Sarah Silverman asks WHY?!

Summary

Podcast Summary: Handsome – "Sarah Silverman asks WHY!!"

Episode Information

• Title: Handsome
• Host/Authors: Tig Notaro, Fortune Feimster, and May Martin
• Episode: "Sarah Silverman asks WHY!!"
• Release Date: July 29, 2025

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1. Celebrating the 100th Episode

In this milestone 100th episode, the hosts—Tig, Fortune, and May—express their excitement and gratitude for reaching such a significant milestone. The celebration is marked by a sense of accomplishment and reflection on the podcast's journey.

Notable Quotes:

• Fortune Feimster [00:40]: "We're Tig and Fortune, and we're joined by May Martin."
• May Martin [01:32]: "Today we are celebrating our 100th episode. Can you believe it?"

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2. Reflecting on Friendship and Personal Growth

The hosts delve into their personal relationships, highlighting the strength and depth of their friendship over the past two years. They discuss how their communication has improved, leading to a more profound understanding of one another.

Notable Quotes:

• May Martin [02:04]: "I feel like people really know us. It's nice."
• Tig Notaro [02:16]: "We've made it past two. We've made it past two years."

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3. Learning Surprising Things About Each Other

Each host shares unexpected revelations about their friends, emphasizing that people are multi-dimensional beyond their public personas.

Notable Quotes:

• May Martin [05:18]: "Fortune, you are also a very confident, very astute, very driven person."
• Fortune Feimster [06:44]: "You have such a curiosity about things and you're... more... you're harder on yourself than I would have ever guessed."

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4. The Importance of Communication and Expression

The conversation shifts to the significance of open communication and expressing gratitude. The hosts discuss how sharing feelings and being present can strengthen relationships and personal well-being.

Notable Quotes:

• Tig Notaro [26:28]: "I want to focus more energy on gratitude because I am grateful, but I would like a heavier dose."
• Fortune Feimster [26:45]: "We have to make it an environment where it's safe to ask questions and express yourself."

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5. Handling Shifts in Friendships and Beliefs

A substantial portion of the episode explores how to navigate changes in friends' beliefs and the challenges of maintaining connections when perspectives diverge. The hosts express a desire for transparency and continued dialogue to understand such shifts.

Notable Quotes:

• Tig Notaro [44:00]: "I have a schedule that keeps me working but keeps me mostly in my life."
• May Martin [50:20]: "If their convictions had really changed and you're their friend, you'd think they want to share that and they'd say, hey, I think you got it wrong."

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6. Sarah Silverman's Question and Philosophical Discussion

The central theme of the episode revolves around Sarah Silverman's question, "Why?" The hosts engage in a deep, philosophical discussion about the meaning of existence, the challenges of understanding life's purpose, and the human tendency to seek explanations.

Notable Quotes:

• May Martin [39:38]: "There was... there was no one knows why the world was born. We don't know why we were born."
• Tig Notaro [42:26]: "We don't know if we were born."

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7. Embracing Levity Amidst Depth

Balancing the heavy philosophical discussions, the hosts infuse moments of humor and silliness, reinforcing the podcast's inherent charm and lightheartedness despite tackling profound topics.

Notable Quotes:

• Fortune Feimster [55:11]: "We gotta keep being silly at times too."
• Tig Notaro [56:07]: "Maybe we could, as a trio, start Cooters and Hooters."

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8. Looking Ahead and Closing Thoughts

As the episode concludes, the hosts share their upcoming projects and performances, reinforcing their commitment to spreading joy and maintaining the authentic connection they've built with their audience. They encourage listeners to continue supporting the podcast and engaging with their content.

Notable Quotes:

• May Martin [58:07]: "I'm going to launch an online store selling animal paintings and 100% of the proceeds go to charity."
• Tig Notaro [60:06]: "Share your favorite [episodes] and bring them on into the handsome fold."

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Key Takeaways

• Milestone Celebration: The 100th episode marks significant growth and the deepening of friendships among the hosts.
• Personal Growth: Each host reflects on their individual evolutions, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness and communication.
• Philosophical Exploration: The episode uses Sarah Silverman's question "Why?" as a springboard for discussing existential themes.
• Maintaining Connections: Emphasis on transparency and dialogue to navigate shifts in friendships and beliefs.
• Balancing Depth with Humor: Despite tackling heavy topics, the podcast maintains its signature humor and lightheartedness.

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Conclusion

This 100th episode of Handsome serves as both a celebration of the podcast's success and a heartfelt exploration of personal growth, friendship, and the quest for meaning. Through a blend of introspection and humor, Tig Notaro, Fortune Feimster, and May Martin offer listeners a rich, engaging experience that resonates on both emotional and intellectual levels.

Transcript

[May Martin]

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[Fortune Feimster]

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[May Martin]

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[Fortune Feimster]

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[May Martin]

Friends on the handsome pod. Chatting with friends on the handsome pod.

[Tig Notaro]

Cheers. Welcome to the handsome, Handsome pond.

[Fortune Feimster]

We're Tig and Fortune, and we're joined by May Martin.

[Tig Notaro]

Oh, my gosh, Fortune, as I look at your beautiful, handsome T shirt, I realize I left all of my merchandise in Nashville.

[Fortune Feimster]

No.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah. Yeah. I'm so bombed.

[Fortune Feimster]

Where did you leave it?

[Tig Notaro]

In a Nashville?

[Fortune Feimster]

In a garbage can in the theater.

[Tig Notaro]

The hotel, I guess. In the theater. Yeah. I think I left it backstage.

[May Martin]

It looks great on you, Fortune. It looks great.

[Fortune Feimster]

Look, I'm wearing us on my shirt.

[Tig Notaro]

Thomas, is there a way I can still get merchandise? Oh, yeah, we can send you some. That's what I like to hear.

[Fortune Feimster]

Look at that. Well, I'm wearing this, you guys, because today is a very, very special episode in the Hazelnut.

[Tig Notaro]

Why is that, Podcast?

