100: Our 100th Episode!

Summary

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Happy Wife Happy Life – Episode 100: “Our 100th Episode!”

Release Date: March 2, 2026
Hosts: Kendahl Landreth & Jordan Myrick

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Episode Overview

In their milestone 100th episode, comedians and spouses Kendahl and Jordan celebrate “Happy Wife Happy Life” by tackling a whirlwind of listener-submitted relationship questions—aiming for a record-breaking 100 answers (ending up at 73)! The conversation is a rapid-fire blend of heartfelt advice, playful banter, and personal anecdotes, covering everything from jealousy and marriage to moving in together and navigating differences. The episode brims with comedic energy, vulnerable moments, and the couple’s signature unfiltered charm.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. The 100 Questions Challenge

[00:56 - 01:47]

• Kendahl and Jordan vow to answer every question sent in, regardless of topic or awkwardness.
• “We usually answer like two questions because we start, when we start yapping… today we’re doing 100.” — Kendahl (01:08)

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2. Relationship Scenarios & Advice

Jealousy Toward a Partner’s Best Friend

[01:48 - 02:30]

• Advice: Assess if the friend’s behavior is inappropriate or if it’s personal insecurity—therapy can help.
• “Sometimes you have to stop and get your own hobbies…” — Kendahl (01:57)

Is Someone Marriage Material?

[02:52 - 03:37]

• Kendahl: “Watch them go through something hard. If they completely flounder, panic, can't handle it—I don’t think that’s marriage material.” (03:24)

Intimacy Issues for Mask Lesbians

[03:39 - 04:47]

• Normalize feeling anxiety about receiving; suggest consuming queer-representative porn to boost confidence.
• “Watch, like, mask for mask or something.” — Jordan (04:47)

Breaking Up Kindly

[04:47 - 05:32]

• “You just break up with them—you don’t have to say you’re not attracted to them. That’s horrible.” — Jordan (04:55)

Is Being Married Different than Dating?

[05:48 - 06:24]

• Kendahl: “It just feels like a big responsibility. You’re a wife; get in there.” (06:19)
• “I feel more mature… every day I go, you need to step it up.” — Kendahl

Coming Out to a Boyfriend

[07:16 - 07:38]

• “He’s great, I’m just gay. That’s exactly what you say.” — Jordan (07:16)
• Honesty is best; your boyfriend may be relieved and it will make sense in retrospect.

Creating Connection Before Sex/Big Flirting

[07:59 - 09:50]

• Build connection through mutual activities and dates; flirting will arise naturally, but don’t rush intimacy.
• “You don’t have to have sex until you ever want to. Ever.” — Kendahl (09:29)

Supporting Partners with Homophobic Family

[10:05 - 12:31]

• Highlight the complexity of estrangement; recommend creating safe spaces filled with queer joy and asking your partner what she needs.
• “Surround her with queer joy… so it’s not just so sad all the time.” — Kendahl (12:20)

Essentials for Moving In Together

[12:48 - 13:18]

• King-size bed, separate closets, personal office if possible, and two blankets (Danish method) are recommended.

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3. Relationship Dynamics & Personal Insights

Dividing Chores & Living Together

[18:47 - 19:38]

• Dishwasher duties overlap (“It’s a chore where you will step in if I’m not able…” — Kendahl (19:10))
• Other chores are more distinct (laundry, gas-filling, bed-making).

Saying “I Love You” for the First Time

[19:38 - 20:42]

• Accidental first “I love you” from Kendahl on the phone; counted by Jordan as an icebreaker for a genuine exchange later.

Handling Breakups With Deep Attachments

[20:44 - 21:43]

• Promote cultivating interests outside the relationship to avoid emotional dependence.

Pet Names and Pre-“I Love You” Terms of Endearment

[16:24 - 16:38]

• “Baby’s hot. I like ‘baby’ a lot.” — Kendahl
• Kendahl dislikes "babe" for its frat-boy connotation; Jordan likes it due to the movie “Babe: Pig in the City”.

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4. Notable Quotes & Moments

On Getting Over a Long-Term Relationship

[16:46 - 17:25]

• “You have to get back on the town, do some hookups just to clear out your system.” — Jordan (16:46)
• Use internet communities for solidarity.

On Engagement Length & Wedding Size

[23:09 - 23:33; 36:09 - 36:37]

• “Who cares?… As long as you’re on the same page.” — Jordan (23:10)
• “The more the wedding, the more expensive the wedding, the higher chance of divorce…” — Jordan (36:11)

Fun Date/Dynamic Ideas

[26:13 - 26:29; 47:09 - 47:29]

• “Living room picnic: go to Trader Joe’s, get snacks, put out a blanket in the living room.” — Jordan (47:15)
• Kendahl wants more quiet, pub-style bar dates to chat.

When Is It Time to Give Up on a Crush?

[44:37 - 45:12]

• “If I’ve learned anything, especially with lesbians, if they want to be with you, they’re going to be with you.” — Kendahl (44:49)

On Open Relationships/Polyamory

[41:10 - 41:39]

• “We’re not poly, and I don’t think we would ever be polyamorous… but life is long.” — Jordan/Kendahl (41:14)

On Love Languages

[48:25 - 49:16]

• “The healthier you get…the less love languages are actually important. The healthier a relationship is, the less they’re important.” — Kendahl (48:33)

Biggest Relationship Misconception

[29:30 - 31:13]

• Most arguments stem from misunderstandings, not fundamental flaws.

On “Finding the One”

[50:54 - 52:26]

• “I don’t feel like there’s the ‘one’—we built this thing over time together.” — Kendahl (51:04)

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5. Light-Hearted & Personal Segments

Silly Questions & Traditions

• Would you still love your wife if she became a worm? (38:06) Both: “No, neither of us would be happy!”
• Favorite snacks for a personal vending machine: Diet Coke, Rice Krispie Treats, Dr. Pepper, Bugles, etc. (45:27)

Behind the Scenes: Who Wakes Up First? Who Cooks?

[54:30 - 55:06]

• Jordan wakes up 1–2 hours before Kendahl.
• Jordan cooks more, Kendahl does more dishes.

Kids or Horse?

[56:19 - 57:08]

• Still deciding; leaning toward fostering later, but open. Kendahl: “If I had two lives, I’d have kids in one…” (55:59)
• “Should we have a horse or a kid?” — Kendahl (57:05)

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Timestamps for Important Segments

• Opening & 100 Questions Premise: [00:19 - 01:47]
• Jealousy/Marriage Material: [01:48 - 03:37]
• Mask Lesbian Intimacy: [03:39 - 04:47]
• Breakups/Coming Out Stories: [04:47 - 07:38]
• Supporting a Partner’s Queer Experience: [10:05 - 12:31]
• Moving In Tips: [12:48 - 13:18]
• First “I Love You” Story: [19:38 - 20:42]
• Pet Names/Babe Debate: [16:24 - 16:38]
• Fun Date Ideas: [26:13 - 26:29], [47:09 - 47:29]
• Wedding Size/Divorce Rate: [36:09 - 36:37]
• Love Languages Reflection: [48:25 - 49:16]
• On “The One”: [50:54 - 52:26]
• Personal/Behind the Scenes: [54:30 - 57:08]

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Memorable Moments & Humor

• Kendahl reads fanfic nightly for stress relief. “Every TV show I watch, I’ve read the fanfiction for it.” (05:36)
• “If I was straight and got pregnant, I could see myself just making it work… but that’s not the question.” — Kendahl on motherhood (56:46)
• “We’re allergic to cats. It’s like when men say, ‘we’re pregnant.’” — Kendahl (15:23)
• John, the studio producer, jumps in to ask logistics about chores, sleep patterns, and kids (54:31 - 55:35)

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Episode Tone & Style

The whole episode maintains Kendahl and Jordan’s trademark mix of candid, caring advice and playful, irreverent humor. They bounce easily between laugh-out-loud bits (“Assign pasta gender identities!”) and thoughtful commentary on queer life, commitment, and honesty in relationships.

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Closing Reflections

[57:33 - 58:38] Kendahl and Jordan reflect gratefully on 100 episodes together, sharing appreciation for their listeners and each other.

• “This has been such a delight… I adore this community so much. It’s been a treat to do this with you, Jordan.” — Kendahl (58:06)
• “God, we’re good.” — Jordan (recurring inside joke, 58:40)

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TL;DR

Happy Wife Happy Life’s 100th episode is a warm, wild deep-dive into listener questions. Kendahl and Jordan riff on everything from jealousy to marriage to moving in, bringing both laughs and genuine advice—making long-term queer partnership feel both brave and uniquely fun.

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Transcript

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Welcome to Happy Wife, Happy Life. We're your hosts. I'm Kendall Landriff.

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And I'm Jordan Myra.

