Does your life look “good” on paper, but internally, you’re still anxious, still restless, and still trying to prove something to yourself or to someone else?

Do you feel like no matter what you accomplish, you can never arrive at that deep sense of peace?

Then listen and share this episode with someone you know feels the same.

In this important episode, Kayla explores the psychological underpinnings of why many women equate achievement with self-worth and how this can lead to anxiety and burnout. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing these patterns and shifting the focus from external validation to internal safety and self-acceptance. Through practical insights and reflective practices, she encourages listeners to redefine success and embrace stillness as a path to healing.

Takeaways

Moms often feel a push and pull between their roles and personal ambitions.

The pressure to achieve can stem from childhood experiences and societal expectations.

Success is often equated with love and validation, leading to a cycle of anxiety.

Hypervigilance in childhood can lead to adult behaviors of overachievement and anxiety.

Recognizing the need for safety over success is crucial for mental well-being.

It's important to separate self-worth from achievements and external validation.

Practicing stillness and self-acceptance can help rewire the nervous system.

Redefining success as alignment with one's true self can lead to fulfillment.

Acknowledging the discomfort of rest is a step towards healing.

Building a sense of internal safety is essential for personal growth.

Keywords

motherhood, identity, success, safety, mental health, personal growth, achievement, self-worth, nervous system, self-care

References:

Episode 167 with Becky Aste: When Talk Therapy Isn't Enough

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