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Jonathan Fields
So all too often a plan is really just a really organized way of not starting anything yet. We treat the plan as proof that we're serious. Most of the time, it's the thing standing between us and the only part that was ever going to matter, which is just starting. We are almost all of us, far better at planning our lives than at living them. And at the halfway mark of a year, that gap is about to get very visible. So here's where we're going. Today. I'm going to tell you how I finally got something that I love back into my life. And the deeply unglamorous thing that actually made it stick. I'm going to make the case for why a move beats a plan every single time. And why the middle of the year of all moments, is secretly the best time to make one. And then you and I, we're going to make a move together before this episode is even over. Not plan it, but actually make it. And one quick thing, especially if you're new here, this is actually part two of a special two part summer Reset series. And last time in part one, we explored a very different way to take an honest look, to take stock at the halfway mark of the year and really name the one part of your life that's been running low. And it was a very different way of thinking about how the first half of the year might unfold. And today we do the moving part. It's action time. So if you've caught part one, this is where the payoff comes. If you didn't, you can start right here and lose nothing and maybe circle back to part one after this for a little bit of fuller context. So excited to share this one with you. I'm Jonathan Fields and this is Good Life Project. And we'll get right into it right after this short break. Good Life Project is sponsored by Blue Lizard Australian Sun Care. So I spend a lot of time outside. I'm literally hiking on the trail four days a week for hours. 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Because I had already proven that enthusiasm does not survive a busy season. At least not for me and for most people I know. And I was in the middle of an extremely, extremely abundant season. Now here's what I actually did about it. For a while, the artist and maker Jones in me has been finding an outlet in something called relief printing, or more specifically this thing called woodblock printing. It's kind of like you make a design and then literally hand carve it into wood and then you use that as the printing plate to press prints off of it. It's just, it's so analog and so physical and so cool. I absolutely suck at it right now, but I also absolutely love it. And I had this built in rhythm that I didn't really have to think about. I signed up for a class. I'd been doing it alongside someone I love and it was honestly one of my favorite things in the world. The two of us just kind of making a mess on a Wednesday morning together. And when you're doing something that you genuinely enjoy with someone you genuinely enjoy being around, the showing up, it just, it kind of takes care of itself, right? You both just turn up because the other one's there and you get to do something kind of cool and you do it together. And that's what I was doing. And then life happened as it does. That easy shared rhythm was gone and the showing up was suddenly entirely mine to carry alone. Just me and my good intentions alone in a room. And we have long established on this very show in some detail that my good intentions have roughly the staying power of a gym membership purchased on September 2nd. They're sincere, they're heartfelt, and they're gone by the End of the month, it just becomes so easy to rationalize doing a thousand other things that seem to be just much more important, at least in the moment. So this time I caught myself doing this. And here's what I. A person who literally studies spending your time well for a living, instinctively reach for first, a plan. And I am very, very good at plans. I could plan the triumphant return of making things with my hands so thoroughly, with phases and a supply list and a mood board and a tentative timeline for becoming the kind of person who makes things that I would never, not once, actually carve a single block. The plan would be beautiful. The plan would be maybe even color coded. The plan would sit there fully admired, while I made absolutely nothing with my hands. So at some point, I stopped planning the comeback, and instead I did three small, distinctly unglamorous things. First, I set up a maker space. And I want to be honest about how humble this is. It's a corner, a table, a little room around it. It's actually a pretty broken down old single car garage that's so tiny and slanty you can't even park a car in it anymore. A place where the work could live. And crucially, I set it up so that. So that I never again had to spend the first 40 minutes just getting ready before I could actually begin. What I've learned is that the setup tax is where most of my making used to go to die. So the second thing I did, I bought my own supplies. The tools, the blocks, the inks. And then I did the part that actually mattered, which was put them out in reach ready, so that the distance between wanting to make something and making something went from about 40 minutes of digging through closets and drawers to about 4ft and 4 seconds. And I've actually, interestingly enough, I've found the same thing with musical instruments. I play guitar really badly. Again, I love to play guitar. I've actually made a guitar. But when my guitar is in a case in its closet, I will never play guitar. If I hang it on the rack of my wall, I. I'll pick it up all the time and just play. Similar concept. So let's talk about that third thing that I did, the one that really carried it. I re enrolled in class. I signed up for a new season of printing class, A standing time on the calendar in a specific building