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Mae Martin
Chatting with friends on the Handsome Pod. Chatting with friends on the Handsome pod.
Fortune Feimster
Cheers.
Tig Notaro
Welcome to the Handsome Pod. I'm your host, Tig Notaro, here with
Fortune Feimster
May Martin, unfortunate Feamster.
Tig Notaro
Hello. Hello.
Fortune Feimster
And Ginger Feinster.
Mae Martin
Oh, my gosh, Ginger.
Fortune Feimster
I just showed you all. As a picture of herself was in the background.
Mae Martin
Oh, my God. I can't believe it. So we have a silent audience member for this whole recording.
Tig Notaro
Not just a silent audience member. We have a star on our hand.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah. I was walking across the street with her today in my hometown, and they were like. Someone was like, are you that famous comedian? I go, she sure is.
Tig Notaro
That's amazing.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah, we. I'm. I'm with her because we spent Mother's Day together.
Tig Notaro
How is that?
Fortune Feimster
It was lovely. We did a little overnight trip to Atlanta because there was a nice brunch there I wanted to take her to.
Tig Notaro
Oh, yeah.
Fortune Feimster
So she said she had the best night's Sleep in the hotel. She had a $25 credit to the room, so she made sure to get $25 worth of snacks from the mini bar.
Mae Martin
Good.
Tig Notaro
Got two. Wait, tell me about this brunch. What would make you fly to Atlanta for a brunch I'll barely go west side for?
Fortune Feimster
Well, I had to be there anyway
Tig Notaro
for a work thing, and so it
Fortune Feimster
just comes out easy. I wanted to see her on Mother's Day, so it just worked out to have her come there.
Tig Notaro
Oh, that's nice. But tell me about the brunch. Tell us about, about the brunch.
Fortune Feimster
It was at the Four Season. So fancy girl, she put on her yellow sweater cuz that's her favorite color. And we went and brunched it up and they were very sweet and told all the mothers in their. In the room that, you know everybody that was there. I got told several times, happy Mother's Day. I said, thank you very much. I appreciate it.
Tig Notaro
Ginger was your daughter?
Fortune Feimster
Ginger was my daughter. I was the mom. And yeah, it was like one of those, you know, big, big ass buffets. So we gorged ourselves.
Tig Notaro
I would assume that's what's written on the Four Seasons menu is big ass buffet.
Fortune Feimster
It was called the big ass Mother's Day buffet. Everywhere from breakfast out, you got your breakfast foods and then you got your like, cutting stations and the sushi.
Tig Notaro
And what is a cutting station?
Fortune Feimster
Like barbecue for like a beef Wellington kind of thing. And then you got your salad bar and then you got your sushi, and then you got your shrimp cocktail and little lobsters.
Mae Martin
Oh, now we're talking shrimp.
Fortune Feimster
Here's what I realized. You can't go wasting your, your, the room in your belly on the breakfast foods.
Mae Martin
Oh. Because you're more interested in the. You gotta go shrimp. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Tig Notaro
Well. And so there's nothing fancy breakfast style.
Fortune Feimster
I mean, there was an omelette station if people are in the omelets, but so many.
Tig Notaro
I have to be honest, the word station takes the fanciness.
Fortune Feimster
It's like a wet. It's like a wedding. You know how weddings have stations? Sure, sure, it's like that. But you know, I got a pancake and a hash brown. And then I was like, what am I doing when there's lobster over there?
Mae Martin
Right?
Fortune Feimster
You know, I mean, and sushi. But you got Wellington.
Tig Notaro
The, the lobsters were like, here she comes.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah, they don't want to see me coming.
Tig Notaro
She put her pancake down.
Fortune Feimster
And then, and then my mom and I did get an entire Plate full of desserts.
Mae Martin
Oh, yeah.
Fortune Feimster
Each not want.
Tig Notaro
That's what we're here for.
Mae Martin
Yeah. What kind of desserts we talking?
Fortune Feimster
In our defense, they were little mini mini.
Mae Martin
Right, right, right.
Fortune Feimster
So like a little mini, like, lemon tart. A little mini pot de creme.
Tig Notaro
Oh, I've never noticed your accent for
Fortune Feimster
fancy when I'm talking about stations.
Mae Martin
Yeah.
Fortune Feimster
Little macaroons and little cheesecakes and, you know, we just wanted a little bite of everything, so.
Tig Notaro
A big ass Mother's Day buffet. But yeah, a little tiny.
Fortune Feimster
Little tiny desserts.
Tig Notaro
Yeah, a little.
Fortune Feimster
Which I prefer because I want to have a little bit of everything. Yeah.
Tig Notaro
Yeah. I love little tastes. Everything.
Fortune Feimster
Then they have, like, little chocolates. And then I was really gluttonous. I got a little espresso and put one of the chocolates in the espresso.
Tig Notaro
Oh, fortune.
Fortune Feimster
Come on, y'. All.
Mae Martin
Yes.
Fortune Feimster
You think. You think I'm not getting my money's worth?
Mae Martin
Was it all you can eat?
Fortune Feimster
It was, but I didn't. I don't think I went crazy. We.
Mae Martin
We were gonna get your money's worth, though.
Fortune Feimster
We were pretty.
Tig Notaro
When you're. When it's fancy, don't they say, all you care to eat?
Mae Martin
Oh, is that right?
Fortune Feimster
Probably.
Tig Notaro
That's what they say. Yeah, all you care that you pretty
Fortune Feimster
little ladies can handle. But I. I really was trying to be mindful of not being wasteful, so I didn't, like, get crazy plates. I got what I knew I could eat.
Mae Martin
Yeah, there's an all you can eat sushi place in Toronto where if you leave anything, then they charge you, but sometimes you want all the different tastes. So me and my friends would sometimes have to hide things under napkins, or we'd be going to the bathroom and tossing, you know, leftover roll in the.
Tig Notaro
That sounds like an all you can eat rather than all you can all
Fortune Feimster
you care to eat. That's intense. Yeah.
Mae Martin
How was your. How was your Mother's Day, Tig?
Tig Notaro
Well, thank you for asking.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah, I was gonna. I was gonna ask that also.
Tig Notaro
It's all right if you didn't. Well, we had the absolute pleasure of Max and Finn's godparents coming in town for a few days. And their godmother is, like, my nearest, dearest, oldest pal, one of them. And they used to live here in Los Angeles, but they split time between an island off of Seattle and here. And we just had the best time just on actual Mother's Day. Since you're asking that specifically, we got up and went on a hike at Griffith Park. And then we went to Trails Cafe.
Mae Martin
I love Trails.
Tig Notaro
Okay. Yeah. Which I have to tell you.
Fortune Feimster
What'd you say you went? Okay.
Tig Notaro
Okay, well, here's the thing. We go to Griffith park to hike, and we go to Trails Cafe all the time. When I say all the time. Just when we have a free day on a weekend or something. But it's definitely a go to for our family. And we were sitting there. Max and Finn and their godparents were off at this picnic table, and Stephanie and I were. I was sitting with Stephanie waiting for our food to bring to everyone. And she said she was talking about the owner, like, whoever this person is, and. And like, what a great place this is, and who would that person be? And there was a group of three men standing in line at Trails, pointing and talking about it. And I was like, oh, hi. It was Jemaine from Flight of the Concords who was in line with the owner of Trails Cafe.
Mae Martin
No way.
Tig Notaro
Yes. And we hadn't seen Jermaine in years, and I was truly just looking him in the face and not recognizing him. I wasn't expecting to see him. And the owner of Trails Cafe is his producer for Flight of the Concords.
Mae Martin
Oh, no way.
