Podcast
Growth Marriage
Hosted by Nate Bagley · EN
Here at the Growth Marriage podcast, we believe every couple can have amazing communication, deep connection, and passionate, knock-your-socks-off love.
Back in 2012 I quit my fancy corporate job, sold everything I owned, and started traveling the United States with the goal of uncovering the secrets to truly epic love.
I've been trained by the world's top experts, researchers, and authors - and I've interviewed the most incredible couples on the planet. And now my only focus is sharing the secrets of what makes amazing love possible with you.
Each week I'll give you the tools you need take your marriage to the next level… but only if you're willing take action. You'll see that legendary love happens by choice, not by chance.
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The Curse of Religious Perfectionism
May 6, 202200:52:56Tap to summarizeScrupulosity, or religious perfectionism/OCD, can be debilitating for both individuals and couples. The belief that unless you do everything right, keep all the rules, are perfectly obedient, and live according to God's will... something terrible will happen. This episode with perfectionism expert, Dr. Menije explores how our anxiety leaks out into our spiritual life. She provides some great examples of what scrupulosity can look like, and what we can do about it.
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What Is Differentiation? | Anxiety Series #2
Apr 26, 202200:08:51Tap to summarizeIn order to master your anxiety, you must become differentiated. Differentiation is the ability to separate your thoughts from your feelings, and to separate your own thoughts and feelings from the thoughts and feelings of others. This is a practice you will be working on for the rest of your life. Today's episode will introduce you to the first part of differentiation, and give you some first steps to start calming yourself down.
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Friendship In The Age of Loneliness with Adam "Smiley" Poswolsky
Apr 22, 202200:42:17Tap to summarizeFriendship is the foundation of your marriage. If you can't be a good friend to people outside your marriage, it's unlikely you'll be a good friend to your partner. Also, friendships outside your marriage are CRUCIAL for the survival of your relationship. Your community is your bedrock. In today's episode, I talk to the author of the new book, "Friendship in the Age of Loneliness," Adam Smiley Powsolwky. We talk about why friendship is important, and give a bunch of ideas of how to cultivate more meaningful friendships.
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Your Internal Smoke Alarm | Anxiety Series #1
Apr 20, 202200:06:21Tap to summarizeAnxiety is basically negative emotions that your brain manufactures to help keep you safe from potential threats... kind of like a smoke alarm. But just like a smoke alarm, there's no special mechanism to help it detect the severity of the threat. Bacon burning on the stove gets the same treatment as a house fire. This is a problem because at some point in your marriage, your partner is going to hurt you, disappoint you, or let you down. That means your brain will detect them as a threat, which will drive a wedge between you. In order to keep the connection alive, we need to learn to effectively manage our internal anxiety alarm. In today's episode, the first episode of the Anxiety Series, I'm going to talk a bit more about what anxiety is, and what we're supposed to do about it.
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The Go-Giver Marriage
Apr 8, 202200:52:04Tap to summarizeSome people have relationships that just look so easy, so smooth, and so natural. How do they do it? Are they just lucky? Or are they doing something that everyone else is missing? In this episode, I sit down with John and Ana Mann, authors of the book "The Go-Giver Marriage." This interview (and their book) uncomplicates love and marriage in a really beautiful way. I hope you give it a listen, and check out their new book at: HTTP://gogivermarriage.com
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What Should You Do If You're Caught In An Affair?
Mar 25, 202200:45:27Tap to summarizeAffairs are more common than you'd think. Roughly 50% of marriages are faced with some sort of infidelity at some point during their relationship. So... what do you do if you're caught up in an affair? What do you say if you've fallen hard for someone that's not your partner? How do you respond if your spouse just told you they've been cheating? How can you recover? That's what we're going to talk about in this episode with Kimberly Holmes from Marriage Helper.
Transcribe →Why You Shouldn't "Become One" With Your Parnter
Mar 22, 202200:04:55Tap to summarizeWere you ever told that "Becoming One" was the ultimate goal in marriage? Or if you put your partner's needs before your own (and if they do the same) your relationship would flourish? Every day I see people who buy into these nice-sounding mindsets, only to watch their marriage slowly crumble. If you are: A fixer... Or you avoid negative emotions because you think they're bad... Or you find yourself turning to things like porn, video games, social media, or workaholism... Or you really struggle to ask for what you want... Or you're subtly dishonest and manipulative... You should check out the Epic Husbands Experiment right now. There are only a few spots left, and doors close in a few days.
Transcribe →Why Is Being A "Nice Guy" Bad?
Mar 18, 202201:00:48Tap to summarizeDr. Robert Glover says,"Nice Guy Syndrome represents a belief that if Nice Guys are 'good,' they will be loved, get their needs met, and live a problem-free life. When this life strategy fails to produce the desired results — as it often does — Nice Guys usually just try harder, doing more of the same. Due to the sense of helplessness and resentment this pattern inevitably produces, Nice Guys are often anything but nice." Today, I sit down with 2 other recovering Nice Guys and talk about the toll Nice Guy Syndrome had on our relationships and some of the things we've done to try to get better. If you need help overcoming Nice Guy Syndrome, check out the Epic Husbands Experiment. Spots are limited, so apply soon!
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5 Tips to Change Your Partner
Feb 22, 202200:17:01Tap to summarizeIs your partner checked out, no longer invested, withdrawn, or distant? Do you want to know what you can do to change them? To re-engage them? To get them invested in the marriage again? In this episode, I'll show you how the concepts of animal training can be utilized to help you take responsibility for your actions, words, and thoughts to influence change – and even transformation in your partner. The results often take time, but the proof is in the pudding: If you're truly committed, you can change your partner, and change your marriage... simply by changing yourself. 🙋♂️ If you are a husband who wants to experience how this works, apply for the Epic Husbands Experiment here: HTTP://epichusbandsexperiment.com 🙋♀️ If you are a wife who wants to experience how this works, start the Epic Wives Experiment today: HTTP://epicwivesexperiment.com
Transcribe →The Cost of Perfectionism with Dr. Menije [FULL EPISODE]
Feb 18, 202200:43:24Tap to summarizeThis is the full, unedited version of my interview with Dr. Menije, the Queen of Perfectionism.
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