Edi Patterson asks about vibey books

Summary

Handsome Podcast Episode Summary

Episode Title: Edi Patterson asks about vibey books
Hosts: Tig Notaro, Fortune Feimster, Mae Martin
Guest Question Asker: Edie Patterson
Release Date: October 28, 2025
Podcast Network: Headgum

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Overview

In this episode, comedians Tig Notaro, Fortune Feimster, and Mae Martin tackle a question from Edie Patterson—actor, comedian, and writer—about the most "vibey" book they've read recently. The conversation meanders through hotel pranks, friendship with celebrities, naked spa trips, childhood reading incentives, and ends with genuine book recommendations, both practical and offbeat. The tone is warm, irreverent, and full of self-deprecating humor, staying true to the show’s playful, intimate dynamic.

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Main Discussion Points & Insights

Pre-Question Banter & Life Updates

• Hotel Antics & Leaving Notes Behind Paintings

  • Fortune describes her ritual of leaving secret notes behind hotel room paintings, encouraging listeners in Atlanta to find her note (Room 1308, brown painting). (06:00–08:04)
  • The hosts joke about giving prizes to people who find the notes, escalating the silliness with made-up rewards.
  • Mae jokes: “I’m going to fly to their house and deliver [a key]” (07:32).

• Tig’s Droopy Eye and Eye Doctor Ordeals

  • Tig recounts developing a “droopy eye,” and the difficulty of booking specialist appointments in LA. (03:11–04:40)
  • The group jokes about discovering low-key medical “Easter eggs” in the podcast video episodes.

• Fortune’s Film Shoots with Will Ferrell

  • Fortune gives a behind-the-scenes look at filming with Will Ferrell, describing their similar comedic styles and camaraderie on set (12:25–14:31).
    • “In the scenes, it’s so fun to make each other laugh … I have to pinch myself sometimes.” — Fortune (13:05)
  • The hope of getting Will to submit a future question is floated.

• Mae’s Awkward Mystery Caller

  • Mae shares a story about repeatedly receiving calls from a woman, “Jennifer from Toronto,” who likely doesn't actually know her and may have gotten her number under mysterious circumstances. (19:03–22:58)
  • “She says, I saw you at Sweaty Betty's, … and I think we matched on Raya… But I have no memory.” — Mae (21:18)
  • The co-hosts joke about the situation turning into a horror movie or a catfishing incident.

• Naked Friend Experiences & Embarrassment

  • The trio riff on nakedness among friends at spas, contrasting comfort levels and sharing funny stories about Sarah Silverman and Chelsea Handler, both of whom are comfortable baring all. (28:01–29:59)

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Main Segment: "Vibey Books"

Edie Patterson’s Question (Starts at 35:34)

“I want to know: What’s your favorite book you’ve read most recently that you found to be the most vibey, in whatever way?”
— Edie Patterson [35:43]

What Does "Vibey" Mean?

• The hosts debate what defines “vibey”. Mae jokes about whether people called Dostoevsky “vibey” when Crime and Punishment was published (36:09).
• Tig, deadpan: “First off, the Bible is very vibey.” [36:16]

Recent Reading Habits

• Mae Martin shares her current book pick (The Book of Symbols) and her ritual of keeping crystals atop her bedside tomes, hoping for osmotic knowledge.
  • “I’m not really reading it. I’m hoping that by putting the crystals on top, I’m just absorbing all the information.” — Mae (43:45)
• Fortune Feimster admits to having a library card (via the Libby app), offers a string of intended-but-unread biographies (Viola Davis’s Finding Me, Cicely Tyson’s Just As I Am), and confesses her preference for non-fiction.
  • “Everyone should have a library card if you like any sort of book.” — Fortune (44:27)
• Tig Notaro says she prefers biographies, autobiographies, and self-help, like the book Anxious Nation—about addiction, self-soothing, and the modern pursuit of balance.
  • “It was about people’s addiction with alcohol, food, sex, drugs, cell phones, social media… it was actually a really fun surprise.” — Tig (49:06)
• The hosts acknowledge their struggle to find time to read and reminisce about reading as kids and the incentives that worked ("Pizza Hut, because, you guys, I'm motivated by food!" — Fortune [53:16–53:19]).

Recommendations from Producer Thomas

• Priestdaddy by Patricia Lockwood: "It’s so funny. Painting a portrait of a weird, dysfunctional family." — Thomas (57:07)
• Rejection by Tony Tulathimutte: Short stories about rejection interwoven with online culture.
• The Vaster Wilds by Lauren Groff: A survival adventure set in 1610 Jamestown, heralded for its beautiful ending.
• Thomas assigns each book to the hosts based on personality; Tig: The Vaster Wilds, Fortune: Priestdaddy, Mae: Rejection. (58:05–58:22)

Edie Patterson’s Own "Vibey" Pick (60:27)

“Mine is a book that my niece told me about: Bunny by Mona Awad, and it's so vibey... The whole book is kind of like you go into a dream and come out after. It’s really, really cool.”
— Edie (60:28–61:08)

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Notable Quotes & Moments

• On Bookish Vibes:
  • “Do you think when Dostoevsky put out Crime and Punishment, people were like, this is vibing?” — Mae (36:11)
  • “First off, the Bible is very Vibey.” — Tig (36:16)
• On Reading Habits:
  • “I think Thomas reads a book a week… and it shows, because he’s a grounded and informed individual who keeps us on track.” — Mae (39:03)
  • “When I was a kid, Pizza Hut … did a summer thing where if you read a certain amount of books, you could get a free personal pan pizza. … I would go to the library with my grandma and get like six books ... and then I would get to go get my free personal pan pizza.” — Fortune (53:16–53:50)
  • “Once you do get into a book and make it a habit, it is really a nice thing that you look forward to.” — Fortune (50:27)
• On Self-Help & Autobiography:
  • “I realized I was so disconnected from my actual reality… I was just talking like I was doing it.” — Tig (48:35–48:48)
• On Edie’s Recommendation:
  • “The whole book is kind of like you go into a dream and come out after. It’s really, really cool.” — Edie on Bunny (60:49)

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Timestamps for Key Segments

• 06:00–08:04 | Fortune’s hotel note prank and Atlanta shoutout
• 12:25–14:31 | Filming stories with Will Ferrell
• 19:03–22:58 | Mae’s mystery Toronto caller “Jennifer”
• 28:01–29:59 | Nakedness among friends, Chelsea Handler & Sarah Silverman stories
• 35:34 | Edie Patterson’s question
• 39:45–44:00 | The hosts’ recent/current books and reading habits
• 57:07–58:22 | Thomas’s three book recommendations
• 60:27–61:08 | Edie’s answer: Bunny by Mona Awad

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Atmosphere & Tone

• Playful, Roasting, and Genuine: The hosts keep a breezy, bantering flow, frequently roast each other, and readily embrace tangents. They’re honest about their struggles with reading, and their affection for each other and their listeners is palpable throughout.
• Relatable: The mix of jokes and earnest admissions about modern distractions, reading less, and the nostalgia for libraries keeps the show down-to-earth.
• Irreverent: Expect sex jokes, running gags about nakedness, celebrity nudity, and the occasional cheeky swerve into the absurd.

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Book Recommendations List

1. The Book of Symbols (Taschen) - Mae’s current bedside “vibey” book
2. Finding Me by Viola Davis - Fortune’s aspirational read
3. Broken Horses by Brandi Carlile - Fortune (read & recommends)
4. Just As I Am by Cicely Tyson - Fortune (on list)
5. Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel - Fortune (recommended by Tig, also good as an audiobook)
6. Live Your Life by Amanda Kloots - Fortune (read & recommends)
7. Anxious Nation (author not specified) - Tig (on work-life balance, addiction, self-regulation)
8. Priestdaddy by Patricia Lockwood - Producer Thomas’s humorous family memoir recommendation
9. Rejection by Tony Tulathimutte - Thomas’s pick, short stories on rejection and online culture
10. The Vaster Wilds by Lauren Groff - Thomas’s book-club-level gripping adventure
11. Bunny by Mona Awad - Edie Patterson’s “most vibey” recent read

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Memorable Tangents (and Why You’ll Want to Listen)

• Fortune’s prank for Atlanta hotel guests and dreams of a fan finding her note (08:00)
• Mae’s saga with the mysterious “Jennifer from Toronto” (19:03)
• Naked spa stories, Sarah Silverman and Chelsea Handler’s exhibitionism (28:01–29:59)
• Producer Thomas breaking the fourth wall and giving out personalized book recs, along with a callback to the book-for-pizza economy (57:07–58:22, 53:16–53:50)
• The aspirational and often-neglected “Handsome List”—an ongoing inside-joke of plans the hosts never seem to fulfill, like recording a podcast naked on Zoom (31:02–31:18)

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Conclusion

The “Handsome” trio delivers another hour-plus of smart, raucous, and often self-deprecating hilarity, this time circling around the theme of “vibey” books. They tackle how hard it is to read for pleasure as busy adults, reminisce about childhood book habits and incentives, celebrate the joy of real libraries, and share the most memorable or mood-altering things they’ve read lately—included are thoughtful and, naturally, some completely sidetracked recommendations.