Tig Notaro
Yeah. And so I was like, what? And the guy that owns the place, this guy Mickey, he was like, I want to thank you for always talking about Trails Cafe. And then here I am doing it again. And he said, people come to the cafe all the time, and they're like. Tig was talking about it, and he was like, I've never seen you here. And I was like, I've never seen you here. And so. And our son Finn was saying on the way to the hike, he was like, there should be Trails Cafes everywhere. And then when we were talking to Mickey, he said, we're opening a new Trails Cafe. It was. It was so wild. So we. We do our hike. It's so fun. We go to Trails Cafe. And then we went back to our office and swam and just had. And then we had Pura Vita, our favorite Italian vegan restaurant.
Fortune Feimster
Oh, look, what a.
Tig Notaro
And then Stephanie invited her dad over, and we listened to vinyl all night, and our kids got turned on to Led Zeppelin.
Fortune Feimster
Whoa.
Mae Martin
That's a big moment.
Tig Notaro
Oh, massive. And he and Finn was like, mayor, can we bring Led Zeppelin home to play on our record player? And I was like, absolutely. And this morning, we got up and we were rocking out to Led Zeppelin at breakfast time.
Mae Martin
Oh, my God. Oh, my God.
Tig Notaro
Anyway, that was my mother's day.
Mae Martin
Speaking of Led Zeppelin. So I'm finishing. Today's my last day of my tour. I'm finishing up.
Fortune Feimster
You're celebrating. We see that you're celebrating with a bathtub in the background.
Mae Martin
Yeah, I'm celebrating with a sexy tits in tub.
Tig Notaro
It would have been more of a celebration if you were in the tub, but you should. Yeah, I feel like Fortune would have done that.
Mae Martin
I mean, we're finished. The podcast. Yeah.
Fortune Feimster
I mean, there's time for you to get in that thing for sure. Go to Hulu.
Mae Martin
So I'm in Nashville and I'm like, you know, wrapping up the tour. And last night I was talking to Jeff the bus driver, and finally we addressed my toilet fiasco, because we haven't spoken about it, that I. That I clogged the toilet twice. And he had to remove the toilet from the bus completely and then replace it.
Tig Notaro
Yeah. Not a hot topic.
Mae Martin
Not a hot topic. He brought it. He was like, well, so you clogged the toilet? And I was like, okay, we're doing it. We're doing it. And I was like, yeah, sorry, Jeff. But then he. He was dropping these pearls of experiences he's had on the bus that. I mean, because he told me about Ariana Grande and Justin Bieber, and then he's been. He's buried the lead. He said one night he was at Coachella and on the very bus that I've been on, Robert Plant, Paul McCartney, the who, and someone else. Oh, Roger Waters. And he said that they were all just on the bus, jamming, chatting.
Tig Notaro
Unbelievable.
Mae Martin
What are you talking about? And he said he had to. I said, have you ever had anyone really trouble? And he was like, oh, yeah. And then he said, I had to kick off Biggie Smalls off the. This is wild. Yeah.
Fortune Feimster
So he's seen some things.
Nicole Wallace
He's.
Tig Notaro
He really has.
Mae Martin
And he's. I'm a little worried because he had a little journal and a pencil, and he says, I write down everything, so I know I'm in there.
Tig Notaro
Well, what I was going to say is the May Martin clogging the toilet relentlessly is going into the ears of Robert Plant, Roger Waters. Oh, my God, Roger Daltrey, all of these rockers.
Mae Martin
I know, I know. That's going to be my legacy. But he said that if I give him something to get signed by Paul McCartney, he might be able to do it because he knows Paul McCartney's manager and Paul McCartney, that's like my number one dream in the world is to meet Paul McCartney.
Tig Notaro
Paul McCartney's manager.
Mae Martin
Yeah. He had to Meet his manager. God, that guy must work hard, you know, Got a lot to learn from him. But I want to get this Rupert the Bear stuffed animal signed or something, because he. Paul McCartney, did an animated Rupert the Bear thing in the 80s. That was a huge part of my family and my childhood. And I think it's niche enough that maybe Paul would be like, oh, somebody really knows my work.
Tig Notaro
That's good, man. That's good.
Mae Martin
Thank you.
Tig Notaro
Can you do that, Fortune?
Fortune Feimster
Somebody knows my work.
Mae Martin
Hey, that was good, too.
Tig Notaro
Somebody knows my work.
Mae Martin
Hey, I think we found the phrase. The phrase that the Beatles impression works the best on.
Tig Notaro
It's kind of like, rise up, blades.
Mae Martin
Yeah.
Fortune Feimster
Rise of blades.
Tig Notaro
Rise.
Fortune Feimster
I feel like you will meet him.
Mae Martin
Oh, God, I hope so.
Fortune Feimster
Seems like something obtainable.
Mae Martin
I know Ringo would be easier to meet because he's, like, playing casinos in Niagara. Like, I think you could just walk up maybe and say hi. But Paul has, like, snipers everywhere he goes. Like, when he's performing, he's. He's pretty impenetrable, but apparently he's super nice. I know. Tig, this I. The way I'm, like, angry at. Not angry. But I can't let the Lannis thing go with Fortune. Tig, the one story that you have that makes my blood boil is that you and Stephanie had the opportunity to hang with McCartney and were like, nah, we gotta catch a flight.
Tig Notaro
Well, it wasn't that simple of a decision. I mean, we were really, really struggling, and Stephanie would have done it. I was the one that had, like, a 6:00am flight.
Mae Martin
Right.
Tig Notaro
And we were just leaving that PETA event where his guy came out and was like, hey, Paul's having this party. Do you guys want to come? And I was like, oh, God. I mean, a 6:00am flight, you know, I struggle with my sleep.
Mae Martin
Yeah.
Tig Notaro
And I'm just not 39. Like, you may listen, I'm a fragile. But also, I told you, I saw. I saw Ringo in line at Erewhon.
Mae Martin
Did you tell me that? I don't think you told me this.
Tig Notaro
Well, it's true. And then I saw Paul. I had dinner next to Paul at a vegetarian restaurant probably 20 years ago.
Mae Martin
Wow.
Tig Notaro
Yeah. But never met anybody. But those are. I can't believe I even came that close to any beetle.
Mae Martin
Oh, yeah, that's wild. That's twice. Yeah.
Tig Notaro
Twice with Mr. McCartney.
Mae Martin
Wow.
Tig Notaro
But anyway, apologies for not seeing that through.
Mae Martin
No, listen, it wasn't the right time. The right time will present itself.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah.
Tig Notaro
It has to be before 8pm for me. Right?
Fortune Feimster
Yeah. It can't be one of these late situations.
Tig Notaro
No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
Mae Martin
The last time I was in Nashville was with you guys and after our live show and I went out to that gay bar with Thomas and did karaoke. So I'm wondering. It's the last night of my tour and I'm on my own. I don't have like an improviser with me. I had Lisa Gilroy this week, but I'm just by myself, so I'm like, should I do the same thing? Should I tell the audience I'm going to this bar and see?
Tig Notaro
So you bring a guest in for a week of shows.
Mae Martin
It was my friend Matt did two and a half months, and then Lisa just did this last leg because Matt was. He's in Asia right now. But Lisa was so fun. People were so pumped to see her. It was.
Tig Notaro
Of course, it was really.
Mae Martin
Yeah.
Tig Notaro
She's so ridiculous.
Mae Martin
Ridiculous. Yeah. And it's like a. It was like a four day sleepover with the friend. You know, like getting to wake up with your friends is really special.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah. Because y' all were on the bus.
Mae Martin
Yeah.
Fortune Feimster
At first I was thinking you were in that room with the bed that has a tub right beside it.
