Pretty Little Episode #89

Summary

Handsome – Episode #89: Pretty Little Episode
Release Date: May 1, 2026
Hosts: Tig Notaro and Fortune Feimster (Mae Martin is not present in this episode)

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Episode Overview

In this "Pretty Little" mini-episode, comedians Tig Notaro and Fortune Feimster riff on the surprise joys of reconnecting with old friends, reflect on big life changes over decades in Los Angeles, and field listener questions about red and green flags in relationships and the childhood qualities they strive to carry into adulthood. With their typical warmth and humor, Tig and Fortune offer personal stories, candid insights, and a dose of heartfelt nostalgia.

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Main Topics & Discussion Points

1. Tig's Nightly Ritual and an Unexpected Reunion

Starts at [01:00]

• Tig shares her nightly bubble bath ritual and how it shapes her evening routine.
  • “I get excited that I can just go be alone and think about stuff.” – Tig ([02:21])
• Stephanie (Tig’s wife) surprises Tig by wanting to attend a friend’s party last minute, breaking their routine.
  • The couple usually stays in, especially after Tig has her bath.
  • “We shut down real early at our house... I'm usually in bed by like, nine.” – Tig ([03:01])
• At the party, Tig reconnects with an ex-girlfriend of an old friend she hasn’t seen since before her cancer diagnosis in 2012.
  • The conversation feels fresh and full-circle. Both Tig and Stephanie leave “feeling giddy” about the encounter and happy for the ex’s current life and relationship.
  • “I just loved talking to her…we both left the party going, 'She’s awesome.'” – Tig ([05:15])

2. Reflecting on Time, Friendships, and Life in L.A.

Starts at [07:06]

• Fortune talks about her 24 years in Los Angeles, outlining different life “eras” – from friendless early 20s, to wildly social mid-20s, to coupled-up thirties, and now a phase where many friends are scattered or settled down.
  • "I've been through many different iterations of LA." – Fortune ([07:31])
• Discussion of how the pandemic and life changes have shifted social circles.
  • “It just is a different place for me now...my friends are just scattered all over the place.” – Fortune ([08:14])
• Fondness for occasional reunions and the familiarity of old friends.
  • “When you have those...reunions...you think of your life when y'all all hung out all the time, like how different it was. Those are always cool moments.” – Fortune ([08:39])
• Tig notes the passage of time: Thirty years in Los Angeles, and how former significant relationships or seasons seem so big in the moment, yet become “a blip” in hindsight.
  • “That was a year and a half of my life... Now I’m like, thirty years in Los Angeles.” – Tig ([09:49])

3. Listener Questions Segment

Starts at [10:18]

a. Red and Green Flags in Partners

Question from JJ in San Francisco [10:29]: “What is one big red and green flag you find in a partner?”

• Fortune’s Green Flag: Kindness and empathy, especially toward elderly people – a value instilled by her grandmother. Also values “give and take” relationships.
  • “Anybody who has that in them usually is my cup of tea.” – Fortune ([12:06])
  • “You just both equally want to make things easier and better for each other for no other reason other than you love each other.” ([12:49])
• Fortune’s Red Flag: Mean-spirited people, and partners who want you to have a small life with no independence.
  • “Anybody that's just like mean for no reason... that's obviously a big red flag.” – Fortune ([13:35])
  • “Anybody that doesn’t want you to have a full life... that’s a red flag for sure.” ([13:54])
• Tig’s Green Flag: Genuine laughter and humor together—when someone surprises Tig with their wit (“hits me from behind”).
  • “There is nothing better to me when somebody just is so surprisingly funny in a moment that it hits me from behind.” – Tig ([15:01])
  • Values a natural sense of humor, not forced, and doesn’t need the person to be “stage funny.”
• Tig’s Red Flag: Heavy drinking or messy, out-of-control substance use; doesn’t want to “babysit” anyone or feel uncomfortable in “boy babysitting” situations.
  • “I can't do the boy babysitting situation.” – Tig ([16:03])
• JJ’s Green Flag: A partner who can vibe easily in any social situation.
  • JJ: “If I can put the person in any situation...and they just, like, vibe.” ([17:02])
• JJ’s Red Flag: Secondhand embarrassment from awkward or inappropriate comments in public.

Memorable Exchange:

• Fortune: "Say you met somebody, that you were single and they had everything…but weren’t that funny?"
  Tig: "Well, I don’t even need somebody to be funny. I just like laughing with people...as long as they get the joke." ([17:25])

b. Childhood Memories & Parenting

Question from Cammie [18:44]: “What aspects of being a kid do you never want to forget? And for Tig — how does that show up in parenting?”