[Fortune Feimster]

Well, my friend, today we are celebrating our 100th episode. Can you believe it?

[Tig Notaro]

That's insanity.

[May Martin]

I thought we weren't gonna make it past that. First April.

[Fortune Feimster]

First April. We're at two years in.

[Tig Notaro]

We've made it past two.

[May Martin]

Yeah. Congrats, guys.

[Fortune Feimster]

And we're on shirts.

[May Martin]

It's one of my longest, healthiest relationships.

[Tig Notaro]

I know.

[May Martin]

And.

[Fortune Feimster]

And I feel like we just keep getting stronger and better and our communications improved and.

[Tig Notaro]

Yes. Did we have bad communication?

[Fortune Feimster]

Well, we communicate a lot now. More than we did two years ago.

[Tig Notaro]

That's true.

[May Martin]

We would be good candidates now if we wanted to try a triad in our lives. Cause we're really good now at, like a three way relationship, I think.

[Fortune Feimster]

Wait, what is a triad? It's a threesome.

[Tig Notaro]

A throuple.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

That's what a triad is.

[May Martin]

Yeah, a triad.

[Tig Notaro]

What about a triathlon?

[May Martin]

That's something else.

[Tig Notaro]

We could each take on one different part of the athlon.

[Fortune Feimster]

That is definitely different than a thruffle in a.

[May Martin]

In a. What's a triathlon again? Biking, swimming, running.

[Tig Notaro]

Yes.

[May Martin]

Oh, it's all cardio.

[Fortune Feimster]

I don't want to do any of them.

[May Martin]

No. Can I lift a little weight?

[Fortune Feimster]

You Won't be in a triathlon, but you sure can.

[Tig Notaro]

You can do. Yeah, you can stand around and flex.

[Fortune Feimster]

I think you would prefer to be in a throuple than a triathlon.

[May Martin]

Do you guys. Are you surprised by how I. I mean, I'm surprised by. Not that I didn't know it would be great, this podcast, but it's become so big and beautiful.

[Tig Notaro]

Yes.

[May Martin]

What a community.

[Tig Notaro]

Right. When I think that it's not as popular or big, then I go somewhere else. And then. I don't know. I don't. I'm shocked every. I guess that's all I'm saying. I'm shocked every time. I'm shocked that people listen. Who listens to and what they get out of it. The different ages, the demographics, all of it. I'm just like, oh, my Lord, it's such a fun treat to unwrap each time.

[May Martin]

And how well everybody knows us now. Like, we. Because in two years, we've all been through life changes and talked about it, and it really is like, I feel like people really know us. It's nice. I feel like I know you guys a lot better.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, for sure.

[Fortune Feimster]

Because when we started this, all of us were friends, but there were a lot of things we didn't know about each other.

[Tig Notaro]

Yes. Yes. And we've had some giggly times. We've had hard times. We've had really hard times.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

And then we've giggled again.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

You know, it always comes back to the giggles, which I love.

[Tig Notaro]

Yes.

[May Martin]

And then we giggled again.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah. I. I think that's an interesting opening too. What have we learned about each other that is surprising?

[Fortune Feimster]

Oh, good question.

[May Martin]

Thank you.

[Tig Notaro]

Because I would say it's a lot of it is surprising because the podcast was built on, hey, we're all friends in the comedy world, but we don't know each other deeply well. But we've enjoyed running into each other in the. In the comedy scene. And so we've certainly gotten to know each other's, you know, highs, lows, quirks, and, you know, all of those things.

[May Martin]

What is surprising, okay, what jumps out for me is like, well, we all have our, you know, you have your kind of stage Persona or whatever, and I guess I always like Fortune. I would say you're. You're so bubbly and self deprecating and stuff. But I. It's been wonderful to also meet this, like, warrior inside you. Like, you are also a very confident, very astute, very driven person. And. And so that's been cool. Like, it's, you know, what I mean, and then Tig, conversely, who. You know, you. You have a high status. Yeah. Take adversely. You're just sitting around. You're insecure, not driven. No, you're. You're. There's like a real softness and sweetness that. I mean, I know I obviously knew that was there but like there's a self deprecating soft sweetness there as well. So I guess it's just the different shades of ourselves that I've. You know, that we're three dimensional people. I guess. Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

And so what did you think? What did you think was the one dimensional part of us?

[May Martin]

Well, like the like. I guess. Yeah. Like fortune, like self deprecation and a goofball.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah.

[May Martin]

And you're kind of dry. Dry, wet. And. Yeah. And. And so it's been nice. Yeah. What'd you guys learn about me?

[Tig Notaro]

Well, you have.

[Fortune Feimster]

I didn't. You have such a curiosity about things and you're. You're more. You're harder on yourself than I would have ever guessed because I. You when I met you, you seem so confident and you are confident. But um, as we've gotten to know you more, you like riddled with.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

But I do feel like we've. I've seen like a more mature side of you in the last two years. It feels like you've sort of gotten to know yourself better and are more comfortable in your skin and so you're starting to be more confident in. As you should. And I've enjoyed seeing a transformation in you where.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

It just feels like you are coming into your own, which I really like seeing.

[May Martin]

Oh, I love that.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, I concur. I also, and this is not at all me thinking that marriage and kids or any of that kind of way of life is for everybody. But I have found it really interesting to see you may who. I mean, let's be honest, we all know that you can triathlon all over the place, if you know what I mean. But it feels like in your curiosity and your different paths and journeys and dating and all of that, that I think you've surprised yourself at what you're actually interested in and what you might want in life and I think is also still unfolding, which of course it's unfolding for all of us. But it's been really an interesting thing to watch with you. And also Stephanie and I were talking the other day about this side of you. I guess it goes into the curiosity category but that you really are an artist that is creating and writing and searching and you just cry. But It's.

[May Martin]

That's so nice.

[Tig Notaro]

But, you know, this is a business where people can just start churning things out just for the sake of churning things out. And, of course you're churning things out, but you do seem to be thoughtful and doing it for artistic reasons and that you have so much to say and express, and it comes through in writing TV shows or improv or comedy or music. Now.

