap that's less than 21 minutes is regenerating.
Ben
Really?
Josh
I know, right?
Ben
Less than 21 minutes.
Josh
It's something like that. That's like the NASA look it up on my sample.
Ben
It sounds like a miserable nap. Actually maybe it is just short enough that you haven't drifted into rem. It must be that. So you can't be awoken out of REM.
Josh
NASA recommends a 26 minute nap to improve alertness and performance while minimizing sleep inertia. This short nap is known as the N NASA nap. The power nap. 10 to 20 minutes. Best for getting straight back to work. The NASA nap, proven by scientists to improve pilot performance 34% and alertness by 54%.
Ben
Our pilots are napping.
Josh
Yes.
Ben
I don't. I don't like that. Listen, they can't sleep. That's why there's co pilots.
Josh
They take off.
Ben
I'm saying they can go and take a full night's rest while the other pilot is piloting.
Josh
Sure.
Ben
A catnap mid flight.
Josh
So bright up there.
Ben
I don't like that at all.
Josh
My friend used to be a teacher for Boeing and I would say, what do you do up there? And he goes, we cover the windows. It's too bright. Wow.
Ben
I mean, you don't need to see anything.
Josh
It's on autopilot. They're watching for weather.
Ben
Yeah. And birds.
Josh
Not up there.
Ben
Yeah. 35,000ft. No, a little lower than that. Then they come. The birds, they come into the engine. They crash. I want to know how many plane crashes a year happened from birds in the engine. There was one that just happened. This is a normal thing.
Josh
It is. Bird strike.
Ben
Yes.
Josh
Speaking of the great Brian Kelly and I know, we thought about this, that the people who in Toronto flipped over in the Delta flight.
Ben
Yes.
Josh
They got offered a cool 30k.
Ben
Yes.
Josh
No strings attached. You said that's not good, right?
Ben
I didn't think so. I know that Brian did go on record saying, take the 30k. There are no strings attached. You can always sue later. I just don't like it. I'd rather you sue now. That's all. Sue right now.
Josh
My motto is sue now.
Ben
Sue now.
Josh
Yeah.
Ben
Sue now.
Josh
Sue now.
Ben
A Chinese woman soon now.
Josh
It's gorgeous.
Ben
Yeah.
Josh
Well, he also mentioned that the people, the miracle on the Hudson in the Sully flight landing on Hudson. Everyone there got 4K.
Ben
Oh, my God, that's terrible.
Josh
Can you imagine?
Ben
Terrible. No, I can't.
Josh
Your catalogue.
Ben
These airlines have so much money. Do the right thing. The thing is, this stuff happens and has been happening so much more often than people realize.
Josh
I bet you they have to pay.
Ben
Out millions and millions and millions of dollars a year in these traumatic events. You just don't know about all of them.
Josh
Yeah.
Ben
So maybe like, I mean, 4K 70 times is what, 280,000 times 100 events. Some good coin.
Josh
It's not bad.
Ben
28 million.
Josh
Okay, Benjamin. So this morning I arrive in beautiful Newark, New Jersey. Right?
Ben
No. Nobody's ever said that.
Josh
Oh, yeah, there's a song about it, friend in Newark.
Ben
Love it.
Josh
That's the song.
Ben
Yeah, it is.
Josh
I thought so. We can't afford the rights to that. I won't sing anymore. But. So I arrived in beautiful Newark, New Jersey. I wake up, I'm disheveled. You know what I mean? I got night guards. Half. Half flying out of my mouth.
Ben
Yes.
Josh
And I go, what do I have on tap today?
Ben
Yes.
Josh
Take out the Galaxy S25 Ultra. Boom. Now, brief, here's what's next, friend.
Ben
Yep.
Josh
Right. With. Now brief, with Galaxy AI. It's going to tell me what I got going that day, what the weather's going to be like. Also, by the way, here's what you have. You're going to be meeting with the beautiful Ben Midtown near Times Square. It doesn't tell you that Times Square is a hellscape.
Ben
No, it does.
Josh
But it does tell you the address of where I'm going.
Ben
It's unbelievably convenient. Josh. Unbelievable. You want to be briefed on your day. You want to know what's going on the second that you wake up. You want to know, is it shorts weather? For me, it's always shorts weather. That's why I have this cold. Yes, it's always shorts weather. You want to know what time is your meeting? Where is your meeting? Without going into that calendar, nobody needs that. We don't need to see it. We need it all aggregated in one place. What do I have all day long? And Samsung thought of it and made the now brief. And we're all thankful for it. How easy is that?
Josh
Get your Galaxy S25 Ultra@samsung.com now brief displays daily select information from select apps may require Internet connection.
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Ben
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Ben
Like.
Josh
Before we get off, Cassidy David, I've told you my story of meeting Larry David, right? No, I think I've told it on the pod before, but say it again.
Ben
I had a bagel. My brain's inflamed. I can't remember anything.
Josh
There he goes. I had a bagel. The I had a bagel defense.
Ben
Can you see though how rapidly it affects me?
Josh
No.
Ben
Okay, well, I feel it. Continue. I can't remember any sitcom I've ever watched. You're like, name a sitcom. I'm like, can you stop? He's like, no, I can't stop it.
Josh
He's like, no.
Ben
Name a sitcom. I'll tell you if I've seen. No, you name him.
Josh
Easiest layup question, by the way, in history. He's like Days of Our Lives. So, Cassie David. So Pete Davidson. Cassie David. This is when they're dating. Many years ago, I had become friendly for a second with Pete Davidson and he was nice enough to invite me to a memorial for his father, his wonderful father, hero, who sadly passed away during 9 11. He was doing a memorial for him, you know, 15 years later at the Soho House in Los Angeles.
