Your Body Is Already Talking. Here's What It's Saying | Linda Clemons

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Podcast Summary: Good Life Project

Episode: "Your Body Is Already Talking. Here's What It's Saying"

Guest: Linda Clemons
Host: Jonathan Fields
Date: April 30, 2026

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Overview

In this engaging and practical episode, Jonathan Fields sits down with body language and nonverbal communication expert Linda Clemons to explore how we communicate far beyond words. Linda shares decades of experience in teaching leaders, professionals, and everyday people how to read, understand, and skillfully use body language to build trust, foster connection, and improve relationships. The conversation dives into the science and stories behind nonverbal cues, the pitfalls of unrecognized bias, and concrete techniques anyone can apply to communicate more intentionally—at work, at home, and everywhere in between.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. The Power of Nonverbal Communication

• 93% of Communication Is Nonverbal:
  Research indicates that the vast majority of what we convey in conversation comes from our posture, gestures, facial expressions, and body positioning—not our words. (00:00)
• Nonverbal Is Primitive and Protective:
  Before humans spoke, body language was essential for survival, helping distinguish "friend, foe, or feast." This scanning for intent is still active in all interactions. (03:50)

2. Subconscious Signals and Relationship Impact

• Unspoken Biases:
  Human biases—positive or negative—leak through body language, often before we open our mouths. This can unfairly sway outcomes and damage relationships, often outside our awareness. (11:57)
• Story of Manager’s Bias:
  Linda shares a compelling case where a manager’s posture and openness varied between two employees based on personal bias, affecting the accused’s perception and demeanor even before speaking. Notably, the one he protected was actually guilty. (08:43–14:50)
• Quote:

  “I cannot hear what you're saying because who you are being is getting in the way.”
  — Linda Clemons, referencing Emerson (05:08)

3. Power Zones of the Body

• Four Key Areas:
  • Throat (Suprasternal notch)
  • Heart
  • Navel/Belly Button
  • Reproductive area (briefly mentioned) (31:43–36:23)
• Open vs Closed Zones:
  Keeping these areas exposed or protected signals openness or defensiveness. For example, crossed arms protect the heart, turning away the navel means disengagement, and self-touch gestures can indicate anxiety or self-soothing.
• Self-Soothing Gestures:
  Stroking the suprasternal notch is common when women feel threatened or uncomfortable in interactions; men may adjust their collars when stressed. (31:43)

4. Emotional Leakage and Contagion

• Emotional States Appear Physically:
  You cannot fully conceal anxiety, anger, or distraction—others pick up on your "leakage," which can breed mistrust or discomfort. (17:59–24:34)

• Quote:

  “Whatever is on the mind shows up in the matter.”
  — Linda Clemons (unattributed, 17:59)

• Contagion:
  Negativity or anxiety leaks out and is often mirrored by others, especially in high-stakes situations such as sales or leadership. (24:34–25:16)

5. The Three Patterns Under Stress: Frozen, Flooding, Flat

• Frozen: Paralyzed, unable to respond.
• Flooding: Overwhelmed by emotions, often leading to an outburst or visible distress.
• Flat: Emotional numbness, appearing disengaged.
  (25:47)
• Pivoting: Awareness and discipline help you “pivot” out of these states and back into authentic presence. (29:27)

6. Intention and Outcome in Communication

• Guiding Question:
  Instead of only focusing on “What do I want to say?” ask,

  “How do I want this person to feel when they leave my presence?”
  (15:31)

• Begin with the End in Mind:
  Whether the interaction is with a partner, child, friend, or colleague, consider the emotional state you want to foster. (29:27–31:13)

7. Becoming Aware of Your Own Signals

• Habits & Blind Spots:
  Many nonverbal cues are ingrained habits, unnoticed by ourselves but obvious to others. Getting feedback from trusted friends helps reveal patterns that might be pushing others away.

  • Quote:

    “It’s hard for us to see the picture if we’re stuck in the frame.”
    — Linda Clemons (36:50)

• Social Experiments:
  Jonathan shares a personal anecdote about persistent body rotation in a conversation, which raised questions of social comfort, introversion, and unintentional distancing. (39:31–44:06)

8. Tools & Techniques: The Three Cs

Linda’s framework for mastering body language in important moments: (50:02)

1. Clusters: Notice groups of cues, not just a single gesture.
2. Congruence: Ensure your tone, words, and body match—otherwise, people sense a disconnect.
   • Quote:

     "If all three [words, tone, and body] don’t agree, there is a disconnect in the message between you and me.”
     — Linda Clemons (52:16)

3. Context: Interpret nonverbals within situational and cultural context.
   • Bonus—Culture: Gestures may be friendly in one place, offensive in another.

