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Tig Notaro
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Fortune Feimster
Friends on the Handsome Pod Chatting with friends on the Handsome Pod Pretty little episode. Woo. Welcome to the Handsome Pods. Preload episode. I'm Fortune Feamster.
Tig Notaro
I'm Tig Notaro.
Fortune Feimster
And we're feeling warm and cozy. Yeah.
Tig Notaro
Together.
Fortune Feimster
Together.
Tig Notaro
Warm and cozy.
Fortune Feimster
We put up a video over the holidays where you were kissing on us and everyone was like, all the. The romance and chemistry is really coming through here.
Tig Notaro
I don't know how to be sandwiched between May Martin and Fortune Feimster. Kiss all over you. I'm doing it for our fan base. I know they're all feeling it. They're all thinking it.
Fortune Feimster
You just.
Tig Notaro
I'm gonna do it.
Fortune Feimster
You can't control yourself around us.
Tig Notaro
I. I can, but I'm. And I'm doing it for the love of our listeners because you know that they're like, if. If I was there, I'd be kissing on them. So I'm just like, all right, I'll do it for you.
Fortune Feimster
Well, you've created a real will they, won't they moment on the pod, you know?
Tig Notaro
And. And that's between all three of us. Yeah. Or will they?
Fortune Feimster
Won't they?
Tig Notaro
Huh? What do you think's gonna happen? Do you think we will, or do.
Fortune Feimster
You think we won't? I think that's what we keep. Keep it stringing along.
Tig Notaro
Yeah. So people keep listening. So they. Because they don't know, am I going to leave Stephanie for Fortune?
Fortune Feimster
Never, ever, ever.
Tig Notaro
Oh, I never noticed your accent.
Fortune Feimster
Never ever. How long have y' all been together now?
Tig Notaro
13 years.
Fortune Feimster
Wow.
Tig Notaro
Yeah. What would you have guessed?
Fortune Feimster
I thought it was somewhere around, like, 12, but. Yeah.
Tig Notaro
I can't believe you're keeping up with that.
Fortune Feimster
I know. Well, it's because I knew you both when y' all got together.
Tig Notaro
Yeah. I'll be honest. This February is 13 years.
Fortune Feimster
Okay.
Tig Notaro
Yeah.
Fortune Feimster
Well, you're right. We're right there.
Tig Notaro
Yeah.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah. Is it Valentine's? It is.
Tig Notaro
It's exactly Valentine's Day.
Fortune Feimster
It is. Y' all smooched on Valentine's.
Tig Notaro
That's when it happened.
Fortune Feimster
That's romantic.
Tig Notaro
And it wasn't even planned. People roll their eyes and they're like, oh, yeah, right. Yeah. You didn't plan. We truly didn't we? Didn't we? There was no plan.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah.
Tig Notaro
I just met up with her that night, and now here we are 13 years later with two kids, three cats, and a production company.
Fortune Feimster
Well, you smooched that night, freaked out, and then you gave her. She gave you the letter, the email, and you said, okay, dyke. Which was an infamous part of your love story.
Tig Notaro
It is. Yes, we. We smooched. And then her email was 43, 000 pages telling me she could not date me, that she's not gay.
Fortune Feimster
I would love to just picture her writing that. I wonder how long it took her.
Tig Notaro
And not wanting to, like, hurt my feelings and be, like, you know, complimentary about how fun it is to hang out. And. And then, you know, of course, I was so bummed because I really thought, wow, I can see a future with this person. And then, yes, I wrote in response to her email, I wrote, okay, dyke.
Fortune Feimster
And you did read the whole thing?
Tig Notaro
Oh, yeah, yeah. And I remember sitting there feeling bummed. I was like, God. But I was like, yeah, well, obviously I can't pursue this.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah.
Tig Notaro
I gotta let it go. So, yeah, leave it on a funny note. And I had no idea that funny note was gonna be what made her. Yeah, she was like, ah, I like her.
Fortune Feimster
I know. I had. I had a number of those back in the day where I liked somebody and, like, throw it out there. And I got the big fat no.