• Tig cherishes her “Huckleberry” childhood – exploring creeks, climbing trees, feeling free and close to nature. She tries to replicate those moments with her own (urban) kids in LA: hiking, tree-climbing, and searching for crawdads in Griffith Park.
  • “I never, ever want to forget the freedom that I felt in exploring nature.” – Tig ([19:12])
  • “I love taking them on hikes in the parks and making sure that we’re finding ways to be more in touch with nature…” – Tig ([20:40])
• In Colorado, the family does more outdoors—mountain biking, wildflower watching, and mountain goat spotting. Tig imparts a bit of “survival skills” play to her boys.
  • “I love mountain goats so much and just making sure my sons are keeping their eyes out for mountain goats.” – Tig ([22:29])
• Fortune’s keeps her “silliness” from childhood alive—valuing playfulness and lightness, not taking life too seriously despite adult responsibilities.
  • "I like to be goofy and silly...what's wrong with keeping a little bit of that ridiculousness, that imagination, that playful part of your personality that was so prevalent when you were a kid?" – Fortune ([23:38])
• Tig recalls feeling “like she was 8 years old again” after her mastectomy, connecting body changes to childhood memories.
  • “I felt very connected to my childhood when I had a double mastectomy... I feel like I'm 8 years old right now.” – Tig ([24:08])
• Cammie’s approach as a parent: She wants to validate her son’s big emotions, reflecting on being called “too sensitive” as a child.
  • “As my little one gets bigger, I aspire to validate his feelings...he is a triple water sign, so I’m sure there will be many feelings.” – Cammie ([24:34])

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On running into old friends:
  "I love those moments where you get to meet somebody a second time in life." – Tig ([05:30])
• On the meaning of time:
  “When you’re younger, certain groups of people or exes feel so massive in your life, and then you look back and you’re like, that was a year and a half.” – Tig ([09:37])
• On relationship red flags:
  "I can't do the boy babysitting situation." – Tig ([16:03])
• On carrying childhood forward:
  "I don't want to lose that. I think it's fun to have a playfulness, even as an adult, because otherwise everything is so serious and tough." – Fortune ([23:38])
• On self-acceptance after major surgery:
  “I felt very connected to my childhood when I had a double mastectomy... I feel like I'm 8 years old right now.” – Tig ([24:08])
• Listener Cammie’s wisdom:
  "As my little one gets bigger, I aspire to validate his feelings...he is a triple water sign, so I’m sure there will be many feelings." – Cammie ([24:34])

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Timestamps for Significant Segments

• [01:00] — Tig’s bubble bath ritual and party plans
• [04:28] — Reconnecting with an old acquaintance at the party
• [07:06] — Fortune’s 24-year retrospect on life in Los Angeles
• [10:18] — Listener questions intro
• [10:29] — JJ’s question: Red and green flags in partners
• [11:53] — Fortune and Tig discuss flags
• [16:38] — JJ’s responses and more on social “vibing"
• [18:44] — Cammie’s question: Childhood memories to keep alive
• [19:12] — Tig on nature, parenting, and the Huckleberry childhood
• [23:19] — Fortune on keeping silliness and playfulness
• [24:34] — Cammie on raising a sensitive child

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Tone & Style

Warm, personal, meandering, self-deprecating, and at times deeply reflective. The hosts’ comedic backgrounds shine in their asides but the tone is gentle, authentic, and supportive, especially in discussions of parenting and relationships.

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Summary

This episode of "Handsome" is a cozy, intimate chat between Tig Notaro and Fortune Feimster, brimming with stories of growth, reconnection, and the joys of keeping one’s inner child alive. The hosts offer insightful and often poignant reflections on friendship, time’s passage, relationships, and the small rituals that make life meaningful. Listener questions spark revealing and entertaining discussions about what makes for a great partner and how to retain the best parts of childhood in adulthood and parenting.

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Handsome listeners: This “Pretty Little Episode” is for you if you want the perfect blend of laughter, nostalgia, and practical wisdom on navigating connection—in friendships, love, and family.

Transcript

[Tig Notaro]

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[Fortune Feimster]

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[Tig Notaro]

Hey, it's your friend Technotaro. On the handsome Pretty Little episode. I'm sitting here with my co host, Fortune Veemster.

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[Tig Notaro]

Hi, Fortune. It's me, Tig.