Ben
Lovely.
Josh
Please come.
Ben
You've never told the story.
Josh
Okay, so I go. Happy. Love to. Thank you, Pete. So we go. Real star studded. Occasion. Some very cool people there. I'm there with my wife, we're recently married. I see Larry there with obviously his wonderful daughter. And Pete, the only way to describe her is my wife would say this thoughtiana approaches me and this girl. I've never seen someone with such shark eyes in my life. Now, stunning person, very, very well known on the social medias. Sort of a professional, attractive person. Sure, let's just. Let's just say.
Ben
Got it. Only fans, a pap, you know, Understood.
Josh
I think this was pre onlyfans, but like. But now jugs out.
Ben
Yeah, understood.
Josh
So she zeros in, right. For me, I go, this is a room of very famous people. You are really settling here.
Ben
Sure.
Josh
And I'm with my wife and she is extremely flirtatious. I go, hello, nice to meet you. This is my wife Paige. And she literally didn't care, was like, hi. And next kept going. So at this point, my wife and I are like getting a kick out of it of how like ridiculous this is. So then I see out of the corner of my eye, Larry's leaving the party. She's kind of making his way out with a few other people. And I see Thotiana clock Larry. So now she's upgraded and her shark eyes are on there. And she sees me, sees Larry, needs something to say and goes, hi, Larry, do you know Josh? And I go, fuck. I go, this isn't how I wanted it to happen. Not like this. Not like this. And I see him look over at me and he gives me a kind of a. And I literally looked at him. I said, no need to say hello, nice to meet you. Like, please keep going, Mr. David.
Ben
Yeah.
Josh
Do not let this thought Diana take up any more of your time. He made his way out of the party. She followed him to the elevator. I'm pretty sure that's where it ended. That was sadly how I got to meet a hero.
Ben
But I love that he true to character. Have you met Josh? Eh, you can go.
Josh
Okay, yeah.
Ben
He's just so good.
Josh
I think he would have given me the 15 seconds if I really was like, hi, nice to meet you.
Ben
That's not how you want to meet him? No, that's not what you'd rather not meet him.
Josh
Exactly. Right?
Ben
No. You want to meet people in a situation where it can leave a lasting impression. Otherwise you don't want to meet him at all.
Josh
As a rule, I'd rather not meet you for sure.
Ben
Most of the time when you meet someone, it's a letdown. You don't want It. Especially a guy like Larry, even though I feel like having even just a dinner with him. But see, I'm now even thinking, I guess it's because his character really is just him as a person. It would seem whenever you get in the room with somebody, you expect them to be this version that you've seen on TV. And for 99.9% of people, that's not the case. Like, the actor is acting.
Josh
Right.
Ben
And then in person, they're a person and they're a different type of person. Yeah. Don't meet your heroes.
Josh
Yeah. I mean, I think there's also these actors who. You meet them and you realize that their great desire in life is to be other people.
Ben
Yes.
Josh
And so when they have to be themselves, they're a bit of a shell.
Ben
Yes. Yes. Boring. Lame. Not that I'm mentioning anybody in particular, but.
Josh
But who?
Ben
Lame. No, I try not to be friends with that. I made all this up.
Josh
I hate myself. I'm looking like other people. What's the plan when Baruch Hashem, the wonderful Claudia, goes into labor? What are your sort of planned strategies as the dad to be on delivery.
Ben
Day, D day, Whatever she needs, whenever she needs it. But that's me today. Like, I am. I think, you know, this dinner time, I am cooking her, like, whatever she's in the mood for. Whatever she takes care of me in more ways than I can possibly describe. Like, this woman is like, besides being a mogul, just runs the house. Like, she just. It's her thing. She loves it. She's definitely a little controlling on that end, but it's perfect. It's perfect. And then when it comes to sustenance, when it comes to emotional support, like, it's. I am. I'm there for her 24 7. Whatever she needs. And I love that. I wouldn't have it any other way. So I don't think that's going to change. Like, whatever she needs that day, I'm there in terms of, like, a plan. My plan is not to be annoying. My plan is just to be there. Whatever she needs. Great. Get out of the way. If not, watch that baby like a fucking hawk. The second, God willing, is born. Not let. Like, I don't know. We're now. I think it's because of Desperate Housewives. We're now, like, if the baby goes somewhere else, they're going to switch him. So it's like, keep eyes on baby. So I'm going to watch baby, make sure that he's all good and that nobody drops him on the Floor and return him back to his home, into his mother's breast, to her bosom. And yeah, do what I can, but get out of the way, I think is the plan. Is that a good plan?
Josh
Yeah. I mean, look, when they go into labor, like my wife needed a C section. She was induced, but we were there for like over a day and a half. So now knowing that we're going to be there for a third time, I've got, already got my food places.
Claudia
Yeah.
Ben
You know what you're doing.
Josh
You know the Great Cedar Sinai in California. This is a high end experience. So you know, there's a Magnolia bakery within 800ft. I'll be getting the banana pudding, obviously. So good on third. Chinese chicky salad.
Ben
So good.
Josh
Nice.
Ben
Yeah, you're near good stuff. You're near good stuff.
Josh
And we're having a C section. And so it's like, I literally like, if we're having a C section at 2 in the afternoon, I know I'm gonna put in the order to pay for a pickup at 4.
Ben
Yeah. Because you know. You're good.
Josh
I'm good.
Ben
How long does a C section take? And she's obviously they're under, right?
Josh
No, no.
Ben
Oh, they're not. They're just numbed.
