Pickup Trucks, Prenups & One-Pump Chumps

Summary

Podcast Summary: Good Guys – "Pickup Trucks, Prenups & One-Pump Chumps"

Release Date: August 7, 2025

Hosts: Josh Peck (Actor & Writer) and Ben Soffer (Entrepreneur & Social Media Icon)

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Introduction

In this episode of the Good Guys podcast, hosts Josh Peck and Ben Soffer dive into a lively discussion covering a trio of engaging topics: the quest for the perfect pickup truck, the complexities of prenups, and the intriguing concept of "one-pump chumps." Their chemistry and humor make for an entertaining exploration of these subjects, enriched with personal anecdotes and listener interactions.

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1. The Great Pickup Truck Debate

Timeframe: [03:00] - [17:33]

Josh kicks off the conversation by expressing his need for a larger vehicle to accommodate his growing family. Currently driving a Land Rover with limited seating, he seeks recommendations for a more spacious and practical car.

Key Points:

• BMW X7 vs. Chevy Suburban: Ben initially recommends the luxurious BMW X7 for its roomy third row but raises concerns about its automatic engine shut-off feature, which poses challenges during activities like pumping gas.

  Ben [04:23]: "They are amazing cars. Amazing. I just don't know a Jew that owns one."

• Alternative Suggestions: Josh and Ben explore various options, including the Chevy Suburban, Ford Expedition, and Jeep Wagoneer. Ben shares nostalgic stories of his father's use of these vehicles, highlighting their reliability and capacity.

  Ben [07:30]: "Have to talk about it because I'm having some problems, but yes, I'm gonna help you."

• Customization and Aesthetics: Discussion shifts to the aesthetic aspects of trucks, such as color choices to avoid the "Uber driver" look. They brainstorm fun modifications like powder coating wheels and adding unique features.

  Josh [10:21]: "So you have to get a color so that you don't look like an Uber driver."

• Electric Trucks: Towards the end of this segment, Josh contemplates the Ford F150 Lightning, an electric truck, but raises concerns about its cost and practicality.

  Josh [16:13]: "And what's his name? Tiramisu. What was his name?"

Notable Quote:

Josh [10:38]: "I love a green car. British racing green."

2. Navigating Prenups

Timeframe: [47:04] - [52:35]

Listener Alicia poses a thoughtful question regarding the intricacies of prenups, especially concerning the protection of family assets. Both hosts delve into their perspectives on the matter.

Key Points:

• Definition and Purpose: Josh explains prenups as legal documents that outline the distribution of assets in the event of a divorce, emphasizing the importance of protecting family inheritances.

  Josh [50:08]: "If you're gonna be judged on this first attempt, I lose."

• Legal Representation: They stress the necessity for both partners to have separate legal counsel to ensure fairness and proper representation during the prenup process.

  Josh [51:17]: "Both the husband and the wife need separate lawyers."

• Personal Experiences: Josh shares his own experience with drafting a prenup to ensure his mother's financial security, highlighting the practical benefits of such agreements.

  Josh [51:56]: "I support my mom... anything going forward would be 50, 50 between you and your wife."

Notable Quote:

Ben [49:36]: "You can come up with any... to make sure that you and your husband's rubies from family estates are protected."

3. Understanding "One-Pump Chumps"

Timeframe: [40:09] - [47:04]

A listener question introduces the topic of "one-pump chumps," a term referring to individuals who disengage after a single intimate encounter. Josh and Ben dissect this phenomenon, offering insights from both male and female perspectives.

Key Points:

• Definition and Impact: The term "one-pump chump" is explored as a label for men who terminate relationships after minimal intimacy, often leaving partners feeling ghosted and confused.

  Josh [42:00]: "Open Phone, no missed calls, no missed customers."

• Male Perspective: Josh shares his experiences with performance anxiety, explaining how it can lead to premature endings of romantic interactions.

  Josh [43:01]: "There is performance anxiety... if I'm gonna be judged on this first attempt, I lose."

• Communication and Handling Awkwardness: The hosts discuss the importance of open communication and maintaining humor to navigate such situations gracefully.

  Ben [45:07]: "She probably called him a one pump jump and he left."

Notable Quote:

Josh [46:44]: "There's nothing like feeling comfortable with another person and being able... and just hope that they don't laugh."

4. Listener Interaction: Hosting Friends and Sharing Costs

Timeframe: [33:25] - [37:31]

A listener from Canada seeks advice on hosting friends for a weekend getaway, specifically addressing the dilemma of providing all the food without expecting contributions from guests.

Key Points:

• Hosting Etiquette: Josh and Ben discuss the balance between being a generous host and setting expectations for guests to contribute, such as bringing wine or offering to cover a meal.

  Ben [36:32]: "But as the host, you need to be comfortable with getting nothing."

• Financial Considerations: They emphasize the importance of not overburdening the host while maintaining hospitality, suggesting practical ways guests can help offset costs without feeling imposed upon.

  Josh [36:58]: "Depending how many people, 500 to a thousand bucks for the weekend of food and alcohol."

Notable Quote:

Ben [37:02]: "Like, thousand percent."

5. Exploring Hillstone’s Menu: "Menu Menches"

Timeframe: [26:02] - [33:20]

In a fun segment inspired by Joey Comasta, Josh and Ben review Hillstone Park Avenue's dinner menu, sharing their favorite dishes and culinary preferences.

Key Points:

• Sushi Selections: Both hosts rave about Hillstone's unique sushi offerings, such as the A Plus Roll and Thai Tuna Roll, highlighting the perfect balance of flavors and textures.

  Ben [28:19]: "Sashimi tuna stacked with avocado, spicy tuna, and sushi rice."

• Appetizers and Salads: They commend appetizers like spinach artichoke dip and deviled eggs, alongside standout salads like the seared ahi tuna salad and yellowtail sashimi salad.

  Josh [31:11]: "You could also do a jumbo shrimp cocktail... and then salad wise."

• Entrees and Desserts: The hosts applaud entrees like the Hawaiian ribeye and tuna tartare, concluding their meal explorations with a delightful mention of the ice cream sundae.

  Ben [32:30]: "They give you fanned avocado, some crostinis. It's fantastic."

Notable Quote:

Josh [29:53]: "Period."

