Grief / podcast /grieving insomnaics

From the outside, it can look like someone is doing grief “the right way.”
Holding it together. Saying the right things. Moving forward.

But grief doesn’t follow rules—and it doesn’t always show its deepest truths where others can see.

In this episode, I share the impact of losing a high school classmate to suicide—after she had already lost her son the same way. It made me question everything we think we know about grief, healing, and what it means to be “okay.”

For a long time, I pulled back.
I stopped sharing.
I quieted my voice—because I was afraid of showing up as the grieving one.
Afraid of being seen in the mess of it.

But silence didn’t make the grief easier. It just made it lonelier.

This episode is about what happens when we stop trying to perform grief…
and start allowing it to be seen.

Now, I’m choosing something different.
I’m grieving out loud. Everywhere.

In this episode, I talk about:

The illusion of “doing grief right”
How comparison can quietly isolate us
The fear of being seen in our pain
What happened when I stopped sharing—and why it didn’t help
Choosing authenticity over silence

If you’ve ever felt like you had to hide your grief to be acceptable…
this conversation is for you.

You don’t have to do this quietly.
You don’t have to do this perfectly.

You just have to be real.