Kerri Kenney-Silver asks about embarrassing fan encounters

Summary

Handsome Podcast Episode Summary

Episode: Kerri Kenney-Silver Asks About Embarrassing Fan Encounters
Release Date: August 11, 2026
Hosts: Tig Notaro, Fortune Feimster, Mae Martin
Special Guest/Question Asker: Kerri Kenney-Silver

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Main Theme

In this episode, comedians Tig Notaro, Fortune Feimster, and Mae Martin tackle a hilarious and sometimes cringe-inducing topic: stories of embarrassing or awkward encounters with fans and audience members. The discussion is prompted by a question from Emmy-nominated comedy legend Kerri Kenney-Silver, who asks the hosts to share their most mortifying experiences with admirers, whether during live shows or in everyday life.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Kerri Kenney-Silver’s Question [32:48]

• Kerri: “Have any of you ever had a particularly embarrassing or uncomfortable or ideally mortifying experience with an audience member or a fan, either during a live show or out in the wild?” [32:48]
• This sets off a roundtable of personal stories, cringe confessions, and plenty of laughter.

2. Pre-question Banter and Chemistry [02:01–32:10]

• The hosts muse on comfort (recliners, conversation pits), boundaries at home, and the etiquette of saying "no" to friends.
• They riff on topics like boundary-setting, clubbing, flash mobs, awkward proposals, and fan behavior.
• Notable quote: “Put me in a pit and let me chat.” — Mae Martin [03:38] (referencing a 70s-style "conversation pit" and their podcast's vibe)
• There’s an ongoing playful discussion about who would impersonate the hosts if they swapped out for an episode—Adam Scott and Tom Cruise are floated for Tig.

3. Opening up About Awkward Fan Encounters

Stephanie Allynne (sitting in as a regular co-host)

• Story: Being approached by a fan for a photo immediately after a tough, emotional phone call.
  • “I was really not in a good place … her response to me was brutal, and I just wanted to, like, lose my mind and explain what I was going through.” [42:10]
  • She reflects on how some people seem to feel entitled to a moment with performers, even when the timing is clearly bad.
  • “For the most part, people are cool … but this was rough.” [43:17]

Mae Martin

• Story #1: A dating app encounter where the other person pretended not to recognize Mae yet actually knew all about her work.

  • “She knew what to say, and that's fine. But she had actively lied ... it was really strange to think that she... had actively lied and that she. She knew all that stuff.” [44:16]

• Story #2: After-show club night where a young, intoxicated fan tags along, proposes with fake flowers, turns out to be underage, and requires a two-hour, £250 Uber rescue.

  • “…she pulls out a bunch of flowers from her sleeve like a magician ... I think we've just realized. You were just at the show, right? She was like, yeah, I just was at the show.” [44:37]
  • “She’d carried the fake flowers in her sleeve all night.” [47:27]

Tig Notaro

• Story: While dining out, a woman abruptly sits down beside Tig in a booth, startling her and trying to join the meal.
  • “A woman just, like, came into the booth, hot, and went it, like, ‘Hey.’ In my face ... It scared me so bad because it was out of nowhere. And she just, like, jumped and, like, sat down to, like, be a part of my dinner.” [49:19]
• Reflection: When someone asks for a photo at precisely the worst time, sometimes persistently.
  • “...She just started, like, negotiating with me, like, well, what if it was just, like, really quick? … And now it's become a really weird, long thing.” [51:50]
  • Recalls feeling followed—after refusing a photo, the fan stood across the street, staring death-rays at her for ten minutes. [53:36]
  • Noted how Chelsea Lately fans, in particular, would approach her with overfamiliarity due to frequent screen time. [50:19]

Fortune Feimster

• Echoed similar experiences, mentioning how rare negative encounters are, and stressing that most people are lovely. [48:48]

Additional Anecdotes

• Mae: Recounted childhood determination to get a photo with NSYNC in a restaurant—only to have the photo lost by the restaurant, and her classmates disbelieve her story. [59:09]
• Tig: “When I was in college … I got to [Tipper Gore], and I was like, ‘Oh, can I have a picture?...’ ...I went back for a third time!” [56:03]
  • This self-deprecating memory illustrates how even celebrities can get starstruck and awkward.

4. Kerri Kenney-Silver’s Own Mortifying Story [60:02]

• As a new mom, Kerri goes shopping at Urban Outfitters to try on clothes. A stranger pulls back the fitting room curtain and takes a photo of her, which completely throws her. As she leaves, another woman confronts her, insists on figuring out “why do I know you?” and after a long rundown of Kerri’s TV, music, and writing work (with persistent negative replies), it turns out the woman is not a fan but a former boss who once fired Kerri from a yogurt shop in the 1980s.
  • “So not only was she not a fan, she was a lady who did not like me.” [62:30]

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• “Put me in a pit and let me chat.” — Mae Martin [03:38]
• “I went back for a third time [to Tipper Gore]. … She just was so annoyed, and she had every right to be.” — Tig Notaro [56:03]
• “She just started, like, negotiating with me, like, well, what if it was just, like, really quick? ... She just didn’t want to let it go. … I think I have to just stick to what I said.” — Tig Notaro [51:50–53:05]
• “She’d carried the fake flowers in her sleeve all night.” — Mae Martin [47:27]
• “So not only was she not a fan, she was a lady who did not like me.” — Kerri Kenney-Silver [62:30]
• “You know who's not listening to this episode is the woman that wanted a picture with me when I was so upset after a phone call ... she hated my guts as soon as that happened.” — Stephanie Allynne [47:40]
• “I was your manager. She fired me.” — Kerri Kenney-Silver [61:49]

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Additional Fun Segments & Tangents

• Heart Hands and Flash Mobs: The comedians debate the merits (or cringe factor) of trending fan gestures and mass public events. [22:54–28:12]
• Dancing Abilities: Confessions about learning TikTok dances, high school nicknames (“master of fingers”), and the plan to one day go clubbing together. [28:12–30:22]
• Anecdotes about celebrity (and "celebrity") sightings from the hosts’ pasts, and how being a fan can sometimes lead to awkward behavior.

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Timestamps for Key Segments

• [02:01–32:10] — Warm-up chat, boundaries, dance stories, preamble
• [32:48] — Kerri Kenney-Silver’s question and introduction
• [42:10–47:40] — Stephanie & Mae’s fan encounter stories
• [49:18–50:19] — Tig’s dinner booth encounter
• [51:50–54:04] — Fortune’s story about photo requests during personal moments
• [60:02–62:30] — Kerri Kenney-Silver’s mortifying fan/anti-fan story

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Overall Tone

Light, candid, self-deprecating, and playful. The trio maintains a welcoming, conversational style, making fun of themselves as much as their awkward fans, with constant tangents and in-jokes that give listeners a sense of being part of an ongoing group chat among close friends.

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Conclusion

This episode delivers a fun, real, and sometimes cringeworthy look at the “other side” of fame—where admiration becomes awkward, boundaries are tested, and sometimes, your “fan” turns out to be a disgruntled former boss from a frozen yogurt shop. The hosts keep things compassionate, mocking no one but themselves, and leave listeners with a few lessons in etiquette, empathy, and the importance of clear boundaries.

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Quick Reference

Hosts' Main Takeaway:

• Most fan encounters are positive, but when celebrities say "not now," it's good to take it gracefully.

For New Listeners:

• Expect banter, gentle teasing, and thoughtful honesty about the weirdness of being recognized in public.

