Pretty Little Episode #70

Summary

Handsome Podcast – Pretty Little Episode #70 (December 19, 2025)

Main Theme & Purpose

In this lively "pretty little episode" of the Handsome podcast, hosts Mae Martin and Tig Notaro (with Fortune Feimster absent) banter about writing new comedy, swap wild stories about magicians and movie memories, and answer thoughtful listener questions about life stories and family traditions. The episode is packed with comedic anecdotes, warm personal reflections, and playful energy, delivering the show’s trademark mix of humor and connection.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Catching Up and Comedy Writing

[01:19 – 03:23]

• Mae shares that her friend Joe (co-writer of Feel Good) is visiting from England to work with her on a new comedy show.
• The writing process is collaborative and ego-free, making it “just trying to make each other laugh.”
  • Quote – Mae: “It's just so rare to find someone who's like, totally aligned and, you know, we don't have any ego with each other.” [02:35]
• Mae expresses excitement about returning to “joke heavy” comedy.
• The conversation turns slapstick, invoking physical comedy tropes (banana peels, pants falling down).
  • Quote – Tig: “How about slip on a banana type stuff? Or like, step on a rake and it comes up, hit you in the face.” [03:30]

2. Movie Nostalgia & Jodie Foster

[03:50 – 06:48]

• Mae recently watched Freaky Friday (the Lohan/Curtis version), finds it hilarious, and praises the performances.
• They recall the original 1976 version with Jodie Foster.
  • Quote – Mae (in a Jodie Foster imitation): “Mom, this fraud is pretty freaky or something?” [04:43]
• Tig shares a connection: Jodie Foster attended a screening of Tig’s film.
  • Quote – Tig: “Jodie came to come see me in the Good Light screening.” [04:50]
• Mae describes the tension in Silence of the Lambs, particularly the pivotal kitchen scene, invoking a sense of suspense.

3. Canadian Money and Writing on Bills

[06:48 – 07:56]

• Mae and Tig discuss the shift from paper to plastic currency in Canada.
  • Mae: “That’s like what money was like when I was a kid. And then they turned it all into these weird plastic bills.” [07:03]
• Mae finds a $1 bill with “Annabelle” written on it, muses about the idea of writing messages on circulating money.
  • Tig makes a pun: “They didn't write Anna Bill.” [07:43]

4. The Magician Story

[07:56 – 11:51]

• Tig recounts a jaw-dropping experience with a close-up magician at a charity event.
  • The magician performs the “signed card in wallet” trick and stuns Tig and her wife, Stephanie, by making an “8” appear in permanent marker on Stephanie’s hand.
  • Quote – Tig: “If you could see there was, with that permanent marker, an 8 written on the inside of her hand.” [10:35]
  • Tig repeatedly expresses her amazement: “That’s why I kept yelling at him. I am sick and tired of your bullshit.” [10:50]
  • Mae reacts with disbelief and wants to track down the magician.
  • Quote – Mae: “This is too powerful and dangerous.” [11:14]
• Mae feels “like I was being astonished by magic” just hearing about it.

5. Listener Game: Life Story in One Minute (Clara from Brazil)

[12:49 – 16:39]

• Listener Clara challenges the hosts to tell their life story in one minute.
• Mae’s 1-minute life story: Born 1987, premature, needy kid, enjoyed school and drugs, was kicked out, moved to England, got engaged twice, became a comedian, allergic to coconut, got tattoos, went to shiatsu massage school, podcasting, and finds comfort in Mother Nature.
  • Self-reflection: “That was really depressing that I only needed 40 seconds and then I was struggling to fill the last 20.” [14:54]
• Tig’s 1-minute life story: Born in Jackson, Mississippi, parents split, moved to Texas, quirky childhood (wet her pants, greasy bowl haircut, smoked, popular), 12 cats, dropped out of school, lived in New Jersey, moved to Colorado, came out, moved to LA, did stand-up, met wife, had children, had cancer.
  • Quote – Tig: “Also, I had cancer.” [16:32]
  • Invites listeners to read her book for more: “Read my book. It's called I'm Just a Person. That was fun.” [16:39]

