Josh Met the Costco Guys?!

Summary

Good Guys Podcast - Episode: "Josh Met the Costco Guys?!"

Release Date: June 2, 2025
Hosts: Josh Peck & Ben Soffer
Description: Hosted by actor & writer Josh Peck and entrepreneur & social media icon Ben Soffer, "Good Guys" delivers engaging conversations twice a week. This episode delves into Ben's journey into fatherhood, parenting insights, amusing anecdotes, and tackles intriguing listener questions.

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1. Ben's Journey into Fatherhood

Timestamp: [01:34] - [03:35]

Ben Soffer opens up about the exciting yet challenging phase of preparing for his upcoming child. He shares details about organizing a bris, managing logistics like connecting caterers, venues, and planners, and the emotional nuances of setting up for this significant family event.

Notable Quote:

Ben Soffer: "Right now I'm prepping for a bris. Connecting the caterer to the venue to the planner. That's what I'm doing." [02:04]

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2. Navigating Diaper Choices: Cloth vs. Disposable

Timestamp: [03:35] - [05:20]

Josh and Ben engage in a humorous yet informative discussion about diapering options. They weigh the pros and cons of cloth diapers versus high-end disposable brands like Coterie. The conversation highlights practical considerations such as ease of cleaning, cost, and leakage prevention.

Notable Quotes:

Josh Peck: "I think it is as meshuggah as you can get. It is high powered. Insane." [02:45]
Ben Soffer: "Cloth diapers, Josh, what do you think about cloth?" [02:42]

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3. Shopping for Baby Essentials: Budget vs. Luxury

Timestamp: [04:16] - [05:20]

The hosts reminisce about their shopping experiences for baby clothes, contrasting budget-friendly options available at outlets like CostCo with more expensive brands such as Ralph Lauren. They humorously debate the necessity of baby shoes and the practicality of various baby apparel.

Notable Quote:

Josh Peck: "We're a Kirkland diapers family. We're at Costco diapers in my house." [03:35]

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4. Inherited Traits and Family Anecdotes

Timestamp: [05:37] - [07:00]

Ben discusses physical traits he's inherited from his family, such as posture and toe alignment, sharing amusing stories about his family's quirks. The conversation pivots to genetic anecdotes, including humorous claims about his grandfather and great aunt.

Notable Quote:

Josh Peck: "He's going to be shuffling." [05:37]
Ben Soffer: "I've told you that he could fit a whole second toe in there." [06:23]

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5. Creating a Peaceful Baby Room

Timestamp: [07:00] - [09:57]

Josh and Ben exchange tips on setting up a serene and functional baby room. They emphasize minimalism, practicality, and the importance of creating a calming environment for both the baby and parents. They discuss color schemes, essential furniture, and the balance between aesthetics and functionality.

Notable Quote:

Josh Peck: "The baby room is usually the cleanest room in the house." [09:09]
Ben Soffer: "Our baby room would fit well in your house just because it's those browns and those beiges." [09:15]

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6. Entertaining Animal Stories and Documentaries

Timestamp: [13:34] - [17:30]

The hosts pivot to lighter topics, discussing their fascination with animals. Ben recommends a David Attenborough documentary on orangutans, while Josh shares his experiences visiting the Monkey Temple in Bali. Their animated recounts highlight the endearing and sometimes chaotic nature of wildlife interactions.

Notable Quote:

Ben Soffer: "A baby orangutan sleeps gripped into their mother's fur... How amazing is that?" [13:44]
Josh Peck: "I held a banana, and one of the monkeys climbed up my body..." [15:54]

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7. The "100 Men vs. Gorilla" Debate and Harambe Reflections

Timestamp: [17:30] - [18:36]

Josh and Ben delve into a viral debate sparked by a New York Post article discussing whether 100 men could defeat a gorilla. They reflect on the infamous Harambe incident, sharing personal sentiments and philosophical musings on animal strength versus human numbers.

Notable Quotes:

Ben Soffer: "There is absolutely no chance that 100 men can defeat a gorilla." [17:30]
Josh Peck: "Maybe you do. A junior Haramben." [18:20]
Ben Soffer: "Rest in peace, Harambe." [18:36]

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8. Listener Q&A: Modern Parenting and Gen Z Challenges

Timestamp: [30:07] - [34:07]

The hosts address a listener's concern about the perceived lack of drive and resilience among current college students. Ben critiques the education system's relevance to real-world success, while Josh emphasizes the importance of setting clear expectations and fostering open communication with students.

Notable Quotes:

Ben Soffer: "Gen Z is very, very aware that we live in a broken education system." [32:15]
Josh Peck: "Make it known how you're going to run your class from the beginning." [33:24]

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9. Listener Q&A: Handling Overstepping by Family Members

Timestamp: [46:00] - [56:00]

A listener named Candy seeks advice on dealing with a mother-in-law who frequently oversteps boundaries, such as meddling in registries and expressing unwarranted interest in her son's relationships. Josh and Ben discuss strategies for maintaining healthy boundaries, emphasizing the importance of communication and mutual respect.

Notable Quotes:

Josh Peck: "It's a two-way street... you just have to do that." [47:03]
Ben Soffer: "You should never be afraid to share a medical problem with your spouse." [42:03]

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10. Final Thoughts: "What Are You Nuts?" Segment

Timestamp: [56:00] - [58:21]

Concluding the episode, Josh and Ben engage in their signature "What Are You Nuts?" segment, humorously critiquing overly creative business names and absurdly practical behaviors. They share laughs over quirky establishments and express their unique brand of camaraderie.

Notable Quotes:

Ben Soffer: "We're experiencing incredible rain in New York..." [56:09]
Josh Peck: "What are you nuts? Just totally name it." [56:55]

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Key Takeaways:

• Parenting Insights: Ben shares his preparations for fatherhood, emphasizing the balance between practicality and creating a peaceful environment for the baby.
• Humorous Anecdotes: The hosts infuse humor into discussions about diaper choices, inherited traits, and animal encounters.
• Listener Engagement: Thoughtful responses to listener questions highlight the hosts' perspectives on modern education challenges and family dynamics.
• Entertainment Value: Engaging stories and light-hearted segments maintain an entertaining atmosphere throughout the episode.

Notable Quotes for Reference:

• "We can't get you a new job, but we can make it fun for 45 minutes." – Josh Peck [00:55]
• "Cloth diapers, Josh, what do you think about cloth?" – Ben Soffer [02:42]
• "Gen Z is very, very aware that we live in a broken education system." – Ben Soffer [32:15]
• "It's a double joke because I have no father." – Josh Peck [07:04]
• "What are you nuts?" – Josh Peck & Ben Soffer [Various Timestamps]

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Transcript

[Josh Peck]

The following podcast is a dear media production.