[May Martin]

That's so nice. That is actually kind of a recent. Like, I feel like, really in the past year, I've been, like, feeling not as constrained by, like, what medium it takes and being like, yeah, I'll try doing a painting and finding it really rewarding. Yeah, that's so nice.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah. That's the other thing is your paintings that you've been doing, there's so many different ways that you're expressing yourself, and I just. Yeah, I wouldn't have guessed. And then I'm also always intrigued by how you just blow to shreds what people might expect from somebody who looks like you or presents in whatever way. And you just have. It is. It's a confidence and a security in your body and your feelings and attractions and. And that's another way of expressing yourself, that it's you. And it's really an interesting side of you.

[May Martin]

We can end the episode here.

[Fortune Feimster]

Our little cowboys growing up.

[May Martin]

That is so nice. That is so nice. But. Well, you can so easily tell yourself stories about who you are, especially if in our jobs, like, we're. We're narrativizing our own identity so much. And. And then people are then further boiling it down to write about you and your work and. And putting stuff on you. So, yeah, it's been. It's been nice to. Yeah. Like, I always was like, I'm bad at relationships. Right. Where I'm like, I'm not good at monogamy and things like that. And now I'm like, yeah, it's situational and. And, yeah, I can. I can really show up for. For people sometimes.

[Fortune Feimster]

You can't. You can. I think you. I think you did get in the habit, I saw early on with you, of you telling yourself you could or couldn't do things.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

And believing that. And I think you're getting away from that.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

Which you should, because, you know, you. I think, like Tig said, you are surprising yourself.

[May Martin]

Ah. Love it.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah. I mean, it's. It's really, really cool. I had a friend. I mean, I guess I still consider her a friend. I just haven't seen her probably in decades, but she was Very similar in that, like, man, she could write any type. I remember she put out an album of instrumental surf punk Sade covers.

[May Martin]

What?

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, like, she was just, she was so. And she would write plays and musicals. She's in like a heavy metal goth band now. She, she's just, she. She has so much to express and it's just pouring out of her and I wonder if you should meet her.

[May Martin]

But anyway, but also trying not to get hung up on like, what will sell or what do people want from me next? But like, what. What do I actually feel called to write or. Yeah, that's so cool.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[May Martin]

But you knew Fortune better than you knew me before, probably. So what surprised you about. About old Fortune Marie?

[Tig Notaro]

I mean, I guess I did, but I mean, you know, Super Bowl. I feel like we were in each other's orbits very loosely for a decade or more. 15, 10, 15 years. Something. But it was really, I mean, I could say I actually feel like I maybe knew you better because you were working with Stephanie, you know, doing those shows at the, you know, doing improv together. And so there were. I feel like it was almost an even amount of knowledge of each other and. But yeah, I think with Fortune, what has really surprised me is the gosh, here, this. Are you going to Cruz?

[May Martin]

I'm going to cry.

[Tig Notaro]

No, I'm not going to cry. I'm not going to cry. It's not that kind of thing at all.

[May Martin]

It's more like.

[Fortune Feimster]

Not that deep.

[Tig Notaro]

No, no. It's more on the heels of like. Yeah. Like when you were describing yourself as a goofball. You have such. You are a very business minded person. And, and this might just be the person in me that's not very educated, but I'm always like, gosh, Fortune, Fortune went to school. Fortune knows stuff. Wow. Like, and not that I, not that I thought that you were like some dumbass.

[Fortune Feimster]

Right.

[Tig Notaro]

But like, but you. Things to a very serious, grounded conversation. Whether it's, I mean, it's not like we sit around and we talk seriously about history, but I feel like you have that wealth of knowledge as much as you. But also an understanding I have of you, of your upbringing and how you, you know, the instability in your family that you wanted to write for yourself. And I think that's what's so, just so fascinating about getting to know people. And like how. What Just when you understand people better and you're like, oh, they're not actually who I thought they were. And then also seeing you right now, I did not. And I hope it's not offensive, but I did not see you rising up from the ashes in the way that you have. And it's really remarkable and it does give me chills right now because you have been dealt a heavy load and a hard load and, and I just, I'm like, I'm pretty floored.

[May Martin]

I'm pretty floored and excited.

[Fortune Feimster]

Oh, thanks.

[May Martin]

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[Fortune Feimster]

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[May Martin]

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[Fortune Feimster]

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[May Martin]

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[Fortune Feimster]

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[May Martin]

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[Tig Notaro]

I'm floored and I'm excited because, you know, there's so many. Are you familiar with, aside from, like, the obvious, like, stoicism, you know, like that idea of that theory of stoicism. Like, it's something that I try to follow and it's not to be misunderstood as to be you're just stoic and that you don't have feelings, but it's like you have control over how you're going to handle what's handed to you. You can make a decision how this is going to go. And I feel like you have really shown that.

[Fortune Feimster]

Oh, thank you.

[May Martin]

The rivers run deep with all of us. And you're right. Like, you meet someone and you meet them where they're at in the moment, and then you really can only know someone when you understand where they came from and their childhood and their teens. And it's rare to have two years of talking about that stuff in concentrated amounts of time.

[Tig Notaro]

And you're talking about it on a podcast, but then you're also having a side conversation or. And it's like, hey, hey, this is happening. Or, hey, you know, here's what's up and how's this. How are we going to deal with this and how are we going to handle this? And, you know, if I can just loop Thomas into this as well. I've known Thomas for a decade, and man, have I seen this guy grow and change. And I stand by the fact that he is by far the best, best option as a husband or father.

[Fortune Feimster]

But I.

[Tig Notaro]

Not that he has kids, but I.

[May Martin]

Just, you know, and producer and just keeping it together and like, championing us. And yeah, yeah, one of my.

[Fortune Feimster]

Together.