Tig Notaro
And you didn't respond with, okay, dyke.
Fortune Feimster
No. I think I was like, cool, cool, cool.
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Fortune Feimster
All right, well, all right.
Tig Notaro
So when you throw it out there, do you throw it out there with some flirting or do you throw it out there with a little bouquet of flowers delivered to someone. Door. Someone's door. And saying, I've had my eye on you.
Fortune Feimster
Well, this was a long time ago. I mean, someone would be crazy to turn me down now.
Tig Notaro
Of course.
Fortune Feimster
Of course.
Tig Notaro
Everyone relax. Fortune was just kidding.
Fortune Feimster
I'm kidding.
Tig Notaro
Of course they'd be crazy to turn you down. You're a catch. I stand by this.
Fortune Feimster
But back in the day, I was not as much. I was not a catch. I was kind of awkward because I came out late. So it was, you know, I just didn't know how to. I wasn't very smooth, and I probably had a little bit of desperation dripping off of me. Like, please go on a date with.
Tig Notaro
Me if not saying that out loud the whole time.
Fortune Feimster
No.
Joyce
Right.
Fortune Feimster
I think I would. From what I remember, I would hang out with the person quite a bit and get to know them, and I felt like I was being flirty, but it was. I was always confused because people wanted to be my friend and they wanted to hang out with me, but I didn't know if it was ever more. And it would get to the point where I had developed such a crush that I would. I couldn't, like, hold it in anymore. And I would just. I think I would call and be like, hey, any chance I could take you out on an actual date? And I don't. And every now and then I got a yes, and then sometimes I would get a no. I just want to be friends. And that was always a bummer, which.
Tig Notaro
That happened between us.
Fortune Feimster
I know.
Tig Notaro
Yeah. When you asked me out.
Fortune Feimster
We were not each other's types.
Tig Notaro
People are going to hear that and believe it. That never happened.
Fortune Feimster
That never happened. Take it. Take. And I never went on a date, nor asked each other on a date.
Tig Notaro
No.
Fortune Feimster
But we did have dinner with a friend of ours that was not a date. What? Remember Jamie Babbitt?
Tig Notaro
Oh, right, yeah. And Carrie was there. Dornetta. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Fortune Feimster
She. Because I think we talked about the pot a long time ago. Jamie wrote because we were like, was she trying to set us up? And she wrote, I was not. I just wanted my funny friends to meet each other.
Tig Notaro
Yeah.
Fortune Feimster
But I didn't think it was.
Tig Notaro
We had already met, though. But she wanted us to spend time and become friends. Start a podcast. A decade later, she's like, one day.
Fortune Feimster
10 years from now, you'll start a podcast.
Tig Notaro
Yeah. I haven't seen Jamie in a while. Have you?
Fortune Feimster
I haven't in a minute. No. But it was funny when she texted me after that episode, being like, I was not setting y' all up. I was like, I know, I know.
Tig Notaro
That's funny.
Fortune Feimster
And here we are. Here we are, about to answer some questions from our lovely listeners.
Tig Notaro
Let's do it. Let's get into it. Why would we wait any longer?
Fortune Feimster
Just don't wait.
Tig Notaro
Let's stop waiting. Thomas.
Kristin
Hi, handsomepod. My name is Kristin and I live in Baltimore. My question is, are there two people in the entertainment world who you would like to see do a collaboration? Maybe two singers who you think should do a duet together, or two actors who would make a great rom com? Just something that you think would be fun and interesting?
Tig Notaro
I know, right? Off the bat. What?
Fortune Feimster
Oh, yeah. What you got? Yes.
Tig Notaro
I want an album entirely.
Fortune Feimster
Huh?
Tig Notaro
12 tracks, if not more.
Fortune Feimster
Okay.
Tig Notaro
Of Paul Simon and Edie Burkel. Oh, yeah, yeah, that would be good.
Fortune Feimster
They've never done that.
