47: The Ultimate Relationship Resolutions (Season 2 Premiere!)

Summary

Podcast Summary: Happy Wife Happy Life - Episode 47: The Ultimate Relationship Resolutions (Season 2 Premiere!)

Hosts: Kendall Landreth and Jordan Myrick
Release Date: January 13, 2025
Episode Title: The Ultimate Relationship Resolutions (Season 2 Premiere!)
Podcast Description: Kendahl Landreth and Jordan Myrick, two deeply in love comedians, navigate the complexities of relationships with humor and heartfelt advice. Joined occasionally by love experts and celebrity guests, they tackle questions ranging from unconventional relationship structures to quirky libido-boosting diets.

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1. Season Two Kickoff and New Studio Tour (00:30 - 03:02)

Kendall and Jordan enthusiastically announce the start of Season Two, highlighting their excitement about a new studio setup. Kendall describes the studio's personalized touches, including a famous Furby, a girl Gremlin, a stack of lesbian books, a framed photo from their Europe trip, and a picture of their dog, Angel. Jordan complements the setup, mentioning elements like Kendall's stacks and their dog photo prominently displayed.

• Notable Quote:
  Kendall (01:07): "If you're watching, you can see what's going on. If you are just listening, let me give you a little descriptor."

2. Deep Cleaning and Discovering the Perfect Painting (03:02 - 04:59)

The hosts delve into their recent deep cleaning spree, a meticulous project planned six months in advance. They share humorous doubts about completing the extensive cleaning tasks but express satisfaction over their accomplishments. The highlight of their cleaning journey was discovering an original, hand-painted canvas that perfectly matches their dining room aesthetic. Despite initial excitement, Kendall shares her disappointment over the lackluster reactions from family and social media.

• Notable Quote:
  Kendall (03:18): "It's insane. It was made the size of it. There's one spot in our house that's over our dining room table that was just a blank wall."

3. Personal New Year's Resolutions (05:00 - 07:25)

Kendall and Jordan discuss their personal resolutions for 2025. Kendall reveals her goal to learn how to ride a horse, inspired by her interest in Regency-era lesbian literature. Jordan humorously contrasts his preference for a "nice boat" with Kendall's adventurous spirit, leading to a playful debate about boating preferences and the practicality of owning versus renting a boat.

• Notable Quote:
  Jordan (05:29): "I am doing vlog Annuary, where I vlog every day of January on YouTube and on TikTok. It really has motivated me to do things that I normally wouldn't do well."

4. Couple's Resolutions and Managing ADHD (07:52 - 24:23)

The conversation shifts to their couple's resolutions, focusing on improving communication and managing Kendall's ADHD-related forgetfulness. Kendall explains her challenges with memory and habits, such as leaving wet towels on the bed, and how they’ve established a positive system for gentle reminders. Jordan emphasizes the importance of not feeling like a nag and maintaining a supportive dynamic without building resentment.

• Notable Quotes:
  Kendall (18:15): "Never in my life have I closed a cabinet."
  Jordan (20:11): "It makes me feel like a nag. It makes me feel annoying."

5. Introducing New Podcast Segments: Red Flag, Green Flag (24:23 - 25:01)

To enhance listener engagement, Kendall and Jordan introduce a new recurring segment called "Red Flag, Green Flag." Each week, they will discuss either red or green flags in relationships, sharing their personal takes and encouraging listeners to participate by sharing their own flags via comments.

• Notable Quote:
  Jordan (24:46): "So excited about these segments. So excited about these segments."

6. Audience Questions and Discussions (32:01 - 57:43)

a. Handling Body Image Resolutions in Relationships (32:52 - 37:37)

Listeners inquire about managing body image resolutions when partners have differing goals. Kendall and Jordan advise prioritizing health over aesthetics and emphasize supportive communication. They stress the importance of speaking positively about oneself and the partner’s efforts, regardless of personal agreements on specific health habits.

• Notable Quotes:
  Kendall (33:06): "We should all be prioritizing our health."
  Jordan (35:03): "Talk kindly about yourself. Talk kindly about your partner."

b. Improving Subpar Living Situations on a Budget (37:37 - 40:05)

When asked about making a living space more homey despite monetary constraints, the hosts recommend affordable solutions like deep cleaning, rearranging furniture, adding personal touches from estate sales, and inviting friends over to motivate space enhancement. They highlight their own experience with repurposing a found painting as a centerpiece and advocate for sustainable practices like shopping their closets.

• Notable Quotes:
  Jordan (38:09): "Cleaning is pretty much free. Even if you don't have cleaning products."
  Kendall (39:52): "One man’s trash is another man’s treasure type of treasure."

c. Maintaining Spontaneity and Fun in Long-Term Relationships (40:05 - 51:08)

Listeners seek advice on avoiding ruts in long-term relationships. Kendall and Jordan share strategies such as regular date nights, embracing calm and peaceful moments, chasing each other playfully around the house, and setting small, achievable goals to maintain excitement and connection. They acknowledge that spontaneity can ebb and flow but stress the importance of mutual understanding and maintaining a positive outlook.

