What happens when grief doesn't just visit once—but keeps coming back? In this deeply honest conversation, Vanessa May shares how she navigated losing her son Harry, then her husband Anthony, and father during the pandemic, all while battling COVID and later a cancer diagnosis.

Vanessa doesn't sugarcoat. She doesn't spiritually bypass. She tells the truth about what it's like when the ground keeps getting ripped out from under you—and how she's found her way forward anyway.

In this episode, we explore:

The unique pain of compounded grief—losing a child and a spouse
How trauma lives in the body and can manifest as illness
Why "resilience" can feel like pressure instead of praise
Soul planning, earth school, and making meaning from loss
The loneliness of widowhood in the middle years
How Vanessa still feels Harry and Anthony guiding her
The six women featured in her new book and what they have in common
Finding the balance between spiritual hope and raw human grief

About Vanessa May:

Vanessa is a holistic grief coach, certified grief educator, nutritional therapist, and author of three books including Love Untethered: How to Live When Your Child Dies and her newest release, When Grief Takes Everything: A Survival Guide to Devastating Loss.

Connect with Vanessa:

Website: VanessaMay.co.uk
Instagram: @may.wellbeing.griefsupport

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When Grief Takes Everything: Vanessa May on Surviving Compounded Loss | EP 474