Josh
They, they have a spinal, they have the equivalent of an epidural, but it, it turns into a spinal block which basically from your diaphragm down you feel nothing because they want to keep you awake because the anesthesia can in theory get to the baby.
Ben
Oh, I realize that you were awake. That's terrible. I've had, that's when I has my. Had my wisdom teeth pulled. Every, literally every woman's like, he's about to fucking relate his wisdom teeth to his dissection. But it's the same.
Josh
Okay.
Ben
I remember they gave me local and you could just hear the crunching of the teeth. You could feel what they were doing. I can't even imagine you. You must feel them literally moving around organs. You must feel them cutting. Like not, not feel pain, but you feel pressure. Oh my God.
Josh
That's always the moment because it's about, you know, C section. It's a massive real thing in surgery. And I don't mean to undermine it in any way, but when C sections are scary, when they're emergencies.
Ben
Sure.
Josh
Like truly scary.
Ben
Sure.
Josh
And that in that instance, a baby can be out in 90 seconds.
Ben
Sure.
Josh
If it's planned and it's not under emergency circumstance. In my experience, it's about 12 to 15 minutes from the start till Baby comes out. And then it's about 30 minutes of, like, closing and making sure everything is, like, copacetic. But what? I know the moment because I'll be there by Paige. Beautiful little head right here. I'll be coaching her. Say, you know, good for you.
Ben
Yes. You got this.
Josh
You are mother nature.
Ben
You're gorgeous.
Josh
You're fulfilling your duty in life, you.
Ben
Know, and there's some duty.
Josh
Yeah. And, you know. No. No duty with, you know, God's plan. God's plan. You know, and then also the other. They not like us. Yeah, they plan. Yeah, it's not like us.
Ben
No, it's not.
Josh
And then. Then the doctor goes, little bit of pressure, and that's what I go. Here we go. A little bit of pressure. And then you. And then you hear it.
Ben
And how big is the C section opening?
Josh
It seems bigger than it is, but if we're being honest, it's probably like that. I mean, it's.
Ben
It's like this.
Josh
Yeah. But it's not up there. It's right above your. Your pelvic. Like, it's right around. Oh, it's your pelvis. It's fupa area. Got region.
Ben
Got it. I've told you that my dad doesn't have a belly button.
Josh
Say more.
Ben
Okay. Bruce offers. Had multiple hernias in one time. He just stole his belly button.
Josh
They foregoed it.
Ben
Yeah. And they didn't replace one. So he just has a line, no belly button. He went in for a hernia surgery, and they never gave him back a belly button. I'm thinking of this because it happens right in this area. You know, you could lose a belly button.
Josh
No. C section's low.
Ben
Even lower.
Josh
Oh. I would say, like 4 to 5 inches below the belly button.
Ben
Got it.
Josh
Okay. Anatomically, how you're built.
Ben
So it's here.
Josh
It's fupa, but it can't be too fupa. Yeah, it's below the underwear line.
Ben
What?
Josh
In most cases, I can't even.
Ben
And then they pull down.
Josh
Yeah, it's, like, right here.
Ben
It's here. And then they pull down, and the baby comes down.
Josh
Right. Because it would be coming through the canal.
Ben
Oh, that makes a lot more sense. I always had in my head, like, here, and you're just, like, moving around. Organs.
Josh
I think some organs.
Ben
And you're, like, clearing. Wow. Yeah. Holy crap. Ladies, did you know all this?
Josh
Hey, gals. You're welcome. Your favorite pregnancy podcast, the Good Guys.
Ben
We're here to tell you all about your C section. What to expect when you're Expecting from the good guys.
Josh
You think we're here for the husbands. We're not.
Claudia
Oh.
Josh
We're here to tell you ladies. Can you believe this? Oh, thank you, Ben. We're sorry.
Ben
We can't apologize more.
Josh
Idiots. Dumb idiots. What a dumb podcast. Sorry. We can have an expert on if you guys prefer. I don't mean to mansplain this at all. What a loser. I'm sorry.
Ben
Back to the fupa, though, because I'm curious.
Josh
Yes.
Ben
It's that low.
Josh
It's rather low. And it's bigger. And then obviously when they.
Ben
And then. Is it like. Is it sort of like a horseshoe shape? Like a hood? You flap it open. Baby comes out. Flap it down. Sew it up.
Josh
Yeah, it's slightly u. It's slightly you. Ish. But it's pretty straight.
Ben
It's pretty straight. And then it just opens. Like. Like the jaws of life.
Josh
Yeah, it's open.
Ben
And that's where that comes from. The jaws of life. Probably not, but. Well, the.
Josh
The idea of the jaws of life is like using a tool to open to save your life from a car accident.
Ben
Yes. Yes. Oh, yes.
Josh
Right.
Ben
Okay. So. No, not that, but. Wow.
Josh
Okay.
Ben
Yeah. So the plan right now is no C section, but we'll see. I don't know. You never know. The Paige originally planned to have a C section.
Josh
She kind of always knew that we were. The baby was breached. Got it two weeks before, so it was feet down.
Ben
Understood.
Josh
And didn't they try and.
Ben
But they didn't try and turn him. Or they did.
Josh
So they can do that, but it's painful. And there you have to. Usually again, this is my experience. I cannot speak for everyone. Rob said we do it in the hospital if we're going to do the turn, because you can induce labor. So we want to be there. God forbid anything changes. And. And they. You know how they do it with the.
Ben
With their hands on the front. They. I literally just got this explained to me.
Josh
They oil you up.
Ben
Oh, that's nice.
Josh
Yeah.
Ben
Wow.
Josh
I'll get turned on. No, I'm kidding. Our OB is the lady.