Must-Hear Segments:

• Kerri Kenney-Silver’s question and story [32:48 & 60:02]
• Tig’s startled booth tale [49:18]
• Mae’s “magician’s assistant” dating disaster [44:37]
• The recurring bit about “How do I know you?” negging [61:48–62:30]

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Summary prepared for listeners who want the laughs, lessons, and highlights—without the ads or the awkward fan drama!

Transcript

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[Tig Notaro]

Cheers. Welcome to the handsome pod. I'm Fortune.

[May Martin]

I May.

[Stephanie Allynne]

I'm Tig.

[May Martin]

We did just first names.

[Tig Notaro]

That was.

[May Martin]

Is that the first time we've done that?

[Fortune Feimster]

Why not?

[Tig Notaro]

Let's change it up. Really keep people on their toes. They can look up our last names. Do we have to tell them?

[Stephanie Allynne]

Yeah.

[May Martin]

Must we?

[Tig Notaro]

It's so good to see you guys.

[Stephanie Allynne]

It's been so long. It has been so long. And yet you're still in that room.

[Tig Notaro]

I will find a room with a recliner and good luck getting me out of it.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Do you have a recliner at your house?

[Tig Notaro]

No. But when I travel, I'm always on the hump for why can I think of the recliner? My brain just went totally down. My mom has two recliners. In her place, side by side.

[Stephanie Allynne]

I like that. Does she have the drink holders in there?

[Tig Notaro]

No drink holders, but they share. I have a little table in between. So when I go get those.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Those big couches that are like L shaped and they each have a drink holder.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah.

[Stephanie Allynne]

And they all recline. Each seat reclines.

[May Martin]

I wish. Was it in the 70s or the 60s that people had like a.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Take this question.

[May Martin]

Yeah. Take a recessed, like, living room that was like a sunken.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Yeah, yeah.

[May Martin]

And then. And it was like a conversation pit. Like, and really?

[Stephanie Allynne]

Yeah.

[May Martin]

Just designed for, like, gatherings.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Yeah, I love a conversation pit.

[May Martin]

Yeah. Put me in a pit and let me chat.

[Stephanie Allynne]

That's what this show is.

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It's a conversation pit.

[May Martin]

Yeah. I just. I saw my. My friend Matt, who lives with me, he said, wouldn't it be funny if.

[Stephanie Allynne]

When you go into record fire in the backyard.

[May Martin]

Yeah. The guy on fire with the tree. Almost.

[Tig Notaro]

House is on fire. Sorry.

[May Martin]

He said. He said, wouldn't it be funny if. If he just dressed up as me and logged into the. To the Zoom and just tried to do the podcast as me? Really committed. He's got these big bushy eyebrows. He's bald, and love. This is his tattoos all over him.

[Stephanie Allynne]

We should do that. That would be such a fun episode where you have somebody fill in for another one for one of the hosts and you don't even. And the person that fills in pretends to be and does their best impression of the host and just claims to be them.

[May Martin]

And we don't acknowledge. And none of us never acknowledge it.

[Tig Notaro]

No, Shirley Cerone is available. Theron, whatever.

[May Martin]

No, it's Charlie. I need to know. You said it right.

[Fortune Feimster]

I don't know.

[Tig Notaro]

Everybody says it differently. I think it's Theron, actually.

[May Martin]

No, I think it's South Africa. It's like Toronto.

[Tig Notaro]

Oh, that's a whole other ball game.

[Stephanie Allynne]

How do you know this?

[May Martin]

I swear, I've seen an interview with her where she's like, actually, it's Throne,

[Tig Notaro]

but I think she has accepted that. Everyone says Theron.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Because it has a nice ring to say it.

[May Martin]

Yeah. It's not Theron. Yeah, it's Theron.

[Tig Notaro]

But.

[May Martin]

Oh, dear.

[Tig Notaro]

I don't know. But honestly, may, I do believe that that probably is accurate, that there's some other pronunciation of it that. That no one gets right.

[May Martin]

Tig, who would you have filling in for you, please? Can it be Finn?

[Tig Notaro]

Tom Cruise?

[Stephanie Allynne]

Well, we don't put pictures or videos

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of our children online.

[May Martin]

It would be a big pivot.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Yeah, it'd be a Massive pivot. I would probably go with Adam Scott because we have had an ongoing. I don't know if I've told you this, but people have made, like, collages of our faces together, and he and I have had. Yes. And he and I have had this plan for 15, 20 years to. And we've never done it to. If we are both promoting something at the same time. Go on talk shows as each other.

[Tig Notaro]

I love that.

[Stephanie Allynne]

And answer to the best of our ability.

[May Martin]

I really like that.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Yeah. So I. It's. It's so bizarre that people think I look like him and that people think I look like Tom Cruise because he and Tom Cruise don't look alike.

[Tig Notaro]

Right.

[May Martin]

Well, I think you're all. If. If we live in a simulation, you guys are, like, on the same sort of thread of. Of type. Of type of face.

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Okay.

[Stephanie Allynne]

I feel like, what thread of what face thread are you two on?

[May Martin]

I like to think I'm. Or I get told I'm the guy who played Eric Foreman on that 70s show. What's his name?

[Stephanie Allynne]

There's some actor.

[Tig Notaro]

Topher Grace.

[May Martin]

Topher Grace. I get.

[Stephanie Allynne]

There's some guy, too, that Stephanie's always like. There's. May.

[May Martin]

I want to say Joshua Jackson, because.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Yes.

[May Martin]

No way.

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Yes. Yes.

[Fortune Feimster]

Really?

[Tig Notaro]

I don't.

[Stephanie Allynne]

He looks like.

[May Martin]

He looks like my dad a lot. And. Yeah. I want to. I want to play his.

[Tig Notaro]

Oh, maybe a little bit. How about me? Hold on.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Shirley Temple.

[May Martin]

Yeah. Oh, Owen Wilson.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Oh, Owen Wilson meets Shirley Temple.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Look at this.

[Fortune Feimster]

Look at this smolder.

[Stephanie Allynne]

You actually look like a very pretty little lady right now.

[Carrie Kenny Silver]

You really do.

[Stephanie Allynne]

The light, y'.

[Tig Notaro]

All. And blue's my color.

[Stephanie Allynne]

And it's the recliner you're sitting in.

[Tig Notaro]

And the recliner brings out the life in me.

[May Martin]

And the headphones are kind of like a hairband.

[Fortune Feimster]

Like.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah. It's like.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Oh, that's what it is, girl.

[Tig Notaro]

Y' all should start wearing hair bands. Like, party and. What was it? Traders.

[May Martin]

She wore, like, tiaras almost. Yeah. Like, they. I remember people used to wear just a thick hairband all the time. I did this.

[Tig Notaro]

That.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Does Parvati have any reality shows or competitions coming up?

[May Martin]

No, nothing coming up at the moment.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Okay.

[Tig Notaro]

That girl better start another party for money somewhere.

[May Martin]

She better start. Yeah.

[Stephanie Allynne]

She had better.

[Tig Notaro]

She better win those competitions.

[May Martin]

I really want to create my own. I. I do think that's in my future.

[Tig Notaro]

Is.

[May Martin]

Is an unscripted competition show that I want to produce. Yeah. I would love it.

[Tig Notaro]

Thousand percent. You could create something really cool.

[May Martin]

Well, I'M so bossy. And when my friends come over, I make them compete. So it's very.

[Stephanie Allynne]

You're bossy. I don't see you as bossy. I feel like if you got bossy, I'd just say no.

[May Martin]

That's why I don't get bossy with you.

[Tig Notaro]

But I think may's not ballsy with you because it's hard to boss you.

[May Martin]

You're unbossable.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Oh, that's not true. There are many people that boss me.

[May Martin]

Really?