6. Listener Question: Family Traditions (Steph from Vermont)

[17:08 – 21:11]

• Steph asks about family traditions, especially ones the hosts hope to pass down.
• Mae’s traditions:
  • Christmas meal – she likes traditions, but her mom disrupts them with new dishes (elk sausage and bok choy).
  • Family poker and wine.
  • “New moon through glass” superstition: if you see it, you go outside with a coin, bow to the moon three times, greet “lady moon,” and turn the coin.
    • Tig calls it “pagan” and compares it to Ozzy Osbourne’s “Bark at the Moon.”
  • Many family superstitions carried from her grandmother.
• Tig’s traditions:
  • Her kids love traditions—create “comfort and safety.”
  • On Christmas Eve: vegan gumbo, Nana’s tree trimming party, “oat nog.”
  • Little rituals like going to Burger Lounge for vegan burgers after practices.
  • Family catchphrases: “Who's Ina?” “Don’t call me Shirley.” (nod to Airplane! movie)
    • Discuss Julie Haggerty’s comedic style.

7. Listener Follow-up: Steph’s Family Coal Tradition

[21:15 – 22:18]

• Steph shares a story: Her grandmother wrapped a lump of coal as a gag gift at family Christmas; swapping gifts, and whoever gets the coal has to do a “job” the next year.
  • Steph draws a connection between her grandmother and Tig’s mom.
  • Expresses gratitude to the podcast (“Lift me up twice a week…”)
• Tig and Mae are touched, wish her well during tough times.
  • Quote – Tig: “That was so touching and meaningful and... yeah. I'm sorry to hear you're going through a tough spot.” [22:05]
  • Quote – Mae: “Glad we can brighten it up a bit.” [22:13]

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Notable Quotes & Moments

• Mae (on slapstick): “Give me all that. I want, like, your pants accidentally fall down.” [03:37]
• Tig (about the magician): “Your brain would ooze out of your ears. This man.” [11:01]
• Mae (packing her life story): “Wait, I'm done. And I got 25 seconds left…” [13:54]
• Tig (on childhood): “I wet my pants until way too long and had a greasy bull haircut. Was still popular, though, very well liked. I was smoking the whole time, sitting in trees...” [15:28]
• Tig (on traditions): “It just creates comfort and safety feel...” [18:51]
• Mae (on podcast’s impact): “Holiday season's tough for a lot of people, but also you find your little bits of magic.” [22:18]

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Timestamps for Important Segments

• Writing a new comedy show: 01:50 – 03:23
• Movie & Jodie Foster stories: 03:50 – 06:48
• Canadian money & writing on bills: 06:52 – 07:56
• Tig’s magician story: 07:56 – 11:51
• Life story in one minute (listener game): 12:49 – 16:39
• Family traditions discussion: 17:08 – 21:11
• Steph’s coal tradition and gratitude: 21:15 – 22:18

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Tone & Style

Mae and Tig maintain an informal, laugh-heavy, and storytelling tone throughout, frequently riffing off each other’s stories and sharing personal anecdotes with candor and warmth. The banter is playful, sometimes absurd, but always rooted in genuine connection—typical of the Handsome podcast’s inclusive and welcoming style.

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Closing Notes

The hosts encourage continued listener participation via SpeakPipe and promote their upcoming live holiday show (December 22nd), promising even more fun, connection, and possibly a mind-blowing magical guest appearance.

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For those who missed it, this episode delivers:

• Behind-the-scenes glimpses at comedy writing
• Unfiltered personal histories (in one-minute sprints)
• Hilarious stories about magicians, movies, and mischievous family traditions
• A sense of belonging and community—particularly precious during the holiday season

Transcript

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[Tig Notaro]

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[May Martin]

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[Tig Notaro]

Ho ho ho.

[May Martin]

Chatting with friends on the Handsome Pod. Pretty little episode. Welcome to the Handsome Pod. This is a pretty little episode and I'm your cool host, May Martin, joined by.

