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Master Morons. Welcome back to the Good Guys podcast.
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Josh, let me tell you something, okay? I know we saved. What are you nuts for the end? I have a story. This is completely nuts to me. It's completely nuts. Hopefully you'll feel it's completely nuts too. I flew recently. I did a day trip for work to Florida and I. I got blessed, okay? I was sitting in coach. Is there any better feeling in the whole world, by the way, than getting your own Rowan coach? I own row. I think it's better than first class. I'm just saying. Because first class you had to pay for, right? This you didn't pay for. And all of a sudden you're sitting. You could lay down if you want. All of a sudden, you have a lay flat on a flight to Florida. Just saying, I have my own row. I moved to the middle seat because if you have your own row now, you have room on your left. You have room on your right. I'm sitting in the middle. Flight lands, Josh. Flight lands. All of a sudden, all of a sudden, somebody runs from the front of the seat. Front of the plane. I guess they're trying to get to the back of the plane to get their bags. Run sits right next to me. Okay? Runs in, sits right next to me. He's sitting to my left. I'm sitting in the middle. All of a sudden, Josh, people are. They're leaving. I'm thinking to myself, is this guy gonna get up? He looked over to me, he's like, oh, do you. Oh, do you need to leave my. My bags in the back of the flight? So I'm just waiting for the plane to clear. But did you want to? Did I want to fucking leave? What are you nuts? What do you mean did I want to leave? You came and you blocked me from leaving. Did I want to leave the flight? No, I wanted to sit with you, Joe, my new bestie, and wait for everybody to leave so you could get your bag when I. Are you crazy?
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Two Jews, both big and tall. No subject too small for the Good Guys. A Mother Stream premium podcast team.
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Make it your weekly routine. It's a Good Guys.
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And if you don't give us five stars. What are you nuts?
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What are you nuts? Yeah, we're the good guys.
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We're just the good goodies.
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The moral of the story is people are fucking insane. They are so selfish and nuts. And I just wanted to share that story with you.
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Here's my one counter nuts to your nuts. And let me ask you. And I agree with you.
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Yeah, counter Nuts me.
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Sounds kosher.
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Counter nuts me.
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You've landed. You've had an entire row the whole flight?
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Yes.
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You don't get in the aisle seat ready to get the hell out of there. You're at the window seat once, Landon.
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You're right. I had no time, though. Let me tell you. He was like an Olympic sprinter.
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I get that.
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Like, before I could even look like the playing. I'm in coach. I'm not one of those people in row 23 who stands up and hits their head the second you land. Because let me tell you, it's going to be 20 minutes. They're smart. They're undoing first class. I'm not standing up immediately. I'm sitting until five rows in front of me, it started to clear. Then I'll do one of the awkward crouches so I don't hit my head. I'll take my backpack. I have nothing ever in the overhead bin. So, no. He. He sneak attacked me.
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I get it.
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I didn't see him coming. I couldn't believe it. And then when he sat down, I wasn't going to say, hey, buddy, what the hell? Because I was thinking to myself, you know, you had your own row the whole time. I don't really know what he's doing, but it's fine. It's no big deal. We're all going to get off the plane at the same time anyways. Boy, was I wrong. Wow.
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Wow. It's a lot to think about. I. I understand that frustration. I understand that in general, people are frustrating and disappointing and beautiful and, you know, frustrating is what I'm saying. But, yeah, for the most part, people are, like, wildly frustrating. And that's why, like, I just have to let it go, baby. I gotta channel some Elsa, and I gotta let it go. I've realized as an adult, and you can tell me if this is the case for you, how little I should be interfering with anyone's existence in any way ever. Even people I like. Because adults ain't changing.
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Yeah. And it's also. It's so hard because I. We're. We're similar in this. We're presented with a problem and we want to solve it. We've spoken about this at length. Sometimes people want to present you with problems and they don't want it to be solved. That would be like my wife. Like, she just wants me to hear her. She doesn't want me to solve her problems. I get that. A friend will bring me a problem. I can solve your problem. I will tell you exactly what to do. And let me tell you, Josh, they don't want to do it. They have the problem because they don't want to do anything. They don't want to do anything about it. And so I think that we should stop trying to change people. I think that we should stop trying to help people that don't want our help. Of course, if you want help, let me know. I would love to help you. But, yeah, I don't think that we should change people, but I think we should stop trying to do that.