Conclusion

Throughout this episode, Josh and Ben blend humor with insightful discussions, providing listeners with valuable perspectives on practical life choices like vehicle selection and marriage agreements, as well as navigating the complexities of modern dating. Their authentic conversations and relatable experiences resonate strongly, making "Pickup Trucks, Prenups & One-Pump Chumps" a memorable installment of the Good Guys podcast.

End of Summary

Transcript

[Josh]

The following podcast is a Dear Media production. Two Jews, both big and tall. No subject too small for the Good Guys. A mother's dream premium podcast team. Make it your weekly routine. It's a Good Guys.

[Ben]

And if you don't give us five stars.

[Josh]

What are you nuts?

[Ben]

What are you nuts? Yeah, we're the good guys.

[Josh]

They're not the great guys. We're just the good of the good guys. Baruch Hashem and mazel to you and yours. This is the Good Guys podcast. Welcome back.

[Ben]

Bh. You got where you were going safely. I hope that. I hope that you didn't hit any traffic.

[Josh]

You want to hear a good Jewish joke I heard recently, Ben?

[Ben]

Sure.

[Josh]

Sadie, the sad Jewish widow, is mourning the death of her husband Saul, who recently passed. She said, oh, I guess I'll have to do an announcement in the newspaper. So she calls the newspaper. So she wants to do an announcement. They say, well, it's $25 a word, ma'.

[Ben]

Am.

[Josh]

She goes, my God, so expensive. All right, just write Saul died. They go, unfortunately, there's a five word minimum. She goes, fine, right. Saul died. Volvo for sale.

[Ben]

That's good. Very good, very good. The only thing that makes it unrealistic is that a Jew owned a Volvo.

[Josh]

Okay?

[Ben]

It should have been Toyota Sienna for sale.

[Josh]

Volvo's are sick. Are you into Volvos? Do you have any feeling towards Volvo?

[Ben]

They're amazing cars. Amazing. I just don't know a Jew that owns one. I don't, but they are.

[Josh]

Lexus for sale.

[Ben]

Lexus for sale. Really? Toyota Sienna or the Chobodniks or the Hasida. We're high, low, or anybody with a big family. If you're like really rich like that, sure, you'll get like a Suburban or an Escalade. Otherwise, we're big. Like Honda pilots. We're big. Toyota Camrys. We're big. Whatever else is a big, nice midsize. We love an Infinity. Oh, big Sadie, Big Infinity group. But yeah, not many Volvos. Not many Volvos. I would. If I had to guess, it's probably the least purchased Jewish car is the Volvo. No way behind the Volkswagen. That's probably number one. But otherwise, yeah. I don't know many Jews with Volvos. I know one. That's it. I would bet you.

[Josh]

No, no, here's the thing, though. Volvos are above a more affordable car, right? It's like, yes, it's at the beginning. It's an entry level luxury car. They are arguably by far the safest car on the road. I could see plenty of Yids in a Volvo.

[Ben]

The thing is, and I'm just realizing this for the first time, the Volvo driver is the Subaru driver. Just with some extra scratch like that. It's the same driver. And I also don't know many Jews and Subarus.

[Josh]

Suba. Jew.

[Ben]

Yeah. I don't know. Welcome to the Good Guys podcast.

[Josh]

We generalize Jewish vehicles.

[Ben]

We do. With absolutely no basis. None.

[Josh]

What should my. You can help me. And I really need a bigger car now. And while I know you just got a spectacular, beautiful bigger car and we.

[Ben]

Have to talk about it because I'm having some problems, but yes, I'm gonna help you.

[Josh]

Oh, yeah, let's talk about it. I think I need a proper big car now with three kids. Right now my kids are in a Land Rover with my wife. It's great, lovely, safe car. We love it. But there is a third row, but it doesn't actually house anyone, especially a kid in a car seat. And so all my kids, all three of them are in the second row across. Right. Three car seats across. It's crap. It's a lot.

[Ben]

Okay, so first of all, yeah, the X7 BMW, Josh. Roomy, perfect. Third row, beautiful. Highly recommend. Now, let me share this. Okay, this is not on BMW. This is not on the beautiful Rally motors wonderful dealership.

[Josh]

Then who's it on?

[Ben]

I think it's on BMW, actually. There is a feature that you cannot shut off, Josh, that when you leave the car, the engine shuts.

[Josh]

What do you mean?

[Ben]

You walk out of your car. I park my car. Okay. I open the driver's door, the car shuts off. It's off no matter what. I guess it's to save gas. Auto off. If the driver door opens when the car is in park and you can't.

[Josh]

But obviously there is that.

[Ben]

But can't turn it off.

[Josh]

But you have the button to turn off the auto engine off while you're driving, right?

[Ben]

Correct. Correct. Okay, that's there, but not when you leave. I spoke to a wonderful tech assistant at BMW and he said it's no longer a feature that you can turn this off. And this is a what? Are you nuts? Okay, I'm saying mine early. You're getting a BMW X7, probably because you're sporty, but you have a family. Like, that's why you need that much room. Otherwise you would go with the souped up X5 or something smaller, whatever. And the idea that Claudia is in the front seat, Ruby's in the back seat, and I turn off the car to pump gas and all Of a sudden, they're left in. A car with no air conditioning is a huge problem. Huge.

[Josh]

So do you know you can't leave a car on while you pump gas.

[Ben]

But that's what I'm saying. So what do you do? You have a baby in the car? You have a hot baby or you're. What do you do? I can't. I can't have him in the car when I pump gas. That's what this is. What if we're on a road trip and I'm running out of gas?

[Josh]

I think for. At least if we're talking purely gas, where the car should be off for those, you know, three minutes.

[Ben]

Yeah.

[Josh]

You roll down their window in three minutes, they're. Nothing's going to happen to them. And you pump the gas without. Because I don't think anyone is enjoying air conditioning while. Unless it's working off the battery. But yeah, it works.

[Ben]

The battery. That's at least the experience that I've had where the battery stays on, the engine cuts, but the battery stays on. And air conditioning can play. Music can play like the car stays on, but we can even take it from. That's one experience. You're totally right. Three minutes. Whatever. You leave the car. I go into. This just happened. We're at the gas station, we're done pumping gas. I leave the car to go get a couple of snacks. Car cuts. It's just fucking annoying. Sure, it's just annoying. That's it. I don't want to take out the doona and bring him in. He's with another adult in the car. The car should be able to be on with the air conditioning blowing. If it's in park and the driver door opened, it's nuts.

