Ray Jacobson (35:43)
This. I'm glad you said that, because this is something that I feel like is, you know, when you're, like, in a conversation with someone and you have a thing you want to say, and so you sort of try to, like, draw them to your little area where you'll get to, like, stand on your soapbox like that. This is my soapbox thing. Not so much in this conversation, but almost all the time, because I find it very frustrating to the symptoms of symptoms point when we get those questions that are like, hey, like, I, you know, like, I. I don't know, lost one of my socks or I was late to something, or usually it's more like I got so spaced out that I couldn't do this and. Or mostly phone stuff. Like, a lot of stuff is, like, I'm paying too much attention to the Internet. I feel like my attention Spanish for all this stuff. The question that I want to ask, and I try not to, because, like I said, I don't like to, like, gatekeep or keep people from asking more questions that they might need to delete themselves further down a path of whatever it is, whether it's figure out they have ADHD or simply, like, understanding why they're doing a behavior they don't like or whatever it is is. Am I allowed to swear on the show? Has it fucked your life up or not? Because that's the real thing, right? Like, when you cross, like, if you look at the dsm, what it is, is significant impairment is the thing that means you have this or you have maybe traits of it, but not the disorder piece. And I know a lot of people have differing feelings, and understandably so all the sides to me are Genuinely understandable. I go with disorder because for me, that's what it has been like. I failed out of high school. I failed out of multiple colleges. I took drugs. I had significant challenges with depression and anxiety, postpartum depression, which we now know is a huge issue for women with adhd. Something else that we don't talk about that much. This has been, for me, job loss, challenges with family and friends issues, being able to live my life, all of the things that come on the plate, right? And some wonderful things. Like, I get to be here today talking to you and, you know, enjoying the fact that this is a neurotype also and that it comes with some wonderful things. But I don't. I don't like it when people throw out a bunch of kind of like, ugh, what a draggy day kind of symptoms and are like, maybe I have adhd. And you're like, okay, you know, like, I don't think people do that about other things in the same way. Although I do know a friend with OCD who's just talking about how if she hears somebody else saying they're so ocd, she's going to flip, you know, because they, like, organize their sock drawer or something. You know, this thing that's caused her immense difficulty throughout her life. But to me, there is this thing where you're, like, kind of stuck when you get those questions, because I find it to be like a. Two roads diverged, right? Like, you can be like, okay, like, let's walk down this path together. And then the other part of me occasionally is like, shut the fuck up.
