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May Martin
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May Martin
Cheers.
Tig Notaro
Welcome to the handsome pod. It is your dear, dear friend Tig Notaro, and I am sitting here with
May Martin
May Martin and Fortune Feamster. I get butterflies every time that we have to. Well, because I get anxious about the order of who's gonna say hello.
Fortune Feimster
We never know, you guys. It's unplanned.
Tig Notaro
It's a little bit done.
Fortune Feimster
That's why we're always like. But here we are.
Tig Notaro
Here we are. We are all unplanned, and we're here.
Fortune Feimster
Is everybody having a nice day?
Tig Notaro
Well, I. I am. I'm just still dealing with the construction going on, and they've settled down, but again, it's like they know when we're about to record. They ramp it up. They make me nervous, and then they take it down a notch, and I hope it stays here, because I was like, oh, Lordy, this is going to be interesting.
May Martin
They're playing mind games with you.
Tig Notaro
And can I tell you something very fun that happened?
Fortune Feimster
Yeah. Yeah.
Tig Notaro
Yes.
May Martin
Please spell.
Tig Notaro
You know this, May. Stephanie and I were driving along, and I happened to say, well, look at that little house. And I pointed to a house, and Stephanie said, that's May's house.
Fortune Feimster
What?
May Martin
I can't believe it.
Tig Notaro
I was like, no, it's not. And she said, that's crazy. She said, I swear to God, I think that is May's house. And I was like. I took a picture because we were sitting in traffic, and I was truly, like, there was nothing. I just. I was like, oh, look at that little house. And. And not to say your house is little. I only saw it over a. Over a fence. I saw a roof and some trim. But really, the. One of the most random things that has happened. And I. I thought for sure once I. When I was like, okay, I'm gonna take a picture and send that to May. And Stephanie was like, it might be, like, a house over or. But she said, I think that's it. And so I took the picture, I sent it to May, and I said, is this your house?
May Martin
Yeah. You were like, Stephanie's like, stephanie seems to think this is your house. Yeah, it was my house.
Tig Notaro
It was May's house.
May Martin
I love that you guys are connected. The fact that it can inspire a reaction like, oh, look at that little house.
Tig Notaro
I love that. I mean, I really thought it's because
May Martin
it's perched on a cliff.
Tig Notaro
Yes.
May Martin
It's about to tumble into the street.
Fortune Feimster
Oh, no, don't give me heartbreak palpitation.
Tig Notaro
Yeah, well, I didn't want to make you nervous, but that is what I said. I said, look at that little house. And I was like, do you think that's going to stay?
Fortune Feimster
Because it's hanging off a cliff.
Tig Notaro
It's precariously hanging off a cliff. And. And so I did not add that in because I. I was like, I don't want to create any sort of anxiety for you.
May Martin
But I was like, it's there.
Tig Notaro
I was like, will that stay? And Stephanie said, that is amaze house.
May Martin
That's.
Fortune Feimster
Well, you know what's so funny is when May was looking at this house, May told us, like, I don't. It's on a cliff. And who knows? And I was like, don't get that house.
May Martin
I know.
Fortune Feimster
And then like a week later, sold. Sold my house.
May Martin
Yeah. I'm like, it's. It was weirdly cheap, actually.
Tig Notaro
And then I drive by, what, a year or two later, and I'm like, well, look at that little place. Do you think it'll hold?
May Martin
That won't be there long. Yeah. So I checked in recently to be like. Because I swear, when I moved in, they said, don't worry, we're dealing with that. Like, the city's going to come and fix that. Because not, it's not only a cliff, but it's eroding inwards. Like, it's.
Tig Notaro
Well, I have. I have an update. They have not fixed it.
May Martin
Yeah, they have not.
Tig Notaro
It is precariously placed on the edge of a cliff.
Fortune Feimster
Oh, my God.
May Martin
And they're announcing, 2027, they're going to fix it. They're saying, oh, okay.
Tig Notaro
Take their time.
Fortune Feimster
This is not okay.
Tig Notaro
So I do recall now that we. We did hear that your house is on a cliff, but actually seeing it, I. I was, oh, my Lord, will we make it next April?
Fortune Feimster
I'm praying for those. Whoever's in that little house up there,
Tig Notaro
whatever stranger happens to live up there,
Fortune Feimster
perched on this ledge, just happens to be your podcast co host and friend.
Tig Notaro
Yeah. So let's. Let's hope we make it to April.
May Martin
Well, the canary.
Tig Notaro
Let's hope May makes it to April. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Really?
May Martin
The canary in the coal mine is Matt and his wife living in my back house. Because that's right up against like I got a. I got a driveway. So I'm, you know. You have 30 seconds longer. Yeah.
Fortune Feimster
A little time. Okay.
Tig Notaro
Okay. Yeah.
Fortune Feimster
Your.
Tig Notaro
Your guest house dwellers are going to land on the top of a car and drive away.