[Ben Soffer]

Two Jews, both big and tall. No subject too small for the good guys.

[Josh Peck]

A mother's dream Premium podcast team. Make it your weekly routine.

[Ben Soffer]

It's a good guys. And if you don't give us five stars.

[Josh Peck]

What are you nuts?

[Ben Soffer]

What are you nuts? Yeah. We're the good guys.

[Josh Peck]

They're not the great guys. We're just the good of the good.

[Ben Soffer]

Of the good guys.

[Josh Peck]

Benjamin and Joshua, they're coming to ya. They're coming to ya. Benjamin and Joshua, Joshua.

[Ben Soffer]

And they're coming to to ya.

[Josh Peck]

Into your headphones and your car during your work week. You hate your job, but you love this show.

[Ben Soffer]

Humble.

[Josh Peck]

We can't get you a new job, but we can make it fun for 45 minutes.

[Ben Soffer]

A. You should quit.

[Josh Peck]

You should quit. Go back a play and you should quit. What's up?

[Ben Soffer]

What's up?

[Josh Peck]

What's up, Tiny? What's up, Tiny?

[Ben Soffer]

What's up, bad?

[Josh Peck]

You're gonna get us demonetized. We can't curse in the first minute.

[Ben Soffer]

Sorry, sorry, sorry, sorry. So we have to go back and add in more humble.

[Josh Peck]

No, no, no.

[Ben Soffer]

Just.

[Josh Peck]

Olivia, bleep out. When you called me that word, I think I said the F word, too.

[Ben Soffer]

Darn it.

[Josh Peck]

We're not gonna make. So, Ben, you have two to three weeks before your beautiful child gets here. What's. What's the next Runway of your life look like?

[Ben Soffer]

Right now I'm prepping for a bris. Okay? Connecting the caterer to the venue to the planner. That's what I'm doing. Prepping a bris from there. I have a list of people that I need to tell. We have everything. I told you this. We're just superstitious. We're not setting anything up yet.

[Josh Peck]

You're setting up a Brisbane.

[Ben Soffer]

Yes, I know, but what else do you do? I haven't. Nothing's ordered. It's just. There's a hold. But. Yeah, I know. We really should just, like, set some things up in the room. But then I think about it. We don't need the room. This is the problem. I'm not gonna need the baby's room for another six months. I know you said he'll take naps in the room, etcetera, but even. Even for the next three months.

[Josh Peck]

And his clothes? You'll be in there all day. You're gonna be getting tight. Well, where else are you gonna keep all the shit?

[Ben Soffer]

Yeah, the shit. No, the shit will be in there. I understand.

[Josh Peck]

All the diapers, all of the baby things, all the Clothes.

[Ben Soffer]

What do you think of that? Cloth diapers, Josh, what do you think about cloth?

[Josh Peck]

I think it is as meshuggah as you can get. It is high powered. Insane. Are you even considering that?

[Ben Soffer]

No, no, no. It's like if I get, I'm just letting you know, if I get duty on my shirt, my own duty on my shirt, somehow it goes in the trash. It doesn't go in the washing machine. I don't wash duty. Like that's just not like a thing that I do. Once there's duty on it, it's done.

[Josh Peck]

But what about the baby clothes? You're going to throw away baby clothes? It's going to be all over.

[Ben Soffer]

No, you're right. But so then I jump back then what's the difference between that and a cloth diaper?

[Josh Peck]

No, dude, I mean you'll probably, you're going to probably do the high end diapers. Coterie. Coterie.

[Ben Soffer]

Oh, are these like French diapers?

[Josh Peck]

Coterie? Yeah, they're really nice.

[Ben Soffer]

Okay, so we're not doing like Pampers pull ups anymore. Like this sho has gone out the window.

[Josh Peck]

We're a Kirkland diapers family. We're at Costco diapers in my house. But yeah, they're all good. But people tend to do the coterie because they're super expensive and.

[Ben Soffer]

And are they like better on the skin? Do they keep it? Are they better at keeping in this. The stuff like nobody wants like the stuff leaking out the sides. Because if I know something, it's baby boy software is going to have some big duties.

[Josh Peck]

Yeah.

[Ben Soffer]

And we're going to want to keep, we're going to want to keep that stuff contained. Yeah.

[Josh Peck]

It's going to be, it's going to be amazing what you're about to go through. But for the most part, yeah. I think diaper technology has evolved to a place where everything is pretty kept in. Unless it's like the random blowout. Hopefully.

[Ben Soffer]

Yeah.

[Josh Peck]

Once, once a week.

[Ben Soffer]

I was at Woodbury Commons again yesterday. This is our version of nesting. Going to the outlets. And I was dying. Claudia wouldn't let me. All I wanted to do because now we're, we're close. It's like, let me go to the Ralph Lauren outlet and just buy some cute stuff. Literally. Like the baby clothes are so cheap. Josh, at the Ralph Lauren outlet, get a nice cute bear, maybe a nice Ralph Lauren American flag shirt, some nice shoes. Nope, nada, Zilch. Couldn't get anything.

[Josh Peck]

She's like, put a hold on the caterer for the bris. But no Ralph Lauren baby shoes.

[Ben Soffer]

I know. I don't get it. Why not? I agree with you, but when can you. When can a baby actually wear a shoe? Like he doesn't need a shoe until he's walking. Right. Do you put shoes on them before they're walking?

[Josh Peck]

He'll need it for you when it gets cold. So like a big.

[Ben Soffer]

Not like a big sock.

[Josh Peck]

Yeah, you could do it, but like in six months, like if November, December of this year, when it's properly cold, you'll put them in a version of a shoe just to cover their tootsies.

[Ben Soffer]

I then. Could he be an early walker? They usually walk around one, right?

[Josh Peck]

Depends. Boys tend to walk a bit later. But no, they might not. Usually it doesn't happen before one.

[Ben Soffer]

And my guy with his pigeon toes, he's not walking till he's three. With those knock knees, he's going to try his best.

[Josh Peck]

He's going to be shuffling.

[Ben Soffer]

He's going to be walking outward and just falling.

[Josh Peck]

Oh, my bro. My children from the back have literally inherited their father's posture. And it's sad because they look like that. They straight up. They look like this.

[Ben Soffer]

Yeah. Yes. Yes. That's me. That's me.

[Josh Peck]

It's bad. I'm like, why do you look like Charlie Chaplin, Homie?

[Ben Soffer]

Yeah. Claudia always says that I look like I'm in the first position for ballet. That is me. No, I'm an outward. I'm an outward king. That is what it is. Because of our flat feet, I got other things from my dad. I wonder if my son will get it. I've told you about the gap between my big toe and my second toe. That you could fit a whole second toe in there.