Tig Notaro
I think they've, like, for a long time. I mean, they've performed together and, and, and he produced her solo album and. But she had mentioned something recently to me about them performing or doing something together, and I was like, I, I. That's all anybody wants on this planet is Paul and Edie doing a full album of duets.
Fortune Feimster
That would be cool.
Tig Notaro
Whatever, Whatever.
Fortune Feimster
You. Yeah.
Tig Notaro
Not. Not just like backup vocals. Not just every other song. Like a whole album. Give it to us.
Fortune Feimster
Give it. Let's see. I would like to see Will Ferrell and Kristen Wiig do like a limited series podcast together. Oh, they're so funny. I think about them. They've given out awards together a couple times. They did this one where they did this like, you get out of here. It's this whole bit that was like, so funny. Just like little things like that that they do together crack me up.
Tig Notaro
Yeah. So I'd like their ultimate silliness.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah. I like Silly people together.
Tig Notaro
What if they were like, we're not gonna do that, but what we can do is a duet album.
Fortune Feimster
I would love that too. That would. They did a Lifetime movie together.
Tig Notaro
They did.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah. And it was. And they. But they did it like, serious. Like, they were, like, not making fun of Lifetime movies. They're like, we want to do a Lifetime movie.
Tig Notaro
That is amazing.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah. So I want more from them. I want to see. They're already kind of a duo at times, but I want to see Tina Fey and Amy Poehler host an award show again together. But musically, I can't think of who I would want to sing together.
Tig Notaro
How about Paul Simon and Edie Brickell?
Fortune Feimster
Let's go with that one.
Tig Notaro
All right.
Fortune Feimster
Did Kristin tell us who she was?
Tig Notaro
I bet it's Edie Brickell and Paul Simon.
Kristin
For me, my answer is, whenever I see the comedian Dimitri Martin, I always think of Kate Micucci. And every time you guys mention Kate Micucci, for some reason, I think of Dimitri Martin. And I know that their energies are pretty different, but they live in the same place in my brain. And I would just love to see what those two crazy kids would come up with if they did a collaboration. I think it would be really fun and interesting. They're both so multi hyphenate talents, and that's my answer. Thanks. I love your podcast.
Fortune Feimster
I could, I could See that, actually.
Tig Notaro
Yeah. Yeah, for sure. They're. They have. I don't know if this. I mean, is the word quirky. Right? I mean, I feel like that's kind of not really giving them the credit that they deserve.
Fortune Feimster
But they.
Tig Notaro
They have. They're not. Even though they've broken through in mainstream ways, they're like. They have such different ways of thinking about things and approaching things. Yeah, that would be interesting.
Fortune Feimster
And they're both brunette. What a lovely cover that would be. Yeah. Kind of.
Tig Notaro
Both have bowl haircuts.
Fortune Feimster
It's perfect.
Tig Notaro
They're both artists. Yeah.
Fortune Feimster
And it's called My Coochie. No. Oh, wait. Dimitri me coochie.
Tig Notaro
How about Dem Coochie's?
Fortune Feimster
There you go.
Tig Notaro
Tig Marie.
Fortune Feimster
That's it. That's it. Tig Marie.
Tig Notaro
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Tig Notaro
All right, what. What else we got? Mr. Thomas?
Nick
Hi, Hansens. My name is Nick. I live in the UK and I have a question for tig. So I work at a university and I teach film history and film and media, the theory. And this year I'm teaching a class all about emotion in film and how different types of films evoke different kind of physical or emotional responses in their audiences. And one of the topics is documentary films. And this year I decided to screen Come See Me in the Good Light to my students. And I was wondering, what kind of discussion questions do you think you would want the students to be asked once they've seen the film? You know, what kind of discussions do you think they should be having? What kind of conversations do you think would be the most useful? Or do you kind of envision as being the perfect response to the film? Okay, thank you.
Tig Notaro
Bye, Nick. Thank you. That means a lot. And I'm so thankful that the movie spoke to you. You know what I'm really interested in? Just the idea of death and your own death. And what are you. I mean, obviously some people don't have the. The lead up or knowledge that they're going to be dying. But I think that before Andrea's Death. And before this documentary I did not think much about my own death and what I wanted. And having been at end of life bedsides before Andrea, I was at three other ones. And what I really noticed was that the conversation wasn't very open. There was a lot of like.
