Pretty Little Episode #81

Summary

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Handsome – "Pretty Little Episode #81"

Hosts: Tig Notaro, Fortune Feimster, Mae Martin
Date: March 6, 2026

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Episode Overview

This episode of Handsome leans into its signature banter and heart, as comedians Tig Notaro, Fortune Feimster, and Mae Martin field questions from listeners and each other. The core themes explored today are social awkwardness—particularly saying the wrong thing at the wrong time—and twin parenting advice. The hosts weave in personal anecdotes about family, loss, and the weirdness of daily life, peppered throughout with their offbeat humor and warmth.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. The "Hell, Yeah" Bit & Family Resemblance

[01:00 – 04:10]

• Mae has picked up the phrase "hell, yeah" from a friend but feels it doesn’t always fit, leading to a bit of playful back-and-forth and faux-alien banter.
  • Mae: “Doesn't feel like the right context.” [01:36]
  • Fortune: “Feels like you're an alien…just trying to figure out where to insert your 'hell, yes.'” [01:38]
• The conversation pivots to family resemblance.
  • Fortune observes she resembles her mother more than her father, sharing a bit about parental attractiveness and joking that she is "drop dead cute" as a result. [02:55–03:08]
  • Mae muses about genetics: "Sometimes you see that with celebrity kids…then their kids are aliens as well." [03:56]

2. The Mystery Hum of Connecticut (And Tig’s Movie Pitch)

[04:10 – 08:08]

• Mae brings up a real mystery in West Haven, Connecticut—a persistent hum the residents can’t explain.
  • Mae: "A persistent low frequency hum has invaded the city of West Haven...leaving some shaken by an occurrence they’re calling everything from mysterious to excruciating." [04:25]
• What could be a horror tangent is undercut by Fortune’s comedic disappointment, then taken into a (bleeped) movie pitch, and culminates in the hosts riffing on movie titles ("Full Tilt" vs. "Oh, no").
• Memorable moment: The pair stage a mock countdown to say the supposed movie title, culminating in silly wordplay about a Yoko Ono biopic.
  • Mae: "What if it’s Oh, no! The Yoko Ono Story?" [07:35]

3. Listener Question #1: Saying the Wrong Thing

[08:14 – 14:45]
Question from Emma, a palliative care physician:
Share a time you said the wrong thing and had to sit in that awkward moment.

• Fortune reflects on how awkward and difficult it can be to react to someone’s very sad news, especially if it comes unexpectedly, and worries about not seeming connected enough.
  • "I go into my head where I’m like, oh my gosh, that’s really devastating news. And I don’t know if I sounded connected enough..." [09:01]
• Fortune shares a touching anecdote about unintentionally stumbling into a discussion about a coworker's loss. The conversation leads to a sincere, emotional exchange and a supportive hug.
• Mae admits to sometimes turning conversations toward her own issues after breakups and needing to reach out afterward to apologize for being self-centered.

Notable Quotes

• Mae: “I say the wrong thing all the time.” [13:04]
• Fortune: “You never know what people are carrying.” [13:00–13:01]

4. Listener Question #1 Answered: Emma's Awkward Medical Phone Call

[14:20 – 14:45]

• Emma shares her own story:

  • After delivering tragic news to a family, she reflexively ended the call with, “I hope you have a good night," then felt awful for the slip.
  • Emma: “I felt truly, truly awful.” [14:42]

• The hosts reassure her:

  • Mae: “That’s not too bad. People know that’s just a turn of phrase...It’s like when the person who checks you into your flight says, ‘Have a good flight,’ and you go, ‘You, too.’” [14:50]

5. More Awkwardness: Fortune and Dr. Oz, Mae’s Dad’s Memoir, and Martin Short on TV

[14:59 – 17:32]

• Fortune recounts being on Dr. Oz shortly after her mother died; after she mentions her mom’s fandom, Dr. Oz replies, “Give her my love”—forgetting the context.
  • “She died. Remember? I was just talking about how she died.” [15:48]
• Mae’s father wrote a memoir about losing a son; book promoters frequently overlooked the tragedy at the core of the story, treating it like a light romance instead.
• The hosts recall a famous Martin Short interview where a host asked about his deceased wife; he went along politely.
  • Mae: “He actually said, ‘Oh, she’s doing great. Thank you.’” [17:08]

6. Listener Question #2: Parenting Advice for Twins

[18:17 – 22:53]
Question from Hannah: Any advice for parents of twins?