[Fortune Feimster]

Hi, Tig.

[Tig Notaro]

I have some news for you.

[Fortune Feimster]

Wait, what?

[Tig Notaro]

Well, Stephanie and I were invited to a party.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

And we typically don't go to parties much. And I was taking my little nightly bubble bath.

[Fortune Feimster]

Oh, wait, a nightly one?

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

You do one every night.

[Tig Notaro]

I do.

[Fortune Feimster]

I love this for you.

[Tig Notaro]

I love you. And so I was just looking and feeling so adorable and clean and like, ah, the end of the day, clean myself up, getting to the clean sheets, and Stephanie came in and sat on the little stool by the bath and said, I feel like we should go to the party tonight.

[Fortune Feimster]

Oh, that same night?

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah. We had already decided we were not.

[Fortune Feimster]

And that's tough to rally once you've had your nightly bubble bath. And can I. Before we get to the rest, can I ask, how long are your nightly bubble baths usually?

[Tig Notaro]

Oh, that's a good question, girl. I would say my nightly bubble baths are probably 20 to 30 minutes. Okay. Okay.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah. And you. And you're not doing anything, you're just laying or are you like, looking at something?

[Tig Notaro]

What do you mean?

[Fortune Feimster]

Reading your phone or.

[Tig Notaro]

No, no, I just. Am just in there and I. I think about. I. It. It feels like a moment that I get excited that I can just go be alone and think about stuff.

[Fortune Feimster]

Right.

[Tig Notaro]

You know?

[Fortune Feimster]

And what are you wearing? Nothing. Okay. So she goes, we're gonna go to this party tonight. How that would be. That I would be like, I. There's no way. I just watched Scooter.

[Tig Notaro]

But here's the thing is I. I also have to make sure it's clear. We shut down real early at our house.

[Fortune Feimster]

So it's not like it was like, this is like 5:00pm No, I mean, it was.

[Tig Notaro]

It was probably like 6, 6:30, something like that. But even still, like by that point We've finished dinner. Max and Finn are like, watching an episode of something and then they're gonna go take their bath and brush their teeth. Yeah. But it's still. I'm. I'm usually in bed by like, nine.

[Fortune Feimster]

Okay.

[Tig Notaro]

And so I'm inching up a little bit on bedtime. And she just was like, you know, I think we should. We should go and see some people, do some socializing. And I was like,

[Fortune Feimster]

all right. So it was like a friend party. It wasn't like a Hollywood party.

[Tig Notaro]

Oh, no, no. It was a friend party. And I can't imagine that she would ever come in and say, we should go to, you know, red carpet event. Yeah. No, no, because y' all were.

[Fortune Feimster]

Y' all were gonna have. There were gonna be a. A lot of yalls. Mutual friends were gonna be at this party.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah. Just potentially some people we hadn't seen in a while.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

Who we really enjoy. And it's always nice to run into some people like that. And I was like, okay, I hear you. Yeah, it could be good to go out, see some people. And so we did. We rallied at 6:30, and she called her dad to come watch the Cubs, and we went. And I have to say, I wasn't even planning on mentioning this, but not only did we see some old friends.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

I saw an ex girlfriend of an old friend of mine.

[Fortune Feimster]

Okay.

[Tig Notaro]

Who I hadn't seen in years. And she was so a part of my pre sick days of 2012.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

And for some reason, seeing her was such a. Like, God, I feel like I'm just in such a different place in my life. And I felt like I was. Not that I wasn't open to her, but, like, I don't know that I took her in. In the way that I did when I ran into her. And I just loved talking to her.

[Fortune Feimster]

Oh, cool.

[Tig Notaro]

And we just had such a nice connecting moment. Yeah. And Stephanie also spent some time talking to her, and we both left the party going. She's awesome.

[Fortune Feimster]

Oh, I love that.

[Listener JJ]

It's.

[Tig Notaro]

I love those moments where you get to meet somebody a second time in life.

[Fortune Feimster]

And is. Is she settled down? Is she with someone single?