[Josh]

Weird. I bet you can fix it. I bet there's a fix.

[Ben]

Well, Jimmy couldn't fix it for me, so I got to find another guy.

[Josh]

You trusting a guy named Jimmy?

[Ben]

Yeah, I trust him. He was good.

[Josh]

You're nuts.

[Ben]

Maybe he wasn't that good. Who knows? Okay, so, yeah, I would say, actually, I can't now recommend it to you because there's this problem. I can't know about this problem until you to get it.

[Josh]

You know, I love BMW, but I think I need to start going into uncharted territory here. I'm talking a Chevy Tahoe and. Or Suburban or a Toyota Sequoia.

[Ben]

Okay, so I grew up Sequoia. I grew up in suburbans. Josh. They are fucking amazing.

[Josh]

They are, right?

[Ben]

These are amazing cars. Amazing.

[Josh]

Is that. Cause your dad had it for the Catering?

[Ben]

Yes, yes. He had it for the catering biz and it doubled just as like our family car. So, like when he would deliver things, he would roll, throw down those back rows and otherwise we were just in it. So, like, that was just like my car.

[Josh]

Benjamin, I put you next to the couscous.

[Ben]

I wish it was couscous. I'd get in the car like, dad, why does the car smell like a filter fish? He's like, oh, no, a tin opened in the trunk. I'm like, that is vile.

[Josh]

Benjamin, while you're back there, scoop up the kasha.

[Ben]

Can he get my beach ch and a beef shank? Oh, my God, that's too good. Give me a rack of ribs.

[Josh]

And the umbrella next to the mint jelly is my tanning lotion. We're going to Jones Beach. Move the mint jelly, Benjamin.

[Ben]

Oh, my God. I am going to Jones Beach. By the way, Goo Goo Dolls, Dashboard Confessional.

[Josh]

Yeah, white people.

[Ben]

And unfortunately, I just missed Creed and Daughtry. I could kill myself that I missed that concert.

[Josh]

That hurts.

[Ben]

Fucking shit. Okay, yeah, you could go with the Tahoe, but I think the Tahoe's too small, so you're gonna have to go with the Suburban. The Suburban's big. I also, I'd look at the regular GMs. The GMs, Josh, are cool too. The Yukon's cool. That's a cool.

[Josh]

A Yukon is a Tahoe. And a Yukon xl. Yeah, but you're right, they're even nicer.

[Ben]

They're all the same. So I would pick whichever one's the cheapest. You can't go with an Escalade unless you're looking to spend stupid money on literally the same cars.

[Josh]

But I drove one Cadillac let me drive one for a couple of days because I did their fun little activation in April. And this Escalade IQ vase me.

[Ben]

They're gorgeous cars. They really are. Look, if you can do it, you do it. I would recommend, because I've been in it. If you're really looking for a boat, my brother in law is a Jeep Wrangler, not Jeep Wrangler, a Jeep Wagoneer. And this is a boat. Okay, this is a school bus, but a luxurious school bus. I recommend it. I recommend the Wagoneer. You'll never park again on the street. But I recommend the Wagoneer.

[Josh]

But these Jeeps been these Jeeps men, they're not known for their reliability. It's like my father.

[Ben]

Interesting.

[Josh]

The Josh's dad of cars. His name is Jeep. This is my father, Jeep Wagoneer. You might know my dad. Jeep, Rubicon.

[Ben]

All right, so then we don't like Jeeps. So then, look, you really. You have to go with Chevy. Chevy is reliable. These cars are amazing.

[Josh]

God, it's so American. Or a Ford Expedition.

[Ben]

Ah, that's interesting.

[Josh]

It's a Chevy moment, I think.

[Ben]

I think so. The Suburban's sick. They're really sick.

[Josh]

So now let me, let me ask you.

[Ben]

You have to get a. But you have to get a color so that you don't look like an Uber driver. Like, you can't get black, you're going to look like an Uber driver. You can't get navy, you're going to look like an Uber driver.

[Josh]

I think a nice gray, like a nice smoke. Gunmetal.

[Ben]

Gunmetal is nice. Or hunter, like your shirt.

[Josh]

Oh, I love a green. I love a green car. British racing green.

[Ben]

Me too. So cool. And that in a Suburban, I don't even know if I've seen it. That might be like extra, like afterwards, like you bring it to like a local LA detailer who can do something sick.

[D]

Yeah.

[Josh]

Powder, coat the fucking wheels. Do a chrome delete.

[Ben]

I love it. Yeah.

[Josh]

Put in a dispenser for monster energy drinks.

[Ben]

Rip out all the back seats. Put in a. Put in a bed. Like a futon.

[Josh]

Hell, yes.

[Ben]

And then you forget why you got.

[Josh]

It for the kids smoke method.

[Ben]

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[Josh]

Okay, now tell me if I'm code switching here.

[Ben]

Yes.

[Josh]

My car lease is up in January in about five months. My wife's is up in November, a year from November. So, you know, we're, we're, we're formulating, we're plotting, we're, we're thinking, we're building. We like the idea. Now let's build. I might give up my car and get the said big car, the Chevy Suburban, whatever, just so that she can, you know, have a bigger car for the time being and I'll drive her car. But, you know, we're both going to have to give up, up our car within the next year. I'm thinking I'm toying with, I'm flirting with the idea of getting a truck, a proper truck, an F150 perhaps.

[Ben]

I love it.

[Josh]

Do you?

[Ben]

Yeah, I do.

[Josh]

Josh G. Am I coaching? I'm a Jew from New York. I've never hauled anything. I grew up in North Hollywood.

[Ben]

You can do it. Go.

[Josh]

Yeah, go.

[E]

Go with your gut on that one.

[Ben]

I love a pickup truck, Josh. I think they're awesome. And I don't think it's code switching. Yes. I'm so here for it. Yes. Your personality will change slightly. I mean, you're going to met my.

[Josh]

You'Re going to get in laws. So, you know, like I'm code switching for them, but I think that's okay.

[Ben]

It's okay. You're going to get a rottweiler that you're going to keep in the back. Okay. Of your car permanently. He's never going to step foot in the house.

[Josh]

He can with my allergies.

[Ben]

True. Okay. That's why he stays outside.

[Josh]

Yes.