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And we are two incredibly unqualified but

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deeply in love comedians here to help you with all things relationships. And Today, it's our 100 episode. A little behind.

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I know. And you know what? I was sitting there the whole time you're talking, going, okay, come in. You're gonna come in and celebrate. Come on, celebrate 100 episodes. And then you. I don't think you said celebrate or something happened. And I was like, thank you for saying that.

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Okay, Kendall, there's no time to catch up or anything because on today's episode, it's our 100th episode of this podcast, we're want to say thank you for tuning in for 100 episodes. We truly love you. And in honor of it, we are answering 100 questions, which is if you've

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listened to this podcast for any amount of time, you know that we usually answer like two questions because we start when we start yapping.

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Oh, my God, there's no stopping us.

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But today we're doing 100. I'm going to count them on my fingers.

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Yeah, okay, perfect.

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We'll see how that goes. I only have actually.

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John, can you actually keep track of how many questions we answer? Okay, fun.

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Okay, let's go.

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Said you could ask us anything. Dating, relationship, about us. And we have to answer it.

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We're answering every single question.

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Single question we got on this question on Instagram. We're answering.

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Even if it is. Doesn't make sense or is too private, we're still going to at least say no. We're not answering that.

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We'll say something.

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We'll say something. Maybe a lie.

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Okay, ready?

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100 questions, let's go.

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Okay, number one, what do I do if I'm jealous of my partner's best friend?

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Oh, well, you. That. See, this is how it starts. I'm already like, I do. I have a story for you.

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I know.

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Because sometimes you have to stop and you have to get your own hobbies, but sometimes you're okay. Is your partner's friend one of those people who acts like they're your partner's husband or wife?

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Yeah. Are they being inappropriate? I think is the big Thing not inappropriate, like sexually.

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Like inappropriate with their time, like, you owe me to hang out with me five times a week.

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Or inappropriate sexually, whatever. I think if they're being inappropriate, it's, you know, whether or not they are. But if you're just being jealous, you have to work through that in therapy. Because there's also a world in which you're just being jealous.

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But also, is your partner fine with it? Because I think there's, there's like, you have friends that call you more than I would feel comfortable with my friends calling me. And that's awesome for you. I'm not jealous. But if you were like, well, my friends say that I need to stop. I should have equal time calling you as I do them. And you were. Seemed unhappy, I'd be like, this is too much.

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Yes.

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We don't have time.

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How do you know if someone is marriage material?

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I think you have to go through a parental death with them.

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Ooh, that's, that's, that's really a good one. If you don't have that option. I think it's. If they're nice to, like waiters.

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But you think that's marriage material.

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Housed people and. Or I think it's a.

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But that's just a good person.

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But I think it's a good indicator. I think if you have a good relationship with a good person, you're on the road to marriage material.

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Yes. But I think you need to watch them go through something hard too. They need to go through like a job loss to go through something.

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Do that. That's not that.

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But you should be with them long enough where you watch them go through a hard time. Everyone's going to go through at least a hard time. And if they completely flounder, panic, can't handle it. I don't think that's marriage material. I think in a marriage you need to find someone who through thick and thin can be your rock.

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Okay, so stage a death of one of your parents.

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Yeah.

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On Punk, they don't die. Yeah. And then, then do that. Okay. As a mask lesbian, I'm anxious and in my head when receiving in bed, so I usually avoid it. Any advice interesting.

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Is that have to do with being a mask?

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I don't know. Not in my mind. But that's clearly how this person is feeling. I think that you just have to relax and let yourself have fun because another person wouldn't be doing it if they didn't want to do it. So, like, you don't have to be worried about it.

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Well, also okay. Also, I. I feel like the. The fact that you mentioned your mask makes me feel like it has something to do with, like, I don't know, gender. Gender.

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Do you feel feminized when you're taking

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it and there's some way you can feel. You can feel masculine while you're taking it?

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Absolutely. And I'll up porn videos of power bottoms.

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Yes. And I always use that. I really. God, I'm such a cool wife. I'm always, like, recommending porn to you.

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I'm so cool. She's so cool.

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I'm so chill.

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Okay.

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But I do. Wait. I do think it's really important to, like, look up porn that you feel, like, relates to you and you connect with or, like, you're represented in the porn. Because I think it make. It can really build your confidence.

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Yeah. Like, watch, like, mask for mask or something. Okay. How do I break up with someone I'm just not attracted to? You just break up with them. You don't have to say you're not attracted to.

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How are you even dating someone that you're not attracted?

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I don't know, but I guess there are things. There have been people that I've dated, but not long term. I'm just married to them. No, not dating them long term, but, like, I go on dates and I'm like, oh, I like them, and they do something, and then I'm like, oh, yeah, that. Yes. And I think that you just break up with them, but I don't think. Tell them you're not attracted to them. It's not helpful because don't do that. That's horrible. Yeah. Being attracted to someone, it's so subjective. So it's like, just because you're not attracted to them doesn't mean they're not attractive.

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Just be like, I feel more of a friendship vibe. I mean, but if you've been dating a really long time, you just have to end it and just say that you're not in a place to be in a relationship. They're gonna be like, well, I thought you weren't ready. And you just have to be like, that person hates me now. It's fine.

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Yes, I. Is Kendall a fanfic, or was Kendall a fanfic girly?

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Yes, am still. Every single night I. Last night I read it. It calms me in a way that I cannot even describe.

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I love that.

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And I've read every TV show I watch. I've read the fanfiction for it.

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That's beautiful. Does being married feel any different than dating? I'M getting married in May. Okay. First of all, congratulations on you getting married. And no, the only thing it makes me, I mean, it feels like fun and exciting and cute and it makes me feel older. I feel more mature.

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You know what I said the other day, I. I feel a little different in the sense. And this sounds bad because it makes it seem like I was phoning it in before, but I feel as a wife now, every day I go, you need to step it up. Jordan picked you as their wife. You're a wife. That's a big responsibility. Get your shit together. That's how I talk to myself every day now.

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I love that.

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I think it just feels like a big responsibility. I'm like, you're a wife. Yeah, you need to get in there.

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Do you think I'm doing a good job?

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Yeah, I think you're doing a great job. Do you think I'm doing a good job?

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You're doing a great job.

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Well, good.

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Where do you want to travel to next?

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You know, I feel like in our future is a repeat trip because I feel like we've been craving going London to London recently.

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Yes. We've been talking about going back to London. We've been talking about going to the Keys.

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Yes. You know where we've also been talking about. We've been talking. Well, the thing. The Keys. I feel like we're doing a Florida trip soon. I feel like. But the where I feel like we've been talking about also is Australia. And I feel like we've been talking about not soon, but I feel like you and I have this image in our head where we're like, we want to go on a long term Australia trip.

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We want to go on tour in Australia and stay for like a month,

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but like also just stay there. Like, I want to like go live in Australia for like a month and a half.

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Yeah. Legally. Are we allowed to do that? Let us know in the comments.

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Oh, also, I feel like we're always threatening to go to Thailand.

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Of course. How do I tell my boyfriend I'm gay? He's great. I'm just gay. That's exactly what you say. You're great.

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I'm.

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You're great. I am gay. That's all you need.

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I'm doing. He will feel, of course he'll feel sad, but I'm sure he will feel relieved. And I'm sure it will make a lot of sense to him because I'm sure there are things that you do that make him go, why is my girlfriend making me feel this Way.

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Yes.

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And the answer is that you're gay.

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Yes. Almost every single man I had sex with when I thought I was bisexual and not just straight up gay. Once I came out as gay. Now they joke with me about how I seemed gay when we had sex. Like, I was like, all right, let's. Okay, let's get this over with. Which is a very funny way to be.

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Johnny read 106. Hey. Wow. It feels like we've answered so many.

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Okay, how do I create a romantic connection when I need time before physical intimacy or big flirting? What is big flirting?

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I guess like. Like, you know, hey, girl, you. You know, big flirting. I feel like flirting is basically just being like. Like. Like foreplay or being like. I'm being so forward with you about the fact that I'm flirting with you. Not, like flirting, like, ha. Like flirting, like I'm flirting with you.

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Yes. I get that. To me, I feel like I understand you're saying you need to create a romantic connection, but to me, you really are putting, like, the cart before the horse. You can't create a romantic connection if you're not having any flirting or anything, in my opinion.

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Yeah. Because why are you even flirting if you don't feel a romantic connection?

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Yeah. So to me, it feels like you're just like, I want to be friends with someone and then fall in love with them, which is a very hard thing to.

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A lot of people feel that way. They're like. They want that. Yeah.

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Yeah. But I'm like, I don't know. To me, that's weird because it's like, I want to meet you, and I don't want to like you immediately. I want to get to know you, and then I want to like you later. And that feels kind of strange to me. I understand wanting a strong base, but you can create a strong base with someone. You don't have to, like, meet them and have sex with them on the first night.