Fortune Feimster
Look.
Tig Notaro
You can't avoid sadness and fear and dread and all of this stuff and regret and whatever it is. But I really would be curious to hear people in your class, Nick, talk about or explore the idea of what they want in the final days and the time of their death. If they have that luxury of planning and preparing, which you know to some degree everyone can have that if they get started. And it. And it's made me realize and I have been introducing it more to Max and Finn and I'm trying to not present death as like this horrendous, terrible thing. And of course it is. It's so sad and emotional, but it can be beautiful and it can be life changing in this bold, exciting way if you embrace it. And of course I know death is so different with every person, family, illness and end of life. But that is what Andrea's death in this movie has done to me is it's made me change my idea and it's made me not look at it like something to just ignore, push away and dread until it's coming and then it happens and then it's devastating and, and of course that can still happen when it's when it's when, when you're planning and you're keeping the conversation open. But that, that's if I, I don't know, I'm. I feel like I'm talking in circles. But does that make sense?
Fortune Feimster
Totally makes sense. Yeah. Those are important conversations to have too, especially it is.
Tig Notaro
But to really actually have them. Yeah. And, and yeah. And there's.
Fortune Feimster
Act like it doesn't. Isn't going to happen one day.
Tig Notaro
Yeah. And I was at a Christmas, a friend's Christmas dinner and two of my friends, friends I didn't know. I, I know them and I see them regularly at her house. But I didn't know that these two women have been getting certified as death doulas. And it just like changed our conversation. We've had such casual conversations together when we see one another. Oh my gosh, was it different? And now we have these follow up texts and now we're gonna meet and talk more about death and their certification or whatever they're studying to become death doulas. And I'm just so fascinated because I think it can be A positive thing. If you're, if you're open to positive. I mean, of course it's crazy to say that.
Fortune Feimster
Well, gaining stuff from it, you know, knowledge.
Tig Notaro
Just being open.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah.
Tig Notaro
Yeah. Anyway, that's just where I am. And I would be so interested to hear students talk about that. Yeah, that's great. Yeah. Anyway, that's, that's my answer.
Fortune Feimster
Nick, should we do one quick, quick question?
Tig Notaro
Quick, quick, quick, quick, quick, quick, quick, quick.
Joyce
Hey, handsomes. This is Joyce from Fort Smith, Arkansas. And my question for you today is, are you afraid of clowns or do you find them creepy? I think the general consensus is yes, when you ask most people. But I want to know your thoughts, your way in, why or why not?
Fortune Feimster
I've never had that thing. You know, some people like think they're the creepiest and so scary. I mean, obviously like a movie like it, they're meant to be the villain and creepy so that they're leaning into that. But they've never been a source of weirdness for me.
Tig Notaro
Famesies.
Fortune Feimster
Right. I mean, I, I understand like it can lend itself to creepiness with the clown music and stuff.
Tig Notaro
But yeah, I just, I, I, when people are like, oh my God, clowns are so creepy, I'm like, sure, yeah.
Fortune Feimster
There's much creepier things in my opinion.
Tig Notaro
I know. I just, I'm like, okay, that like I'm clearly missing something.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah.
Tig Notaro
That. It's not like I want to go to a clown conference. And no offense to the clowns listening, but.
Fortune Feimster
And do your.
Tig Notaro
There you go, the clown horn. Yeah. Do you want to do it Fortuna?
Fortune Feimster
I can't do it.
Tig Notaro
No, you can't. Thomas. That's pretty good fortune. Want to try again? No.
Fortune Feimster
No.
Tig Notaro
All right. Well, that was a fun.
Fortune Feimster
I can't be great at everything.
Tig Notaro
No, it's impossible. Does Joyce have an answer?
Fortune Feimster
Yeah. Does Joyce, does Joyce think clowns are creepy?