[Josh Peck]

Sure.

[Ben Soffer]

I've told you that. He claims that my grandfather breastfed until he was eight years old. Eight.

[Josh Peck]

I've also told you that's just depression error.

[Ben Soffer]

Yeah, he claims that around the age of 60, I'll get a freckle right here. He said that he never had this freckle. My grandpa had the freckle. A freckle popped up at 60. It'll pop up for me. And probably just a liver spot. It's possible. Oh, my. We gotta have him get it checked out.

[Josh Peck]

Liver spots? No, it's just age spots.

[Ben Soffer]

Okay, so it's fine. It's nothing that he needs to. Okay.

[Josh Peck]

No, it just means you're expiring.

[Ben Soffer]

Oh, no.

[Josh Peck]

Yeah, it's liver spots. You know those OGs, you see them walking around? That looks like their body looks like the surface of Jupiter. Yes.

[Ben Soffer]

Oh, my God. It's a liver spot. Okay, I'm gonna have to go take him to Dr. Gizy to have that taken away.

[Josh Peck]

Yeah.

[Ben Soffer]

And then the last thing is that he claims that my aunt had hair on her palms, but I don't. I don't think that's a thing. He claims, like, my great aunt had hairy palms. I don't buy it.

[Josh Peck]

Do you know that that was a thing that. That's always threatened? If you are. When you're young and you pleasure yourself like that, you'll grow hair on your palms.

[Ben Soffer]

Wow. That is.

[Josh Peck]

Or you go blind.

[Ben Soffer]

Yeah.

[Josh Peck]

To which I said, dad, I'm over here.

[Ben Soffer]

That's good.

[Josh Peck]

It's a double joke because I have no father.

[Ben Soffer]

Yes, yes. Jokes on me. Jokes on both of you. What other. That's a good one. What other things were we lied to about? I know. There's the classic. The quicksand. We're all Skip Phraitis quicksand. That never happened. We're driving in the car. My mom would tell me that it's illegal to have the lights on in the front.

[Josh Peck]

Oh, it's not?

[Ben Soffer]

No, it's not.

[Josh Peck]

Don't sit too close to the tv. You're going to ruin your eyes.

[Ben Soffer]

Microwave. Don't stand in front of the microwave.

[Josh Peck]

Oh, and by the way, don't stare at an eclipse. Let me tell you, since I'm a baby, I've been staring right at eclipses. I'm fine.

[Ben Soffer]

Yeah. Okay.

[Josh Peck]

Yeah.

[Ben Soffer]

We're going to be responsible for burn retinas. I could see a clip. There's going to be a class action suit. We have to open up the chai guys now so they sue them.

[Josh Peck]

Yeah, don't. Don't listen to me at all. This is not medical advice. But dude, I'm telling you, do up the room. Make the room adorable when the baby is born. I can't tell you how much I love not only my kids rooms, but the baby room. It is so peaceful. Because it's usually. And it should be. Don't overdo it with these tchotchkes. Give away most of the things. People are going to send ridiculous nuts. You don't need this many stuffed animals.

[Ben Soffer]

You know, my wife, she's the sweeper. There will be nothing extra in the home. It will be donated, given away, returned.

[Josh Peck]

The baby room is usually the cleanest room in the house. And it's usually like a bookshelf and a recliner and a dresser with like the changing table and a crib. Right. And it is such a nice Peaceful, peaceful place.

[Ben Soffer]

Honestly, our baby room would fit well in your house just because it's those browns and those beiges. But it is, it's, it's like basically like rainforest themed. Like it's very, very animal prints on the walls. I'll send you a picture. Like green rugs, brown cedar ish cribs. It's, it's going to be, this is going to be a room.

[Josh Peck]

The occasional toucan. We have a small lemur family.

[Ben Soffer]

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[Ben Soffer]

Oh, my God. I watched. Speaking of lemurs, I watched an orangutan documentary. David Attenborough. You know, David Attenborough's final documentary is coming out.

[Josh Peck]

Davey Attenborough.

[Ben Soffer]

Yeah, yeah. David Attenborough, 98 years old. The legend of all legends. Narrating just like these beautiful scenes in the forest. And I like the ones in the oceans. But I did not know. First of all, he pronounces it orangutang. It really bothered me. It's an orangutan. He calls it orangutan. Orangutan. Orangutan. Orangutan. But these are unbelievable animals. Josh, do you know that? A baby orangutan, because they. They live in the trees. They never touch the ground, ever. They live in the trees, these full, huge monkeys. The babies sleep gripped into their mother's fur. The mother jumps from tree to tree. The baby's fast asleep, holding on. How amazing is that?

[Josh Peck]

Love that. So cool.

[Ben Soffer]

Highly recommend it. It's sick, but what made me think of that? I don't know, but show it to Max. I love it.

[Josh Peck]

Well, I went to Bali, Indonesia, and they have the monkey temple, where literally, they have monkeys running around everywhere. And, of course, tourists, we've ruined this thing. But I actually went, like, over 10 years ago when it wasn't as, like, Instagram, so it hadn't completely been ruined yet. And they're just running everywhere. You see them, they're so cute. And you can buy bananas at the entryway. And they go, we have bananas, which are fun. You throw them, they eat them. They peel it.

[Ben Soffer]

It's cute.

[Josh Peck]

Like, we have peanuts, too. The peanuts. You might want to be careful.

[Ben Soffer]

They come out. They come after the peanuts.

[Josh Peck]

They're like. They really fucks with the peanuts. I was like, I.

[Ben Soffer]

Were you scared?

[Josh Peck]

I saw a lady get her wig snatched for peanuts. Like, and she was older, and she thought she was at a Dodgers game. She's like, would you like one, Mittens? And Mittens was like, it was wild.

[Ben Soffer]

Oh, my God. That is insane. I held monkeys, man. Monkeys.

[Josh Peck]

I held a banana, and one of the monkeys climbed up my body, sat on my shoulders, grabbed it out of my hand, and peaced out.

[Ben Soffer]

Oh, my God.

[Josh Peck]

Crazy.

[Ben Soffer]

I can't tell if I would be. In the beginning. I would definitely be very scared. At some point, I guess I would warm up to them, but that's frightening. I don't know.

[Josh Peck]

We had a chimpanzee on one of the Drake and Josh Christmas movies, because that's okay.

[Ben Soffer]

We need to talk about the circus after this, but continue.

