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May Martin
This is a Headgun podcast.
Fortune Feimster
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Tig Notaro
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May Martin
Friends on the handsome Pot Chatting with friends on the handsome Pretty Little episode.
Tig Notaro
Welcome to the pretty Little episode. It's me, your friend, Tig Notaro, sitting.
May Martin
Here with May Martin.
Tig Notaro
Yes.
May Martin
Yes, it is.
Tig Notaro
Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes. May. Tig, how is your driving obsession? When do you leave for tour?
May Martin
Oh, my God.
Tig Notaro
Do you have any romantic updates? Just give me everything.
May Martin
Girl, Girl, I've been driving around the town today. I went and drove.
Tig Notaro
Picking up chicks.
May Martin
Picking up chicks everywhere. Yeah, I. I got a coffee today. Drove, drove, parked there. Drove right up onto the curb. I was trying to park, like, full.
Tig Notaro
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
May Martin
But that's going well.
Tig Notaro
Did you yell, I'm new here. New here out of the window?
May Martin
No, I haven't. Haven't yelled anything out a window yet.
Tig Notaro
It's new for me. Have I? Well, I think I told you I used to do pranks where I would, like, pull up to cool hot spots where people were eating outside.
May Martin
No.
Tig Notaro
And I would have all my windows down, and I would act like it, and I'd play a really cheesy song, and I'd take, like, 10 million attempts at parallel parking with my windows down.
May Martin
Just to entertain yourself.
Tig Notaro
Yeah, well, I'd. Often times I'd have a friend, like, hidden in the back seat really low down, and then I would act like I can't get my car into the spot, and then we just drive away. But, like, you know that song All By Myself?
May Martin
Yeah, yeah.
Tig Notaro
That kind of thing.
May Martin
Oh, my God, that's good.
Tig Notaro
Yeah, just silly stuff.
May Martin
I wish more, like, big celebrities pranked. Like, that would be so funny if someone purposefully did something that would attract, like, people to film it and paparazzi. And it was.
Tig Notaro
Now for you to say you wish more big celebrities, that implies that you think I'm a big celebrity. And you.
May Martin
You did this, like, before you were recognizable or recently.
Tig Notaro
Yeah, yeah, it was before I was recognizable.
May Martin
Like, I think you should do it now. I think you should pull up to somewhere, you know, there's going to be paparazzi and take 20 minutes to park while playing all by myself, I guess.
Tig Notaro
But I guess I need you to. Yes or no? Do you think I'm a big celebrity?
May Martin
Huge.
Tig Notaro
Yeah. That's sarcastic.
May Martin
No, I think it's. I think it's true. I know I don't know a single person who. Who doesn't know you, actually. Well, I take that back.
Tig Notaro
Yeah, yeah, yeah. I think it would kind of be not. Well, maybe it would be fun being if people recognize me, because you'd be.
May Martin
Doing it on purpose, like. Yeah.
Tig Notaro
And I was doing it on purpose back. Back in the day as well, but I just. Yeah, it's that kind of. I like to look like a fool.
May Martin
Yeah, I know. It's the best. It's the best.
Tig Notaro
It really is so fun.
May Martin
I played a game that I think you might like yesterday.
Tig Notaro
Hopscotch.
May Martin
Yeah. I thought Tig would love this hopscotch. So I saw it on some Instagram thing, and I. I got a group of people to do it, and I. Before they came over, I said, everyone, bring an object from your house. And it can be mundane, kind of funnier if it's, like, totally mundane or it could be bizarre. And then you stand in a circle and you all put a lot of water in your mouth, so you're like. Like that. And then one by one, you just slowly, without smiling or laughing, produce the object that you've brought and put it in the middle. And the goal is not to laugh and let the water out, and it just gets funny. Like, every object becomes hilarious to you. No. I saw it online somewhere and I wanted to try it, and it worked.
Tig Notaro
And it was like, I would enjoy.
May Martin
That you'd like it. And then the other version, what do people bring? They brought, like, because, you know, I'm.
Tig Notaro
Not crazy about games.
May Martin
Yes.
Tig Notaro
But that I can get on board with.
May Martin
Yes.
Tig Notaro
And I. You know, I used to do a podcast with some. Somebody who I don't do a podcast with anymore, and we used to stream episodes where we would, like, do shots and slap each other in the face and stuff.
May Martin
Yeah. Yeah.
Tig Notaro
Not very presidential. But anyway, what were you saying?