• Fortune emphasizes the difficulties of the first year—sleepless nights, constant care—but reassures it goes by quickly.
  • “That first year is so hard…But it’s only one year of your life.” [19:19]
  • “You are in it…but it’s also a blip in the big picture.” [20:43]
• Advice: Encourage individuality in twins; for example, avoid dressing them alike.
  • “As soon as a kid can dress themselves...cannot wait to see those shoes on the wrong feet.” [21:19]
• The conversation highlights the joy and chaos of early childhood—funny stories about mismatched shoes and inside-out clothing.
  • Mae: “Two t-shirts on top of each other...pants on backwards was constant in our house.” [21:39–21:46]
  • Fortune: “We also never called it the terrible twos because we didn’t think it was terrible.” [22:15]
• Mae closes: “It goes so quickly. It’s gonna be a rough year. But if you can remember it’s not endless, then you can maybe enjoy it more.” [22:04]

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On awkward language:
  • Mae: “Doesn’t feel like the right context.” [01:36]
  • Fortune: "Feels like you're an alien…just trying to figure out where to insert your 'hell, yes.'" [01:38]
• On loss and empathy:
  • Fortune: "You never know what people are carrying." [13:01]
• On parenting:
  • Fortune: "As soon as a kid can dress themselves...cannot wait to see those shoes on the wrong feet." [21:19]
• On reassuring a listener:
  • Mae: “That’s not too bad. People know that’s just a turn of phrase.” [14:50]
• Comedy highlight:
  • Mae: "What if it’s Oh, no! The Yoko Ono Story?" [07:35]

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Important Segments & Timestamps

• [01:00–04:10] – "Hell, yeah" catchphrase banter and family resemblance
• [04:10–08:08] – The Connecticut hum and movie pitch riffing
• [08:14–14:45] – Listener question on awkward moments and the hosts’ responses
• [14:45–17:32] – Overlooked grief stories: Dr. Oz, memoir promo mishap, Martin Short
• [18:17–22:53] – Parenting twins—advice, empathy, and hilarious stories

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Style and Tone

The episode is warm, funny, and honest, filled with friendly jabs, comforting relatability, and real emotional insight. The hosts thrive in the space between humor and sincerity, circling serious topics with levity but also providing genuine advice and consolation.

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Final Takeaways

• Sometimes, saying the wrong thing is just an unavoidable part of being human—what matters most is your willingness to acknowledge it and connect sincerely afterward.
• Parenting twins is intense, especially in the first year, but savoring the moments and allowing kids to explore their personalities makes all the difference.
• Throughout, Mae, Fortune, and Tig bring an abundance of good humor, candor, and camaraderie, making the awkward moments feel a little easier for everyone.

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Transcript

[Mae Martin]

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[Fortune Feimster]

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[Mae Martin]

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[Fortune Feimster]

eternally handsome Tig Notaro.

[Mae Martin]

Hell, yeah. I keep saying, hell, yeah. I think my friend Matt says it, and I've. I can't pull it off, but I'm saying it a lot.

[Fortune Feimster]

I think you're pulling it off. Hasn't. I haven't tripped up on it.

[Mae Martin]

Thanks.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yes. Yeah. No, thank you. Thanks for just really being so smooth with the. Hell yeah.

[Mae Martin]

Hell, yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

Oh, hell, yeah.

[Mae Martin]

Oh, hell, yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

Oh, girl. Hell, yeah.

[Mae Martin]

I noticed it because the other night, this is. Must have been a few weeks ago, Matt said, is it raining outside? And I just opened the front door and I went, hell, yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

That doesn't. That doesn't fully work there.