[Tig Notaro]

I've told this many times and maybe I've told it on this podcast or I don't know. But one of my favorite Thomas moments was When I. And I'm sure Thomas is tired of me telling this story, but it really does make him look so cool. He is, but I was being interviewed by a TV show on a stage. After a show, they came in town, set up a lighting situation, cameras, everything. Legit, legit interview. And they started asking me questions about something that was not at all what I signed up for in this interview. And I said, oh, I'm not wanting to talk about this or that person or whatever. And I just kind of moved on. And they were like, well, but why don't you? Why? And it was like a real gotcha kind of moment where they weren't letting me out. And Thomas was my assistant at the time, and he walked in front of the camera and he went, this interview is over.

[May Martin]

What?

[Tig Notaro]

I did not ask him to do it. He took total, like, he took charge and pulled the microphone off, and he was like, we're leaving. We're done here. And I just looked back at him, and I was like, nicely done.

[May Martin]

That's incredible.

[Tig Notaro]

Oh, my God. I was so blown away. And that's this weird curve ball in Thomas where it's like, he's absolutely a. A decent, solid dude, but he. Here is the boundary. Yeah. You know?

[May Martin]

Yeah. Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

And that. That was fun to find out.

[May Martin]

And the protectiveness there. That's so nice.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah.

[May Martin]

Thank you. Would you do that? Would you do that for me? A fortune. Absolutely. Anytime this podcast gets out of hand.

[Tig Notaro]

I'll step in and stop it.

[May Martin]

Yeah, this podcast is over.

[Fortune Feimster]

We. We can't not mention you, Tig. Obviously, there's so many wonderful qualities. Not that this surprised me, but I so have appreciated the wisdom that you impart, not only on the podcast, but in real life. I think, especially in this last year, going through the different things that I've gone through personally. I've had some really great private conversations with you on the phone or on text, where you are just a great friend and really show up and. And you don't stop at just, like, you know, it'll be okay. You, like, give really amazing advice, and check out this book. I learned this in my experience. I did. You know, it's just, like, really thoughtful, meaningful conversations with you that I've come to really appreciate, and that has helped me a lot. So, yeah, you just really show up for people, and. And on the podcast, you. You impart some really great wisdom, and I know a lot of that comes from a lot of the hard things that you've gone through, and coming out the other end of that And. And seeing you appreciate life. I'm not seeing anyone have such genuine appreciation for what you have.

[May Martin]

Yeah. Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

Thank you.

[May Martin]

I really. There are so many things about your life that I want to emulate or find myself unconsciously, like, putting on my vision board. And, yeah, both of you, like, meet your heroes. You're both the best. I'm crying. I can't help it.

[Fortune Feimster]

You guys.

[Tig Notaro]

It's all so nice to hear, but it's also equally as nice to. To say, and I do appreciate my life. And you can kind of. I think it's human nature to think that you appreciate it and you've got a handle on, oh, man, did I learn my lesson. And then life gets going, and you completely forget that lesson. And I do that time and time again. But I'm very thankful that I have a well to go back to and straighten myself out and be like, man, I remember what it was like begging. Begging to live through a moment or begging, please, I just want to have a kid, you know, or even just to find a partner. And, you know, in those moments, I always say to Stephanie, I'm like, I am crazy about you 99% of the time, but 1% of the time, I cannot stand you. And she's like, same. But I do. I appreciate my life, but I actually am also in a point in my life where I feel like I need more guidance to be even more appreciative, because there are things that I cannot believe, get on my nerves or that I dread doing. And I'm like, what are you talking about? You are the luckiest person alive, and you need to get it together. You know what I mean?

[Fortune Feimster]

Human nature.

[Tig Notaro]

I know it is. But I really want to focus more energy on, I guess, gratitude, because I am grateful, but I would like a heavier dose. Heavier.

[May Martin]

You're right. It's so nice to say this stuff. And what in. In your regular friendships, it's so rare that you, like, are like, these are all the things I love about you and are. And I'm grateful for. I want to. I want to do this with all my friends. They'll be like, oh, gosh.

[Tig Notaro]

I remember when my stepfather, who I think I've talked about how. Talk about stoic in the way of being, you know, you know, just like a robot. But when my mother passed away, I remember him making a toast. We had, like, all of her old friends and our old neighbors, and my brother and I had our childhood friends over and our families and stuff, and. And my stepfather was like, this is what she would have wanted when she was alive. And I never did that for her and I regret it. And it was such a moment where I thought, yeah, like, you should write that letter. You should tell your friend that thing. You should have a surprise party for somebody for no reason, you know what I mean? And just feel like, God, I love you. Yeah. Those are fun little things to remind yourself to do. Yeah. And I really felt it when my stepfather was making a toast to my mother, you know?

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah.

[May Martin]

I'm feeling very grateful at the moment. Cause I. I don't know if you were wondering where I am, but I'm in my ex fiance's apartment in Toronto. I had nowhere to record. I can't. I'm at my parents house and I can't like, try to be funny audibly in a room with that. They'd be like listening and being like, well. And so I reached out and she's out of town and she told me where the key was. And it's just, I'm so grateful for it, like, and it's so nice to be around objects. I remember from when we were together, I love an object and like photographs and. Yeah. So I'm grateful for that relationship and with Lindsay and. Yeah, I'm not snooping. I'm not gonna snoop.

[Fortune Feimster]

All right.

[Tig Notaro]

Are you typically a snooper?

[May Martin]

Well, you know, I think that's a yes.

[Tig Notaro]

I mean, it goes back to your.

[May Martin]

Curiosity, so it's my innate curiosity.

[Tig Notaro]

Your innate curiosity?

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

Do a little peekaboo in her. In her drawers, so to speak.

[May Martin]

Yes. You know, see what's going on with her, with her current relation.

[Tig Notaro]

Is she home right now?

[May Martin]

No, she's up in Prince Edward County. Like, they, they, her and her partner live most of the time up in the countryside.

[Tig Notaro]

But do you like her partner?

[May Martin]

Oh, my God, yeah. The best. Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

And this person was at our Toronto show, right?

[Fortune Feimster]

Oh, yeah.

[May Martin]

Yes, that's right. Yeah. Lindsay's partner. They both were. And Lindsay's partner asked a question at the live show.