• Notable Quotes:
  Jordan (42:06): "Don't get stuck in the habit of like being in your house too much, not doing anything."
  Kendall (43:15): "No, it was a bad cycle where then I would be kind of defensive."

d. Additional Listener Queries (51:09 - 57:43)

i. Dealing with Rejected Crushes: Kendall advises cutting off all contact, including blocking numbers and unfollowing on social media, to effectively move on from unreciprocated crushes.

• Notable Quotes:
  Kendall (51:15): "Block their number. Unfollow them on Instagram. Goodbye."

ii. Inspiring Personal Change Amidst Carryover from Previous Year: Kendall and Jordan discuss the importance of setting small, manageable goals and continuously working towards them. They reference the "Big Rocks" analogy from "7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens" to emphasize prioritizing major goals while maintaining daily habits that support these aspirations.

• Notable Quotes:
  Kendall (56:00): "We have to make a list for this year then, too."
  Jordan (57:32): "If you polish a pebble with sand, it turns into a diamond."

7. Couple of the Week Segment and Closing Remarks (57:43 - End)

Kendall and Jordan introduce "Couple of the Week," encouraging listeners to submit their own stories or photos to be featured. They share their admiration for Zendaya and Tom Holland's apparent engagement as the inaugural couple. The hosts express gratitude to their audience, highlight their new studio's improvements, and encourage listeners to rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast.

• Notable Quotes:
  Jordan (58:09): "Zendaya and Tom Holland, who just got engaged."
  Kendall (59:30): "I can't wait to do this podcast."

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Key Takeaways:

1. Effective Resolution Setting: Break down large goals into smaller, actionable tasks to ensure consistent progress and prevent overwhelm.

2. Supportive Communication: Foster a positive and supportive environment when discussing personal and shared resolutions, especially when partners have differing goals.

3. Managing ADHD in Relationships: Implement gentle reminder systems and maintain open, non-defensive communication to handle ADHD-related challenges.

4. Enhancing Living Spaces on a Budget: Utilize cleaning, rearranging, and affordable personal touches to create a more inviting and personalized home environment.

5. Maintaining Relationship Spark: Incorporate regular dates, playful interactions, and small shared activities to keep the relationship dynamic and enjoyable.

6. Moving On from Rejected Crushes: Establish firm boundaries by cutting off contact to effectively heal and move forward.

7. Embracing Calm in Relationships: Appreciate peaceful moments together without the pressure of constant interaction to strengthen the relationship foundation.

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Conclusion:
In this season two premiere, Kendall and Jordan Landreth delve deep into the nuances of relationship resolutions, offering practical advice interwoven with personal anecdotes and humor. From managing personal habits and supporting each other's goals to enhancing their living space and maintaining relationship spontaneity, the hosts provide a comprehensive guide for listeners aiming to strengthen their relationships in the new year.

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Join the Conversation:
Listeners are invited to engage with Kendall and Jordan by submitting their own relationship stories or photos for the "Couple of the Week" segment. For additional content and bonus questions, visit their Patreon page where weekly minisodes are available.

Follow & Subscribe:
Make sure to subscribe on your preferred podcast platform, rate, and review to stay updated with Kendall and Jordan’s insightful and entertaining relationship advice.

Transcript

[Kendall Landriff]

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[Jordan Myrick]

Welcome to Happy Wife, Happy Life. Season two.

[Kendall Landriff]

We're your hosts. I'm Kendall Landriff.

[Jordan Myrick]

And I'm Jordan Myrick.

[Kendall Landriff]

And we are two incredibly unqualified but.

[Jordan Myrick]

Deeply in love comedians who are here to help you with all things relationship. And on this week's season premiere, we're talking about New Year's resolutions.

[Kendall Landriff]

Season two. Season two. Season two. Season two.

[Jordan Myrick]

I'm so excited.

[Kendall Landriff]

I am so excited as well. We're in a new studio.

[Jordan Myrick]

Can you believe this studio?

[Kendall Landriff]

I'm absolutely obsessed. If you're watching, you can see what's going on. If you are just listening, let me give you a little descriptor. On Jordan's side, we have the famous Furby. We have the girl Gremlin. Pretty much everything that I wanted out of our house. So I use this as a perfect moment to make it a part of our set.

[Jordan Myrick]

And Kendall has a stack of lesbian books, a photo of us in a beautiful picture frame we just bought in our trip to Europe. And then in the center, we have a photo of our dog, Angel.

[Kendall Landriff]

Angel. Oh, I really just. We're starting a new studio this year. We, I feel like, are living the true meaning of new Year, New us, truly.

[Jordan Myrick]

And we kicked that off with a deep, deep clean of our apartment. We have cleaned and are in the process of cleaning every single nook, cranny, corner, drawer of the entire space.

[Kendall Landriff]

And it was one of those things we've been planning. I mean, Jordan's very organized, so they put it on our calendar, I don't know, six months ago, every single day, what we would be cleaning, what we're going to be doing. But even when you would look at it, you would be like, is this going to happen? Do you know what I mean? Sometimes we famously bite off more than we can chew. So we would have, you know, okay, on this Friday, over the break, we're going to clean out this drawer. We're going to put this film over the window that makes it so people can't see. Inside we're going to clean out under our bed and. And you're just like, what if this is really gonna get done? I think we have gotten not only everything done we wanted to get done.

[Jordan Myrick]

But more, I think way more.