[Stephanie Allynne]

Oh, yeah. And then there's many people that overstep with weird situations.

[May Martin]

Right.

[Tig Notaro]

Do you say you're not the boss of me?

[Stephanie Allynne]

No. I cower and run away. And then about a month later I say, you can't treat me like they're

[May Martin]

like, what are you referring to a

[Tig Notaro]

month ago about it for a month and you can't treat me like that.

[Stephanie Allynne]

I finally built up my confidence to say what you did and said is so hurtful.

[May Martin]

Yeah, I, I'm the most like, unmasked in my, in my bossiness when I'm hosting, when I'm at my house, because I'm, it's like a combination of like show and tell where I'm like, come look at this cool gadget I have. And, But I sort of make everybody, like, I don't let things flow naturally. I'm kind of like, now we're, we'll sit here and I'll show you this thing and then we'll all play this game and then we'll.

[Stephanie Allynne]

This is why thing. I've never been available to go to any of your things because I would just ruin everything. I would just say, no, no, the thing is I'm not doing that.

[May Martin]

But that's a crucial element that I also enjoy. Like that that sort of completes the picture. If there's one person there who's kind of nagging me or not participating, then I, I, I find great joy in that too. Yeah.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Well, yeah. And, and you don't have a personality where I, I feel like I'm going to hurt your feelings. Like I think that you, you get it and you roll with my silly but true. No, if anything, yeah, it's silly and

[Tig Notaro]

also, I mean it also.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Get off of me.

[May Martin]

I feel safe with people who they say what they feel and mean. And then I know if they're doing something, it's because they want to do it and not because they're.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Isn't it the best?

[May Martin]

It's the best. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And I like, even I was more like that.

[Stephanie Allynne]

I Have a friend who has very strict boundaries. She's in recovery, aa, all of that kind of stuff. And I know this doesn't work for everybody, and it's not like a dreamy scenario, but I'm always like, good, Love it. Because she'll just be like, I need everybody to go home now. I'm finished.

[May Martin]

I like that.

[Stephanie Allynne]

You know, and. And.

[Tig Notaro]

And I'm just like, everyone, get out of my house.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Yeah. And it's. But it's also like she has a regular gathering and then. And you kind of know it's coming.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Stephanie Allynne]

You know, because you know when she's hit her. The wall and, you know, the. The socializing is done, and then she's like, everyone out. And. Yeah. And I'm just like, great. I love. I love a clear boundary.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Stephanie Allynne]

You know, because then.

[May Martin]

Because everybody is probably thinking, oh, it's time to wrap it up. And then you don't have to all individually be like, oh, it's my time to get. You just have the host be like, this is. It's over now. I like that.

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Yeah.

[Stephanie Allynne]

I don't know. That stuff doesn't bother me at all.

[May Martin]

At all. I was casually dating someone for a while where she has a phrase, ripcord, where it's like, if. If we're hanging out, if you're ever like, you know what? I actually don't want you to sleep over tonight. I want to be alone in my bed. Or like, let's. You know. Or this hangout's done. You just say ripcord, and it's like you're just pulling the cord on the hang. It's like, okay, great, fun hang. See you later.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Yeah.

[May Martin]

And just knowing the options there makes it so relaxing.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Yeah, yeah. Although it would suck.

[May Martin]

You said that, like, half.

[Kyle Mooney]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

You're a crucial part.

[May Martin]

Yeah. Is that what that. What is a rip cord? Is it like an emergency parachute?

[Tig Notaro]

Think of a report on a surfboard and what that. But that can't be right.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Are you thinking of rip curl?

[Tig Notaro]

Curl? What is that?

[Stephanie Allynne]

I think that's.

[Tig Notaro]

What is that ankle thing on your. What is that ankle thing? That's called a rip curl.

[Stephanie Allynne]

No, I think rip curl is a

[Ad Guest or Narrator (Ad reads and explanations)]

company of a surfboard.

[Fortune Feimster]

No, on a surfboard, there's the thing

[Tig Notaro]

that goes around your ankle.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Yeah, I think it's called an ankle thingy.

[May Martin]

Oh, we're gonna have to Google it, aren't we?

[Tig Notaro]

Rip is

[May Martin]

rip cord. It's commonly a manual release cord or cable used to deploy a parachute in skydiving.

[Tig Notaro]

Oh, yeah.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Or to put around your ankle when you're on a boogie board.

[Tig Notaro]

No.

[May Martin]

Would you surfboard parachute?

[Tig Notaro]

I'm giggling it now.

[Stephanie Allynne]

I would never parachute.

[Tig Notaro]

Me neither. God. No.

[May Martin]

Either. No way. Not. Not a tandem thing.

[Tig Notaro]

It's not a surfboard leash. Just not anywhere in the vein.

[Stephanie Allynne]

That's what I'm saying is Rip Curl is a company.

[Tig Notaro]

You're right. It is.

[Stephanie Allynne]

I know I'm right.

[Tig Notaro]

And no, I would never parachute in a million, trillion years.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Unless it's the three of us holding

[Tig Notaro]

hands going, still not doing it.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Thomas put it on the list. Can we also push us out of the plane?

[May Martin]

Oh, my God. Or indoor skydiving. How about that? You know, where it's in a big tube and they blast the air. The three of us holding hands and doing that would be.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Yes. Yes. That's what May wants, and that's what May will get.

[May Martin]

Did I ever tell you about that? When I did. I did that. I did indoor skydiving, and at the end, you got a photo of yourself like that. They send you. Did I tell you this? And they sent me the picture, like, weird cheeks. And I sent it to my parents, and I sent it to a friend, and then my friend wrote back and said, this isn't you. And I zoomed in. It was a little boy that they. And my parents didn't notice.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Nor did you.

[Tig Notaro]

No.

[Nicole Byer]

Nor did.

[Tig Notaro]

I was like, yeah, that's.

[May Martin]

That's me.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, this is a little boy. They're like, why are you sending us this?

[Stephanie Allynne]

Yeah, we took Max and Finn to one of those when I had a show in Vegas, and they were probably six at the time.

[May Martin]

Tiny to be flying.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Yeah. And. But it was so. They were so excited. It was so cute. But it was also like, oh, man. Like, if. If anything goes a little sideways, it. It.

[Ad Guest or Narrator (Ad reads and explanations)]

Yeah.

[May Martin]

But it was so overwhelming. Yeah.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Yeah. As a parent, it was a moment of like, okay, we're gonna let him. We're gonna let him do this. And we were like, on the side,

[Tig Notaro]

like, yeah, I don't want to do any of that stuff. And my fear was confirmed. There was not to be too graphic, but there was a girl in Brazil who was doing one of the bungee jumping off a bridge, and they didn't have a bungee to it to her.

[May Martin]

I read about that, and it was

[Stephanie Allynne]

on,

[Tig Notaro]

like, a month ago.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

Terrified.

[May Martin]

And then the guys tried to.

[Tig Notaro]

Nightmare.

[Stephanie Allynne]

She didn't live.

[Kyle Mooney]

No.

[Fortune Feimster]

There was no nothing.

[Tig Notaro]

No cord.

[Stephanie Allynne]

And they were filming what was below her.

[Tig Notaro]

Not good. But I'm just like, I don't want to do any of that adventure stuff. I'm so crazy that such a fuddy daddy with that stuff.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Well, plus, you got your recliner. Why would we call you?

[Tig Notaro]

Why would I leave paradise?

[Stephanie Allynne]

Yeah. Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

You know, in the words of tlc, don't go chasing waterfalls. Stick to the rivers and the lakes that you're used to. It's words to live by. True.

[Stephanie Allynne]

That is terrible advice.