[Ben]

He's an outside dog. You can lug meat in it. You have no idea how much stuff you can put in that F150. I'm in. I'm in.

[Josh]

Okay, now let me throw one last little bit of who knows what. There is amazing deals on like the Ford F150 Lightning, the electric truck. Or I could do like no, can't.

[Ben]

Get an electric truck.

[Josh]

I know, but 400 mile charge, it's an amazing deal. Chevy's got one. Yeah, they're all like. They're nice, like $80,000 plus trucks for like 700 something a month. Oh, my God.

[Ben]

Okay. All right. Yeah. With your guy. What's his name? Tiramisu. What was his name?

[Josh]

Excuse me?

[Ben]

What was his name?

[Josh]

N N Nautic.

[Ben]

That was it. I love it.

[Josh]

Shadow Gnarr.

[Ben]

I love. Okay, yeah.

[Josh]

Or there's Vahe, by the way.

[Ben]

Get it then. Get it. Who am I to tell you to turn down a good deep. Get it. Or he's got plenty of charging stations. You charge it at your house. You're not going on more than 400 mile trips in that anyways. Because it only fits two people. Four people. Four people.

[Josh]

If you. Okay. If there is a great pickup truck that I should be getting, feel free, jump into the DMs. If you, I don't know, you have a nice pickup truck dealership in the great Southern California area, you let me know. I want to make this a journey. Maybe I'll do a whole video series of me picking up this new personality. I'll buy boots. I'll, you know, I'll change my vote from Kamala to who knows whom.

[Ben]

You know, it's like that episode of. That episode of Curb. It's that episode of Curb. Remember when Jeff gets the shucker's hat and all of a sudden he's a cowboy? That's you.

[Josh]

Yes, that's you.

[Ben]

You're going to go home and your wife's going to only like you in the hat. That's it.

[Josh]

Totally.

[Ben]

Okay, I'm in on. I'm in on the pickup truck. That said, if you're willing to go with something like, why wouldn't you just get like. It's the polar opposite, but like a cute little sporty convertible?

[Josh]

Well.

[Ben]

Cause realistically, you're not gonna use that trunk. You're not gonna use it.

[Josh]

I'm never gonna use the bed.

[Ben]

There's nothing for you. There's nothing for you there. What are you lugging that you can't. That you're comfortable risking blowing away in the wind while you drive?

[Josh]

All my baggage is in here. Yeah, there's no need safely in my brain.

[Ben]

Unless you're just gonna use it to, like, store all of your medications and pharmaceuticals.

[Josh]

Ooh, that'd be good.

[Ben]

You could maybe you climate control it. You turn it into an extra freezer. Yes.

[Josh]

Is there anything in the pickup that I should know about just my Claritin.

[Ben]

Get a. Get a sports car. Something small. I'm sure. I'm sure he can get you a good deal.

[Josh]

I'm down. I mean, that's gonna be. I gotta get a couple kids through college first before I do the sports car. But Bill Burr has a great, great joke about that where he bought a camaro in his 40s. The brand new Camaro souped up and people are like, oh, you have in a midlife crisis. He goes, when was I supposed to buy it? When I worked at Burger King. He's like, I have money now.

[Ben]

Yeah, Now's the only time I can afford it.

[Josh]

Yeah.

[Ben]

Okay. So funny.

[Josh]

Crazy.

[Ben]

True. So true.

[Josh]

So tell me, any goings ons in the Hamptons? Anything we should know about? What's the heartbeat of the Hamps?

[Ben]

Heartbeat of the Hamps is great. Ruby's doing wonderfully. Sleeping through the night, going on beautiful walks. He's a beach bum. We're taking him to the beach, like all the time. Like the best time to go to the beach. I'm sure you already know this. 5:00pm 5:00pm it's wonderful. The sun is no longer so hot. It's beautiful and breezy. He's still taking umbrella so that he's not under the sun. And he sits in his doona and he sleeps. Loves the sounds of the ocean. He sleeps. I get to go in the ocean. It's lightly cold. Josh, you would love it. It's probably like 70. It's perfect.

[Josh]

Love.

[Ben]

It's perfect. I'm cooking every meal, literally like a line cook. I will post what I'm making on for what I'm posting for Fork of July. I am not making for this group. Okay? I'm making that because I can't film and cook a meal for six, but I'm cooking every single meal every single night. Every meal every night. And I'm making some wonderful recipes. I recently, I had never made. Have you made a chicken Bolognese, Josh? If not, I would. Ground chicken is severely underrated. Severely underrated. I think it's great. In a chicken chili. I think it's great. Obviously in a chicken nugget, it's great as the base of maybe a high protein pizza. It's great. It's very versatile. Fantastic. So that's the goings on, cooking a lot. We're having a great time, podcasting, getting some great work done. I'm working out like a beast. I told you. Creatine every day. Five millis. So much. So my t Rex arms did not fully come back. I can keep them straight, but I'm definitely feeling it a little bit over here.

[Josh]

Proud of you.

[Ben]

Which I need to watch. I need to watch. I'm like pumping it out and it's not even like on my off days. I'll just go and do three 12 rep sets. The biceps, just like every day I'm pumping it out a little bit and some days it's a lot. But yeah, I'm feeling good. I'm feeling good.

[Josh]

Absolute beast mode. We love you. We're here for it. I do want to pose selfishly to the audience and just have some tact with your DMs, but feel free to DM me. As I mentioned in the last pod, my young little boy, my, my young shy. He's two years old and he's been through a lot of life transitions in the last month. New brother, new school, new bedroom, all these things. Sharing a bed with his older brother. Not really. He keeps going back to the crib because we can't get it to work. And he's crying, he's refusing to go to bed. He's very upset. I've heard this, that when a child, you know, it's when they become very picky about their food and a lot of times with the way they dress and now with their sleep, it's like the few things as a child that you do have control over become very, very important to you in a moment, especially when you feel like there's huge change and you feel powerless. So we're having a really rough time with them sleeping. And, you know, we've had these amazing sleep trained kids who basically just go to bed and they sleep 10 hours and it's perfect. And we went through the hard couple days to get them there, but my wife brings it up because she's so good at everything as it applies to our kids of like, we're trying to have some grace with him because it is a huge disruption. And so we're trying to not, like, be so rigid with our limits and what we require. But if anyone has any suggestion about how to help a little Tatula 2 year old through this transition, this process, I'd love any suggestions just because we do. We would like him to sleep again, but we also don't want him to feel utterly, you know, forced into it, forced into yet another change when he's just. He's just being a toddler.