[Kendall Landriff]

And then add on top of it. The most exciting part of the deep clean is that I found a painting on the street.

[Jordan Myrick]

It's so beautiful. It matches the color of our house perfectly.

[Kendall Landriff]

It's insane. It was made the size of it. There's one spot in our house that's over our dining room table that was just a blank wall. We didn't know what to do with it and it was kind of like intimidating because it's like whatever we put there really represents this house.

[Jordan Myrick]

It's like the first thing you see when you walk in the front door.

[Kendall Landriff]

And it's over our kitchen table. It just feels like an intimidating spot to put a painting. It is perfect. It fits perfectly. It matches our aesthetic so well. And it's not a print, might I add.

[Jordan Myrick]

It is a hand painted on canvas, stretched over wood framed signed painting. It is not a replica. It's not a photograph. It is an original. It looks like a Kincaid painting if you're familiar, but it's a little different. It's done in like a little bit of a different style. I think probably what happened is someone is a painter or was in a painting class was like, take a famous painting and then paint it in your own style. They did that with this Kincaid painting and then gave it to their girlfriend and then they broke up and then their girlfriend put it in the trash.

[Kendall Landriff]

Well, and I'm so happy they did. But it was one of those moments where you know when people are just not giving you the response you want. I posted a photo of the painting to my Instagram. I felt like I was expecting millions of people to be rolling in my DMs being like, oh my God. I was expecting calls from family being like, where did you get that? That's so beautiful. We sent a photo of it in our family group chat. No one really seemed to care.

[Jordan Myrick]

Everyone was like, cool.

[Kendall Landriff]

And that always just hurts so much, doesn't it? When you're expecting such a huge reaction and you don't get it.

[Jordan Myrick]

It's like when you show someone a TikTok and you're like, this is so funny. And then you make them watch the TikTok and they just watch it. Silent, no laughter. And you're like, well, okay, I guess we have to stop speaking forever now.

[Kendall Landriff]

I saw this TikTok the other day that I showed you because I related to it so much where it was like, the devil couldn't reach me. So he gave me a wife that reads at a third grade reading level. So whenever I show her a TikTok, it takes her so long to understand the joke. And I'm like, that is me. Every time you show me something I like, don't laugh. And then you go to pull it away, and I'm like, no, no, I'm sorry. I'm on word number four.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah.

[Kendall Landriff]

But what's the best part of our home cleaning that you felt like is so satisfying?

[Jordan Myrick]

Other than the painting? I cleaned out a drawer by our front door and then reorganized it, so now it has all of our keychains, all of the things that you'd use to refill your purse. So, like, mini lotions, hand sanitizer, anything like that. And then our Crocs Jibbitz. And that feels really good to me.

[Kendall Landriff]

Can I say something that I think has really helped our year? Because I think we've started out this new year just killing it. Like, I feel like we are doing all the things that for so long we've been like, I really wanna be the type of person who does this. Even just little things where we're always like. I feel like we're always running late. And I feel like we really have always been like, I wish that, like, we were the type of people where 30 minutes before we were ready and we could really get our purse together and, like, lotion ourselves, like, stupid things, you know? And I feel like the first six days of the year, we've really done it. I feel like it's because you have been doing your little vlogs.

[Jordan Myrick]

I am doing vlog Annuary, where I vlog every day of January on YouTube and on TikTok. It really has motivated me to do things that I normally wouldn't do well.

[Kendall Landriff]

And I. It's motivated. I'm not even in the vlogs. And it really. And it's motivated me because I think I'm like, I think there's something so cheesy about romanticizing your life, but I do think there is, you know, truth to it, where it's like, I could just go to the gym or I could pack a really cute gym bag and bring my book so I can read in the sauna. I could. You know, we have to stop there.

[Jordan Myrick]

For one second because Kendall keeps talking about reading in the sauna. How are you reading in a sauna? Doesn't it get your Book soaking wet.

[Kendall Landriff]

Well, to be honest, I haven't done it yet, but I'm thinking about doing it.

[Jordan Myrick]

Oh, I don't think I see all work.

[Kendall Landriff]

I see all the. The ladies on TikTok do it.

[Jordan Myrick]

The ladies on TikTok are reading in the sauna.

[Kendall Landriff]

They always read in the sauna.

[Jordan Myrick]

The sauna is a room full of steam.

[Kendall Landriff]

I've been in a sauna.

[Jordan Myrick]

Books are made of paper.

[Kendall Landriff]

I understand. I think I need to only bring books that I really like that I'm planning on keeping forever into the sauna. Because you're right about that. Although I don't know. People read in Florida and I feel like a sauna is less humid than Florida.

[Jordan Myrick]

No, a sauna is not less humid than Florida.

[Kendall Landriff]

You don't know. I went there one time and it was really humid.

[Jordan Myrick]

It's very humid. Don't get me wrong. But I'm like, I don't. Who are all these people reading in the sauna? I'm telling you, I can't be in a sauna. It's too hot and humid.

[Kendall Landriff]

It does feel scary. Also, there's a lot of horror stories about saunas exploding. This is true. What I mean. Well, let me work. I'm working on this. Speaking news resolutions. I'm trying to say this. I heard, to my understanding, there's been a couple accidents with saunas where they explode. And the sauna at my gym, the women's sauna always is fine. The men's sauna is always shut down because they hike the temperature way up and it's dangerous.