Whether you’re a voracious reader or just want the vibe of being one, this episode has you covered—with laughs, nostalgia, and a renewed appreciation for the simple happiness of getting lost in a good (or at least a very “vibey”) book.

Transcript

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[May Martin]

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[Fortune Feemster]

Cheers. Welcome to the Handsome pod. I'm Fortune Feemster. Who is that?

[May Martin]

And who's that?

[Tig Notaro]

May, it's me, Tick.

[May Martin]

It's me, Mae.

[Tig Notaro]

Hey.

[Fortune Feemster]

We wanted that to happen exactly like it did.

[Tig Notaro]

It was scripted.

[Fortune Feemster]

Very much so. You guys, how's everyone doing?

[May Martin]

Well, we're distracted by your beautiful eyes reflected by your beautiful baby blue shirt.

[Tig Notaro]

Thank you.

[Fortune Feemster]

Look, when I wear blue, my eyes get bluer. Yeah, they pop.

[Tig Notaro]

Pop.

[May Martin]

Isn't that weird that you just wear a different Color shirt, and then your eyes look bluer.

[Fortune Feemster]

Are you guys mesmerized by my beauty?

[Tig Notaro]

I can't see them, but. I can't see them.

[Fortune Feemster]

But I believe that. Why can't you see?

[Tig Notaro]

You know, I have to. I. I wish I had an answer to this. I told you about how I now have this droopy eye. I have to go to the doctor, see what's going on with me. Can you see how I have this?

[Fortune Feemster]

I didn't notice it until you pointed it out. And now I'm like, yeah, you have a droopy eye, but are you doing.

[May Martin]

It on purpose right now?

[Tig Notaro]

Oh, my.

[Fortune Feemster]

Are you doing. Why on earth are you really doing this?

[Tig Notaro]

It's.

[Fortune Feemster]

It's.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

That was also scripted before the show. I thought, I'm going to have one of my eyes droop.

[Fortune Feemster]

No.

[Tig Notaro]

If you go back and look at the podcast, you'll see that for the past few months, I have this slight droop in my right eye.

[Fortune Feemster]

And so.

[Tig Notaro]

Easter egg.

[Fortune Feemster]

Yes, an Easter egg. A troopy Easter egg, like Taylor Swift.

[Tig Notaro]

So, yeah, I have to go see what's going on with my eyes. Why do I have a droopy eye?

[Fortune Feemster]

I love that you are like, I'll go see about it in a couple months. Yeah.

[May Martin]

Yeah. I wonder if it's, like, the optic nerve or something.

[Tig Notaro]

You know what? If you Google it, it's aging to really scary things, so it could. We're. We're gonna. We're gonna check that out.

[Fortune Feemster]

And.

[Tig Notaro]

But. And also, my eyesight, as I've mentioned in the past few months, has just gone, so time for a new prescription.

[Fortune Feemster]

I definitely think you should go to the eye doctor.

[Tig Notaro]

I'm going. But the thing is, is, like, getting. There's a doctor at Cedars, which is where I go to all my appointments, and. And the ophthalmologist there no longer is there. And then somebody else is, like, trying to pick up all the slack. And so it's, like, months away that you can get an appointment. Who cares? All I'm saying is, when I say I can't see, believe me, but I'm on it, trying to get it figured out. What's going on with my eyesight.

[Fortune Feemster]

Good.

[May Martin]

Just so you can see Fortune's baby blues.

[Tig Notaro]

Yes. And listen, those of you at home, if you have a YouTube, look at it, and ladies, and even men, that.

[Fortune Feemster]

If Fortune's your type, especially men or.

[Tig Notaro]

Ladies, I mean, check out these eyes that I'm hearing are popping right now.

[May Martin]

There's a lot to look at on. On YouTube right now. Because you got the droopy eye. You got the baby blues. You got my pile of garbage in the background of my.

[Fortune Feemster]

Yeah, you still haven't donated anything.

[Tig Notaro]

There is so much going on, and yet nothing is going on.

[Fortune Feemster]

Yet nothing.

[Tig Notaro]

Yet nothing.

[Fortune Feemster]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

And wait, Fortune, you're in a hotel right now?

[Fortune Feemster]

I sure am.

[Tig Notaro]

Are you on tour? Are you filming something? Tell us.

[Fortune Feemster]

I'm on tour.

[May Martin]

Fortune, is it finally time for you to write a note and leave it behind? A painting and a.

[Tig Notaro]

Yes, it is. It's funny you should say that, May, because it is time.

[May Martin]

That painting right behind you, you just roll it up.

[Fortune Feemster]

Lower room number. I'm in.

[Tig Notaro]

I bet you can find it.

[Fortune Feemster]

How will I ever find out? Wait, I think I remember.

[May Martin]

It's usually written on the door.

[Fortune Feemster]

I'm in Atlanta for my show. This is at the Fourth Hotel.

[May Martin]

It's called the Fourth Hotel.

[Fortune Feemster]

Huh?

[May Martin]

Okay. I thought you changed hotels three times.

[Fortune Feemster]

And I guess I can. You guys are gonna have to remind me, this room number is 1308.

[May Martin]

I mean, is there. Do you have a pen nearby? We could do it with you now somewhere over there.

[Fortune Feemster]

Are you gonna make me get up?

[Tig Notaro]

Fortune can't get up.

[May Martin]

Sorry. Okay, okay, we'll do it.

[Fortune Feemster]

I'll. There's a brown painting in here. A big, square brown painting. All right, what do you want me to put on there? Keep it handsome.

[May Martin]

Don't desecrate the painting itself.

[Fortune Feemster]

No, on a note. And I'm gonna put it on a note and put it behind the painting.

[May Martin]

Yeah, roll it up. Yeah. Keep it hand.

[Fortune Feemster]

Keep it handsome.

[May Martin]

Knock, knock. Joke.

[Fortune Feemster]

And if someone finds this, they get a key, Right?

[May Martin]

They get a key. And the key will only open one.

[Tig Notaro]

Oh, yeah. It's a keychain.

[Fortune Feemster]

It's not.

[Tig Notaro]

You don't actually get our merch.

[May Martin]

And I'm gonna fly to their house and deliver it.

[Fortune Feemster]

Whoa.

[Tig Notaro]

That's by plane or by.

[Fortune Feemster]

Why would you do that?

[May Martin]

No, I think that's what I said last time. But I will say, like, I know it right now. You're like, I don't know if I'm gonna do this, but the satisfaction you will feel when someone at your show hands you the note that you wrote months prior in and left in a hotel.

[Fortune Feemster]

Can't wait to see if someone does this.

[May Martin]

It was thrilling.

[Fortune Feemster]

1308. Behind the brown painting.

[May Martin]

In Atlanta.

[Fortune Feemster]

In Atlanta. In Hotlanta, I think, is what we call it.

[Tig Notaro]

Oh, yeah, that's good.

[Fortune Feemster]

That's good. And the people that live here hate when you say that.

[May Martin]

Because it's not even a very good pun. Hotlanta, that's what they call it.

[Fortune Feemster]

I mean, what's. You know, for different reasons. The people are good looking and it's hot as balls here in the summer.

[Tig Notaro]

Fortune Marie. Fortune Marie. Like you know anything about the temperature of that body part?

[Fortune Feemster]

I would imagine two round things stuck underneath another thing. Get hot.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

Wow. Did you go to medical school?

[Fortune Feemster]

Yes, for one day online.

[May Martin]

Speaking of hot, I had a really kind of eccentric thing happen. You know, I have my friend Matt and his girlfriend Leslie living in my. My back house.

[Fortune Feemster]

Right, yes. Are they.