Mae Martin
O. That a four day sleepover with a friend in a tub room would be a different experience.
Fortune Feimster
That would be a relationship that would be like codependent.
Tig Notaro
Yeah.
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Tig Notaro
And what it what did you reach out to your mother on Mother's Day? May. Did you send any Mother's day love around? I know I didn't hear from you.
Mae Martin
Yeah, yeah, sorry about that. I did. I, I got, I, I feel quite panicked about it leading up to it, like wanting to do the right thing. And also they're up so early in Toronto and it's, it's the time differences. By the time I wake up it's like 2pm And I'm like, does she think I'm not gonna call? So then I have to call right away. But I sent some flowers and a massage gift card and called and we talked about Survivor. It's the, one of my favorite things in our relationship is that my mom loves Survivor as much as I do and we did a full half hour breakdown of who could win season 50, what the strategies would be. It's, I mean her, she is so opinionated. My mom, it's great.
Fortune Feimster
Is season 50 special?
Tig Notaro
Season 50? Yes.
Fortune Feimster
This show was on when I was in college.
Mae Martin
Yeah. Season 50 with the same host. Yeah.
Fortune Feimster
Crazy.
Mae Martin
Yeah. So it is a special one. It's all returning players.
Tig Notaro
So what do they, how do you do, do they like put do two seasons in a year.
Mae Martin
Two seasons in a year. Now that's a lot.
Tig Notaro
Look at me crunching numbers over here.
Fortune Feimster
You are a cruncher. That's a lot of surviving.
Mae Martin
Yeah. And it really is like the ancient Greek gods for me because it's like these larger than life Characters who I've grown up watching, I've seen them as 21 year olds. Now they're 45, you know, and they're like, you know, they fight amongst themselves and flirt amongst themselves and they, you know, they're flawed and they are relatable and there's all these backstories. It's pretty Shakespearean at this point. I'm, I could write a lot about it. I love it. Like this guy, this guy Ozzy. I'll stop in a sec. But this guy Ozzy, who, if you watch Survivor, he's one of the greats, but he's never won and he's like, he always makes the same mistake. Like he, he too trusted.
Fortune Feimster
Too trusting.
Mae Martin
Yeah. And he's great at challenges, but his social game isn't that great. And, but this season he was playing so, so well and I think he got a little ahead of himself and he started kind of, he took his eye off the ball and then he got voted out in this recent episode and his reaction, because mostly it's season 50, people get voted out and they go, ah, guys, you know, what an honor to play with you again. What a season it's been. Oh, you got me. Not Ozzy. He, he turns, he realizes he's been blindsided. He turns and just stares at everyone. He says, I trusted you. And then he stands up and he walks really slowly over to Jeff and he gets his torch snuffed. And you think, oh, my God, he's not going to say a word. And then he slowly turns around, he goes, good luck, guys. And it was like so relatable because that's how you'd be feeling, like you betrayed me. And he just, he didn't have the sort of slick veneer of like, oh, like you. Yeah. And I, I like that.
Tig Notaro
That is the worst feeling.
Fortune Feimster
Oh, can you imagine when someone tells you they're like disappointed in you?
Tig Notaro
Well, no, to realize that you were, when I say playing a game, like not even playing a game, you were just, you were moving forward in something that you thought was a particular thing. And then, and it's like, whoa, there's a whole complicated dance of backstabbing.
Mae Martin
Can you imagine watching it back?
Tig Notaro
That's crazy.
Mae Martin
Yeah. And when you watch it back and you see the side conversations where they go, we gotta get them out, it must be deeply psychologically scarring.
Tig Notaro
Oh, God, yeah.
Mae Martin
Yeah.
Tig Notaro
But at least on Survivor, you know what you're watching, that people are going to be backstabbing, lying, doing all of those things. I'm talking about like when you're just scooting around in life and then you're like, wait, what?
Fortune Feimster
Yeah, you just blew my mind.
Mae Martin
Oh, my God.
Tig Notaro
That is. That is a wild feeling. If I can put it lightly, the
Mae Martin
rug pull of like.
Tig Notaro
Yeah.
Mae Martin
Nothing that I thought was real was real.
Tig Notaro
Yes.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah. Like, especially on reality television, who would have seen that coming?
Tig Notaro
That's what I'm saying, though. It's like you're of course, expecting it there.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah.
Tig Notaro
But it's like, you know, in life
Mae Martin
when like, family lore is revealed or something that you're like, I have friends who find out in their teens that, like, you know, their mom's really their. I can't think of an example, actually, but you know what I mean?
Tig Notaro
But yes. Yeah. Or there's like weird twisted back channel stuff where you're like, wait a minute.
Mae Martin
Yeah.
Tig Notaro
What is happening? Yeah, it's. It's hot. It's. It just comes in to the brain and the heart like a. A freight train. And then you have to go, okay.
Mae Martin
And you have to try not to let it affect your worldview too much. Like, because you do have to kind of take people at face value and. And trust people in life and. Yeah. But.
Tig Notaro
Yeah.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah.
Tig Notaro
And here we are in. In Hollywood where it's, oh, who can you trust? Who can you trust?
Fortune Feimster
I don't know. I don't know. It's always stick together.
Tig Notaro
Yes. Let's hold hands and twirl around in a circle.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah.
Tig Notaro
And keep it open. I mean, handsome.
Mae Martin
After seeing Thomas, you know, play laser tag, I don't know if I can trust him.
Fortune Feimster
I actually just played laser tag with some friends the other day and I thought of you.
Tig Notaro
No way.
Fortune Feimster
I haven't seen you since. It happens.
Mae Martin
Oh, my God. How was it?
Fortune Feimster
It was fun.
Tig Notaro
We may feels betrayed.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah.
Tig Notaro
Yeah.
Fortune Feimster
My friends and had some. Some teen. Teenage kids. So we all played and yeah, it was. I got third place, dude.
Mae Martin
That's good.
Fortune Feimster
Out of four, right?
Mae Martin
Okay. Okay.
Fortune Feimster
But it. I definitely think I would get better if I did it more. Yeah. I was bad at the aiming.
Mae Martin
Oh, right. Yeah.
Fortune Feimster
And also the teenage. The teenagers would sneak up on you, of course. And I'm like, God dang it.
Mae Martin
But isn't it crazy how wrapped up in it you get right away, like, you think, oh, yeah, this will be fun. And then your heart's pounding, you're hiding.
Fortune Feimster
It was a lot of. I was sweating at the end of it. I was like, this is a lot longer of a game than I anticipated. And it's a lot more Movement than I realized.
Mae Martin
Yeah.
Fortune Feimster
And.
Tig Notaro
And did you get totally sucked in in the way that May is saying?
Fortune Feimster
Yeah, you get into it because you're in the little maze and you're trying to, like, hide from people and then sneak up on people and.
Tig Notaro
And do you have a sense of like, oh, God, oh, my. Go behind me? Oh, no.
Fortune Feimster
I just didn't understand where people were coming from.
Mae Martin
Right. When you see the little laser dot on you and you can't find the source. Yeah.
Fortune Feimster
You're like, what? What? How'd you get back there? So it is weird to have to hold the.
Mae Martin
The front of the gun.
Fortune Feimster
I don't like that part.
Mae Martin
Right.
Fortune Feimster
So I felt like I was not getting shots in because maybe my hand was coming off of that.
Tig Notaro
And was your vest. Because remember y' all were saying, like, if you get hit, your vest deflates.
Mae Martin
Did you have that for five seconds?
Fortune Feimster
It, like, goes off?
Mae Martin
Yeah.
Fortune Feimster
I think I also made a mistake of choosing the color red.
Mae Martin
It stands out more.