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What I was gonna say, I think what's getting confusing is, like, the big flirting and sex stuff. Right. Because they said sex as well. I think I'm like, those are so different.

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Two different things.

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Because I'm like. I think, well, first of all, big flirting, the way I'm picturing it, you don't ever really have to do that. I feel like there's one person in each relationship. I mean, we're different. You and I are big flirts. But I feel like most of the time, it's like there's one person who's really flirty and one person's kind of like, I don't know.

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Yeah.

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And I think that's fine. But in terms of, like, sex, you don't have to have sex until you ever want to. Ever. I mean, yeah. I mean, literally. But also, if you're like, I'm someone who needs, like, to take a lot of time before I'm ready to have sex, like, that's completely fine.

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Yeah. I'm just like, go on a bunch of fun dates, like, go see a movie, go bowling, whatever, and then, like, build a connection. But flirting will happen within that, and I think you just have to open yourself up to that.

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Yeah. Yeah. I think a lot of stuff with love and sex and relationships, sometimes people need to, like, I. I. Sometimes I'm like, you need to go to a meditation retreat, and then you'll be able to get in a relationship because you're too anxious to be, like, present.

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Yes, I agree. How can I support my girlfriend dealing with homophobic family members?

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I. We're not the right people to ask

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people to ask because we're very lucky. We both cut off all of our homophobic family members.

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Well, yeah. And also. But I wasn't that close to any of them before. You know what I mean? So I never had. I do have a lot of sympathy

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with who are, like, homophobic parents.

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No. And I do feel sympathy for people. I think it's so easy to, like, just cut them off. And I'm like, you guys, they're. Unfortunately, I. It's unfortunate. There are people who are homophobic who are really. I mean, I guess this is debatable. Really rich. No, really rich. And, like, smart people. That's, like, the worst of it. You know what I mean, is that it's not just, like, idiots. It's like, there are people who grew up with these parents who they respect and who are kind to them and who are really loving and who. Who, like, they looked up to and wanted to be like. And they have. And then they're homophobic. And, like, that sucks so bad. I like to think I would be like, goodbye. But I. I just. I'm not one to feel like I can speak to that.

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But this person wants to know how they support their girlfriend.

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Well, I think that you need to figure out what you're comfortable with, in my opinion. And I have seen people do this. I mean, being friends with many gay people, I've seen many people do this a million different ways. And a lot of people do it in ways that I privately to Jordan was like, I don't know if I would do it that way, but it's worked out for them.

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Yeah.

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So I don't think there's any right or wrong way. I think, though, for me, you. You can prioritize yourself and be like, what's important to me. And if you feel completely fine being, like, for now, I'm fine, like, not being super present or, like, I don't know the situation, but I'm fine going over to the house and then making comments. And I'm. I'm strong enough. I have a big enough support system that I'm totally fine just, like, taking this hit a little bit and just being there for my girlfriend. I think just surrounding her with queer joy in other ways. You know, watching gay movies and. Oh, my God, Jordan sent me to wrap it up. We gotta hurry, Jordan.

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We have to hurry.

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I have. This is inspiring, what I'm saying. I literally, you know, it's so sad in the moment. I was like, I'm killing it. Right?

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We have to answer 100 questions.

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You know what? Just break up with your girlfriend if she is homophobic.

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No, no.

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My final answer, Ask her what she needs.

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Just communicate with your girlfriend.

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No, what I was saying was different. I'm saying, like, you should surround her with, like, queer joy and being like, oh, watch this movie where like. Like watch a movie where the parents aren't homophobic. Just, like, show her happiness so it's not just so sad all the time.

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I agree with that. But also, I think some people are like, how do I support this? I'm talking so fast. But you can be like, oh, now I forgot what I was saying. Kendall, you're the one that said, don't let me talk to her. Okay, okay, okay. Go, go.

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Okay, go.

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What was I gonna say?

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What does it matter now?

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Oh, my God. Essentials for moving in together.

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You should already have that. That should be an essential before you move in. I think Pinterest, king size bed. Oh, king size bed.

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If you two are sleeping together in a small bed, that's. You're. You'll. It won't end well.

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No. And I think separate closets, which I know is. Is really not an option for everyone, but I'm starting to get really a diva mode where I'm like, separate. We have a room, but you each have to have your own office.

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Yeah. And then two separate blankets. Oh, that's the Danish sleeping method.

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One of you is closing shift. One of these opening shift.

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Yes. Two thoughts on a six year age gap. That's our age gap. We think it's awesome.

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Yeah.

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As freelancers, how do you make sure that you're not working all the time? We don't. We're working all the time.

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100 of the time.

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What hobbies can I have?

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Well, you should take weekends off. Sorry, I'm jumping in. But you should take weekends off. I. When I do take weekends off, it rejuvenates me so much.

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That's true. She's right. Go on a vacation occasionally. What hobbies can I do when I live in the boonies and there's no gay people around?

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What hobbies? Yeah, can I do. Say it one more time.

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When I live in the boonies and there are no other gay people around.

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Fishing.

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Fishing. Coloring, cooking. I think you should start an Instagram account where it's like, rural underscore homo. And then. Oh, you being gay in your rural space, and then you can connect with other rural gays.

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Maybe a good hobby would be moving.

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Yes. An incredible hobby. What is the most thoughtful thing you did for someone that backfired?

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Oh, my God. What is the most thoughtful thing I did for someone backfired? Do you have one?

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No. Well, I have. I can think of ones that have happened to me. I'm trying to think of one that I did.

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Thoughtful thing that backfired. That's a good one.

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Well, I tried to surprise you by proposing, and then you didn't have the best reaction at first.

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Oh, I didn't want to get married. Well, I. No, I was just surprised. That's true. I feel like there's been times where you've. Oh, you know what I feel like for you, there's times where, like, you will try to do something sweet, and it'll, like, remind me of my dad. And then I, like, start crying.

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That's true. Yeah.

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And then you're like, oh, God, I'm sorry. And I'm like, no, no, it's good.

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It's fine. Yeah. And for you, it's. Anytime you're like, I'm gonna do the laundry.

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That is what it is. And I'm like, I'm gonna do the laundry. And then I shrink off Jordan's clothes, and I dyed them all red. Surprise.

[A]

If you had to live the rest of your life in only one month, which month would it be? For me, it's October.

[B]

Yeah, I think me, too.

[A]

Would you guys ever get a cat? No.

[B]

No, I'm allergic.

[A]

We're.

[B]

Jordan's allergic. I'm gonna said, we're allergic.

[A]

It's like when men are like, we're pregnant.

[B]

Yeah, Jordan's allergic. But I also think I used to be really pro cat. I love cat. I seriously love cats. But I think I might like elderly Chihuahuas more. So that is.

[A]

Yeah, they don't tend to match with cats all the time.

[B]

No, they don't.

[A]

What are the conversations you should have before moving in with your partner? I think you need to talk about cleanliness. Okay. How clean are each one of you and who's going to be responsible for what chores?

[B]

Yeah. I also think you need to be dating someone. I think moving in is. Is more intense than marriage. I think it's like you move in, then you're adopting animals together, then really snowballs until you're married. So I think, honestly, you need to have a conversation that's like, if we break up, how. Like, how are we healthily going to move through that? And if your partner, someone who's like, I can't. I don't want to talk about breaking up. Blah, blah, blah, there. You shouldn't move in with them because I think they're not mature enough.

[A]

I agree with you. What are good pet names to call someone you're dating before I love you?

[B]

Pet name.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Like, baby's hot. I like baby a lot.

[A]

Babe. Yeah, I was going to say babe.

[B]

I don't like babe.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

Babe feels like something a frat boy says to their girlfriend they're cheating on.

[A]

I like babe because it makes me think of Pig in the City.

[B]

And you want to feel like Pig in the City.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

That's a good biography title.

[A]

Pig in the City.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Kendall, why? I think after eight years, I thought I would marry this person. How do I process this breakup?

[B]

Oh, man.

[A]

I think. And this is. Not everyone will give you this advice. I think you have to get back on the town, and I think you have to do some hookups just to clear out your system.

[B]

Jordan and I are crazy. When our friends go through a breakup, we're immediate. Like that day they come over us, they're sobbing, they can't breathe. We're like, get on hinge. Yeah.

[A]

No, because I think you have to rip the band aid off. I don't think you actually have to, like, find the love of your life immediately. And you don't have to date. I think you can take time off if you feel like you need to take time off. But I do think the longer you go, it can feel more and more painful. And I think it's helpful to be reminded that there are other people that exist, which it can feel like in a relationship, your partner's your whole world, which makes sense. Especially after eight years, I'm like, just go out and be reminded that other people exist.