[May Martin]

I agree. That's terrible advice. You gotta dream big.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Don't you? Gotta chase the waterfalls. Yeah, you gotta get out of your comfort zone.

[Tig Notaro]

The grass is not always greener.

[Stephanie Allynne]

We can't all sit home.

[Tig Notaro]

I'm sticking to the rivers and the lakes that I'm used to.

[May Martin]

What about in the words of Oscar Wilde, shoot for the moon and even if you miss, you land in the stars?

[Stephanie Allynne]

Yeah, not always.

[May Martin]

Yeah, true. Sometimes you just float away in space and die a slow death.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Oh.

[May Martin]

Anyways, what if we find a way to attach you to. Would you parachute in recliner like we find a way that you can stay seated in the recliner.

[Tig Notaro]

I don't want to. I don't want to parachute. I don't want to bungee jump. I don't want to paraglide. I don't want to go to space. I don't want to go in a submarine. What else?

[May Martin]

And you know what? We respect your boundaries.

[Tig Notaro]

I don't sound like an angry name. Another I don't want to. I don't want a paddle board. I don't want to water. I don't want to water ski.

[Stephanie Allynne]

You want to water ski?

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, you heard me.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Why Water ski? What about snow ski?

[Tig Notaro]

Don't want to do that either.

[May Martin]

Really?

[Stephanie Allynne]

The hell do you want to do?

[Tig Notaro]

Wow,

[Stephanie Allynne]

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[May Martin]

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[Stephanie Allynne]

Do you ski?

[Tig Notaro]

No, I don't know how to. Oh, I skipped.

[May Martin]

May I ski for the first time? Yeah, with Parvati and her and Ama and her family. And I was like this is absolute insanity. Hurtling down a hill at unprotected at breakneck speeds. And there were I it was my first time ever and there was A. Like a. What do you call? Like a intersection where you could either go down the. The bunny hill easy way, a fork in the forest, or the other way was like death black diamond steep. And. And I couldn't control my turning and I start going down the death black diamond thing, and I didn't know what to do, so I just made myself fall. Just wiped out. Oh, I found it terrifying.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Have you snowboarded?

[May Martin]

Don't know, but I. Chasing waterfalls. Please stick to the rivers and the lakes. Such.

[Tig Notaro]

I used to.

[May Martin]

I feel like you slowed that down and you gave it a real grungy.

[Tig Notaro]

A little something on there. That's what I was playing when you. I've booted down that hill.

[May Martin]

I've wakeboarded and water skied and kneeboarded, and I'm weirdly good at knee boarding. I think I got good knees.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Fortune's mad about that, too. What a terrible attitude. Thomas, can you block her? Could you block her?

[Tig Notaro]

Name another thing you love.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Can you do a blackout? Wait, what's another thing?

[Tig Notaro]

Hula. I said name. Name one. Name one other outdoorsy, dangerous thing.

[May Martin]

Rock climbing.

[Nicole Byer]

Okay.

[Stephanie Allynne]

I have something controversial.

[May Martin]

Oh, controversial?

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, controversial.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Controversial.

[May Martin]

What is it?

[Stephanie Allynne]

I don't like heart hands.

[Tig Notaro]

Oh, wow.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

Why are you. Why are you against Swifties?

[Stephanie Allynne]

Is that swifty?

[Tig Notaro]

No, it's just that. It's just that generation, you know, I love Taylor Swift.

[Stephanie Allynne]

I just don't like heart hands.

[Carrie Kenny Silver]

Really?

[Tig Notaro]

Why do you think that is?

[Stephanie Allynne]

I can't figure it out.

[May Martin]

It just.

[Tig Notaro]

Because it's not fully it.

[Stephanie Allynne]

No, it's just. You know what? Maybe it's just that everyone does it now, and I'm like, thomas, stop doing hard hands.

[May Martin]

But, you know, in Korea they do this, which is a heart, and I think that's cuter.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Oh, I like that.

[May Martin]

Yeah, that's like.

[Stephanie Allynne]

I can work with that.

[May Martin]

Yeah, that's a little heart. You see people do that in photos, and it's a little better than this, but I.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Do you like hard hands?

[May Martin]

I liked it one time on this tour when a man had a seizure in the audience. And so we ended the show and they were calling the medics, and it was really scary. And so everyone was being very quiet and respectfully leaving. And so instead of, like bowing and people clapping and cheering, I just went like this. And the whole audience was sending. Was doing the heart thing back. And I was like, okay, so I liked it. Thank you.

[Stephanie Allynne]

But I. But when you say you liked it once on this tour, is that implying that you also are not crazy about hard Hands.

[May Martin]

I. I. Tell the truth, I would never. It was the only time I've spun. I've done it like it's come. I've spontaneously done it. And other than that, I don't think I would ever do it really. But. Oh, Thomas just did a whole other one. Yeah, that one I really don't like.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Yeah, well, I don't like Thomas.

[May Martin]

Right, right.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Yes. Yes.

[Tig Notaro]

What else do we not like but

[Stephanie Allynne]

fortune are you love hard hands?

[Tig Notaro]

I don't mind them.

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But do you love them?

[Tig Notaro]

I don't go doing it, but I don't mind it. You know, I mean.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Okay. And may have you only gone doing it once?

[May Martin]

Yeah, I've only gone doing it once.

[Stephanie Allynne]

I have not done it except on here.

[May Martin]

But if someone does it to me, I'll do it back.

[Tig Notaro]

I find that my heart's not great, that other people seem to do it better. This feels like when I try to do it, it feels awkward. Right.

[Stephanie Allynne]

I think when there's like a surge of everybody doing something, I immediately go, I don't like that.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah. Oh, like. Like when people would.

[Fortune Feimster]

The flash mobs.

[Tig Notaro]

You didn't like that?

[May Martin]

Let's. Why have we not talked about flash mobs on this podcast?

[Stephanie Allynne]

Girl? Let's get into it, girls.

[May Martin]

Get into it. They are crazy. I. I haven't seen one in a while, but those proposal videos that went around for a while where it was like, oh, that.

[Tig Notaro]

That was beautiful.

[May Martin]

And looking for something fun.

[Stephanie Allynne]

I have to confess, I enjoyed that when I first saw that.

[May Martin]

Oh, did you?

[Stephanie Allynne]

I did. I was like, well, this is fun. What the hell am I watching?

[Tig Notaro]

You're like, I wish I'd come up with that.

[May Martin]

I like the idea. I like sort of this. The surprise of, like, the break from the norm of like, oh, my God, everyone's. But I would hate to be proposed to that way because the pressure.

[Stephanie Allynne]

1 million percent don't want to be proposed to like that. But that was, I think, maybe the one and only thing like that that I ever saw. And I was like, this is. I just loved how this was fully orchestrated and. Yeah, but I'm not like a. I love a mob situation.

[Nicole Byer]

I don't.

[Stephanie Allynne]

I think it was flash mob, whatever it's called. I think it was maybe this American life, when it was a TV show, they had this. I think it was on this where they had a bunch of people learn a completely unknown band, all of their music, and then went and saw them live. And then when the band came on, everybody was dancing and singing all of the songs.

[May Martin]

I don't know what that was from either, but I remember that, too. I like things like that. That's cool like that. Just for the sake of it. Like a big, absurd prank.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Yeah. And the band was just. They were like, playing going, the hell is happening? And it was sold out with people knowing all of the words. I think it was this American Life. Was that. Was that that Thomas? I feel like that's something you would know, but that kind of thing is. I just love. It's such a funny little moment. Wait, was this American Life? Yeah, the episode is called Mind Games. And what was a band called?

