Sylvia Wolfer has lived through a lifetime of loss. Her father died suddenly when she was seven. Her younger brother, Johan, at sixteen. Her older brother, Stefan, in 2019. Her mother in 2023.

She has navigated decades of layered grief. Through neuroscience, mindfulness, and work in the body, she has come to understand that grief can be in your life without running your life. In fact, you get to be "the boss."

In this conversation, we explore what it means to live alongside loss without being consumed by it. We talk about the weight of sudden grief, the complexity of family dynamics, and the quiet, ongoing relationship we maintain with those who have died.

We Explore:

Why grief is so often misunderstood, and why we are not powerless to it
The distinct impact of sudden versus anticipated loss
How grief moves differently through sibling bonds, parent-child relationships, and across time
Her practice of “grief appointments," a structure that allows emotion without overwhelm
Anger in grief, how to leverage its energy, and what it protects
The "body budget" and why supporting the nervous system is foundational
Post-traumatic growth, the window of tolerance, and what integration actually looks like
Continued bonds: how each person we've lost lives on differently within us
Buddhist grief practices, the dana tradition, and a different relationship to death

If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by loss(es), unsure how to move forward, or disconnected from yourself in grief, this conversation offers a deeply human, grounded perspective.

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