May Martin
Okay. They'll be. They'll make it then like in a cartoon. They'll land in the back of a truck.
Tig Notaro
In a cartoon, the house. The guest house lands in the back. It's enough to where it really caught my attention and I was.
May Martin
God, wait. I love that I now know the. The truth. I think I need to start contacting the city and I think you should.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah, you.
Tig Notaro
You probably should push for that.
Fortune Feimster
They're not, they're not going to just be like, oh, let's go take care of this. No, it's going to require some annoy annoyance from you to them.
Tig Notaro
Okay. Okay. Fortune. I am going to send this the picture.
Fortune Feimster
Oh my God. Let's see it. Yeah. Because I haven't been there yet.
May Martin
I think this is a sign that you guys got to come over before the big one hits.
Tig Notaro
Do you see what?
May Martin
Stop. Are you serious? Oh my God.
Fortune Feimster
Whoa. That is. Wait right on it. I mean. Okay, here's the good news.
Tig Notaro
Okay, let's not lead with the good news.
Fortune Feimster
The good news is the cliff is not as high of a drop as I thought.
May Martin
You're not going to Fortune.
Tig Notaro
If you saw a person, if you fell down that cliff in a house just tumble.
Fortune Feimster
Right.
Tig Notaro
May is going to be fine. I'm worried about your. Your guest house dwellers.
Fortune Feimster
Here's the thing. Your hill is definitely eroding.
May Martin
Yeah.
Fortune Feimster
And your house is right on the cliff.
Tig Notaro
Yes, sir.
May Martin
Yes, sir.
Fortune Feimster
So this building, the building that's right at the fence is the guest house?
May Martin
That's correct. Yes.
Fortune Feimster
And then. And then you're. That's the. This taller one. Taller building.
May Martin
I mean, speaking of precarious houses, we can hear they're trying to keep yours together.
Tig Notaro
I know mine. Look, I. I told you the. We had some rotting in our deck and now it's getting repaired. But that's not as concerning as.
Fortune Feimster
Well, at least this part of the hill where your house is still has a lot of vegetation. So that's helpful.
Tig Notaro
Is that where your house is now?
May Martin
Yeah. I'm looking at the picture. I'm zooming in. But, yeah, you know, the painting looks good. I just repainted.
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Tig Notaro
Phenomenal. The color is gorgeous.
May Martin
Thank you.
Fortune Feimster
But what I'm saying is where your house is. To the right of your house.
Tig Notaro
Mm.
Fortune Feimster
Where your house is. Not that. That's where the erosion really is.
May Martin
No, that's where my house is. Oh, yeah. That is the part. That's exactly the part.
Fortune Feimster
Because the thing about a hill is you want it to have vegetation.
May Martin
Why?
Fortune Feimster
Because it catches all the water and the rain catch it. So when it's barren, it's tricky. That's where mudslides happen.
May Martin
Oh, God. I mean, I. I'm. I'm worried about when they fix it. They're gonna have to come onto my property, I bet. And fix above as well.
Tig Notaro
Well, a lot of the plate, like, across from your house, where I just learned is your house is another, you know, very steep cliff.
May Martin
But it.
Tig Notaro
They have a retaining wall that. Where they have cement and everything supporting that. So we just need to come over, put this on the list. Thomas, we need to go over and do a retaining wall and. And put cement on there, because we gotta save the little cowboy. I don't mind at all. I'm. I'm home for 10 days and.
Fortune Feimster
10 days.
May Martin
Perfect.
Tig Notaro
Yeah, yeah. And you wear your headgear, your head microphone.
May Martin
I'll make a director.
Tig Notaro
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Okay.
May Martin
I'll scurry around. I mean, I wish. You know what I wish when you were driving there, Because I bought one of those mini trampolines. And when I jump, you just see my little head. You see my head bouncing up above the fence. I wish you had seen that.
Tig Notaro
Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Especially if the timing happened in the way that I said, well, look at that little house. Do you think it's gonna stay up there? And then Stephanie's like, oh, that's May's house. And then moments later, boing, boing, boing, boing, boing. With your propeller hat on. Which we haven't talked about in a while. You're gonna need that when you need to escape your house.
May Martin
I'm gonna just cross my slide and jump off and hope.
Tig Notaro
Yeah.
Fortune Feimster
Oh, my God. Anyway, very Ra.
Tig Notaro
Is such a bizarre moment.
May Martin
I think it's a sign that I gotta have.
Fortune Feimster
I think so. Because Tig. Tig will occasionally have some revelations, or is that the word?
May Martin
Some premonitions.
Fortune Feimster
Premonitions.
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Tig Notaro
Like what. What did I have?
Fortune Feimster
The one. I'll remind you of one later.
Tig Notaro
Oh, I remember.
Fortune Feimster
That one.
Tig Notaro
So I remember that one. Yes. I was right on.