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah. Yes. As she is with somebody who is so adorable. He's so sweet. Like, his face is just the cutest little, sweetest face. And his vibe is so good. And they're. They're locked in. And I was just so happy for her. And she was just talking about how she's just really feeling like she's hit her stride in life and. Yeah. Feeling successful with work and love and, and, and I was just like, man, I'm genuinely psyched for you.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

And I don't know, I just, I felt like almost giddy about our run. It. I hadn't seen her in years.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah. That sounds like a good, A good thing you got out of that tub.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah. I would say it was great to see all the other old pals, but that was a surprise curveball when she came walking around the corner. You know, I bet it's a real glass flat pass.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah. And just meeting each other again all these years, like over a decade later in different places in our lives. And she's like, how old are your kids? And I was like, oh, they're about to turn 10. She's like, what? That kind of thing where you're like, you have 10 year olds. Anyway, so that was a different thing.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

Happen.

[Fortune Feimster]

Gosh, I haven't, I feel like I, you know, I've been in LA, 20 coming on. Oh. Actually today's May 1st, so in like two weeks it will be my 24th anniversary of moving to Los Angeles. That seems impossible. I mean, just can't believe that.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

And I, I've been through different, many different iterations of LA.

[Tig Notaro]

Sure.

[Fortune Feimster]

Where it's like my 20s, my early 20s, I had no friends meetups. Yeah. My mid, my mid to late twenties, I was so insanely social. Early thirties finally like hit my dating stride. The last ten years I was married.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

And then now I feel like so many friends have like moved or are settled down in a way that's like kids and, or, or you know, when lesbians get married, you just don't see them as much anymore.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

And so I, I don't like, I still love la and I think I, I can see a world in which I spend time here and maybe spend time in the south or something. But it just is a different place for me now where I don't even know. My friends are just scattered all over the place. Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

That really happened after the pandemic too. Just people ski dadling.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah. But then when you have those like occasionally like one of my Groundlings friends or something, we'll have a party and you'll see all these old friends and just you think of your life when y' all all hung out all the time, like how different it was. Those are always cool moments.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah. It's wild. Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

And then you have this like unspoken like familiarity.

[Tig Notaro]

Uh huh.

[Fortune Feimster]

Where you just sort of like get right to it.

[Tig Notaro]

For sure. Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

Well, that's Cool.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah. I think this year, I've been in LA 30 years.

[Fortune Feimster]

Damn.

[Tig Notaro]

And it is wild when I think about all the different places I've lived and people I've known, people I've dated, old roommates, and just what a tiny blip that was. Yeah. And I never would have imagined that I would have lived in Los Angeles, first of all. Second of all, for 30 years.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

Because, you know, when you're younger, certain groups of people or exes feel, like, so massive in your life, and then you look back and you're like, that was a year and a half.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

Of my life.

[Fortune Feimster]

That was a blip. Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

Or I lived in that city for two years and. Or that dated that person for six months. But it just felt so massive at the time. And Now I'm like, 30 years in Los Angeles.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

And. Yeah. It's. It's time. Right? Am I right? Time. Time. Speaking of time. Time.

[Fortune Feimster]

It's time for questions.

[Tig Notaro]

It really is. It is. It's time for questions. This is a pretty little episode. So we've got a couple to get into, and let's do it. Let's do it.

[Listener JJ]

Hello, my handsomes. This is J.J. from San Francisco. I am a huge fan of the pod. I was wondering, what is one big red and green flag that you find in a partner? Let's say you're all single. This is a world where you're single and looking for a partner. What would be the biggest red flag that gives you the ick and the biggest green flag that, you know, gives you those little heart flutters?

[Fortune Feimster]

That's a good question no one's ever asked us, though.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah. Jj, thank you. This is the thing with. With our listeners chiming in. Always good ideas, thoughts, questions.

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[Tig Notaro]

Yeah.

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[Tig Notaro]

You go, girl.

[Fortune Feimster]

Girl. Let's start with green flag. I always have a soft spot in my heart for someone who loves old people.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

And is really kind to old people. Like, if I. If you see someone who. Like, when they see an old person, like an elderly person, they like get up from their seat and offer their seat to them or they help them with the bag or they like just take a little extra care. With anyone elderly, that is a big green flag for me because it just means they have empathy and have a, like there's sort of an old fashionedness with that. And that's how I was, you know, heavily influenced by my grandmother. So anybody who has that in them usually is my cup of tea.

[Tig Notaro]

Mm.

[Fortune Feimster]

So that's a big green flag. And also just like someone who is willing to help like, like make your life a little easier. Like you're doing things for them, but they're also doing things for you. It's a very give and take kind of situation where it's not one sided. You just both are equally want to make things easier and better for each other for no other reason other than you love each other. Red flag would be, I mean I don't do well with like mean. Mean spiritedness and you don't?

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah. Oh, that's my green flag.