[Ben]

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[Josh]

Should we get to your idea for us to pick out what we would order from a restaurant?

[Ben]

Yes. So we were both greatly inspired by. I don't say the great much. Okay, the great Joey commasta for sure. This man is a national treasure and I think he has stumbled upon a series that is just gonna blow him up. He is green screening a menu behind him and he's walking through what he would order at this restaurant. He hasn't seen the menu before. He's walking through it and I thought, who better than to comment on a menu than two fat fatties who love a gorgeous meal? Okay, so Josh, where should we order from? Where should we look? Okay, he did Hillstone, which I loved. I like kind of American fare. It doesn't have to be Cheesecake Factory. That said, that's interesting. Too many pages though. We're looking for a one page menu. And what cuisine, Josh? And what do we call this segment?

[Josh]

I say we do Hillstone too. Let's start it off with the greatest restaurant franchise in the world.

[Ben]

Hillstone. And what do we call this just in case we like it? Joey's idea.

[Josh]

Menu menches. Menu meshuggahs. I'll have what you're having.

[Ben]

I'll have what you're having. I like that. That's good. Better than menu menches. But I respect. But I Respect it. Okay. Which menu are you looking at?

[Josh]

Which one would you like to go with? I was thinking maybe Palm Beach.

[Ben]

Great. Let's do Hillstone. Palm Beach.

[Josh]

Okay. Hillstone, Palm Beach. It's not. Not the. Let's do Hillstone either. Bell Harbor. Where is that?

[Ben]

No, no, no. I've been to that one. They're missing some menu items. Let's do the Hillstone Park Avenue.

[Josh]

Fabulous.

[Ben]

Fab. The classic. The classic.

[Josh]

And the dinner menu, obviously.

[Ben]

Of course. Even though it'd be much easier to get a reservation at lunch.

[Josh]

So true.

[Ben]

Okay. I mean, I already know now for everybody, it's the Hillstone Park Avenue menu. We're gonna read. Should I just read down it?

[Josh]

I don't know. I'd say, like, let's give. So there's basically five primary sweets here. We're dealing with sushi appetizers, salads, entrees, and then there's a steaks and sides.

[Ben]

Yes. Okay. All right. So for the sushi, by far the best item there. I'm not even looking at the menu. Is their Osaka style pressed sushi.

[Josh]

Interesting.

[Ben]

This is. This is king. This is layered rice tuna. Let's see exactly what it is. Sashimi tuna stacked with avocado, spicy tuna, and sushi rice. It's stacked and they give you literally little pieces of seaweed on the side where you're supposed to use them to be able to use your fingers. You dunk them in a little spicy mayonnaise and some soy sauce. Plop them in. Josh, this is fantastic. A plus roll. A plus. If you can call it a roll. I also love the Thai tuna. Josh, you're gonna think that this is a little bit crazy and out there, but it's tuna, avocado, macadamia nuts, and jalapenos.

[Josh]

It's my favorite.

[Ben]

I love it.

[Josh]

It's my favorite roll.

[Ben]

There's something about a nut in a roll. It's so good.

[Josh]

Well, if you think about a spicy tuna roll, what's missing, right?

[Ben]

Something crunchy, something nutty, something macadamia.

[Josh]

Y. Sometimes they do cucumber, but if you want to just level it up slightly, you throw that big fatty piece of nut in there.

[Ben]

I love it. I love a nut. I love it. Because the avocado. The thing is, I do a spicy tuna avocado, but it's too much mush. It's mush on mush. Yeah, you need something to break up the mush. I don't think enough people are using nuts.

[Josh]

I would also go as far to say, and this Is an off menu thing that you can get at least at the Hillstone in Santa Monica. Do they make a California roll like you've never had?

[Ben]

Really?

[Josh]

It is so good. And it's not the way we've come to know California rolls. It is so elevated.

[Ben]

Sure.

[Josh]

There's an elevation that happens.

[Ben]

And you're. You're not cultured. If you're thinking to yourself, you're ordering sushi at a American fair. This is the best sushi. Period.

[Josh]

Period.

[Ben]

So fresh. Better than Japan. It's unbelievable. Literally, they are Japan. Okay. It's owned by the Japanese. Japanese. Is it? No, I completely made that Germans. Oh, is it?

[Josh]

Huh?

[Ben]

Thank God.

[Josh]

Of course. Have you ever seen the efficiency? Bring the spinach artichoke to. To the two chubby juice in the corner. What's a post haste? Once a jubo is asking for more spicy mayo? Is the Jews hungry? What is the spicy mayo?

[Ben]

Oh, my God. I am a Jew hungry for spicy mayo. All right, appetizer. Spinach artichoke dip. A plus. A frickin plus. Gotta do it. It's so unbelievably delicious. It's almost as good. I love. I love a grilled artichoke, Josh. I love a grilled artichoke. I know it's a lot of artichokes. The spinach artichokes have been the grilled artichoke. But I would get them both. I'm also a sucker for deviled eggs. Plop them in. They're like candy. I take deviled eggs to the movies.

[Josh]

Yes, right. You kidding me?

[Ben]

But I get kicked out if I brought in a sheet tray of deviled eggs or oysters. Yum. I'm in salads. Or are you good on the. You have anything else to add on.

[Josh]

The I like spinach spinach artichoke dip. Look, I think if you got two rolls of spinach artichoke dip, an artichoke, you're perfect shape. You could also do a jumbo shrimp cocktails. Gorgeous. And then salad wise. And again, they're like so good.

[Ben]

These salads, Josh, these salads are so good.

[Josh]

The pan Asian noodle salad. And honestly, the grilled chicken salad's been good for, you know, a millennia.

[Ben]

I think the seared ahi tuna salad is like one of the best ever. It's with an almond sauce, a salad of mango, cucumber, sesame miso dressing. It is phenomenal. And yeah, that. Yeah, that. Kale and rotisserie chicken salad. A plus. The yellowtail sashimi salad. This is my problem with hillstone I go there, I order everything because it's all so good. All so good.