May Martin
Okay, so it's time. I can't ignore this. It's time to call the city.
Tig Notaro
You really need to may.
Fortune Feimster
It was.
Tig Notaro
It was. If I knew those people, I. And I now know I do. I. Yeah.
May Martin
You would advise them.
Tig Notaro
Yeah.
May Martin
Well, I. I want to have you guys over because look at. I don't know if you can see.
Tig Notaro
Thank you.
May Martin
Do you see all these boxes?
Fortune Feimster
Okay, what's the boxes?
Tig Notaro
Those are from tour.
May Martin
Those are all the things that people brought me on tour that I. I had to show here. Girls, there are so many things for you in there. You better believe I want to go through them all together.
Fortune Feimster
And I have a couple little things for you guys.
May Martin
Really?
Tig Notaro
We need to make a little social media video of our holiday. Our handsome holiday. Should we open it for our next Holly Bob?
May Martin
Oh, that's a good idea.
Fortune Feimster
Well, the Holly Bob's is a whiles away, but we are going to be in person next week. We could bring some of that stuff.
Tig Notaro
Oh, yeah.
May Martin
Or we come here next week and record in person.
Tig Notaro
I should send these guys over to your house.
May Martin
Jesus, get them over. Whatever they're doing. They're working hard. I need some. Some workers.
Tig Notaro
They took our patio furniture, of course, off of our patio and put it in the backyard for them to work on this. And I have been out of town and I just came in two nights ago, woke up the next morning and was making breakfast for the little cubs. And I look in the backyard and I just see this guy scrolling on his phone on our chair under the umbrella. And I was like, oh, my God. Like, I completely forgot. Cause he had gotten there early for work and he was waiting for the other workman. And I just saw a man. And I was like, what a bold lunatic. Just relaxing and chilling.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah, just scrolling away. How funny.
Tig Notaro
Anyway, that's what's going on with me and May.
Fortune Feimster
I love it.
May Martin
Fortune. You're. You're in the South.
Fortune Feimster
I did go through Atlanta and I had lunch with Emily. Sailors from who we love. From the Indigo. Indigo Girls.
Tig Notaro
Delightful human.
Fortune Feimster
And that was so lovely, getting to see her and have a cute lunch.
Tig Notaro
Where did you guys go? Did you go to one of her restaurants? Doesn't she have one or two restaurants?
Sponsor/Announcer
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Fortune Feimster
I don't know. I didn't ask her.
Tig Notaro
She. Well, this is What a deep fan I am. I know. She has had the Flying Biscuit.
Fortune Feimster
I knew that about that.
Tig Notaro
And then she had one place called Watershed.
Fortune Feimster
Okay, I'll have to Ask her. I don't know. But as we were leaving, because we were talking about the pod at, at
Tig Notaro
lunch and she listen.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah, she. I don't think, like all the time because she's always touring, but she has an. As we were leaving, somebody went, hey, handsome. And I went, oh, hey. It's always fun in the wild.
Tig Notaro
Yes. Yeah.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah.
May Martin
I just found out as I. As I left this last leg of the tour to come home, I had the. The bus driver told me. Jeff, who we've talked about, told me that he is an avid listener of the pod. And I then realized he's gonna hear the episode where I talk about clogging the toilet. So there you go.
Fortune Feimster
There you go, Jeff.
Tig Notaro
There's your second gift from me.
Fortune Feimster
It is a trip when you. Someone in your life tells you, they listen. And then you're like, wait, what have I talked about?
Tig Notaro
I cannot believe my friend Megan listens. My sister in law, I think my brother probably hears some things in the background and I'm like, are you not tired of you? Yeah.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah. My sister in law, who doesn't really pay attention to any of it, was like, are you on Hulu now? Now with your podcast? I'm like, yep, yes, indeed.
Tig Notaro
It's nice.
Fortune Feimster
I think people.
May Martin
Then people feel like they're like, caught up with us. Like they. Yeah, I have old, old high school friends and stuff. Who. Yeah. Then you don't have to do the small talk when you meet up because they know what's going on with you.
Fortune Feimster
They're like, how is the toilet on the bus? They. They know.
May Martin
They're like, oh,
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Fortune Feimster
I I can't remember if I told you guys this, but May and I talked about on a prelo episode about me possibly taking my mom to Europe. Did I tell you I am going to take her to Europe?
Tig Notaro
Yes. Okay. Yeah, you did confirm.
Fortune Feimster
Nevermind.
Tig Notaro
And it's. Well we can still get into it. Why does she.
Fortune Feimster
I just spent a week with my mom.
Tig Notaro
Yeah.
May Martin
Has it been a big topic of conversation like are you guys planning the trip?
Fortune Feimster
And we were just going back and forth because I wasn't sure like what she could handle, but I went to a bunch of her appointments with her last week and you know her, her health, you know, is not bad right now. I think being off the chemo she has more energy, she's lost 100 pounds and she's actually moving a bit faster than she has in a while. So mobility wise she's in a better place than she's been.