with other actual humans in the room, and a start date. And I had already paid for this, which means somebody would notice if I didn't show up, which I'll admit is one of the single most reliable productivity systems ever invented. And also slightly humiliating. And the humiliation is precisely what makes it work. When you don't show up and you're like, I made a commitment and I'm not honoring it. And you know it and other people know it. Maybe that's just me. Here's what surprised me. Once all of this was in place, I didn't have to talk myself into it anymore. That was the whole difference right there. There was no more nightly debate about whether tonight was finally the night I'd get back to making things with my hands. The table was there, the tools were out. You know, the day would come and I would go, because that was just when I went to class. And then I would have it available to me in my sort of like, rundown garage maker space anytime I wanted to just open the door and walk into it. The decision had been made once in advance, and then it stopped being a decision at all. And it turns out that when you're not spending all your energy deciding, you actually have some leftover for the actual doing. So I started looking forward to it. I got a little better at it also, slowly, the way you only ever get better at the things that you actually do and not the things you, quote, plan to do. And the part of me that had felt kind of flat for a good stretch of that year, it started without any announcement, really, to come back to life. None of that came from wanting it more. All of it came from building a place for the wanting to land. And I'll tell you, there's a specific kind of joy in pulling a print and seeing the thing that you carved show up on the paper a little bit off a lot. Imperfect. Entirely yours. That no amount of crossing things off a list in a plan has ever once given me. And I kind of forgotten that feeling existed. I planned for a while to someday go looking for it again. What actually brought it back was a designated day, a table, and a class that I'd already paid for. And here's the thing that I want you to notice, because it's the whole episode hiding inside a story about woodblock printing. Not one of those three things is a plan. A plan is, I'm going to make more things this year. These are something else that I'm talking about. A place where the work actually lives. Tools already out. A standing appointment with a start date and witnesses. They aren't intentions, they're moves. And the making came back genuinely. It's part of my life again, in a way that hasn't been in Quite a while. And it didn't come back because I finally just wanted it badly enough or planned around it. That's the part I really want to land here. I had wanted it badly the entire time. I know this is so important to me. Wanting it was never the missing piece. It came back because I stopped relying on the wanting and I built a shape the making could live inside. Even on the days the wanting didn't show up. And what I've been missing, it wasn't willpower, it was architecture. And it turns out that's the actual secret of the second half of a year, the second half of almost every anything. So let me give you the idea underneath it, because once you have it, you'll start seeing it everywhere. There's a word for the thing I kept reaching for, a word for the thing that actually worked. And getting the difference between them is the most useful thing that I can hand you today. The thing I kept reaching for is a plan. The thing that worked is a move. A plan is a process about the future. It lives in your head. It's about later. And it depends secretly on a future version of you showing up more rested, more motivated, and less busy than you are right now. A move, on the other hand, is an action in the present. It lives out in the world. It's about today. And it needs exactly one thing present you once. Here's the trouble with the promise. Every plan you have ever made was a promise made by a person who doesn't have to keep it. Let me repeat that. Every plan you have ever made was a promise made by a person who doesn't have to keep it. Was that even mean? So the you who plans on Sunday night is not actually the you who has to execute that on a Thursday morning or next week or next month. And those two people, if we're really honest, have a famously strained working relationship. The you that makes the plan now and the future you that actually has to implement it right Sunday plan making. You is an idealist with a clean calendar and a glass of wine and maybe not nearly as much stress or complexity in your life as you really do have, or you will have. Right? Thursday you, or next week you or next month you. It's the one who actually has to live inside Sunday you's confident little decisions. You're like, the move skips that whole problem. It doesn't ask future you for anything. It happens now while you're the one in the room. And to be fair, I'm not telling you plans are useless. A plan is A perfectly good thing to have once you're already moving the way that a map is genuinely a lot more useful once you've actually left the house. I have built a lot of plans. I built entire processes around how to develop and build plans, but they have their place. The trouble is, when a map becomes a substitute for leaving the house. We draw the map, we admire the map. You know, we refine the map, we tell our friends about the map, and. And we never once put our shoes on. The plan becomes a very sophisticated way of standing still while we feel like we're getting somewhere. And if you were with me last time, this is exactly where the two halves of the year meet. The last episode, the whole job was just to look, to really get honest and see. Okay, where do we want to focus right now? To put down this scorecard and. And take honest stock and name one part of your life that had been