[Josh Peck]

I can't believe that there were sitcoms that were allowed to have these kooky animal episodes. And so we have the chimpanzee, right? And it's a baby chimp, and it's really cute. But then there's doing a flashback of something of, like, the chimp's mother who's, like, a proper size, like. And so when they had that chimp on set, they said, okay, no one can be within 10ft except the wranglers of this animal, because if they get you in their clutches, you will be a goner, and then you will be done for. And then they were like, and no men can be on set because she will smell your pheromones and rip your dick off.

[Ben Soffer]

Off.

[Josh Peck]

I was like, where do I sign up?

[Ben Soffer]

I was like, slay Queen Beastiality, anyone?

[Josh Peck]

That's what I call a page in Her. Her. I love it. But, yeah, man, that was. That was intense. Which. You've been seeing this debate, right? It is a New York Post article. Why everyone on the Internet is talking about 100 Men and a Gorilla with Elon Musk. Mr. B. Some more jumping into the debate. You've seen this, of course.

[Ben Soffer]

There's just. No. I think there is absolutely no chance that 100 men can defeat a gorilla. I think. I just think that the gorilla is. Is so unbelievably scared, like. Sure, if you let me. Let me. Let me backtrack for a second. If we're preparing a fight, maybe there's a chance. But unprompted. You have a hundred men in the woods and you have a gorilla. The gorilla is going to eat them alive if he wanted to.

[Josh Peck]

Sure.

[Ben Soffer]

A planned attack with weapons, obviously. No, but just fists. These hundred men are done for. I don't have a reason. I just don't think that they stand a chance. What do you think?

[Josh Peck]

Let me ask you this. Did those guerrillas know Harambe? Because if so, they are going to have vengeance in their heart. And then. I really don't trust.

[Ben Soffer]

Remember that gorillas no Haram do I know that. That's my son's name. Harambe Sabar. I named after him.

[Josh Peck]

Yeah, maybe you do. A junior Haramben.

[Ben Soffer]

Haramben.

[Josh Peck]

I love it.

[Ben Soffer]

Oh, me too. Me too. Yeah. Rest in peace, Harambe. Man, that was fucked up. That was fucked up. But before we forget all about it, the sir. Well, the circus I haven't spoken about in a while. My mom loves the circus, right? She would take us. She still loves the circus. Once a year I'll go to the Big Apple Circus with her. There's no longer the animals because we've outlawed that. But my mom loves the circus. And every year we would go to the biggest circus, which was the Barnum and Bailey Circus.

[Josh Peck]

Yes.

[Ben Soffer]

This circus took place at Madison Square Garden. This was a spectacle. We're talking lions, tigers, elephants, all of it. Okay. And I remember finding out. I was like. I was always thinking, how do you get the elephant into the Garden? How does it come. They walk through the Lincoln Tunnel. They close down the tunnel in the middle of the night and the elephants walk through. And that thought of elephants walking through the tunnel so that they could please us fatties eating popcorn is super duper sad.

[Josh Peck]

That's insane. They don't walk through the Lincoln Tunnel. That sounds like a children's book.

[Ben Soffer]

They walked through the Lincoln Tunnel. Look it up. How else do you get them there? How did you get.

[Josh Peck]

How did they get to New Jersey? How did they get to New Jersey?

[Ben Soffer]

On. On rail.

[Josh Peck]

So they're only transported on train.

[Ben Soffer]

Yeah. You can't fly an elephant. Too heavy. You can't drive one I don't know.

[Josh Peck]

That's meshuggah.

[Ben Soffer]

They're huge. Look it up, Olivia.

[Josh Peck]

Go to the. Go to Penn Station.

[Ben Soffer]

They're huge. Olivia. I need to know. I need to know if this is real.

[Josh Peck]

Elephants are getting a sleeper car on Amtrak.

[D]

There's an NPR article from 2007 called when the elephants March in Manhattan, and it says they go through the Midtown Tunnel.

[Ben Soffer]

Boom.

[Josh Peck]

But how did they get there? How did they get there, Ben?

[Ben Soffer]

We bring the boom.

[Josh Peck]

How did they get to the other side of the Midtown Tunnel? How did they get to Queens?

[Ben Soffer]

It's a great question, but I do want to just say I'm so happy that, like, the Costco guys are kind of on the outskirts. Like, it was too much for a minute. My TikTok was all over the place with them.

[Josh Peck]

I told you. I saw them at the Mr. Beast premiere for his show on Amazon. Right?

[Ben Soffer]

I don't think you told me this story. No, Big.

[Josh Peck]

AJ literally is walking around this party. If you had over 10,000 followers, he saw you and his leg was hurt. It was in a boot. So he would, like, waddle up to you and be like, give me a boom. I was like, damn, dog. I'm like, that's Young Bez energy right now.

[Ben Soffer]

It's funny.

[Josh Peck]

Give me a boom.

[E]

Boom.

[Josh Peck]

Nuts.

[Ben Soffer]

Oh, my God. That's funny. That is funny. Josh, I'm watching a really good documentary that I want you to watch. You're not going to want to watch it, though, okay? It's called Paul American.

[Josh Peck]

Oh. Oh, the Logan Paul Show.

[Ben Soffer]

I love it. Claudia loves it. It's so good. It's so good because it's like a real. I don't know. They just, like, talk. They're, like, crazy. They're so unbelievably accomplished. They're amazing. The dad is nuts, but they, like, really go deep. It feels like a real reality show as opposed to, like, some of these shows that are very censored. What they've done is so unbelievably impressive. And all I have to say is, after watching it, I think that, like, online, you'll look and it's like, oh, Logan's, like, the great one. Jake is the whatever. I watch this, and I'm like, jake Paul is healed. He's a legend. He's caring. I have a whole new perspective on Jake Paul.

[Josh Peck]

I always.

[Ben Soffer]

I was always impressed. But, like, I watched, like, these, like, couple of episodes that I watch the seasons actively going on. I'm watching him, like, talk about childhood trauma. Talk, like, work, having Worked through it. Has, like, a long. A girlfriend that he seems to treat incredibly like. It just. I love it. You should watch it if you haven't seen it.

[Josh Peck]

I don't. I think anyone that thinks Jake is the lesser brother is tripping, and I think it's incredible. I mean, they are truly like. They're like Ohio's Winklevosses.

[Ben Soffer]

Yeah. Yeah.

[Josh Peck]

They are both incredibly. I've talked about Logan before on the show and my relationship with him, but they're very impressive. And. And, you know, I give Jake so much credit because people give him crap for fighting tomato cans, which is basically just a boxing term for, like, fighting people who are way past their prime or just from another sport, like Nate Robinson, the basketball player, or.

[Ben Soffer]

Yeah, and Nate got crushed.