[May Martin]

Not anymore, no, they still are.

[Tig Notaro]

Okay.

[May Martin]

And the other day I. I was on the phone and I kind of was pacing around and I look outside and I see Leslie is lying her. But her body's just on the concrete kind of. And she's lying there very still. And I thought maybe she's looking for something. And so I. I don't know. I kind of was in the distracted. So I kept. I kept going about my day. Then later on I go, were you lying on the concrete? And she goes, yeah, I was having a nap. And she had put her head inside of this cat house that she bought for the stray cat that we feed.

[Tig Notaro]

Oh, so this classic May friend.

[Edie Patterson]

Yeah.

[May Martin]

I can't really explain how. How strange this was. It was like this. It's like this padded little cat house. It's sitting on the concrete and she's lying with her body on the concrete and her head inside this basically microwave in the hot sun.

[Fortune Feemster]

Like, oh my God.

[May Martin]

And she's like. It was so cozy and really. Yeah.

[Fortune Feemster]

I would imagine the concrete would have not been comfortable.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah. What is she used to.

[May Martin]

She can sleep anywhere.

[Tig Notaro]

Set up is like finally some. Some rest.

[May Martin]

Yeah. She's very funny and she can sleep anywhere and it's a real skill. Like I had a din. And in between like courses, she goes over to the sofa, catches 10 minutes of deep sleep, comes back to the dinner.

[Fortune Feemster]

Now when you have a dinner party, do you cook hot dogs?

[May Martin]

I think I ordered.

[Fortune Feemster]

Oh, you ordered food.

[May Martin]

I ordered sushi. Let's be honest.

[Fortune Feemster]

Oh, there you go. That's a nice dinner party food.

[Tig Notaro]

Oh, but I would love to see you make sushi.

[May Martin]

Oh my God. What would it be? Fish sticks that are microwaved and rice.

[Fortune Feemster]

Make the. Getting the rice a certain way would be the toughest part.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

What about rolling? Well, I guess there's that wooden roll thing that you.

[Fortune Feemster]

Oh, yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

Everything's fine. Maybe we should have a cooking show.

[Fortune Feemster]

Yeah, clearly we are all very skilled in the kitchen.

[May Martin]

So wait, we were saying about Atlanta being hot, and you're going to leave this note and someone's going to get it.

[Tig Notaro]

People in Atlanta are hot.

[May Martin]

People in Atlanta.

[Fortune Feemster]

Hot Atlanta.

[May Martin]

And if you're listening and you're, you know, you're a fan of the pod, you live in Atlanta or nearby, go for a little staycation with your significant other and book that room and then just. Just get that note.

[Tig Notaro]

Oh, my gosh. The hotel is going to be bombarded with phone calls wanting this specific room.

[Fortune Feemster]

And they'll be like, no or no one will.

[Tig Notaro]

Of course they will stay. Fortune Feamster stayed in that room.

[Fortune Feemster]

Oh, my God.

[May Martin]

Well, if no one does, like, I'm. I'm going to Atlanta on tour in, you know, March or something.

[Fortune Feemster]

So maybe I'll come.

[May Martin]

I'll go get it.

[Tig Notaro]

I'm sorry, we don't promote shows until the end of the episode.

[May Martin]

I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry. I slipped that in there.

[Fortune Feemster]

This is awkward.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah. I have a book coming out in, like, three years. That is not true.

[May Martin]

How is filming going? Fortune, Are you having fun?

[Fortune Feemster]

I'm having a blast. The last time we checked in was day one.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feemster]

So, yeah, you guys were like, just give it a minute. It's still delightful.

[Tig Notaro]

Oh, good.

[Fortune Feemster]

So I'm a couple weeks in most of my scenes. Well, like, 95% of my scenes so far have just been me and Will Ferrell.

[May Martin]

That's incredible.

[Fortune Feemster]

He's awesome. We're buds and we just have very similar styles, so we get along quite well. And he has a team of ladies who take care of him, like hair, makeup, wardrobe. Or like his people that do all his movies. Sure. And they're amazing and so kind. And so we all just sit around and chat in between scenes.

[Tig Notaro]

Girl talk. Girl, girl.

[Fortune Feemster]

And Will is the type who would go girl, of course. And so, yeah, we just giggle a lot together. And then in the scenes, it's so fun to make each other laugh. I mean, I have to pinch myself sometimes when I make him laugh.

[May Martin]

So that's happened. Like, you've cracked the best dream. That's the dream.

[Fortune Feemster]

And we've just established a nice rapport where we'll kind of like mention, like, jokes to each other for the scene and. And that's cool.

[Tig Notaro]

Is it improv or is it we.

[Fortune Feemster]

Do it as written and then improvise on the last couple takes and. Or we'll, like, add. You know, the scene's supposed to be like, 30 seconds and we'll draw it out to, like, five minutes.

[Tig Notaro]

Now, when are we getting a Will Ferrell question? Because he's pretty easy and approachable for that kind of thing.

[Fortune Feemster]

I know I mentioned to him a while ago, but I gotta follow up on it. I'll get. I'll have him do it at some point. He will. He said he would. I just haven't brought it up. I was gonna give it a minute.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, Keep bringing it up every day.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

Just bring your relationship closer and closer.

[Fortune Feemster]

That's right. Yeah. Because some of the people on set listen to the pod, so get them.

[May Martin]

To say in his presence, we'll see.

[Fortune Feemster]

How much they love the pod. That's right. I know.

[May Martin]

I'm always.

[Fortune Feemster]

It's always such a fun treat when you, like, meet people in different capacities and they're like. And I love handsome. You're like, oh, my God, that's so cool.

[May Martin]

It's the best.

[Tig Notaro]

I told you, Jen Aniston's chef is a. It's a big handsome.

[Fortune Feemster]

You did. And we said we wanted to get invited to dinner. And.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, she's not the one that hands out the invites.

[Fortune Feemster]

She just cooks the food. God dang it.

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[Fortune Feemster]

That reminds me, I just got a video from Chelsea Handler last night in her bra, but it was meant for somebody else.

[May Martin]

No. What do you wait.

[Fortune Feemster]

But to be fair, Chelsea would send me this anyway. Of course. Of course. I'm going to check. I think this was for someone else, but thank you.

[Tig Notaro]

Wait, she wasn't last night.

[Fortune Feemster]

It wasn't a sexual thing. It was her friend saying oh, it was like she was answering someone's question. It was not like a hey baby. It was like she just is always in a bra.

[Tig Notaro]

Put it on social media on Handsome. On the Handsome social media.

[May Martin]

Well, has she asked a question yet?

[Fortune Feemster]

We got a. Yeah, she did, but it was pre video or. No, it was just audio, I think.

[May Martin]

Yeah, maybe we. We need a new video question that's.

[Tig Notaro]

We revisit with Chelsea in her bra.

[Fortune Feemster]

Yeah, yeah, that's right. She would. She is not shy when it comes to her titties.

[May Martin]

Well, I saw.

[Tig Notaro]

I would say she's not shy in any department.

[Fortune Feemster]

I mean, I'm saying I think this was for someone else specifically named Kevin. Lol. Thanks for showing me your. Your boobs.

[May Martin]

I'm having a bit of a situation where I had and I'm like, do I. Should I talk about it or is it going to fuel it? But I was this is back when I was in Portugal with my family. My phone rings and it's a Toronto number that I don't recognize. So I pick up, I'm like, hello. And I hear, hey. And I go, hi, who's this? It's Jennifer. And I go, oh, hi, sorry, Jennifer who? And she goes, oh, my God, is this May Martin? I have your number saved as the wrong name in my phone, but how are you? What? And I said, oh, sorry, I don't know who this is. I'm in Portugal with my family. I can't really talk, but I also. I'm like, is this a friend of mine? Like. Or maybe someone like a crew member on Wayward? Who? I. Whose number? I have some. I'm being nice.

[Tig Notaro]

Who was it? Me.

[May Martin]

Well, then it was Jennifer Aniston. No, then. So then she's like. Anyway, she starts chatting away and I go, I really gotta go. So I get off the phone and then like three days ago, I'm in the gym, my phone rings. Unknown Toronto number. And I. I had forgotten about this information.

[Tig Notaro]

Who was it?

[May Martin]

Well, it's this woman, Jennifer. So I pick up. I go, hello? She goes, hi. I go. I go, who is this? She goes, oh, my God, I've done it again. I must have saved.