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Do you also think, like, we have a loving relationship, whether or not we were also business partners or not, and we both, in a great way, have inspired each other's growth in our own ways because of me telling you, like, Ben, I need something a little different from you, and you saying, conversely, Josh, I need something different from you. And I think we've both risen to the occasion and done a great job of that. But do you think we would have done it if we weren't financially enmeshed? Would the incentive be there?
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I think so, because I ha. Because I have this with, like, my. My closest friends do want to hear me, and I do want to hear them when they have a problem.
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Yeah.
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It seems to be like those fringe people that love to come to you and tell you about their problems, and then when you're ready to solve them, all of a sudden they don't want to do anything about them. It's hard because I'm speaking in generalizations, but hopefully you guys understand what I'm talking about. Like, that person that comes to you, they have a career problem. They have a career problem probably because what they're trying to do just doesn't fit their skill set. Just because you want to be an astronaut, it doesn't matter. You're not going to be. You're not a good astronaut, ok? You're not. I see this all the time with sports. These idiots. Guys love sports. Okay? What are you, seven? No. Grow up and get a real fucking job. Not everybody's gonna be in sports entertainment. Not everybody's gonna be an agent. I'm sorry you couldn't chalk it up as an NBA player. So now you want to be around the sport? No, go get a real fucking job with things that you. You have a skill set. Everybody has a skill set. So I'm going to see you as a. I'm a third party. I'm looking at you, Josh. I'm like, I see your skills. You'd be great here. And I'm only giving you this Advice? Because you fucking asked me, right? I didn't come to you unsolicited and say you should fucking throw away your whole life and not be a sports agent. You came to me with a problem and then you don't like what I have to tell you. I'm. What are we doing here?
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But I think it's the power of two of not being emotionally invested. It's like whenever I finish an audition and if I don't feel like it went great, I will invariably something that was troubling me while doing it will become clear the moment it doesn't matter anymore. And it's maddening. It's like on the drive home I'm like, that's how I should have done it. And it always. Because I'm not caught up in all the extra crap. It's funny, the other day a dear friend of mine was telling me he's divorced and, and he's got two kids who are like, you know, older, like pre. Preteens, tweens as they say in, in the bis. And. And basically his kids sort of, they relayed to him, they were like, you know, dad, you're really the fun one. Like you're the one to have fun with. And mom's like the one that we can go to when we need like our emotions met like emotionally. Like mom's so there for us and you're so fun. And it devastated my boy because he's like, he's a sweetie softy like me. And that's real. And I don't mean to take anything away from how he felt, but what I said to him, I'm like me as an unemotional observer of what you just said. All I'm seeing is, is that your kids have two great parents who are satisfying all their needs in what they are great at.
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Right.
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Like what I'm seeing is kids who are getting their needs met by ideally, parenting is a two person job if possible. And you and your wife are satisfying that. So it's like both things can be true. I understand him being hurt because he would love some of the emotional piece too. But me unemotionally can look at it and be like, kind of sounds like your kids are getting everything they need. Which is awesome.
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Yeah, right? Yeah, 100%. And in that specific scenario it's difficult not to be emotionally attached to it. But in the scenario of helping a third party. Yeah. It's really, really important not to let it bother you. It's really important not to let everyday things get under your skin. It's even more important. I've been thinking about this a lot recently. We. We choose to get angry. It's a choice. We choose to love, we choose to feel. We choose to. It's all. This is like, it's very deep. I'm coming at you very deep. Okay, yeah, but. But it's all a choice. And, and if we don't want to, like, on. On the. And I know that you could say, oh, this would be a sociopathic tendency. And I'm not saying, I'm just providing this as an example. You see somebody, they just got hit by a car, okay, I'm going to feel an emotional response. But there's actually a choice mentally to say, I don't want to feel an emotional response. Now, that's a bad thing. You should be emotionally intelligent enough to have a normal response to seeing somebody hit by a car. But if we take that all the way into our normal life, where you got off the phone with somebody and they bothered you, or a person sat next to you when you. They weren't sitting next to you the entire flight, you don't have to get angry at anything, and the only person that you're hurting is yourself. Now, I love it for comedic purposes, right? Like, what, are you nuts? Looking around the city and finding things that are wrong with everyone. But it's a choice. And I think that if I didn't use it as levity in comedy, I would be a far happier person if I didn't look for things wrong constantly. Does that make sense?