[Tig Notaro]

Yes, yes.

[May Martin]

And they're just gems, both of them. Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

Oh, that's nice. Yeah, it's good that y' all are friends.

[May Martin]

Oh, my God. Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

Oh, look at us. What a moment of sharing. Sharing is caring.

[Tig Notaro]

Yes. 100 episodes in. I guess we have done 101. If somebody's gonna start crunching numbers because Thomas did put together one episode that was all of our. What was it? The greatest hits. Yeah.

[May Martin]

And then also we did one when we didn't know the format of the podcast yet. We did one with A guest?

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, we did a couple.

[May Martin]

One with Brett Goldstein as a guest and Atsuko.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, one with Atsuko.

[May Martin]

Yeah. Were they.

[Tig Notaro]

Do we still have those recorded?

[May Martin]

Yeah, they're somewhere.

[Tig Notaro]

Maybe those will get released one day.

[Fortune Feimster]

Then we were like, oh, my God, it's a nightmare just to schedule us.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

If we then add another busy person to this, we will not get anything done.

[Tig Notaro]

That's correct.

[May Martin]

Yeah. Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

So thank God.

[May Martin]

We wanted to hog more of the air time.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah. We don't want no guests. Get out of here. We got feelings to share.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah. I feel like it. It works nicely.

[May Martin]

It does.

[Fortune Feimster]

Our.

[Tig Notaro]

Our show. Our little.

[Fortune Feimster]

I love all the sharing of.

[May Martin]

I'm.

[Fortune Feimster]

I just turned 45. I know it's hard to believe because I wear a lot of cranes and.

[May Martin]

You use your depuffer.

[Fortune Feimster]

I use my depuffer. But it did. It was a time, and probably because of what's going on in my life, where it just made me very introspective and just thinking about a lot. But I'm on. I am of the opinion of, like, you think nice things about people or you appreciate something about someone. Like, definitely tell them. And with my mom being sick, that definitely hits home even more. Like, you're saying tig about your stepdad having regrets. That's the last thing I want is to be like, I wish I'd said something to somebody or did something differently. I just wanna. I wanna move forward deliberately and not. Not so out to lunch. You know, there's been times where I've just worked so much where I've just been a little out to lunch, and I don't want that. I want to be very present and tell people my life. Things that, you know, are important and meaningful and not just. And not shy away from stuff.

[May Martin]

Yeah, yeah, yeah. Do you. You, in the past have had a tendency to, like, just keep that stuff private and. And just.

[Fortune Feimster]

I just went through a period of time where I was just working so much. I just wasn't just this, like. I don't know why.

[Tig Notaro]

I just was, like.

[Fortune Feimster]

Threw myself into that and just was kind of coasting a bit where I wasn't. I wasn't, you know, connecting with friends like I should and just wasn't taking the time to. To appreciate some of the smaller things in life and, like, sitting on a bench. Like, sitting on a bench. I wasn't sitting on benches.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

And I just want to be more cognizant of. I don't want to be. I don't want to be a robot. I Don't want to be just like, next show, like, hamster Wheel. I gotta write this. I gotta do this. I don't. I don't want that.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, that's like that. I think I told you, and I've probably mentioned it on the podcast, but I just realized I was gone filming. I was touring, and I was just like, yeah, I'm working, making money, sending it home. But it's like, I want to be home with. With my family doing the activities that they're doing. I want to be. I want to go play tennis. Yeah. I want to go. I want to be there at the baseball game. I want to be everywhere with them. And I came up with, like, a schedule of all podcasting, Star Trek, and touring that is really scaled down. That keeps me working, but keeps me mostly in my life. Yeah, that's awesome. And it's awesome. I'm so proud of it. I can't even tell you. I'm so proud to have those things in motion but not ruling my life.

[May Martin]

I feel like I'm still in my hustler era. I still have this scarcity mentality of saying yes to things, but I'm getting better at it. And I'm also, like, in my last relationship, I was like. Immediately was like, oh, no, I'm happy to just cancel everything and sit in this house. So I know I have that in me, too. So.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, yeah, yeah. But, yeah, people used to ask, like, oh, what's your, you know, work life balance? How do you do that? I'd be like, you know, I'm trying to do this. I'm trying to. And then I realized, like, I am lying.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

It wasn't that I was, like, purposefully lying. It was that I was lying to myself. I had made no conscious decisions to shift my life in any way. And it wasn't like I was never home, because I would certainly have the ability to stay home for weeks or months at a time. But I just wasn't really, really making the decisions that would. That would get the work life balance in order. And I'm. Anyway, I'm just like. I'm just so excited. Yeah, that's awesome. Yeah. I'm really, really happy about it.

[May Martin]

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[May Martin]

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[May Martin]

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[May Martin]

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[Tig Notaro]

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[Tig Notaro]

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[Fortune Feimster]

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[Tig Notaro]

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[Fortune Feimster]

It's insane.

[Tig Notaro]

It's so great, and it's just so perfect.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

Because we do love getting ridiculous questions and earnest ones, but. And Sarah, man, she can. She walks that line really well.

[May Martin]

Yes, she does.

[Tig Notaro]

Her.

[May Martin]

Have you seen her new special? Is amazing.

[Fortune Feimster]

Oh, it's so good.

[Tig Notaro]

Yes. Yeah. She is nothing but silly and nothing but, like. She's so smart. She's just.

[Fortune Feimster]

I like seeing her out and about in the comedy world, too. It's like, you see her and you're just like, start smiling.

[May Martin]

Always the best. Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

Well, let's hear Sarah Silverman once again asking today's question for the hundredth episode.

[May Martin]

Hey, handsome, it's me.

[Tig Notaro]

It's Sarah Silverman. I just wanted to say congratulations on.

[May Martin]

Your first hundred EPPs.

[Tig Notaro]

That's short for episodes. Cool.

[May Martin]

Also, I have another question, and my question is, why?

[Tig Notaro]

Why?

[Fortune Feimster]

Wow. That could apply to so many things.

