Paula went into "the void," and returned with a question that changed her life: What if grief is actually the highest form of intelligence?

In this episode of Grief and Light, I sit down with trauma and grief therapist and artist, Paula Gasparini-Santos, to explore a different way of understanding grief, one where loss becomes a portal, and "the void" transforms us.

Paula's work sits at the intersection of trauma therapy and grief, and she brings a framework that honors how intelligent grief actually is. She shares how grief operates as a form of intelligence, and how to access what it's trying to teach us.

We go deep on the surprising relationship between grief and trauma, Paula's own journey of developing intimacy with her pain, and the growing use of AI in grief support, what it can genuinely offer, and where it keeps us at arm's length from the real work.

We also get into the difference between real curiosity and curiosity that's just fear with better PR.

Paula explains how our information-gathering instinct, especially in grief, often becomes a way to stay safe rather than a way to grow. And she offers practices for building a relationship with emptiness, with silence, with the parts of ourselves we usually try to outrun.

If you're looking for a different perspective on grief, and ways to move through, tune in.

In this episode:

Grief as one of life's highest forms of intelligence
Why grief and trauma are more connected than we think
What "intimacy with grief" actually looks like in practice
What "the void" is, and isn't
How to trust the unknown
AI in grief processing: where it helps and where it doesn't
The distinction between true curiosity and fear-based seeking
Low-dopamine practices for reconnecting with yourself
Why sitting with emptiness might be exactly what healing requires

💬 "If we deny grief as a universal experience, we deny the pivot point for regeneration and expansion to happen." — Paula Gasparini-Santos

Connect with Paula Gasparini-Santos:

Art: https://paulagasparini-santos.com/
Work with Paula: https://www.theconsciousconnection.org/
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