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It makes sense. I mean, I think it's a tall order that most people are incapable of. And I think, like, it's that Eckhart Tolle book, the Power of now, where he goes, you are not your thoughts. Like, absolutely. Like, you are. We are a separated being because we're able to look at our thoughts and the shit that goes on with us and go like, oh, I need help, I need therapy. I need something. Because, like, God, my head keeps getting me into scenarios that I can't get out of. So clearly there's a separation. Like, we are not our thoughts, but almost everyone is. And. And especially the people who are not doing any inner healing and inner work, like, they are purely defined and directed by that adrenal cortisol charge. And that's why I'm very careful. I. I'm trying to stay away from things that adrenalize me, like, X. Right? Like going to Twitter or every time you. You pick up your phone. Every pickup is an adrenaline hit. It's like, ooh, I got my hit. You know, and I have to be very careful of that, or political talk or all these things. And you're right. The gift is that you actually don't have to have an opinion on it. It's what kills me about. Look, say what you want about any of the people who are incredibly active politically and socially who are actors.
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Right.
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I'll tell you this. There was no time in the mid 2000s when Mark Ruffalo was having his historic run as an actor and setting himself to be one of our great actors of our generation, which he truly is. There was no time while watching all his fabulous movies, where I went. But I wonder what he thinks about the climate. Like, never, never. Yeah, I've never thought that about any big actor who's also extremely political and opinionated. So I think, like, people feel as though they must have an opinion on everything. And I. I'm actually not sure that's true.
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With Hexclad, I do look up to people who are like, can really enjoy a cafe moment. Like three hours sipping on a coffee, reading a book, and I'm like, oh, I wish I could do more of that, but I can't.
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That's the best person. Sorry to clarify my statement. If you don't like to work but don't want to work, I love that for you.
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You're.
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You're comfortable not working or doing or making whatever amount of money that you're making. You're so comfortable again, coffee shop three hours a day. You're doing your own thing. You're. The bird's chirping great. I'm talking about the person who talks about how much they want to work and really they don't want to work.
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I got to wake up to pish at night, and you know what? I've cut myself off from liquids at 6pm so I'm getting real nervous about good old prostate. What are your thoughts?
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I'm peeing a lot, Josh. In the night. I pee a lot. I pee a lot in the night.
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I'm also, damn, that sounds like your rap album. I pee a lot in the night.
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A lot in the night.
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My shit is top flight.
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I gave my wife a fright.
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Let a little toot go. Give my wife a fright when I piss at night. That'd be good.
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I think that my sleep cycle hasn't fully gotten back to where it was. And I don't know if it will ever get back to pre. Pre Ruby. But, like, I need way less sleep. But I now sleep. I'm having trouble connecting cycles. I feel like a newborn. I'll sleep for three hours. I'll wake up to pee. I don't even know if I had to pee, but I'll wake up to pee. I'll go back, I'll sleep for another three hours. I haven't slept except for if I take like an L theanine or a magnesium, which does help sometimes, until all of a sudden it doesn't. I don't know what that is. You take five magnesium five nights or you take one magnesium five nights in a row. By the sixth night, my thoughts are racing more than they were the night that I took them, that I didn't take them. But I. But I digress. I. I'm in cycles. So last night I slept from 10 to 1 1, 30 to 4, 35 to 7. I don't know why I can't connect them. And I feel fine. I think I'D feel better if they were connected.
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Sure.
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But I pop up. You.
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I. You know, I gotta get up to pish. I think. You know, I like to think. I like to have a think. I like to go through all the things bad that could happen one day and sort of troubleshoot that for a nice 90 minutes, and then. And then I wake up.
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Why does. Why does that happen? Why, when we finally lay our head down on the pillow at night after such a long day, do we think about the worst possible outcomes?