[Josh]

And then if you're going to go entrees, I really. This Hawaiian. I mean, obviously there's so many good, different things there. The ribs, they're so famous for. But the Hawaiian ribeye is such a moment. Because you usually think a great ribeye, don't put it in shit. Don't marinate. Overly marinate it. Let the meat speak for itself. In this case, you know what, say aloha. You know, say ma fucking halo, because it's about to be a Hawaiian explosion in your face.

[Ben]

So good. I love that. And honestly, their tuna tartare, I know, it's weird. You're gonna look at it in the entrees and you're gonna say, why is that there? Because it's enormous and it's unbelievable. It's so delicious. They give you fanned avocado, some crostinis. It's fantastic. And don't sleep at all. I know. This is gonna be crazy. Don't even sleep on their salmon. They do everything perfectly. This is the perfect piece of salmon. If you're looking for a piece of salmon, they get the perfect. Just like char on top. It's always cooked to perfection. And they have this coleslaw on the side. Where's the side? It's a Ding's coleslaw. The coleslaw. Holy smokes.

[Josh]

Ding, ding, ding, ding.

[Ben]

Unbelievable. And then so good.

[Josh]

You end it with. You end it with the. The ice cream sundae. Unbelievable.

[Ben]

I'm starving. I'm starving. This is a terrible segment. I'm starving.

[Josh]

That was fun. Should we get to a speak pipe?

[Ben]

We should. And that was. I'll have what he's having.

[Josh]

Mensch's menus. If you want to leave us a question, get some advice to us. Don't give us a. What are you, nuts? They're not great. Go to speakpipe.com goodguys. Keep it brief. Brevity's key. Let's hear from Anonymous.

[F]

Hi, good guys. Love this show. Jewish Canadian calling in all the way from the Great White North. My beautiful Goetia husband and I really disagree on this topic. And it got me thinking because you guys were talking about last week how if you have friends over for a meal, you do not want to be charged a single thing. I totally agree, but where we disagree is if you're having friends over to your country house. As we know, in our beautiful community, a lot of people like to escape the cities on the weekends, be it The Hamptons, or in our case, the Muskokas or the Eastern Townships. So if we're having friends over for the weekend, do we provide all the food and our guests are expected to neither pay nor provide any of the food, or do they just bring the booze? And we do all the food. And as we know, food can be up to hundreds and hundreds of dollars for a long weekend. Whereas you bring a couple good bottles of wine and a couple of brewskis, you're in for about a hundred to $150. Let me know your thoughts. Love you both dearly. Bye.

[Josh]

First of all, you do we think this wonderful, amazing listeners of ours is in the Hoffman family. She sounds like a sibling of Robbie Hoffman.

[Ben]

She did a little. She did.

[Josh]

And as we know, the great Robbie Hoffman, who's absolutely crushing it right now and is so deserved. And by the way, I feel like we were. We were fans of hers before she.

[Ben]

Got hot, hot, hot. Totally. Maybe we catapulted her career.

[Josh]

You're welcome. As we know many of her lovely sisters, because she's one of 10 live in Canada. Just, I don't know, it made me really excited. Maybe it was her sister Yehudis.

[Ben]

It's possible. It's totally possible, Josh. What I will say is don't entertain if you're cheap.

[Josh]

I'm going to fight you hard on this. So you can't.

[Ben]

You can't fight me hard on it. If you go out to. Go out to dinner. If you want to split a meal, go out to dinner. Somebody's coming to my house for. We can't charge them. You can't charge them, Josh, it's not about charging them.

[Josh]

What, what is the expectation if you were. If you're going to come over to someone's house and completely like. And bring nothing, you're bringing nothing.

[Ben]

Well, you shouldn't. You should be a good guess, but you can't expect it. You should be coming to my house and you should be bringing whatever you felt was appropriate. A bottle of wine, a bottle of this, that, etc. If you want to be very proactive and say, hey, I'm going to order us in dinner tonight. What do you want? No problem. If you want to bring a rack of ribs because you want us to cook it, no problem. But if you're invited to my house for the weekend, the bare minimum is that I feed you in the house. That's my opinion.

[Josh]

I agree. I agree with you that there is an expectation of you to feed them. But if you let me just Say if you go to someone's house for a weekend and you're not offering up, not only, not only do you not bring, you need to bring a gift and offer to pay for at least one meal. You're a schnurrer, of course, you're a schnorer. Like, you should be ashamed of yourself, of course.

[Ben]

But as a host, you need to be comfortable with getting nothing. That's all. I completely agree with you that if you are showing up to somebody's house for the weekend and offering nothing, you're a very bad guest and you probably won't be invited again.

[Josh]

And it's above and beyond. Like, you need to factor in these things where it's like, okay, it's the weekend, how much, like, how much are they gonna spend food? Like, 500.

[Ben]

Totally.

[Josh]

Depending how many people. 500 to a thousand bucks for the weekend of food and alcohol.

[Ben]

Like, thousand percent.

[Josh]

So you should be saying, like, how can I offset a third of that cost or half.

[Ben]

Correct. All that I'm saying is that the host cannot demand it. Like, that's tacky in my opinion.

[Josh]

You're right.

[Ben]

Just. But be a good guest, offer 100%. And by the way, as the host, you can accept it. You don't have to be like holier than thou. No, it's fine. It's fine. If they offer, they probably mean it. You can accept the offer and there's.

[Josh]

Ways in which to do it efficiently and elegantly. Order gold belly a week before and have a beautiful bagel and spread. Come for Saturday morning, Sunday morning with no vegan cream cheese, the whole thing. They will be. They'll be talking about you to their French. You know what the Soffers did? You know what they had sent to my home? I thought it was an Amazon package, but it reeked, turned dark.

[Ben]

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[Josh]

Next one's from Alicia.

[Anonymous]

Hi good guys, I just had a question. It may be a little tmi, but I wondered what you guys think of when guys do the one pump chop. Because I was talking to this guy, it was like around three months and then I feel like toward the end. So we were kind of like a situationship I guess you'd call it. But obviously I had feelings for him and I feel like I thought he had feelings for me too. It was going well. And then I feel like toward the end of us hooking up, it was two times. I feel like just say it was one pump. And that's why I call it the one pump jump.

[Ben]

So I just wonder, what are you.

[Anonymous]

Talking about from your guys's perspective? Do guys like get so embarrassed that, you know, they just want to end it and kind of, you know, he didn't tell me really?

[Ben]

Why?