[Tig Notaro]

I am not able to keep up with this level of cool, but my name is Tig Notaro.

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[Tig Notaro]

Go to YouTube. Very cool. Look, May.

[May Martin]

Thank you.

[Tig Notaro]

Where did you get these?

[May Martin]

Well, my friend Joe is staying in this room right now. I don't know if you can see. I pulled out the sofa into bed there. And these must be his sunglasses I just saw. And they. They're stunning, I think you'll agree.

[Tig Notaro]

And why is he staying in that room on that couch?

[May Martin]

He's. We're writing a new show. We're writing. He wrote Feel Good With Me. And we're. We're writing a new show and he's here for two weeks. And every time he flies all the way from England and every time I'm like, dude, I am all yours while you're here. We are going to get stuff done. And then he arrives and I'm like, can we do an escape room? Or I'm like, I got to go to this to go to the sauna or something. He's really patient with me, but man, he's a good. He's a good boy.

[Tig Notaro]

So you guys are writing a new series together?

[May Martin]

We are, yeah. I'm really Pumped. I think it's. He's so fun to write with. It's just so rare to find someone who's like, totally aligned and, you know, we don't have any ego with each other. We're pretty blunt and it's just trying to make each other laugh and so.

[Tig Notaro]

Is this something where. This is not a follow up to Wayward? This is. You guys are just gonna. Are you coming up with a script or a pitch?

[May Martin]

We're developing it with someone and we're. We've been. We gotta write two scripts and like a whole series Bible. And then I guess at that point they'll tell us if they're gonna make it or not.

[Tig Notaro]

But I hope they will because they'll make it. You're the number one star in the universe.

[May Martin]

You're only as good as your last thing. You know? What if they're like, what is this trash?

[Tig Notaro]

Well, if you're only as good as your last thing, then you're really good.

[May Martin]

I'm just pumped that this is a real, like, joke heavy comedy. I really. I miss being silly like that.

[Tig Notaro]

How about slip on a banana type stuff? Or like, step on a rake and it comes up, hit you in the face.

[May Martin]

Yes, please give me all that I want. Like your pants accidentally fall down.

[Tig Notaro]

You know who could write for you? My son, Max.

[May Martin]

Oh, my God. Is he into that kind of serious slapstick?

[Tig Notaro]

Yes, indeed. Yes.

[May Martin]

You know what I watched on a plane the other day for the first time? Freaky Friday. The original. Seen it.

[Tig Notaro]

What year was that?

[May Martin]

With Lindsay Lohan, Jamie Lee Curtis?

[Tig Notaro]

I didn't see it.

[May Martin]

And they. They're a mom and daughter and they switch bodies and they just did a sequel. But I watched the original and I was like. I don't know if I was like, high from the altitude, but I was cry. Laughing by myself on the plane.

[Tig Notaro]

No, I think Stephanie's told me it's a really good movie. It's really like. It's really good.

[May Martin]

They're both just. Jamie Lee Curtis is, Because they swap bodies, is playing a teenager, basically. And then Lindsay Lohan's playing her mom, and they're just both great. So funny.

[Unknown Assistant or Tech]

There's also a 1976 version with Jodie Foster.

[May Martin]

No, I know.

[Tig Notaro]

I was going to say that one. Yeah, I was going to say, I think I saw. I didn't know that was Jodie Foster in there.

[May Martin]

Does she say, like, mom, this fraud is pretty freaky or something? Like, is that a good Jodie Foster?

[Tig Notaro]

Nah, Jodie came to come see me in the Good light screening.

[May Martin]

No way.

[Tig Notaro]

Oh, yeah, she was there.

[May Martin]

That's. Do you know her?

[Tig Notaro]

I mean, just. I don't know her. Well, I know her through. I've known her wife forever.

[May Martin]

Okay. Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah.

[May Martin]

We got to get Jody to ask a question.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah. I wonder if she would. She doesn't strike me as somebody that.