running low while you weren't watching in the first half of the year. That was the looking part, right? You do not act on what you named by designing a strategy for it. You act on it with one move. And today, today is the moving part. And, you know, I suspect you already know the difference in your own body, even if you've never put these two words to it. Think of something that you've been genuinely kind of meaning to do, something that's been sitting on your list for months, maybe years. Notice that you almost certainly have a plan for it. I bet you do. A pretty good one, even. What you don't have very likely is a move. You know what you do. You just never specified the next small physical thing that you do and when and where. And that gap between the plan that you have and the move that you don't is where most of our undone lives live. I'm going to say that one more time. The gap between the plan you have and the move you don't is where most of our undone lives live. A plan is a promise about a future you don't control. A move is a thing you do today, now. And today is the only place anything has ever actually changed. So let's maybe sit with why plans fail. Because the reason is not the one that you've been told. And the reason lets you off a hook that you probably been hanging on for years. And we'll be right back after a word from our sponsors. 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The future is just another ordinary, slightly chaotic day and we keep mailing it our hardest assignments as if it'll have more space than today does. It won't. It never does. The best day to begin almost anything was never going to be some pristine future Monday or Tuesday or Wednesday. It was always going to be a slightly inconvenient today. So we talked last time about how badly we predict the future, the way we consistently underestimate what things will take, even when we have a lifetime of evidence that we always underestimate. A plan is built entirely out of those predictions. So it inherits every bit of their optimism and not one bit of their accuracy. You're not failing the plan. The plan was a fantasy in a spreadsheet and you're a person on any given Monday. So a move, it has none of that fragility because it doesn't predict anything. It doesn't need tomorrow to cooperate. It just changes your actual state right now by a little bit. And it has a second property that genuinely surprises most people. A move changes who you are faster than any amount of deciding ever will. We have this backwards, right? We think that we have to become a maker or become a runner or become a writer, and then we'll do the thing. It actually runs the other way. You make one ugly print, you write one bad line, you walk around your block and you discover you've become, without ever announcing it to yourself, a person who makes things and does things and starts to inhabit the identity. The identity, though it doesn't come first and produce the action, the action comes first and hands you the identity without ceremony, almost as an afterthought. You cannot think your way into a new way of living. You can only act your way into it one small move at a time. You see it everywhere once you start looking. Nobody decides to become a runner and then becomes one through the sheer power of decision. They go for one slow, undignified shuffle around the block, and then another and another. And somewhere in there, with no ceremony or celebration at all, they catch themselves saying the words, you know, when somebody asks them at a coffee shop, I'm a runner. And kind of being faintly surprised that it's true. Same with the person who writes. Same with the person who finally starts calling their friends back. Same with the parent who becomes genuinely present in their kids lives. None of them decided their way there. Every one of them moved their way there one unremarkable rep at a time. And unlike a plan, a move compounds a plan. Just sits there as a static promise kind of losing value by the day. Like a treadmill becoming a place to hang clothes. Not that I've ever hung clothes on a treadmill. Okay, maybe I have a move you actually made. It changes the conditions for the next move, right? So my work table, now my maker table, is set up so the second print is easier than the first and the tenth is easier than the second. Moves build the ramp they roll down. Which is why the first rep is both the hardest one you'll ever do and the most important, right? You're not only doing the thing that one time, you're lowering the price of every single time that you'll do it after. The first sentence is often agony. The 200 is just another sentence, but the only road to the 200th, it runs straight through the first. And there is no plan clever enough to skip that step on your own behalf. Somebody still has to write the bad first sentence. And that somebody is always not future you on a perfect day, but present you today in the here and now. And here's why. The middle of the year, of all the unglamorous moments, is actually a great time to make a move. There's a body of research from Katie Milkman, who's actually been a guest on this show, along with her colleagues Heng Chin Jai and Jason Reese, on something they call the Fresh start effect. What they found is that we are measurably more willing to begin something at what they call a temporal landmark. A new month, a birthday, the start of a season, the first of a year. These moments draw a clean line between the old self who didn't and a new self who just might. And we get a real usable burst of motivation from standing on that line. Now, here's the trap that we've built around that, though. We've been trained to treat exactly one of those landmarks, January 1, as the official starting line for our lives and all that we want to change and to happen in our lives and to treat the entire rest of the year as the long sigh between resolutions. And if