[Mae Martin]

Doesn't feel like the right contact.

[Fortune Feimster]

No, it feels like you're an alien. You might be, and you're just trying to figure out where to insert your. Hell, yes.

[Mae Martin]

Yeah. I wouldn't be shocked if someone told me that I'm an alien who lost their way.

[Fortune Feimster]

And you. And you don't. You wouldn't know on your own.

[Mae Martin]

No.

[Fortune Feimster]

I think, like, maybe when you were a child, you. Yeah. Yeah.

[Mae Martin]

And someone said, we did some tests and you're not from here.

[Fortune Feimster]

Kind of like when people find out they're adopted, sometimes they're like, oh, something felt a little different.

[Mae Martin]

Well, now that you mention it, maybe I'm adopted.

[Fortune Feimster]

I don't think you are. I've seen pictures of your dad.

[Mae Martin]

Yeah, we look very similar.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah.

[Mae Martin]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yes.

[Mae Martin]

Yeah. Do you look like your parents?

[Fortune Feimster]

People say I look a lot like my mother. I probably look more like my aunt. My father. My father. Well, my father's sister.

[Mae Martin]

Interesting.

[Fortune Feimster]

Than I look like my father.

[Mae Martin]

Oh, I see.

[Fortune Feimster]

Okay. Yeah. Yeah.

[Mae Martin]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

I always say that my mother was really, really attractive. Like, she was. I always say she was really gorgeous. And this is so rude, because it's not like my Father wasn't attractive.

[Mae Martin]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

But I. But just for the joke, I say my mother was gorgeous and my father was not. And I just mean in the way that.

[Mae Martin]

Wait, that's the joke?

[Fortune Feimster]

No, I say. Which makes me drop dead cute.

[Mae Martin]

Oh, yeah, that's good. Yeah, I got that. Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah. Because my father was cute and attractive, but my mother kind of had. She just had the look, and she was very up on fashion and.

[Mae Martin]

Yes.

[Fortune Feimster]

You know, where my father was, like,

[Mae Martin]

more approachably attractive, like the.

[Fortune Feimster]

More approachably. He had, like, a gregarious. They both had gregarious personalities. And, you know, he was a little more pistol in the cowboy, but in the motorcycle boot. Right, right. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Not that you can't be gorgeous in that, but yeah.

[Mae Martin]

So I think it might be too much if you had two. Two parents who were kind of intimidatingly attractive. I think you got to get a little.

[Fortune Feimster]

Sometimes it glitches.

[Mae Martin]

It glitches.

[Fortune Feimster]

Oh, yeah.

[Mae Martin]

Sometimes you see that with celebrity kids. Two perfect looking parents who have, like, crazy bone structure and cheekbones, and then. And then their kids are aliens as well.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah.

[Mae Martin]

But, Tig, I have someone to tell you.

[Fortune Feimster]

Oh, gosh. What?

[Mae Martin]

No, it's.

[Fortune Feimster]

I'm adopted.

[Mae Martin]

You're adopted?

[Fortune Feimster]

I'm adopted. I'm an alien. What are you telling me? I'm nervous. I'm excited.

[Mae Martin]

Okay.

[Fortune Feimster]

I'm getting kicked out of the pod.

[Mae Martin]

Your reaction is indicative of someone who has had a lot of random bad news in their life. I'm just telling you an interesting thing I read on the Internet, which is a persistent low frequency hum has invaded the city of West Haven, Connecticut, according to many residents, leaving some shaken by an occurrence they're calling everything from mysterious to excruciating. So it's this whole city that are just hearing, mainly at night,

[Fortune Feimster]

what a letdown of what you were going to

[Mae Martin]

tell me, but you're going to just scroll past.

[Fortune Feimster]

I almost wish you had kicked me

[Mae Martin]

out of the podcast just for a bit of spice.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah. Like, okay, there's a low humor.

[Mae Martin]

There's a. A, A hum, a low consistent hum, and it's interfering with their sleep. And no one is explaining it, and we're just going to sort of gloss over it. I'm sure the news will move on. And.