[Fortune Feimster]

Anybody that's just like mean for no reason or just like a dick to people, that's obviously a big red flag.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

And also like anybody that's like wants the. Doesn't want you to have a full life.

[Tig Notaro]

Like.

[Fortune Feimster]

No. Doesn't want you to have friends, doesn't want you to like do anything outside of them. Like I think I'm in a stage of my life where I'm valuing my independence more even, you know, if where I just don't want to be like you want to be close and with each other and spend time with each other. But you also, it's important to have your own life and, and like want them to have a life like a relationship with their family, with their friends. Anybody that doesn't want you to have any of that, it's not. That's a red flag for sure. How about you, bud?

[Tig Notaro]

Well, I gotta say I love. My green flag is I love laughing with somebody. I just love it. It's. There is just nothing better to me when. When somebody just is so surprisingly funny in a moment that it hits me from behind.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

I just, and I just find it so connecting like those. Your guard is down and your just having a good cackle. Yeah, that's. I love laughing with my. Well with anyone. But I also, I don't like the pressure of somebody feeling like they have to make me laugh, you know, that's kind of the worst feeling. Yeah, but that's where you find your groove with the right person is like you Just have a natural back and forth and you amuse each other.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

And. And then I think a red flag for me is I don't like when people are heavy drinkers or messed up, you know, just altered state sloppiness. Yeah. Yeah. I don't. I don't mind, like, somebody's having a drink or two every now and then, and. But I can't do the boy babysitting situation. Right.

[Fortune Feimster]

Right. Especially at this age.

[Tig Notaro]

For sure.

[Fortune Feimster]

That would be a big red flag.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah. I just. I. I can't do it. I don't like to feel like I'm, you know, when I'm out to eat with somebody and they. You finished your meal and you're chatting, and then they just keep ordering drinks. I've been in that situation.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

Where I'm like, oh, my God. Yeah. So I think those are my main. I mean, I. Listen, I could come up with plenty red and green flags, but I would say those are the main ones.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah, those are good. Does J.J. have any?

[Tig Notaro]

If I know J.J. and I don't, I bet JJ has got probably some good ones. Yeah. Classic jj.

[Fortune Feimster]

Classic jj.

[Listener JJ]

I think for me, a big green flag is if I can put the person in any situation, like, any social situation, and they just, like, vibe.

[Tig Notaro]

Yes.

[Listener JJ]

And they're easy, you know, to be around.

[Tig Notaro]

Yes.

[Listener JJ]

Alternatively, a red flag would be if they make a lot of awkward comments and it's. I get secondhand embarrassment.

[Fortune Feimster]

Would you. Okay. Say that you met somebody, that you were single and they had everything you wanted but weren't that funny?

[Tig Notaro]

Well, I'm a deal breaker. Well, I don't even need somebody to be funny. I just like laughing with people. And I've. I've dated people that aren't, like, you know, ready for the stage or anything.

[Fortune Feimster]

Right.

[Tig Notaro]

But they have a good sense of

[Fortune Feimster]

humor and, like, as long as they can get the joke.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah. As long as they get it or get the awkwardness or the funny thing or the.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

Just something where, you know, it's just that vibe. I was also thinking a major green flag for me is when you, like, their friend group, you know, because I've definitely been with some people where I've had to slog through dinners and social situations with their friend group, and I'm like, this is tough. It's tough.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah. It's nice when it's just easy all in. In that social setting, like, for sure. With their friends. And also, like JJ said, when they're, like, in your environment, too, and they. You don't have to worry about them. They're at ease.

[Tig Notaro]

And yeah, that is the best. What else you got for us handsome listeners?

[Listener Cammie]

Hey, handsome. My name is Cammie, and your podcast got me through the third trimester of my pregnancy. My little one is now 10 weeks old. And as I'm stumbling through the early days of parenthood, the question I have been pondering and would like to ask y' all is, what aspects of being a kid do you never want to forget? And specifically for Tig, how does that show up in your parenting?