[May Martin]

She'S like, I have all the answers. I don't need to ask any questions.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, I do. I. I mean, who knows? Maybe she'd be like, yeah, I'll do your circus of a show. But she's so cool. Yeah. Really nice person.

[May Martin]

You've seen the Songs of the Lambs?

[Tig Notaro]

I haven't really. I mean, I promise I haven't.

[May Martin]

I believe you. I just always think about this one scene where she shows up at Buffalo Bill's house and she has no idea that he's the killer. And he invites her in, and the girl's in the basement and she has no idea. And just slowly in the kitchen, standing, talking. Jodie Foster and Buffalo Bill, like, she realizes it's him. He realizes that she knows it's him. And it's like the tensest scene and then it all explodes. It goes crazy.

[Tig Notaro]

Does it make you a little nervous?

[May Martin]

I guess it's making me nervous now, talking about it.

[Tig Notaro]

I remember my first girlfriend went and saw that movie and she came over. I don't know who I was house sitting for, but she came over to stay with me for the weekend and she had just seen the movie and she was freaked out and I had no idea what the movie was about or anything. And I just remember the whole night being like, here come the lambs.

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[Tig Notaro]

Here come the lambs. Shut up. And I was like, careful, there's a lamb behind the door.

[May Martin]

Oh, my God, I wish it was about lambs. How are you, Tig?

[Tig Notaro]

Oh, thank you for asking me. I'm doing well.

[May Martin]

I know you're in Toronto, and behind you, framed. Is that like art of an old bill of Canadian money?

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, 10, 10, $10.

[May Martin]

That brings back. That's like what money was like when I was a kid. And then they turned it all into these weird plastic bills. Like, plastic. But oh, man.

[Tig Notaro]

What? Those are terrible. I'm sorry, Canada. I don't like your plasticky bills.

[May Martin]

No, I understand.

[Tig Notaro]

They're not. You can't rip them and all that kind of stuff. But like.

[May Martin]

Yeah, oh, well, I know. I got a. I got some change the other day, a bunch of $1 bills here. And then someone had written like, like Annabelle on. On one of the Bills. And I thought, how come that seems like something I would love to do? Write little messages on all the money. And then because it gets circulated out.

[Tig Notaro]

Back into the world, they didn't write Anna Bill.

[May Martin]

Oh, my Lord. And that's. That's why they pay you the big bucks.

[Tig Notaro]

I have done it again. Speaking of writing on bills.

[May Martin]

Uh huh.

[Tig Notaro]

I did a show the other night with a magician.

[May Martin]

No.

[Tig Notaro]

Okay. You don't want to hear the story.

[May Martin]

I love magic. And was this magician fucking amazing?

[Tig Notaro]

May. May.

[May Martin]

I'm delighted.

[Tig Notaro]

Okay. So Stephanie and I are sitting backstage at my show.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

And it's this charity event. There's a magician. And of course it's like. It's a real crapshoot with a magician.

[May Martin]

You never know.

[Tig Notaro]

He's like, okay, I'm gonna hand. He's sitting on one side of the table, we're sitting on the other. He said, I'm gonna hand you or no. He said, pick a. You know, classic. Pick a card. Any card. Yeah, I pick a card. He said, okay, here is a marker, permanent marker. Sign your name on the card. I was like, all right. He said, now this is insane.

[May Martin]

Oh my God.

[Tig Notaro]

He said, all right, put it back in the stack.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

I was like, great. He shuffles it. He's like, all right, now that wallet that's sitting in the middle of the table.

[May Martin]

No.

[Tig Notaro]

I was like, yeah. And he said, you haven't touched it. Neither of you have touched it, right? I said, right. Like, I didn't even notice the. Yeah, I saw it, but I didn't pay any attention to it. He's like, and I didn't touch it. Right? I was like, right? He's like, okay, you want to open it? So I open. It has two snaps on it. And behind, you know where you put your license in a. Where there's a plastic cover. You put your license in there. My card was in there, signed.

[May Martin]

No.