Ben
Do it to me just, like, rubbing my belly until I inevitably have to take a dump.
Josh
I get the coconut oil out. Oh, God.
Ben
I'm inducing a fat shit. Did you hear me whistle?
Josh
Oh, my God. Oh, let me induce these guts.
Ben
Oh, boy.
Claudia
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Ben
Claudia will hate that.
Claudia
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Ben
A spa?
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Ben
Can I read you an email?
Josh
Sure.
Ben
Okay. You're gonna crack up. So we get these emails to the Spritz Society email like database. We get these emails about bachelorette parties. People wanting free goods all the time, right?
Josh
Sure.
Ben
We get probably 40 Bachelorette emails a week.
Josh
This is from influencers.
Ben
No, these are just from random people. Like, hey, I'm a huge fan. I would love to have Spritz at my bachelorette party. Is there any way that you could give me a couple cases or like some free koozies or some swag? I'll take some pictures for you. Can you help me out? I get like literally 50 a week.
Josh
And it's literally just charity.
Ben
Yeah, full blown charity. I never think anything of it. This one was particularly insane, so I had to read it to you. Okay. Bachelorette party. Hi, my name is Rebecca and my best friend Kara is getting married this June in New York. We are in the middle of planning her bachelorette party and wanted to see if you would be interested in sending any donations or gifted collaborations. She's A huge fan of you guys, so I wanted to reach out in the hopes of surprising her. Her bachelorette is in April in Charleston, and we are going to have about 15 people there. She's had a rough go of planning so far with her makeup artist, with her makeup artist canceling and her caterer unexpectedly passing away. So hoping this may ease her stress and get rid of the bad vibes. Thank you for considering her caterer unexpectedly passing away.
Josh
But her makeup artist did cancel her.
Ben
Caterer unexpectedly passing away, but the juggler wasn't available. We'll send her some cases.
Josh
Will you?
Ben
For sure? No. No way. Because you lied to me. Your caterer didn't die. I read this. I'm like, are you fucking nuts? You couldn't have come up with anything else. Your caterer died. Whose caterer dies?
Josh
It's just, for me, it's the amount of. What's the word? Entitlement.
Ben
Oh, there's so much. So much. I get them all the time. So much. Hey, can you send this to me? It's like, no. But you can buy it, right? You can buy it, by the way. You can buy it everywhere in April at all targets. Did I tell you that?
Josh
Did I have anything to do with that?
Ben
No, no.
Josh
I was doing. I was pulling some strings behind the scenes.
Ben
Well, then maybe you did.
Josh
There's a big Good Guys fan high up at Target, and I said, talk to Ben.
Ben
Amazing. Well, if you did, it'd be great. Love you.
Josh
I'm not looking for a kickback, just a hug.
Ben
No, I'll give you a hug now. Yeah, just spray my hand.
Josh
Great. You're still sick. You're still on so much antibiotics.
Ben
I know, I know. But, yeah, all targets.
Josh
Speaking of.
Ben
Yeah, it's just the logistics thing. Hard as hell. People don't realize it doesn't just show up there. Sure, in 40 states.
Josh
Yeah, 40 states. Why do not all states have targets?
Ben
No, and if they do, they don't all sell alcohol like New York. If you go into New York Targets, only one of them has alcohol. All these random state laws.
Josh
Dry counties, for sure.
Ben
Yeah.
Josh
Yeah.
Ben
California is wet as hell. Couldn't be wetter. Yes, super wet.
Josh
We get shithouse.
Ben
It's wet.
Josh
The state of poor decisions. Gavin Newsom has a podcast.
Ben
Big time Wet.
Josh
How does Gavin Newsom go? You know what?
Ben
He's a podcast.
Josh
He goes. I know. I'm getting a lot of heat lately, and it's been a rough couple of months. I know what I need. Podcast.
Ben
Does he run ads?
Josh
Probably to know. Yeah. Do it for Spritz, baby.
Ben
Oh my God.
Josh
Did your house burn down? Are you looking to chill out after you lost everything you've ever held dear? Have a sprint. We've got a low alcohol content for those high insurance rates. That's right. Your house burned down. No. Oh my God.
Ben
I love it. I love it.
Josh
Okay, first one from the great New York Post. As we know, shout out. Greek island with almost no dementia.
Ben
They're eating too many bagels before they.
Josh
Record follows a twist on the Mediterranean diet, the two drinks they love. You've probably heard of the so called blue zones, five areas in the world that longevity expert Dan Buettner identified as having residents who routinely live to be over 100. They are Okinawa, Sardinia, Nicoya, Costa Rica, Loma Linda, California and Ikaria, Greece. Well, recently revealed that on the idyllic Greek island of Ikaria there are some drinks that people are enjoying that are keeping them fit as a fiddle.
Ben
Please tell me.
Josh
Okay, the first one is the Mediterranean diet amplified. That's right. They're having less fish and meat, a lot more greens. And drinking olive oil.
Ben
Interesting. Yes. And like a shot of olive oil.
Josh
A little bit of olive oil.
Ben
Okay. I like it. I like it.
Josh
And spilling the tea. Icarians are drinking herbal teas every day.
Ben
Pod stream. Shout out.
Josh
Pod stream.
Ben
Make a great herbal tea.
Josh
Fabulous.
Ben
Desta makes a great herbal tea. Unbelievable.
Josh
Don't I know.
Ben
It's unbelievable.
Josh
So it's basically, it's the olive oil. It's green, leafy veg and tea.
Ben
Great.
Josh
Good to know. We'll get you on that diet.
Ben
I'm in. I'll try it for a week.
Josh
I know what I'm getting you for your birthday.