[Anonymous]

I feel like he just kind of ghosted when I told him I had feelings. So I just wondered if it was because of that. Because I feel like it was going well until that happens. So I just wonder.

[Ben]

Is this English? Is this English?

[Josh]

It sounds like she was dating a guy. They hooked up twice. He completed way too quickly and was so embarrassed that he called things off.

[Ben]

Got it. One pump chump is the term that she used?

[Josh]

Yes.

[Ben]

I've never heard that before. Never. Okay. All right. So what's her question? Like, if she's calling him a one pump chump, obviously she embarrassed him and that's why he left. Like, he's embarrassed. You just called him A1. You made up a gross term.

[Josh]

I think she's hurt because she told him. Despite that, she told him that she had feelings and wanted to keep seeing him, and he ghosted her. So she's calling him that to us.

[Ben]

Did she say, like, despite you being a one part chump, I still love you?

[Josh]

I don't think so.

[Ben]

Despite you being a loser, I still want to be with you. Ghosting's never nice. I'll say that. You should always tie a ribbon and say your piece.

[Josh]

But speak more to the one pump from a male's perspective. Like, would you be embarrassed? How would you handle it?

[Ben]

I have no idea. Honestly, I think that it would be the highest form of flattery. Right. I don't know why it would be embarrassing. It's embarrassing to think she's so beautiful. Like, what? What is it? Or, like, I don't know. Like, is there any other reason why you would be so quick? No. Unless, like, you're not doing any handiwork. Mom, turn this off.

[Josh]

You're just beta as fuck, I guess.

[Ben]

No, I'm kidding. You could be. But, like, I think.

[Josh]

I think Josh and I just can't relate. You know what I'm saying? Like.

[Ben]

We'Re. We're 10 pump jobs. Yeah.

[Josh]

Min minimum.

[Ben]

Min 10, bro. What do you think?

[Josh]

Here's my thoughts on this from when I was out there dating and absolutely painting the town red. This is my thought. Hooking up with someone for the first time is always. There's. It's going to be awkward and new and it's never going to be like, the 20th time you do it and you get into a great groove and it's just like, fun and you know each other and you're more comfortable. And from the male's perspective, I can only speak to my own. Like, there is performance anxiety. Right. And so I think Part of the reason why I had more successful endeavors was because I made my piece with the idea like, this first time. Like, it's either gonna be too quick, too long, too awkward, or too, like, there's something gonna be not right about this. But here's the good news. I'm gonna be ready to do it again in, like, 20 minutes. So let's just not judge this. Have fun. Everyone's gonna, like, we're getting to know each other. This is gonna be hopefully, you know, a great learning experience about what are each other's needs, what we like, what we maybe like less, and just kind of like, we're gonna get to know each other through this experience, and we can't know each other right away perfectly. And that's why. Knock wit. I've never. I haven't had a lot of these experiences because I learned early on that, like, if I'm gonna be judged on this first attempt, I lose.

[Ben]

God. Good time, Josh. Excuse me. All aboard. Dude.

[Josh]

Dude.

[Ben]

I know we just went, but ready to go again?

[Josh]

Yeah, dude. I'd be like. And then I'm like, I can't knock your socks off this first time. But what I can give you that the rest might not be able to is a quick recharge, is.

[Ben]

I'm. I'm ready. I'm ready, Freddie. Yeah, Ready Freddie.

[E]

I think also, like, when this happens, there's, like, the guy and the girl both have a really unique opportunity. One for the guy to say something, like, say something cool or say something funny that's not gonna make it weird.

[Josh]

Yes.

[E]

And then for the girl to respond with something cool or something funny that I think speaks more to her of, like, how she's able to handle the situation to just, like, make it a thing. So, like, for him, I don't know if, like, he tried to say something and she made it weird and he was just like, all right, yeah, fuck this. This is bad. Or like, you know what I mean? Versus if she, like, said something funny or cute or whatever, and it was just like, oh, all right. She's actually, like, really cool. I'll be back. We'll try this again for sure.

[Ben]

She probably called him a one pump jump and he left. That's. It's very. It's easy. Like, if you're willing to tell us that over a speak pipe, like, I'm. I. I think she must have jokingly said, oh, you're a one pump jump. And he's like, what the fuck is that? I'm out. Yeah. Did you make that up?

[Josh]

I'm a leave right now.

[Ben]

How about that one?

[Josh]

Pump jump. Oh, man. Yeah. I'm trying to think of if, like, there were any. Yeah. I mean, inevitably, when you hook up with people and if you, you know, go through a time where you're, like, kind of hooking up with a couple of different people, it's. I think you learn a lot. You learn a lot about intimacy and making people. There is nothing like feeling comfortable with another person and being able. Because we walk around so uptight, and then we take our clothes off, which is, like, the scariest thing you can do in front of another person and just hope that they don't laugh or hope that they don't go, like, what is that scar? Why do you have that skin there? What's going on there? And when someone just totally takes you in and goes, like, yeah, dude, I'm in. This is awesome. You go like, oh, thank God.

[Ben]

Totally. Right? And by the way. And by the way, if somebody takes off their shirt and you say, what is that scar? Please don't. They'll tell you what the scar is when they want to. Okay. You don't need to ask. Don't nitpick somebody's body ever. Ever. Unless it's us. And, like, we're joking about fatties.

[Josh]

Fair. Totally fair. This next one's from Anonymous.

[D]

Hi, Josh and Ben. Oh, wow, you guys really do mean. Brevity is key because this can only be 90 seconds. Okay, well, first, I just wanted to start off and say that I'm a Gen Z and not Jewish. So I know it's gonna be a shocker for both of you, but my question is, because you guys answered a couple episodes back, this girl's question, what credit card should she get? Which I loved. So my question is, what are your guys's thoughts on credit cards? Like, initial thoughts, because they can kind of be, like, a touchy subject. Like, is it something to take offensively? Like, I don't know. Like, my parents have been married for 20 years. Like, they've known each other since they were little, so they, like, obviously don't have a prenup or anything. So, like, their views are, like, very different on them. But I'm also just a little bit confused by it because I'm also a little. I'm just younger, so, like, none of my friends have any assets or anything. Like, anything that they have is, like, their families. And so is there, like, different types of prenups? Because, like, I don't want to take anything from my partner's family. Like, But I do think that, like, what he makes and I make. Like, I would like to share that, but, like, I don't want to take anything from his family or anything that his family has given him or, like anything that my family's given me. Like, it cannot be separated. I don't know. Like, that just. Just doesn't make any sense. Like, why would you get married to someone and then all of a sudden have everything, like, accessible to you that, like, visit their families? That doesn't make sense. Anyway, okay, bye. Thank you.