[B]

Yeah. Yeah. I also think maybe, like, this always helps me. I. What I love the most about the Internet is when I'm going through something that feels so specific. Like when I. And it's not even specific everyone goes through, but you feel so alone. Like, when I'm panicking over my taxes and I feel like I'm gonna go to prison, even though I'm trying so hard to do my taxes correctly. I will, like, search on Tick tock. I'm freaking out about my taxes. And you can just watch and commiserate with people and so I think search like my partner left me after eight years and we. And get so specific and you will find someone there who relates to you and it makes you feel better.

[A]

There are Reddit threads for sure. Did you both date women before this? Yes.

[B]

Yes.

[A]

Will the POD tour? I wanted to tour the POD this year, but then Kendall's writing two freaking books now back to back. So I don't know when the podcast want to.

[B]

We are always. But yes, the POD will tour. I should know what that tour will look like. I think there's so many ways to do a tour. I mean, we do so many shows. I mean, we're. We're planning shows this year in L. A. We do shows, live shows all the time in L. A. But the POD specifically, we're planning this year. But I also think in terms of, like, a United States tour, like, touring the whole country. We don't have any, like, set plans for that, but it's always on the table. We're always like, is this the time we do it?

[A]

Yeah. I also would love to know what you all would like in a tour show. Like, if we came to your town, what do you want to see in that live. That live podcast recording on tour.

[B]

I love that.

[A]

Who empties the dishwasher? And is it the same person who also loads the dishwasher?

[B]

I feel like we with dishes are really all over the place. Like, I don't think. I think we're pretty, like, decided on who does what chores. I feel like the dishwasher is an overlap.

[A]

You almost always unload it unless there's, like, a reason you can't. Then I'll do it. And I typically load it while I'm cooking.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

And then there's dishes that need hand washing that you hand wash.

[B]

Yes, I guess that's true. But I do feel like sometimes it is a chore where, like, you will step in and do it if I'm not able to do it. Whatever.

[A]

I think that's any choreography. No.

[B]

I feel like we have some chores that are just like, you do them or I do them. Like, you would. I would never ask you to, like, fill the tank up with gas or, like, you would never ask me to do the laundry. Well, you don't trust me with the laundry.

[A]

Sure.

[B]

But there's just things that, like, you wouldn't make the bed. I don't know. There's things that the other person really doesn't do. The dishes. I feel like we kind of overlap.

[A]

Okay, that's fair. Who said I love you first? And when did y' all feel it was the right time?

[B]

Well, I feel like you said it first, but I accidentally said it first. You said it first, but I didn't mean to. But you like.

[A]

But you meant it.

[B]

But of course. 100%. But it was. I will say it. What? I don't really. I count it because it was funny. Yeah, but it was also. I wasn't saying it being like, I'm going to say I love you. It was like we were saying goodbye on the phone, and I was like, love you. By which, like, I love you. I did love you. But also, I've, like, almost done that to an Uber driver, so it wasn't really like.

[A]

And you loved him too.

[B]

And I loved him too. And that was real as well. But I don't really count it versus, like, you said, I love you, and you were like, I'm saying I love you, so I count that.

[A]

But I think I felt so comfortable saying it because you had already said it on accident.

[B]

Yeah, but. But after I said it on accident, we didn't say it again for.

[A]

No. Because I could tell it made you uncomfortable.

[B]

Yes, but so I. But yes, I, in that moment, did love you. But I was like, I don't want to say it yet, so I'm not gonna. But I didn't say it like, I love you. And then we didn't say it again because you didn't say it back. You know what I mean? It was just like I said it offhand.

[A]

You're like, I love you. Whoops. Haha.

[B]

Bye. Yeah.

[A]

What's your best advice on getting over a breakup with someone who felt like you're bff. You have to have other friends.

[B]

Yeah, I. And also be your own best friend. I know that's so annoying, but I, like, live by that. I'm just like, there should be so many Things that you get excited about doing outside of your partner. Like, I, I, I am married. I don't feel worried you would leave me. I. But if you were like, tomorrow I'm leaving you, I would not have a hard time filling my time if that makes sure. Like, I would be sad, but I, I'm not sad because I'm like, I don't know what to do with myself. And I do think you should constantly be checking in with yourself, being like, my partner left me right now. I do this a lot, actually, because I think it's a good way to check in. If my partner left me tomorrow, if Jordan came up to me and was like, I'm leaving you, what would my life look like? And I think there have been times where I've been like, I'd be fud. And I think those times I go, you need to fix some things. And I think tomorrow, if you left me, I'd be once again devastated. Sa. I would be fine.

[A]

Yeah. Everyone will be fine during.

[B]

No, but I would be like, there's not a lot of things, well, oh, I wouldn't have any friends. I wouldn't have anything to do. I wouldn't know what to do with myself. I wouldn't, I wouldn't. I would be emotionally. So I have no ability to self soothe without Jordan. Like, I don't have that.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Which is nice.

[A]

Matching or no? Matching.

[B]

What do you mean? With each other.

[A]

I don't know.

[B]

Matching. Matching, I guess. Yeah, we do that sometimes.

[A]

What does a lazy day look like for Jordan and Kendall?

[B]

Ooh, a lazy day. Let's start from the beginning.

[A]

We wake up. I wake up first. We do some kissing. I go and I get you a honey butter chicken biscuit. Yeah. From Wendy's. I get myself a biscuit with cheese.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Large Diet Coke, large Dr. Pepper. Come home, get on the couch, you're reading. Yeah, I'm watching a TV show.

[B]

With your laptop.

[A]

While simultaneously working a little bit.

[B]

Yeah. I mean, that is the truth. That's. You have to be honest. Your lazy days, you're still working. Yeah.

[A]

And then sometimes I'll get up and I'll like, organize the refrigerator.

[B]

Organize the refrigerator. Then usually I'll go to the gym or we'll go to the gym or we'll go on a walk, something physical. And then we come home and I feel like shower and then pick out a show to watch together.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Or you watch a show and I read one of my favorite things on earth is other people watching TV while I read a book.

[A]

It's so strange. It seems so distracting to me, but Kendall literally can't read in silence. It's very strange.

[B]

Well, I just think it feels really comforting. Or like, my favorite thing is reading while other people are in my house chatting.

[A]

I love that. How long is too long of an engagement?

[B]

Who cares? I don't know.

[A]

I think as long as you're both on the same page about it, I think if you're busy does not exist.

[B]

You have nothing else going on. It's weird.

[A]

I guess I'm just like. If you're both like, yeah, let's just be engaged forever, I think that's awesome. If one of you is like, I want to get married now, and the other one keeps pumping the brakes, you gotta have talk.

[B]

Also, I think sometimes with these people, I'm like, just elope. Why are you. I feel like people put it off because they're like, I don't want to plan a wedding. And I'm like, you don't. You don't have to.

[A]

Absolutely. Best pickup line you've ever heard.

[B]

Oh, I don't know.

[A]

I don't know if I've ever heard a pickup line in real life. Ooh.

[B]

In real life. I feel like I've heard them, like, in. I don't know. No, I haven't. I don't think anyone's. I feel like I have had people say pick lines to me while we're, like, mid conversation that feel like they've thrown. Like, I've said something, and then they've thrown in something that's related to that. That is like a pickup line, but it's not like a. They came up to me and did a pickup line.

[A]

Yeah. I feel like the only pickup line I've ever heard is people saying it kind of like, in jest.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

No, they're kind of like, oh, do your. Does your legs hurt?

[B]

Because when you feel.

[A]

When you feel heaven, like that kind of thing.

[B]

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[A]

What are some fun but not basic date ideas? I. I'm sorry. You guys know I love a movie date. And by pick an interesting movie, pick like a movie that's in a different language than the language you speak. Pick a movie that maybe not everyone's seen. I think that really adds some pizzazz to the date.

[B]

I don't like movie dates.

[A]

I know.

[B]

I mean, I do with you because I'm like, I don't need to talk to you. We've talked enough. But I feel like that's such a weird thing to go on. It feels like going on a date to like a play or something.

[A]

I think that's great too. That's another one I would suggest.

[B]

And do what? Like you could after go get a

[A]

nightcap and then you can talk about the play. I think it gives you something to talk about. You can meet early.

[B]

I want to be going to bars more, Jordan.

[A]

Not hate going.

[B]

I know, but not like bars, like, where there's people like. No, listen, before you're wincing over there so dramatically, I told you a million times, I want to go like, like a pub. Like, not something where you're out with a bunch of people, but we go sit at like a table and we just like get a cocktail or a soda or something and we just chat like. I really want to do that.

[A]

That.

[B]

Okay, do it with me.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

Tonight. Just kidding.

[A]

No, tonight I have to go to my cardio kickboxing class. That's not going to more pubs because I'm going to cardio kickboxing.