[Josh Peck]

So. Five, four. Like, Jake's a big boy.

[Ben Soffer]

We never saw. We never saw Nate again. Did he die in the ring?

[Josh Peck]

Nate got a stutter. And Ben Askren, who he beat, was primarily a wrestler. And, like, even Tyron Woodley and these people, I mean, they're MMA fighters or. Anderson Silva is one of the greatest UFC fighters to ever live. One of my. Maybe my favorite fighter, but he was in his mid-40s, and again, he's a mixed martial artist, not a boxer. And you know what I say? Good. Good for Jake. Good for Jake that he's making as much as the biggest boxers in the world while fighting tomato cans. Like, God bless him, I would.

[Ben Soffer]

And when you watch this stock, which you now have to. You're. You are going to love it. I'm telling you. It's so good. You see, nobody outworks this guy. It's very, very clear that in the boxing ring, this guy is working his fucking ass off. And it's so crazy. They show pictures of him at, like, 20 versus. We forget he's 27. 27.

[Josh Peck]

So young.

[Ben Soffer]

So young. And is enormous. Like, this guy. I need to know his TRTS, his TTRs, whatever the hell he's. He's like, he's using something. I'm sure they're all legal. This guy is so unbelievably big. He would beat the shit out of me for sure. He, like, I would get destroyed.

[Josh Peck]

But I would argue there's plenty of people working as hard or harder than him, but they're, like, real boxers. Not that he isn't, but, like, guys who are competing at Canelo Alvarez, like, at the highest level, I think are working as harder. Harder, but for what? Sure, he's a real boxer. Like, he's a real boxer.

[Ben Soffer]

He's a Real boxer.

[Josh Peck]

Like, he could. He could mop up plenty of guys.

[Ben Soffer]

I want you to watch it. I want everybody to watch it. It's so good. And if you still have that line of communication open with Logan, let them know that they're more than welcome to come on here and promote their show.

[Josh Peck]

You know, because we could increase views.

[Ben Soffer]

We could get them bigger views.

[Josh Peck]

This is the amount of text backs I'm getting, brother.

[Ben Soffer]

All right, I can't see a thing. So just write something. So just write something crazy to him. Like, hey, Logan, I think your rifle accidentally got dropped off at my apartment. You mind coming to pick it up? Try that, right? Like, your dad's in my lawn something. My dad's in your lawn.

[Josh Peck]

But are you gonna be By Dear Media, hey, it's crazy.

[Ben Soffer]

Your dad's Dear media with a hot mic. Can you come pick him up and then sit for an hour? You mind?

[Josh Peck]

It's perfect.

[Ben Soffer]

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[Josh Peck]

Should we get to a speak pipe?

[Ben Soffer]

Yes.

[Josh Peck]

If you want to get advice, leave us a message. Ask a question, go to speakpipe.com goodguys Keep it brief. Brevity is key. We don't want to hear your what are your nuts? Is they're not great. Let's hear from Anonymous.

[F]

Hey Josh and Ben. A newer listener came for Drake, stayed for you guys. I'd like to get your thoughts on college students these days. I graduated college about eight years ago. I'm a millennial and I now teach college. I'm a college professor. I teach students who are like in their early 20s, 20, 21, 22. And I don't know if it's Covid or what happened, but these kids, kids these days, right, like they just aren't the same. They're lazy, they want to be spoon fed, they don't take constructive criticism. And when I'm reading their papers, I honestly feel like I'm getting stupider. How can I communicate this to them? What are your thoughts? Would love to know. Love you guys.

[Ben Soffer]

I need to know where she teaches.

[Josh Peck]

Yeah, and she's probably like 26.

[Ben Soffer]

She's, I think she said she's 30 or 30. Yeah. I need to know where you teach to really, to really know. I think this is going to be a crazy statement. I think that the Gen Z generation in general has some bad press. I think that they have some really bad press. I think that overall we love saying like they're, they're weak minded, they don't work, they don't hustle, blah blah blah. I don't know. I think that they work hard. I think that knowing everything that I know, Josh today about school and how little it impacts the amount of money that I can make in the future, I'm not sure I would give a shit. And I think that they might just be again, I don't know where they, I don't know what school it is but unless you're like in a true academic environment where these kids, you're teaching them biology and they need an A to go to medical school. If you're teaching them sociology so that they can graduate with a degree in philosophy, they're not going to care because it has nothing to do with their future. And in the end of the day, unfortunately, being in America is about putting food on the table and making money and if what I'm learning is not going to directly impact the amount of money that I'm going to make, we're kind of at a. At a crossroads, right? So I don't know. I think that Gen Z is for the most part, just very, very aware that we live in a broken education system for the most part, and that it does not impact how successful you'll be in life. And once you've lost that plot, it's really difficult to get it back.

[Josh Peck]

Yeah, I think you just have to make it known how you're going to run your class from the beginning. And if people have trouble with that, then they can choose another class. But if it's within reason, like, this is how I'm going to account for your grades and what I expect from you, this is the kind of feedback I'm going to be giving in this way. I have a friend who teaches college in Florida, and he basically says from the beginning, like, this is how I'm going to address you. Like, and if you have an issue with it, like, bring it to me now and we can talk it through. But, like, I'm just going to use, like, generalized ways that we've used for millennias of addressing the people in the class, as I know that that has, you know, can be an issue for certain people. And basically the entire class was like, hey, bro, you're in Florida. Don't worry about it. They were like, you know, call us whatever. Because he was just like. Because he's like, I don't want to run into an issue five classes from now. Like, let's just get it all out here and then we can go forward and we're all on the same page. So I think you kind of have to do that. Like, let's all get on the same page and I'll tell you how I want to run my class. And you can choose whether to be in it or not.

[Ben Soffer]

I like that. I think it would also really. I think it would be really helpful to tell your students on day one why this class is important for them to pay attention to. I would love to have been told in classes that were unnecessary, in my opinion, why they were necessary. Like, court me on day one. Just tell me by learning all of these things, here's everything that you're gonna gain. You might not think that it will specifically relate to your life, your future. You won't be thinking about mitochondria when you're doing your taxes. All this stuff. Explain to me why it's relevant and I'm Sure. That a teacher can easily energize a classroom on why their subject matter is important, but I think that that might help.

[Josh Peck]

Agreed. Here's one from Anonymous.

[F]

Hi, good guys. I have a question for you, and.

[Ben Soffer]

It pertains to sponsorships. Specifically a sponsor of both yours and Claudia and Jackie's and many other podcasts.

[G]

That I listen to. And that is booking dot com.

[Ben Soffer]

I have booking dot Yeah.

[F]

I just need to understand what is the dot?