you're only allowed to begin in the first week of January and you miss it, you kind of just wait, you know, like, oh, I guess I missed my window. It'll be next year's thing. But the midpoint of a year is one of the most powerful fresh start landmarks there is, and almost nobody uses it. So you are not behind. Let me say that again. You are not behind. You're standing on a starting line that most people just walk straight past because they're saving themselves for a January that is six months away. And, honestly, just way overrated. Think about how weird that is. We let one arbitrary day on the calendar hold the entire monopoly on beginning, and then we spend the other 364 days feeling either ahead of it or behind it. But there's nothing magic about January 1st except that we all agreed to treat it as magic. You know, any given day in July works exactly as well, especially because the midpoint of a year actually does mark something important. And the start of next month works. Your next birthday works. This episode, if you want it to, it works. The line is whenever you decide to draw it, and you can draw it today, right? You don't need more discipline. You need a smaller starting line. And you happen right now to be standing on one. Okay, so this is the part you can actually use. Let's get practical, right? Let's get concrete and maybe a little bit bossy about it. What makes a move, an actual move you want to understand? Like, what is this move thing, right? So what makes a move a move and just not a plan? Wearing a move's clothes. In my experience, and in some interesting, compelling research, the good ones share a handful of traits. So here are those traits. You won't need every one for every move, but the more of them that you have for any given move I found, the more it tends to survive a bad week. And the bad weeks are often the whole test. So, first element of a move, it's small enough to be unskippable. The single most common reason a move dies is that it was secretly too big from the start. So the fix is to make it almost insultingly small. So not work out, but just put on your workout shoes. Not write the book, open the document and write one bad sentence. Not rebuild my social life, but send a single text. The test is simple. It has to be so small that the I'm too tired or too busy or too stressed excuse does not apply. Because you could do it on your worst day. Mid, cold, low on sleep with a toddler attached to your leg. If you couldn't do it on your worst day, it isn't a move yet, it's a plan, kind of in smaller font. And I know how that lands. Insultingly small feels kind of like cheating, right? Like it couldn't possibly count for anything. But the small move was never meant to be the final destination. It's the doorway. Almost nobody puts on the shoes and then just stands there. You put on the shoes and most days you find yourself going for the walk. And the days you don't, well, you still put on the shoes. And that counts because you stayed a person who shows up. The small version's only job is to be impossible to skip. Impressive is not on its job description. So, second element of a move, it's concrete. A when, a where, and a what. This is where the research really earns its key. Peter Golwitzer, a psychologist who Studied follow through for decades, found that the biggest predictor of whether people actually do the thing, it isn't how motivated they feel, it's whether they decided in advance exactly when and where they do it. He calls it implementation intention, which is kind of a very serious fancy name for a very simple sentence. When this happens, I will do that there. After I pour my morning coffee, I will write one sentence at the kitchen table. The vague version. I'll write more. It just loses the specific version every single time and by a margin that would embarrass the vague version if it ever bothered to show up and find out. So my woodblock printing class is an implementation intention with a parking lot outside, which also helps, you know. So every Monday now at 5:30 in the evening in that building, that is how I frame it. I never have to decide. The deciding is already done, which means there's nothing left to talk myself out of. And notice what spares you, because it's bigger than it sounds. Every time the move is vague. You have to decide fresh every single day whether and when to do it. And deciding is expensive. It burns the very energy that you needed for the thing itself. A move with a fixed when and where is pre decided. So you show up with your whole tank still full. You're not spending your willpower getting to the desk, you're spending it on the work. Once you're sitting there. Third element of a move. It's repeatable and pretty much in the same form and shape. A move that you have to reinvent every time often isn't really a move. It's a fresh negotiation, which with yourself. And you'll probably lose about half of those negotiations. At least I do. Usually the important ones, especially the power, is often in the sameness, the repeatability. Same small thing, same time, same place. Boring is not a bug here. Boring is the entire point. Boring is what survives a bad week. That brings us to the fourth element of a movement. It's anchored. So you hang the move on something that you already do, that's already solid in your day, an existing routine or a fixed point. So it borrows that thing's kind of repeatability and stability instead of needing its own after the coffee, you do the thing. Before the school run, you do the thing. Like Wednesday morning at 4, you do the thing. You're not trying to erect a new pillar in your life, you're hanging one small hook on a wall that's already standing. And the best anchors are the things that you already do. Without fail, you already pour the Coffee? You already brush your teeth, I hope you already brush your teeth. You already drop into the car seat and sigh. You