[B]

But I always said I really want to do that. I really like doing that.

[A]

Okay, I'll find some pubs. Drop your favorite pubs in LA below.

[B]

I have a couple I like.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

Sorry.

[A]

Never drop them. Kendall already has them.

[B]

Drop them? No, drop them.

[A]

Jordan, have you read Kendall's book? A bunch of it, yes.

[B]

No, not a bunch of it.

[A]

A chunk of it.

[B]

A chunk of it. A chapter. What'd you think?

[A]

More than a chapter. I love it. It's great.

[B]

I. You know what, too? I need to re. Have you read an updated chapter, because I feel like this is something I'm gonna have to fix in the editing. Is that, like, my writing isn't. Because I'm new to writing a book. My writing has improved a lot, I think, since. Since the first chapter.

[A]

Sure.

[B]

So I think I'm gonna have to go back and, like, rewrite the first chapter as I am now.

[A]

Yeah. Rekindle as it. That makes sense to me because I

[B]

think most of the time writing a book, you'd write it within, like, a year. But since I've been. I started it as just a hobby. I started writing it so long ago that I'm like, this is not how

[A]

I would write it now. Yeah. But I loved it. And I've read. I read more of it, too, before you got an editor, because I think you needed help with stuff that now the editor does. But I will read it before everyone else if that's your question. Any dating advice for a straight trans man who has only ever dated gay women? I think you have a huge leg up. I think gay women have a higher bar than straight women for men. So I think you. If you just treat straight women like you treated gay women or bisexual women, you'll be absolutely.

[B]

Oh, my God.

[A]

Slaying it. Use the communication skills you learned with lesbians. When is a good time to introduce someone to your family as an adult?

[B]

I think it's so depends. I. I know this is annoying, but I'm like, who's your family? Like, yes. Like, is your family, like, right nearby and you're super close with them, then early, earlier, are you like, oh, I don't really know my. Like, I'm not that close to my parents, and they live in Kentucky and we have to fly home for Christmas, like, maybe longer. But yeah, I think just like, whenever you feel. Also, I'm like, I am kind of like, before you introduce, I'm very of the mindset of, like, do not care what your parents think about your partner.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

I mean, unless your parents are like, I'm scared for you, and you, like, trust your parents. I think if you're someone who's like, I can't date someone until I know that my parents approve of them, then I think, first of all, that's weird. But also, you need to then introduce them early on because I would be so beyond pissed off if I dated someone for seven months and then their weird mom didn't like me. And they were like, I can't date you.

[A]

Yes, absolutely. I agree. How can you tell if something is worth not seeing that person anymore or just an annoyance? I think you have to trust your gut.

[B]

But what. But I. You know what, Jordan? I'm always against trusting your gut because I think some people's guts, like, I tell you this all the time, but I think when you struggle with, like, mental illness in any capacity, trusting your gut is, like, really hard to know.

[A]

I totally hear that and feel that as someone who has ocd. But I think that you still, with something like this, have to trust your gut. Because even if your gut is wrong, having those feelings and trying to push against them and putting the other person through that, well, that's what I think.

[B]

I think you need to look if you're dulling the other person's shine. First of all, is there a thing that you don't, like, bad? Like, is it actually bad? And if it's not, are you not going to be able to, like, be excited for them in a way that maybe would be nice and then I think just end it?

[A]

Yeah, absolutely. What happens when you don't understand each other? Have you ever had bad misunderstandings? Yes. I think everyone has. This is my thing about couples who say they don't fight or they don't argue or whatever. To me, almost every single fight or argument we've ever had has been because of a misunderstanding.

[B]

Yeah. It's not like I'm walking and being like, I hate your shoes, and I always hate your shoes. They're so ugly. Right. It's like, who's. And then we have a fight because I was being an. It's like most of the time, a fight is a misunderstanding.

[A]

Yes. So I'm like that. To me, when someone's like, we never fight. We never argue. I'm like, okay, so I guess you're perfect and you perfectly articulate your thoughts and feelings all the time, and you never misunderstand or misinterpret someone else's, which

[B]

I know is not true because the people who say this are always the most passive aggressive people I've ever met on Truly.

[A]

So I think it's like, yeah, just have the argument, but be clear, be communicative. And I'm a big fan of saying, oh, I understand, like, how that came off that way. This is what I meant by it.

[B]

But I also think, like, we've had miscommunications, even in, like, the things that make. Not even miscommunications, communications, but, like, we don't like, the things that make each other feel validated are different. And so it's like we're miscommunicating on this thing of like. Well, I was saying this to make you feel better, but it was actually making you feel worse. And I've been, you know, and I think it's taken years to. I feel like now still we'll have an argument and then at the end of it be like, wow, I learned today that Jordan xyz. Or I learned that this is better way. Like, we're always learning. So I'm also like, like, I. Miscommunication might be the wrong word, but I just think. I don't remember what the question was.

[A]

Well, because we're also both changing.

[B]

Yes.

[A]

Constantly.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

So I think there's also something to be said about we're growing. So there are things within us that are revealing themselves or becoming different or whatever.

[B]

And you realize things. Like, even in conversations, like, sometimes I'll be like, oh, I'm realizing now, like, when you say that, it makes me feel this. And I didn't really think about that before.

[A]

Yeah. I just think the big thing is you can't be, like, full of righteous anger. Like, you can't think you're right. You can't be like, I'm justified in being mad. It's just not helpful. So I think you have to kind of just, like, let down those things and be like, okay, let's work together to get on the same page. How can I be better at receiving love and being complimented right now? I get cringed out.

[B]

That's so hard. We were talking about this recently. It's a little different, but we were saying how, like, people don't want to date someone. This is so common knowledge. But people don't want to date someone who's, like, obsessed with them and really likes them and is constantly showering, whatever. But they're also looking for, like, a husband. And I'm like, like, I'll tell you what you want in a husband. Someone who's obsessed with you and is clingy. Like, what are you looking for? I don't understand. Yeah. And so I am like, I think it's great they asked this question because it means you're self aware, but I am. Like, if you're looking for something serious, you do need to see it as a strength of theirs and a deficit of yours.

[A]

Yes.

[B]

And I think that is attractive. Like, when I started seeing people who were ready to commit as a, like, a mature person who knows what they want rather Than like, a clingy person who's annoying. That mind shift really helped me.

[A]

Yeah, like, why are you cringed out that people think good things about you? Do you want them to think bad things about you?

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Be cringed at yourself. And then that, I think will change the narrative. Is it weird to have a hang up about dating apps? I'm 21, but it just feels weird.

[B]

You know what? Yes, I do. And I'm actually. Okay. Literally was just getting an argument with my best friend about this. Well, not an argument, because a miscommunication.

[A]

Not an argument. A fight.

[B]

A fight. And a physical. A physical altercation. No, because I. I have a lot of straight women in my life. Wife who. They're just like, no to the dating apps. And I'm kind of like, we need to be firing at all ends, you guys.

[A]

You're not better if you don't know

[B]

and if you don't want. I understand. Because I do. They're like, well, I went on dates and when I get there, I don't like the person. Okay, that's fine. But if you were never complaining to me about being single, I would be like, yeah, you don't need to go on a dating app. But if you're like, all I want in this life is to meet my husband. We need to be putting in the hours, you guys. We need to be putting in the time. And you're gonna go on a lot of dates with people that you're like, that was stupid. And then maybe at the end of it, you will not meet your partner on a dating app, but you also might. And I'm just like, if you care so much, like, with anything else, you would be like, if I want this thing this bad, I'm gonna try all these things.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

But with dating, I feel like people get so weird about using the dating apps. And I also think they're like, I don't want to have to. They're picturing in their head the fact that they would have to tell people they met on a dating app.

[A]

Yes.

[B]

No one cares.

[A]

And they think that's, like, stupid and embarrassing and whatever. And I'm like, once again, you're not better than anybody else. It doesn't matter how you met. Don't you just want to meet?

[B]

Well, and also, I've seen the opposite. I think we've maybe talked about this before where someone meets their partner in a really cool way. Like, oh, we were on a flight together and he sat next to me and we both were reading the same book. And then that Relationship is awful. And they, like, cling to it because they love, like. Like the way they met. And the way they met was so great. It's like no one literally cares. So all I. I am like, if you really want to meet someone, like, if you're like, my goal this year is to meet someone. I really want to build a life with someone. And you are having hang ups about dating online. You gotta just do it.

[A]

Yes. We have to hurry up.

[B]

Let's go.

[A]

Okay. What's your favorite romantic movie? Mine might be the Last Holiday with Queen Latifah. That's up there.

[B]

It's a good one. Okay. Mine is probably Butter Mature Leader.