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I think it's a level of. They say when your kids. And you'll find this with Ruby. Your kids, usually right before they fall asleep, will start to babble and they'll start to talk crazy and what they're saying, not true babbling. But, like, all of, like, the most kiddie thoughts will come out. And a lot of times you can chalk it up to, like, oh, he doesn't want to go to bed. He's elongating, going to sleep so that he can, you know, stay up as long as possible. What they say is actually, kids go into the zone is like the melatonin, natural melatonin is coming over them that they feel so safe that, like, the filter that they have on their thoughts just as removed. And they just start to kind of talk and just, like, let them, right? Because it's like these cute, hilarious thoughts that come out before they go to bed. And I think, like, that filter is removed and sometimes that onslaught. We're also constantly distracting ourselves throughout the day, right? I could think about this, but I. But coffee. I could think about this, but I gotta get on this call. I could think about this, but I gotta run to the grocery store. So when we're finally laying there, there's nothing between you and it. And I go, hi, it. Hi, it.
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Can you go away?
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What are you doing here?
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You ready for the biggest. What do you know? I told you how warm I am. I'm sweating.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
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This. This pillow behind my back.
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Satur. Oh, my God.
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No. This is like, like a blanket. Like, it is so. Oh, my God. I'm so much cooler. I was literally, like, laying on, like, polar bear. A polar bear? Yeah. That was like. Oh, my God.
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Yeah.
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It looks so heavy.
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It looked like crepe skin.
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It was too soft.
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Wow.
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I feel so much better.
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I was laughing thinking about you last week, too, because I obviously, you know, as anyone who knows anything, I am the dugout dad for my son's little league team. And recently at a practice or no, it was during the. I was back there. And I try not to say anything to the kids because I'm not their parent. But other times, you know, Little League I have found at this age is fucking awful, right? Because you either are the coach or you're not, right? And part of the coach is managing personalities. And I don't care if they're seven. And so, like, you don't really want to talk to someone else's kid. But eventually, like, when they get to a certain age, the coach absolutely has the power to be like, hey, you're not focusing. Go run a lap.
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Right?
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Or, like, go do something. But I try not to be that guy. Except the other day, I did have to turn to all the kids and go, guys, stop calling each other gay. We don't talk like that. And then I realized all you and I do is call each other gay. So I am not walking the walk.
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No, but that's the same thing. You'll tell a kid not to curse, and then they curse, and then we curse. Like, it's. Yeah, I think you're doing the right thing. Yeah, I think you're doing the. I think you're doing the right thing. You don't have to walk the walk with kids. Sometimes you can't do it because you're a fucking kid. Right? Like, that's why you can't do it. It doesn't look good on you, especially if you're doing it in front of adults. If you want to do it, like, you and your friend, you want to say crazy shit to each other, no problem, but you have to. I think it's important to learn when you're young that there's a. A place and time for things, and certainly doing it in front of your elders, ain't it?
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Yeah. Like, Max and I, we like to watch on YouTube, jackass compilations. And I'm like, this is living, isn't it, Max? He's like, it sure is. And obviously, like, I'm not going to show him any of the gross or insane stuff, but, like, just more of the silly things and. And. Or more the stunts. Like, he likes. You know when someone gets shot out of a blob into or off of a rocket into a lake and. But, you know, obviously they talk a little crazy. And I go, max, you know they're using some crazy words, right? And he goes, yeah. And I go. And, you know, we don't say that, right? And he goes, yeah. And I go, found it. We do.
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Yeah.
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I go. Renegades, mount up.
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B
At what point, Josh? This is when kids are this age, their parents are still, I would say a lot of them are forcing them to do this, right?
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Yes.
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Like, do you experience a lot of that? Like you have kids that are in your dugout that do not want to be there. And I asked the question then why are they there? How far or how long as a parent do you push a sport on a kid until you realize maybe they just don't like this sport. Like, I went to my niece's soccer game and there was a girl sitting in the middle of the soccer field. They're playing. She's on a team. She was just sitting there like she didn't want, she didn't want to play. She's in the game, she's just sitting there. And I, and I was thinking to myself, like, maybe she really just like, maybe soccer is just like not for her. Like there are other sports. I guess one could say that they don't know what they want yet. But do you see that? And what do you think?
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I agree with you. I just think there's a level of accept, of acceptability to behavior.
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Right.
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And like Paige, my wife, who comes from a sports family always, you know, sort of has had the feeling of like, if you have an interest and you want to try it, great, but you've made a commitment to at least see out the season.
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That sure.