[Ben Soffer]

Yeah.

[F]

And why does everybody say it?

[Ben Soffer]

Do they tell you to say it? That is so good. Booking.com is going to love that. First of all, if you've watched a booking.com commercial, miss. They say booking.com, booking. Yeah. And we're a part of a 360 integrated campaign because. Yeah, we're cool like that. Do I know what it means? No. But does it make me feel a certain way? Absolutely. Booking.com, booking. Yeah.

[Josh Peck]

Yeah. It's not booking. Nah.

[Ben Soffer]

No, it's booking.

[Josh Peck]

Yeah, it's not booking. Fuck out of here.

[Ben Soffer]

No. Benny and Joshi.

[Josh Peck]

Benny and Joshy. We're booking. We're booking. Yah.

[Ben Soffer]

Yah. They need to change it. They need to Change it to booking.com, booking yas.

[Josh Peck]

That would be amazing.

[Ben Soffer]

Amazing for, like, Pride Month.

[Josh Peck]

For Pride Month.

[Ben Soffer]

Booking.com, booking. Yas Queen. I love it.

[Josh Peck]

So in for that. This one's from Kiki.

[Ben Soffer]

It's funny.

[H]

Okay, I have a. What are you nuts? And I want to know if I'm alone in this, but every single funeral I've been to with my mom, she tries to take pictures. Like, she tries. I guess it's people that she hasn't seen in a while. And, like, she tries to get pictures with them. She tries to take pictures of the casket. She literally just sent me a picture. That's what made me think of this, of her, the person who's burying their husband and their daughter behind the casket. Like, what are you, nuts? I just don't think people want to remember that day, like, the worst day of their life.

[Josh Peck]

Like that.

[H]

What are you nuts? I don't know. Funeral pictures at funerals.

[Ben Soffer]

Totally nuts. I want to know what she's doing with them.

[Josh Peck]

I don't know. I mean, how do you, like, give the caveat of, like, this was us at, you know, Irving's memorial, you know?

[Ben Soffer]

But, like, why? For what?

[Josh Peck]

Because it's, you know, people you haven't seen in a while to take a.

[Ben Soffer]

Picture with them at the lunch after, not at the burial. But I know you just Buried your husband. But quick selfie.

[Josh Peck]

People do that with an open casket though, which is pretty lit.

[Ben Soffer]

That's crazy.

[Josh Peck]

That's cool. Can you imagine me and Pope Francis Shout out.

[Ben Soffer]

Shout out to the Pope.

[Josh Peck]

Big ups to the conclave. This is gonna get so much likes at the conclave.

[Ben Soffer]

Big ups to me and P. Dog. P. Fran.

[Josh Peck]

P. Fran, man.

[Ben Soffer]

Beef ran. That's pretty good.

[Josh Peck]

I want to be in a conclave, man.

[Ben Soffer]

Sure.

[Josh Peck]

I would crush a conclave.

[Ben Soffer]

Yeah. Find out you're Jewish.

[Josh Peck]

I know.

[Ben Soffer]

Can't hear you.

[Josh Peck]

Busy conclaving. Like, can you imagine? Can you imagine that? Like, sorry. Out of office at a conclave. Can you imagine the cardinals emails right now?

[Ben Soffer]

It's actually so true because they. They do have other jobs. They're gonna. They're gonna eventually not become Pope and need to go back. They probably have an out of office that says, sorry I missed you out of office at a conclave.

[Josh Peck]

That's hot.

[Ben Soffer]

Wow. We should try. We should look up their names and guess their emails like some of these guys and try to email just to see if we get back an ooo. You know, like what's. What's like a conclave's one name one guy in the conclave and let's guess his email.

[Josh Peck]

I don't know. Let's just call him Cardinal Robert.

[Ben Soffer]

Okay. Cardinal. No, [e-mail].

[Josh Peck]

Yeah. Or maybe he's fun and it's bobby cards. Bobbycardsatican.net oh, my God, it's Bobby.

[Ben Soffer]

Bobby Cards is such a sick hold' Em name. That's how if you sit down with Phil Ivey and you're like, I'm Bobby Cards short. Short for Cardinal Robert.

[Josh Peck]

Yeah.

[Ben Soffer]

Bobby Sick.

[Josh Peck]

Bobby Cards just hit a baptism and he's coming by for some lentil soup.

[Ben Soffer]

Bobby Cards just hit a baptism and just flopped a straight flush.

[Josh Peck]

Bobby Cards hit a tism and now he's hitting the river with a double down. I don't know what that. I think that's blackpack.

[Ben Soffer]

Bobby Cards hidden and now has tism.

[Josh Peck]

It's so wrong.

[Ben Soffer]

Benny and Joshi getting canceled by Christians.

[Josh Peck]

And Joshi and then neurodevelopment. I'm neurodivergent because I can't keep my mouth shut.

[Ben Soffer]

Same. Same.

[Josh Peck]

This podcast would be the biggest thing ever if we could just talk the way we wanted to.

[Ben Soffer]

Oh, my God. It would be enormous if we didn't care. Oh, my. How big. Oh, how big.

[F]

I've been dating my boyfriend for just at a year, and I've been Having some health problems. We do live together, but I have been having some GI issues, and my doctor ordered a sample and gave me a kit to come home with. And my question is, at what point in a relationship is it time to include your partner with that of like, hey, I need to do this test. I need help. Or, like, can you drop this sample.

[H]

Off at the lab?

[F]

Like, at what point is TMI not TMI anymore?

[Ben Soffer]

You lost me. Sorry. You were. I was with you. I was like you. Like, there is no point in time. You should never be hiding medical problems from your partner. Ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever. And coming home and telling your partner of one week that you need to collect a stool sample because you are having problems is not a big deal. You completely lost me on giving him the stool sample to drop off. What are you nuts? Nobody else should be handling your poop. This is you. You're the one with the stomach issues. You get in your car and you drop it off. Right? That's where she lost me 100%.

[Josh Peck]

What does he need to be involved at all? Anyone who's. Anyone's done a sample before. And it's very easy to do alone.

[Ben Soffer]

For sure. For sure. You just take the little scooper and you put it into the bottle. That's it. It's very easy. And then you drop it off. Lazy watch. She's, like, handicapped. Cut it out.

[Josh Peck]

Darn it. Well, if that's the case, then we're with you all the way. But otherwise, do better.

[Ben Soffer]

Totally. If you're. Yeah, do better.

[Josh Peck]

People mess up that way. Like, people get. I think you shouldn't get overly comfortable with your partner maybe, ever. I mean, I know you guys are Fartville USA over there, but I'm just.