[Fortune Feimster]

And is this a legit news source or is it.

[Mae Martin]

Well, it's the New York Post, and they have a video of the town hall meeting of this woman saying, what the hell is with this hum?

[Fortune Feimster]

Okay. All right.

[Mae Martin]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

I have an idea for a movie that I would never write And I need you to bleep it out so no one steals it. Thomas, it for the pod. Yeah. And people will enjoy hearing this, but I thought it would be really interesting if there was a movie where now bleep out from here where, like, I don't even know how to explain it, but, like,

[Mae Martin]

Yeah, Thomas, bleep it out. And then everyone go to YouTube and just see if you can guess from Tig's movements what the plot of that movie is.

[Fortune Feimster]

Is there a plot? I don't even know if have anything quite. Will you buy it? Yeah, Will you buy the movie?

[Mae Martin]

I'll give you some development money and we can see. All right, but you're gonna outsource, maybe hire a writer and.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah, I just have a meeting with a writer, and I'll just do this and see what we come up with.

[Mae Martin]

What's the title? Because maybe we could say the title, and that would at least be a hint. Okay, I got a title.

[Fortune Feimster]

Okay. It's probably exactly what mine is.

[Mae Martin]

Is yours Full Tilt?

[Fortune Feimster]

No, mine is oh, no.

[Mae Martin]

Oh, no.

[Fortune Feimster]

Oh, no. Which, you know, I would definitely feel if.

[Mae Martin]

Yeah, I like that you didn't like Full Tilt or I do.

[Fortune Feimster]

I just thought for sure you were thinking, oh, no.

[Mae Martin]

I wish we'd said, okay, 1, 2, 3, say the name of the movie. And then both said, oh, no.

[Fortune Feimster]

Okay, let's do it. Okay, let's go. One, two, three. Oh, no, no, you're supposed to say yours.

[Mae Martin]

Okay, ready?

[Fortune Feimster]

Okay, we probably came up with the same.

[Mae Martin]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

Title. So let's say three.

[Mae Martin]

One, two, three.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah. Okay, well. Oh, no. Well, we're going with oh, no.

[Mae Martin]

Yeah. What if it's oh, no, exclamation mark? The Yoko Ono story.

[Fortune Feimster]

Wait, is that like, the demise of the Beatles?

[Mae Martin]

Yeah, no, it's. It's her life story, and it's a biopic, but it's, oh, space and O, exclamation mark. Oh, no, and it's the Yoko Ono story.

[Fortune Feimster]

Oh, I was thinking it was like, oh, no, the Yoko Ono story, and then it's still just, oh, this movie.

[Mae Martin]

This movie is.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah. Again, fill in the blanks what everyone thinks this movie. Movie is.

[Mae Martin]

Should we listen to a question?

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah, we should listen to a question.

[Emma]

My name is Emma, and I'm a palliative care physician. I was recently talking with my intern about how it is a fact of life that sometimes you will just say the wrong thing at the wrong time, despite your best intentions. I'm wondering if you can share a time in which you heard yourself saying, the blatantly wrong thing at the wrong time and just had to sit in that moment and think, oh, my God, what just came out of my mouth?

[Fortune Feimster]

That's really interesting because I would say more than I've ever. I mean, listen, I'm sure my whole life has been fumbling over myself and doing the wrong things and trying to make things right, but I feel like what I connect with more about that question is feeling really sad to hear news and not feeling like I'm sounding connected enough to my sorrow. You know, where. Where I. Because sometimes you find out bad news in a very casual conversation, especially with a stranger. Well, the. Where they will say, like, oh, thank you for putting that project out. That was helpful. I just lost. And then they tell you. And then it's. You know, you don't. You don't quite know that you're in that conversation with somebody, and then they kind of will continue talking, and then you're not really having a moment to. And not to. I'm not blaming it on the person that's sharing it. I just feel like I go into my head where I'm like, oh, my gosh, that's really devastating news. And I don't know if I sounded connected enough to my emotions and words and in that exchange.