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[Tig Notaro]

I. I was like, I am so sick and tired of your. I. I need you to step away from me, sir. Oh, my God, I could not believe. And then he told Stephanie to pick a card, which she did. He said, what was your card? And she was like, you know, an 8 of diamonds or whatever. And he was like, are you more partial to the diamond or the eight?

[May Martin]

Interesting.

[Tig Notaro]

And she was like, the diamond. And he was like, okay. And then he goes. And then she said, no, the eight. I want you both, May and Thomas to look at me when I tell you this. We were sitting on the other side of the table from him and she. He said, look at your hand.

[May Martin]

Her physical hand.

[Tig Notaro]

Yes.

[May Martin]

I have goosebumps right now. You can't.

[Tig Notaro]

If you could see there was, with that permanent marker, an 8 written on the inside of her hand.

[May Martin]

What?

[Tig Notaro]

It was all of this all night long.

[May Martin]

Oh, my.

[Tig Notaro]

That's why I kept yelling at him. I am sick and tired of your bullshit.

[May Martin]

Oh, my God.

[Tig Notaro]

May he. Your brain would ooze out of your ears. This man. This man.

[May Martin]

But also the fact that Stephanie pivoted. She went diamond.

[Tig Notaro]

Actually, eight.

[May Martin]

Oh, my fucking God. Also, okay. Because the card thing, I'm like, did he know your signature? And he'd put it there before. But how would he know what card you chose? This is too powerful and dangerous.

[Tig Notaro]

Exactly my point. He needs to be arrested.

[May Martin]

Yeah. Holy shit.

[Tig Notaro]

One of the best magicians I've ever seen in my life.

[May Martin]

You gotta give me the name, and I'm gonna. I'm gonna look this guy up.

[Tig Notaro]

Magic Mike. No.

[May Martin]

Imagine how powerful you'd feel, but also the pressure if you get it slightly wrong in front of all those people. Oh, wow. Well, I can't believe, like, you just telling me about it felt. I felt like I was being astonished by magic.

[Tig Notaro]

He's. He's mind blowing. I think I'm gonna have him do one of my Largo shows.

[May Martin]

Yeah, you have to.

[Tig Notaro]

Well, should we get in, into our questions, see what people have to.

[May Martin]

What would you do if it was from the magician and he's.

[Tig Notaro]

I wouldn't doubt it. I would not doubt it. If I walked into my closet or bedroom here in Toronto, and then he's there.

[May Martin]

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[Tig Notaro]

Well, hit us, Thomas. Who do we got?

[Clara from Brazil]

Hi, handsome. This is Clara from Brazil. And this is a question for the day when May is around, because it involves games. So the game I want to propose is that you tell your life story in one minute. So you've got to time yourselves one minute, and you tell your life story.

[May Martin]

Wow. Okay. I like it. Should we do it?

[Allstate Ad Voice]

Sure.

[Tig Notaro]

You go first.

[May Martin]

Okay. You got a timer, Thomas, you tell me when. Oh, my God.

[Tig Notaro]

And maybe do a Countdown 5 for it with your fingers. When. When it's getting thin. And then we'll have to cram in the end.

[May Martin]

Yeah. Okay.

[Unknown Assistant or Tech]

I'll put it on screen so you can see it and it'll go off.

[Tig Notaro]

Okay.

[Unknown Assistant or Tech]

So tell me when you're ready, May.

[May Martin]

Okay, I'm ready now. Okay.

[Unknown Assistant or Tech]

Yeah.

[May Martin]

1987, I was born. My name is May Martin. I was born to Wendy and James in Scarborough General Hospital. I was so premature, and then I grew up a very needy child, but confused. And then I went to school, dropped out of school, got loved doing drugs, then kicked out of my house, then moved to England. I had got engaged once, then also got engaged a second time, but then also generally happy doing comedy. What? Never had any dogs that I owned. Happening, got tattoos, allergic to coconut, did a podcast called Handsome. Wait, I'm done. And I got 25 seconds left. I go into shiatsu massage school, got a diploma. That was back in the day. And then now I am living in the house and my friends are around. And there were moments in life that were hard. Overall, things always work out for the best. And I believe in the. In Mother Nature to see me through. Wow.