May Martin
That's the best. And the second round we did was everybody wrote down a word, any word on a piece of paper, and gave it to me. Then everyone puts water in their mouth, and I just slowly read through the words. So I'd go, your first word is fart. Your first word. F, A, R, T, fart. And then I would go through other words that people would Give me, like. Yeah. One was Winnetka, one was Humperdink. Like, it just. It was fun. I recommend it.
Tig Notaro
Humperdinck. What is his name?
May Martin
Engelbert Humperdink.
Tig Notaro
Yes. And do you know that's not his real name?
May Martin
Yeah. Yes.
Tig Notaro
What stage name?
May Martin
That seems backwards, right?
Tig Notaro
It really, really does.
May Martin
Yeah.
Tig Notaro
Engelbert Humperd.
May Martin
Yeah, it.
Tig Notaro
It feels like not the name that your record label would be like. We got it. We got it. Engelbert Humperdink.
May Martin
I think Elton John's real name is something really. It's like Reginald Dwight.
Tig Notaro
Yeah.
May Martin
Yeah. Well, maybe we should do that next time we're in the studio. We should do the water. No Laughing game.
Tig Notaro
Well, I thought you were gonna say, maybe we should come up with our stage names.
May Martin
Oh, what would yours be?
Tig Notaro
Hmm? You know, what was that name there was there one time Stephanie. I. I asked Stephanie. I was. I said, who is the actress on that one show? And maybe I've said it on the show, but. And Stephanie was like, I don't know what you're talking about. And I said, you know, the show. God, Daggett, I can't.
May Martin
Are you forgetting the name or the. No, you're forgetting all of it right now.
Tig Notaro
I'm forgetting all of it.
May Martin
Yeah.
Tig Notaro
I was asking what the actress's name was, and the show was not what I said, but the crazy leap that I called the show. Stephanie guessed the actual show name. Let me text her.
May Martin
Text her, text.
Tig Notaro
I have to know. It's. It is the weirdest name. I was like, with the show. It's called.
May Martin
I have one other game to suggest.
Tig Notaro
Okay.
May Martin
It's called the Grape Game. So I leave the room, I come back in, and you have to guess if there's a grape in my mouth or in one of my hands.
Tig Notaro
Oh, and did you see this online?
May Martin
Actually, we could play around now.
Tig Notaro
What if I don't have a grape in my office?
May Martin
No, I'll do it.
Tig Notaro
Oh, you have grapes?
May Martin
Yeah, I got them for the grape.
Tig Notaro
Game, but right now. Oh, you have to go to the kitchen.
May Martin
I'll go to the kitchen. I'll grab a grape. I'll come back in. It's either going to be in my mouth or in one of my hands. And I'll show you both hands.
Tig Notaro
Heard you the first time.
May Martin
Okay, I'll be right back. Okay, one sec.
Tig Notaro
Checking Allstate first could save you hundreds on car insurance. That's smart, not checking that. I took off my souvenir rodeo belt before going through airport security. Major error. In judgment. All that beeping is going to scare off the cattle.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah, checking first is smart. So check Allstate first for a quote that could save you hundreds. You're in good hands with Allstate. Potential savings vary, subject to terms, conditions, and availability. Allstate North American Insurance Company and affiliates, Northbrook, Illinois.
Tig Notaro
Oh, Mae's back. Maze back. Okay, let's see. I think you have a. I think you have a grape in your mouth.
May Martin
Yeah, I do.
Tig Notaro
You do?
May Martin
Yeah, Yeah, I do.
Tig Notaro
I'm pretty good at that.
May Martin
Yeah.
Fortune Feimster
Yeah.
May Martin
I mean, they gave it away that I was just going to.
Fortune Feimster
Hmm.
Tig Notaro
Well, I wondered if you were doing that to throw me off. But you didn't.
May Martin
I almost. I tried to double bluff you. Yeah.
Tig Notaro
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
May Martin
Did Stephanie write back?
Tig Notaro
No, but she's writing right now.
May Martin
Oh, I love that. Don't you?
Tig Notaro
Yeah.
May Martin
Dot, dot, dot.
Tig Notaro
Oh, no, no, no. She's writing.
May Martin
I thought you meant. You could see that she was.
Tig Notaro
Oh, but her. Dot, dot, dot just appeared. It is. No, she wrote Two and a Half Broke Girls, which I did accidentally say.
May Martin
You said Two and a Half Broke Girls?