Ben
Yeah. A good olive oil. I'm in.
Josh
Yes. Why not washed in some fluoride water.
Ben
I'll try it. I'm good. I'm good.
Josh
Well, there is the best and worst things to order at six fast food restaurants according to an oncologist.
Ben
Okay.
Josh
Okay. Well, the worst thing, French fries.
Ben
Really? That's upsetting. I want to know how that same oncologist feels. If you're making french fries at home, is it really what they're doing there? Is it the frying in general? I know we're divided on the seed oils. I don't know anything. I know nothing. I know what they tell me. I don't believe what they tell me necessarily.
Josh
Sure.
Ben
But can't imagine that frying french fries in a little bit of oil is so bad, isn't it? Exactly what we said earlier where it's like it's about how much and how often.
Josh
Sure.
Ben
Not once a week. Once a week you have French fries from McDonald's. Is that really gonna kill you?
Josh
I think you'd probably be better making your own.
Ben
You would be. But why? Why are you better making your own? If it's not the seed oils? What's the difference?
Josh
I think that seed oils. I think there's probably more ingredients in their processed.
Ben
That's what it is, the processed.
Josh
I mean, if you take like a potato gets a bad rap. It is a vegetable.
Ben
Yeah. Forget love a sweet potato.
Josh
If you like did. I'll tell you what. And I know you're a Faye man. I'm building, I'm building. Okay. You take a beautiful baked potato.
Ben
Sure.
Josh
Right.
Ben
Sure.
Josh
Do a little butter. Sure. You know, not. Don't go nuts.
Ben
Sure.
Josh
Don't go nuts.
Ben
Sure.
Josh
Irish butter. Put that in there. Kerrygold. Get a little faye. A little faye, right. A little yogurt instead of the sour cream with Greek yolk.
Ben
Delicious.
Josh
Do a little veggies. Do even a little sprinkle cheese on it. You want to do. Maybe do it in the British style. Do some of those beautiful red baked bean thing. You know, they do the white bean, the beans on toast.
Ben
Sure.
Josh
Do it on.
Ben
Throw that into your potato. I'm in.
Josh
Why not?
Ben
I made myself a taco salad last night, Josh. Shredded lettuce, beef, et cetera, onions, whatever. I had this much left in a Tostitos salsa. And I thought to myself, because I'm a man that likes to experiment and perhaps stumble upon a great recipe also, I'm not wasteful.
Josh
Sure.
Ben
I'm not wasteful at all. I put a little bit of low fat mayonnaise, a little bit of sour cream, a little bit of sriracha into the Tostitos. Shook it up. It was the most delicious dressing I have.
Josh
No. I have no.
Ben
Delicious. I don't know how we got here, but it was so good.
Josh
I'm glad we're here.
Ben
Me too.
Josh
Anyway, Chick Fil A, you might want to skip the fries. Okay. And instead, the healthier options, the spicy southwest salad, the kale crunch or the market salad, obviously.
Ben
Who the fuck who's going to Chick Fil A for a salad?
Josh
It sucks. It sucks. Sucks.
Ben
And I did read something recently. There are too many ingredients in everything. At Chick Fil A. I saw something. It was like 40 ingredients in their chicken sandwich, right? No, there's chicken, there's bread, which should be flour, eggs, water, yeast. Like, how do you get to 40 like this is the problem. I don't know what's in that, but I don't know why fast food places can't just make things a little bit cleaner.
Josh
Because it's uniform. They gotta make sure that the one, the Chick Fil a sandwich you have in California tastes exactly the way that.
Ben
It does everywhere else.
Josh
That's right.
Ben
Even if it kills you.
Josh
It's one way. You've heard that about Starbucks, right?
Ben
Yes.
Josh
That's why the beans taste a little burnt.
Ben
Yes, yes.
Josh
One flavor, one taste.
Ben
I love the Starbucks food though. So good. We've spoken about this. That spinach wrap, double baked, A plus.
Josh
Now at my local Starbucks, they know because you can't do it on the app. By the way, Starbucks, if you're listening, let me adjust on the app. I'm not going to be a snur. I'm not going to ask for like, for you to remove the egg whites. I know they're pre made, but can I just have the option to say do it one and a half times? You should be able to double bake.
Ben
You should.
Josh
It's the only way because you might get a cold spot and that'll make you want to end yourself.
Ben
Thousand percent. No. You don't want it? No, no. They're so quick. I love that app.
Josh
It's great.
Ben
So good.
Josh
Well, at Chipotle you might want to do a veggie burrito bowl or salad with brown rice, guacamole, roasted chili, corn salsa or tomato salsa.
Ben
Sounds delicious. It also sounds like it's missing the cheese and the sour cream.
Josh
The fun part.
Ben
The fun part.
Josh
Well, at McDonald's for our Kosher King, they say a McChicken or fish filet with a side of apple slices or even an apple pie is a healthier option.
Ben
Of course it's a healthier option. Who the fuck is getting apple slices at McDonald's? What are you nuts? No, get McDonald's and then go to the grocery store and pick up an apple. I don't want the sliced apple from McDonald's.
Josh
They're good.
Ben
I don't want it. I'm sure it's good.
Josh
They come in the Happy Meal. My son eats them.
Ben
I'm sure they're fantastic.
Josh
He loves them.
Ben
Yeah.
Josh
And the fish fillet is a go to kosher adjacent king meal.
Ben
Fantastic. Yeah, fantastic. Even though I don't even want to know what's in it. What could possibly be in that fish patty? Not fish.
Josh
Not good.
Ben
No. Good.
Josh
Not good.
Ben
No.