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Not only you've committed to a team, right? So it's important you show up for your other teammates, but also we paid for it. So like if you, you know, it doesn't mean you have to play baseball for 10 years because you hate it, but you, you have to pay, play it for the next six weeks because you committed to trying something. And then, and then if you are the kid who's going to sit in the field, then that's not okay either. Like, and it doesn't mean you have to go be some crazy attacker and turn into something you're not. But like, okay, like, then root on your team from the bench and help the coach. Like, let's, let's find something you're comfortable with or that you can at least get by on. But no sitting on the field. Ain't it? How much do you love the phone calls for the NFL draft?
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Unbelievable. These unbelievable. There, there's not, there's, there's nothing better. The only thing better is when you get a surprise visit to a troop from a troop who coming home, okay, the five year old whose dad is deployed and he doesn't know that his dad's coming home. And he comes home. That's the only thing that's better than. Yeah. A life changing phone call on video.
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I love it. Can you imagine Ruby? Ruby's there and they're like your father was deployed to the deli. You know, he just got back. I'm coming home, coming home. You got two bags.
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I have Russian dressing drenched on my shirt. I have a deli bag.
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Swiss cheese coming up your elbow. Tell the world that I'm gummy. No, I mean I'm schmitzing. I love. Ok, so recently I know it's.
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Wait, hang on. I know it's Diddy, so we can't love that song. Oh, is that an amazing song. Oh my God. Sorry. Separate the artist from the art. I'm Coming Home is the greatest song ever.
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Diddy.
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It's Diddy.
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Which one?
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I'm Coming Home. Coming Home.
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That's a P. Diddy song.
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B
Yeah.
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A
No it's not.
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B
Yeah, it is.
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Where's the rapping?
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He starts, I'm back where I belong.
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A
Okay, all right. I. I'll believe.
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B
Coming home. P. Diddy. Yep. P. Diddy and Skyler Gray coming home.
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Shout out. Okay. Respect. I.
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B
Great song.
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A
Yeah. Listen, you can't. Can't combat the hits. The NFL, the NFL draft videos. And for anyone who doesn't know, it's like obviously there's a draft and all the teams are picking their players and so usually the players are sitting, waiting, surrounded by family and they're being recorded. And recently the one that got me was this player's waiting and he went a little late in the draft and he goes, he picks up his phone and I'm like, this is so me. He goes, damn coach, what took you so long? Hit me. And then he. God, so sweetest pie. I'm so darn happy for this kid. Like, he goes like. And he's like half cry. He's like, I really appreciate it, coach. And I'm like, oh, I just wanna. Oh God. I want to give him a kiss on his forehead and tell him he's the absolute best.
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I'm now realizing that I think the greatest job in the world is to be a coach and be able to make that phone call.
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A
Yeah.
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How amazing is that to be able to make those calls. It's not like your everyday. I guess it's sort of equivalent of an agent calling a movie star that they booked their movie. But. But it's even more than that. Like one time in your life you are going to be drafted to the NFL. Right? That is your. That's it, it's. It's not another job. It's not a recruitment. This is it. And you have the ability, you know, you are changing lives. You are typically taking someone who, I don't know, definitely needed money and handing them fucking generational money. It's like the whole package of it is so crazy to think about. And the person being able to deliver those calls, oh, it wouldn't be good
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for me because, like, I would have, you know, because it's an unknown number. So the way I answer unknown numbers is like this.
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B
Hello? Yeah, I don't answer them at all. I would have missed it. Yeah, Ben, you. Ben, we tried to draft you. You kept sending us to voicemail.
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A
You're like, you know I never like to draft.
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B
Right.
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It's a little too chilly for me, but yeah, I would have been like,
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B
area, D.C. area code. I thought you were the IRS.
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A
Should we get to a weird story?
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B
Yes, yes, we should.
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A
I agree. I. I really agree as well. Doctors separate fact from fiction on cold plunges and red light therapy. This is.
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B
Oh, no. Oh, no. I love my cold plunging.
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A
The Internet is jam packed with millions of these trends that are promising you a healthier, younger and more energized life. Well, to find out, the team at Fox and Friends traveled to downtown New York City to experience popular treatments firsthand. Okay, get on with it. Post.
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B
Vamonos, Vamonos.