[Mae Martin]

Yeah. And I guess you can say that in the moment. Like, you can. You can say, that's really devastating. Sorry, I'm. Yeah. But, yeah, it can be. And then do you worry about it afterwards or you feel.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah, yeah. Where I'm like, oh, my God, that is rough. I mean, I actually had a really, really nice, touching exchange that I guess it's a perfect example of actually both myself and the person I was talking to working through that awkwardness.

[Mae Martin]

Yeah. Muddling through.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah. Because somebody that I worked with that I didn't realize had had a massive, massive loss. She had lost her son when he was a teenager. And I've worked with her on set on Star Trek. And we got into a conversation and then it led me into talking about come see me in the good light, and, oh, no, I'm sorry. No, it didn't. That's not it at all. I was rapping and she was like, oh, are you excited to go home, be with your family? I bet. And I was like, oh, my gosh. Yeah, I'm so excited. And she was like, how many kids you have? Two kids? I said, yeah. I said, do you have kids? Like, and she's not somebody. She's somebody that sometimes is put on, if that makes sense. Put on me to. She does makeup. Yeah.

[Mae Martin]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

So she's not my typical person, but she's on the show and she's not always covering me, but sometimes. And I said, oh, do you have kids? And that's when she said, oh, my daughter is whatever age 20 something. And then I lost my son when he was a teen and it knocked me over. I was, I just. It's that reminder of like, you do not know. And she was so, like, what people are carrying and. Yeah. And she was so pleasant and open and we had a moment where. And I think I did go back and I was like, I'm sorry. I'm just like, I'm just devastated. Like, I. And she. And she was like, do you mind if I hug you? And I said, oh my gosh, no. And we just had a really nice moment.

[Mae Martin]

That's so nice. Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

And then we were talking about Andrea and the doc and loss and grief and all of that stuff, and it was just a moment that just kind of accidentally unfolded. Yeah.

[Mae Martin]

And you're probably. I bet you're gonna. I mean, that's a different context, but I bet you're gonna get so much of that all the time because of the doc. Like. Yeah. And then, I mean, sometimes it's okay to just say, I. God, I'm so sorry. I don't even know what to say. That's so awful. But yeah, it's better not to get paralyzed. Like, it's so good that you went back to it and said, by the way, like, that has landed with me.

[Fortune Feimster]

Like, yeah, but man.

[Mae Martin]

Yeah. You never know what people are.

[Fortune Feimster]

Are carrying. Yeah.

[Mae Martin]

I'm trying to think if I. Yeah, I say the wrong thing all the time. Yeah, that's. I can't think of a specific example. I mean, you know what? Sometimes when I've been like going through a breakup, as I sometimes seem to be, or I. I look back on that period of life and I realize that I've been very self centered. Like that some friend was talking to me about something and I found a way to tangentially connect it to my breakup. And then I have to reach out and go, sorry, that should have been about you. That conversation.

[Fortune Feimster]

Right, right, right.

[Hannah]

Foreign

[Mae Martin]

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[Fortune Feimster]

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[Mae Martin]

But I want to hear Emma's answer.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yes.

[Emma]

My answer is that after a really sad, solemn phone call in which I had to tell a family member that their loved one was dying and unlikely to last the night, I then ended the conversation by saying, I hope you have a good night. Right. As I was hanging up. So I didn't even get a chance to course correct. I felt truly, truly awful. Thank you so much for your podcast. It brings me such joy.

[Mae Martin]

I did forget that Emma's a palliative care physician.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[Mae Martin]

But that's not too bad. People know that that's just a turn of phrase. It's like when you're. The person who checks you into your flight says, have a good flight, and you go, you, too.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah, right. I told you about when. I mean, before Dr. Oz was part of this administration, I went on his talk show. Wait.

[Mae Martin]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

And my mother had just died, and my mother really loved, like, Oprah and Dr. Oz and all of her gaggle of characters. And when my mother had died and I went on his show, and I was talking about everything I had gone through, and then we wrapped and. And you know, they're like, cut. And he's like, thank you so much for being on the show. And I said, oh, yeah. And I said, I have to tell you, my mother loved you. Like, this is one second after talking, and he goes, give her my love.