Tig Notaro
Yeah. No, the. The other mishap. I'm sure she's like, yeah, which one?
May Martin
Should we get to a question?
Tig Notaro
Sure. Yeah, I think we should.
May Martin
What if the question from the listener was like, what's the name of that show? God can't. I don't know.
Tig Notaro
Ah, she's still writing.
May Martin
Okay, we should wipe this out.
Tig Notaro
Ah.
May Martin
Oh, she wrote.
Tig Notaro
Yeah, I think. Yes. I said, who is the actress from that show? And she's said, what show? And I said, what is it? Becky Pilgrims or something? And then Stephanie is like, the Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt. And I was like, yes, Becky Pilgrims.
May Martin
Pilgrims.
Tig Notaro
Pilgrim. Becky Pilgrims.
May Martin
And she guessed the unbreakable gimmick.
Tig Notaro
She guessed that. And we choked to death laughing. Becky Pilgrims. That is what my brain. The. The crunch those numbers and spread. Spit that out.
May Martin
Can we? On the main episode. We gotta tell Fortune that on the main episode, Becky Pilgrims is so good.
Fortune Feimster
Well.
Tig Notaro
And when we write little love notes to each other, we oftentimes sign it Becky Pilgrims. Yeah.
May Martin
It's a really great character name. Yeah.
Tig Notaro
It's such a good name. Becky Pilgrims. Yeah.
Jacqueline
I can't.
May Martin
She must. You're tapped into the same wavelength that she was able to deduce what you meant by that.
Tig Notaro
Yes. And she's like the Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt. Oh, my God. Yes. It's not Becky Pilgrim's at all. Anyway. Yeah. Should we get into our question?
May Martin
Let's do It.
Tig Notaro
Let's do it.
Jacqueline
Hi, handsome. Hi, May. Hi, Tig. Hi, Fortune. My name is Jacqueline. I'm from around outside the Boston area. So my question for you all is, it's about intimacy. And I am wondering what is the silliest moment you've had during an intimate moment?
Tig Notaro
Where to begin?
May Martin
I know. Infinite. The first one that came to mind was one that I've, I think, said on the podcast before, where I was dating a very lovely man for about six months in England, and he said, the next time we have sex, I'm gonna say a word, really unexpected word, during sex, and it's gonna make you laugh. And I completely forgot about it. Days went by, and then the next time we were having sex, like, at a really crucial moment where I was. It was like I was in it.
Tig Notaro
I was like, yeah, yeah.
May Martin
Completely serious, you know, earnest.
Tig Notaro
Yeah.
May Martin
And he goes, oh, my God, tell me I'm bonkers. Tell me I'm bonkers. I cried, laughing. I could not stop laughing.
Tig Notaro
That is really, really funny.
May Martin
Yeah. He was British, too.
Katie
Yeah.
May Martin
Tell me I'm bonkers. What else? I mean, any. Do you and Stephanie ever sort of. You're, like, semi joking, doing some characters or role play.
Katie
Ish.
May Martin
And it's, like, kind of horny, but also mainly funny. And then you. You know what I mean? I'm thinking about the pirate queen that Parv used to do.
Tig Notaro
The pirate queen?
May Martin
Yeah. I was the cabin boy, and she was the pirate queen.
Tig Notaro
Oh, you shared this.
May Martin
Yeah.
Tig Notaro
Yeah, yeah. Yes, yes, yes.
May Martin
That was a lot of laughing.
Tig Notaro
I would say. I've done this a couple of times where I've been. This is way younger years, you know, I have germ issues. Would never do this again. I was making out. I think I've done it a couple times with a girl in the bathroom. Public bathroom and that. Yeah. Real hot in a stall.
May Martin
Yeah.
Tig Notaro
And then looked down and the toilet hadn't been flushed. And then I said, oh, you're in love. Meaning urine.
May Martin
That's pretty good. That's urine.
Tig Notaro
Love.
May Martin
Did she get it right away?
Tig Notaro
Yeah, yeah. Well, I pointed. I go, oh, you're in love.
May Martin
That's good. I like that.
Tig Notaro
That's silly. That's silly.
May Martin
Yeah. Should we hear Jacqueline's answer?
Tig Notaro
Yeah, let's hear it.
Jacqueline
All right, so my answer is, the other day, I was fooling around with my partner, and I know Jacqueline Marie. We were fooling around, and I was inspired by Tig, actually. My partner caressed my breasts, and as he squeezed it, I said. I said.
Tig Notaro
I knew that was coming.