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A
Let's do this. Okay. Fox News Senior medical analyst Dr. Mark Siegel clarified that the devices in red light therapy use LED light, which is close to infrared light but remains visible and safer than sunlight. Consistent use can promote healing of the skin and more collagen. All right, so Dr. Siegel says red light therapy is lit. Well, well, Adam Klotz started in 190 degree Fahrenheit sauna for 15 to 20 minutes and then went into a 45 degree ice bath. And he said he felt a rush. And wow, this is.
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B
He said he felt a rush.
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What a disappointing. Like, how inconclusive can one be? I mean, this is what you want credit for post. This is what you're threatening us over? Wow, really hard hitting past the Pulitzer, you know what I mean? You fucking break. No. Shout out to post. We love you.
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A
I'm sure this was big news in your home. That Blake Lively and Justin Baldoni lawsuit was settled.
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B
Oh, no. I didn't even hear.
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Blake Lively and Justin Baldoni each earned no money in their lawsuit settlement, which was just two weeks before it was set to go to trial. Lively brought in a new law firm, Susan Suzman Godfrey to defend her. Shortly before the it ends with us co star settled.
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Her name is. Her name is Suzman.
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A
Yeah, that. That upset me too.
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That's. I'm so Susan, go change your name. Suzman.
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A
You think they messed up in the, in the typing of this?
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B
I hope so. If her name is Suzman. Sounds like a Dr. Seuss character. Continue. Nobody made any money.
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Both Lively and Baldoni's legal teams made $60 million combined to sue and countersue one another. Sources told Page Six. But yeah, I guess it's over. There's no money exchanged and they're not going to go to trial. And that's the end.
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B
So dumb.
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A
It ends with that.
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Doesn't ends with that. Yeah, doesn't it? That's really stupid. All of it's really stupid. And I blame the fans. The fans cared too much.
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A
You think?
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B
And yeah, I think so. I blame them too, obviously. But ugh. Do you think they're like. How upset are they? I guess they're happy in the end that it's over. But the amount of time, energy, stress. Oh my God. To end in nothing. That's terrible. It's gotta feel awful. And ah, the money.
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Oh, the money. I mean, 60 milli. If it's 30 each. 30 ain't a big dent in the Reynolds Blakely Blake Lively fortune.
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B
That's. That's bad. In the Baldoni folks fortune.
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A
That hurts. If you're a Baldoni.
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B
That crushes him. Yeah, crushes. But he.
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A
You think he had a benefactor?
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B
Probably somebody Was somebody. Somebody who hated the. I don't know who it is. Yeah, somebody who hated them for sure.
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A
Interesting.
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Yeah, I don't know who hates Ryan Reynolds. He owns Mint Mobile. Maybe it was Verizon. Maybe the head of Verizon. That's just gossip, people. I don't know that at all.
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A
You don't know that at all.
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B
It's a fabricated thing.
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A
That's so true. I'm cutting out.
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B
That's not true.
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A
I am taking garden shears to that part of the box.
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B
But by the way, pretty good call, right?
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A
It's going to look like a ribbon cutting ceremony. No, I don't think there was a wireless cabal against Ryan Reynolds, you psycho.
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B
It could be this.
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A
This podcast has been. This is a complete. This is a character piece. This podcast is a farce. And you just listen to a 49 minute monologue. Are we not good actors?
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B
This is all written.
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A
This is fiction. You listen to fiction.
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B
You definitely listen to fiction.
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A
Only it was credits on this teleplay.
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B
What's, what's the actress's name who played Blair Waldorf in Gossip Girl? You think it was her?
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A
Leighton?
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B
Yeah.
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A
Yeah.
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B
She was funding to get back at Serena Vander Woodsen. You never know. I know it's not true.
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A
It's not true. This is not true.
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B
Should we do a more on mail?
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A
Sure.