know, like bolt the new small thing to one of those. And it gets to ride on a routine that's already unbreakable. Instead of trying to build a brand new one from nothing in the middle of an already full hectic, stressed out, busy, complicated life. The fifth potential element of a move. It's aimed at the bucket that you named. Right? If you were here in our last episode, one of the things I asked you to do was name the part of your life that's actually running low. And again, you can go back after this and do that. That's fine. You don't have to have done it before listening or watching. We point the move straight at that gap. If it's your connection bucket, the move is a standing text to one specific person, not a fuzzy intention to be a quote better friend. If it's your mind and body in your vitality bucket, it's the shoes on the door or shoes by the door tonight, not a 12 month gym contract that you'll be funding out of guilt by two months in. Don't aim the move at the bucket that's already full. Aim it at the leakiest one or the lowest one. And if you missed last time, here's a 30 second verse and no homework required. There are three parts of a life that a scorecard tends to miss completely. Your mind and body, we call that your vitality bucket. Your relationships, and we call that your connection bucket. And the sense that what you do actually matters, we call it your contribution bucket. One of the three is usually running lower than the others. And here's the cool part. It's usually not the one that you've been pouring all your attention into. That low one, the one you've been ignoring is exactly where the move belongs. And that brings us to the sixth potential element of a move. This one's a little bit of a bonus. Worth hunting for the best moves. Often they pay into two good life buckets at once, not just one. So my woodblock printing, it fills my vitality bucket. My mind and body clears my head like almost nothing else. And it fills my sense of contribution. My contribution bucket. Because I'm making a real thing that matters to me, that I can touch and feel and share and maybe even at some point inspire joy in others when they interact with it, right? So I call those moves sort of like a two bucket refill. If you can find a single move that pays into two parts of Your life at the same time. Especially ones that are running kind of low. It's worth twice the effort to protect because you're getting two refills, two repairs for one rep. A walk with a friend is often two buckets. Your vitality bucket. Your moving your mind and body and your connection bucket in a single outing. Cooking a real dinner with someone you love. Probably two buckets too. Connection and contribution and creativity. Coaching your kid's team on a good day. All three at once. Potentially right. Connection, contribution, vitality. You don't have to find one of these. The plain single bucket moves are more than good enough. But if a two for one happens to be sitting there available. Take it. It's the most efficient way to refill that you'll ever make. And now 7.7th element of a strong move. Scaffold it from the outside. This is the one that I learned the hard way over the years and was reminded of this year. Once that easy kind of shared rhythm with somebody else was no longer there. The structure had to come from somewhere. And the somewhere turned out to be me and a class. So I built it on purpose. The class is structured that I can't easily wriggle out of because other people are in the room. I've committed to it. I've made statements. I said I'm doing it and I already paid for it. So wherever you can put your move, somewhere that doesn't run on your own. Willpower. A class, a standing date. A person who's expecting you. A small deposit you'd hate to waste because willpower is a terrible building material. It's strong on the afternoon you buy and it is gone by the next morning. So outsource the structure to almost anything more reliable than your own good intentions, which is to say almost anything. Anything at all. Tell a friend you'll text them the second it's done so that somebody's expecting the text. You know, put real money down on the class, kind of money you'd be annoyed to waste. Schedule. Schedule the standing call so that bailing means letting someone down, actual human being, and not just yourself. Because let's be honest with each other. We let ourselves down constantly and have gotten very, unfortunately, comfortable with it. And I'm raising my own hand here. The more of the move that you can move out of your own head and into the world where other people and your own calendar can hold it for you. The more of it survives, the weak that tries to take it from you. So a plan asks you who you're going to be next year a move asks what you'll do in the next few minutes. Only one of those questions has ever actually changed a life. Now, before we wrap this, I think I also need to talk about the traps. And we'll be right back after a word from our sponsors. GoodLife Project is sponsored by Wild Alaskan Company so you know, the older I get, the less tolerance I have for things I don't actually deliver. And that includes food I used to grab, kind of whatever looked good at the grocery store. Fish in a plastic wrapper. No real idea where it came from, who caught it, or how long it had been just kind of sitting there. And you could taste that in it. There's a flatness to fish that has been handled too many times by the time it reaches you. 