[Fortune Feemster]

Oh, my God.

[May Martin]

And I said, okay, I've been thinking about this. Who. Who? Can you tell me? How do we know each other? And she goes, from Toronto.

[Fortune Feemster]

Oh, that's very vague.

[May Martin]

I know. And I said, okay, I'm in the gym, I gotta go. So I hang up. Then she texts me. It goes, sorry about that, but we should make time. She goes, we might. We should make time to catch up soon.

[Fortune Feemster]

I was about to say, this is some person. Sounds like they want to talk to you.

[Tig Notaro]

So then, what on earth.

[May Martin]

I know.

[Tig Notaro]

So, like, you're saying they're faking, that they're acting? I think so.

[May Martin]

I. I don't think. I know this person.

[Tig Notaro]

Jennifer from Toronto. So we're on to you.

[Fortune Feemster]

Someone's wanting to talk to May. Yeah.

[May Martin]

I said again, I go, hey, how do we know each other? And she says, from Toronto. And I said, you have to narrow it down.

[Fortune Feemster]

That means they don't know you.

[Tig Notaro]

And her number isn't in your phone.

[May Martin]

No, it's not.

[Fortune Feemster]

This person got your number from someone?

[Tig Notaro]

Yes, we are detectives and we have solved the case. But go on.

[May Martin]

Because then I said, you're going to have to narrow it down. And she goes, lol.

[Tig Notaro]

I lol, Meaning lol?

[May Martin]

Yeah. She says, I saw you at Sweaty Betty's, which is a bar in Toronto. And then she says, and I think we matched on Raya on a dating app. Yeah. But I did not. I don't. I've looked on my Raya. I don't have a memory. Anyway, I'm just. I'm like, should I block it or.

[Tig Notaro]

Yes. The answer is yes.

[May Martin]

Yeah, for sure. I'm not really buying that. She keeps accidentally calling me.

[Fortune Feemster]

Yeah. That's weird.

[Tig Notaro]

And this is all recent.

[May Martin]

Yeah. Yeah. Well, first happened when I was in, like, July, and then it happened again recently. And, well, I mean, I like a story, so I'm kind of tempted to keep it going. Yeah. Just so I can get her to admit that we don't know each other, but.

[Tig Notaro]

Well, you know, she listens to the podcast, so she's gonna hear this.

[May Martin]

Well, look, Jennifer, I'm not mad. I'm just like, toronto, how'd you get my number?

[Tig Notaro]

And why are you not telling the truth?

[May Martin]

Yeah, yeah, yeah. Oh, yeah. I'm not mad. I just want some clarity on the mystery.

[Fortune Feemster]

Or. No. May could be interested, but we need.

[May Martin]

I like. To be the pursuer. You know, I like.

[Fortune Feemster]

We need more information from you.

[Tig Notaro]

Have you seen a picture of Jennifer?

[May Martin]

No. Don't know. I could say, can you send a picture to see if I. No. Then I'm engaging. I don't. Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

You've already engaged, by the way.

[Fortune Feemster]

Yeah, well, you could have saved her number so that you knew it was coming.

[May Martin]

Yeah, well, now I will. I'll say, jennifer who? And I'll save the number.

[Fortune Feemster]

She'll say, from Toronto.

[May Martin]

It'll. And we'll go around the town again. Yeah, I don't know what's going on there. I like a mystery, though. And.

[Fortune Feemster]

But did she say that y' all did meet at Sweaty Betty's?

[May Martin]

She said that, but I.

[Tig Notaro]

No, she said she saw you at Sweaty.

[Fortune Feemster]

Y' all don't know each other.

[May Martin]

She might be, like, a peripheral member of that friend group or something. I don't. I don't know. But, yeah, it could be the start of a horror movie for sure.

[Tig Notaro]

Years ago, I got a call from somebody so chill, like, hey, Tig, what's up? And I was like, who is this? Yeah, it was like, an office worker at a club that I had done years ago, and they were like, oh, I'm just rolling through the Rolodex. And I just. I like your comedy. Thought I'd say hi. I was weird. What?

[Fortune Feemster]

What?

[Tig Notaro]

No, no, no, no, no. Like, I. I don't want to have an awkward conversation with somebody that I. I don't. I couldn't pick out of a crowd.

[May Martin]

You know, that is strange.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah. And inappropriate.

[May Martin]

I. I will say since. Since Wayward came out, I am having a lot of people who I barely know reach out and say that they want to, like, we should write a script together. And often.

[Tig Notaro]

Well, you're the number one star in the world right now, so you're gonna get a lot of attention. You know, people want to. People want to get a dead ass.

[Ad Read Voice]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

They want a piece of that. Number one star in the world may take it in, though.

[May Martin]

Can I say, the one cool thing is I found out yesterday that the show is number one in Saudi Arabia. Qata, Doha, or, sorry, Qatar, Kuwait, Lebanon. And it just boggles my mind because you would think from the narrative in the world that pretty much the majority of people are freaked out by trans people, and actually the majority of them are watching this story and engaged in it.

[Tig Notaro]

I'm sure they're fascinated with how open and comfortable you are, and you're living a life and portraying a life that is so far from what they know and. And can even ever know. And. And you're just, like, unabashedly maybe doing this.

[May Martin]

Maybe they think I'm a boy in it. And they don't. And they don't know because it's a. The character.

[Tig Notaro]

You are a boy in it, right?

[May Martin]

Well, I'm a trans boy.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

[May Martin]

So maybe they're like.

[Fortune Feemster]

And they love a Thriller.

[May Martin]

And they love a Thriller. I think it's a good way to sneak. Sneak in.

[Tig Notaro]

And they also think there's a chance they're gonna see Tig and Fortune in there.

[Fortune Feemster]

That's right.

[Tig Notaro]

And maybe you will. Maybe you will. Just keep watching.

[Fortune Feemster]

And they're probably like, fortune will pop up with an Australian accent.

[May Martin]

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[Fortune Feemster]

Tony, don't worry. I'm gonna do my Australian accent.

[Tig Notaro]

Don't anyone worry.

[Ad Read Voice]

Don't.

[May Martin]

Don't anyone worry.

[Fortune Feemster]

No, no.

[Tig Notaro]

And maybe we'll see Tig wandering in the back eating an apple or something during.

[Fortune Feemster]

During your press. Have you asked Tony about my Australian accent? Any feedback there?

[May Martin]

I haven't, but I do love.

[Tig Notaro]

She thinks it's terrible.

[May Martin]

Well, she comments every time there's a clip of it on. On Instagram. She'll comment saying, this is the worst accent I've ever.

[Fortune Feemster]

Tony, how dare you say that about me accent?

[May Martin]

It was good until May accent.

[Fortune Feemster]

Me accent, Tony. I can do an Australian accent. Easy.

[Ad Read Voice]

Talk about razor blades and Jennifer Lopez.

[Fortune Feemster]

Guys, what I Did. Really?

[Tig Notaro]

What I love about this show is our lack of concern. Revisiting the same joke.

[Fortune Feemster]

Yeah. I just got a message back from Chelsea. Oh, my God. That is too funny.

[Tig Notaro]

That's what she wrote.

[Fortune Feemster]

She'd just be showing her boobs out there.

[May Martin]

Yeah, I. I saw a thing of her skiing naked. Right. Didn't she do that? She was topless.

[Fortune Feemster]

He's topless.

[May Martin]

That's. That's really hilarious. And must be someone who has seen.

[Fortune Feemster]

Her naked breast on a number of occasions. Many people have. Let me also preface it with that.

[Ad Read Voice]

Her boobs are great.

[May Martin]

Yeah. If you got them flaunted.

[Fortune Feemster]

She's. And they're natural. Naturals.

[May Martin]

Natural.

[Fortune Feemster]

Natural. Tigo bitties.

[May Martin]

I didn't.

[Tig Notaro]

Fortune.

[Ad Read Voice]

Fortune.

[Fortune Feemster]

I'm talking to you.

[Tig Notaro]

Take that back.

[May Martin]

Who.

[Tig Notaro]

Who could you have been talking to? Male bitties, Thomas. Old bitties. No, Tig. Old bitties.

[Fortune Feemster]

I do appreciate a friend who has nice boobs and shares them with the world.

[May Martin]

Totally.

[Fortune Feemster]

I think that is only fair that if you've been blessed with good naturals, you should share them.

[Tig Notaro]

I mean, listen, I'll be honest. I've seen a lot of nakedness of Sarah Silverman.