9. Authenticity vs. Technique

• Not Just 'Faking It':
  Real confidence and connection come from truthfulness and authentic presence, not simply mimicking techniques.
  • Quote:

    “The fake will fade because the true essence of who you are is going to begin to surface.”
    — Linda Clemons (56:07)

• Acronym “TAP”:
  • T: Truthful best self
  • A: Authentic best self
  • P: The Proof is in your nonverbal
    (55:59–58:58)

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• “Be 100% present in their presence.” (06:25)
• “Do you want people to leave better or bitter?” (15:31)
• “Emotions are contagious… Now your client, your customer is acting the way you’re acting. They become a mirror of you.” (24:52)
• “Your posture, the way you walk, the way you hold your shoulders, your head—is it level or sunken down? All makes a difference.” (13:13)
• “Be careful what you think about because it could come about.” (14:50)
• “When you welcome someone, you don’t welcome them into your home with your arms folded. The arms are wide, spread, palms exposed, and the heart is exposed.” (33:46)
• “Begin with the end in mind.” (29:27)
• “It’s so hard for us to see the picture if we’re stuck in the frame.” (36:50)

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Key Timestamps

• Primitive Roots of Body Language — 03:50
• Manager Bias Story — 08:43–14:50
• Power Zones Explained — 31:43–36:23
• The 3 Stress Patterns (Frozen, Flooding, Flat) — 25:47–29:27
• Emotional Leakage and Contagion — 17:59–24:52
• Three Cs Framework for Reading Body Language — 50:02–54:22
• Authenticity vs. Performance — 55:28–58:58

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Takeaways

• Most communication is nonverbal and often subconscious.
• Biases, emotional states, and intentions are revealed physically, not just verbally.
• "Power zones" on your body signal openness or defensiveness; their awareness is crucial.
• Patterns like frozen, flooding, or flat hinder communication but can be managed.
• Ask yourself before any interaction: “How do I want this person to feel when they leave my presence?”
• Leverage the Three Cs: Clusters, Congruence, Context (+ Culture) for better communication.
• Techniques must be rooted in authentic intention for real, lasting impact.

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This episode is a practical guide to understanding and mastering the subtle language of the body, offering science-backed strategies, memorable stories, and wisdom for showing up with intention and heart in every interaction.

Transcript

[A]

So here's something that might change the way you think about nearly every conversation you have today. According to my guests, research says 93% of what you communicate to another person has nothing to do with the words coming out of your mouth. It's about posture. It's about your eye contact, the way your arms are positioned, whether your body is open or closed, the direction your feet are pointed, even the micro expressions flickering across your face in fractions of a second. All of it is telling a story. And most of us never once stop to ask what story our body is telling. My guest today, Linda Clemens, has spent more than 30 years as one of the world's leading experts in body language and nonverbal communication. She's trained Fortune 500 CEOs, elite sales teams, celebrities, leaders across industries to master the silent signals that build trust, create connection, and command a room without ever saying a word. Her best selling book is called Hush. And in this conversation we go deep into what she calls the four power zones of the body and why keeping them open or closed changes everything from a high stakes interview to a conversation with your kid. We talk about how our biases show up in our bodies before they ever reach our mouths. And she tells a story about a manager who unknowingly convicted the wrong person using nothing but his posture. We get into the three patterns that hijack us in pressure moments. Frozen, flooding and flat. And we explore the question that Linda says changes everything. Not what do I want to say, but how do I want this person to feel when they leave my presence? This one is really practical and warm and immediately useful. So excited to share this conversation with you. I'm Jonathan Fields and this is Good Life Project

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[A]

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[B]

Absolutely. So, first of all, Jonathan, again, thank you for having me on your show. What's so important? If we think about this, Our nonverbal communication is primitive. It existed before we were able to speak a word. And so just imagine it's the thing that protects you. That's a part of your limbic System. And from 2,000 or more years, when you would meet someone, the first thing you would do, you would scan their body. You will scan the body to determine if they are a friend, a foe, or perhaps a feast. You know what I'm saying? And that's what we do. But the body is speaking before you even say a word. So, for example, you and I could communicate if someone walks in the room and perhaps someone that looks a little odd or strange, or someone we least expect. And we may look at each other and do an eyebrow flash like, hmm, wonder who that is, without saying a word. So again, even when you were a little baby, you couldn't form words. You made sounds and gestures. So that's how important our nonverbal is. And I have one of my quotes that I love, it's by Emerson, and it goes like this. I cannot hear what you're saying because who you are being is getting in the way. Wow. I cannot hear what you're saying because who you're being, your actions, and you've heard the phrase action speaks louder than words. And if my late granny was alive, she'd say, baby, I hear you talking, but I don't see you walking. So it is so important. There's a conversation that just standing there, just looking around, whether we say anything or not, that speaking louder than your words.

[A]

Yeah, I mean, that makes so much sense. And as you were describing that, I was also wondering, well, where does this come from? But you kind of spoke to that. I guess there's probably no real way for us to answer where does this come from? But it would make sense that there's a survival mechanism at play here. We need to be able to actually read. If we saw somebody coming and it was 100 yards away or a group of people coming and we couldn't actually communicate with them, maybe we didn't share language, but there was a reason for us to understand, as you were sharing earlier, friend or foe, you know, so there's a survival mechanism that I would imagine has given us this curiosity and ability to start to try and figure out what is being communicated long before words come out of somebody's mouth.