Fortune Feimster
I think red stands out more. I should have done, like, yellow.
Mae Martin
Ginger's favorite color.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah, Ginger's favorite color. You want to see the T shirt my mom's wearing?
Mae Martin
Yes, please.
Tig Notaro
Of course. Whatever.
Fortune Feimster
Sit up for a second.
Mae Martin
Whatever you can show. We want to see.
Fortune Feimster
Show us her toes.
Tig Notaro
Yeah, we'll get her on a sexy footside.
Fortune Feimster
A fan gave me this shirt and she's commandeered it. All right. See, she's using her hair right now. Hold on, you guys. She's doing a lot of this. Your mouth is good.
Tig Notaro
All we want are the toes.
Fortune Feimster
Can you see what it says?
Mae Martin
Something feamsters.
Fortune Feimster
We're feemsters.
Mae Martin
We're feemsters. Oh, that's really nice, Ginger.
Fortune Feimster
You like that shirt, Mom? I like this shirt.
Mae Martin
That is beautiful.
Tig Notaro
That is good looking.
Fortune Feimster
That's right. She's. She's rocking it. So can we see her feet? You don't want to see those.
Tig Notaro
Tell her that. She could end up, you know, people raiding her feet. Do you want to show your bare
Fortune Feimster
feet so you can get on wiki feet? No, no, she just shot that and
Tig Notaro
she knows what that is.
Fortune Feimster
Do you know what wiki feed is? She said no.
Tig Notaro
Oh, okay, that makes sense.
Fortune Feimster
She assumes it's something perverted.
Mae Martin
Yeah. You know, her instincts are right on
Fortune Feimster
ugly. It's not just. It's not ugly feet.
Tig Notaro
They rate.
Fortune Feimster
They rate your feet. So I guess it could be ugly feet. Yeah, we don't want to rate her feet.
Mae Martin
No.
Fortune Feimster
I'm not sure how good the scores would be. Us femsters as it says on her shirt, aren't known for our feet.
Mae Martin
Really?
Fortune Feimster
Just see yours. You can't, our magnetic personalities.
Tig Notaro
You can't tell us that you're not known for your feet and not show us. Oh, your, your bear claws.
Fortune Feimster
She just said we're not known for SAT scores either. Okay. Well, Ginge. Yeah, that's great. I, I, if anyone gives me anything for her, she's like rocking it out right away.
Mae Martin
I love that.
Tig Notaro
That's hilarious.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah.
Tig Notaro
My mother would never.
Fortune Feimster
Oh, this one loves stuff. I walked in, her whole table's full of, you know, people send her cards and stuff and, and occasionally some presents. She keeps playing that cancer card and fortune.
Mae Martin
We find out it's a scam.
Nicole Wallace
Yeah.
Fortune Feimster
And they. Her table's full. I said, well, you have to start going through these. You can't keep everything. But she doesn't hold on to it all.
Mae Martin
Yeah. I'm shipping everything back from this leg of the tour. Like the, the funny little gifts and things.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah.
Tig Notaro
Did you get a hotel room to treat yourself on your final night or have you been just staying in a hotel room every night?
Mae Martin
No, we've been busing and then the bus leaves us today at 6:30. So I'll stay in a hotel tonight and then.
Tig Notaro
But when you get to a town, are you. No, sticking to the bus. Okay.
Mae Martin
Yeah, sticking to the bus.
Tig Notaro
I did Denver and where at the Paramount.
Mae Martin
It's kind of blurring into one.
Tig Notaro
I can't.
Fortune Feimster
I bet it was there.
Tig Notaro
Yeah.
Mae Martin
Yeah.
Fortune Feimster
Are you, are you relieved to have a little break? Break you poo.
Mae Martin
Yeah. I mean, I'm emotional. I mean, I'm always emotional just to wake up in the morning. But I, I've, I've complained about being tired so much. And then of course today I'm like, when can I do this again? I, I'm gonna miss everyone. I got such a good group. I really lucked out.
Tig Notaro
That's awesome. Nothing better than a good group.
Mae Martin
And I had a good cry yesterday at the meet and greet. Like there was a woman who, she said, I'm pregnant and I just can't stop crying. She said, I've been crying since the last song you played. And now I'm crying all through the meet and greet. And she was like, I'm not crazy. I just can't stop crying. And then I started crying, then her mom started crying and then another woman who's talking about her trans kid who saw feel good. And that just gets me, man.
Tig Notaro
Yeah.
Mae Martin
And when parents are crying and worried about the future and yeah, yeah, it was very wholesome. Yeah, Very, very nice. There is one sneaky little lady, though, who keeps showing up and trying to scramble backstage and stuff, and that's not good.
Fortune Feimster
Scramble backstage here.
Tig Notaro
Let me make a public service announcement.
Fortune Feimster
Yes, go ahead.
Tig Notaro
Please stop acting weird. Everybody, please stop acting weird.
Fortune Feimster
They mainly act weird with me, don't you think?
Tig Notaro
Well, you listen. There's different days in people's lives where people cross boundaries, they act weird, they. They do things sneakily. Just stop being weird. Yeah, stop it. Yeah, stop right now. And yeah, look at yourself and go, I think I've been weird, maybe doing this or that. Yes.
Fortune Feimster
I don't think people that do that stuff have that kind of.
Tig Notaro
That's why I'm trying to make this announcement. Look at yourself and say.
Fortune Feimster
They're literally going, who? Who's.
Tig Notaro
Yeah, no, I'm talking to you. Reel it in.
Fortune Feimster
I wonder who takes this addressing right now.
Tig Notaro
Stop being weird.
Fortune Feimster
But I can't wait to see my best friend May.
Tig Notaro
I'm gonna sneak in back here because I'm sure May would want me here. Yeah, May, we'll invite you if May want you there. Should we get to our question?
Mae Martin
Yeah, let's do it.
Tig Notaro
Let's do it.
Mae Martin
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Tig Notaro
Fortune.
Guest Speaker (possibly Fortune Feimster continuing)
I feel like every summer my family gets a little bit more adventurous with our travel plans, but there's a hitch.
Fortune Feimster
Oh yeah? What might that be?
Guest Speaker (possibly Fortune Feimster continuing)
They're now getting really into competitive sports, and that means we're now traveling around their team schedules.
Fortune Feimster
Hmm. Let me guess. They're having you stay in a bare bones hotel on the side of a highway somewhere.
Guest Speaker (possibly Fortune Feimster continuing)
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Fortune Feimster
Wow, that sounds incredible. But I have one important question for you. Is there a hot tub?
Tig Notaro
Oh, Fortune, there is indeed a hot tub. So maybe after the boys go to
Guest Speaker (possibly Fortune Feimster continuing)
bed, Stephanie and I will have some tub time together. And that's what I love about finding a place on Airbnb. Instead of being trapped in our room, we get this whole unique experience. So if you're listening, go check out Airbnb and have your own adventure.
Tig Notaro
Today's Question is brought to you by AT&T.
Mae Martin
Today's question asker is a political commentator and author who once served as the White House Communications director. Nicole Wallace is asking today's question.
Tig Notaro
Nice.
Nicole Wallace
Hi, handsome. It's Nicole Wallace from msnow and the Best People podcast. Thanks for asking me to ask a question. So here's my question. It's one of my favorite things to talk about. What's your favorite movie? Wait, it's a three part question. Because that's what I do, right? Ask three part questions. How often do you have to see it for it to stay your favorite movie. Why do you love it so much? And when was the last time you watched it?
Mae Martin
Great question.
Tig Notaro
Yeah. Movies, great questions.
Mae Martin
Yes.
Tig Notaro
Three parter. Me.