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Speaking of fiction, I think you guys make all these up and that's great. Goodguys podcast1mail.com They've been fantastic. This is unsolicited advice or she's asking about unsolicited advice. Hi good guys. How do you handle unsolicited parenting advice from your elders, aka grandparents? I'm 32, just recently had my first baby in February. My grandmother, 83, is ecstatic about her new role as great grandmother. I'm her first grandchild and I have a super close relationship with her compared to my siblings and younger cousins. So giving her first great grandchild, it's the cherry on top. Blah blah blah. Let's get to the point. Point. I work in child in a child care setting with infants, so I feel like I have the upper hand most over most first time parents due to my background. Blah blah blah. Sorry this is so long winded. Obviously raising your child is vastly different than caring for other people's children. However, when I pick up my child or change her diaper when I'm around my grandma, she ends up saying that's too rough or that I needed to watch her neck when I'm far from harmful or making sure she's thoroughly clean. She's also praising me for doing the right, right thing of me providing my baby with breast milk or breastfeeding because she says it's a shame your mother couldn't be bothered to do that when you were a baby.
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Have you?
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Or your Wives dealt with a similar sort of situation.
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First of all, there's no right thing. Whatever your. Your feeding journey is with your child, whether formula or breastfeeding, God bless you don't feel guilt about that.
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B
Agreed. Agreed.
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Mothers who've just given birth go through enough stress. And I would say, sounds like grandma. Be grandma.
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B
Ing.
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A
And you gotta accept.
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I was gonna say, and you're lucky to have her. Though both things can be true. She can be giving you unsolicited advice that you're not here for. That said, you have a fucking great grandmother who's 83.
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A
Right.
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First of all, you guys popped them out quickly. God bless. But that's amazing. Like, I. I can speak. It's. It's not this. Josh doesn't have a dad. I. I haven't had. I haven't had. I haven't had grandparents since. I. I don't know. I had one when I was 13. The rest either were born, were died before I was born or died when I was seven. I haven't had a grandparent in 21 years. Like, I would give anything for Ruby to have a grandma or a grandpa on my side. So.
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Yeah.
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Or a great grandma. Excuse me. In this situation.
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A
Sure.
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I was like, I have my parents trying to work through that. I would give anything to have a grandma is what I meant to say. That would be amazing. I love old people. They're great. I end up gravitating towards old people. If you're 83 and in my life. I love you. I love. Specifically older women. I love them. I love a cougar. No, that's too old for a cougar. And they're never. It's never a sexual thing. I just love old women.
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Guilt. What's a hard cut off. Like, do you think you could have a Can. You could have a romantic interlude with. Let's start. Let's start low 55,
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I think. So you.
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Our producer in the booth, not Olivia, is like, yeah, bruh.
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B
He's like, ratchet it up. All right.
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A
55, 100.
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B
Are you kidding me? Easy. That's easy. That's child's play.
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A
Today's 35. 65.
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B
Probably. There are different types of 65 year olds.
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A
Yeah.
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B
And at that point, you're starting to maybe want something else. If we're talking a sexual relationship, it's probably teetering, but an emotional relationship, you want to cuddle, you want to hang out, you want to go on vacation, you want to get dinner. Please. I think 65 is good. 65 is fine.
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65 is ideal. And then especially if they're a dirty bird and they've still got it in them. Kidding me. First of all, you're eating at 5:30. Oh my God. Coffee at McDonald's, $90. You're getting the nice senior coffee you get. You're getting at the beginning. You really want to be there at the beginning of milestones. They're getting their first Social Security check. That's free government money, dog. They're on Medicare so you don't have to put them on your insurance.
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B
Where's your cut off? Because it sounds like 65 is your prime. Yeah, so where, so where is your cut off?
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A
You're a member of ARP 80.
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B
85.
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85 is. Is older. Yeah, 85 is great. I'm trying to think of 75 is reasonable. Depends on the 75 year old.
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B
It depends on the 85 year old.
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A
No, I don't think.
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B
Actually,
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I don't know. I mean, love is love, man, but I think you can find your way around it.
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B
Oh my God, I just pictured you. You've left me. You're with an 85 year old woman.
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A
Hell yeah.
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B
It's just. Oh, it's so funny. Oh my God.
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A
Should we do a poll really quick before we end this episode of the podcast?
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B
I would love to. What kind of poll? Let's do a poll.
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A
Which? Speaking of geriatric canoodling. No. Okay, okay.
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B
That would have been great. Speaking of geriatric canoodling, what are the
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top five states that do the most canoodling? That's right. What are the top five states that have the most sexy time? Ben?
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B
One. Nevada.
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A
Interesting. Nevada. Nevada. No, not Nevada. Actually, number five. Actually. Ding, ding, ding. Number five. Nevada.