[Ben]

Was she saying, first of all, you sound lovely and rich. Was she saying pre nub?

[Josh]

Yeah.

[Ben]

Okay. Sweet, sweet girl. It's pre nup. Like nuptials with a P. It's not pre nub. Like, I don't even know what a nub. What that would be. But yes, you can get. A prenup is just a legal document pertaining to the financials of a husband and a wife. You can come up with any. You can pay a lawyer any amount of money, right, Josh? To come up with anything you want. So if you don't want to have a formal prenup, but you want to just make sure that you and your husband's rubies from. From family estates are protected, you can do that. Right? And I don't think that anybody would ever take offense to protecting family. At least I would in the assets.

[Josh]

Josh, I think that. Sorry. I was trying to look up some prenup statistics, but I have heard some recently, something to the effect of like how if you have a prenup, you're actually way more likely to stay together than people who don't.

[Ben]

Interesting.

[Josh]

There could be nothing less sexy and romantic about a prenup, but it is incredibly grown up and you're basically like, facing the worst case scenario from Jump street and getting, like, very clear. It's also revealing of what you're. Because it's not until your feet are to the fire that you would see someone and what they really care about. So if the person you're so obsessed with is like, I love you so much, I don't need a thing except everything, you'd be like, huh, okay, good to know. So my experience was I support my mom. And so when Paige and I were getting married, I just had to make sure that my mom was taken care of because I knew that if one day we got divorced, I could sleep on a couch, but my 80 year old mother could not. So I and Paige knew this. Like, I had one meeting with a lawyer once who basically said, anything you made before the marriage is yours. And that could protect your mom. And everything you make going forward would be, you know, shared community property, per California law, between you and your wife. I'm like, 50, 50. Me and my wife. She's like, yep. I said, beautiful.

[Ben]

Done.

[Josh]

Like, So I didn't get one because I knew that I had a little bit of scratch save that could go to my mom in the God forbids. And anything going forward should be 50, 50 between my wife and I. So. So, yeah. But I think, you know, the thing with prenups, though, which she should know, is that, you know, if you do it the right way or the only way. Both the husband and the wife need separate lawyers. They both need to be represented because they both need to have someone looking out for their interest in the negotiation and what they inevitably sign. Because you wouldn't want one partner to be like, well, we shared a lawyer, and they kind of push me in a way.

[Ben]

Yeah, you can't share a lawyer. We also don't have one. We met too young. Like, I think that this is typically. It's interesting. She's talking. That's why I said she must be very wealthy. She's Gen Z. And talking only about family. Each other's family money. Right. So to me, I never understood why family money would be considered communal property. That doesn't make sense to me at all. Like, that should just be rewritten. That if you, Josh, have. Or Paige has a trust fund that was given to her at birth by her great grandfather, that all of a sudden, because she married you 30 years later, that you're entitled to. Half of that is, like. Is weird to me. I don't know if I'm unique in that, but that's strange.

[Josh]

No, you're right.

[Ben]

Otherwise, like, yeah, whatever you make together, you're a unit. Like, that's. I mean, maybe that's just the New York state law and the California state law talking. But 50, 50, you're a unit. Otherwise, don't get married. It's very easy. You don't have to. You don't have to get married. You don't have to be.

[Josh]

But if you do get married and you don't have a prenup, stick around for 10 years, and then you get alimony for life if you ever break up.

[Ben]

Party.

[Josh]

Let's go. Gimme, gimme, gimme, gimme, gimme. And then never remarry because you lose the alimony. So don't be an idiot.

[Ben]

There's so many people, just so many people just cheating that system.

[Josh]

God, I know, it's shitty.

[Ben]

Oh, my God. Oh, my God.

[Josh]

Do you have a Woody, Nuts?

[Ben]

Oh, you go first.

[Josh]

Our Woody and it's Nuts. Moment of the week are gripes with people, places and things, both big and small, whatever is sticking in your craw. Mine is called Crime Con. There's conventions for crime.

[Ben]

That's right.

[Josh]

It's something I'm learning. It's new. Yeah, my buddy was telling me about it. And it's cool because there's obviously, like, crime podcasts, crime books and stuff like this that people love. But then you could also just go to, like, the Casey Anthony booth, and I think that's odd that you'd want her autograph.

[Ben]

So strange.

[Josh]

People that have been involved in crimes, people that have been exonerated of crimes. Maybe people who've done some time. CrimeCon, baby. There's a kink for everyone. What are you, nuts?

[Ben]

What are you, nuts? Completely nuts. You know what else is nuts, Josh?

[Josh]

Tell me.

[Ben]

We use something to record this podcast called a Rodecaster.

[Josh]

Hey, sure. Shout out Rode.

[Ben]

This is the podcast equipment. This is it. Everybody you know who has a podcast, from small podcasts like Joe Rogan to big podcasts like the good guys, they all use road. Ok. I recorded the ads a couple of weeks ago, not thinking anything of it. What are you, nuts? There's a monster setting on the road, Josh. I sent them to you so you could listen to them. Literally distorted my voice like Dracula. Yes. We should play it. We should play it.

[Josh]

You keep talking, I'm gonna find it.

[Ben]

Like a complete. What are you nuts? Because you don't think to test these things and there isn't a button to undo monster. So you're just completely screwed. Go like a minute in a minute in. Listen to this. Ready? This is rock items once. Come and keep items for as long as the like. Memberships start at $45 per month.

[Josh]

The most popular is the terrifying like.

[Ben]

What are you nuts? That this is a setting on the Roadcaster. Why? Who is thinking? I'm going to buy this expensive equipment and record a whole podcast in monster voice. What are you, nuts?

[Josh]

The setting should be called Ruin Olivia's life.

[Ben]

What a disaster. You know what else is a disaster, Josh? Not giving this podcast five stars. That's a disaster. What are you, nuts? Listen to us. Wherever you get your podcasts, watch us on YouTube, share our clips, Instagram and TikTok Mondays and Thursdays. Of course, folks, we will see you next time.

[Josh]

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[Ben]

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