Mae Martin
Yeah.
Fortune Feimster
I feel weird answering this question because I love movies, but I'm not like a cinephile. So, like, my, listen, I am. Well, my. Some people just have these lists where you're like these artsy, you know, coveted films, and mine are never that.
Mae Martin
Yeah. You know, when they do, like, the Criterion Collection or someone, they do that thing where they go into a cupboard with all the movies and you have to talk about your four favorite movies and people are saying things that I'm like, there's no way that's your favorite.
Fortune Feimster
They're always like Citizen Kane. And I'm like, oh, my God,
Mae Martin
watch that every year.
Fortune Feimster
Do you?
Tig Notaro
Yeah, well, I'll just go first unless somebody else wants to. And I just want to say out of the gate. Also, I am also not a cinephile. I, I, if you haven't seen it, I have a show called Under a Rock with Tig Notaro that you can find online still. And I don't follow a lot of pop culture, but, boy, do I love urban cowboy. Have I talked about that? Oh, yeah, of course. Yes.
Mae Martin
Is it Travolta?
Tig Notaro
John Travolta and the incomparable Deborah Winger.
Fortune Feimster
You do you have talked about your love for her as well.
Tig Notaro
I just think she is such a phenomenal actress. And, and I'll, I'll be honest, you know, I probably didn't follow TV and film much past the 70s. You know, Teeter, I think this came out in 80 maybe, but I think I love watching it because I think it's a great movie. I also think there's a comfort to it because I lived in Texas when it came out, and it was about, like, urban cowboys.
Mae Martin
Yeah.
Tig Notaro
And I was surrounded by urban cowboys. I mean, you see like, big old cowboy hat buckles, a big old buckle on their, you know, starched wrangler blue jeans and, and western shirt and, and boots at walking through the city, literally through the city or through the suburbs. And so it just, there's something, even though that wasn't my reality, there's something just so familiar about the scene.
Mae Martin
Yeah. I just googled it. So it's like a sort of coming of age. John Travolta stars as Bud Davis, a young man who moves to Pasadena, Texas, and navigates love, marriage, and adulthood while hanging out at Gillies, a massive honky
Tig Notaro
tonk bar, which was a real place.
Mae Martin
Oh, no, Way.
Tig Notaro
Yeah. In Pasadena, Texas, which everyone called Pasa. Stinky Dina. Because it was industrial.
Mae Martin
Stinky Dina.
Tig Notaro
Stinky Dina. When you drove through Pasadena, just smelled horrendously. And, and, and. And Gillies was an actual bar.
Fortune Feimster
Wow. Like roadhouse.
Tig Notaro
Yeah. But it. It was owned by the country singer Mickey Gilly. And. Mickey Gilly. I think I. Can you look this up? Thomas. I feel like he maybe got in trouble. He might have been. Who burned it down to get insurance money.
Fortune Feimster
Oh, no, it got burnt down.
Tig Notaro
Yeah. I think they rebuilt it. But anyway, Gillies had the mechanical bowl and it was like not the one like on Hollywood or in. On Sunset Boulevard where people. Whatever that place is, but this was like a real honky tonk.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah.
Tig Notaro
Mechanical bull cowboys.
Fortune Feimster
Any lawn dancing?
Tig Notaro
Of course, girl.
Mae Martin
It says yeah. Centers on themes of jealousy, gender roles and finding identity through mechanical bull riding. I love that.
Tig Notaro
Yeah. It's just so good. And it's. Look, there's a lot of like, you know, heavy drinking and a fighting and a biting. But like I love to settle in and watch Urban Cowboy.
Mae Martin
It sounds like a western version of Saturday Night Fever. Almost like it's.
Tig Notaro
Yeah, yeah, yeah. And. And John Travolta. I mean, if you found him remotely attractive in the 70s or 80s, he is like peak. Peak John Travolta.
Fortune Feimster
Look who's talking.
Tig Notaro
Oh, Thomas is typing.
Mae Martin
Sherwood Crier was the co owner of Gillies. And there was a rumor he was
Advertiser/Announcer
beyond behind the fire, but that was never proven.
Tig Notaro
Okay. I remember hearing something. Something. So my apologies to Mickey Gilly for even suggesting.
Fortune Feimster
Oh my God. How dare you.
Tig Notaro
Yes. I just remember hearing when Mickey. When. When Gillies burned to the ground. And also I have to acknowledge the soundtrack for Urban Cowboy.
Mae Martin
Yeah.
Tig Notaro
Looking for love in all the wrong places. Too many faces.
Mae Martin
The right place to look for love is mechanical bull.
Tig Notaro
Absolutely. Gotta head on out to pass a stinky Dina.
Fortune Feimster
Pass a stinker.
Tig Notaro
And that's what I call the Pasadena here in California. Even though it doesn't smell bad. I.
Mae Martin
Or do you watch the movie like once a year or how. When was the last.
Tig Notaro
No, no. Probably every five to seven years.
Mae Martin
Okay.
Fortune Feimster
I've never seen it. Maybe on our wellness weekend we can also watch that.
Tig Notaro
That is the opposite of meditating veganism. What?
Fortune Feimster
Yeah. What if we're like sitting on a couch with like the. I don't like a face. Yeah, with the face laser. What's the. The red light mask on and maybe like May's foot massager.
Mae Martin
Yeah. The chill chair.
Fortune Feimster
Can't. Can't we Be doing multiple wellness things while washing it.
Tig Notaro
I mean, look, I'm always up for Urban Cowboy, but it is truly. These are people fighting in trailers.
Fortune Feimster
Okay, perfect.
Tig Notaro
I mean, oh, my gosh.
Fortune Feimster
That's.
Tig Notaro
That's my movie. Wait, what is the other question? How many it said, why do you
Fortune Feimster
love it so much? And when was the last time you. Oh, okay. That you watched it? So I think.
Tig Notaro
Yeah, I don't know. The last time I watched it, I would guess it was probably in the past five years. But we do have a framed movie poster that Stephanie surprised me with. It's in our. What we call our chill out room where we have the big old screen tv.
Mae Martin
And did you have. You showed it to Stephanie? I, like, had.
Tig Notaro
Oh, yeah, yeah. She was completely unfamiliar, and she was like, oh, my God, I love this. And I talked about it somewhere else, and then somebody was screening it and asked me to come host. Host the screening. And you bet I was down there. And then I've had the pleasure of meeting Deborah Winger and. And becoming online friends, even though we know I'm not online anymore, but. And just gushing to her. What Just genius actress I think she is. That's all. End of story. Next.
Mae Martin
Okay, I know mine.
Fortune Feimster
All right. Okay.
Tig Notaro
And Citizen Kane.
Mae Martin
Yeah, it's Citizen Kane.
Fortune Feimster
It is.
Mae Martin
If, like, gun to my head, God forbid, laser to my head. I'm saying, rock your picture show. Yeah.
Tig Notaro
Classic me.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah. Yeah.
Advertiser/Announcer
I really am.
Mae Martin
Because I've talked about it so much before, but it's got everything for. Because I was gonna say stand by me, but so much of my identity is, like, horniness that. For the.
Fortune Feimster
For the movie, like, are you still very horny?
Mae Martin
Always? Oh, my God, yeah. Or just like, I'm really fueled by, like, crushing word. I know. It is a gross word.
Tig Notaro
Yeah. So gross.
Fortune Feimster
Horny.
Tig Notaro
But you heard me the first time.
Fortune Feimster
Come on.
Mae Martin
More like. Like, we need to get you hornier.
Advertiser/Announcer
And.