[May Martin]

Psychological Torture.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, the band was called Ghosts of Pasha.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Nice.

[May Martin]

Their first ever tour in New York

[Stephanie Allynne]

and it's sold out. Everyone knows their music. That's.

[May Martin]

So there was a thing in. At the Edinburgh Fringe Festival, there was a group that would do that every night. Pick. They would pick a tiny show that was, like, struggling for numbers in some pub, and they would all, like, celebrate.

[Stephanie Allynne]

That's awesome.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, I like that.

[Stephanie Allynne]

That's awesome. You don't like the music thing, Fortune?

[Tig Notaro]

Oh, I don't mind any of it. People want to dance in a group and learn. Whatevs.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

I was never in a flash mob or any y' all in a flash mob.

[May Martin]

No, but put it on the list. You know, I'll do it.

[Tig Notaro]

I can't even. I even have a hard. I will occasionally try to learn one of those tick tock dances.

[Stephanie Allynne]

What?

[Tig Notaro]

I don't.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Can you film yourself doing that, please,

[May Martin]

and send it to us?

[Tig Notaro]

I did for myself doing one back when Meghan Trainor had this popular song and I poked myself in the eye whilst trying to do this dance. I just don't understand how people learn these dances so quickly.

[May Martin]

I know.

[Stephanie Allynne]

More talented, probably.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah.

[Stephanie Allynne]

I don't know.

[May Martin]

The three of us are not. Well, fortunately, you're. I actually. I don't know. I'm speaking out of turn. I was going to say the three of us are not natural dancers, but actually, Fortune.

[Tig Notaro]

Oh, I do have rhythm.

[May Martin]

You have rhythm because the rhythm is gonna get you.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Oh, my gosh. I'm like the master of fingers.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, you are.

[May Martin]

That's really good.

[Tig Notaro]

That was your nickname in high school.

[Stephanie Allynne]

That's right. Well, if it isn't the master. Stephanie told me she posted a video of me dancing recently.

[Tig Notaro]

Wait.

[May Martin]

Yeah. You were grooving?

[Stephanie Allynne]

Yeah, yeah, it's on Stephanie's. Stephanie's Instagram.

[Tig Notaro]

That's how people know you're okay.

[May Martin]

I. I was hanging out with, like, old. Old school friend like, best friends. And then we're talking about dancing. And. Or we were like, we should go out tonight. And then one of them said, are you gonna do your dip? And I was like, what's my dip? And. And everyone's like, oh, yeah, your. Your dip. You do your dip. And I. I don't know that I do that, but I guess if I'm drunk and dancing, I. I dip like my. But it's weird how people know things about you.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Can we see a little bit?

[Carrie Kenny Silver]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

What does that mean?

[Tig Notaro]

I. I was assuming you dipped another person.

[May Martin]

No, no, it's I. And it must be unconscious when I do it, because I actually don't know what it is. I guess it's something like.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Oh, yeah.

[May Martin]

I'm trying to imagine if I was spontaneously. I don't know how to dance. And then what am I. What am I dipping? I don't know. Maybe my hips go low.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Do we have it on the list that all three of us go out dancing together?

[May Martin]

I think it's to go. To go to the club. Like, we have to go to a nightclub.

[Stephanie Allynne]

We have to go to a lesbian. A gay bar.

[May Martin]

Yes.

[Tig Notaro]

Oh, I think they're opening. I think that they are opening a lesbian bar back up in la.

[May Martin]

Oh, yeah, I think.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Is there not one now?

[Fortune Feimster]

There is not.

[May Martin]

Oh, Thomas says that what we do have on the list. I have no memory of this.

[Tig Notaro]

I'll learn the dance from Chicago.

[May Martin]

Come on, boys.

[Tig Notaro]

I do want to learn that dance. That. That they have this in that dance way.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Oh, prepare to host.

[Tig Notaro]

And they do. And they do shoulder things.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Shoulder shimmies.

[Tig Notaro]

Mateo Lane has been in Chicago on Broadway. How awesome is that?

[May Martin]

Well, lest we forget that Tig was almost

[Stephanie Allynne]

in it on Broadway with.

[Tig Notaro]

That's the role.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Anderson.

[Tig Notaro]

That's the role that he's playing. What's that? Billy or whatever.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Wow. Yeah, it was Billy. I'm doing a show with Mateo in Calgary. But that's. That wasn't what I was gonna say. I was gonna say I've never met Pamela Anderson, but I would love to so I could tell her that I was almost Billy.

[Tig Notaro]

I have a lot in common.

[Stephanie Allynne]

What is that?

[Tig Notaro]

We both have the same birthday and we have huge knockers.

[May Martin]

Your international sex symbols.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Happy birthday.

[Tig Notaro]

But we do have the same birthday on Canada Day.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Oh, no, she's on my ex's birthday.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

And we both have tigo bitties.

[Stephanie Allynne]

That is indeed correct. Now, should we get to our question? Let's do it.

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[Tig Notaro]

Oh, y'. All. Well, I'M very excited about today's question asker because she is hilarious.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Yes, she is.

[Tig Notaro]

She's so funny. She's a Emmy nominated actor and comedian who played Trudy on Reno 91 1. Truly one of the greatest comedy television series ever. And she's currently Anne on the four Seasons on Netflix with Tina Fey and a very talented cast.

[Fortune Feimster]

She's also a member of the renowned comedy sketch group the State. Carrie, Kenny Silver is asking today's question.

[Carrie Kenny Silver]

Nice. Hi, handsome pod. Hi, beautiful friends. It's Carrie Kenny Silver.

[Nicole Byer]

Hi.

[Carrie Kenny Silver]

Bye. Just kidding. Hi, you guys. I have a burning question for you. Have any of you ever had a particularly embarrassing or uncomfortable or ideally mortifying experience with an audience member or a fan, either during a live show or out in the wild?

[May Martin]

Great.

[Tig Notaro]

Did y' all ever watch. Did y' all watch Reno911? Where y'. All.

[May Martin]

I never did.

[Stephanie Allynne]

I have seen it. I had a. At one time, close friend that was on that show. And so I was very familiar with the cast, certain elements. Oh, and also Nick Swartzen was on that show. Right.

[Tig Notaro]

God, that showed.

[Stephanie Allynne]

So ridiculous.

[Tig Notaro]

So funny.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Oh, my gosh. And, oh, you know what I did see also was Natasha Leggero. She played a pantless person in that.

[May Martin]

Pantless.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Pantless. What does that even mean? She. They just would blur her out and she was just without pants.

[May Martin]

That's funny.

[Stephanie Allynne]

I think she's done that on a couple of shows. She's so ridiculous. Natasha.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, they had all these recurring characters that had some shtick that would continue that throughout. Yeah, but man, that show.

[May Martin]

We should get a question from Natasha, by the way. Sidebar.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Yes, yes. Natasha is so deeply funny. But. And Carrie, I mean, she's like really silly.

[May Martin]

She's got funny bones.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Yes, she does. Yes, she does.

[Tig Notaro]

Very funny bones. I did a guest star with her on Awkwafina's show and we had such a lovely time. She's fantastic.

[Fortune Feimster]

And one of her best friends is Pink.

[Tig Notaro]

No way.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Is also wonderful.

[Tig Notaro]

I've never met Pink. That's.

[May Martin]

How did they. How did they become best friends? That's crazy.

[Tig Notaro]

I believe they live lived near each other for a long time.

[May Martin]

Wow.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Alicia.

[May Martin]

Oh, is that. Yeah, that's Pink's real name.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Yeah.

[May Martin]

Tig. The things that you know and don't know are.

[Tig Notaro]

I know. Why do you know that?