[Fortune Feemster]

She had nice boobs.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah. I've seen a lot of full frontal and stuff.

[Fortune Feemster]

She does talk about bush a lot.

[May Martin]

That's hilarious.

[Fortune Feemster]

Grandma's problem area.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah. Yeah. I've seen a lot of grandma's problem areas. I feel like Sarah's the. The friend that I've caught the most glimpses of of full frontal.

[May Martin]

I recently went to the Korean spa with my friend Alana Johnston, and it was the first time we've been in the full. In the nude together. We've been friends for, like, 18 years or something.

[Fortune Feemster]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

How is that?

[May Martin]

It was hilarious. She. We were. I couldn't stop laughing. It was really. I felt like a teenager. We were.

[Fortune Feemster]

I know. I don't think I want to be naked around my friends.

[Tig Notaro]

I know. I was gonna say, is the giggly stuff, like, did it teeter on, like, flirty or like. Or I don't know what that we was about. It's definitely not how I flirt, but. Because, yeah, I would not be naked in front of, like. I didn't go full frontal in front of Sarah.

[May Martin]

Yeah, right, right, right. Yeah.

[Fortune Feemster]

It was more demure.

[May Martin]

I think the. I mean, I think I was in a towel, actually. She was fully naked. No, I think it's.

[Tig Notaro]

Are you.

[Fortune Feemster]

Do you get shy about being naked in public or are you pre free?

[Tig Notaro]

Wait, didn't May go full ass?

[May Martin]

I thought, oh, in wayward.

[Fortune Feemster]

In wayward.

[May Martin]

I. I am shot. I'm. I. These days. I love taking my shirt off, but I'm. I would. I'd be shy to go full frontal. And also in. In the Korean spa, because it's a women's spa that I. That I want to continue to frequent. So I. I often wear my towel up. Around. Up around my chest like a pretty little lady, just because I don't want them to question me. But then in the safety of the steam room, me and Alana laugh. And I think it's just bizarre to be talking to your friend when you're both naked.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[May Martin]

And she's the funniest person on earth.

[Tig Notaro]

She's silly. She's very silly.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feemster]

I feel like a lot of straight women that I know don't mind being naked in front of each other.

[May Martin]

Right?

[Fortune Feemster]

I don't know. They really love to just let it all hang out.

[Tig Notaro]

Guys, I have a really great idea.

[Fortune Feemster]

What?

[Tig Notaro]

I think the three of us should get together and go fully naked and hang. Yes.

[Fortune Feemster]

You two are like, so tiny.

[Tig Notaro]

No, no, no, no. Listen, listen.

[Fortune Feemster]

It.

[Tig Notaro]

We are all three the most handsome children. God's children.

[May Martin]

God's favorite children.

[Tig Notaro]

But my God, how that would make me giggle if. Three of us. Yes, you are. We're gonna head over to Fortunes.

[Fortune Feemster]

I need a good six months. Heads up so I can. Six months.

[May Martin]

I have an idea.

[Ad Read Voice]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feemster]

And this. This might be a workout.

[May Martin]

This might make it less daunting. But it's. It is. We do a. One of these remote podcasts on Zoom.

[Fortune Feemster]

Naked.

[May Martin]

Kind of. Yeah. We're naked, so we're close up. So we're just seeing your face, your shoulders. Fortune. But we all know that we're fully naked underneath.

[Fortune Feemster]

What if that camera slips and suddenly you see my pasties?

[Tig Notaro]

Your pasty what?

[Fortune Feemster]

Pasty body and my pasties on my nips.

[Tig Notaro]

One of us doesn't have nips.

[Fortune Feemster]

I don't. This isn't something I'm trying to put on the list.

[May Martin]

List. Okay.

[Tig Notaro]

I am.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

I really want this on the list.

[Fortune Feemster]

Oh, you never know. We haven't gotten hardly anything on the list done anyway, so I guess there's no.

[Tig Notaro]

We haven't had a single thing. What do you mean? Hardly any. There's not. Not one thing.

[Fortune Feemster]

Sat on Santa's lap.

[May Martin]

Yeah. That is. We got photos with Santa.

[Fortune Feemster]

We got photos of Santa. We did something. A couple. We did a couple things. Push ups.

[May Martin]

Was that on its push ups?

[Tig Notaro]

And sat on Santa's lap.

[May Martin]

Like, those are things that we were like, we have to do that.

[Tig Notaro]

Why isn't anybody offering us a show?

[May Martin]

I know.

[Tig Notaro]

Or even a special, you know, on the Handsomes list.

[Fortune Feemster]

Yeah.

[May Martin]

Road trip documentary.

[Tig Notaro]

I mean, we should be getting some lists. This is a wildly popular podcast with a wildly long list of things that need to be done, and we can't.

[May Martin]

Do them without a budget because we want to do them right.

[Tig Notaro]

We can't do this for free.

[Fortune Feemster]

Yeah. I need to have. I need to be able to have a meal as I'm doing it.

[Tig Notaro]

Exactly. Exactly. And now what's on the list? The three of us naked.

[Fortune Feemster]

Oh, my God.

[Tig Notaro]

Should we go to our question?

[May Martin]

Yeah, let's do it.

[Tig Notaro]

Yes.

[May Martin]

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[May Martin]

Today's Question Asker is an actor, comedian and writer known for her roles in shows like the Righteous Gemstones and Vice Principals and movies like Knives Out. Edie Patterson is asking today's question.

[Edie Patterson]

Hello, handsome pod. This is Edie Patterson. And yes, in case you're wondering, I'm laying on an orange storage bench.

[Tig Notaro]

Hell yeah.

[Edie Patterson]

In my mom's bedroom. Anyway, I want to know what's the, what's your favorite book that you've read the most recently that you found to be the most vibey in whatever way? And you could have read this or listened to it in an audiobook?

[May Martin]

Vibey.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, Vibey is, is what? What is that like? Like that you liked it into?

[Fortune Feemster]

I think.

[May Martin]

Do you think when like Dostoevsky put out Crime and Punishment, people were like, this is vibing.

[Tig Notaro]

First off, the Bible is very Vibey.

[May Martin]

Very Vibey.

[Fortune Feemster]

Did you guys watch Edie play.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feemster]

Judy in the Righteous Gemstones?

[May Martin]

No, I never watched the Righteous Gemstone.

[Fortune Feemster]

May. Oh my God. May. Do yourself a freaking favor, okay? You start season one, the Righteous Gemstones on hbo. Max is so writing it down. Funny, I haven't seen it, but my.

[Tig Notaro]

Friend Kristen, I believe from my childhood was over at my house and was going on about this character.

[Fortune Feemster]

So. So Edie's character is definitely like the standout. It's a Danny McBride show. So, you know, all the stuff that he does is very broad, very out there. She plays, they're all the kid of a pastor, like one of those big southern pastors, like the mega church. And she's her character. You talk about Yellen, Fortune Marie. If you were to listen to her character, you would be yelling fortune Marie. It is so wild, the stuff that comes out of her mouth. But near the end of the first season, she does this monologue at an Outback steakhouse that Is I cried.

[Tig Notaro]

And does she riff it?

[Fortune Feemster]

She.

[Tig Notaro]

Like.

[Fortune Feemster]

She's also in the. Edie's also in the writer's room. She's part of the writing staff, so she.

[Tig Notaro]

Okay.

[Fortune Feemster]

Helps write it. But then I think also riffs on the day. It is the funniest thing I have ever seen. I think on a TV show. This monologue that she goes into, it.

[May Martin]

Is worse in a steakhouse.

[Fortune Feemster]

It's in an outback steakhouse. And it's just too good. She's. I've known Eddie for years through the growlings and this character she just freaking nailed.

[Tig Notaro]

I. I've. I've heard, I think a lot from her about her. From Allison Dunbar. Yeah. They're friends, right? Yeah. Yeah.

[Fortune Feemster]

So if anyone has not ever watched that show, it's. I think it just ended. But go to the first season. Start from the beginning.

[May Martin]

And would you say. Did you know about her that she's a voracious reader?

[Fortune Feemster]

I did not know that about her. She plays very crazy, insane characters and I know that's her stage TV life, but in real life she's a more chill person. So.

[Tig Notaro]

So how do you know she's a voracious reader?

[May Martin]

Oh, I don't. I guess I just. Because the question. I thought you just assume these days, if anyone reads at all, I'm like, that's voracious. Because I know it takes a lot.