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And I may just be a little bit obsessed with Hero noodles. And I love that the different offerings are they range from only like 0 to 5 grams of net carbs, 11 to 32 grams of fiber, which is amazing, and some even give you up to 19 grams of protein. I'll admit I didn't expect to love their limited drops as much as I do. The hero croissant has 2 grams of net carbs, the pan au chocolat has 3, and they don't last long in our house. And the texture is moist and yummy. No sacrificing what actually tastes good. Just food that meets you where your summer already is. So go to Hero Co that's H E R O CO and use the code Good Life at checkout for 10% off your order. We gotta name the traps, because a move can revert into a plan the moment that you stop watching. And there tend to be these four ways that it happens, and knowing them is most of the defense. To be honest, the first trap is that it's secretly too big. We covered the fix, but the trap is sneaky because a too big move feels kind of more virtuous, more real, more legitimate. One bad sentence. It feels insultingly small. An hour of focused writing every morning feels serious and admirable and like the sort of thing a real writer would commit to. And the serious, admirable one is precisely the one you'll have abandoned by the next week, or the next day, or even today, at which point you'll conclude you're not a real writer anymore, choosing the insultingly small one. The insulting one is it's the one that it still stands. Next week, next month, maybe even next year. Right? I have a bit of a private rule for this now. Whenever a move feels appropriately ambitious, the kind of thing I'd be a little proud to tell someone about, I ask myself, what would it look like if I cut it in half? And then usually I cut it in half again. The version of that finally feels almost too easy to bother with. That's the one with a real chance of surviving. Pride is a terrible guide here. Pride wants the impressive plan. Pride is never the one who has to get up on the dark, cold Wednesday morning and actually do the thing. The second trap that we can fall into in allowing a move to become something else is waiting for motivation. It's this belief that you'll make the move once you feel like it. Here's the hard truth. You will rarely ever feel like it. And that's not a judgment call. It's just human nature. You don't need to. Motivation is not the fuel that gets you up off the couch. Motivation is the thing that ambles in a few minutes after you've already started, kind of slightly out of breath, having completely missed the beginning. Action comes first. The feeling follows the action. We have the order backwards, and the backwardness has cost most of us years, to be honest. So stop waiting to feel ready. Ready is not the thing that arrives on its own and taps you on the shoulder. Ready shows up after you've already begun, slightly out of breath to take the credit. The move is built precisely so that you don't have to feel like it. You just do the small thing, the shoes, the sentence, the one text, and you let the feeling come find you at its own lazy pace. The third potential trap here is the trap of feeling like you need a system first. This is the most sophisticated form of procrastination available to intelligent people, and I say that as a deeply experienced practitioner of this trap. You do not need the app, the planner, the perfect morning routine, or the right notebook. I have personally bought the right notebook on at least four, honestly, probably closer to 10 separate occasions, each time genuinely convinced that this finally was the missing piece. The notebook are gorgeous. I had them from different countries. They're also every single one of them completely blank. The system is not the move. Buying the system is just planning now with the receipt and the genuinely Dangerous part is that it feels exactly like progress, like action. You research, you compared, you optimized, you spent real money and real care. And you can feel the productivity just kind of humming in your veins. And you have, of course, made and done nothing. Because getting ready to do the thing is not the thing. And your beautiful new system or tool knows it. And it is probably judging you a little from the shelf. And the fourth trap here is kind of the most lethal of all, which is all or nothing thinking. I'll repeat it again. All or nothing thinking. You make the move four days running, you miss day five and some old deep, judgy voice, probably not your voice, it might be from when you were a kid, right? It declares that you have failed. You've broken it. This streak is dead, so you may as well just quit. But a missed rep is not a failure. Missed rep is just another day. The only thing that turns one missed rep into a broken streak and then total inaction is the story you tell yourself about it. So here's the whole rule, and it's kind of a pretty important one. Miss once, just make the next one and do everything you can to never miss twice, right? You will miss days. Everyone misses days. The people who keep the move are not the ones who never, ever miss. You know, I've been meditating for over 15 years right now, pretty much every day. But I gotta tell you, one or two days a year does not happen. I wake up at 2am to catch a flight or I'm like sick as a dog. And if I basically said after that, ah, I guess I'm not a meditator anymore, the whole thing's over. I wouldn't have the stunning benefit of having this practice in my life. So I do my best to just do the slightest, smallest version of it that day, and if I can, and the next day, whatever, the slightest, smallest version of it, to slowly just say no. That is still my identity. This is still the thing that I do, right? So the people who keep the movement are not the ones who never miss. They're the ones who refuse to miss twice in a row. And let me say something kind of gentle here, because this trap is usually built out of an old horror story that we tell ourselves, the one that whispers, if I can't do it perfectly, I failed, so I may as well not bother at all. That story has robbed you of more good things in your life. More relationships, more activities, more experience. Experiences than any shortage of time ever has. The move is the antidote to it. Because a