Tig Notaro
Wow.
Fortune Feimster
And you know, I just kind of thought why not let's. I'll figure it out. You know, there will be times where I have to take things really slow and you know, not maybe not see as much of the city as I thought. But we'll find a hop on, hop off bus, get her up on there and we'll just ride around and that'll be that.
Tig Notaro
Get her up on there.
Fortune Feimster
I have to tell the buzzer, like, give me. Give me a few minutes.
May Martin
Give me 10 minutes.
Tig Notaro
I'm trying to get her up on there.
Fortune Feimster
But you know, she. I want her to have these adventures while she still isn't good enough health to do it.
Tig Notaro
Is there any particular things that she's excited to see?
Fortune Feimster
She just likes to say that she's been to a country that she hasn't been to before.
May Martin
Oh, it's about checking it off a list.
Fortune Feimster
It's really about checking off a list.
Tig Notaro
You could just do layovers and just hop on stop. But yeah, okay.
Fortune Feimster
She's. So she's going to Copenhagen, London and Dublin with me at the beginning of June. She's been to London, but that's a quick visit anyway. She really wanted to go. I'm also doing Berlin, Oslo and Stockholm. And I was like, I just don't think you can do this entire tour. So I'm just.
May Martin
We're.
Fortune Feimster
She's gonna do half of it.
Tig Notaro
Uh huh.
Fortune Feimster
But I've got. I got so many messages from people after that episode aired of people giving me suggestions. But the consensus from many of the people was that I should take her.
Tig Notaro
Yes, yes, yes. Especially if she feels like she can do it.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah. And there were a lot of people getting to also take them on the trip.
Tig Notaro
Oh, okay.
Fortune Feimster
With me.
Tig Notaro
Oh yeah.
Fortune Feimster
To watch her.
Tig Notaro
And I was like, what? Wait. To watch her like she's a child
Fortune Feimster
or like a lot of people being like, I'll go with you guys and I'll take care of your.
Tig Notaro
And did they say you have to buy the plane ticket?
Fortune Feimster
I think that is part of it is that I would have to now pay for two people to go on tour with me.
Tig Notaro
I'll go watch them watch her.
May Martin
I'll watch Tig watch them watch.
Tig Notaro
And you don't even have to get me up on there.
Fortune Feimster
Oh yeah, okay. You can get yourself up on the hop on, hop off bus.
Tig Notaro
Yes, indeed.
Fortune Feimster
So yeah, Ginger and Fortune will be doing Europe together.
Tig Notaro
I hope you guys can find a tits out tub.
Fortune Feimster
I know tits out tub. I'm actually looking into fixing that tits out tub. So my tits might be in.
May Martin
No, please don't.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah.
Tig Notaro
Why would you do this?
Fortune Feimster
Why would I want to be cold in the hot tub and have my tits out?
Tig Notaro
I mean, way to ruin everything for everyone.
Fortune Feimster
Still call it the tits out hot tub. But it would be nice to like be submerged when I Go for a dip.
May Martin
You gotta dip your nips.
Fortune Feimster
I gotta dip my nips. Thanks, May. Yes.
Tig Notaro
Title Tub vs Dip My Nips tub. Maybe we can do a. A social media post and have people vote. Are you tits out or dip your nips?
Fortune Feimster
Dip your nips or tits out tub?
May Martin
Okay, now that we're calling it dip your nips, I'm. I'm less sad about losing.
Tig Notaro
Okay.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah, we just needed something that rhymed to make you feel better.
May Martin
Yeah. Should we get to our question?
Tig Notaro
I think we should. I think that. I think it's a perfect suggestion, considering that's our show.
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May Martin
@t. I'm so excited about today's question Asker. Today's Asker is a food and drink writer whose books include the Seducers Cookbook and the man who ate Toronto. His new book acquired the lives and recipes of eight culinary ambassadors, which was also written by my mom and my brother. They all co wrote it, is available now wherever you get your books. He's also a puppet maker and a puppeteer, and he happens to be my father. James Chatto is asking today's question.
Tig Notaro
Yeah,
Fortune Feimster
James.
James Chatto
Hello, handsome. This is Mei's dad, and I have a question for you. And this really is me talking, not Pongo. My question is, have you ever had a meaningful conversation with something that is not actually alive in its own right? That's my question.
Fortune Feimster
That's my question.
Tig Notaro
I just want to say we have very different fathers.
May Martin
Same, same.
Fortune Feimster
My dad would be like, wait, what am I supposed to do?
Tig Notaro
Wait, you're my daughter.
Fortune Feimster
You're my daughter. You're my daughter. I love you. What am. Wait, what is this?
May Martin
Okay, he's pretty amazing.
Fortune Feimster
I have a podcast.