Jacqueline
I have never laughed so hard during intimacy before.
Tig Notaro
That is really funny.
May Martin
Oh, that's great.
Tig Notaro
Yeah.
May Martin
Let that be one of your legacies for sure. The women across the world are going whenever ever anyone touches her.
Tig Notaro
Thank you, Jacqueline, and keep up the good work.
May Martin
Yeah. Should we have another question?
Tig Notaro
Indeed.
Katie
Hello, handsome. I'm Katie, and I'm calling for some advice today from any or all of you. I'm in a local production of the musical Fun Home, and for the role I'm in, I've cut my hair very, very short into a pixie cut. And this is the shortest. Yeah, this is the shortest my hair has been in, like, 41 years of life. So I. Well, I guess, except since I was born, but that doesn't count. Anyway, I would love any of your tips, tricks, or favorite styling products or ways to style short hair.
Tig Notaro
Yeah.
Katie
Thanks so much.
Tig Notaro
I got the answer for you, kid. Leave it dirty, Katie.
May Martin
But you have a germ thing. How does that.
Tig Notaro
I rinse it.
May Martin
I rinse it just with water.
Tig Notaro
Yeah. But if I fly on a plane or I'm like, you know, if my. If my hair touches something, my germ issues remind me all the time, like, you gotta get home and wash your hair tonight.
May Martin
Right. Okay.
Tig Notaro
Like, when I travel on a plane, I don't just come home and get in bed and snuggle in after my head has been against that. The back of that seat.
May Martin
No, you got to be scrubbed.
Tig Notaro
Yes, yes. And so if I'm just taking it up and living my life and just shuffling around my neighborhood and my house, you know, or I go out to dinner, like anything like that, I'm totally fine.
May Martin
Yeah.
Tig Notaro
And again, it's. It's hard to make any sense of, like, what's gross and what's not to a germaphobe.
May Martin
Right, Right.
Tig Notaro
But, yeah, like, washing your hair once a week.
May Martin
Yeah.
Tig Notaro
Is. Is really the way to go. And. And you can put a little bit of product, like some sort of wax or something in there, but that, I feel like, can last you the whole week if it's really short.
May Martin
Yeah. I've wanted to try this. I just. I shower so much, I'm like, well, twice a day, but really twice a day. And I'm washing my hair twice a day.
Tig Notaro
You wash it.
May Martin
Yeah, yeah, yeah. And my skin's very dry now, and I'm better than I used to be. Like, I. I mean, I probably had a. The old germaphobe or something when I was. I used to wash my face, like, sometimes 14 times a day. Like, it was never 15. Never cross over, because that would be weird.
Tig Notaro
Yeah, that's too much.
May Martin
Yeah. But so I've gotten a lot better. And I. I don't wash my face between showers now, but. Yeah, like, two showers a day, and I'm washing my hair every time. So I want to get to a place where I try that. No washing for a week, because I know it's healthier like that. The natural oils. Everyone tells me about the natural oil.
Tig Notaro
Well, and less product in your ha. Is better for, you know, eliminating some toxins because so much is absorbed through your head.
May Martin
Really.
Tig Notaro
Yeah, yeah.
May Martin
And your brain's right there.
Tig Notaro
Yeah. Your old brain.
May Martin
I use Kevin Murphy, Night Rider. That's the. The product I use. But also, it's funny to me whenever, usually if I meet straight people of a certain.
Tig Notaro
Yeah.
May Martin
They'll go, I love your pixie cut. And I'm like, when does it become a pixie? Like. Like, it is so not a pixie cut to me. It's just short hair. But it's funny. Yeah. Like, would you say we have pixie cuts?
Tig Notaro
I. I think some people in their 60s and 70s and over think we have pixie cuts.
May Martin
Right. Or Katie, I guess maybe is. Is used to a more femme presentation.
Tig Notaro
So she's like, who knows? You know what I mean?
May Martin
You never know with candy.
Tig Notaro
You never know.
May Martin
Yeah.
Tig Notaro
Yeah. Never know.
May Martin
I. It always is strange to me when I'm out and about and someone is usually sizing me up, like, trying to figure me out, or I'm in the bathroom or something, and they go, I like your hair or something, and. And then you're like, okay, yeah. And I always go, yeah, I like yours too. But it's like them saying that is them saying, what is going on here, you know? Yeah, Yeah.
Tig Notaro
I like your pixie cut.
May Martin
Like your pixie cut. Yeah.