move Is too small to fail at. And one missed move is far too small to mean anything about who you are. You missed a walk. You are not, it turns out, a disappointment to the entire concept of walking. He just walked tomorrow. Missing once is an accident. Missing twice can be the beginning of a new pattern. So guard the rep after the missed one even more fiercely than any other one. All right, so this is the part that I promise you at the top, we are going to make one move together, right? Right now. Not a plan, one move, right? If you're driving or walking or holding a sleeping baby, just maybe think it through with me and then we can lock down the actual move. The second that you're able to, if you're somewhere, you can actually pause and do something even better. So here we go. Five simple steps. Step one, the bucket. Bring back the part of your life that's been running kind of low. If you were here last time, you already named it. If you weren't, just quickly answer it now intuitively. Vitality, connection or contribution? Just do it quickly. Is your mind and body, your energy and health and aliveness? Is that where you feel like you're taking the hit? Is it your relationships, your sense of being genuinely known? Or is it the feeling that what you do with your days actually isn't really giving you a whole lot of meaning or purpose? Which one is lowest right now? Don't agonize over it. Just the first one that jumped to mind is almost always the honest answer. And you can always redo this with different moves in the future. Just pick one for right now. Now go with it. And if more than one bucket feels low, that's completely normal. Most of us are actually running a deficit in at least two of them at any given time. But we just wanted to keep it simple. We just want to pick exactly one today. Just one. The entire power of this is in its narrowness, its focus. You can come back to others. Today we move on one. Okay, got it. Wait. Step two, shrink it. Now we find the move. And the only rule is that it has to be almost too small. Like embarrassingly small. Not the impressive version, the version you could do on your worst day. If your bucket is mind and body, it's not exercise four times this week. It's maybe a 10 minute walk after lunch or stroll or the running shoes set by the door tonight before I go to bed. If it's relationships, it's not see my friends more. It's one text to one specific person today that says something realer than we should Catch up, You know, maybe if it's the work or contribution bucket that feels like it really needs some love, it's not Find my purpose. It's 5 minutes, 10 minutes, 15 minutes on the thing that's actually yours, where, you know it gives you energy and gives you a sense of curiosity. Right before the inbox gets in your hands in the morning, pick the smallest real thing, smaller than feels, in a weird way, respectable. And I mean it about too small. Whatever just occurred to you, it's probably still a little too big because we can't help ourselves. So cut it down until a small voice in your head says, that's hardly even worth doing. That voice is wrong. And that is exactly the right size. Good. Now step three, give it a when and a where. This is the goal, what's apart, right? The implementation intentions. And it's not optional because this is the step that does the heavy lifting. Say it as a sentence. When this, I will that there. After I drop the kids at school, I will walk for 10 minutes around the block. Tuesday at 7, I will sit at the kitchen table and write one sentence. Say it out loud if you can, after you write it. Because saying it out loud, it makes it suddenly feel real and a little bit more binding and tie the went to something that already happened, so you're not trying to summon it out of thin air. So it's like after the coffee, after the school drop off, after the moment you sit down at your desk, hang it on a part of the day that's going to arrive whether you think about it or not. And a move with a when and a where is a move. A move without one is a wish. Step four, scaffold it. If there's any way to do this, ask yourself, how do I make this not depend on my own willpower, which we have agreed is unreliable by the next moment you try and access it, right? Can you tell one person you're doing it so someone's watching? Can you put it in the calendar right now with an alert that goes off at the actual time? Can you set the thing out tonight so tomorrow you physically trip over it on the way to coffee? Borrow structure from anywhere that you possibly can. You are not cheating. You're building a wall that holds. And you don't need all of these, right? Even one of them, roughly, I'd say, probably doubles your odds of the move actually happening. So pick whichever ones you could set up in the next 60 seconds and set it up. And step five, which is where you actually seal this and got two ways to do it. Either one counts completely. Option one, if you can make the first step right now, literally put me on pause, okay? Genuinely pause. Then go ahead, send the text, put on the shoes, stand outside for two minutes, write the one ugly sentence, do the smallest possible version of the thing, this second. Because the moment you've done it once, it's no longer a plan, it's a thing you do. And you will have crossed the only line that actually matters, the one between thinking about it and actually having begun. And I want to gently push you towards that. Option one, the doing it now, if there is any way at all. Because there's a version of this where you nod along, agree it's all very sensible, feel a warm little glow of intention, and then drive home and let the day close over it like water, right? I have been that person a hundred times and I will be again. The glow of having understood something is not the same as having done it, and it fades a great deal faster. So if the move is something you can actually