May Martin
I'm glad that you got to see the kind of puppet workshop that he's turned his. His room into this, like, pretty magical Geppetto world. Pongo is a character he created who's an explorer monkey who is, like, discovering new species in the jungle. Like a half rabbit, half lizard, I think he found, but, yeah, magical.
Fortune Feimster
His last name is Chatto.
May Martin
Yeah. Weirdly, we all have different last names in my family.
Fortune Feimster
Really?
May Martin
Yeah. My mom was, like, a real feminist, gave me her last name. So I'm May Martin. So she's Mae.
Tig Notaro
I'm sorry, you're Mae Martin?
May Martin
Yeah. Yeah. Okay.
Fortune Feimster
I don't think I realized that was your mom's last name.
May Martin
Yeah. And then my brother, like, my. My dad's actual last name was Sproul, but he changed it to Chatto because it's more like that was what his dad went by Chatto, and my brother was like, no, my official last name is Sproul. I'm gonna be Sproul. So that. Yeah.
Fortune Feimster
So everyone's name, last name. I've never heard of that.
Tig Notaro
Yeah, but wait, you and your mom do, though?
May Martin
We have the same name. Yeah, me and my mom.
Fortune Feimster
Oh, yeah. Well, never mind. I take it back.
Tig Notaro
Yeah, well, May did mislead us saying everyone in my family has a different last name. And then I sniffed out that. That's actually not true.
Fortune Feimster
That's true.
Tig Notaro
Half of you have the exact same last name.
May Martin
You're right. Half of us have the same name. Yeah.
Tig Notaro
Yeah.
May Martin
I think I got confused because there's three out of four of us have a different name to.
Tig Notaro
Anyway, the math still adds up. It still adds up to half of you.
Fortune Feimster
This is also true.
Tig Notaro
It's weird.
Fortune Feimster
Math feels complicated, but it's not.
Tig Notaro
Yeah, listen, I'm not normally good at math, but I crunch these numbers and I French crunch. Yeah.
May Martin
Yeah.
Tig Notaro
Found a glitch.
Fortune Feimster
So your dad wrote a. Your family wrote a book, and it's about food.
May Martin
This book just came out, so. Yeah, the past few years, they've been working on it. They just got really interested in the transmission of recipes across cultures, but they've tracked down, like, eight specific stories where you can trace a recipe to, like, one person, like one colorful character who, like, popularized, I don't know, like, a certain type of dessert in, you know, Korea. But, yeah, and so it's a really. If you're. If you're a foodie, if you're a history buff, it's very, very juicy. And, yeah, all three of them wrote it. It's so amazing.
Tig Notaro
Oh, juicy. I like your choice of words there. Yeah, yeah.
Fortune Feimster
Very juicy food book. Now, did they ask you at any point to contribute?
May Martin
No.
Tig Notaro
Yes. By promoting it on the podcast.
May Martin
Yeah, that's true. That's my role.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah. Yeah, they.
May Martin
I'm. I'm not as. They're really academic and they're good at doing research and. Yeah. And my dad's a food writer, so. Yeah. But I did help. I took some of the photos in the book that appear, and then they would make the recipes in the kitchen, and I would try them. Like, there's the Queen Mother's flowerless chocolate cake and different things. Yeah.
Fortune Feimster
Okay. Any vegan?
May Martin
Probably not. Well, yeah, there's a drink in there. I think there's a drink in there. Yeah.
Tig Notaro
Well, that will fill me up.
Fortune Feimster
Well, I know this isn't in the book. But kudos to whoever thought about putting espresso on top of ice cream.
May Martin
Oh, yeah, that's.
Fortune Feimster
I had that today, and it's delicious.
Tig Notaro
Is that the first time you've had it?
Fortune Feimster
No, it's one of my favorite desserts.
Tig Notaro
Okay.
Fortune Feimster
It's called an afogato.
May Martin
Oh, I forgot about that.
Tig Notaro
I forgot about how we talked about that.
May Martin
You forgot about it?
Fortune Feimster
I invented that. But kudos to them cooters.
Tig Notaro
To them cooters.
Fortune Feimster
To them cooters.
May Martin
To that, I give this. So my cooters. So my dad's question is, have you ever had a meaningful conversation with an inanimate object? Which, by the way, growing up, that was the world that he created. Like, yeah, talking. The eggs. He would make me eggs in the morning, and as he lowered them into the boiling water, he'd make them scream and beg for their lives. He'd draw faces on them. Our car was definitely alive. My stuffed animals.
Tig Notaro
Yeah.
Fortune Feimster
So this is prevalent for him.
May Martin
Well, right before the podcast, I asked Alexa the device. I said, what's. What's it called when people talk to inanimate objects? And Alexa said, it's a sign of intelligence and not weird. And she used those words and not weird.
Fortune Feimster
I was like, stop judging.
Tig Notaro
Yeah.
May Martin
Yeah.