[Tig Notaro]

What part of my childhood do I never want to forget? I never, ever want to forget the freedom that I felt in exploring nature. I mean, following creeks and just it so free and I mean, I know it's the full on Huckleberry Tig in me, but, like, climbing trees, following creeks so far back into the woods, catching frogs, all of the very typical things that my childhood allowed me. I mean, I love that aspect of my childhood, and I think it's interesting having children, raising children in Los Angeles, and you don't have necessarily that freedom or those creeks that you're following back into the woods. But whenever we're out as a family and we. I mean, my son Max is very into climbing trees, and I always, when we're on walks, point out really great tree climbing trees, you know, and. And I love taking them on hikes in the parks and making sure that we're finding ways to be more in touch with nature that's not just playing baseball or soccer in a field, which, of course, is great, too. But when we go to Griffith park, there's this little stream that is just full of crawfish crawdads. And I don't know if you've spent much time there, but I love going there and pointing those out because I used to collect those when I was little. I'd get into the water and bring a bucket. And so, yeah, I just try to make sure that they have an awareness outside of just playing in a park.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah, do. When you guys go to Colorado, do. Are all of y' all more nature y like, out in the woods and.

[Tig Notaro]

For sure, yeah, we're. We go find new hikes, and there's a lot of mountain biking. It's not like, crazy on the edge of the mountain. Mountain biking.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah, but.

[Tig Notaro]

And also kayaking and rafting down rivers and whitewater rafting in groups. But it's really fun to just get together with. With. You know, we'll go out to Colorado with a group of friends, and I'll do stuff Together and. Yeah. Wildflowers. Checking those out. It's. It's really great. And I also love. Like, I probably mentioned, I love mountain goats. Have I mentioned this?

[Fortune Feimster]

Oh, yeah, at one point you did.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah. I love mountain goats so much and just making sure my sons are keeping their eyes out for mountain goats. But I also like to. Not that I really know how to survive in the wilderness, but I love the idea of, like, if something happens, guys, this is how you do it. This is where you would go for safety and make. Make sure you have, you know, you're prepared with these kind of things. And that's kind of how I was as a kid in the woods. I was, like, pretending, like, if I had to spend a few days, how would I find shelter and what would I eat? And so I think they're both interested in that. But I think Max is way more drawn to that kind of huckleberry tigness.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

That I had.

[Fortune Feimster]

I love that.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah. What about you?

[Fortune Feimster]

I try to hold on to the silliness of being a kid. Like, I, you know, can take things serious, obviously, and have earnest conversations, but I like to be goofy and silly, as, you know.

[Tig Notaro]

Sure.

[Fortune Feimster]

And I don't want to lose that. I think it's fun to have a playfulness, even as an adult, because otherwise everything is so serious and tough. And I like some of that lightness every now and then that I think, what's wrong with keeping a little bit of that ridiculousness, that imagination, that playful part of your personality that was so prevalent when you were a kid?

[Tig Notaro]

So, yeah, I felt very connected to my childhood when I had a double mastectomy and I was like a grown woman with a completely flat chest. I remember laughing with a friend, and I looking down at my flat chest and being like, oh, my God, I feel like I'm 8 years old right now.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

But anyway, should we hear what Cammie has to say?

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah.

[Listener Cammie]

For me, it's that my feelings were so big, and I hated being told that I was, quote, unquote, too sensitive. So as my little one gets bigger, I aspire to validate his feelings. And he is a triple water sign, so I'm sure there will be many feelings. May will explain what that means. All right, y', all, thank you so much. I can't wait to hear your response. Love y'. All. Bye.

[Tig Notaro]

Love you dearly. Not queerly.

[Fortune Feimster]

That's right. Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah. Probably some big feelings coming.

[Fortune Feimster]

Mm.

[Tig Notaro]

But ain't nothing wrong with that. Am I right?

[Fortune Feimster]

That's right.

[Tig Notaro]

Mm. That's Right. Well, it was wonderful to see you as always. Fortune Feimster. Fortune Marie.

[Fortune Feimster]

You too, bud. What a treat.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah. Please, if you haven't already, submit your questions and advice requests to speakpipe.com HansonPod

[Fortune Feimster]

don't forget, our live show in LA is in just a few days, May 4th.

[Tig Notaro]

So come on out.

[Fortune Feimster]

Join us at the Wiltern in LA for Netflix is a jokes festival.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah. We're gonna have the cast of the Hunting Wives. The Hunting Wives. And if you want to see me on tour, go to tignotaro.com because I got a bunch of dates.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah, same. I'll be out there. Especially you Europe folks. I'm coming at the end of this month, so get your tickets.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah. And until next time, keep it pretty. Handsome Handsome is hosted by me, Tig Notaro, Mae Martin and Fortune theme ster. The show is produced, recorded and edited by Thomas Willette. Email [e-mail] Follow us on social media nsomepod what a podcast.

[Fortune Feimster]

What a podcast.

[Tig Notaro]

That was a headgum podcast.

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