[May Martin]

How do you know that Pink's name is Alicia?

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[Tig Notaro]

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[Stephanie Allynne]

Wayfair Every style, every home. I have socialized Alicia. I've socialized with Alicia.

[Tig Notaro]

Of course you have.

[Stephanie Allynne]

A few times. You know, I can't claim she's my closest friend, but I really dig her. You know what? She was there for my original. She's who I had. I had Pink when I did my original Adele performance where I got up in front of like hundreds of people and played piano and sang to the best of my ability. I actually, I went up to Pink because she had just been on stage at this point. Party people were rotating on stage performing. And when she. I said to her, I was like, hey, I go, I want to get up on stage next. Will you go tell the DJ to play Adele's hello? And then I'm just. And she was like, yeah, she was so excited because she didn't know I sang. And she was about to find out. I don't. But anyway. And I had Stephanie used her phone to record that first Adele performance that I did. And in the video, you see Pink doubled over laughing.

[May Martin]

Oh, that's so.

[Stephanie Allynne]

But again, she's not any. Not, not a close friend. Just somebody that I have socialized with.

[May Martin]

And does she say, I'm Alicia? Like, did her friends call her Alicia or Pink?

[Stephanie Allynne]

I think it's a mix. Yeah. I think her good friends call her Alicia.

[May Martin]

Alicia. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

She just hosted the Tony Awards and she did that Chicago dance and saying she actually did a phenomenal job.

[Stephanie Allynne]

So good. Well, she.

[May Martin]

I was.

[Stephanie Allynne]

She's so good.

[Tig Notaro]

She's a lesbian icon who's not a lesbian.

[Stephanie Allynne]

I know. But, man, is that hard to believe.

[Tig Notaro]

We lost her to the Straits.

[Stephanie Allynne]

We will wait this as long as it takes.

[Tig Notaro]

We'll smoke her out of her hole.

[Stephanie Allynne]

We'll smoke her Into a hole. Now, listen.

[May Martin]

Hey,

[Stephanie Allynne]

hey. I didn't say that. Now the most awkward or.

[May Martin]

Or she. She said, preferably mortifying.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Well, I'll tell you one. I was in Minneapolis, and I was. I. I was either performing that day, the next day, or I had performed the night before. I was having the worst day. I was, like, emotionally in it, in a situation in my life. Somebody came up and talked to me, and I was like, hey, I think maybe ask for a picture. I was really not in a good place. And I was like, I'm sorry. I'm just. And she did not take that well.

[Carrie Kenny Silver]

Really?

[Stephanie Allynne]

Oh, did not take that well.

[Tig Notaro]

Oh, my.

[Stephanie Allynne]

I could. I know. I was just like. I mean, I. It's been years, but I remember thinking, like, I feel like I am allowed to tell this person, this is not good. Good timing. You know, it was one of those. Just gotten off the phone with somebody, really bad place. And. And. And her response to me was brutal, and I just wanted to, like, lose my mind and explain what I was going through.

[May Martin]

What did she say? Was she just, like, how.

[Stephanie Allynne]

It was so long ago, I can't remember. I just remember the feeling of, like, whoa. She feels very entitled to a photo with me, and she doesn't. It felt like if she knew what I was going through, then she maybe would have backed off, but clearly not, because I just. It was just a generic blanket response of like, I'm sorry, I'm having a very bad day, or, that should be enough. That's not.

[May Martin]

And it was not enough. She's like, let's see the receipts.

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Yeah.

[Stephanie Allynne]

But I would say, for the most part, people are cool. And, you know, I'm always a fan of somebody that's real chill and walks by and like, hey, yeah, dig what you do. And it's like, oh, awesome. But this was rough.

[May Martin]

My probably most awkward thing was a date that. And maybe I've said this, but it was a date from an app. And we'd been chatting, and this girl had been like, yeah, what do you do for a living? And this is in my late 20s in England. And she was really funny and cool. And then we met up, and then we had so much in common. We were, like, crazy amounts in common. And then it was getting more specific, and. And then she was like, yeah, my favorite movie is Hocus Pocus. I was like, me, too. And then after about an hour, maybe 90 minutes, she was like, I've seen all your stuff. And I. So she. She knew what to say, and that's fine. But she had actively lied. Like, she'd been like, what do you do for work?

[Tig Notaro]

Like, what?

[May Martin]

Oh, cool, you do comedy. And then it was like, really strange to think that she, yeah. Had actively lied and that she. She knew all that. All that stuff that was weird. And then it felt like on the date, she just. She was. She kept being like, let's get a pic on the date with this, you know, in this funny club or whatever. And it was like, oh, you want the pic? Really?

[Tig Notaro]

Aw.

[May Martin]

Yeah. So that one was weird. And then the other one is. That I for sure told. Is when I was out, did a show, then all the comics are backstage chatting. And then it was like, let's. And a bunch of people's friends. And it was like, let's all go to this dance night in a pub a few blocks away. And so we're all walking and this. This. There's this girl in the group who everyone assumes knows someone. And then we get to the bar and then she. She's getting drunker and drunker. And then slowly I'm saying she's friends with, With Steen, right? And he's like, I don't know who that is. And. And then she's really drunk. And then on the dance floor, she pulls out a bunch of flowers from her sleeve like a magician, like, fake flowers, and gets down on one knee and proposes to. And then I'm saying, I think we. I think we've just realized. You were just at the show, right? She was like, yeah, I just was at the show. And then I just came backstage and I was like, okay, it just feels a little weird. And then. And then I go, how. How old are you? 17. And she's been drinking at the bar. She's been with us in a group. And so I said, we got to get you home. You got to go home. And so. But she was like, I don't know, I. I live really far away. And. And I was gonna get a hotel tonight. Now everything's closed. I was like, oh, my God. So I said, okay, I'll. I'll. If you give me your address, I'll book you an Uber. We'll get you in the Uber. And then I put her in the Uber and I told the driver, like, can you call me, you know, if there's a problem, this is my number. And like, just get her home. And then I kind of forgot about it. And then my phone rang, like two hours later. This is like a 250 pound, two hour drive home to Brighton. She was. We were in London. She drove.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Oh, 250 pound. Like money.

[May Martin]

Money, yeah.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Oh, okay. I was like, I'm not tracking this. What does that have to do?

[May Martin]

That would be crazy if I was

[Stephanie Allynne]

like, by the way, side note, this is the height and weight of this person.

[May Martin]

Yeah. So then the Uber driver calls me and he's like, I don't know what to do. She won't get out of my car. I'm outside her house. She won't go into her house. And I'm like, okay, put me on the phone with her. And so I'm like, hi, are you at. Is this your house? She' like, yeah, Yeah. I was like, you gotta go in. She's like, fine. Okay, fine. Like. And then eventually goes in, and I thought, God, she's gonna wake up and feel really embarrassed and I'll never hear from her again. She comes to my next show, she's laughing about it, she's going, that was crazy. I said, are you gonna pay me back for that Uber? That was wild. What was your plan that night? Yeah, I think her plan was to. To seduce me, but it was really strange.

[Tig Notaro]

Or to get a free Uber ride back home, maybe. Yeah.

[May Martin]

But she had carried the fake flowers in her sleeve all night.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Oh, man, that is wild. She's listening.

[May Martin]

Maybe.

[Stephanie Allynne]

She is for sure listening. She's like, I know out there, she's

[Tig Notaro]

like, that was me.

[Stephanie Allynne]

You know who's not listening to this episode is the woman that wanted a picture with me when I was so upset after a phone call I had just gone off of.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah.