Josh
Did you know that Australian patients start speaking in Posh British accent. After having jaw surgery in rare medical case, my mom and my sister came to visit me and my sister said to my mom, oh, she sounds very posh. The 50 year, 57 year old told the news. Yeah, she woke up and she was like, all right, well, I just had a good surgery, mate.
Ben
It happens. It happens. My dad got out of back surgery and was speaking like a little Chinese, like.
Josh
No, he was. Yeah, maybe it just hurt. And he was like, oh, yeah, that's. Jesus Christ.
Ben
Yeah, no, he, he was speaking Chinese.
Josh
I mean, what if, like you get canceled for that and you're like, like you don't understand?
Ben
No, I, he didn't mean to.
Josh
I'm not being insensitive here. I just had surgery.
Ben
I just had surgery and for whatever reason, I cannot speak speaking Chinese. This is a thing that happens. People have accents, they have whatever.
Claudia
It's crazy.
Ben
Yes. I don't want any cameras around me the next time I go under.
Josh
I didn't mean to say that in road rage. I had. I just got a flu shot.
Ben
Yeah. I can't be held responsible.
Josh
Blame it on the flu shot.
Ben
Yeah, everything's blamed on the flu shot. I got the flu shot. That's why I sound like this. No, I'm kidding. I didn't. That's why I sound like this.
Josh
Totally.
Ben
Or I did and I didn't. Who knows?
Josh
Really? No one.
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Josh
Should we do a quick speak pipe? Yeah, speak Pike. Speak pipe.
Ben
Well, we had arrested daughters before this. It slowed us down.
Josh
We're done. We're done. If you want.
Ben
What'S up Facebook.
Josh
It's Meta. I'm doing a talk at Meta today. This is why I'm in New York.
Ben
It's meta.
Josh
Josh. Hello, Snapchat. Okay, so if you want to leave us a speak pipe. If you want our advice, you have questions for us, keep it brief. Brevity is key. And keep it an advice or question. We don't want your feedback. We don't want your questions, your comments. Well, we do want your questions, but not comments.
Ben
No, no. Save that for Reddit.
Josh
Speakpipe.com Good, guys. Okay, our first one is from somebody good. Somebody great. Our first one is somebody great from Anonymous.
Anonymous
Hey, pdoms, need some advice? So my husband has, like, chronic, chronic anxieties, right? So when he doesn't take his medicine, he's literally crazy pants, overly analyzes everything, stresses out about every little thing, and, long story short, makes my life a little literally hell. I'm such an empath. So when he is mentally unwell, I am mentally unwell. Question. He has, like, been refusing to take his medicine lately, and he's like, saying, you don't understand. You don't understand how, you know, it makes me feel and the side effects and, you know, I can't work as hard, I get too tired, and da, da, da. So he's making all these excuses as to why he can't take his medicine, but I know when he gets on it and he stays on it, he feels so much better, he acts so much better, we're all happier and more sane, but he just refuses. So, like, am I, like, a fucking bitch for getting mad that he's not taking his medicine? Or do you know, do I need to be more supportive and understanding? What do I do? I don't know. Please help.
Ben
This is loaded.
Josh
I have some feelings.
Ben
You want to start?
Josh
Sure, I'll go. You're not an empath. You're codependent and you're enmeshed. And if you take on the feelings of your partner in anything more than a lovely, healthy, sympathetic, you care for that person. You want them to be good, and it hurts you when they hurt. That's one thing. But you can tell from this phone call that making it all about you makes you codependent.
Ben
Yeah.
Josh
And I would start working on yourself, because if we are not the problem, then there can be no solution.
Ben
Yeah.
Josh
So I would 100% get better at definitely not being as disturbed by you are when your partner, who's their own sentient being, when your partner is having their own experience and allow them to have the dignity of their own experience. I also think medication is a funny thing, and I could certainly see it making you drowsy and uncomfortable and having certain side effects. And maybe if you came to him in a loving way and say, I've seen the benefits of it for you, maybe in ways in which you might not be able to see because you're in it. So is there someone we can consult and maybe try a different medicine with less side effects or different dosing or a different schedule of taking the medicine? Is there a way in which I can help you? Because I really see the benefits and I think it's great for us.
Ben
Yeah, I agree with you. I also think you picked him. Like, unless this is brand new, then this is a different story. If you've been together for a very long time and all of a sudden he randomly out of, like, he was this strong, whatever. Now he's just become this nervous Nelly who is very anxious, making you anxious. Otherwise you knew exactly who this person was. And so I think you do need to be empathetic to the fact that you are with somebody who has anxiety. And it is definitely difficult when you have meds that maybe, like, they help you, but clearly they're not helping him.
Josh
Well, they are, but they're side effects.
Ben
But not if he doesn't feel good. Like, sure, they're helping him with one thing, they're helping him with anxiety, but they're hurting him in ways that allow him to function normally during the day. It would sound.
Josh
Well, I think there's no silver bullet. Like, you hear that a lot with, like, bipolar medicine.
Ben
Right.
Josh
Is that usually the people like the mania part of it, the high, because it's exciting and you're energized. But unfortunately, it's always coupled with the depressive part.
Ben
Sure.
Josh
So the medicine, in theory, kind of brings them levels, levels them, but they go. It's great. Except I'm kind of missing the highs a little.
Ben
I never get the highs.
Josh
Everything's a trade off, I think, with medicine.
Ben
Yeah.
Josh
Kind of weighing that.