[May Martin]

But I really relate to that feeling that, like, when it comes to you. Oh, why are we here? Why. Why are we. What is this? What's happening?

[Tig Notaro]

Stephanie told me that the other day. Finn goes, I'm so sick of not knowing things. And she was like, what do you mean? He was like, why are we here? Why is there a son? Oh, my God. I just want to know.

[May Martin]

Oh, my God. I felt that panic my whole childhood and teens and, like, I really. I mean, was it. Was it Finn who wrote that song?

[Tig Notaro]

No, that was Max.

[May Martin]

There was. No one knows. We don't know why the world was born. We don't know why we were born.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah. How. How does the world work? We don't know how the world works.

[May Martin]

It was the sun rises west, the sun goes down east, which is profound. And then we don't know how the world works. Yeah. Oh, man. But, no, I really relate to that. I mean, I. I mean, I know it's bad because it uses water, but I talk to ChatGPT quite a bit, and I often ask it, like, what the hell is going on? And, like, is. Are we in a simulation? Are we. What's going on? Do you want to hear? What? Chat? Well, I just googled why is the world the way it is? You want to hear what it says?

[Tig Notaro]

Well, yeah, but you're destroying the world a little bit by asking, but go on.

[May Martin]

I know. Well, that's part of this duality we live in. Like, how do we live in the world and participate in it when it's such a mess and all the systems are so damaging? Okay. So it says the world is the way it is due to a combination of natural processes, human actions, and the inherent nature of reality. From the formation of the Earth and the laws of physics to the development of cultures and individual choices, a complex interplay of factors shapes our world. That's.

[Tig Notaro]

I mean, did that satiate your question?

[May Martin]

No.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

Seems like not a lot of. Just nonsense.

[Tig Notaro]

It sounds like a robot answered you, to be honest.

[May Martin]

100%. Yeah. Yeah. And then it. I don't know. You can put on different lenses and see the world in different ways. And at the moment, it really feels overwhelmingly negative. Like, worldwide.

[Tig Notaro]

Our capacity for cruelty world works. We don't know why we were born.

[May Martin]

You know what my mom said, though?

[Tig Notaro]

We don't know if we were born.

[May Martin]

That was my favorite line. We don't know if we were born.

[Tig Notaro]

Yes.

[May Martin]

Because. Yeah, we don't really have any evidence outside of our own minds that any. Like, when you close your eyes, everything could not be there. We don't. But my mom one time, because I was like, God, it's just. There's so much suffering. You're just born, you're immediately suffering. And. And my mom was like, but we don't know what the alternative is. Like, being is better than not being, as far as we know. And I was like, that's true. I guess I'd rather be than not be, but.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah, that's a good point.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

I don't dig too deep into all these kind of questions.

[May Martin]

You don't?

[Fortune Feimster]

No.

[May Martin]

Why? Because, you know, it would drive you nuts.

[Tig Notaro]

I just.

[Fortune Feimster]

That some things can't be answered. So I don't drive myself crazy trying to figure it out.

[May Martin]

Right.

[Fortune Feimster]

And maybe that's a little, you know, turning a blind, Not. Not to big important things, but just these, like, more philosophical questions.

[May Martin]

Right.

[Fortune Feimster]

I don't. I don't dig too deep into that.

[May Martin]

Right. Yeah, you gotta, like, let those questions sit loosely on your shoulder because really, you gotta get up and have breakfast and have a shower and live your life.

[Tig Notaro]

When I was a kid, and I've probably mentioned this before, but, like, I used to really, really think that if I grabbed a pack of smokes, headed off into the woods and sat on, like, a little rock, like a, you know, boulder, I could really figure out.

[May Martin]

The answer to, yeah, like Siddhartha, like the Buddha. He sat under the lotus tree.

[Tig Notaro]

And yeah, I really thought I was going to come up with the answer to how the world works and why we're here and what this is all about, but I never did, unfortunately. But I have to say, one of my big whys that's going on for me right now is. And I guess the answer to my big why would be going directly to specific people and sitting down and asking them why. But I've had a handful of friends that have really veered off from what I think thought was similar thinking socially, politically, and they've really veered off. And I think part of my why is also, why didn't you just share that you were heading off in a different direction? Because everybody is kind of left wondering, why, what happened? Like, what why? It goes back to the why. And it could be a different feeling if somebody was like, hey, this is kind of weird, but I didn't feel this way before. And here's what's. Something in me has really shifted. And not that I'd be all for that, but it would be more understandable.

[May Martin]

You know, you would think that they. If. If their convictions had really changed and you're their friend, you'd think that they want to share that and they'd say, hey, I think you got it wrong, and come with me. Like that. They don't. Do you think.

[Fortune Feimster]

Do you think they're aware that they've shifted so much and.

[Tig Notaro]

Yes, they do. Okay. Yes, I was.

[May Martin]

I was in. In Nantucket. I was having my brunch, like, at the hotel restaurant or whatever, and it was just one other table next to me, and I didn't have my phone with me or anything, so I was just listening to their conversations, and it was like a cartoon of, like, they went through everything from, like, trans people are bad. Like, you know, women are dumb. Like, every immigration. Like, they went through everything, and they were just. They were getting revved up. It was this, like, three couples, sort of older couples. And they were. But I was like, what's going on here? Because they were really enjoying. They were fueling each other, and they were. But they were really connecting over it and being like, God, it's hard. It's so hard. They were like, they. Them. Like, it doesn't make sense. God, it's just. It's hard. It's just hard. And they were like. And I was like, where is this coming from? Because I could feel their, like, panic or fear.

[Fortune Feimster]

And that's wild because it's on. Like, in what way does that affect them at all?

[May Martin]

Completely. Yeah. And they always. And you can always hear them be like, oh, yeah, it doesn't make sense. You know, if someone called me a day, I'd tell them where they could stick it. And it's like, you just did it. You just said they. But they. Then, yeah, I felt like that they were finding community over it too. And so I guess it is just like these things come in waves and cycles and like a sense. Maybe it's the same existential fear that we're all feeling and that there's people's solution is just to build up their walls and grab what's theirs. And you know what I mean?