[B]

Absolutely. And just think about couples who have been together for a while. They, they can be in sync with each other without saying a word. A wife can know if something's going on with her husband. A husband can know what's going on with the wife. The mother can just scan her children and know if something is happening. So it's so important that we stay in tune to this. Because if you are a leader, if you're a parent, a friend, or you're working with a coworker or someone that you want to communicate better with, be prepared to be observant. When I say observant, one of the keys that I love is being 100% present in their presence. So you could see those facial muscles, those 43 facial muscles that react. You could see if I said something to perhaps offend you and then you jerk back. Thus you were taken aback. All of these things without you saying a word are sending signals. And it allows us to know if we are building rapport, if we are attracting people where you could become a people magnet, or if you are, wow, repelling people because of your behavior and you're non verbal, if your power zones are not open, and we'll talk about that a little bit later, all of this makes a difference. And see, the smile is the universal language.

[A]

I think a lot of us will probably say, okay, I could see how this would really benefit us to both be able to lead with non verbal language in a way where we want to communicate something that is in some way beneficial to us or to others. But you Also mentioned something else which I'm really curious about, which is the way that we step into an interaction non verbally with our body, with our movement, with our energy can also hurt us. There can be a downside. What are some of the ways that you see the risks, the hazards, the harms that you see potentially being caused by not understanding how this mechanism works and maybe stepping it into a conversation in a way where we're literally creating a dynamic that we really wish we weren't.

[B]

Well, let me give you a good example. I never forget I was working with a company and working with their leaders. I do a workshop titled the Silent Language of Leaders and working with the managers and the leaders and how they manage, promote, review and be able to develop their employees. Well, there was a situation where there was discrepancy going on in the office about a particular issue. And the manager brought in the two individuals. Now, he did it individually, but this. What? Now, the first individual, by the way, full transparency, was someone he had recommended for the job. So someone he fully sponsored. So watch this. When this particular individual came in, he did this. Jonathan did this. Okay, tell me what was going on. I want you all to look at my hands. Okay, tell me what was going on. I want you to watch my upper carriage. Tell me what's going on. His upper carriage was like pulling. I'm trying to pull for you. I'm leaning in for you. Tell me the truth. I'm there for you. So he was totally open. And by the way, the young man just sat there. Well, here's what happened, et cetera, et cetera. No emotion, just real steel. But yet at the same time, this guy was pulling for him. So tell me what happened. You didn't do this. He wanted him to be innocent. The second guy that was involved, that walked in, the manager inherited him. Inherited him from another team. And he really didn't want to. He really didn't. He just got, you know, it wasn't someone that he had an opportunity to choose. The guy just transferred to that team. Someone put it there, Put him there. And guess what? This is how the manager was approaching him. Watch. Even though the physical door was open to the office, he closed the door to his heart.

[A]

So for those who are just listening, also, by the way, you're kind of leaning back now with your arms crossed over your chest. Yeah.

[B]

Yes, yes. So leaning back, arms crossed. Listen up. Arms crossed. And he extended one arm out and says, okay, but which. For those that are listening, I am doing my okay with my hand. But the Back of my hand is swinging forward and one arm still folded. Okay, so I'm just gonna use a name to protect the innocent and the guilty. Okay, Harry, give me your version. Palm wasn't exposed, arm still half folded. Give me your version. And he folded his arm back. So the poor guy is thinking, wow, he's already accused me as being guilty, and I haven't even said a word. He. And he did this based on the manager's body language because he wasn't open. We don't realize that the moment that we cast judgment in our mind, it shows up in the matter.

[A]

So we can walk into an interaction with some biases predisposed to a point of view or about an idea, about a situation, a person, a group of people. And we think that we're kind of showing up fairly neutral, Like, I haven't opened my mouth, I haven't said anything yet. But what you're saying is, without us even realizing it, we're walking into that interaction physically and energetically in a way that is going to probably both reveal what our bias is in a good or a bad way and also change the nature of what's about to unfold, potentially in a harmful way.

[B]

Absolutely. And I'm sitting here in the office observing both scenarios. And the second guy, you know what, he came in, he was sitting at the edge of the seat. It's called seat ready. You know when you're excited and you're trying to plead your innocence and your side of the story, but the moment that he saw the manager's posture and body language, his shoulders, which were straight up, became sunken in because he gave up at that moment. He gave up. He gave up. What difference? You didn't want me in the first place. So look at the stories that are created internally without us even saying a word. That's how powerful you're not. You can have someone walk into the office like, whoa, look at this fella. Look at this woman. Look at this guy. Look at this girl. She walks or he walks like they own the place. Your posture, the way you walk, the way you hold your shoulders, your head, is it level head or is it sunken down? All makes a difference. And man, that conversation. And I pull that manager to the side and said, I could tell you which one that you were for. And by the way, the guy that he sponsored was the one that was guilty. But his biases, and this is so important when you have a bias, there's something called RAS R A S Reticulating Activated System. Your brain can be lazy sometimes. So whatever you think, the brain is going to find evidence to validate it. So if you're thinking, well, look at that young lady, look at that. Oh, the way they're dressed, they'll never wake up. They could be a genius. And then next thing you know, your brain says, well, look at their shoes. Well, look at this, look at what they're eating, the way they handle utensils. Your brain will validate whatever you're seeking. Be careful what you think about because it could come about.

[A]

Yeah. And what you're saying is it also, it's going to show up in your body, potentially even before it ever comes out of your mouth. You just described a work scenario which I think probably so many of us have had some version of that and maybe even been on the side of the manager without realizing what we were doing. We were the ones who were actually showing up in a way where in hindsight we're like, oh, wow, that actually wasn't okay. But this is going to show up in our relationships every day also, isn't it? This is going to show up in our. If you're a parent, it's probably going to show up in your relationship with a co parent or a kid or a neighbor or a friend. So this isn't just about work. This is about literally every interaction we have with people who are close and not so close with us.