begin in the next 60 or 120 seconds, begin it right? Let the rest of the episode be the soundtrack to your first rep. Here's option two. If right now genuinely just isn't the moment, and sometimes it isn't right, schedule it concretely before you do anything else, before you let this episode end and the day, swallow it, Open the calendar, put in the when and the where we just built. Set the alert. Not soon, not this week. A day and a time, both of these count. The only thing that does not count, the only thing is I'll remember. You will not remember. None of us remembers. That's not a character flaw. It's just how the machinery, you know, like, works in a busy life. Which is exactly why we put it somewhere other than just in our heads. So that's it. That's the move. Notice what it didn't require. It didn't require a plan. It didn't require you to become a different person first or live in a different life. It required about 90 seconds and a decision to stop circling the Runway and actually finally land the thing. Do the thing. And if some part of you is whispering that this is just too small to matter, that a 10 minute walk or one sentence or one text cannot possibly add up to a different life. I understand the doubt. I have felt it, and I'm telling you plainly, that is wrong. It is not the size of the move that does the work. It's the fact that it repeats small and repeated beats, big and abandoned, every single time anyone has ever measured it, right? The walk you actually take is worth infinitely more than the marathon you're forever planning. You are now one rep, one move into the second half of your year. That is further than most people will get all summer, if not all year. So here's where I'll leave you, with both halves of this series now in your hands. Last time we looked, we put down the scorecard, we took an honest stock and kind of named the part of life that had been running low while we weren't watching. That was the honest, often invisible work of seeing more clearly. This time we moved right. We took that one honest thing and turned it into something small and repeatable that you can actually do. Starting today and the thread running through both, the thing that I most want you to keep is this. A good life in the second half of a year or the second half of anything, is not built out of plans. It's built out of moves. Small ones, repeated ones, pointed at the parts of your life that actually matter to you. The plan was never the thing. The plan was the procrastination. We dressed up to look responsible. You were never short on ambition, and you weren't short on insight either. What was missing was permission to begin from exactly where you are in the middle of the year, a little tired, a little behind on the bright January version of yourself you'd have forgotten you promised. And to start anyway, small today from here. Because here's the truth about the middle, and it's the thing I most want you to carry out of these two episodes. The middle is not a waiting room for some cleaner, better rested version of your life that begins in January. The middle is the life. It's where nearly all of it actually happens. And the only way through it that doesn't end in yet another year of sincere, heartfelt, completely unkept intentions is to stop planning the life that you'll live later and make one small move inside the life you're already living now. And if the last time you looked honestly and decided with open eyes that you'd carry a particular cost for this season because it genuinely matters to you, that still holds, right? A move isn't a betrayal of that choice. A move is just one small refill that kind of keeps a chosen hard season survivable even then, especially then, you get to make one. So there is no part three to this series. That is just you and a move and the day you choose to make it, which I hope. I really hope is today. So go ahead and make the move and then make it again, miss one and make the next one. If possible, never miss twice. That isn't a plan. That is a life getting fuller and more alive. One small rep, one small move at a time. So thanks so much for joining me in this two part summer reboot series. And if this series has awakened something in you, it'd mean the world to me if you take just a few seconds to share it with a friend who could maybe use a gentle mid year reset too. Or maybe give us a thumbs up or a review wherever you're engaging with this podcast. And hey, before you go, next week, I am sitting down with an old friend, Jessica Ortner to explore something that most people have never tried that looks a little bit ridiculous at first to me and that turns out to have a surprisingly serious body of research behind it. It's called tapping. And we're not going to sell it and we're not going to dismiss it. We're going to give it a genuinely honest love. What the science does and doesn't support who it actually is for. And then Jessica is going to actually guide me and you through a real session live on the episode that you can follow along with in real time. So be sure to follow Good Life Project wherever you get your podcast so you don't miss it. This episode of Good Life Project was produced by executive producers Lindsay Fox and me. Jonathan Fields editing helped by Troy Young. Chris Carter crafted our theme music. And if you haven't already, go ahead and follow us wherever you get your podcasts so you never miss a conversation. Until next time, I'm Jonathan Fields signing off for Good Life Project. Good Life Project is sponsored by Tenasi. So a few months back I I started looking for something to add to my evening wind down. Something I could feel good about having in the house, not just one more bottle on the shelf. And a friend pointed me towards Tenasi and their unique CBD CBDA blend. What got my attention wasn't the marketing, it was the backstory. 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