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah. I mean, because it is true. It's like if I had a major shift in the way I was going about my life. And of course people have shifts and you change the way you're thinking and you change. I mean, even down to comedy. Like, look at Sarah Silverman. I mean, her material has shifted so much over the years. You know, where she's even had moments of saying, like, oh, hey, this didn't age well. And. But she's keeping you in conversation, like, oh, I've learned this. I've changed. I've gone in this direction, or, oh, I said this the wrong way or I apologize or I'd do it better now, or I'm, you know, like, she really keeps you in conversation.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

And then there are, like I said, if I made a massive shift and did not fill in anybody on where this came from, and I just went with it so far away from where I was planted with the people I was growing with, you know, and again, it's like, it's okay to change and it's okay to, to say that you have different ideas or that, you know, but just like, why? What? Like, give us some more information. Stay in conversation.

[May Martin]

I know, because the fact that it, like Sarah's series I love you, America was. She was really talking to people. And I, it's like, I. I know the work shouldn't fall on us to always build bridges and. But often when you, when you do engage in conversations with people who. Yeah. Whose thoughts on human rights and things, like, are so different from your own. They do come around. They haven't.

[Tig Notaro]

But then there are, like, I'm saying, people that.

[May Martin]

Oh, yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

Thought were on that side of things and then they. That you see them drifting away and with. No, they. They're not staying in conversation. I would, I would want to Explain myself. If I was seeing the light, I thought that was so different from the world I was in.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

I guess I can compare it to veganism if you want, like, a comparison. It's like I saw the light. You can think I'm weird, you cannot follow what I'm doing, but I'm going to talk you through how I got here. And I know it's very different, but I'm saying that people make massive shifts. But just explain what happened, like, where is this coming from and what sent you in that direction.

[May Martin]

Yeah, because the fact that people are reluctant to do that makes it seem like there is some awareness somewhere or shame about it.

[Tig Notaro]

Shame?

[May Martin]

Yes, that they are aware that. That they are punching down or. Or, you know.

[Tig Notaro]

Yes. If you slither away quietly, there is shame. There's shame. There is shame. There is shame. If you are slithering away, there is shame.

[May Martin]

Well, it's the same like when people break up and they can't talk to you about it, or like they. Or if you've ever been ghosted or broken up with where it's just like, this isn't working. It's often they can't talk about it because they know.

[Fortune Feimster]

Face it.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, well, yeah, I had an experience with somebody recently where there was some weirdness in the air. And I was like, I'm gonna go up and just say, hey, there's some stuff going on. Obviously would love to talk to you about it. And she was kind of defensive and weird, and we were in this, like, group situation and she avoided me the rest of the time. And I thought if somebody came up to me and said, I'd like to talk to you, I would follow back up with that. I would be like, hey, so what is it that's going on? You know, what was that? I would not slither away.

[Fortune Feimster]

I think not everybody's capable of that. Emotional level of, you know, communication.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, I just. I walked away from that going, man, like, why. Why on earth would you slither away and avoid me if there wasn't any shame in there?

[May Martin]

And I guess part of it, like, I. I think I take responsibility too, for sometimes the. You have to make an. Which I think you do take. But in general, like, we have to make it an environment where it's safe to ask questions and safe for people to express themselves, you know, and not feel like they're going to immediately get called, you know, a bigot because they don't understand. They. Them, you know, like, we gotta.

[Tig Notaro]

In this.

[Fortune Feimster]

You mean like Grace?

[May Martin]

Yeah, totally. Oh, my God. Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

Like in this particular conversation, I truly went out. We were like kind of giving each other awkward smiles, like, hi. Because there was obviously something to discuss. And then that's when I was like, hey, so I'd love to talk to you about the, you know, elephant in the room. Yeah. And slither, slither, slither. So anyway, that all goes back to why. Why stop slithering.

[Fortune Feimster]

There's been a lot of whys, I think, since COVID times.

[Tig Notaro]

So much.

[Fortune Feimster]

I was thinking about that today. Just like this pre and post Covid world, things just so significantly shifted.

[May Martin]

They really did. And it would have been nice if it was a moment where that would have unified us as human beings. And it does feel like people just went to their little caves and went online and got radicalized a little bit sometimes.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah. Got into podcasts.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

Just started taking in podcasts and. Yeah, stop talking to people. But keep on doing that. Keep supporting the show.

[May Martin]

Yeah, yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

Glad you listen. And Sarah does not have a follow up answer. When I asked her.

[May Martin]

No, I was hoping she.

[Fortune Feimster]

She doesn't have any answers for us.

[Tig Notaro]

She said that it's just. It's like it's an open ended why. It's for everything and anything, which I think is. It's perfect. That works.

[May Martin]

Very timely. And I will say I really admire that about Sarah. Her fluidity in terms of her. Yeah. And transparency about her journey as a person. I hope I do that. I hope. Yeah. I just think we should all aspire to just as we get older because no doubt younger generations, there are going to be things that I do not understand or that I immediately feel defensive. There's all kinds of things probably now. And yeah, we got to keep talking to young people and keep learning and talking to people and.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah, yeah. And we gotta keep being silly at times too.

[May Martin]

Oh, for sake. That's all levity because we're gonna have.

[Fortune Feimster]

A lot of wise and a lot of. And a lot of frustrations and keeping it. You know, obviously these things are important and you gotta take them seriously. But also taking time to. To let the air out of the tires for a minute.

[Tig Notaro]

Oh, my gosh, 1 million percent. People are. I hear from people all the time how thankful they are for just like a break from the insanity of life and the silliness and the singing and the Fortune Marie and the Mayfax and all of it. It's like, you know, there's obviously plenty of news stations you can go and drain your energy into, but like, we'll touch on things from time to time. But in general. You know, this is. This is a nice place for us to go.

[Fortune Feimster]

This is where you hear about being a pineapple apart.

[Tig Notaro]

That's right.