[Jordan Myrick]

The sauna explodes. How?

[Kendall Landriff]

I have no idea. No more information. But all I know is it feels tedious. There's a sign in the sauna that says, like, don't. Don't mess with the temperature of the sauna. And I'm like, who is messing with. First of all, the thought that you want it to be hotter is really disturbing. Cause it is really hot. But it does feel. Feel a little bit dangerous and scary. But it is really hot. But I do like it. It feels nice.

[Jordan Myrick]

Are you thinking of a tanning bed?

[Kendall Landriff]

Who knows what I'm thinking of? But no, I'm thinking. I think I'm thinking of a sauna. A tanning bed is obviously dangerous, but I've heard that a sauna. There's been a couple. Not many, but like sauna explosions. God, I wish I had more info. God, I wish I had more, but I don't. I just know that there was a couple.

[Jordan Myrick]

Well, if they exist, I'll try to drop some of those in the Patreon news articles about the SO explosions so we can all learn more. Thank you for that, Kendall. Now, I want to talk about our personal resolutions for 2025. I'm a freak for resolutions. I love them. I do a million of them every year. I actually stick to most of them. I find them so motivating and delicious. I love them.

[Kendall Landriff]

We take our resolutions very seriously in our house. When it is December 15th, I'm like, Jordan, let's get a date on the calendar where we can have an hour and a half long meeting where we go through all our resolutions. And you might be going, how could that possibly take an hour and a half? Because our resolutions take up three pages in a notebook. We have personal resolutions, career resolutions, you know, health resolutions, dog parent resolutions, friend resolutions.

[Jordan Myrick]

They're beautiful. It's like a vision board made of words.

[Kendall Landriff]

Yes. And I think a lot of people be like, that's too much. You're not going to possibly be able to keep. But we do. I feel like we do, because, first of all, I think we make normal resolutions. Our resolutions are never, like, run a marathon and, you know, lose £300. You know, it's never anything super crazy. They're just like small, little life things that I feel like we've already been trying to implement but just, like, haven't done it. And I also feel like I try to really make sure I have that paper in a place that I, like, can keep with me. Like, mine's in the front of my planner, so I have it all year to remind me of it. But we take it really seriously and go through it together. And I really am a big believer in them. But I think a fresh start is helpful, and I believe in it, because the first six days of this year have been incredible, and I've been a way better person than I was last year already.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah. So what's one of your personal resolutions?

[Kendall Landriff]

I'm going to learn how to ride a horse.

[Jordan Myrick]

If you need three new reasons to.

[Kendall Landriff]

Love Jack wraps at Jack in the Box even more. Here they are. Chicken fajita, chicken Caesar, and delicious. Starting at $3. Coincidentally, those are the same three reasons you should come to Jack in the Box right now at Jack, every bite's a big deal, and I am so excited for it. I. I just had this moment where I, like, I've been reading all these Regency era lesbian books, and I'm like, I gotta get on a horse.

[Jordan Myrick]

Okay.

[Kendall Landriff]

I. And I think I kept wishing for it, like, I would see Someone on a horse. I'd be like, I wish I could ride a horse. I would hear about someone who has a horse back at their. In their hometown, and I. My first instinct would be like, I gotta get close to this person so they can take me home for Christmas and I can ride their horse.

[Jordan Myrick]

That's right.

[Kendall Landriff]

And then I realized, are you gonna say it's how you feel about a boat?

[Jordan Myrick]

Yes, that's how I feel about people who have boats. I'm like, you have a boat? Which is like, I don't really think of myself. I don't really care what other people have, and I don't want to spend time around people that I don't like. So there's almost nothing you could do to make me want to spend time with you if I don't enjoy spending time with you. That being said, if I find out you have a nice boat with a tube attached to it, that could be a game changer. Kendall, no one's nice boat has a tube attached to it, honey. Nice boats.

[Kendall Landriff]

Wake up. Oh, you want a yacht?

[Jordan Myrick]

I don't want a yacht, but I want.

[Kendall Landriff]

I'm looking for a speedboat with a drunk man with a Bud Light in his hand taking me around the lake.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah, that's the difference between you and I. I want a nice boat.

[Kendall Landriff]

Oh, good Lord.

[Jordan Myrick]

Sorry.

[Kendall Landriff]

Grow up.

[Jordan Myrick]

Sorry.

[Kendall Landriff]

Grow up.

[Jordan Myrick]

I want a nice meat.

[Kendall Landriff]

I want a grocery store sandwich sitting on the back of a tube being donuted around by a man who should not legally be driving a boat. Okay, well, I want alcohol intake.

[Jordan Myrick]

Okay, well, I want a grocery store sandwich on a nice boat, and I think that's fine.

[Kendall Landriff]

All right, well, I. I saw this post a long time ago. That is really true. And it was like, the worst thing about being liberal is having no friends who own a boat. And I was like, damn, that's true.

[Jordan Myrick]

It really is true. I'll say it. Boats are conservative propaganda.

[Kendall Landriff]

Yeah.

[Jordan Myrick]

They're the only thing that make me want to know anyone who is conservative. And, I mean, they brought the colonizers over. They're the original kind of tool of social violence.