Tig Notaro
Do you think Joyce is gonna think so?
Fortune Feimster
I, I, I'm gonna assume she thinks they're creepy. For her to have asked this question.
Tig Notaro
I'm gonna say she doesn't.
Fortune Feimster
Okay. Yeah.
Joyce
My answer to that question is no. And my why is because as a kid my mom was a clown. She was, she had some odd jobs. She's a hairdresser. And on the side you could hire her to do your kids birthday party. And she would dress up as sometimes a character, but most of the time it was as a clown. She did balloon animals and all that. It was really fun. My dad's also a stand up comedian, so we had a pretty Eccentric childhood. Me and my sisters with a comedian dad and a clown mom. So wow. Yeah. Can't wait to hear your answer.
Fortune Feimster
That's a fun. A fun house.
Tig Notaro
Yeah, literal fun house.
Fortune Feimster
So, yeah, she's used to clowns, so yeah. Not creepy there. Yeah, it's never, that's never been a thing that I've been like, oh my God, clowns are so creepy. Probably just because I like hearing that clown horn. You do.
Tig Notaro
All right, well, lovely.
Fortune Feimster
What an. Another great group of questions.
Tig Notaro
What an honor. What an honor. Yes. And you know, speaking of honors, it was a real honor and privilege to record this episode on my parents birthday.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah.
Tig Notaro
My mother and father born January 16th. So happy birthday.
Fortune Feimster
Here's to them. Tell me their names again.
Tig Notaro
Well, my mother's real name was Mattel, which is.
Fortune Feimster
That's right.
Tig Notaro
Yeah. But she went by Susie and then my father was a Pasquale.
Fortune Feimster
Pasquale.
Tig Notaro
He went by Pat though.
Fortune Feimster
I love it. What a name.
Tig Notaro
What a name.
Fortune Feimster
Well, here's to your parents.
Tig Notaro
Here's to them.
Fortune Feimster
We're grateful for them because we have.
Tig Notaro
You and iu and yes, thank you to our listeners. Check out our websites. I'm@tignotaro.com go to my. Go to my website and come to my shows same.
Fortune Feimster
And if you want to submit a question or ask us any Advice, go to speakpipe.com handsomepod and ask away.
Tig Notaro
And until next time, keep it. Keep it. Pretty Handsome.
Fortune Feimster
Pretty Handsome.
Tig Notaro
Itty Handsome.
Fortune Feimster
Pretty Itty Handsome.
Tig Notaro
Itty bitty Handsome is hosted by me, Tig Notaro, Mae Martin and Fortune theme ster. The show is produced, recorded and edited by Thomas Willette. Email us@handsomepodmail.com Follow us on social media. Ansomepod what a podcast.
Fortune Feimster
What a podcast.
Tig Notaro
That was a headgum podcast.
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Tig Notaro
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In this episode of the "Handsome" podcast, hosts Tig Notaro and Fortune Feimster (Mae Martin is absent) create their signature cozy, comical atmosphere while answering a variety of listener questions. Highlights include stories about Tig’s relationship and origin story with her wife, playful speculation about romantic chemistry among the hosts, dream celebrity collaborations, thoughtful discussion on mortality and end-of-life conversations, and a lighthearted take on clown phobia. They also share personal anecdotes, riff off each other's jokes, and celebrate Tig's parents' birthdays.
Kristin from Baltimore asks: Who would you like to see collaborate in entertainment?
Nick from the UK asks Tig: What discussions should students have after watching your documentary?
Joyce from Arkansas asks: Are you afraid of clowns? Why or why not?
The episode is lighthearted and playful, balancing silly banter, candid storytelling, fan interactions, and unexpectedly poignant reflections—with Tig’s dry wit and Fortune’s warm humor shaping the flow. Even the heavier discussion on mortality feels accessible and grounded, true to the hosts’ comedic style.
This episode provides a quintessential taste of what makes "Handsome" unique: close friendship, comedy, relatable vulnerability, and a welcoming space for listeners' questions—seamlessly blending humor and genuine heart.