[Ben Soffer]

Saying, in general, we're just comfortable, though. We're not. Like, if you are Fartville usa, it doesn't mean that you want to live in farts. Like, we've gotten it out. We're comfortable with it. It doesn't mean that every single day, I'm intentionally trying to make my room smelly. Like, people who are comfortable, eventually, I think, reach just like a middle ground of, okay, we know we fart. Okay, we know we shit. But, like, we don't. We don't have to do that stuff in front of each other all the time. Like, we can make life as not smelly as possible. But I think that because she was specifically talking about medical problems, you should never be afraid to share a medical problem with your spouse. Ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever. Even if they're gross.

[Josh Peck]

So true.

[Ben Soffer]

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[Josh Peck]

What about Candy?

[E]

Hi, Josh. I guess this question is more for you. So I have a daughter and no family except for my dad really cares to come see her. Like last year my daughter was turning one and my husband literally had to guilt trip his mother to even come to her birthday party. And like, I didn't even bother doing anything big because most people just said they couldn't come anyways. But then they'll try to guilt trip us and be like, well, you need to come around more often or, you know, why do we never get to see her? So I guess my question would be, how would you go about that? How would you handle it? I feel like I don't handle it the best because I think that they should try. And so I feel like we just shouldn't take her around unless they start visiting more often. So, yeah, let me know.

[F]

Thanks.

[Ben Soffer]

I have thoughts. I want to hear your thoughts. Quickly though. Shout out Candy is a sick name. And not enough people are named Candy anymore. Just saying Candy is a sick name.

[Josh Peck]

Go down the rabbit hole. Name your kid Twix.

[Ben Soffer]

Yeah, I'm with you. Snickers.

[Josh Peck]

This is my Snickers.

[Ben Soffer]

Softer.

[Josh Peck]

This is my daughter, Lorna Dune.

[Ben Soffer]

This is my daughter, Baby Ruth.

[Josh Peck]

This is my son, Ritz Sick.

[Ben Soffer]

Ooh, Ritz crackers are good.

[Josh Peck]

Ritz Ritz Peff.

[Ben Soffer]

What about Frito Peck?

[Josh Peck]

Yes.

[Ben Soffer]

I like it. I like it. Frito. This seems complex, Josh. All I. I think it's your responsibility to bring your kid to people.

[Josh Peck]

I think that. I do think it's a two way street. I think parents, it's more their job if they're capable to come see your kid. And in general, I think you'll find when you first have your kid in the first six months, like, it's just hard for you to be mobile. And so you will sure you will give special credit to people who make the effort to come see your kid. And I think they should.

[Ben Soffer]

I am so I was thinking though just quickly, I wasn't thinking for six months. I was thinking that this girl is like eight. Am I wrong?

[Josh Peck]

She said like one first birthday, so I'm guessing under two.

[Ben Soffer]

Okay, continue.

[Josh Peck]

What I would say is I'm so guilty of when I feel wronged that my pride and ego starts really taking effect and I go, great. I said they will never hear from me again. I will never look weak to them. I will never give them the opportunity to hurt me again. But if you really want this question answered, then bury that shit and make an effort. Go see that family and if they don't reciprocate you, you have your answer. But may like usually when two people are at an impasse, someone's going to have to give up their position and risk feeling vulnerable to make any version of an amends. And and at least if you try and it doesn't work out, then you have your answer and you don't have to wonder anymore.

[Ben Soffer]

I agree. It's also never been easier with FaceTime, though. I FaceTime my nieces and nephews all the time. They live in Florida. Like they, I see them. Am I there? No. But like, I feel like you can build a relationship better these days over the phone than you've ever been able to before. So at a minimum, you should be showing each other to each other on FaceTime and then hopefully getting together when you can. But to your point from before, it's definitely difficult to schlap a baby somewhere. Those people need to come to you if it's a true baby.

[Josh Peck]

To that last one from Anonymous.

[G]

Hey, good guys, Maron here. So I've been dating my boyfriend for about six years and his mom tends to overstep a lot in my opinion, like commenting on exes, Facebooks and stuff like that. So most recently she's asked for the registry for a wedding that we're going to attend, which is my boyfriend's friend and it's a female friend. And I know that if she wasn't getting married that she would definitely try to be with my boyfriend. She has a crush on him. It's crazy. And so my boyfriend's mother has asked for the registry and wants to send her a gift. I know that Claudia doesn't allow Ben to have female friends.

[Ben Soffer]

So what do you guys think about this? First of all, Claudia does not tell me who I can and can't be friends with for real. She would never do that. I want to just make sure that everybody knows that.

[Josh Peck]

And by the way, I'm glad you said that. And think of the reverse totally.

[Ben Soffer]

It would never happen.

[Josh Peck]

I mean I'm telling a woman you are not allowed to have certain friends.

[Ben Soffer]

That would, it would, it would never, it would never ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever happen. So I don't want that like out out there that people actually think that. That said, I do think that the relationship between men and women changes as we get older. For sure, I had way more friends that were girls before I was married. But that's just a part of being 20. Like I met my, my wife really, really, really young. Like I think that if I didn't meet her so young and I had established strong like a lot of established strong female friendships later I would keep them. But like for example, a lot of my. I have a lot of very close friends that are girls and she's friends with them and she's friends with the husbands and like you grow together. So first and foremost. No, but that's not at all the point of your. You like threw that in at the end. So I wanted to clarify that your mother in law is insane. Like this is too much like, like requesting the registry. If you aren't close enough to get the registry, you don't need the registry. Like if you're close enough with the person to get the registry, then you're probably invited to the wedding. But I think that the idea of sending a wedding gift to somebody that you're not close enough with that might make your daughter in law uncomfortable I think is very bizarre.

[Josh Peck]

You've never sent someone a gift for a wedding you weren't invited to?

[Ben Soffer]

I've never sent somebody a gift from a registry for a wedding that I wasn't invited to. Now huh. Maybe I haven't. Maybe I've gotten them like a gift card or something because they're a co worker or like I'm trying to think of a situation where I'm close enough with somebody that I'm not but I'm not invited to their wedding. I guess that would be somebody that.

[Josh Peck]

I work with if you were gonna get. I think there's a lot of versions of where like you're happy for people, it's such a moment for them. It's like that and first child, right. Like I have yeah friends who I'm not really in their lives on a day to day basis but I have a love for them. And I wasn't invited to their baby showers, but if I hear they're having a kid, I'll certainly be like, what's your registry? So I can get you something off the list that you need. And I would do the same. If there was a coworker where I wouldn't be expected to be invited to their wedding, but I wanted to do something nice for them because I love them, I would say, give me a registry.