[B]

Absolutely. And you know, one of the things that I encourage all of you to think about, how do you want people to leave once they're in your presence? How do you want them to leave? Do you want them to leave better or bitter? Do you want them to leave transformed or elevated? You could do that simply with your words, your tone, and how you show up, how you open the door to your heart. And when I say power zones, the heart area is a major power zone. Are you always folded arms and some of you probably thinking, well, that's who I am. Everybody that knows me knows that I fold my arms. But what if I don't know you? What if I don't know your baseline? How do I know that's your norm? So having that awareness is critical. And one of the things that I always say to myself, you know, when I meet someone or someone that I encounter that the moment they're in my presence, how do I want, how do I want them to leave my presence? It's so important. Do I want them to feel like mad, I could conquer the world or I could make it another day or I have something to live for, or I do have possibility. How do you want them to leave? And that's one of the keys of being able to attract and build rapport by the way you give off the energy.

[A]

I want to drop into both the power zones and some other sort of tools that you offer. But before we get there, I'm also curious about something. We just talked a bit about how our own presuppositions or biases can show up in our nonverbal communication and how we. Eventually, it's going to show up in our language also. But even the way that we physically show up in an interaction. What about our emotional states? Because we can come into an interaction or a room, energized, calm, at peace, freaked out, stressed, anxious, depressed. Do these also show up in a similar way in our physicality when we're interacting with somebody in a way that affects the way that we're perceived or that we might want to have an impact on others?

[B]

Absolutely. So there's a book by a friend of mine, Scott McCain, all businesses, show Business. So the way you show up, you only get that four to seven seconds, maybe eight. I'll give you a bonus one to make that good first impression. Nobody talks to you about what happens the remaining 20 minutes because they're still assessing you to see if you're the real deal. Whatever is on the mind shows up in the matter. So if you're distracted, let me ask you this question here, for those that are listening. How would you feel? And I'm not putting it in the universe, but just say you or someone you love has to have emergency surgery. And the surgeon comes in or they're talking to you. It doesn't have to be emergency. Let's just say the doctor comes in, who's going to operate? And he introduces himself. Hey, I'm Dr. Clements. And the nurse is there. And I'm gonna tell you, here's what we're gonna do. We're going to. Okay, hold on. Do we start with anesthesia first or do I do this? It doesn't matter how many degrees are on the wall or if he says to you, you know what? Give me a minute. I've got a lot going on. My wife left me, the dog bit me, and I found out the cat is having an affair. With all that on their mind, do you want them operated on? You. Even though they've got all the awards, the degrees on the wall. So the mind could only think of one given thought at any given time, and the thing that you think of the longest becomes the strongest. So if you are going in with baggage. If you are going in with garbage, it'll begin to leak, it'll begin to smell. And in non verbal we call it leakage where those other emotions Are you okay? Are you okay? I mean, are you okay Jonathan? You're ok? You look like a little uncomfortable. People begin to notice that because brains speak to other brains, the signals are there and it's displayed in your nonverbal. So the moment that you think about it in that amygdala or the neocortex or the midbrain or the prefrontal cortex, it's going to show up in your body.

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[B]

Absolutely, absolutely. And it makes them uneasy. And so for those that are in sales, when that comes across the table, let's say it's the end of the bath and you've got to be quota, right?

[A]

So you're freaked out because you're like, I gotta push, push, push, push, push. I have a number to hit. Yeah, yeah.

[B]

Yes, they feel that. And then all of a sudden emotions are contagious. And now your client, your customer is acting the way you're acting. They become a mirror of you. So you have to. And that's part of emotional intelligence, is being self aware of your own emotions so that you can manage them.

[A]

So this all makes a lot of sense to me in this context. Also, you talk about us having certain patterns that we tend to default to as well. And you bring up three, from what I recall it, frozen, flooding and flat, which become almost like these default states and they can really interfere. These, again, they're physical patterns. They show up in our bodies in ways that affect both us and also people that we're interacting with. Walk me through these three different patterns.

[B]

Thank you. So that's in my book, forthcoming book, Hush. And for example, let's talk about the frozen stage where you are just simply totally paralyzed in every situation where if something happens and you can't react or you lose your train of thought and you're just there frozen and your boss is looking at you. Everyone's looking like, what? Say something, say something. What's the matter? What's the matter with you? Then the other flooding, when all of a sudden, Jonathan, everything, if it's going to happen, it's happening today. Everything is happening. And then all of a sudden the floodgates of emotions are starting to pour out and it's very challenging. It happens to men. Not as often as it happens to women because of all the things that they're multitasking and trying to do and trying. And they're emotionally attached to projects and things. So then when you begin to flood is that you could come across as. It could come across now as if you're having an emotional meltdown. So, for example, let's say you're doing your big the pitch of your life. You're doing a proposal, you're doing the pitch and the stakeholders are in front of you. And you've worked on this for months, and then all of a sudden someone says, you know, we tried this before, but we actually lost money in the third quarter with that. It didn't work. If you are emotionally attached to that, it's like the umbilical cord, then you're going to take that feedback as a personal attack. And then all of a sudden, emotions start flooding from the eyes, the darting back and forth from the exhaling, the flavor, the movement of the hands, just going, everything. It's like high wired. And then flat is almost like you flatline. It's like, what does it matter? You become more numb. So it's so important to realize where you are emotionally, why you're feeling that way. What would be the outcome if it's displayed? So, for example, how would this impact my conversation with you, my mother, my co worker, my children, my team, my boss, my biggest client, the late actor Yul Brenner, was asked, you know, how is it over a thousand performances, every one you give 100% the same thing over and over and over again. Because someone in that audience, he said, it will be their first time experiencing me, the production. So I can't afford to be off. Yes, we are human, absolutely. But the discipline part of when you're frozen, when you are flooding and when you are flat, the discipline part is knowing how to pivot, pivot and pivot quickly.