[Kendall Landriff]

And I become a conservative when I get on a boat. If I'm on a boat, I am drinking my first beer I've ever had, and I'm asking for country music to be played.

[Jordan Myrick]

I will say I like an American flag more when I'm on a boat than when I'm not on a boat.

[Kendall Landriff]

And it's so unfortunate. None of my friends who are liberal, which is all of my friends own A boat. And to be honest, it makes me feel like a loser. It makes me feel really like I am. Like, oh, maybe they do have it figured out that they own boats. Why don't we own boats? I don't understand.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah. What's the one to one of being a truly awful person and also getting to have one of the most fun things. Things that exist on planet Earth?

[Kendall Landriff]

It's really unfortunate. So, yeah, I want to be able to ride a horse. My point in all of this is that I realized, Kendall, you don't need to make a friend to be able to ride a horse. You can just go ride a horse. And honestly, maybe we need to look inward and realize we could also buy a boat.

[Jordan Myrick]

Wow. I mean, we could.

[Kendall Landriff]

We could leave the studio today, Jordan, and go buy a boat.

[Jordan Myrick]

I don't think we could afford the kind of boat I want. And I.

[Kendall Landriff]

Well, we would disagree. We would just buy two boats. Cause I don't want whatever fancy ass boat you're thinking about. I want a wakeboard.

[Jordan Myrick]

No. What are you even talking about? We would need a nicer boat. And I don't think we could afford a nice boat. And I'm not ready for the upkeep of a boat. I can barely take care of our home, which is a two bedroom apartment that's like 800 square feet. How big is our apartment?

[Kendall Landriff]

About 8,000 square feet, maybe.

[Jordan Myrick]

I don't know. I'm so bad at that.

[Kendall Landriff]

It's square feet.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah.

[Kendall Landriff]

You don't need to be good at it. Okay. It's not really a skill that people need to be good at.

[Jordan Myrick]

Perfect.

[Kendall Landriff]

What I'll tell you is that I think owning a boat could be kind of like the. Kind of like what we've talked about with private jets, where it's like, it really doesn't make sense. Just rent one. Because I will say every person I know who owns a boat, when I was a kid, it would be like, let's take the boat out. And they'd be like, my dad's working on the boat. I was like, well, the boat's always being worked on. The boat's always broken.

[Jordan Myrick]

It's a lot of upkeep.

[Kendall Landriff]

What's hard is that if you don't own a boat. If I would be like, okay, I'm rent boats, I would still need to. I would need to learn how to drive a boat and get my boating license.

[Jordan Myrick]

There's a lot that goes into it.

[Kendall Landriff]

God, that's kind of hot, me having a boating license.

[Jordan Myrick]

I could get into that used to. In South Florida, there was a place where you would go, and it was like a boat that took you around the water, and you could drive the boat if you're a child, and then the captain would, like, give you a certificate that was like, you officially, like, this is your boating license. So for many years when I was younger, I was like, I'm licensed to drive a boat. Get me out on one of those things. It was just fully fake. It was just a sweet thing for children.

[Kendall Landriff]

What's your New Year's resolution?

[Jordan Myrick]

Intentionality.

[Kendall Landriff]

Oh, good Lord.

[Jordan Myrick]

I want everything I do to be more intentional. I want to be working when I'm working, I want to be relaxing. When I'm relaxing, I want to be doing more intentional, fun things with my friends. I want us to be going on more dates because I have such a bad habit of always kind of working a little bit. I know it's one of your least favorite things about me, and I'm trying to work on it. I'm trying to be like, I'm doing what I'm doing when I'm doing it, and when I'm not doing it, I'm not doing it. There's not like, oh, I'm not working, but I'm gonna do a couple emails. I'm gonna do XYZ thing, and whatever. It's like, no, I need to do better at creating boundaries within my own life.

[Kendall Landriff]

I think that's amazing because I. And I. I feel like I could work on that, too. I feel like I. We've talked about this a little bit, but last year, I don't know what it was, and I voiced it a lot last year, and I feel like you voiced a similar thing where I was like, I cannot enjoy anything. And I think some might be like, is that depression? I don't think I. I don't feel depressed.

[Jordan Myrick]

I don't think you have depression.

[Kendall Landriff]

No, no, I. I don't. I mean, I. I don't have depression. I. But I just felt kind of like, even if someone was like, I'm taking you to Disneyland for a day, and we're gonna. I would still be, like, nine more hours till I'm home. Like, I just. And part of me was like, well, I love my home. And that's true. I love my dog. I love my home. I love being home with you. But it also was a real big bummer where I was like, I can't be excited about anything. What is this new? And that feels so unlike me. I feel like, famously, I'm very excitable So I was just bummed. And I don't feel that energy this year. Like, we've already done a couple things where I'm, like, excited to go out to dinner. I'm excited to go out with friends, and I think it is that intentional work time versus hangout time. And I felt like you and I last year would do a lot of, like, we'd make a fun plan, but then when it'd come to it, if it was just you and I, we'd be like, what if we just didn't do that? Cause we also could just hang out on the couch together, which is fun and totally is a place. But even, like, this Tuesday, I'm so excited because at night, Jordan and I are gonna make dim sum at home.

[Jordan Myrick]

I can't wait.