[May Martin]

She became a Joe Rogan fan after that.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Immediately, she was. She hated my guts as soon as that happened. Which also tells you that she wasn't really. She really like me because, you know, if somebody that I loved was having a rotten day, I'd be like, oh, my God, I'm so sorry. I hope you're.

[May Martin]

I know. I feel like when someone says, like, oh, do you mind if we. If I take a photo with you? They have to be prepared that the person. Yeah, you're asking, do you mind? Can I. And then if the person's like, oh, I'm sorry, it's not a good moment. You know, you can.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Well, and people will oftentimes just walk up with their phone, going to put their arm around you before they even say, could I get a picture with you? Or your answer.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Stephanie Allynne]

So I don't know. I think it's probably best to check in with boundaries and stuff like that.

[Tig Notaro]

I was trying to think of. I haven't had anything too crazy. I was at dinner. Dinner once, and, like, it was like a circular booth, and I. So my. It was like I was kind of on the edge of the booth, but there was enough of a seat beside me and. And I was just chatting, and a woman just, like, came into the booth hot and went it, like, hey. In my face. And I went.

[Nicole Byer]

Like.

[Tig Notaro]

It scared me so bad because it was out of nowhere. And she just, like, jumped and, like, sat down to, like, be a part of my dinner. And I was like, yes, what. What's happening? And I'm usually, you know, I'm very open, a friendly person, I think. And. But that was just a lot. I was like, okay. I don't, you know, I don't want to be like, get out of here. But I'm like, you can't just, like, sit down at dinner with me. You can't, A, scare the shit out of me and then B, sit down at the. And have dinner with me. And my. I think at my date. This is a long time ago, but, well.

[Stephanie Allynne]

And she clearly felt that she knew you so well from your. From your work. And then that becomes that awkwardness of, you've never seen this person in your life, and they're so excited to see you, and you're just, like, having dinner or having a bad day or something.

[Tig Notaro]

Something. Which I had that a lot during Chelsea lately days because I was on TV in some form, either a sketch or on the roundtable or something, like five days a week for four years.

[May Martin]

And that show is massive.

[Tig Notaro]

A lot of people would, like, go to bed watching that show, so they felt this familiarity with a lot of us in a way that other people that were on tv. So that's different than what we experience. Yeah, it was a very like, oh, we're pals. We know each other. So that there. I think I've blocked out a lot of those interactions, but there was a lot of that kind of stuff back during those days. But I had a similar thing tig with. Of somebody wanting a picture, and I'm pretty open about that. I'm usually like, yeah, let's, you know. Or I'll take someone's phone and just snap it. Like, I'm like, what? You know, happy to do it, as long as it's not some weird, crazy time. I've definitely walked through a couple airports with tears in my eyes or something. And you're like, this is not the best time maybe for a picture. But, yeah, I was in Toronto. It was when I was filming fubar. And my co star, Monica and I were in a really deep discussion, like, very, you know, close talking. Like some. Something was going on with production or something personal. And we were clearly in this, like, very.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

Deep conversation where we just were, like, locked in. And this girl comes up and she's like, hey, you know, can I take a picture? And. And I, you know, I didn't want to be rude to Monica and, like, stop this thing. And. Yeah, and I always take pictures. Like, always. And this was literally. I feel like I've said no maybe like three times in my entire career. And I was like, ah, is it okay if I just. Not right now? Because we're in the thick of this big thing. And in hindsight, I wish I had just done it. Like, just take the picture, you know, and that's that. She just started, like, negotiating with me, like, well, what if it was just, like, really quick? And like. And I was just like. And I was like, I just. We're really in the thick of this thing. And it. It kept tracking on and on and on. And she just didn't want to let it go. And I was like. And at that point I was just like, I don't. I think I have to just stick to what I said. But I'm really regretting it. And I'm kind of holding the line. But she, like, won't leave. And I was just like. And now it's become a really weird, long thing. Then she leaves.

[May Martin]

Why would she want the photo if the photo ended up being you? Miserable.

[Stephanie Allynne]

I know, because it's like they got the thing that they. Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

And I'm trying not to be rude to my co star who's trying to

[Stephanie Allynne]

talk about something very personal. And you were stuck, and I was stuck.

[Tig Notaro]

And then. And then. So we get back to our thing and I feel like something kind of out of the corner of my.

[Stephanie Allynne]

No, no.

[Tig Notaro]

We're like on a bench kind of by the street.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Absolutely not.

[Tig Notaro]

I look to my right and the girl is across the street just staring. Death stares at me. Just standing on the side of the road just like 10 minutes. And I was like, I should have

[Stephanie Allynne]

just sang in the picture.

[May Martin]

That is a pretty unheard.

[Stephanie Allynne]

I thought you were gonna say that. She was just filming you. Yeah, I've had people do that too.

[Tig Notaro]

An absolute death stare. And the irony is I always take pictures. I'm like, yeah, very open to that. And the one time I just was like, can I just have this moment with my friend? And. And it was. It turned out to be a Nightmare. Good Lord.

[May Martin]

Good Lord.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Yeah, I did this. I did this, like, Q A years ago. Stephanie was with me.

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It was.

[Stephanie Allynne]

I think we were in Denver or something. And I don't know what it was about. Some Q and A. And during the Q and A, somebody asked, you know, about pictures and interactions with people. And I said, you know, mainly, I really don't appreciate it if I'm eating and. Or if I'm with my family. You know, when I'm with my family, it's just so awkward because I'm just like, with my kids. And. And so, anyway, after the panel, we went out to dinner or we went out to lunch or something, and this woman comes up to me while we're sitting there having lunch, and she said, I just saw you on the panel. She goes, I know you said you don't like it when people, you know, come up and interrupt your meals, but do you mind if I get a picture? And I was like, what is happening?

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Like, it was so bizarre.

[May Martin]

That's crazy.

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Yeah.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Yeah, I know you said that, but, like, whatever. It's just me, you know, like, can I do it?

[May Martin]

Yeah, she could wait till you're done the meal, like. Yeah.

[Stephanie Allynne]

And again, these are such rare.

[May Martin]

People are super nice.

[Tig Notaro]

Oh, yeah, Very rare. People are so lovely and chill and kind and awesome.

[May Martin]

I love chatting.

[Stephanie Allynne]

And it's always, like I said, those. Those nice moments where you almost think you know somebody because they're so chill. They walk by like, hey, Tig, what's up?

[May Martin]

Yeah, hey.

[Stephanie Allynne]

That kind of thing. Like, I love it, you know, but listen, I've.

[Tig Notaro]

I've been. There have been times in my life, I've been that person, too. I mean, I will never forget when I was in college.

[May Martin]

Oh, God.

[Tig Notaro]

This is the most random celebrity sighting. Tipper Gore, who was married to Al Gore, who was the vice president at the time. Tipper Gore was at a talk in Raleigh, and I. That I went to, and this was back before digital cameras. And I. I just said. I got to her, and I was like, oh, can I have a picture? She's like, sure. So we take a picture. I'm just like, oh, I don't think that probably looked very good. And so I was like. I was just like. And I have another one that didn't take. Like, it didn't. The little thing hadn't slid, so it didn't take. So I went back for a third time. Oh, my God. She's like, okay.

[Stephanie Allynne]

And were you just a die hard Tipper Gore fan?

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah. Know why I was so obsessed with getting this picture, and she just was so annoyed, and she had every right to be, because I. I mean, honestly, it could have been four pictures. I feel like it was something crazy over the top when. And I. And I still to this day, don't know why I needed four pictures. With Timber Gore.

[Stephanie Allynne]

New merchandise alert. I need four pictures

[Tig Notaro]

at the very end. God bless her. She's just like, okay, even. Even she had to be, like, confused. Like, why is this person obsessed with me?