[A]

How do we navigate when this happens? Because whether it's on a big move or on a big stage or in a meeting, or whether you're just, you're having a conversation with your kid where you really want it to land, you know, how do we deal with it when one of these three patterns shows up?

[B]

Think about this. If you are talking to your child, let's first of all look at the level of where you're talking. Are you talking standing up as the authority? Are you talking sitting down, meeting them where they're at, that getting that connection? Are you opening up with a story of everything about what they did wrong? Or are you opening it up, begin to open up about what it is that you appreciate about Billy, what you appreciate about little Linda and what you mean to them? Because I've got to open the mind, I got to open the body. Because if the child is in the amygdala, they're already Fearful. They're not, you know, they're in the protective mode. I've got to melt that ice and then challenge them on the action that they did and hear their feedback and get their thoughts. And by the way, be careful of using your 43 facial muscles to make those expressions that come across as judgment, because the moment they see the judgment in your eyes, they'll go into shame, guilt, and therefore they're closed out. So think about how do you want the meeting, the interaction to end, from a little child to a little child to a spouse, a partner, a co worker, a team member, as Covey would say, begin with the end in mind.

[A]

Yeah, so this is a repeated theme in our conversation. It's like, really, even before you're in there, like, what do you want out of this? How do you want this to end? And that's going to really influence how you step into it both physically and also what language might come out of your mouth. Let's talk about a bit more about specific tools and actually maybe a good setup for that. You referenced earlier in our conversation these, I think you call them power zones.

[B]

Yeah, let's talk about that. Yeah, so when we talk about the power zones, let's one of a few for those that are listening. If you just touch that dimple right where the throat area is, it's called the suprasternal notch. That's the medical scientific term for it. Lots of times women have a tendency when they feel threatened, insecure, and Princess Di did it a lot later in her latter years of her marriage, they have a tendency to stroke the super sternal notch and you're just stroking it. So for example, if I work in a case and I'm sent out to Mrs. Johnson's home and I say, Ms. Johnson, they sent me out to talk with you and just for you to ask a few questions regarding the whereabouts of your son and your daughter on February 14th. If she's protecting her son and she does not want to reveal the information, even though she may say something like this, I don't know how that my son in months. If she starts stroking the super sternal notch, that nonverbal gives me the cue. She's doing a self touch gesture, which is called pacifying gestures, trying to calm herself, to soothe her nerves to the women out there. How many times do you do that in a meeting? If the meeting is getting a little heated or something's going on or you feel challenged, you have a tendency to do that. Men may get hot around the collar and where the blood Vessels begin to enlarge, and they'll pull at the neckline. But be aware of that, because that's a power zone. If you heard a loud noise overhead, you'll automatically protect that area. Go. Ooh. And by the way, for those that are listening, I dipped my head in like a little turtle, okay? You protected the throat. So that's a power zone. The other power zone we spoke of earlier is the heart. Think about someone who's had their heart broken, and let's say I introduce a friend to someone because she's been, you know, out of a relationship for a long time, and we all think it's time you get out and start dating. So I introduce her to a friend. She's liking the guy, but all of a sudden, he started to do things that reminded her of her ex. And guess what? She immediately did. She folded her arms. Now, in that scenario, subconsciously, she was protecting her heart. Her heart. That's a power zone. So when you welcome someone, you don't welcome it into your home with your arms folded. The arms are wide, spread, palms exposed, and the heart is exposed. Your power zone is so critical. The heart, the throat. The other power zone is the belly button. The navel is your first connection to another human being through the umbilical cord. Think about when you're talking to someone face to face, heart to heart, belly button to belly button. And let's say you're in a group of people. You're networking, and you're in that little circle. You can always tell when someone is ready to leave because they cut the cord and they'll begin to turn away. So think about when you're having that conversation, and when you're done with it, some of you may be guilty, like, I don't want to hear it anymore. You will subconsciously begin to turn away. Your feet are pointed towards the door. And by the way, feet don't lie. They're pointed in direction we want to go. You know, so you automatically want to get out of that. Even though your face may be face forward, your heart kind of at an angle now, but that belly button begins to turn, and you're cutting the connection. Be aware of that, because you don't have to say a word. If someone says something to you, you don't want to hear it, you begin to turn your body. That's another form of dismissal. So the power zones, the throat area, the supracetal dodge, where that little dip is the heart, the belly button, and there's another area. And that could be for Another show, it's the reproductive area. And that could be for another saucy show.