[Tig Notaro]

What a life. What a life.

[May Martin]

That was really depressing that I only needed 40 seconds and then I was struggling to fill the last 20.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, that's good, though.

[May Martin]

Think about all the moments in between that I've lost. I just.

[Tig Notaro]

Nothing happened in between those moments. That was it. You've lived 40 seconds.

[May Martin]

Oh, man. God. Our little personal stories. Do you want to do yours, Ting?

[Unknown Guest or Announcer]

Yeah.

[May Martin]

Thank you. Great.

[Unknown Assistant or Tech]

All right. One, two, three, go on.

[Tig Notaro]

March 24, 1971, Matteel O' Callaghan Notaro was born. Did I say Jackson, Mississippi? That's where I was born. And then my parents split up and I moved with my mother and my brother down to Pascharsham, Mississippi, where we lived until my mother and stepfather met and got married and moved us to Texas, where I wet my pants until way too long and had a greasy bull haircut. Was still popular, though, very well liked. I was smoking the whole time, sitting in trees and what have you, and skateboarding around the neighborhood. We had 12 cats and a dog, and I failed every grade I ever touched. We lived in New Jersey for a couple of years. I dropped out of high school, moved to Colorado.

[May Martin]

10 seconds left.

[Tig Notaro]

Life of my own out there. Met my first girlfriend, came out of the closet. And moved to Los Angeles with my childhood friends and got into stand up, met Stephanie and had Max and Finn. Whoa.

[May Martin]

See, that was good.

[Tig Notaro]

Also, I had cancer.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Allstate Ad Voice]

Yeah.

[May Martin]

Wait, we missed. We missed some big chunks.

[Tig Notaro]

Read my book. It's called I'm Just a Person. That was fun. Thank you so much. Clara.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

No answer from her. From Brazil, right?

[May Martin]

Yeah. But I would like to hear her minute long life story. That would be good.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah. Why didn't she give that to us?

[May Martin]

That's a good game, though. That's like when you meet people for the first time. That's a good game to play.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, that's really good.

[May Martin]

Yeah. Um, yeah. What else? Who else have we got?

[Tig Notaro]

What else?

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[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Allstate Ad Voice]

Next up.

[Steph from Vermont]

Hey, handsome. Steph from Vermont. I'm curious about traditions. They could be holiday related or anything. Your families have traditionally done that maybe they hope to hand down through future generations.

[May Martin]

I'm big on traditions. And then my mom's always trying to scramble them up and do something different and. Which I also admire as a quality. But I really like your classic Christmas meal. And my mom's often like, this year we're having elk sausages and bok choy, and you're like, oh, okay. But one tradition is we play poker and. And drink wine.

[Tig Notaro]

That's always your whole family, all four of you.

[May Martin]

Yeah. Yeah. And then there's always the. The tradition that my dad has of if you see the new moon through glass, then you have to go outside with a coin in your hand, bow to the moon three times, say, good evening, lady moon, and turn the coin over in your hand.

[Tig Notaro]

Now that is a very, I don't know, pagan. No, it reminds me of Ozzy Osbourne's song, Bark at the Moon. You said bow to the moon.

[May Martin]

Yeah. Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

Do you know Bark at the Moon, Ozzy's song?

[May Martin]

I know that phrase, but no, I don't know it.

[Tig Notaro]

It's just funny to think of him singing bow to the moon and like, with his crazy Ozzy. Bow to the moon.

[May Martin]

Yeah, A lot of that comes. My grandma had a lot of strange traditions and superstitions and stuff that my dad has passed on. What about you?

[Tig Notaro]

We have a lot of traditions and Max and Finn love traditions.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

I think it makes.

[May Martin]

It helps the world make sense to kids.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah. And it just creates comfort and safety feel. And there's so many. Finn is so sentimental and there's so many times that he's like, I'm gonna do this with my kids. And when I'm a dad, he is a dad already. Huh?

[May Martin]

He has such dad energy already.