[Kendall Landriff]

Not only are we excited and planned it, but I think we're gonna follow through with it. Like, we are gonna follow through with it. Cause we're both looking forward to it. And I feel it doesn't feel overwhelming. It feels like somehow we've slowed our life down a little bit, and it's really going to make everything feel a lot better. Because I think it was also hard because we were so busy last year and kind of burnt out that probably that was part of it. It was like, oh, now I have to go out to a bar with friends. A thing that should be fun, but I'm so tired that it feels like work. And that sucks.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah. Kendall, do you want to tell them our couple's resolution?

[Kendall Landriff]

Okay. Yes. So the couple's resolution we came up with, which is something we've been working on for a while, but I think it's a habit that we're trying to really build, and I think we've been doing really good with so far this year, is when Jordan sees that I've done something wrong to say, ken, you forgot to do this thing in a really nice way. And then I am to say, jordan, thank you for the reminder.

[Jordan Myrick]

And to be clear, if you're like, why do you have that for Kendall but not Jordan? This is specifically because Kendall has very severe adhd, and that causes her to forget a lot of things. So Kendall opens every cabinet and has never closed a cabinet.

[Kendall Landriff]

Never in my life have I closed a cabinet.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yes, Kendall will do. For Kendall has a very, very bad memory because of Radh. Well, I forget stuff.

[Kendall Landriff]

Sorry, I didn't mean to. I forget stuff halfway through the task. So I get out of the shower, and I put on my towel, and I set on the bed to Put my pajamas on. I leave a wet towel on the bed on Jordan's side. So Jordan's side of the bed of soaking wet. This isn't Jordan being nitpicky. These are sincerely annoying. You know, I go to take out the trash, and then I set it down to go get the keys to go outside. I forget, and I leave our trash next to the front door. Like, things that. It's just halfway through the task, I've forgotten it. But what we've been trying. A problem we've ran into in the past is that I. I am working on those things. Very much so I'm putting things into play. But it also is something I will struggle with, and I think it is something I will always have. Be a part of me. I will always forget things. Halfway through the task, I will be a lot better than I used to be. And I'm, like, medicated now, so that helps. But I was like, I don't want it to become this thing where you resent me more and more because you feel like I'm leaving the wet towel on the bed because I don't care or because I, like, don't think it matters or it's not annoying, and I just am disregarding your feelings. But I also don't want you to it to become this dynamic where you feel like a nag.

[Jordan Myrick]

That was my big thing because I. I was like, I don't want to feel like I'm nagging all the time. And we came to this conclusion because I was like, I don't mind giving you reminders. If you have a bad memory and need reminders, that's totally fine. But when I give you a reminder and then it's met with defensiveness, it makes me feel like a nag. It makes me feel annoying. So I was like, I think what would be nice is if I could give gentle reminders in a nice, positive way and Kendall could receive them in a nice, positive way, because I think it was a.

[Kendall Landriff]

It was a bad cycle where then I would be kind of defensive. So you get irritated and then. And it would start to become. I was. I was being rude in response. But also you would be like, kendall, come on. You know, and then that would make me feel annoyed because I'm like, it wasn't out of ill will. Like, I wasn't really. I wasn't trying to forget to do that thing. And I think it makes it easier because I'm able to build a habit. Like, I bring up the towel on the bed things I don't really do that anymore. Ever so often, maybe, but it used to be a thing I did every time I took a shower.

[Jordan Myrick]

It was a big point of contention because it would be a soaking wet towel, and it would always be left on my side of the bed. I don't even know. You don't even go to my side of the bed. I don't understand.

[Kendall Landriff]

It just felt right.

[Jordan Myrick]

It was so rude.

[Kendall Landriff]

It was rude. And I. But now. And I bring that up now because I don't really do that anymore because it just took me a little longer to build the habit. And so I was like, while I'm building that habit, I don't want it to us to build so much resentment about that thing, because then once that is resolved, there's gonna be a new thing. And I just don't want us to ever be building resentment. So we were trying to find a way to make it to where you can voice any. Because I also didn't want it to be like, you have to keep things to yourself.

[Jordan Myrick]

Well, because the reality of the situation is you will always have severe ADHD and you will always have a bad memory. So we have to find a system that we can kind of enact for the rest of forever. That feels good. And I don't mind giving reminders. I'll give you reminders until the end of time, as long as you're not upset to be receiving.

[Kendall Landriff]

Well, and for me, too, it was like. There is one thing that I feel like I've been doing pretty good about is resetting the bathroom. And this has been a problem since going back to. If my mom's listening to this podcast. Going back to when I was a literal child all through high school, I would leave the bathroom an absolute wreck. Like, I leave the bathroom soaking wet. It's flooded in there. Everything is everywhere. There's 18 towels on the floor, the shower curtains open. There's conditioner on. I mean, it is a nightmare. And so I've really worked on being like, you get out of the shower and you do a stand and scan. I look behind me, I'm like, okay, what are the things I need to do after a shower? And I have to put in a lot of energy. I'm like, okay, I close the shower curtain. I take the hair drain out. I fix that, put the hair drain back. I, you know, do all of. I dry myself off before I get out of the shower.

[Jordan Myrick]

That's one of the craziest things Kendall does that I don't even understand Kendall fully gets out of the shower without drying herself at all, and then leaves the bathroom without drying herself or her hair at all.