[A]

So we've got these four power zones then. And you used the word. And you said, be aware of sort of how you're positioning them in an interaction. Which brings up a bigger question about this. The things that we're talking about. Are most of us actually even aware that we're doing any of these things? Or is this just. It happens, kind of like automatically, subconsciously it happens.

[B]

It's a habit. It's ingrained into you. So when you wake up in the morning, you don't have to think, how do I get up out of bed? How do I brush my teeth? It's automatic. And those habits are automatic. It becomes a part of your fabric and who you are. The key for you is to ask yourself and check the temperature. How is this having an effect on the people that are around me? I just noticed that every time I go and try to join a group, then they're ready to leave all of a sudden, oh, I gotta go. I just noticed that when I, you know, contribute to conversations, people ignore me. You have to be aware of what you're giving off so that you get corrected. And a good way to do it is ask trusted friends. And it goes like this. Look, I noticed. Look. Every time you guys get together for lunch and when I come to join you, it seems like everybody wants to leave. Why is that? Well, Linda, you're Negative Nelly, or you're this. Or every time you come in, you're always pointing out or you're looking up somebody up and down as if you are checking them over, trying to prove them or not. And your whole being is condescending. No, I'm not. I didn't. So you don't realize it's the reason why it's so hard for us to see the picture if we're stuck in the frame. And sometimes it'll take someone else to point out those things that you take for granted. Had a friend that always. That when they would talk, they would go. And. I mean, we didn't know what that was. And it was a habit that had come to find out. What are you doing? We had to ask, what are you doing? What do you mean, what am I doing? The noise that you're making. They grew up with their grandpa doing that. And they picked it up for whatever reason, but they weren't aware of it. But it was annoying to other people until someone said, look, what are you doing? What is this?

[A]

Yeah. I mean, so often it Makes sense. We are not, especially if it's been a part of us for decades. We just, we don't know. These are the tells in certain situations. I remember not too long ago being at a small gathering. And I'm an introverted person, I'm a quieter person. I move into social situations cautiously. And I found myself having a conversation with somebody new. And I noticed very quickly that he positioned himself at an angle to me and it was uncomfortable for me. He wasn't looking around or sort of scanning the room for an exit or

[B]

another person to talk to, but his body was turned.

[A]

But his body was just very slightly turned away from me and he was kind of gazing past me. So it was like, I'm going to run an experiment here. So I kind of subtly shifted over back into his gaze so I was facing him navel to navel. Within five seconds, he slightly rotates again. Literally over the course of 15 minutes, we did a full 360 together. And I'm saying to myself, and he wasn't disengaged like we were having a conversation. He wasn't looking. He didn't seem to be obviously looking for an exit or looking over his shoulder or seeking somebody else. And I was just so fascinated. I was like, what's going on here? Is this somebody who's just actually very socially uncomfortable and maybe is neurodivergent in a way where he's very just uncomfortable being face to face with somebody or looking them in the eye. Is there some other social thing or am I in some way making him uncomfortable? And I was never able to actually piece it together, but it was, I wasn't offended, but I was curious.

[B]

Well, let me ask you this. With you being an introvert, a self proclaimed introvert and you know that it is extroverts when they invade the proximity, the personal space of an introvert, you know, without permission or without the right, it could make them uncomfortable. So just with the moment that you spent with him, if you were to guess or assess, would you say that that individual, by the way they were turning and moving if they were an introvert?

[A]

I would imagine so. And because that tends to be my orientation, I tend to be really sensitive to that too and give people their space. So I wasn't sort of like closing in on his personal space. I tend to be pretty good with that. But maybe it was just that and maybe he was just very socially uncomfortable in a way where he just kind of kept not wanting to connect too much because it just didn't feel good to him, which I honor. So, like I said, it became more of a curiosity to me. I was like, oh, this is just kind of fascinating. I'm curious. Curious about what's going on.

[B]

How did it make you feel initially?

[A]

Oh, not comfortable. Like, not like. Yeah, it made me feel like I was being sort of, like, pushed away or dismissed until I gave it a beat and said, maybe that's not actually what's really happening here. But my sense is, a lot of people wouldn't have given it that beat. They would have just been like, oh, this person's turning their body away from me. You know, they're not interested in me.

[B]

And if they. Here's another thing. If they start turning the body away and the shoulders begin to roll in as if they're about to go into the fetal position, it could also be issues of feeling insecure. See, for every emotion, there's emotion and there's a story. For every emotion, there's an emotion that goes with it. A body language, movement, and there's a story attached to it. So the story, we may perceive it as one way, but the body was telling us, by turning away, that I am not ready to be fully connected. Don't take it personal. I am not ready for anyone to be in my space. And, yes, we have to honor that. Now, here's the thing. You probably didn't have the opportunity to find out. Is that the norm, his norm, are the exception?

[A]

Yeah. No, you're right.

[B]

The life of the party, the next 20 minutes, wow. Could have been me.

[A]

Right?

[B]

Right.