Mae Martin
Yeah, I just saw it at such a formative. I probably watch it once a year. And the songs are so good, the performances. Tim Curry is so good. And I just think it's flawless. And it was. It's. It was so formative in terms of my sexuality and my identity and. And it was like, don't dream it. Be it. That's like the, you know, ethos movie. And. And. And, yeah, it's. It's all fluidity. There's no labels. Everyone's just hooking up and naked.
Tig Notaro
How old were you when you first saw it?
Mae Martin
I was five years old, but my parents did fast Forward the sex scenes when I was five and you're like,
Fortune Feimster
whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa.
Mae Martin
Yeah. By the time I was five and a half, I'd found a way to.
Tig Notaro
You had yourself a horn dog.
Fortune Feimster
Let me see that.
Mae Martin
But they showed it to me because of the family connection, because my grandpa was in the stage show and. And playing the narrator and. And my dad loves it so much. So. But then my dad and I knew every word. And so on the drive to school, we would just act it out from the beginning, like word for word, and see how far we could get into the movie.
Fortune Feimster
Whoa.
Mae Martin
Yeah, it was really fun. And I probably am on the spectrum. I memorized every beat when I was little. And then recently there was some charity event where Kate Beckinsale was going to play Frank N. Furter and do some songs. And they reached out and said, would I put play Rocky, which is my. Who I've modeled my. Like I want.
Tig Notaro
You were born to do kid.
Mae Martin
Yes. Rocky. He's a creature created for sex.
Tig Notaro
As in the boxer, as in from mask.
Fortune Feimster
Rocky with Sharon.
Mae Martin
Rocky's like, I can't.
Fortune Feimster
I'm trying to picture Sly Stone in this.
Mae Martin
No way.
Tig Notaro
Rocky and Bullwinkle.
Mae Martin
That's the antithesis. But yeah, I couldn't. Schedule wise, I couldn't do it. But I really wanted to.
Fortune Feimster
Oh, yeah. There's a. Currently a Broadway. It's on Broadway at the moment.
Mae Martin
I know. And it.
Fortune Feimster
Are you gonna go see that?
Mae Martin
I would love to list it.
Fortune Feimster
Keep showing them up on my tick tock.
Mae Martin
Yeah. It looks so good.
Tig Notaro
Luke.
Fortune Feimster
What's his face, Evan?
Mae Martin
It's Luke Evans.
Fortune Feimster
His big old wean.
Mae Martin
Yeah.
Fortune Feimster
Keep showing up in my tick tock. Tig. I'm just telling you the facts here. He's wearing this.
Tig Notaro
I don't want to hear about it
Fortune Feimster
that like specifically hugs the ween.
Tig Notaro
I'm gonna go to commercial.
Fortune Feimster
You know how there's like Speedos where, like you can see stuff, but it's. There's more material.
Tig Notaro
Like you even understand what stuff you're seeing. You don't know. And don't even pretend I have an
Fortune Feimster
idea what's in there.
Tig Notaro
No, you don't.
Fortune Feimster
But the.
Guest Speaker (possibly Fortune Feimster continuing)
But.
Fortune Feimster
But there's this. There's a new type of Speedo that like specifically just like very tight around the wiener.
Tig Notaro
There's a new like, where is Ginger right now?
Fortune Feimster
She left.
Tig Notaro
I bet she did.
Fortune Feimster
She wouldn't mind this conversation. She does.
Tig Notaro
She deserves better.
Fortune Feimster
I'm telling you. Look up the tick tock or whatever of his. Whatever do you think I'm going to
Tig Notaro
be googling this TikTok Speedo.
Fortune Feimster
You should go back online just to look this up.
Mae Martin
Yeah.
Fortune Feimster
And you'll see that it's different than just a regular, like, underwear speedo situation. It's hugging it.
Mae Martin
Yeah.
Advertiser/Announcer
I had that.
Mae Martin
I got.
Fortune Feimster
You know what I'm saying? You need me to show you again?
Tig Notaro
I need you to move on hugging it.
Fortune Feimster
I need you.
Tig Notaro
Go ahead, little cowboy.
Mae Martin
I was just gonna say, like, introducing people to that movie who haven't seen it is so good, too. And last Halloween, I took Parvati to see it in a. In Big Bear in a movie theater. They were screening it, and I thought it was going to be one of those wild, raucous ones where everyone's singing along and it was just like, 12 silent people.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah.
Mae Martin
And then. But I got up and did the time warp and was the only person doing that. But Parvati, when she saw it, she was like, oh, this explains everything. Like, this is.
Tig Notaro
I don't want to get off track here, but to go back to Survivor. Was your mother excited to meet Parvati?
Mae Martin
Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Tig Notaro
I mean, that's all I need to know.
Mae Martin
They are deep fans. Yeah.
Tig Notaro
Okay.
Mae Martin
Yeah.
Tig Notaro
Fortune Marie, and keep it clean. Oh, God.
Fortune Feimster
All right, then I. Then I guess no Dirty Dancing.
Mae Martin
That's clean. Compared to win, that's pretty perfect.
Tig Notaro
My friend in Element or in junior high or high school thought that song said cheese like the Wizard.
Fortune Feimster
She's like the Wiz. I could see that. She's like, I have a couple of movies that, in different parts of my life, were my favorite. I've talked about before that as a kid, I watched the Sound of Music, like, religiously.
Tig Notaro
Oh, yeah.
Fortune Feimster
And would fast forward the part in the monastery, though, and, you know, the Climb Every Mountain. I was like, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Tig Notaro
Get to the Speedos.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah. So I don't. I've always loved musicals, so that one, for whatever reason, just really tickled me. So I love that. And then I would. Then Dirty Dancing I definitely was obsessed with for a long part of my childhood and that soundtrack as well. And I thought Patrick Swayze was so dreamy.
Mae Martin
They hated each other. Right. Which I. When you.
Fortune Feimster
I think so. Yeah.
Mae Martin
And when you watch it, you're like,
Tig Notaro
wait, who hated each other?
Mae Martin
Jennifer Gray.
Tig Notaro
Like, but in their real life, despise,
Mae Martin
like, big fights and not speaking and. But I don't know, whatever it was worked because their chemistry is so good. Wow.
Fortune Feimster
I know. It was. That movie was like, I can, like, name all the scenes and lines and I just was obsessed with it and. Yeah. And Johnny, you know. Yeah. I mean, guy carrying a watermelon. Nobody puts baby in the corner. I mean, come on. Does it get better than that? I don't think so.
Tig Notaro
In.
Fortune Feimster
He's dancing and they're all dancing together. Oh, my God.
Tig Notaro
Never saw it.
Mae Martin
Oh, no.
Tig Notaro
I told you, I tapped out.
Guest Speaker (possibly Fortune Feimster continuing)
And after.
Mae Martin
God.
Tig Notaro
Thomas is even disappointed, shaking his head.
Mae Martin
You gotta watch Dirty Dance.
Tig Notaro
Okay.
Fortune Feimster
I just, like. I loved all the couples just, like, dirty.
Mae Martin
Yeah.
Fortune Feimster
I wanted to get in on that right between them.
Tig Notaro
Yeah, it'd be amazing if you scooted in between there.
Fortune Feimster
Well, there's like, a talent show that they have during the movie at one point, and I. I always felt like if, you know, I. I would have been cast as the, like, chubby son of the owner who had to perform.
Tig Notaro
The son.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah, he, like, like, was like a dork who was like. The owner was like, my son is great. He's like a fat, dorky guy. I actually, you know, don't talk about
Tig Notaro
my friend like that.
Mae Martin
You know, that's the sex scene in Wayward where I crawl on the floor. I was, of course, thinking about Dirty Dancing. And when he. When he crawls across to her baby.
Fortune Feimster
Oh, sweet baby, you're the one.