Tig Notaro
What's your problem, May. Martin.
Fortune Feimster
So have you. Have you taken into your dad's. That's not the right word. Have you followed your dad's footsteps and doing this as well?
May Martin
I definitely feel things like deep empathy for, like, objects I'm throwing out. I'll suddenly feel like they're gonna be alone in the garbage and set. Like, I. Yeah. Or like a lamb. Yeah. And I talked to the car, I guess. Yeah. I don't. I don't know that I've. I talked to myself. Like, I was playing foosball the other day.
Fortune Feimster
You are alive, though.
Tig Notaro
Yeah.
May Martin
Yeah, I'm alive. I'm alive.
Fortune Feimster
This house is on a daisy hill.
May Martin
Oh, you know what I do? If I'm with a kid and they bump their knee or they. Or they trip over something, I'll. If they're crying and hysterical, I'll say, excuse me, I need to have a word with that. That object. And I'll go. And so that they can hear, I'll be like, how dare you to. The stool or whatever they hit themselves on. And it's good. It'll, like, distract them.
Tig Notaro
That's what I used to do as well. I love doing something.
May Martin
I mean, people fully get married to inanimate objects. There's. Okay. I have a list of a couple of people who married objects. Maybe you could. Maybe some of these will tickle your fans.
Tig Notaro
Are they from the comedy community?
May Martin
Oh my God. Imagine. Okay, Erica Eiffel. Can you guess who she's married to?
Tig Notaro
Eiffel Tower.
Fortune Feimster
Tower.
May Martin
The Eiffel Tower. And she took the name. She married the eiffel Tower in 2007 and she previously had a relationship with Tower. Oh yeah, you're right.
Tig Notaro
And what is her first name?
May Martin
Erica.
Tig Notaro
Erica.
Fortune Feimster
Obviously, Erica.
May Martin
Erica Tower is really good.
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Tig Notaro
Every style Every home
May Martin
We've got Carol Santa Fe married the Santa Fe train station in 2015, which she considers a female entity named Daedra.
Tig Notaro
Linda Wish them all the happiness.
Fortune Feimster
I wonder if they're paying taxes.
May Martin
Linda Duck married a Ferris wheel that she named Bruce in 2012 after dating him for 30 years.
Tig Notaro
What is she did? Yeah.
Fortune Feimster
Talk about being afraid of commitment.
Tig Notaro
So was she on a Ferris wheel by herself, giggling as she went around like, you know those for those dates where people are on a Ferris wheel
Fortune Feimster
and they're like, yeah, yeah. That reminds me, I took my. My mom's like crazy afraid of heights and I took her on the Santa Monica Ferris wheel and she was like, I don't know. I don't know if I'm gonna like this. I don't like heights. I'm like, oh, this is like nothing. And she's like, okay. And then we get on the Ferris wheel and as it starts to go up, she's like. And then it starts to go around and it comes back down and you know, there's a long line of people. And so as it's coming down, she's like. And then she sees everyone and she goes and smiles really big for like, 10 seconds as we pass everyone. And as it goes back up, then she goes back into. And this went on for every time she would do this.
Tig Notaro
That is hilarious.
May Martin
Oh, my God.
Tig Notaro
And then that's discipline, by the way. Yeah, yeah. Just if. If Max or Finn is out of line, I go, guys.
May Martin
Oh, that's pretty. That would strike fear into my heart, actually, as a guess, if you said that to me.
Tig Notaro
It's also helpful because if things are, like, really bad and I go beyond. Hey, guys. Then they know there's, like, a real serious issue, you know? Yeah. Because I don't really go beyond. Yeah.
May Martin
Yeah.
Fortune Feimster
That seems like it would be effective for sure.
Tig Notaro
My cousin in Mississippi was like, are you kidding me? That's how. That's all you do, Guys.
May Martin
You should write a parenting book called.
Fortune Feimster
And it's.
Tig Notaro
Well, it's.
May Martin
It's really short.
Tig Notaro
Hey, guys.
Fortune Feimster
That works for anything in life, really. If anybody is doing something you're not into, you're just like, hey, yeah, you
May Martin
should go do that to the. The builders in your house. Hey, guys.
Fortune Feimster
Hey, guys. All right, now,
May Martin
if you had to have a romantic relationship with an object in your house, is there anyone you've been flirting with, any chemistry with any of those?
Fortune Feimster
Probably my tub.
May Martin
Totally.
Fortune Feimster
Because we're already, you know, already tits out.
May Martin
Yeah.
Fortune Feimster
And it's holding me. I'm in water, so.
May Martin
Yeah. You feel held.
Tig Notaro
Hey, Fortune.
Fortune Feimster
It's big enough to fit me in. Keeps me. I think I would go. Tub. Yeah.
Tig Notaro
Bed for me. Yeah. Just. Yeah. I'm love. I'm. I'm in love with my bed.