Tig Notaro
Well, thank you, Katie and Jacqueline, and please keep on sending in those questions. Yes, yes, yes.
May Martin
We love hearing from you. I really like that I can't do it.
Tig Notaro
You really.
May Martin
That was awful. That was really bad. I wish I hadn't.
Tig Notaro
That's good.
May Martin
That's good. That's good. Submit your questions, your advice request to speakpipe.com handsomepod and come see me on tour. Maymartin.net has all those deets. There's still tickets available for my first three shows in Oklahoma and then two shows in Texas. I really want to fill them up because it's the beginning of the tour. It'd be such a bummer if I now. It'll be great.
Tig Notaro
Yeah, it's going to be awesome. They're going to be there. Build it and they will come.
May Martin
Yeah. How about you?
Tig Notaro
Well, you know, technotaro.com we got Santa Fe, we got Monterey, Charleston, West Virginia. Actually, never mind that Charleston. We're rescheduling some dates here, but I'll also be in Los Angeles. Largo. It just goes on and on. Go, go Check out all the show and tour information at Tignotaro Dot and watch come see me in the good light if you haven't yet. Very funny. Touching, life affirming documentary on Apple that I produced. And until next time, keep it. Keep it pretty.
Fortune Feimster
Handsome Handsome is hosted by me, Fortune Feimster, Tig Notaro and May Martin. The show is produced, recorded and edited by Thomas Ouelette. Email us@handomepodmail.com and follow us on social media at @handome pod what a podcast.
May Martin
What a podcast. That was a headgum podcast.
Fortune Feimster
Checking Allstate first could save you hundreds on car insurance. That's smart. Not checking which hot sauce I'm using on my breakfast burrito. Big mistake. There's a big difference between medium spicy and spicy spicy. And I just learned it the hard way.
Tig Notaro
Yeah, checking first is smart. So check Allstate first for a quote that could save you hundreds. You're in good hands with Allstate. Potential savings vary subject to terms, conditions and availability. Allstate North American Insurance Company and Affiliates, Northbrook, Illinois.
Release Date: February 13, 2026
Hosts: Tig Notaro, Fortune Feimster, Mae Martin
Theme: Silly Intimate Moments, Short Hair Tips, Comedic Life Antics
This episode of "Handsome" brings Tig, Mae, and a late-joining Fortune together for another playful session of Q&A-with-friends. The main focus is on unexpected silliness in intimate moments and navigating the world with short hair. Between listener questions, the hosts swap comedic stories, share lighthearted banter, and invent hilarious games—showcasing their signature blend of absurdity and warmth.
(Starts: 00:48)
Mae’s Driving Adventures: Mae describes her recent excursions, joking about picking up chicks and struggling with curbs.
Tig’s Celebrity Parking Pranks
Fame Confessions: Mae jokes that Tig is a big celebrity now; Tig playfully probes if Mae means it.
(Starts: 03:44)
Mae Recommends the Water-No-Laugh Game:
Word Game Variation:
The Grape Game: (07:21)
Playful Banter on Stage Names & Famous Mix-ups:
(Listener Jacqueline, 11:32)
Mae: Once dated a British man who, during sex, suddenly said, “Tell me I’m bonkers,” causing a fit of uncontrollable laughter.
Tig: Used to make silly puns even during romantic encounters, e.g., spotting an unflushed toilet while hooking up in a public bathroom and quipping, “Oh, you’re in love” (urine love).
Listener Jacqueline’s Answer:
(Listener Katie, 15:08)
Tig:
Mae:
Discussion:
The tone remains spirited, loose, and extremely playful throughout. The hosts riff on mundane subjects, elevate silly games to comedic art, and foster a warm, inclusive space for honest (and hilarious) discussion about life, love, hair, and the moments that catch us off guard. There’s frequent self-mockery, quick wit, and a sense that friendships here are forged by shared laughter—no matter the topic.
In this “Pretty Little Episode,” you’ll hear Tig and Mae (with Fortune dropping in) recount stories of failed parallel parking stunts, invent laughter-inducing party games, and swap stories of ridiculous moments during intimacy. Listener questions lead to frank and funny confessions about hair habits and the intersection of sex and silliness. If you love comedic chemistry, practical advice wrapped in absurdity, and stories that reveal the lighter side of life’s awkward moments, this episode is a quintessential “Handsome” experience.
Submit questions at speakpipe.com/handsomepod. Tour info at maymartin.net and tignotaro.com.