[A]

That's a good one too. My boyfriend is nine years older than me. Does that make me a bad feminist? I'm 32 and he's 41. No.

[B]

No, no. Bye. Next.

[A]

I'm just like, you're not? No. Okay. Does Jordan collect watches? Yes. Can we see them? Eventually.

[B]

That counted as two.

[A]

Is dating in your 30s bleak? I think I'm heading there and I'm terrified. No, just make it fun. Don't make it sad for yourself. I think a lot of times, like, you're putting those own pressures on you. Like, Kendall and I love to say, nobody else cares what you have going on, so make it fun for you. What is a relationship dynamic you love or hate to see?

[B]

Hate to see. When someone is, like, really different around their partner or like, when you see they're really different around you, and then when they're with their partner, they're really different. I hate that. That when they're quieter around their partner.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

No, I don't.

[A]

When one person seems more interested than the other person, that makes me sad in the relationship. Oh. Oh. I need both people to be, like, really into it.

[B]

Yeah. Okay. Yeah.

[A]

What is the worst marital advice you have received? I. I feel like no one's given us any advice.

[B]

No one dares give us advice. You know what I mean? I think people are like, they know what they want, and even if I don't agree with it, they don't want to hear from me.

[A]

Yes. Do you think the size of a wedding has any correlation with divor?

[B]

Yes, it does. Nobody actually literally does.

[A]

It does. I would say I would apply that to, like, white people in America specifically. I know other cultures, like, have cultural weddings that are big for certain reasons. That's a different thing. But I think, yeah, like white people in America, the more the wedding, the more expensive the wedding, the higher chance of divorces because you're Stupid.

[B]

It's two stupid people getting married. Well, usually I'm like, sorry, most of the time, if you're throwing a huge, expensive wedding, if most of the time, time you can't afford it.

[A]

John, how big was your wedding?

[C]

It was a hundred fifty.

[A]

Expensive or not.

[B]

Thousand dollars or people.

[C]

I think we spent like 13 kids.

[B]

No, that's very taste.

[A]

That's very tasteful. How do I find a wife? Dating apps. Sorry.

[B]

Well, I think especially if you're gay.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Straight people. I get it. I'm like, look, it's a whole world I don't understand. I understand there. And it's dangerous. It's scary. You could find a wife tomorrow on the dating apps. Even. I remember being on it. When? Before I was with you. It's a great selection.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

You're going through. It's like the coolest people ever. Yeah.

[A]

How do you deepen friendships with folks you've known for a while but aren't close with yet? Just ask them to hang out.

[B]

Yeah. Yeah. And maybe, you know what? Maybe ask if. Oh, you know what they should do?

[A]

What?

[B]

I did this with my friend the other day, and I thought it deepened. Try something new together. Be like, I would love to, like, try me and my friend Anahita and Hitch, we're gonna do a woodworking class together, and I think that's going to deepen our friendship.

[A]

I think that's beautiful. How do you get your partner's ring size? In my opinion, you have a friend who wears rings. Be like, wait, I have this ring, and I think it would look really cute on you. And then have their friend put that ring on your partner. And then see if it fits or doesn't fit or whatever. That'll give you a good idea.

[B]

And then have them do it 60 times until one of them fits.

[A]

Yeah, exactly. It'll give you a better idea.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Assign pasta. Gender identities. We don't have time for all of this. But I'll say penne feels like a straight man.

[B]

Yeah. And I feel like bucatini feels pans like polyamorous.

[A]

Okay. If one of you was a worm, would you still love her?

[B]

Yeah. We've talked about this. I. I don't think. I. I don't think. I don't think either of us would be happy if the other one was worm. Yeah.

[A]

How soon should exclusivity be discussed?

[B]

Three months.

[A]

I think whenever it feels right to you, whenever you feel the desire to talk about it. Talk about it. I think keeping it inside and wanting to talk about it just Makes. Takes resentment. Is codependency bad?

[B]

Yes, but I don't think anyone knows what that word means because I feel like every time I've heard someone use it, I'm like, so that's not codependency. That's living with a person. That's not codependency. That's asking someone to do a chore in the house. Like, that's not codependency. That's hanging out with your partner. Like people don't understand what it is.

[A]

Yeah. I think do a Google and make sure you really know what it is before you start using that word.

[B]

Relying on a person is not codependency.

[A]

Yes. Or having to like check in with your partner before you go on a vacation or whatever. It's like those things very normal. That's not codependency.

[B]

It's like very serious actually.

[A]

Yeah, That's a big part of addiction. Like that's really where that term lives. And so I think just look it up. Look it up. Is being too busy a real excuse for what?

[B]

Yes. Yeah. But also, you may not want to date someone who's too busy. Like, I, I feel like when we started dating I was super busy, but I made time because I was like excited about you. That's my personality. I, I'll do that. Whatever. We're both really busy people. We prioritize our relationship. There are people who are genuinely very busy and they're like, I only have time to see you once every two weeks. And that could be totally valid. It doesn't really matter if it's valid or if they're lying to you or not. If you want to see someone more than once every two weeks.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Or that they're able to. I wouldn't want to date someone in the army because I'd be like, yeah, they're not lying that they're in the army, but I don't want to see my partner for not nine months out of the year. You know what I mean?

[A]

Absolutely. Do you think passion fades in marriage? I think that all things in long term relationships, be it romantic relationships, familial relationships, friendships ebbs and it flows because life is long and you can't always have the exact same level of every single thing, physically or emotionally, because so many things happen in your life. There are times when you have a parent die, when you lose a job. There are times when you're doing really well. I just think that all of those things factor in also.

[B]

It's different passions.

[A]

Yes.

[B]

It's like I, I Don't know. No. Do I have that, that feeling that like, you know when you're first dating and you're like, like you just feel crazy, but you're nervous, but you're also like, I am in. I am like all I, you know, you know what I'm. The feeling I'm describing. But now, six years in, I have a different passion of like, I have this person who literally knows. Name a single restaurant, they'll be able to tell you what I order there. Name a single, like, anything, they will be able to tell you exactly what I feel about it. They know me better than anyone's ever known me. They have shown up for me every single day of my life for the last six years. Like, that's a very different type of

[A]

passion and it's sexy in its own way.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

How long did you wait until you first farted in front of each other? I don't know, 30 minutes probably. Are you guys poly? Would you consider or have you ever considered it? We're not poly and I don't think we would ever be polyamorous.

[B]

I don't think we would be polyamorous.

[A]

But once again, life is long.

[B]

That's how I feel. I'm like. I don't know, maybe I could see myself being like, I could see, you know what I could picture?

[A]

What?

[B]

When we're like 50 and we live in a beach house having like, like, like, like orgies.

[A]

Well, that's.

[B]

No, I mean, yes, I could picture that, but I'm saying, like, I could picture us having like a, like a 30 year old really hot lesbian who kind of like makes like us food or something.

[A]

Like our pool boy kind of.

[B]

Yeah. That we like, have sex with, but is like, not. But no, that's not poly, so. No, not in a polyamorous relationship.

[A]

Yeah. What advice do you have for realizing you're bisexual into a long hetero marriage?

[B]

Wait, say that again.

[A]

This person just realized they're bisexual, but they're in a heterosexual marriage and they have been for a long time.

[B]

Well, yeah, I mean, that is. I don't have advice because I didn't do that. But I also think, you know, you can be a part of the. There's a lot of things in the community that you can be a part of.

[A]

Yeah. I also think just talk to your partner. I think there's nothing wrong with that. Just have an open, honest conversation with your partner because you have to figure out what that looks like to you. Is that something you're actively going to need to physically and emotionally explore, or is it something where you're just like, oh, I've learned this thing about myself, but I still want to be monogamous with my partner. Yeah, you have to decide that. Prenup, yay or nay?

[B]

I think it. It depends on the person. I think it's. So I should not be giving financial advice because I hardly know how anything works, but I think it feels kind of, like, silly in California. Do you know what I mean?

[A]

I guess so. We don't have one, if that's the question. We did not.

[B]

We've already said that. Yeah. We didn't do a prenup.

[A]

I find it difficult to be around someone all the time. Do you ever get tired of each other? No. No. I love Kendall so much, and I always want to be around her, but that doesn't mean that Kendall and I don't. Don't sit in a room in absolute silence and not look at each other for, like, three hours sometimes.

[B]

Yeah, no, I don't get tired of you at all. I think I don't. You know, but we also do. Maybe this would surprise people, but we spend a lot of time apart.

[A]

We do.

[B]

We. We work a lot. And, like, we work in happy with happy life. We work together, which is literally part of why we started the podcast, because we want to spend more time together. But, I mean, most days, we are completely separate. A full day.

[A]

How do you deal with disagreements over not not wanting to have kids? We are both 27, and we decided to wait a few years to see if we change our minds. We are happy and just moved in together. But he brings it up semi often. What should I do? Is it better to break up early or wait? I think break up early.