Mae Martin
So good.
Fortune Feimster
God, that soundtrack is incredible.
Mae Martin
So are you.
Tig Notaro
Are you urban cowboy? Yeah.
Fortune Feimster
Before it's time, I was talking about abortion.
Mae Martin
Yeah.
Tig Notaro
Like, people can hear you say that,
Fortune Feimster
even though Whisper talking about that.
Tig Notaro
This.
Fortune Feimster
How you had to talk about it when I was watching this at 7.
Mae Martin
Is that. So is that your favorite?
Fortune Feimster
Would you say that's, like, probably the one that I know better than anything, but I guess in my adult times, my favorite movie would be Bridesmaids.
Mae Martin
Yeah. I just watched it on the tour bus and it holds up.
Tig Notaro
Yeah.
Fortune Feimster
Funny.
Advertiser/Announcer
Really?
Tig Notaro
Oh, my God.
Mae Martin
Wow.
Fortune Feimster
Wellness weekend's now turning into movie weekend.
Mae Martin
Yeah, it's movie weekend.
Tig Notaro
Yeah. Oh, that would be a good. Remember how we were saying we could have different kinds of weekends where I'd want wellness weekend, Watch the sun come up journal.
Mae Martin
Yeah.
Tig Notaro
Eat vegan. Then we could have movie weekends.
Mae Martin
We just become slugs.
Tig Notaro
So who would be. Moo. Who would be heading up movie weekend out of the two of you?
Fortune Feimster
I mean, I wouldn't mind being charged, but my couch isn't very big for all of us.
Mae Martin
No, we're. We're. We're renting it.
Fortune Feimster
Oh, we're renting a cabin. We need a big, comfy couch, though,
Mae Martin
and a big tv.
Tig Notaro
Okay, so then may you have to come up with your different getaway weekend.
Fortune Feimster
I will say that we went to. We went to games. When we wrapped the last movie I did with Kim Kardashian when we went to her mom's and she had the most luxurious, comfiest big couch ever. And we'd had a. We had a sleepover and had pajamas on. And Nikki Glaser and I were in our pajamas beside each other. We were watching Moulin Rouge and it was my dream. Dream come true. Dream come true. Matching PJs on a big comfy couch watching Moulin Rouge.
Tig Notaro
Come on. And did Kim's mom make snacks for you guys?
Fortune Feimster
And she just had a humongous like 18 course dinner prepared for us there. It was the fancy version. It was.
Tig Notaro
And did she actually cook it or
Fortune Feimster
did she have her chef cook it? It was a. A restaurant made it. It was amazing. Yeah, she was. It was. I mean, it was like beyond. Beyond.
Tig Notaro
Was it better than big ass Mother's Day brunch?
Fortune Feimster
I mean. Yeah, it was pretty special.
Tig Notaro
Okay.
Fortune Feimster
They went all out for us. It was. It was like our little rap of the movie. Yeah, it was pretty cool. And we had matching PJs, so.
Mae Martin
Matching pjs. All of us.
Fortune Feimster
We would have to get matching handsome PJs.
Mae Martin
Oh, yeah.
Tig Notaro
Oh my God. Why don't we have those?
Fortune Feimster
Yeah, why don't we have PJs? Yeah, we gotta get PJ. Holy cow. We need to find out if people would wear them if we got. Got a handsome PJs.
Tig Notaro
Of course they would.
Fortune Feimster
Of course they would.
Tig Notaro
And. And have it where it says handsome over there. Derriere.
Fortune Feimster
Oh, that's like taking it back to the juicy days.
Mae Martin
Yeah, but don't you take. Don't you wear. What's your PJs again? Granny. And a nightgown and a bonnet?
Tig Notaro
No, that's just for my. My last special.
Fortune Feimster
For your stand up story.
Tig Notaro
I just wear my regular old run of the mill underpants.
Fortune Feimster
Ponties.
Tig Notaro
Yes. Should we hear Nicole's answer?
Fortune Feimster
I want to hear about your under Pontius.
Tig Notaro
We've talked about this numerous times.
Fortune Feimster
Are they granny panties?
Tig Notaro
I'm. I'm tits out with my. With no tits. I'm scars out with my. My Under Pontus.
Fortune Feimster
Under Ponti.
Tig Notaro
All right, let's hear what Nicole has to say.
Mae Martin
What if it's Citizen Kane?
Nicole Wallace
Okay, so here's my answer. My favorite movie is Almost Famous. I love everything about it. I have to watch it once a year. I get jittery if I'm getting to the one year mark. And I haven't seen it yet. I last watched it right after the 2024 election. I will spare you my rendition of Tiny Dancer, but I, too, want to be on that bus, singing, belting out that song. I love everyone in it. I love that they're all icons. Philip Seymour Hoffman, of course, is no longer with us, but he's the most brilliant, I think. When he asks him, why are you home? He says, I'm always home. I'm not cool. I also love that it's about journalism, in a way. Access journalism, maybe. And he loves them, but at the end of the day, he tells the truth about them, and ultimately, that serves them. I feel like there's some geeky journalism message in there, too, and maybe I'll go watch it after listening to this happen.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah, I haven't seen a while. Isn't your crush in there in that movie, Tig?
Tig Notaro
My crush?
Fortune Feimster
Billy. Crude.
Mae Martin
Yeah.
Tig Notaro
Yeah. Oh, my God. I was like, I mean, look, I love Kate Hudson.
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Tig Notaro
Yeah, it's Kerry Russell in there.
Fortune Feimster
Oh, your boy crush. Yes.
Tig Notaro
Yes. Oh, my gosh. How'd I forget that?
Fortune Feimster
I don't know.
Mae Martin
I'd like to see Billy Crudup play Frank N. Furter in a Speedo. That would be pretty good.
Fortune Feimster
The one that the hugs the wiener.
Mae Martin
That's the one.
Tig Notaro
Oh, my God.
Mae Martin
Also, that's Cameron Crowe and his Almost Famous. And his soundtracks are so good. The Jerry Maguire soundtrack is so good.
Tig Notaro
Did I tell you I just did a show with him?
Mae Martin
No.
Tig Notaro
We were both on a panel, and to me, it was like, when we were backstage beforehand, I was like, oh, my gosh. I cannot wait to talk to this man. Like, I talking to him backstage about rock and roll and music and stuff, and then getting on stage with him, it was just. Yeah, I don't know. That's. That's a. I've seen Almost Famous. I have seen that.
Fortune Feimster
Okay.
Tig Notaro
Yeah. Yeah, that's a good movie.
Mae Martin
Is Ginger back in the room?
Fortune Feimster
She just opened the door. Did you have a question for her?
Mae Martin
Oh, I was wondering what her favorite movie is.
Fortune Feimster
But, mom, what's your favorite movie?
Tig Notaro
Citizen Kane.
Fortune Feimster
She doesn't know. I'm gonna let her think about it. Tig, I do think you should watch Bridesmaids. I would be curious if you found it funny.
Tig Notaro
Stephanie wants to have. You know, she. She got me to see Forrest Gump with Max and Finn. We watched that, you know, a couple months ago, maybe month and a half. And then
Fortune Feimster
we lost May. What if May comes back and is in the tub?
Tig Notaro
Oh, One can dream. God. One can dream.
Fortune Feimster
Let's hope.
Tig Notaro
But Bridesmaid. Bridesmaids is one that Stephanie wants to watch with Max and Finn because she feels like it's. Is it R?
Fortune Feimster
Probably.
Tig Notaro
But she feels like it's one. Yeah. That kind of stuff is fine. Yeah.
Fortune Feimster
Because it's not sexual. That movie's not sexual. It's just like. It's like kind of women doing broy jokes, but also a good. A good view of women friendships, too.