[Fortune Feemster]

It takes a commitment.

[Tig Notaro]

I think Thomas reads a book a week. Right. Thomas.

[May Martin]

And it shows because he's a grounded and informed individual who keeps us on track.

[Tig Notaro]

Yes, he does.

[Fortune Feemster]

But do y' all read or do you do audiobooks these days?

[May Martin]

I read. I can't.

[Fortune Feemster]

Yeah, yeah.

[May Martin]

I've done some audiobooks where I think the person tell. Like, like Miranda July. I love the way she does her own audiobooks and. But no, generally I. I read, but not enough.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, I don't read enough. But I try to have some new, you know, something on my bedside table.

[Fortune Feemster]

So do you have something for us?

[May Martin]

I have something on my bedside table. I can go grab it.

[Ad Read Voice]

Let's see.

[May Martin]

Sorry, I forgot to get it. One sec.

[Tig Notaro]

We have to show our books to.

[Fortune Feemster]

Prove it, but we can look at the junk in May's room.

[Tig Notaro]

Okay. That is good looking.

[Fortune Feemster]

I see four guitars.

[Tig Notaro]

Oh, here comes me.

[Fortune Feemster]

Oh, here comes me. Everybody.

[Tig Notaro]

Here comes everyone. Everyone be cool. Here comes me. Oh, hey, May.

[Fortune Feemster]

Oh, hey.

[Tig Notaro]

What's going on?

[May Martin]

What did I miss?

[Tig Notaro]

I guess you'll have to listen to the podcast. You should subscribe, rate and review.

[May Martin]

So first of all, under the sitting on top of the book is this crystal grid that is supposed to channel intuition and.

[Fortune Feemster]

Okay.

[May Martin]

Things like that. So.

[Tig Notaro]

Okay.

[May Martin]

Brought that to show you guys.

[Fortune Feemster]

Oh, nice.

[May Martin]

We like that underneath the crystal grid.

[Ad Read Voice]

It's.

[May Martin]

Whoa. Oh, no, I dropped it.

[Fortune Feemster]

Made us drop their book, the book of symbols. So this is a big hand.

[May Martin]

It's a huge, heavy book. And it's like a dictionary of symbology used in art and myth and things like that. And I thought if I keep it back to next to my bed with the crystals on top, I'm going to be having symbols in my dreams. So, like, I'll. I'll flip through, tell me when to stop, and I'll see a symbol.

[Fortune Feemster]

Stop.

[May Martin]

Okay. It came up on human body.

[Fortune Feemster]

Oh, we were just talking about that.

[May Martin]

About human body.

[Fortune Feemster]

Yeah, about being naked together.

[May Martin]

There's a picture here of Saturn devouring one of his sons by Francisco Goya, which is a very haunting picture.

[Fortune Feemster]

Well, that is not what I expected with the human body.

[May Martin]

I know. And that doesn't.

[Fortune Feemster]

That's not really representing some puss.

[Tig Notaro]

Oh, my gosh.

[May Martin]

Fortune. I don't know. As the podcast gone on, I've got more scandalized. I'm.

[Tig Notaro]

I'm like, I can't believe what I'm hearing these days.

[Fortune Feemster]

Part of it's a natural thing.

[May Martin]

You're right. And it's.

[Tig Notaro]

No.

[Fortune Feemster]

Yeah. Why am I body positivity, sex positive here?

[Tig Notaro]

Are you.

[Fortune Feemster]

I don't know.

[Tig Notaro]

Is that how you would define yourself these days?

[Fortune Feemster]

No.

[Tig Notaro]

Body positive, sex positive.

[Fortune Feemster]

I'm demure. I just like to get you going.

[May Martin]

Like, we got, like, there's like, feather.

[Fortune Feemster]

That's, you know, what's the feathers mean?

[May Martin]

So. So many of the qualities we associate with birds are distilled in the image of a single feather. Lightness, mobility, air, wingedness, balance, flight, and joy.

[Tig Notaro]

There's so many moments of this podcast that I tune out, check back in. I'm like, what the hell are we talking about?

[Fortune Feemster]

How did we get handsome?

[Tig Notaro]

How did we get here?

[Fortune Feemster]

Nothing we talk about makes sense.

[May Martin]

I got it. Because my dreams are so, like, quote titty, and they're all, like, having an argument with. With what you say about titties.

[Fortune Feemster]

I swear to God, I'm not.

[May Martin]

I heard quote, titties, quotity, and that's really good.

[Tig Notaro]

I'm just gonna sit this out. I'm just gonna listen to the show. I'm just gonna. I'm just gonna listen to the show.

[May Martin]

I think I got that right. Quot is like dayto day to me.

[Tig Notaro]

Nobody Knows or cares what it means.

[Fortune Feemster]

Good time.

[May Martin]

Anyway, that's my book.

[Fortune Feemster]

The Titty Sequoted Titians.

[May Martin]

Well, that's a titty.

[Fortune Feemster]

So that's your recent book?

[May Martin]

Yeah, I like to dip into it.

[Tig Notaro]

But then how recent? How recent?

[May Martin]

Like, it's currently next to my bed, but if I'm being honest.

[Tig Notaro]

Well, things can be next to your bed and not be recent, you know? I mean, look at the bat behind you. None of that. Yeah. You know what I mean? That's been sitting there for months.

[May Martin]

I think it's been by my bed for a couple weeks. And the embarrassing thing is, when I think about it, I'm not really reading it. I'm hoping that by putting the crystals on top of it, I'm just absorbing all the information.

[Fortune Feemster]

That makes sense.

[Tig Notaro]

Scientific.

[May Martin]

Yeah. That checks out, right?

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feemster]

Well, I am busy.

[May Martin]

Right.

[Fortune Feemster]

And reading has taken a backseat. I can tell you. I'm on my app right now. So in Los Angeles.

[Ad Read Voice]

If you have.

[Fortune Feemster]

A library card, which is very easy to sign up for, they have an app. This is.

[Tig Notaro]

When did you sign up for library card? This is so crazy that you have a library card and you never read.

[Fortune Feemster]

Everyone should have a library card if you like any sort of book.

[Tig Notaro]

Is this a commercial?

[Fortune Feemster]

This is a commercial for books. I do like to read, and when I have time, I want to read, but I've been so busy that I can't. But there are so many books that you can check out on an app. I don't know if every city has this, but LA has it. It's called Libby. And you can borrow these books for like, 30 days and read them on your devices.

[May Martin]

Oh, and can you get audiobooks as well?

[Fortune Feemster]

Yeah, audiobooks too. It's fantastic. Okay, so I. I don't know. Like I said, I don't know if every city has that, but I imagine a lot of them do.

[Tig Notaro]

But just walk me through when you went and got your library.

[Fortune Feemster]

I think I got the library card on the app.

[Tig Notaro]

Oh, that ruins everything.

[Fortune Feemster]

I didn't go into the library.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, that's what I was wanting. I wanted to be walked through.

[Fortune Feemster]

Well, my mom goes to the library, like, all the time and rent.

[Tig Notaro]

Well, nobody doubts that, of course. Ginger.

[Fortune Feemster]

Books. I'm here to wrap. To read. She reads like a new book every week.

[Tig Notaro]

Regular old Thomas.

[Fortune Feemster]

So I'll tell you what I intended to read. Yeah.

[May Martin]

What's on the list here?

[Fortune Feemster]

Viola Davis's finding me. Yeah, I'd like to read that. I. I started it, but then I did read Brandy Carlisle's book, Broken Horses. That was good. I like biographies. I really like, like, learning about people. I also have, Just as I am Cicely Tyson. I really wanted to read that.

[Tig Notaro]

So wait, we're just rattling off eventually get around, huh?

[Fortune Feemster]

Oh, I was gonna read Mating in Captivity. You told me to read that.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, yeah. Esther Perel.

[Fortune Feemster]

Haven't read that yet, though.

[May Martin]

Yeah, that's one. That is a great audiobook because I.

[Fortune Feemster]

Did want to read this. The Secret to Happiness. Jessica Redlin. Haven't read it yet, but it's on the list.

[May Martin]

Okay, so no fiction so far. I feel like that's where we're all going.

[Fortune Feemster]

I like to read about real stuff.

[May Martin]

But I think that's partly because we're all like, we have to be productive all the time. And so we think if I'm gonna read, it has to be something that is gonna. I'm gonna learn. And maybe I could use that information and.