[Mae Martin]

Oh, my God. Oh, my God.

[Fortune Feimster]

And I said, oh, she died. Remember? I was just talking about how she died. And he goes, oh, God, I am so sorry. Like, just totally on autopilot.

[Mae Martin]

Well, my. My dad wrote a book, a memoir about living in Greece with my mom. And. And it's the story of my brother passing. So, like, at the end of the book, my. My brother passes away. They move back to Canada. So when he's promoting this book, he's like, on morning television, and the. The woman's going, I love the book. So why did you leave Greece? Why'd you ever move out? And he's like, well, my son died, and she's. She just hadn't read the book. And this kept happening of people being like, oh, my. Oh, it's a. It's a romance on a Greek island. So fun. And, like, they just hadn't been Briefed properly.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah. That reminds me of, like, when Martin Short was on, like, that morning talk show.

[Mae Martin]

What was that?

[Fortune Feimster]

Just years ago, He. You know his wife died.

[Mae Martin]

Yes.

[Fortune Feimster]

Years ago. And when he was on there, the host was like, just asking how she's doing or. I. I can't quite remember.

[Mae Martin]

It was.

[Fortune Feimster]

It was a while ago.

[Mae Martin]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

And he. You could tell, he was just like,

[Mae Martin]

oh, oh, I. I remember this. And he actually said, oh, she's doing great. Thank you.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yes.

[Mae Martin]

And then he talked about it later. He was like. I just went with it, like, yeah,

[Fortune Feimster]

yeah, I think so.

[Mae Martin]

Yeah. And he. He lost his. Both his parents and his sibling before he was like, 20, right.

[Fortune Feimster]

I think something like that.

[Mae Martin]

Yeah. I was just re. Listening to an interview with him because I'm so obsessed with that era of Canadian comedy and sctv and.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah.

[Mae Martin]

They're making a documentary about this musical God spell. You know about that. That there was this one cast in Toronto that just happened to be, like, everyone became a household name. It was like Victor Garber and.

[Fortune Feimster]

Was it Gilda in that?

[Mae Martin]

Gilda and Eugene Levy. Catherine o'. Hara, Martin Short. Just crazy.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah, it was just one of those.

[Mae Martin]

Like, my mom saw it in the seventies in Toronto.

[Fortune Feimster]

Really? What are you doing with your hand?

[Mae Martin]

Oh, that's weird. Yeah. Sorry. I was tossing this chain up and down, just fidgeting. What did it look like? I was jerking up.

[Fortune Feimster]

I. I don't know what you were doing. I just could. I didn't know if you were churning butter.

[Mae Martin]

That was weird.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah.

[Mae Martin]

Should we have another question?

[Fortune Feimster]

I think we should.

[Hannah]

Hello, May, Tig and Fortune, this is Hannah from Vermont. I suppose this is one that's an advice question primarily for Tig, but whoever's on, love to hear your answers. My wife and I are expecting twins within the coming weeks.

[Mae Martin]

Oh, my God.

[Hannah]

And I'm a twin. Loved being a twin. This is my first time as a parent of twins, and I'm wondering if you have any advice about being a parent of twins. Love the pod. Thanks.

[Fortune Feimster]

Oh, that's exciting.

[Mae Martin]

At first I thought she was mad at us because it was hello, May Chicken Fortune. It was like, I have a bone to pick with you. But. But it's the happiest question.

[Fortune Feimster]

Alive. Yeah. Or almost alive.

[Mae Martin]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah. Two little lives are headed our way. That's really exciting. And I'm a little jealous that I don't get to have two new lumps arriving into my life.

[Mae Martin]

Say the word and I will birth them for you and we will raise them together.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah. It's Exciting. You know what I want to say first and foremost, whether you have twins or not, what I wish somebody would have told me is when you have your child or your twins or your triplets or whatever the hell's going on under your roof, that first year is so hard. I found it to be very hard. Like, with the no sleep and the feeding schedule and the crying and the burping and the diapers, and it's just.