[Stephanie Allynne]

I was starstruck just a week ago at that Aspen Health Festival. Yeah, this. I think her last name is nuric. Dr. Jessica nurick. Oh, my gosh. She is so smart.

[May Martin]

This is like a niche. A niche hero of yours who you're.

[Stephanie Allynne]

I mean, she's just so smart. And she. I was telling her what I so appreciated when I was on social media was when she would deliver her information, when she does deliver her information. And she also speaks out a lot against, like, Bobby Kennedy and stuff. And she. She doesn't have that, like, sarcastic slant. She just corrects everything and is so direct with her information. And that's what I want. I was like. I told my friend Tony. I was like, oh, my gosh. I was like, I love this one. I have to go say hi. I have to go say hi to this doctor. But I didn't get a picture with her. But I did tell her, like, man, am I thankful for the information you get out into the world. She's so smart.

[May Martin]

When I was, like, 11, at, like, the height of NSync's fame, they were in a restaurant, and I think it wasn't even the. Maybe I've told them it was Chris Kirkpatrick and Lance Bass or something. And I. And I waited till the end of their meal and then got the photo taken. Oh, Thomas is not it. Yeah, I've told this. Yeah. Yeah. I got the photo taken with the restaurant camera. They had. They had a camera at the restaurant because I didn't have a camera. And then I went to school the next day, and I said to the restaurant, I'm going to come back and get this photo. And then I. At school, I told everyone I met in sync. Everyone thought I was lying. I was like, just you wait, guys. And then called the restaurant. They were like, we have no camera here. Or like, we don't know where it went. And so there's no evidence that it happened.

[Tig Notaro]

We don't have a house camera. It was some random person's camera. Oh, my God.

[May Martin]

Should we hear Carrie's Answer.

[Stephanie Allynne]

I think we should. That's what we're here for.

[Carrie Kenny Silver]

Okay, so my answer is that, yes, I have had a mortifying experience out in the wild with a fan. My son had just been born, and I just wanted to get out of the house. And so we were just kind of walking around the mall with his stroller and had gone into Urban Outfitters to try on some clothes because nothing fit anymore. And someone pulled back the curtain and took a picture of me. And it was so jarring and confusing that I was like, this. We're gonna go home. This is a weird.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Oh, my gosh.

[Carrie Kenny Silver]

So I was in that. That place while I was pushing my son to the. To the parking garage, and this woman steps right in front of me, and she goes, why do I know you? And I was like, ah, I don't know. And I was already just flustered and ready to get home and feeling out of sorts. And I said, I don't know. I'm on TV. I have a show called Reno 911. And she was like, no.

[May Martin]

Yeah, that's.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Of course, of course.

[Carrie Kenny Silver]

Wouldn't move. Kept standing there. So I said, I. I have done other television shows and movies. And she's like, no, I don't really watch.

[May Martin]

I don't really watch movies.

[Stephanie Allynne]

I don't really watch tv. Classic.

[Carrie Kenny Silver]

I was like, I was in a band.

[Tig Notaro]

Oh, I didn't know that.

[Carrie Kenny Silver]

She's like, no, I don't really. You don't listen to music?

[Tig Notaro]

She hates music.

[Carrie Kenny Silver]

So now I'm, like, stuck in this back and forth with this woman who I. I don't know. She clearly doesn't know me. But for some reason, it is vital that we figure out how she knows me. So now I'm like, well, I'm in a comedy group, you know? Do you like comedy?

[May Martin]

We wrote a book.

[Carrie Kenny Silver]

No one ever bought it. Maybe you were one of the two people who bought it. She's like, no, I don't really read. Finally, she goes, did you work at the TCBY in Rehoboth, Delaware, in 1989? And I was like, yeah. No, she said, I was your manager. She fired me. It was my first job I'd ever been fired from. And she fired me because I had said that I was, like, moving there, but really I was just a summer college student, and they. She didn't want that, so she fired me. So we got to the bottom of it. So not only was she not a fan, she was a lady who did not like me.

[Stephanie Allynne]

She was really not a fan.

[Carrie Kenny Silver]

Love you.

[Tig Notaro]

Guys, sit back. Love you dear life. To put her in her place one

[Stephanie Allynne]

more time, that felt like the perfect tee up of everything. That always happens where somebody, even when they're like, who are you? How do I know you? And you go, oh, I'm an actor, comedian. They're like, no, that's it. And you know, they realize that that is it, but they're too embarrassed to say it. And they'll just keep you there. They'll just keep you there. And I thought that's where she was headed.

[May Martin]

But no, it was really a nemesis from the past.

[Tig Notaro]

Yes, I know. Cuz often you're sitting there going, having to like tell them your resume. Well, I know, it's so embarrassing. I just had this.

[May Martin]

Yeah, and I had that in. In Idlewild where the woman was saying, I just watched you in something. And I said, maybe I was in a show on Netflix. No. And then what was it called? A Wayward and what was it about? And then I had to tell her the plot.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Oh my gosh.

[May Martin]

Yeah, it was crazy.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Oh, that is so funny.

[May Martin]

That was a great story though.

[Tig Notaro]

Really?

[May Martin]

Yeah, that was great.

[Stephanie Allynne]

I love it.

[May Martin]

I don't have much coming up, guys.

[Stephanie Allynne]

You don't?

[May Martin]

I don't. I'm taking August is pretty chill for me. But check out social media and I'll. I'll post about shows I'm doing in LA and I'm working on, on new material. And check out Feel Good or Wayward on Netflix. What about you guys?

[Fortune Feimster]

I have coming up this weekend, Provincetown, Massachusetts.

[Tig Notaro]

I'm doing a bunch of shows there.

[Fortune Feimster]

And then Greenville, South Carolina, Wilmington, North Carolina, Boise, Portland, Oregon, Austin, Chattanooga, Tennessee, Dayton, Ohio, Louisville, Madison, Wisconsin, Durham, Oakland, Bakersfield, Los Angeles, Palm Springs, Denver and Nashville.

[Stephanie Allynne]

I'm going to be in Rochester, Calgary

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[Stephanie Allynne]

Omaha, Oklahoma City, Cincinnati, Charleston, West Virginia, Chattanooga, Knoxville, Olympia, Washington, Fresno, Napa. And always check out Largo and Dynasty

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[Stephanie Allynne]

And please go to handsomepod.com and get

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[Stephanie Allynne]

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[Tig Notaro]

Spread the word. Spread the Lord's word. I'm excited to go to Provincetown because that's the area that my mom referred to as a gay enclave.

[Stephanie Allynne]

I remember that. Have you not been there before?

[Tig Notaro]

It's been.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Oh yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

She brought you.

[Stephanie Allynne]

She brought you.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, she brought me there for the first time for my gay awakening.

[Stephanie Allynne]

That's awesome.

[Tig Notaro]

To that gay enclave.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Well, you can also Have a gay awakening a day early on Hulu.

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[Fortune Feimster]

Oh, that was in there.

[May Martin]

Beautiful.

[Fortune Feimster]

Seamless.

[Stephanie Allynne]

Make sure you subscribe and do all of those things, but pass along your

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favorite episodes and help us build this handsome community. And until next time, keep it handsome.

[Fortune Feimster]

Handsome is hosted by me, Fortune Feimster, Tig Notaro, and May Martin. The show is produced, recorded and edited by Thomas Ouelette. Email [e-mail] and follow us on social media at Handsomepod.

[Tig Notaro]

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[May Martin]

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[Fortune Feimster]

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[Tig Notaro]

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[May Martin]

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[May Martin]

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[Kyle Mooney]

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