Tig Notaro
Yeah. Yeah.
Fortune Feimster
And rivalries.
Tig Notaro
Yeah. She seemed to think that whatever reason it's R might not apply, but I think she's.
Fortune Feimster
I would agree.
Tig Notaro
Yeah. So I think that's one of the next up in our family movie night when they can pin me down for one.
Fortune Feimster
I really want to. I really want to know what the boys think of it, too. It's so funny. I watched it a couple years ago, and it. It did help hold up.
Tig Notaro
Yeah.
Fortune Feimster
But it was one of the la. One of the last, like, really big, big ensemble comedies in a theater. And kind of. I talked to Kristen about it. She said it, like, kind of had a slow opening weekend, and everyone was like, sorry, guys, it's a bust. And then it just. But that was. The thing about movie theaters is that it would catch on, you know, like, you would. People would tell each other, like, you got. And then all of a sudden it, like, exploded.
Tig Notaro
Yeah.
Fortune Feimster
And then was this huge movie. But it's so funny. I just like. Like seeing, like, big female ensembles just be badasses and hilarious and.
Tig Notaro
Hell, yeah.
Fortune Feimster
And then you got Wilson Phillips at the end.
Tig Notaro
Oh, really?
Fortune Feimster
Yeah, I guess.
Tig Notaro
Hold on for one more day. That song, huh? Okay, well, I feel like everyone I know is pretty much like, oh, my God, Bridesmaids is one of my favorite movies.
Fortune Feimster
It's so good.
Tig Notaro
Yeah.
Fortune Feimster
And then if you like Bridesmaids, I do think, think. And I'm not saying this because I have a small part in the movie, but Annie Mumalo and Kristen Wiig, who are. Who wrote Bridesmaids together and are both in Bridesmaids, also wrote Barb and Star Go to Vista Del Mar and Star in that. And I think that movie is so funny. I'm sure very underrated because it came out in Covid. It was supposed to have a theater release, but it came out in Covid, so it went to Hulu, and so not as many eyes were on it. And anyone who watches it is like, this movie is so funny, but it just didn't get the exposure that Bridesmaids got.
Tig Notaro
But, you know, it is Getting a lot of exposure on Hulu Handsome podcast.
Fortune Feimster
That's right. We are on Hulu.
Tig Notaro
Yeah. And you can catch us a day early. And I'm afraid we lost May for the rest of the episode there.
Mae Martin
May's trying to rejoin.
Fortune Feimster
I really want May to show up in the tub. Why don't you plug some dates while we're waiting on May?
Tig Notaro
I'll be in Kalispell, Montana, Spokane, Washington, Eugene, Oregon, Colorado Springs, Calgary, Iowa City, Des Moines, Omaha, Oklahoma City, Cincinnati, Charleston, West Virginia, Chattanooga, Knoxville, Fresno, Napa. Come see me. All of my show information is tignotaro.com New dates will be added and. And again, I'll be hitting more major markets down the road. Maybe next year. Not sure, but I'm having a grand old time.
Fortune Feimster
Nice. Well, coming up in just a few days, I'm in Rochester, Minnesota. Never been there before. Cedar Rapids, Iowa. Also never been there before. Omaha, Nebraska. Portland, Maine, and Detroit, Michigan. All of those are in the next few weeks, so check that out. My mom did tell me her favorite
Tig Notaro
movie, but you'll have to tune in to next week's episode to find out.
Fortune Feimster
It's not what you would think. It's definitely a surprise to me. Pretty Woman.
Tig Notaro
Oh, Pretty Woman. I haven't seen that either.
Fortune Feimster
What? I.
Tig Notaro
When I tell people I don't follow pop culture, I'm not exaggerating.
Fortune Feimster
Dang.
Tig Notaro
I'm not like, secretly doing it and then not telling anyone. Really not doing it.
Fortune Feimster
All right, well, some of these I really need you to sounding music you don't need to watch.
Tig Notaro
I've seen that. I saw it. That was in the 70s. I was a lot. That was out in the 70s.
Fortune Feimster
But I would like you to see Bridesmaid. You're gonna watch that with your family? Yeah, I do think you should watch Pretty Woman. And then what was the other one that we said that I. Oh, I said Dirty Dancing. I do think you should watch that too.
Tig Notaro
Oh, I'm happy to do it. Let's have movie weekend. Let's have wellness weekend. Let's. Let's.
Fortune Feimster
Let's figure it out.
Tig Notaro
And please, if this is a favorite episode of yours that we just did, share it with a friend. Let's help build this handsome community. Please rate, review and subscribe to the Handsome podcast. And you can catch us one day early streaming on Hulu.
Fortune Feimster
That's right.
Tig Notaro
And yeah, and we also have merch, do we not?
Fortune Feimster
We sure do. We have a lot of cool merch. So you can God.com.
Tig Notaro
oh, I have local shows too, in LA. Oh, there's May. I was gonna say May couldn't make it to next April.
Fortune Feimster
May. You miss the permanent opportunity to be in that bathtub. Come on.
Mae Martin
Oh, my God. You're right. I should have been fully used.
Fortune Feimster
And also, my mom's favorite movie is Pretty Woman because she likes. She always wanted to be an escort. Okay, she didn't say that last part, but she does like that movie. I think it's because she thinks Richard Gere's hot.
Mae Martin
Right?
Fortune Feimster
Yeah.
Mae Martin
I'm so sorry about this. On my phone. And then this. This is.
Tig Notaro
That's okay. We're shutting it down. We're shutting down. Yeah. Until next time.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah. There we go.
Tig Notaro
Keeping the Handsome.
Fortune Feimster
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Fortune Feimster
And I'm Chris Sullivan. And we host the podcast that Was Us now on Headgum.
Tig Notaro
Each episode, we're gonna go into a deep dive from our show.
Fortune Feimster
This is Us.
Mae Martin
That's right.
Tig Notaro
We're gonna go episode by episode.
Mae Martin
We're also gonna pepper in episodes with different guest stars and writers and casting directors. Yeah.
Fortune Feimster
Are we gonna cry? Yes.
Mae Martin
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Fortune Feimster
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Hosts: Tig Notaro, Fortune Feimster, Mae Martin
Guest Question Asker: Nicolle Wallace
Release Date: June 9, 2026
Episode Focus: The hosts answer Nicolle Wallace's three-part question about their favorite movies—what are they, why are they their favorites, and how often do they revisit them. The episode also features signature banter, personal stories, and a focus on family, nostalgia, and film.
This week’s Handsome episode takes a heartfelt and hilarious turn as Tig, Fortune, and Mae field a question from Nicolle Wallace (MSNBC, podcast host, former White House Communications Director): “What’s your favorite movie, why, and how often do you watch it?” The trio explores their deeply personal connections to different films, trades stories of nostalgia and formative moments, and debates what makes a “favorite” movie—with a healthy dose of signature wit, playful teasing, and a robust celebration of individual tastes (arty or otherwise).
Along the way, listeners get glimpses of each host’s lives—tour shenanigans, Mother’s Day stories, karaoke memories, and encounters with legends (and their feet).
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In this episode, the Handsome hosts unpack the deeply nostalgic, individual reasons for loving their chosen films—whether for comfort, formative experiences, or sheer fun—while remaining true to their unique comic sensibility. The answers foster nostalgia, encourage embracing your movie weirdness (even if you’re not a “cinephile”), and celebrate the quirks and inside jokes that make friendship (and this podcast) so endearing.
Final Note: “If this is a favorite episode of yours that we just did, share it with a friend. Let’s help build this Handsome community...” (64:17, Tig Notaro)
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