[Kendall Landriff]

I know. Well, you know, when I was a little girl, like three and four, it was a problem where I would jump out of the bath, run around our neighborhood nude. I'm not even kidding.

[Jordan Myrick]

Why? Your dad should have been put a stop to.

[Kendall Landriff]

They tried. I was fast. It wasn't that they wanted me to do it. I was out of control.

[Jordan Myrick]

That you got out of the house.

[Kendall Landriff]

I was fast. I was fast.

[Jordan Myrick]

A child is like, you're supposed to be sitting right next to the bathtub.

[Kendall Landriff]

She was.

[Jordan Myrick]

You should just be able to dunk them back down in there.

[Kendall Landriff]

And that's called drowning a kid.

[Jordan Myrick]

No, not holding him down, just pushing them back.

[Kendall Landriff]

But I've always been that way, and that's my natural instinct now. I want to get out and dry off in the natural sun. I want to get outside. That's what I want to do. So I get out of the shower, and I just run through our house. I mean, I'm getting a glass of water. I'm petting the dog. I don't know what it is. So now I have. I've talked about this before, so I'll speed through it, but I have this lotion you put on in the shower while you're wet. It dries you. It's amazing. It's from Juergens. Okay. I love it. It's amazing. And then I pat myself dry. So I've worked on all these things. It's taken me over time, whatever, but it used to be Jordan would come in and be like, kendall, the bathroom's a mess. And I would go, I'm about to clean it. And it was.

[Jordan Myrick]

Which was a lie.

[Kendall Landriff]

It was a pet peeve of Jordan's, because this would have been 50 minutes after I took a shower, I'm on the couch reading a book. Like, Nude Jordan's. Like, you're about to go back in there and clean it. No, you were not. But for me, that is, like. That's a defense mechanism I built over my life of having adhd, where I. Because I. I desperately don't want to be seen as careless or unthoughtful because I'm not as a person at all. But my ADHD can make me seem that way because I forget things that are important, and I, you know, leave a mess places after I do something. And that's all giving. Kind of careless person who is not thinking about other people. And I don't identify with that. So it's always been, like, trying to show just to be like, no, I was gonna do that. Like, I know that's a thing you should do. And I wouldn't just leave that without thinking, but I just forgot. And so I think just being more like this year, knowing each of us are coming from a good place and being like, yeah, I would never purposely leave something in a bad way for you and you would never want to make me feel bad. You're just trying to help out. So I feel like that's something for us as a couple we're working on.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yes. And speaking of new, one thing we want to do for this podcast in 2025 and for the rest of forever are segments we're so excited about. So excited about these segments. So the first one we're introducing today that will be a recurring segment is Red Flag, Green Flag, where we each bring a flag, either red or green, depending on the week, and we talk about why it's our flag of the week and what we think about it.

[Kendall Landriff]

This week we're doing green flags. So the only thing, Jordan, I ever discuss with each other beforehand is if we're doing a red flag or a green flag so we don't know what the other has brought.

[Jordan Myrick]

It's true. And then you can discuss in the comment your green flag of the week or what you think about our green flags.

[Kendall Landriff]

Oh, yes.

[Jordan Myrick]

So, Kendall, you're first.

[Kendall Landriff]

We wanted to start with green flags because it's New Year positivity. Everything is going great. My green flag for this week is about Jordan because I think it is so sweet and I'm absolutely obsessed with it. I made one batch of muffins, you guys. I made one batch of muffins. I am terrible in the kitchen. Literally. Never cook, bake, make cocktails. I don't do anything in the kitchen. I'm terrible at it. Jordan was like, I want you to try to make these, like, coffee cake banana bread muffins. I was like, okay, I didn't even.

[Jordan Myrick]

Ask you to make them. I just said, I've been dreaming about having like a. A muffin that is both banana bread and coffee cake. Cuz I love a little streusel topping.

[Kendall Landriff]

Well, and then you sent me a recipe. You really set me up. You made sure I had all my ingredients. We went through it together and I made them. This was a couple days ago. Since I made these muffins, I have heard Jordan say to maybe 10 people, well, Kendall's kind of the baker of the family, so send her a recipe. She'll make it. She's gotten really into baking. She's so good at baking. You were on the phone with your dad, and I heard you go, well, Kendall's a baker. She's the baker of the family, so she loves to bake. She's a great baker. And then we went out to lunch with these two new people we met, and they were into food, and it was really fun. And we were talking about food, and we talked. Baking came up, and Jordan was like, well, Kendall's a really good baker. And I just thought it was so precious, because I am certainly not. I've made one. I've truly made one batch of muffins.

[Jordan Myrick]

But they were spectacular. They were unbelievable.

[Kendall Landriff]

But Jordan's acting like I. Jordan was just talking them up for weeks, acting like I was suddenly, literally on British Baking show. And it was just very thought, like, very sweet, very cute.

[Jordan Myrick]

You're so sweet. Okay. My green flag is being ready to hop into a challenge or a thing with your partner when they need you to.

[Kendall Landriff]

Oh, what do you. Okay.

[Jordan Myrick]

I love that because this week I went to the dentist, and I have hereditarily bad teeth. You're like, jordan, your teeth look good. Well, that's because a lot of my teeth are veneers. They're fake. If you took them off, there was little vampire fangs under there that they had to shave down.