[B]

I don't know. I don't know. I think you have to. I think you have to make the decision of, like, would you. Because I feel like we had these conversations of, like, is it a deal breaker for you?

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Now, I do think there's truth to being, like, I don't know. You don't know fully. Like, and you don't want to be, like, held to this thing that's, like. Like, in 10 years, I could be like, wait, no, I have to have a baby.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

But I think you and I both were, like, we have made the decision to take it as a couple, like, in stride. And if, like, you decide you really want to do it, we'll figure something out how we would with anything else. But I also don't think of it as a disagreement. I'm like, it is a. I don't

[A]

know, a fundamental difference.

[B]

Yes.

[A]

In how you want your lives to look.

[B]

I also think for you and I, we were like. I think. I mean, once again, you never know how you're going to feel. But I think we were kind of like, we would be happy. We figured out if we had one, we'd figure it out if we didn't. But either way, we want to do figure it out together.

[A]

Yeah. You know, sometimes I get the vibe that you two are open to having an open relationship. No shade. Just wondering. Why do you get that vibe? What are we doing? Just being open and cool and hot. Sorry about it.

[B]

We're flirty. I feel like we're flirty people. I think that gives. Like, when we have guests on. Maybe. Yeah.

[A]

We love.

[B]

I don't know. I mean.

[A]

Sorry.

[B]

Yeah. Who knows?

[A]

Flirting's fun. I had crush on my best friend for four years. Is it time to give up? Yeah.

[B]

Yeah. Give up on what? Give up on them. Be clear. What? Give up on what? Don't give up.

[A]

No, no, no. Like, on them being together.

[B]

Yeah. No, I. If I've learned anything, especially with lesbians, if they want to be with you, they're going to be with you. Like, people who like women. I'm just like. There's no. I'm always shocked when people talk about pining in a way like that. Where they're like, I've been in love with. I'm like, how if I. When I was single and I saw someone at a party that I was even, like, semi attracted to, they would know within two seconds.

[A]

Absolutely.

[B]

Or it would eat inside of me in a way that was very alarming.

[A]

We're very similar in that way. Door open or door closed? When you're using the bathroom at home, Door open.

[B]

I mean, sometimes. I mean, it depends. Again, I'm not gonna explain. I mean. I mean, always. Like, there could be a door open, but I sometimes like to be by myself in there.

[A]

Sure.

[B]

Something's going down.

[A]

What would you stock in your personal vending machine? For me? Dr. Pepper, Fresca, Iron, Beer are the drinks, and my snacks are Hershey's Bar with almonds.

[B]

Oh, yeah. I didn't know that you liked that.

[A]

Regular Cheetos.

[B]

Oh, yeah, those are good. And

[A]

Bugles.

[B]

I would do Rice Krispie Treats. I would do Diet Coke. I would do a Celsius. I would do a Honey Butter chicken biscuit from Wendy's. And I would do. But have you told them about my dream?

[A]

No, but we don't have Time.

[B]

I want to. I want to buy a vending machine for our apartment complex.

[A]

We're not going to. John, how many questions have we answered?

[C]

We have done 61.

[A]

Oh, my God. Okay, we have 15 minutes. We actually could maybe finish. Wait.

[B]

This will be amazing.

[A]

You use to describe your relationship a rom com.

[B]

We use to describe relationship. Maybe, like, just go with it.

[A]

Which one is that?

[B]

I just think the title, like, just go with it.

[A]

Oh, just the title. Just go with it. But also actually so romantic. Kendall. Thank you.

[B]

No, well, I'm just kind of like. I think we're really go. We do. Like, I feel like the way you and I live life, we're like, very, like, hey, we'll just go with it. Like, what I. That's why I always say what's exciting about you. I feel so content in our life, but also, I am like, I don't know where Jordan I will be in 15 years. I feel like we could be in a million different places. I also think the couple in that movie, it's Adam Sandler and Jennifer Aniston. They're very. They have a friendship first.

[A]

I love that. And I think no matter where we'll be, we'll be together. I think it's 50 first dates because you have a bad memory and I have to remind you of everything. What age? Oh, my God.

[B]

Also. Adam Sandler.

[A]

Yeah. At what age does going to the club stop being fun?

[B]

I think it has nothing to do with the age. I think it is if you are single, I think it's fun. And I think if you're in a committed relationship, it is not as fun.

[A]

Yes, I agree. What are some date night ideas for when you're in your 20s and you're broke and you live together? I love living room picnic. I think you go to Trader Joe's, you get some fun snacks, you put out a blanket on the floor of your living room, and then sit on the floor of your living room. It feels more fun and more special than sitting on the couch.

[B]

Yeah. Tin Fish, too, is fun. It makes it feel fancy, but it's kind of cheap.

[A]

Oh, yeah. Who's the better driver?

[B]

We can't.

[A]

We could.

[B]

Jordan is fine. Jordan's.

[A]

Would you rather have skin or no skin on your body?

[B]

No skin.

[A]

What? I'm just kidding. Oh, I'm like, what kind of questions? Why would you ever rather have no skin?

[B]

I guess if, like, you, I don't know, don't like washing your face, but then you'd have to wash your tendons.

[A]

I don't know what topic needs to be talked about in the first few dates.

[B]

Okay. Let's not do the boring ones, like politics and stuff. I think you should talk about

[A]

quick.

[B]

Your I think you should talk about, like, quick if your dog sleeps in the bed.

[A]

Smart.

[B]

Smart.

[A]

Any travel plans? Yes. I'm going on tour to Austin next

[B]

week, and next month I'm going to Costa Rica.

[A]

Yes. Kendall's going on a brand trip to Costa Rica, and I'm not allowed to go.

[B]

I made sure of it. Yeah.

[A]

Yeah. Kendall's cheating. Is having a love language a real thing?

[B]

You know what? I was thinking about this because I saw that question when I was looking.

[A]

Really?

[B]

I was thinking that I feel like the healthier you get in your own self, the less. Less love languages are actually important. I think the more healthier relationship is. I think the less love languages are important. I felt I used to be so intent, like, can I Or what is it? I used to be so insistent that my love language was words of affirmation. As I have mentally healed, as I have gone to therapy, I find that I don't need really words of affirmation. I do in a fun way, but in terms of, like, I'm going to mentally combust if you don't give me words of affirmation, and I won't believe that you love me. I don't have that.

[A]

That.

[B]

There's pretty much nothing. I. I like everything. It's nice. All the love languages feel cool when they happen, but I don't rely on any of them, and they definitely don't make me feel more or less loved.

[A]

I also think as you get older, it changes because it's like, yeah. Why would you like acts of service when you're a teenager? A teenager. It's like, what?

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

What are you gonna do, unload your dishwasher? No way. I just don't think people have preferences and ones that they feel better at. But I. I agree with Kendall.

[B]

Like, I do. Yes, of course. Preferences. Like, I like when you touc in public and they're, like, touchy on me. But I'm not. Like, if we're at the bank and you're not touching me, I'm not. Like, I don't feel loved by you.

[A]

Should you agree on what to watch, or is it okay for someone to just turn on what they want?

[B]

I think it's fine for someone to just turn on what they want. I mean, unless I guess someone's watching something, then you turn off the tv.

[A]

Yeah. I think you just have to Be considerate of what the other person wants. But, like, for example, Kendall's always reading, so normally we just have on what I want because Kendall's not watching the tv.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Do you think going on a break ever actually works?

[B]

I think if you're fine going on a break, then you should just break up and then get back together. I'm just like, what is this break? Unless your partner's like, I'm going into a facility, like a mental facility or something, where it's like, give me a couple months, and I'm gonna do some healing. Okay. But I. I don't really see the point otherwise.

[A]

I completely agree. I think a break feels so fake because it feels like we're gonna take time apart, but not really. And then, I think, you know, to quote Kendall from friends, were they on a break? Were they not on a break? Right.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Ross and Rachel.

[B]

Of course. Of course I know what you're talking about.

[A]

So I think it's hard because it's like, then you have to make all these rules for the break, and then it's like, well, if you have all these rules, it feels like you're still just in a relationship. So I'm like, 100 agreement with Kendall. Just break up. And then if you want to get back together. Back together. I think there are people that break up and get back together all the time. And it works successfully.

[B]

Yeah. Yeah.

[A]

How do you know when someone is the one?

[B]

I think that you. I think that I don't. I. I. I feel like there's no the one as how I feel about it.

[A]

What the hell?

[B]

Well, you're the one for me. Because I. As. I feel like I. We've just built this thing over time together that is, like, makes me feel good in my. Like, my life is good and better with you in it, but that's the thing that we built. Why are you looking so disturbing?

[A]

You're not being sweet enough.