[Tig Notaro]

But see, it's not calculated like that for me. I'm not like, okay, I have to learn. It's just that. But it doesn't. That doesn't interest me. It's kind of like with TV and film. I love documentaries.

[May Martin]

Right, right.

[Tig Notaro]

You know, I'm not. I'm not like, oh, I can't be silly with my time here and watch whatever show.

[May Martin]

I just. I just remember being a. A teenager and. And reading a ton because I was reading stories that I was like, I gotta know what happens. And so maybe get me back into reading if I was reading more. Like, like.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, yeah.

[May Martin]

What else you got on that list?

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, keep going.

[Fortune Feemster]

And that was a lot of books.

[Tig Notaro]

That was a lot of books you haven't read.

[Fortune Feemster]

That's a lot of books I haven't read. Oh, I did read our friend Amanda Kloots, Live youe Life. That one was really good take.

[May Martin]

What about you? So you. You read. I know you've recommended a lot of books to me that I've written down and intend to read. What are you reading? Right.

[Tig Notaro]

Most recently, I like biographies, autobiographies, and self help. So I guess it, you know, I do love a story, but I think in with books and film or whatever, I do like documentaries. But right now, as I've discussed, I'm neck deep in the, you know, work life balance.

[Fortune Feemster]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

For the first time. Even though for years and interviews I talked about how I was finding that and like, exercising my live work balance.

[May Martin]

And then you were aspirationally talking about it.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah. But it's weird when you. I realized that I was like so disconnected from my actual reality.

[Fortune Feemster]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

And I was just talking like I was doing it.

[May Martin]

This is kind of my, my thing with autobiographies of people. Because I know enough people who've written autobiographies where you read the book and it seems so neatly tied up. There's a, an arc, they reach a place of resolution. And I'm like, you're just saying that you. I see you.

[Tig Notaro]

Right. Yeah. I think about that a lot. Especially when I noticed it in myself that I wasn't connected to the reality of what I wanted and how I was living my life. So this book, Anxious Nation, I can't remember what the COVID of the book said, but it like finding balance or something. But when I got into the book, it was much different than what I thought it was going to be. It was about kind of people's addiction with alcohol, food, sex, drugs, cell phones, social media, all of that kind of thing. And, and that was actually a really fun surprise was that I thought it was one thing and then it was. I mean it all kind of ties together.

[May Martin]

Yeah. That like dopamine self soothing behavior.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah. Finding the balance.

[May Martin]

And I know like there've been so many studies about how reading like, like holding a wr. Like immediately your cortisol levels drop, your heart rate drops like it is.

[Fortune Feemster]

Oh, really?

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feemster]

Because you're holding a book.

[May Martin]

No, you gotta read it too.

[Fortune Feemster]

Oh, you gotta read. Pick up a book right now.

[May Martin]

Oh my God.

[Tig Notaro]

Snuggling. Always. Everybody's like, Fortune is such an avid reader.

[Fortune Feemster]

Holding books like to my chest, spooning them at night. It is. Once you do get into a book and like make it a habit, it is really a nice thing that you look forward to.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, yeah. Like a little escape.

[Fortune Feemster]

I just always kind of forget that that's available to us. Same.

[Tig Notaro]

Well, and even if you read for 15 minutes. I'm sorry, go ahead. May, what were you saying?

[May Martin]

I was just wondering about Max and Finn and if you read to them and.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah. And we do something that sounds very like whenever I say it, I feel like we sound like just a Christian American family. But, but family reading time at night and we just do 10 to 15 minutes and max and Finn come into our room and Everybody reads for 10 to 15 minutes right before bedtime. And then you share about what you read. Yeah. And so we each go around and share and it, you know, that started because their school encouraged that they, you know, develop a habit of reading regularly, even outside of school. And so I think I've talked about it before, but it's really a part of the day I look forward to. And it is. It's so quick, and it's so cute. And I have to say, Finn does half the time fall asleep. He's the reader that I'll look over, and he's completely asleep and his book is on his chest. But.

[May Martin]

And they're reading, like, chapter books now, right? Like, they're.

[Tig Notaro]

They are. There's also a lot of, like. What are those?

[May Martin]

Like, manga? Graphic novel.

[Tig Notaro]

Graphic novels, yeah.

[Thomas Willette]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

So. But Finn's also very into sports biographies and autobiographies as well as coaches of certain teams. But, yeah, it's somewhere in between graphic novels and chapter books.

[May Martin]

That's fun.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[Fortune Feemster]

That's a nice family activity.

[May Martin]

That's a nice habit.

[Tig Notaro]

It's nice. And it just kind of settles everybody down and everyone quietly. They don't push back. They just quietly read their books and then head off to bed. And it just. It really sets a nice tone for the end of the day.

[Fortune Feemster]

Yeah, yeah.

[May Martin]

Calms you right down.

[Fortune Feemster]

I like that. If I had kids, I would implement that.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, it's.

[May Martin]

You ever read to Biggie?

[Fortune Feemster]

No, I haven't seen him in a minute.

[Tig Notaro]

If.

[Fortune Feemster]

Do you know what got me reading books when I was a kid?

[May Martin]

What?

[Tig Notaro]

What? Pizza Hut?

[Fortune Feemster]

Because, you guys, I'm motivated by food. We know this. They did a summer thing when I was a kid where if you read a certain amount of books, you could get a free personal pan pizza.

[May Martin]

I love this. And you're like, I'm on it.

[Fortune Feemster]

I would go to the library with my grandma and get, like, six books or however many was required. That is freedom. And then I would get to go get my free personal pan pizza.

[Tig Notaro]

And how do they know you read the books?

[Fortune Feemster]

I think it was an honor system back. Wow, you could be trusted.

[Tig Notaro]

And we know this nerd told the truth.

[Fortune Feemster]

I told the truth. And my grandmother. I think you had to have, like, an adult witness, right? My grandma was my witness.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah. Smoking a cigarette. Been like, where's my pizza?

[May Martin]

How come?

[Fortune Feemster]

More.

[May Martin]

We should. People. They should do that still. That's really. I like.

[Fortune Feemster]

I know it's like, I feel like people don't think about books enough. But, you know, Dolly Parton, her big charity gives. Has given. Given millions and millions of books out.

[Tig Notaro]

It's incredible. She is just perfection.

[May Martin]

Do you remember that feeling of going to a public library with your class or your parents or even your school library and, like, settling down in a corner with a book that you've Just grabbed off a shelf and, like, you're in your little world, and I love it.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, It's Snug harbor, man.

[May Martin]

Snug Harbor. Harbor.

[Tig Notaro]

I feel like there was a restaurant in Santa Monica called Snug Harbor.

[May Martin]

If there isn't, there should be Wilshire.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah. I feel like I. I used to go to this diner, Snug Harbor.

[May Martin]

God, I like diners.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, I love you, too.

[May Martin]

That's.

[Fortune Feemster]

I like a diner as well.

[May Martin]

That's another thing books are good for. If you're into, like, going for dinner by yourself or at a diner to a coffee shop by yourself, it's kind of, you know, just sitting by yourself and scrolling on your phone and. But if you take a book and everyone's like, what.

[Fortune Feemster]

Do you guys ever see people out in the wild just reading?

[May Martin]

Not as much as I'd like. I used to be on the subway. Everybody had their book.

[Fortune Feemster]

Right.

[Tig Notaro]

You know what I'm saying? A lot of what is people that seem to curate their little table at, like, a coffee shop with their book and their coffee and their. And. But also they're constantly checking their phone.

[Fortune Feemster]

Actually see them reading the book.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah. They want to be the person that's having coffee and reading, but they're not.

[Fortune Feemster]

They're like.

[Tig Notaro]

They're.

[Ad Read Voice]

That.

[Tig Notaro]

You see them switch over to their phone like that. And they probably need to read Anxious Nation.

[May Martin]

I know. And not to generalize, but it is often straight men who have a book on feminism or something open and highlighted.

[Fortune Feemster]

The feminine mystery, trying to lure in someone. Someone who wants somebody that reads a book.

[May Martin]

Yeah. Meanwhile, they're just on Tinder on their phone.

[Fortune Feemster]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feemster]

Look at. Thomas is showing off all the books in his background right now.

[May Martin]

Oh, yeah, yeah.

[Thomas Willette]

Actually, can I make a couple recommendations?