[Ben Soffer]

See, it's interesting that you say that. I wouldn't, because that would imply guilt for me onto them that I should have been invited to the wedding.

[Josh Peck]

Like, I just. What do you think, Olivia? What do you think?

[D]

Yeah, I haven't. I've, like, sent cards and stuff before. Like, if I'm unable to attend a wedding, obviously, like, send a gift if I've been invited. I don't know that in this instance in particular, it sounds like maybe this is, like, an old friend of his. And so I'm a seeing that, like, maybe the mom has known this girl for a long time, and, like, although she isn't close enough to be invited to the wedding per se, she's like, oh, I've watched this person grow up, and therefore, I want to, like, contribute to their future or, like, give them something coming from a place of, like, having more, being an established human adult.

[Ben Soffer]

So write a check.

[D]

Fair enough.

[Josh Peck]

I don't think it's crazy to gift the mother to want to give a gift to her friend's good friend for years. It's not.

[Ben Soffer]

You don't think so?

[Josh Peck]

No, it's just like, I've. Like, it's all with big things. Like, I've.

[Ben Soffer]

Even if. Even if it bothered Paige. Let's put it. Let's put it in your exact life. Okay. Your best friend from growing up is a girl. Let's say there's. What rhymes with Ben and Len? That's a girl. Shen. Shen. Okay. Jen. That's much better. Your best. Your best friend, Jen. Okay. And Paige has a little bit of jealousy towards Jen, but, you know, she's still there. It's not a problem. But Paige doesn't love Jen. And Barb reaches out to. To Paige and is like, I want Jen's registry so I can send her a gift. It doesn't feel weird at all.

[Josh Peck]

I think there would probably be better ways to do it, but in that if she's like my friend Len, and so I've known them since I'm 14, so it's been 25 years. You've seen this kid grow up. And you just want to. To Olivia's point, like, as the older person, contribute a little to their honeymoon fun or whatever. Maybe I. Maybe I would just circumvent Paige. I don't think it'd be secretive to never. For Paige to never know it.

[Ben Soffer]

No, I. I hear that. I just think that a. I don't know, if Jen and your mom were really that close, then I would hope that Jen either invited your mom or if she didn't, if she had a small wedding that your mom had to check. I don't know. I think the requesting the registry thing just felt weird to me for somebody who's not invited to something, but maybe I'm overthinking it. I don't know.

[Josh Peck]

What do you think? Like, if you. How do I say this? I guess I didn't do it. It's a good example because she just got married. But, like, I've never met your sister, but I feel nachos for her.

[Ben Soffer]

Yes.

[Josh Peck]

Pride, Olivia, for, like, just getting married. And so if I had met her once, I might say to you, hey, can I have your sister's number? I just want to shoot her a text as a model. Or I might even say, because you mean so much to me, I'd be like, I want to send her a little something. And like.

[Ben Soffer]

And if. And if you had done that, if you had written to me, it's the perfect example. You fell into my trap.

[Josh Peck]

Okay.

[Ben Soffer]

If you had. If you had said to me, ben, send me Maddie's registry, I really want to. I really want to send her something, I would have invited you to the wedding.

[Josh Peck]

That's a you thing, though. That's. That is so. And it's a beautiful thing, but it's.

[Ben Soffer]

I don't. I don't. I don't think so.

[Josh Peck]

You couldn't.

[Ben Soffer]

If it's.

[Josh Peck]

You can't invite me to her wedding.

[Ben Soffer]

I can tell. I can tell her that it's important. It was important enough for him to want to send you a gift. It's important enough for him to be there. And if I didn't feel that way, right, because it came from somebody so random, like a random mother in law, then it would be weird. I think that's.

[Josh Peck]

I think it's a beautiful reflection of who you are and just a gem of a person. I think that is a losing proposition for your sister, you and me, because I don't want to go. I mean, I love her, but, like, you know what I'm saying? It's like.

[Ben Soffer]

No, no, totally. So then you don't end up going and you send the gift. But you were still invited.

[Josh Peck]

I know, but like, what if I just happen to be in New York, you know, and she.

[Ben Soffer]

She doesn't post your Instagram stories on Monday.

[Josh Peck]

She loves me. I love her, but like, I would never want her to pay for me to be at her wedding, having not really had any. I know what you mean, but I don't know.

[Ben Soffer]

I think I've made my point.

[Josh Peck]

You haven't.

[Ben Soffer]

You haven't. Should we get to what are you nuts?

[Josh Peck]

Are what are you nuts? Moment of the. There are gripes with people, places and things both big and small. Whatever's sticking in your craw.

[Ben Soffer]

We're experiencing incredible rain in New York, Josh. Today is day two of what is eight straight days of rain, right? Just cloudy, rainy, all this stuff. So you walk outside, people are wearing rain gear, right? What does rain gear consist of, Josh? We're talking about umbrellas. We're talking about rain jackets with a hood up. We're talking maybe about rain boots. I'm literally crossing the street. I see a woman head to toe, big umbrella, huge raincoat, open toed shoes. What are you nuts? What are you nuts? She's stepping in puddles actively. Her feet are soaking wet. She's wearing sun shoes, but she's wearing a full, full on raincoat and umbrella. I just thought it was nuts. That's nuts. Well, you want to protect your entire body, but your feet.

[Josh Peck]

True that. My Woody Nuts moment is places and restaurants with kitschy names. Like, something about her? No, not like that, but like some of these places that I'm going by. I went by a dog training place called. Oh, just sit.

[Ben Soffer]

You know what's so stupid about that? Before you even continue, you're gonna get zero SEO. There's no search engine optimization whatsoever. Nobody will ever find you. No one will ever find you. What happened to the Laundromat just being called Murray Hill Laundromat?

[Josh Peck]

Right? There's a place called we met at a bar. What about.

[Ben Soffer]

What is it?

[Josh Peck]

What is happening at Chili's?

[Ben Soffer]

We met at a bar. Is it a bar?

[Josh Peck]

Of course.

[Ben Soffer]

All right, so at least they have that.

[Josh Peck]

I know, but what about Olive Garden?

[Ben Soffer]

I know names.

[Josh Peck]

Apple.

[Ben Soffer]

Apple. Yeah.

[Josh Peck]

Cheesecake Factory. It's a factory for cheesecake. What are you nuts? Just totally name it. Normal things. Ben's Joshies, Benny and Joshies.

[Ben Soffer]

You know, naming normal things.

[Josh Peck]

Get us out of here, folks.

[Ben Soffer]

This episode's five stars. Otherwise, what are you, freaking nuts? Listen to us. Wherever you get your podcasts. Watch us on YouTube share our clips Instagram and TikTok Mondays and Thursdays folks. We will see you next time.

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