Ben
Yeah. So I don't know. I don't know, I feel badly for him and I also feel badly for her. It's not a pleasant experience. I've been around people like this. It's not a pleasant experience. When you're trying to control your own inner peace. You have your own things going on, and all of a sudden somebody next to you is making you anxious. That's a terrible feeling. But again, I have to go back to the fact that you're with this person for a long time. I don't think that they randomly became anxious. If they did randomly become anxious, then you should probably find the root cause of the new anxiety. But if this person is just anxious because they're anxious, then you gotta learn how to not let his anxieties make you anxious. To your point of working on yourself, like, have some type of a block up where it's like, okay, I know that he's anxious about this, but I know that this can't affect me and the way that I live my life on a day to day basis.
Josh
Yeah.
Ben
It's very hard to do, not letting the way that somebody else is projecting sit on you, you know? Yes, that's very hard. But if you can conquer it, you can be around anyone.
Josh
And you also don't have to, you don't have to sit in it. Right. Like, you can lovingly pull away and do some self protection and say while you're going through this spin cycle, listen, my wife, every six to eight weeks, where I'm like, it's all over, Paige. You know, I haven't, you know, worked in two weeks or a month. I'm like, it's, it's over. She's like, it hasn't been for the 13 years I've known you.
Ben
Yeah.
Josh
So it's gonna, like, I don't blame her when she goes, I've seen this in you before. We know this story. We bought the T shirt. We've seen the show.
Ben
Yeah.
Josh
I'm gonna tap out.
Ben
Yeah.
Josh
Like, I love you and I will offer you a couple minutes of counseling and support and encouragement, but anything more than that's ridiculous.
Ben
Claudia's the same, right? Yeah. It's actually, it's interesting that you brought it up in that way. I haven't thought about it like that. It is healthy and actually an anxious person really needs to be checked. Like if you. In a respectful way.
Josh
Yeah.
Ben
Like acknowledging that the feelings are real, but if they dwell in it, they're only hurting themselves. Like.
Josh
Right.
Ben
Separating, like what isn't from what is.
Josh
Yes.
Ben
Unless this person, like, I don't know.
Josh
We're good.
Ben
We are good.
Josh
No, this was good.
Ben
No, this was good. They needed to hear that this was good. They did, and you needed to hear that.
Josh
And now I can taste your cough, which was fun, by the way.
Ben
That was so deep.
Josh
It's made its way over here.
Ben
I know. I told you.
Claudia
I'm sorry.
Ben
I'm sorry.
Josh
All right, let's do one more, and then we'll get to. What are you nuts? Next one from somebody good you already know. I don't know.
Anonymous
Hi, Josh and Ben. More on here. So I'm going on a work trip and my in laws are joining so that they can watch my baby during the day while I'm working. My husband's coming, too. He'll also be working. And my in laws are very, very, very Mormon. They don't drink coffee. They don't like coffee. They don't like coffee being in the vicinity. They hate the smell of it. They just completely detest coffee and think it's of the devil. My question is, can I drink coffee while I'm in our shared Airbnb? My husband and I are paying two grand to rent out this Airbnb so that they can help us out. He says, screw it, let's drink the coffee. We are hosting them. I say, I don't know. I want to be respectful. They're watching our baby. They're doing us a favor. I'd rather be a little bit less invasive with it and make them as comfortable as possible. So question for you. Would you or would you not drink the coffee?
Ben
Wow, I didn't know that this was such a thing. Coffee and Mormonism, they don't do caffeine, but it's the devil.
Josh
I think it's also something about hot drinks. Okay, they're not. But, yes, it's a big tenet. No caffeine, no stimulant like that.
Ben
It sounds to me, based on the smell of coffee, that you're thinking about brewing your own. I think that's unnecessary. I don't think that you need to bring a French press to this airbnb. Like, I think the Marion Claridge, like, you don't need that. Like, you don't need the smell of fresh beans. But every morning I get Starbucks as an iced coffee, and nobody smells my coffee but me, right? So if the trigger is the smell and seeing the beans, like, okay, get a Stanley cup, go to Starbucks, put in your iced coffee, bought a bing, bada boom, no issues. No, I don't think that if somebody's uncomfortable with coffee that you should be brewing it fresh. Kind of sounds like an episode of Mari. You know, the bring out the pickles. You know, I'm talking about like she's whatever. She's afraid of pickles and he brings out the pickles. Like it's just like. Yeah. I don't know. Because they're doing you a favor. So if they're really uncomfortable with the smell of coffee, there's a win. Win. You can have your coffee. Just. You don't have to have it like that.
Josh
That's the headline here. You're not hosting them, they're helping you.
Ben
Exactly. Yeah.
Josh
The idea that they're. They would pay to come help you take care of your kid, like thousand percent.
Ben
Yeah.
Claudia
Oh, yeah.
Ben
We're putting. We're spending two grand. Yeah. They're babysitters.
Josh
Yeah. They're free sitters.
Ben
They're free babysitters while you work.
Josh
And the best kind because you can trust them fully. That was worry at all.
Ben
Yeah.
Josh
And you can't give up coffee for a couple of days and. Or figure out like a fun sleuthy way. By the way, go work at Starbucks for an hour in the morning, do your emails, use the wifi and enjoy two piping hot cups of Joe. I think you can get a free refill.
Ben
You ever heard of Red Bull?
Josh
Well, I love an energy drink, but you know, the Mormon mother might see that and think to me.
Ben
But they're more worried about the smell. It would seem like something like you can conceal it.
Josh
Buy a koozie, leave for an hour and go drink a nice coffee and sit in a coffee shop.
Ben
Can you imagine needing to like go outside to drink your coffee? But to each their own.
Josh
It would even if they were not there helping you. I think it would be respectful of in laws. It's really not a big ask.
Ben
No, I agree.
Josh
And they're your in laws.