Fortune Feimster
I don't have a lot of conversations with inanimate objects, really. I don't think that's my thing. But as I think about it, I mean, I have had that experience. The only thing I can think of is going to the cemetery. I'm. You know, in my mind, I'm talking to my grandmother. So my mind tells me this is a being, but I'm technically talking to a tombstone in the ground.
Tig Notaro
Yes.
May Martin
Yeah. So, yeah, that counts a little, I guess. Yeah.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah. So I feel like in that case, I am just talking to the ground. Yes. Her body is in there, but, you know.
Tig Notaro
Yeah.
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Tig Notaro
She's all ears.
May Martin
Mm.
Tig Notaro
Yeah.
May Martin
I bet there's studies, though, where, like, even. Yeah. Even talking to a wall would be better than talking to no one, because you're. Yeah. You're speaking out loud. You're processing things in and out of
Fortune Feimster
your system, getting stuff out. Yeah. I mean, this is a being that's very much alive. But I talked to Big. When I'm with Biggie, I talk to him all the time. Sure.
May Martin
Very much alive in. Yeah. Yeah.
Tig Notaro
Even though his eyes aren't.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah. Which I just posted pictures of him a few weeks ago, and everyone says his eyes are full of life.
May Martin
Twinkling.
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Tig Notaro
Well, I. I talked a lot to my monkey, Zip, when I was little. I mean, that aside from my cat, that was my best friend, my stuffed animal, Zip. He got an earload from me. Just processing life.
May Martin
I was thinking. I know how Max and Finn weren't that interested in Zip when you passed him on. If you ever feel that.
Tig Notaro
Not even just that into it. Just zero.
Fortune Feimster
Like, what's this? Raggedy ass.
Tig Notaro
Yeah. Yeah.
Fortune Feimster
Stuffed animal.
May Martin
I don't. Well, if you ever feel like you want him to be in a loving home where he'll get lots of like. I will. I'll. I'll take him.
Tig Notaro
You'll care for them?
Fortune Feimster
Really?
May Martin
I'll talk.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah.
Tig Notaro
Nobody's talked to him in years.
Fortune Feimster
Oh, I think May might need to have a visit.
May Martin
He could meet my bear, Malcolm, and they could chat. Yeah.
Tig Notaro
He could come over and, like, spend a long weekend with you. You know, have a little slumber party with May and what's it. Malcolm.
May Martin
Malcolm. Yeah.
Tig Notaro
Yeah. And I. You know, this is kind of similar, but not. I remember, you know, when my mother and stepfather passed away, like, once they were no longer actually alive. I had. I had some. Some of those moments of, you know.
May Martin
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Tig Notaro
And I've. I've done the graveyard thing. Talking, Talking to. Talking to tombstones and.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah, I've talked to the tv.
May Martin
Oh, really?
Fortune Feimster
Yeah, sure. You don't ever talk to the tv.
Tig Notaro
Go Team is what I usually.
May Martin
All right.
Fortune Feimster
What?
Tig Notaro
Oh, you watching the news?
May Martin
No, that's Golden Girls. I can't believe it. What?
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Fortune Feimster
But, yeah, I think. I think you're your dad. Being a guy that has created a world of puppets, this definitely tracks for him.
Tig Notaro
Oh, and tracks for who May is. I cannot even express enough. Like, watching that video and hearing his voice and. And just. It's like, you can't deny that that is your pops.
May Martin
I know we look the same. I think we have the same mannerism. I do also. I do have a lot of my mom's mannerisms as well. But, yeah, my. My dad always puts his finger on his mouth like this, and I noticed. I do that a lot, too. Yeah, but he. I mean, when he's cooking, there's a constant Stream of like. It's like movie. It's like Alec Guinness quotes or like Peter Sellers or Lord of the Rings. Like, his. His mind is a radio, and he. And sometimes just random things. And I think I get that a little. Like, I was playing foosball yesterday with Matt, and so clearly in my head, like, Matt scored a goal, and in my head, I heard, two can play at that game, Peter. And it was like someone else had said it.
Fortune Feimster
I was.
May Martin
But my dad will say it out loud. Whereas also, I'll keep it in.
Tig Notaro
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
May Martin
Should we hear his answer?
Fortune Feimster
Yeah, yeah, please.
James Chatto
Obviously, I have had many meaningful conversations with inanimate. Well, semi inanimate creatures.
Tig Notaro
Was that your mother or you?
May Martin
That was me.
Tig Notaro
That was you.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah. Yeah.
Tig Notaro
And so that was it. He just said, I have.
May Martin
I know he didn't go into detail, but I think it's because the implication is, like, constantly.
Tig Notaro
It was kind of similar to the vibe of. Have you ever thought of making a cookbook? Yeah.
May Martin
And then what was her answer?
Fortune Feimster
Cyndi Lauper.
Tig Notaro
Oh, yeah. Yes.