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B
Are they counting sex workers? Because Nevada has to be one.
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A
I don't know. It says Las Vegas is built around nightlife and adult entertainment, high volume of short term visitors and party culture.
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B
Okay, so it sounds like they are. Okay. All right, so I got one of them.
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Nightlife and alcohol culture, transient populations. I wish they had just cut off the ZN part of it. You know what I'm saying?
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B
Sure, sure, sure. Florida. Wow. Ding, ding, ding.
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A
Number three, Florida. Why? Party hubs like Miami. Tourism, spring break culture, warm climate, climate encourages nightlife and social interaction.
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B
And is this per capita, Josh? Does it say because otherwise I have to pick California because it's so big. But before I answer that, is it. Is it on average or is it the total sum of people or do we not know?
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A
I don't know. It's just based on Recurring survey trends from sources like cdc. Data on births, age, dating, app usage, and lifestyle studies.
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B
Okay. All right. Ooh, where are we? I'm gonna go with California.
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A
Number one. California. Ding, ding, ding. Massive population, huge dating pool. Cities like LA and San Francisco have active social dating cultures. What about Fresno? Warmer weather and more year round socializing. Nothing like canoodling in Modesto. I got laid in Reading. Making a bumper sticker.
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B
All right, so we have Florida, we have Nevada, and we have California. I'm 1, 3 and 5.
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A
You're looking for 2 and 4.
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B
Now that I know that it's population driven because of California, I think I have to say New York, New York, number two.
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A
Ding, ding, ding, ding, ding, ding. Why? New York City is one of the most single dense cities in the world having dating app usage and hookup culture. Fast paced lifestyle with lots of short term relationships.
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B
All right, and this is. I would be very impressed with myself. I have a feeling that number four is Arizona.
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A
Oh, man, what a disappointment you are. Where did that come from? Arizona. What do you. What are they getting? Nutty. And Flagstaff.
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B
I was thinking Scottsdale. The colleges, the kids.
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A
Come on, you knew this. You sabotaged yourself. We're gonna forget. We're gonna give you a mulligan on that one. Is that the right term? I have not. I don't play golf.
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B
Sure. Okay, I know.
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A
Go with your. Go with your instinct. Thus far it's been right on. City centers, populations.
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B
Texas.
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Texas, number four. Why? Rapid population growth with lots of young professionals. Big social scenes in Austin, Dallas and Houston. Strong college town presence. And there's nothing like getting laid next to the Alamo. Sorry, I added that last part.
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B
Now what I want to know. I want to know eliminating the largest populations, who's the most? And that I would find interesting. Josh, who's getting down per capita? Because I feel like Arizona was a decent guess. I think Alabama. I think they're. They'd be fucking in Alabama a lot.
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A
Let me check. Let's see if you force it into a per capita. And I don't like the word force when talking about canoodling.
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B
No, never.
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A
Okay. Okay. If you put it in a per capita lens, you're talking about Louisiana at number 2K.
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B
Okay.
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A
New Orleans has an incredibly permissive party forward culture, and it also has a permissive beignet culture. And I just want to stuff my face and then. And yeah, it's the same. Florida, New York, California, Texas, Nevada.
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B
But Texas drops out. Yeah, I don't know. I don't see fucking for Texas.
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A
Really?
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B
Not like, nearly as much as, like, I see in Arizona, I see in Alabama, I see Georgia, I see. I don't know, I feel like those, like, they're religious, Southern. I don't know. I just don't look at Texas and think about the people in Texas having a ton of sex. Clearly I'm wrong. Clearly I'm wrong. Josh. That's the episode title, Texas be Fucking. I like, you know who. You know who else be fucking, Josh? People who give this episode 5 stars. If you're not giving this episode 5 stars, you're dry. Okay, Yuck. Sometimes I discuss myself. This episode is 5 stars. Otherwise, what are you, nuts? Like me? Listen to this episode wherever you get your podcasts, Watch us on YouTube, but also watch us on Spotify, because let me tell you, the Spotify video through the roof. It's a fantastic experience. You follow us on Spotify, it pops up automatically. You can listen and then you can watch. Then you can listen and then you watch. Mondays and Thursdays, folks. We will see you next time.
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