Ben
Thousand percent.
Josh
They're the OGs.
Ben
Yeah. If they bother you enough, don't ask them to babysit.
Josh
They took long enough to put on that magic underwear of theirs.
Ben
Yeah.
Josh
You can't pass up a coffee for a day. Shout out. Joseph Smith. Yeah. Do you have a Woody Nuts?
Ben
Yeah, I do. This isn't my Woody Nuts, but I was at Tony's. Have you been to Tony Dinapoli?
Josh
I have not. Wait. Our Woody Nuts moment of the week are gripes with people, places and things both big and small. Whatever sticking in your craw, go for it.
Ben
You've never been to Tony Dinapoli? Tony Dapoli is like a Carmines love. Look in there. Big portions. Italian.
Josh
Hell yeah.
Ben
They sing to you. It's nice. Nice. Okay. My friend had a groomsman dinner, invited everybody to be in. Groomsmen. We had a nice dinner. Whatever. I go to the bathroom, three people in front of me in line. It's a single stall. I just have to take a piss. Single stall. I wait, one person, two person, three. I'm about to go in. All of a sudden this person runs up, runs up like they're going to throw up, right? Turns to me and says, excuse me, excuse me, do you mind if I go in front of you? And I'm like about to say yes, like, I really need to blow my nose. What are you nuts? I couldn't even. I couldn't even think what this person could even be talking about. You can't blow your nose. You're having an emergency. You can't blow your nose into like a cloth napkin or a paper napkin. Who goes to the bathroom to blow their nose and runs up as if it's an emergency? Excuse me, excuse me, can I cut in front of you? I need to blow my nose. I couldn't believe it.
Claudia
It was the ultimate.
Ben
What are you nuts? I still can't. I still can't wrap my head around what it. I can't wrap my head around it.
Josh
Nuts.
Ben
What could that have been? Nuts. Nuts. People are nuts.
Josh
Crazy. We're a couple weeks past the Oscars, but I love. I sent it to you and I know you love him too. Ricky Gervais's great quote about do not make a political speech at the Oscars or really anywhere else. I think in a world where I don't even think we want to hear about politics from our politicians, we are so beaten over the head and we're just in. The problem is we're inundated by thought and voice and by people who either proclaim to be authorities on subjects and the all knowing being, you know, my big brother from. I've had for 30 years, he's brilliant, brilliant about finance and economy. So he's an expert witness sometimes in trials for whether it's an SEC violation or whatever. He'll come in and sort of explain the inner workings of things. Like it could be something as, you know, as. As crazy as a Sam Bankman fried case or a Madoff thing. Like he really understands the nuance. And so when he's working on a trial, he'll be like, so what is the other side going to do when you come in as the expert? He goes, they'll bring in their expert and they'll try to undermine me and I'll undermine him. And then you have to decide who's the expert. This is the world in which we're living, and thus we are so inundated that I think perhaps we as public people, me as a D list celebrity and you as a list celebrities, would be better suited to use your platform for amazing charities like Feed the Streets. I'll be out there on skid row Tuesdays and Thursdays and the morning. Like, use it for good. I think using your platform for good is fabulous, but when it's just you proflitizing and making a speech, I think you're missing the mark.
Ben
What are you nuts? This episode was all over the place.
Josh
So good.
Ben
So good. We're so good. If not five stars, what else? Josh, what else? What are you, nuts? Listen to us. Wherever you get your podcasts, watch us on YouTube, share our clips. Instagram and TikTok Mondays and Thursdays, folks. We will will see you next time. Next time. Wherever I look.
Josh
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Podcast Summary: Good Guys – Episode: A Larry David Meet-Cute
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Josh and Ben kick off the episode with their signature playful banter, establishing the light-hearted and humorous tone of the podcast. They joke about their podcast rankings and contemplate expanding their content strategy.
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The hosts discuss the challenges of keeping their podcast topical due to the editing workflow with Dear Media. They consider listener feedback on whether to prioritize current events or continue with their established style.
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Josh and Ben engage in a lively debate about their favorite sitcoms over the past 30 years. They compare shows like "Curb Your Enthusiasm," "Seinfeld," "Modern Family," and "The Office," highlighting their preferences and humorous criticisms.
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a. Meeting Larry David ([18:07] - [22:25]): Josh recounts his awkward encounter with Larry David at a memorial event, where he and his wife Paige interacted with the "shark-eyed" Thotiana. The story underscores the challenges of meeting a celebrity hero in an unexpected setting.
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b. C-Section Delivery Plans ([22:25] - [29:21]): Ben shares his plans and support strategies for Claudia as she approaches labor. They discuss the logistics of a planned C-section, emphasizing emotional support and practical preparations.
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a. Managing Chronic Anxiety in Relationships ([50:06] - [55:59]): A listener seeks advice on handling a partner's refusal to take anxiety medication. Josh and Ben provide insights into empathy, personal boundaries, and encouraging professional help.
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b. Navigating Coffee Preferences with Mormon In-Laws ([56:09] - [59:25]): Another listener asks whether it's appropriate to drink coffee around Mormon in-laws who detest it. The hosts offer practical solutions to balance personal habits with respectful hosting.
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Josh and Ben wrap up the episode with final musings on societal issues, personal anecdotes, and humorous observations about everyday situations. They reinforce their podcast's mission to balance humor with meaningful conversations.
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In "A Larry David Meet-Cute," Josh Peck and Ben Soffer blend humor with heartfelt discussions, ranging from favorite TV shows to personal experiences and listener advice. Their dynamic interplay and candid conversations provide an engaging listening experience, making it accessible and entertaining for both regular listeners and newcomers alike.
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