Fortune Feimster
She's like, yes.
Tig Notaro
Yes.
Fortune Feimster
Goodbye.
Tig Notaro
Oh, my God.
Fortune Feimster
I think the.
May Martin
The main thing that happened in that. That answer was Pongo got irritated that he was referred to as inanimate object. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Tig Notaro
Of course. That's gotta stink. Yeah, totally.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah.
Tig Notaro
Well, luckily, no one listens to our show. Yes. What a treat.
Fortune Feimster
What a treat to see your dad. And I love his cute puppets. And his accent. I would do it. The accent, but, you know, you guys know how that goes.
May Martin
No, you're amazing at not well.
Fortune Feimster
No, not well.
Tig Notaro
Unless you do Australian.
Fortune Feimster
Australian. That's Scottish. Well, anyway, this was a wonderful episode.
Tig Notaro
Great to see you guys.
Fortune Feimster
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Tig Notaro
We are trying to move some books for James, so everyone join in and treat yourself to this wonderful. So, such an interesting book to write, I must say. Yeah, they're high quality and they're. They're wonderful for your own bookshelf or your coffee tables.
May Martin
Yeah, yeah.
Tig Notaro
Coffee table. Oh, yeah. I'm not saying you have to have it on a shelf.
Fortune Feimster
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Tig Notaro
I'm just.
May Martin
No, never.
Tig Notaro
Yeah. Wherever you want to put the thing. Just get it. You're not gonna regret it. Get it.
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Especially if you want, like, interesting trivia you can bring up in conversations that there's some very good stories.
Tig Notaro
Oh, my gosh. Yeah, yeah.
Fortune Feimster
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Tig Notaro
Yeah. Okay.
Fortune Feimster
Family fact.
May Martin
What do you guys have coming up? I. The only thing I have is June 10th. I'm at Largo back in LA doing a big fun show with friends. But yeah, what about you guys?
Fortune Feimster
Well, starting May 28th, I'm on my European tour. Berlin, Stockholm, Oslo, Copenhagen, London and Dublin. And then I'm back in the states in mid June in Rochester, Minnesota, Cedar Rapids, Iowa, Omaha, Portland, Maine and Detroit.
Tig Notaro
I am also touring around. I'm hitting all these minor markets and sometimes you know what, I've been throwing an extra show in. I didn't think I was going to do that this tour but. But I have been having a grand old time and I'm going to be in Albany, New York, Peekskill, New York, Clayton, New York, Rochester, New York, Kalispell, Montana. It goes on and on. Go to tignotaro.com to get all of my show information. And yeah, I don't know what else to tell you.
Fortune Feimster
That sounds great.
Tig Notaro
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Fortune Feimster
Yeah.
May Martin
Nice sleeveless tops for summer, I think.
Tig Notaro
Yeah, sleeveless bottoms too. And until next time, keep it handsome. Handsome is hosted by me, Tig, Notaro, May, Martin and Fortune theme steer. The show is produced, recorded and edited by Thomas Willette. Email us@handsomepodgmail.com follow us on social media ansomepod what a podcast.
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Northbrook, Illinois hi, I am Mandy Moore.
Fortune Feimster
Sterling K. Brown. And I'm Chris Sullivan and we host the podcast that Was Us now on Headgum.
Tig Notaro
Each episode we're gonna go into a deep dive from our show.
Fortune Feimster
This is us. That's right.
Tig Notaro
We're gonna go episode by episode. We're also gonna episodes with different guest stars and writers and casting directors.
Fortune Feimster
Are we going to cry? Yes, a little bit. Are we going to laugh a lot. A whole lot. That's what I'm hoping.
Tig Notaro
Man.
Fortune Feimster
Listen to that. Was us on your favorite podcast app. Or watch full video episodes on YouTube or Spotify. New episodes every Tuesday.
Hosts: Tig Notaro, Fortune Feimster, Mae Martin
Air Date: May 12, 2026
Special Guest Question Asker: James Chatto (Mae's dad)
The ever-charming trio returns for another delightfully offbeat episode, blending familial oddities, home repairs, deep dives into object attachment, and the show’s trademark banter. The main theme is sparked by Mae’s father, James Chatto, who asks the hosts if they've ever had meaningful conversations with inanimate objects. However, as is tradition, the episode joyfully careens through stories of collapsing houses, traveling moms, and why talking to your television might make perfect sense.
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This episode is a quintessential Handsome mix: genuine affection, surreal stories, existential musings, plus a healthy amount of property peril. The question from Mae’s dad—equal parts whimsical and profound—opens up a conversation about how the things we attach feelings to (whether beds, toys, or tubs) say as much about us as they do about the objects.
[45:34 onward: Episode closes with tour plugs, book promo, and reminders to “keep it handsome.”]
Did you ever talk to your childhood teddy? Feel wistful tossing out an old mug? You’re in good company.