[May Martin]

Please, please. For people who.

[Fortune Feemster]

Where did that voice come from? Who was that?

[Tig Notaro]

It was fortunate. It was Thomas.

[Fortune Feemster]

Oh, God.

[Tig Notaro]

Our producer.

[Fortune Feemster]

Got it. Okay, okay.

[Thomas Willette]

First, Priest Daddy by Patricia Lockwood. It's about a woman whose father is a priest, who he loves, like, hanging around in his underwear and playing, like, loud guitar music. For you, David Sedaris, kind of like painting a portrait of a weird, dysfunctional family. It's so funny.

[May Martin]

Priest Daddy. I wrote it.

[Fortune Feemster]

Yeah.

[Thomas Willette]

That's great.

[Fortune Feemster]

It's called what?

[Thomas Willette]

Priest Daddy.

[Tig Notaro]

Hello.

[Thomas Willette]

It's so good. Tony Tulatimoti has a book called Rejection, which is a bunch of short stories that are all about rejection. And also hilarious book, but it really captures online culture and how that's just permeating everything and how it's also Made us terrified of rejection. And then the last book I would recommend is called the Vaster Wild by Lauren Groff. It's about a servant girl who escapes Jamestown in 1610 and has to survive in the wilderness. And it's just like. If you like a book that's just a total adventure, like, you can't put it down. It also has one of the most beautiful endings of any book I've ever read. Those are my three recommendations.

[Tig Notaro]

Who would you assign? Each book, you get a pizza. Oh, wow.

[Fortune Feemster]

Okay.

[Thomas Willette]

Okay. I would assign.

[May Martin]

What was the last one?

[Thomas Willette]

It's called the Vaster Wild by Lauren Grof.

[May Martin]

Okay.

[Thomas Willette]

But I would assign that to Tig. I would assign Priest Daddy to Fortune, and I would assign rejection to May.

[Tig Notaro]

Oh, what was the reading that you.

[May Martin]

Would suggest for me until I get the rejection stories.

[Tig Notaro]

And wait, what was mine?

[Thomas Willette]

The Vaster Wild by Lauren Groff.

[Tig Notaro]

Okay.

[May Martin]

All right. Well, I am actually flying on an airplane today, so I'll be in an airport and I'll see if. In the little bookstore if they've got.

[Tig Notaro]

Well, you're going. Bye. Bye.

[Fortune Feemster]

Today you could also May download the Libby app and get you a library card real quick.

[May Martin]

And that's true.

[Fortune Feemster]

Check out a book. One of those might be available.

[Tig Notaro]

I think we should put it on the list where we all three go in and sign up for a library card.

[May Martin]

Can we go in person to a public library and we get a book and we snuggle up?

[Fortune Feemster]

No, I wouldn't mind some snugs.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, you want to Snug harbor with us?

[Fortune Feemster]

Yeah, Snug harbor with y'.

[Thomas Willette]

All.

[Tig Notaro]

Oh, my God. We should do a triple spoon while Thomas reads to us.

[Fortune Feemster]

With our clothes on, though.

[Tig Notaro]

No, no, no. We're all in our brassiers.

[Fortune Feemster]

Granny panties and braziers.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, yeah. Bonnets on bonnets, for sure.

[May Martin]

That's something I think we've talked before about. Like. Like something that your parents say as a kid that just irrationally makes you angry. And my mom would always say brassieres, and it would just make me so angry. I don't know. I was just like. Just say bra. We're gonna need to buy you.

[Fortune Feemster]

What about a blouse?

[May Martin]

A blouse was big.

[Fortune Feemster]

My mom loves the word blouse. Oh, my God.

[Tig Notaro]

That's how you know for sure someone is straight. Yeah, they love your blouse. Or like a top top.

[Fortune Feemster]

Like, oh, that's a cute top. Yeah, that's a T shirt.

[Tig Notaro]

That. That's great.

[Fortune Feemster]

So cute.

[May Martin]

Also, she called Blush you call it rouge.

[Tig Notaro]

Oh, yeah, Yeah. I think that's an age thing, though.

[May Martin]

Yeah, maybe.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah. Yeah.

[May Martin]

Well, we. We haven't heard the answer yet. Should we hear.

[Tig Notaro]

That's right. God, we just love ourselves. Edie who?

[Edie Patterson]

Mine is a book that my niece told me about. My niece, Olivia told me about this book, Bunny, by Mona Awad, and it's so vibey. And I can't believe how Mona Awad captures loneliness and mental illness, kind of. And the feeling of being on drugs and. Or drugged or altered in some way. The whole book is kind of like you go into a dream and come out after. It's really, really cool. And I want to know what you guys like that you've encountered lately. Like that. Bye.

[Fortune Feemster]

Bye.

[May Martin]

Bye.

[Tig Notaro]

Bye.

[Fortune Feemster]

So that's what she meant by vibey. Yeah. Yeah.

[May Martin]

I thought it was going to be a kid's book when she said niece, but it sounds like a trip.

[Fortune Feemster]

Yeah, I'm gonna.

[May Martin]

I'm gonna. I've written that down. I like that type of book. I like, like.

[Tig Notaro]

Wait, did you really write it down?

[May Martin]

Yeah, I got in my phone notes right here.

[Tig Notaro]

Oh, okay.

[May Martin]

I got some weird stuff in here. Yeah, I'm good.

[Tig Notaro]

I bet you do.

[Edie Patterson]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

Like weird books or like just weird stuff?

[May Martin]

Just in my notes app. Just like practicing texts to send people or, you know.

[Tig Notaro]

No, may you do practice texts.

[May Martin]

Yeah, if I want to send, like.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feemster]

Where you have to get a certain amount of information out.

[May Martin]

Well, if it's like a, you know.

[Fortune Feemster]

Oh, emotional.

[May Martin]

An emotional text. Okay, I'll write it in my notes first.

[Tig Notaro]

Have you ever practiced a text for me?

[May Martin]

No. Oh, my God.

[Fortune Feemster]

Dear.

[May Martin]

Would I admit it if I had?

[Fortune Feemster]

I don't know.

[Tig Notaro]

Dearest Tiglets, can we push the podcast five minutes? No, I can't send her that.

[Fortune Feemster]

Well, good times.

[Tig Notaro]

Very good times. Yes. Yeah.

[Fortune Feemster]

Yeah.

[May Martin]

We have new merch online, including a. Yeah. Ghost crew neck and a handsome zip up hoodie. Go to handsomepod.com. we have very good merch. I'm really. I'm proud of it.

[Fortune Feemster]

Yeah, for sure.

[Tig Notaro]

We have really solid merge.

[May Martin]

I have very little coming up, except tomorrow night. I'm at Largo October 29th with special guests. Very special guests. So Largo in LA, if you're around.

[Fortune Feemster]

Well, I'm at the. In Chicago November 8th, and then San Jose and Fresno, California, the end of the month, as well as Charlotte, North Carolina, St. Petersburg, Florida, and Orlando, Florida, right before Christmas. And then Norfolk, Virginia, Salt Lake City, Vancouver, and Seattle at the end of December.

[Tig Notaro]

Love it. I just can't emphasize enough that everyone should please make a note to watch Come see me in the good light on Apple TV November 14th. It premieres worldwide. The documentary about poet Andrea Gibson and their wife Meg F. It's just so beautiful.

[May Martin]

Since I saw it, I've been recommending, I've been saying to people. There's a documentary coming out in about a month. You're going to need to watch it. I've been making my par. I made my parents write it down.

[Tig Notaro]

Oh, good, good. Yeah.

[May Martin]

All my exes.

[Tig Notaro]

It's so beautiful. It's so beautiful. Life affirming. Yeah. So also go to tignotaro.com for any of my live shows coming up and I will tell you right now that one of the live shows that you'll probably want to see is Dynasty Typewriter in Los Angeles November 16th and Largo in Los Angeles November 21st. I think. Until next time, what do you say we all just continue to keep it handsome?

[May Martin]

Handsome is hosted by me, May Martin, Tig Notaro and Fortune Feimster. The show is produced, recorded and edited by Thomas Willette. Email [e-mail] and please follow us on social media at Handsomepod. That was a Headgun podcast. You know what's smart? Check in Allstate first for a quote that could save you hundreds on car insurance. You know what's not smart? Not checking that you keep your candles out of the sun. You bought some beautiful candles for your outdoor area, and now all you got are some beautiful wax puddles.

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