[A]

Yeah. And so interesting, too, right? Because let's say you're that person, and maybe this is something that has actually become a part of you through past trauma. Right? There's a safety. You don't feel safe in certain social situations, regardless who the other people are, you're still living with a certain amount of trauma in your system, and maybe that's affecting you. So you show up at a party every time somebody approaches you to just get to know you or say hi, because you have this ingrained trauma response that shows up in a physical turning away. You turn away. The other person feels rejected, they walk away, and that becomes this repeated pattern. And you're probably wondering, why do people keep rejecting me, having no idea this is even going on? I mean, do you see things like that happening in your work?

[B]

It happens a lot. And then again, remember what you said? So we said, for every emotion, there's emotion. And like you said, and I mentioned, there's a story. There's a story attached to it. So Oprah Winfrey and Whoopi Goldberg shared a story when the musical the Color Purple came out. And for some reason prior to that, they did not speak to each other. They were upset with each other. When they got together to do this big interview for the musical the Color Purple and to do the interview, they didn't know why they were angry with each other. They were just angry. They didn't even know the story. So what I'm saying is what happens if we create a narrative but we don't know the story? And that's Ask Ask acronym Ask Seek and knock. And Knock is asking the permission to open the door to continue to have additional dialogue and conversation. Ask, you know, ask question that allow you to peel the onion, seek to understand and then knock on the door to be able to come in to step into their heart, their mind, and their space.

[A]

Yeah, that makes a lot of sense. And I would imagine also, you know, if you ask and the response is either non verbally or verbally, I'm not there, then we have to respect that, too.

[B]

We have to honor that. Yeah, we have to. And we honor that with grace. We bless and release it. We do not take remnants and apply it to us. Is it me? No. We meet people where they're at. We're human.

[A]

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[B]

So I'm going to give you the three Cs of reading non verbal communication and I may give you a bonus c. But the three Cs. First of all, know your baseline, your norm. How do you feel when you're feeling great? What is that? What does that look like? What does that feel like? What does that sound like when you are feeling like on top of the world? What does it look like and sound like when you're feeling that you're at, at the pit of, you know what, what does that look like so that you could be able to identify it, once you're able to identify it, that you name it. Okay, you call it whatever name you want so that you can tame it. Once you name it and tame it, you could reframe it and you could do it in an instance. So when reading body language, you want to know a person's baseline and especially you need to know yours. The first C is reading nonverbals and clusters. So for example, if you are in the interview and you're feeling just a little frustrated at the moment, couple things are gonna happen that. If I was the interviewer, that validates that for me. You may sit back and sigh in exasperation. Yeah, well, my last job, okay, that's the second signal. So clusters are looking for more than one movement. All of a sudden I ask you another question that you didn't like, a question that you didn't like. And what you did was turn away. You, you crossed your leg and you turn in that angle. Wow. So this validates for me. Okay? This person is not really into it. You know, they may not be the candidate I want, but it's key to watch for the clusters in the interview as well. Because if they're leaning in and hanging on every word and then all of a sudden, sudden they are taken aback, take the pen and just lay it down on the table, push the paper, the paper forward, the interview may be over. Smack their hand on the table, slap their hand on the table, the interview may be over. So watching for those clusters, more than one movement, the second C, very important. Congruency it is critical when you go in an interview that your words, your tone, and your nonverbal. So words, tonality, and nonverbal, the body language. Here's a sound bite for you. If all three don't agree that there is a disconnect in the message between you and me, I can't fold my arms and says, you know, I really love you, let's get therapy. No, the arms folded. The tone was not right. So if all three, the words, the tone, and the non verbal, don't agree, there's a disconnect in the message. And the third C is context. And context is this. Let's say you're going to that interview and the temperature that day is 90 degrees. 90 degrees Fahrenheit. I mean, it's hot, humid. I'll get out. And you walk into the interview in full winter gear. I don't know, your parka, your down coat, a fur coat, be it real fur, faux fur, whatever. It's winter gear. The interviewer can't even think straight. They're going, what's up with this person? Because it's out of context. If your behavior all of a sudden because someone asks you a question and all of a sudden you lose it, it's out of context. So be aware of those three Cs. And the bonus C is culture. When in Rome, do as the Romans do. You want to fit in. You really don't want to stand out. You could go to jail by doing wrong movements and gestures and phrases, if you will, even the wrong body language. The sign that we make in the United States for aok, this sign for those that are looking at me and those that are listening, you know, the AOK sign is quite obscene in different parts of the world. So having that awareness is so critical.

[A]

Yeah, that makes so much sense. As you're describing this, I'm kind of nodding along on the one hand, but then there's another voice that's popping up in me, and I'm guessing you've heard this before, which is, is there a line that we cross when we think about, okay, so now I know all these different things to look for. I have a series of techniques. I know ways to sort of shape my physicality and to look for the physicality of others, to try and kind of like show up or manipulate the way that I'm showing up. And I'm not using manipulate within moral judgment there, but just change the way that I'm showing up in a way where I'm checking as many boxes as I Possibly can, so that we have the positive outcome that we talked about wanting early in that conversation? Is there a risk of crossing a line at some point where I'm moving from actually, I'm showing up in a way which is no longer. Which is in service of the other or the conversation or the outcome more than it's in service of me showing up authentically anymore.

[B]

So are you asking me the phrase, I think that was coined by Mary Kay Ash if I showed up faking it till I make it?