[Tig Notaro]

I can't think of specific things that. I mean, I know I've talked about this before, but, like, on Christmas Eve, we have vegan gumbo, and then we have it for the days following. And I've mentioned that Nana comes in town and we have our little tree trimming party with her where we get the tree ready and put on some tunes and have our oat nog and what have you.

[May Martin]

It's just little, like, your tidbits are almost traditions. It's like little turns of phrase that you say as a family. You know what I mean? In my family, if you ever say, like, I used to say, I'm going to go outside. And my dad would say, who's Ina? Or, like, if I said, surely not, he'd say, don't call me Shirley.

[Tig Notaro]

Oh, yes, yes. Did you ever see the airplane movie?

[May Martin]

Yes. Yes.

[Tig Notaro]

So good. Yeah, I'm forgetting her name. Who is so funny from the airplane movies. And I saw her at the airport, and I was in a movie with her, but before I was in a movie with her, I was like, oh, my gosh, I can't believe I'm seeing her at the airport. But of course. Oh, Julie Haggerty. That's her name. Before I was in that movie, I was thinking, oh, my gosh, I can't believe I'm seeing her at an airport. And then I thought, but, gosh, anytime she's at an airport, people can't believe they're seeing her at an airport.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

And she also feels like she could play Maria Bamford's mother.

[May Martin]

Oh, really? Okay, yeah, I know exactly the type then.

[Unknown Guest or Announcer]

Yes, yes.

[Tig Notaro]

But, yeah, I think we have just traditions. Even just little things. Like after Max and Finn's practices, basketball, baseball, they like to go to this place called Burger Lounge that has a really good vegan burger. And that's just kind of a little thing that we do.

[May Martin]

Yeah. Nice. Should we hear Steph's answer?

[Tig Notaro]

Let's do it.

[Steph from Vermont]

Given the timing, I will share a holiday one. Around the time that I was born, we were renovating my old family farmhouse when my grandmother came upon a lump of coal. Without telling anyone, she wrapped it along with a bunch of other, like, gag gifts, and she distributed all of them to everyone. On Christmas Eve at the family dinner, she set out all these rules about how many swaps you could do before you open your mystery gift. But then whoever ultimately unwrapped the coal had to do the job the following year. Tig, when I hear you talk about your mom. I often hear the spirit of my grandmother in your stories. Thank you so much for your joyful contributions to our world. Our family's navigating some challenging stuff right now in your episodes. Lift me up twice a week. Something I'm really grateful for.

[Tig Notaro]

Oh, my gosh.

[May Martin]

Steph. Steph. I love that.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah. That was so touching and meaningful and. Yeah. I'm sorry to hear you're going through a tough spot.

[May Martin]

Yeah. Glad we can brighten it up a bit.

[Tig Notaro]

Hang in there, kid.

[May Martin]

Yeah. Oh, God. Well, holiday season's tough for a lot of people, but also you find your little bits of magic. I can't get over that. I'm going to Google that magician right away.

[Tig Notaro]

I'll get you his name, please. He's really something.

[May Martin]

And this was lovely. And please keep submitting your Questions go to speakpipe.com handsomepod Also, don't forget we have a live streaming Holly Bob's show this Monday, December 22nd. It's so rare. The three of us can all get together and we're gonna party and have the best time. So go to the ticket link in our social media bio or dynastytypewriter.com to.

[Tig Notaro]

Get your ticket and be prepared to see me crunk.

[May Martin]

Yes.

[Tig Notaro]

Oh, my girl, I am gonna be cr.

[May Martin]

Yes. I'm gonna bring some, like, sweet liqueur, some Christmassy liqueur.

[Tig Notaro]

Love it.

[May Martin]

And until next time, keep it pretty, pretty handsome. Handsome is hosted by me, May Martin, Tig Notaro and Fortune Feimster. The show is produced, recorded and edited by Thomas Willette. Email [e-mail] and please follow us on social media. Ansomepod what a podcast.

[Clara from Brazil]

What a podcast.

[May Martin]

That was a hitgam podcast.

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