[Mae Martin]

It is.

[Fortune Feimster]

You are in it. Like, you. And I didn't understand when people would be like, I didn't even have time to take a shower today. It's so crazy, but it's only one year of your life. And it's a really simple thing to think about. But just know, like, I. When I was in it, I thought, this is my life. I am. This is what. Having a kid, having kids. And we're just constantly. It's. And it is. It's busy. But, like, when Max and Finn hit four.

[Mae Martin]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

They were getting up on their own, just going downstairs, watching cartoons in the morning. You know, they could pour some cereal in a bowl, and, you know, things started to get manageable. They could dress themselves, go to the bathroom, all that stuff.

[Mae Martin]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

But in that first year, when you're feeling like this is insanity. It is.

[Mae Martin]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

But it's also a blip in the big picture. And I would say the other thing. We had friends that were twins. We've had several different friends that are twins. And what they really encouraged was making sure that you encourage them to be individuals. And we never dressed our kids alike. And there's no judgment if you do, but we just really.

[Mae Martin]

The temptation is strong.

[Fortune Feimster]

We weren't even slightly tempted, really. Yeah. Not at all. And also, one of my favorite things, too, is, like, as soon as a kid can dress themselves. Oh, the best. Cannot wait to see those shoes on the wrong feet.

[Mae Martin]

To see the winning choices.

[Fortune Feimster]

Oh, my God. Yes. Anything they put on, I cannot wait to see when they reveal themselves, because,

[Mae Martin]

you know, they've really. They've gone, yeah, this looks good.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah.

[Mae Martin]

Two T shirts on top of each other. And like. Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

Oh, my gosh. Pants on backwards was constant in our house.

[Mae Martin]

I mean, that's so funny.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah. Back pockets in the front. Shoes on the wrong feet. We, Stephanie and I, were on our walk a couple of mornings ago, and we passed this little cub that had shoes on the wrong feet, and we were both like, oh, I missed that so much.

[Mae Martin]

Yeah, I like that advice. It's like, it go. It goes so quickly. It's Gonna be a rough year. But if you can remember it's not endless, then you can maybe enjoy it more. Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

When you're in the. In the middle of it all, when you're really in the middle of it all, just know. And. And look, it comes easier for some people. They feel like it got easy when their kid turned three. We also never called it the terrible twos because we didn't think it was terrible. You know, they're, like, chewing on things, they're pushing back. They want to do their own thing, and it's so cute. And, like, it's. You can have frustrating moments for sure, but, like, I don't think it's terrible at all. I don't like to put that negative spin on it.

[Mae Martin]

Yeah, I like that. Well, good luck, Hannah. Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah. Good luck, Hannah. Really exciting. Send us a picture of your little cubs.

[Mae Martin]

Yes, please.

[Fortune Feimster]

And I'll just say right out of the gate, I'm going on tour. Oh, yeah, there are some dates that are being canceled, rescheduled, and that's solely because of shifts in my schedule and not because I have anything against your town or your state or anything like that. And my apologies. Just keep going back to tignotaro.com to see if there's a rescheduling.

[Mae Martin]

Yeah. And check out maymartin.net for all my tour dates. I'm going across America and Canada and I'm doing meet and greets, and I want to see people and feel the solidarity in these awful times. So come. It'll be very wholesome and magical and fun. Can't wait to see everybody and.

[Fortune Feimster]

And send in your questions. Yes, keep sending them in and share your favorite episodes. Let's keep building this awesome, handsome community. Get your tickets to the Wiltern, too. Our show. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. And until next time, keep it. Keep it pretty. Pretty Handsome. Handsome is hosted by me, Fortune Feimster, Tig Notaro, and Mae Martin. The show is produced, recorded, and edited by Thomas Ouellette. Email [e-mail] and follow us on social media. Ansomepod.

[Mae Martin]

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[Fortune Feimster]

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[Mae Martin]

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