[May Martin]

I really.

[Fortune Feimster]

For my own cowboys.

[May Martin]

Appreciate it.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah, yeah, Ghost.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah, Ghost.

[Fortune Feimster]

Ponti's galore. Checking out those gams.

[May Martin]

Motorboating.

[Fortune Feimster]

Motor boating, my friends.

[May Martin]

Cooters.

[Fortune Feimster]

Cooters galore.

[Tig Notaro]

Cooters and hooters.

[Fortune Feimster]

Cooters and hooters and pooters.

[Tig Notaro]

You need to start your own. Or maybe we could, as a trio, start Cooters and Hooters. Cooters and Hooters.

[May Martin]

Put it on the list.

[Tig Notaro]

Well, yeah, put that on the list.

[Fortune Feimster]

A list that we haven't. We will get to it.

[Tig Notaro]

We will get to it in our retirement.

[May Martin]

You know what? I was watching a documentary about the Beach Boys with my mom last night, and my mom goes, God, their harmonies are amazing. And then out of nowhere, she doesn't listen to the pod. I don't know where she goes. You know, you and Tig and Fortune should do harmonies. Like, do a. Do like a barber shop quartet. And I went, you. Have you heard our theme song? And she was like, no. So I went on YouTube and I played the theme song and she was like, oh, wow. So that's one thing we've checked off the list.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah. We could be a. What's. What's a three person triad. A triad. All right.

[Tig Notaro]

Triathlon.

[May Martin]

Triathlon.

[Tig Notaro]

That's a long term. The throttle. Is it?

[May Martin]

Yeah. Yeah. That's like if you really on your deathbed, you're holding hands with two people. You did a triathlon.

[Tig Notaro]

Yeah.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

All right, well, that was a really special episode.

[Fortune Feimster]

It was so full of emotion, so introspective. Lots of philosophical wanderings and a lot.

[Tig Notaro]

Of why, why stay in conversation Sensation.

[May Martin]

Yeah.

[Fortune Feimster]

So was our hundred episodes. Congratulations, you guys.

[May Martin]

Yeah, congrats.

[Tig Notaro]

Thank you, Mr. Thomas, for steering the ship.

[Fortune Feimster]

Yeah. Thank you for everyone that's listening to this.

[May Martin]

Thank you.

[Tig Notaro]

Awesome pod.

[Fortune Feimster]

Because we get as much joy doing it as you guys have told us you get from listening to it.

[May Martin]

We really do.

[Tig Notaro]

Thank you guys.

[May Martin]

For me, it's a privilege to produce this show. And I feel like this, you know, the podcast spreads so much joy, and to participate in that is really meaningful for me. So thank you all.

[Fortune Feimster]

So why do we do this podcast? Oh, to spread joy.

[May Martin]

Handsome.

[Tig Notaro]

Handsome joy.

[May Martin]

Yeah. Yeah.

[Tig Notaro]

Well, speaking of spreading handsome joy, I'm going to tell you where I'm spreading my handsome joy. If you don't mind, please. Westampton Beach Performing Arts center in West Hampton Beach. New York. August 17, Provincetown Town hall in P Town, Massachusetts. August 23, Beau Rivage Resort & Casino, Biloxi, Mississippi. September 27. Also go to tignotaro.com to see When I'm working out my new material at Largo Dynasty, Typewriter and Comedy Bar, bouncing back and forth between Toronto and Los Angeles. What do you have going on, my friends?

[May Martin]

I got nothing. Live for a little while. So yeah, you can listen to my music or I'm gearing up to launch something very cool. I'll probably talk about it a bunch more, but I'm gonna launch, like I do these animal paintings. I'm launching an online store selling the animal paintings and 100% of the proceeds go to charity. And I'm excited about that. That'll be launching in the next week or two, I think, so stay tuned.

[Tig Notaro]

That's because you can't stop expressing yourself.

[Fortune Feimster]

Can't stop, won't stop.

[Tig Notaro]

Don't stop. Can stop.

[May Martin]

Won't stop, can stop. Won't stop. Yeah. What about you, Fortune?

[Fortune Feimster]

I'm going to Iceland soon. August 8th in Reykjavik. I'm doing a show there for their pride. So if you live in Iceland, check that out. And then San Antonio and Houston, Norfolk and Richmond and DC, Burlington, Vermont, Atlanta, Cincinnati, Chicago, Salt Lake City. Fortunep.com for those tickets.

[Tig Notaro]

Well, there you have it. Please, should we say share this episode?

[May Martin]

Maybe not this one. As the first episode that you share, share your favorite.

[Fortune Feimster]

Start with Sarah Silverman's first episode with us where she asks about cleaning undercarriages.

[Tig Notaro]

Yes, that's right. Solid episode. There's so many great ones. Share one with a friend or family member and bring them on into the handsome fold.

[May Martin]

And keep chatting to each other on the Facebook page, the Reddit page. Keep sending us questions for the pretty little episodes and we love to hear from you.

[Fortune Feimster]

Get your merch. Look at this fun, handsome shirt right here.

[Tig Notaro]

Look at that. You can see that on YouTube.

[Fortune Feimster]

Merch in the biz.

[Tig Notaro]

Head on over to YouTube and see Handsome Fortune face in a handsome T shirt.

[Fortune Feimster]

Well, you guys are awesome. What a. What a joy and treat to do this with you.

[May Martin]

Ditto.

[Tig Notaro]

Yes, it is. Kisses. Happy 100th. You both look happy. 150.

[May Martin]

Happy hundred.

[Tig Notaro]

Alrighty. Well, until the next time, keep it handsome.

[May Martin]

Handsome Handsome is hosted by Me May Martin, Tig Notaro and Fortune Feimster. The show is produced, recorded and edited by Thomas Willette. Email [e-mail] and please follow us on social media. Ansomepod.

[Fortune Feimster]

What a podcast.

[May Martin]

What a podcast that was a headgum podcast.

[Fortune Feimster]

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[May Martin]

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[Fortune Feimster]

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