[A]

Yeah. Like, is there a risk of giving up so much of ourselves in the name of creating a particular dynamic or outcome that we kind of feel like we're losing ourselves in the mix? And even though we may get the outcome that we thought we wanted, we feel like we're kind of hollowing ourselves out inside?

[B]

Let's talk about this. There is a quote that was coined by the late Mary Kay Ash, founder of Mary Kay, and the quote was, fake it till you make it. So Linda Clemens has a quote. I have a quote for you. The fake will fade because the true essence of who you are is going to begin to surface. So I want to give you an acronym. Think of tap dancing, tapping on the table. And T as in Tom, A as in Apple, P as in Paul. And we're talking about your best self. Because, you know, just like there are many faces of Eve and many faces of Adam there, I want you to show up. We're talking about your best self. So I want you to think about this acronym. When you are your truthful best self, that's the T. Truthful, you will show up in your authentic best self. So if you've got the truth, you're authentic. Then it shows up in the proof. And the proof is your nonverbal. See, when you come across, desperate, if you will, by trying to pour everything, get somebody to like me, trying to do this, then losing breath as you're looking at them taking their temperature, are they liking me? Then you're going up for arrogance. That makes people uneasy, if you will, because there are other narratives that are going on and there are other stories that are taking place as to why you're showing up. That way. People who are confident and in control know who they are. They know the value that they bring, and they stand on that. They're sure about that when they share their expertise, they share it in stories, examples of the outcome, and they know if you are just sharing information to get validation and by the way, facial validation. What if you have an interviewer that does not give you that validation. When I say validation, when someone says something, the eyebrows go, ooh, okay, huh. And the sounds and the mouth and the twitching of the lip and the eyes just to let someone know that you're with them, if you will. Some people may not be that way. They may be very stoic. They may be the poker face, as they call it. And then you may be a kinesthetic communicator dominated kinesthetic, and you're looking for that emotional connection and you could take it personal if you're not getting it. If the individual perhaps is an analytical now you're falling apart, he or she doesn't like me. So tap, tap, tap. When you are your truthful positive self, A, your authentic positive self, p will show up in the proof. And that's in your body.

[A]

And those are pretty good words for living. I think in general too, feels like a good place for us to come full circle in our conversation. So in this container, Good Life Project, if I offer up the phrase to live a good life, what comes up?

[B]

Oh, what comes up for me? I think of Irma Bob Beck, if you will. The late Irma Bobbeck, as she says, that would I. And I'm paraphrasing again, climatizing that when I leave this earth and stand before my maker, I want to stand empty. Empty because I used everything that I've got. I left everything on earth so that way I could continue to live on. Now that's the Linda Clements part of it. So when I hear that, I just want to be able to touch people in a way that their lives are better. Better so that they could spread that joy and live that good life as well.

[A]

Thank you. Hey, before you leave, be sure to tune in next week for our conversation with Julia Minson about how to disagree better so you can have less drama and more impact in your life, your work and your community. And be sure to follow Good Life Project wherever you get your podcasts so you don't miss any upcoming episodes. This episode of Good Life Project was produced by executive producers Lindsay Fox and me, John Jonathan Fields. Editing help by Alejandro Ramirez and Troy Young. Chris Carter crafted our theme music. And of course, if you haven't already done so, please go ahead and follow Good Life Project wherever you get your podcasts. If you found this conversation interesting or valuable and inspiring, chances are you did because you're still here. Do me a personal favor, a 7 second favor, and share it with just one person. If you want to share it with more, hey, that's awesome. But just one person. Even then, invite them to talk with you about what you both discovered. To reconnect and explore ideas that really matter. Because that's how we all come alive together. Until next time, I'm Jonathan Fields signing off for Good Life Project. Good Life Project is sponsored by Michaels. Your destination for all things 2026 graduation. So so if you're anywhere near midlife, there's a good chance that someone in your world is about to cross a major threshold this spring. You know, a kid finishing school, a niece walking at college, maybe even you finishing something you started later than the brochure suggested. And these moments, they matter. And how we show up for them is what people actually remember. Which is just one reason why I love that Michaels has quietly become the place for this. Their party shop isn't just arts and crafts anymore. It's balloons starting at $1.99 ready made bundles, 2026 number balloons and free inflation. And that last part, by the way, is a gift. No one wants to be the one red faced over a bike pump the morning of. You can shop in store, get same day delivery or buy online and pick up in store. Visit Michaels in store or shop online now. Michael's Everything to celebrate anything. Good Life Project is brought to you by Peloton. So I spend a lot of my day in my head building things, solving problems, creating. And one of the most reliable ways I found to move from stuff to clear is to just move, not think about moving, not plan the perfect workout, just go. And that's the idea behind the new Peloton Cross Training Tread plus. Powered by Peloton iq, it removes the cognitive load completely. Peloton IQ handles the rep counting, the form correction, the programming, so you can stop overthinking and just be in it. One smooth spin of the swivel screen takes you from running to strength training without losing momentum or breaking the flow. And that matters because the magic of movement isn't in the planning. It's in the feeling, the cognitive clarity, the emotional release, that sense of expanded possibility that shows up when you let yourself go through it fully. Peloton IQ even builds personalized plans around your mood, your energy, the instructors who resonate with you so the experience actually feels like yours. Let yourself run, lift, fail, try and go. Explore the new peloton cross training tread +onepalaton.com

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