[B]

I think, to me, I feel like you. We built brick by brick our relationship in a way that left us with this relationship that made me feel, like, so much happier, felt like I could be myself completely. But I don't know if there was a singular moment where I go, you're the one. No, of course. I think you build that with someone, and then you decide at the end, like, do I want to live my life with you? And I know people don't think of that as romantic, but I think that's the most romantic thing. I think that when I look of my life, I take into account of Course, the way I feel about you, I love you and you're my best friend and I adore you. But that's not why I married you. You know what I mean? Like, I think to me, I look at my life and I go, I get one life, and the person who's next to me for it is going to decide whether that life is better or worse. And you make it better. But that's something that over time, I, like, had to sit and logistically look even at stuff that, like, you didn't even necessarily do. Like, do we want to live in the same area? Do we want to. Whatever. And it all comes together into this big thing that's like. Like, my life will be better with you by my side.

[A]

But you were obsessed with me immediately.

[B]

But that's not why I married you.

[A]

I know, but I think that that contributes to it. I do think there is a combination of, like, just a feeling you get.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Plus logistics.

[B]

You felt like you knew I was the one. Like, on our first date. Like, you were like, oh, I get a different feeling with Kendall than I have on with other people.

[A]

Yeah. You didn't.

[B]

No. Yes, of course. But I guess, like, to me, on a first. Okay, like when.

[A]

Or maybe not on our first day, but because our first day also, it's like we were on zoom and stuff like that.

[B]

Like, I think what felt different is it was aligning like that is. I guess to me it felt like we were aligning. Like it was that I loved you and I liked you and we had so much fun, and it felt like we were able to continue on this path towards a more serious relationship at the same pace that both felt like it never felt like one of us was pulling more than the other.

[A]

Yes. But so maybe that the first time I was mad at you, I still had a gut feeling that like. Like, I shouldn't end it and you were still the right person.

[B]

Well, knowing me, I probably sent you a nude right after you got upset with me. And that probably reminded you real quick.

[A]

I know that's right.

[B]

Why you wanted to be with me.

[A]

How do you go from friends to more than friends? With your words, with your lips. With your words in your lips.

[B]

You know what? I watch all the time and I'll be so fast. You could go Google like, or go to YouTube and be like lesbians admitting their relate feelings for their friend. And it's like this trend that's to that song Electric Love.

[A]

Sure.

[B]

And it's like they sit there and then when it gets to the Chorus. They kiss the them. I watch it like, once a week. I'm, like, obsessed with it for some reason. I'm like, this is so fun, like,

[A]

seeing how they react.

[B]

And then sometimes you're like, oh, my God. Like, they got together after this. It's really fun.

[A]

That's really sweet. John, how many questions have we answered?

[C]

We've done 73.

[B]

We're going to do it. We're going to do it. We have seven minutes.

[A]

Okay, well, there's no more questions.

[C]

Wait, did you have 100?

[A]

No, John, we had 73.

[B]

Well, then why are you so stressed about us getting to 100?

[A]

I thought we had more.

[B]

Wow.

[A]

But we have 73.

[B]

Okay. You get to ask me a question.

[C]

Like, two questions.

[A]

That's true. Yeah.

[B]

So you can go back and add them in.

[A]

And add them in. John, why don't you ask us a

[B]

couple questions that you've always wanted to know?

[A]

Like, what are some questions?

[B]

You see us come in, you see us leave the studio.

[A]

That you're always like. For your wife.

[C]

Who wakes up first?

[B]

Jordan.

[C]

Jordan.

[A]

Yeah.

[C]

How early. How much earlier do you wake up?

[A]

An hour to two hours, depending on the day.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

Has that always been the case? Has that changed or.

[A]

No, it's always been the case.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Keep going. John. John, what are you talking about?

[C]

Who's most likely to cook?

[A]

Me.

[B]

Jordan.

[C]

And then would you. Kendall, do you do the dishes?

[A]

Because.

[B]

Yeah, I do. I do.

[C]

Is that how you guys divvy up the chores?

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Yeah, mostly, like, one person does half and the other person does the other half.

[B]

Yeah, I would say that's the same with me.

[C]

I do all the vacuuming in the floor.

[B]

Ooh.

[C]

My wife does the laundry.

[B]

Do you have stairs in your house?

[C]

We have three stairs.

[B]

Because that's hard with the vacuum.

[C]

Yeah, it sucks.

[B]

Is it they carpeted stairs?

[C]

Yeah, it's carpeted.

[B]

Oh, upstairs.

[C]

Yeah.

[A]

Yikes.

[B]

That's like. That should be two jobs.

[A]

Okay, John, one more big question. Huge question. You have it. What is it?

[C]

Do you guys want kids?

[A]

We're all. We're perpetually trying to decide, you know,

[B]

and you can cut this out, Jordan, if you don't want to talk about this. But I think for me, it's not whether I want to have kids. It's like. It's. It's in this life, are there other things I also want?

[A]

Yes.

[B]

And I think for me, yes. I want kids. I do. I want. I think I'd be a really good mom. I think I like the idea of raising a kid with You. I think we would have a lot of fun.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

But it would be my whole life. Yeah. I don't know if I ever want that. And that is what is hard. So I think it's one of those things where I go, if I had two lives, one of them I would not, and one of them I would have like four kids and I would. Well, first of all, on the table in this life, one kid is only thing on the table.

[A]

Yeah, of course.

[B]

But we go back and forth.

[A]

I think we'll probably be later in life, foster parents. That's what I think is gonna happen. That's what I. But we'll see. And until then, we're really good aunts.

[B]

Yeah. It's just nice. It's. Yeah. It's not about do I want kids. I think it's just a huge. Also, I think what I've always said is if I was straight and I was incredibly fertile, if I got pregnant, like right now, I could see myself going, hey, yeah, make it work. Let's figure it out.

[A]

Absolutely.

[B]

Because I think. I know I would. I would like it. I get really into it. That's not the question. I don't think I would have a kid and regret it.

[A]

No.

[B]

But I just think I would. I think about all the things I could do not with a kid, and then I think about how maybe I like that.

[A]

Absolutely.

[B]

I also want a horse, which is like, that's gonna be expensive. I don't know.

[A]

So vote in the comments. Should we have a horse or a kid?

[B]

That's what I said. I was at a horseback riding the other day and I was like. She was asked if I had kids and I was like, no, I'm always like deciding between a horse or a kid. But then she told me, if you have a horse and you train it really well, it can half parent the kid. And I actually get that. You can just. Cuz you can just leave. Be like, go play with the horse and the kid will just.

[A]

Well, that's a perfect thing to end on. Thank you so much, Kendall. And thank you everyone. We can't believe we've been doing this podcast for 100 episodes.

[B]

I was saying like before the podcast started that like this did not feel like a hundred episodes. It feels like.

[A]

Why?

[B]

Because I. I was saying on my last up. My last podcast, BCC Club, we almost got to 100 episodes and it. This is feel it, like flew by. 100 episodes is a lot, a lot of episodes. And you know, I feel like we've. Our podcast has really Come into its own. Yeah, I feel like at the beginning, sometimes I watch little clips from the beginning. I'm like, oh, we were not. We're so new to it.

[A]

And we were nervous.

[B]

We were nervous.

[A]

We were like, oh, what are we getting canceled?

[B]

We're so scared of getting canceled. And now we're just free.

[A]

Free for all over here.

[B]

But it's just so fun.

[A]

We.

[B]

I can't explain enough how much we've enjoyed getting to know you guys as well, as creepy as that sounds or as fake as that sounds. Cause I know we, like, obviously you're listening to us talk, but like through Patreon and through social clips and chatting with people and hearing your questions and emailing with you, it's just such a delight. And I feel like I'm just so. I just adore this community so much. And it's been a treat to do this with you, Jordan, and we'll continue to do it. I don't know, I'm saying it like this is over. Yeah, this is just. I. I've just, I this, you know, it's always good to check in on a big milestone and this has been such a delight.

[A]

I agree. I love doing this with you and I'm excited for 100 more.

[B]

And you know what you always say when we're editing?

[A]

What?

[B]

We'll be editing the podcast or not editing, but sending in, you know, edits for the podcast. And Jordan will be like, God, we're good. And I think that's a really cool way to feel about your own podcast.

[A]

Sorry, we're good. And if you also think we're good, you can go join our Patreon. You can, like comment, subscribe. You can watch here on YouTube or you can listen anywhere you get your podcasts. Once again, this is a completely independently created and made podcast by Kendall and I with the help of John and Blake at home, our editor and you

[B]

mean to sound like he keep him

[A]

at our house in the basement. We keep him there.

[B]

Thank you all so much for listening and please, please, please, have a great week.

[A]

Love you.

[B]

Bye. Bye.

[A]

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