[Kendall Landriff]

I love those. Sometimes I wish you'd just take the veneers off. I love the little fangs.

[Jordan Myrick]

It would be really scary. And I have bad teeth, and I'm always working on my dental health. So I said, you know what? This year, I'm really. I'm flossing twice a day. Twice a day. I'm brushing three to four times a day. I'm using a water pick multiple times a week. I really got to step up my gum health, specifically. And without even saying anything, Kendall has also started to do the same. She's coming into the bathroom. She's flossing. When I'm flossing, she's like, oh, we got to do the dental routine before bed. She's just immediately jumped into this task. That's the thing that I wanted to work on for myself because she wants to help motivate me to do it. And she also sees that it's, like, beneficial to her, and I'm so much more likely to do it if we're doing it together. And I think that that's just been so sweet and nice.

[Kendall Landriff]

Oh, that's sweet. Well, I've been really trying to get out of Bed. Because I get in bed and it is so hard for me. You might be thinking, well then do your routine before you get in bed. Is a great idea. I don't know why I don't. I get in bed and then I'm like, I gotta get up and brush my teeth and wash my face. But that was also a resolution for me this year is like every night doing a night routine.

[Jordan Myrick]

You really sneak into bed. Like you sneak into bed, I will go to the bathroom for one second and then I'll come out and you're gone. We were like in the living room watching a shower or whatever. You're just fully gone.

[Kendall Landriff]

I'm in my bed.

[Jordan Myrick]

You're in the bed still kind of enclosed. You're like not in your pajamas, you're not ready for bed, but you're under the covers and you're like, good night. And I'm like, what are you doing? You know we still have to get ready for bed.

[Kendall Landriff]

I know, but I'm really trying to do night routine because I think I was like, I want to be waking up earlier. But what that really is is just changing my night routine, which is so much easier because I'm in no control in the morning. Like I am not in control of my body in the morning. Like if I, if I had to go to war, I would be. And it was at 6am I would. This is a bad example.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yes. That's the reason why I wouldn't be good at war. It would be too early.

[Kendall Landriff]

My point was, even if it was something so important, and I guess the most important thing I could think of is war. I don't know why.

[Jordan Myrick]

Gotta wear a warhead.

[Kendall Landriff]

Yeah, I think nothing's more important. No, that's not what I think.

[Jordan Myrick]

But thanks for clarifying.

[Kendall Landriff]

I don't want to sound bite of me saying I love war.

[Jordan Myrick]

I love war.

[Kendall Landriff]

But I, I just think if, even if it's the most important thing, I have a tough time getting out of bed. I'm not a person who like sleeps through my alarm and, and misses appointments. Like I'm not like that. But I just, if it's, if the only motivation is like to better my life, there's no me getting out of bed. But I have a lot of control at night. So I was like, if I, I can make myself go to sleep by 10:00pm sure. And then it just like I don't have to really think about it because setting my alarm for 6:30 isn't that crazy. It's like the same as setting up for nine if I went to bed at midnight. Anyways, so I'm really trying to do a nighttime routine. And the teeth thing I just have so much sympathy for because I have genetically really great teeth. Well, not the form of them because I've had a lot of braces. So left to their own devices, they're very crooked. But just like the health of my teeth, I've never had a cavity.

[Jordan Myrick]

Insane.

[Kendall Landriff]

And. Or I might have had one cavity. I can't fully remember, but it was a cavity where my dentist told me years in advance, this tooth is going to have a cavity because there's like a divot in it and you can't do anything about it. So we just have to wait in the wolf. So I think that might have happened, but besides that, I've never had like a self induced cavity, so my teeth.

[Jordan Myrick]

Are like that, but all of them.

[Kendall Landriff]

Because what I will say is just to out myself in high school, I don't know how much I was really brushing my teeth, to be honest. Like in the morning. Sure. We were not brushing our teeth at night. Even into adulthood. I got into a bad habit of brushing my teeth not at night. Very gross flossing. Never heard of her. Go to the dentist. I'm always met with great job, looks great, looks awesome, Jordan. I've never had a dentist say anything rude to me. They're like, you look amazing. Everything looks great. I just simply don't take that great care of my teeth. And when I started dating Jordan, I was amazed because you always had so many issues when you went to the dentist. You always got kind of reamed. They were like, there's a lot of bad stuff happening. Jordan. Floss first of all, brushes your teeth like three times a day. Flosses, water pick, tongue scraper. I'm like, it's insane. It's like an eight step routine. And I was like, wow, it really is. I knew that. But it really is wild how genetic it is.

[Jordan Myrick]

And this brings up a fight that we might be about to have.

[Kendall Landriff]

Oh, my God.

[Jordan Myrick]

Have you used the new tongue scraper I got you?

[Kendall Landriff]

Here we go. No, I haven't.

[Jordan Myrick]

Why?

[Kendall Landriff]

I don't know.

[Jordan Myrick]

You're being really weird about it. You're acting like it's gross to use a tongue scraper, but it's gross to not use a tongue scraper.

[Kendall Landriff]

No. Well, I. First I brush my tongue, so I'm not like just leaving my tongue.

[Jordan Myrick]

No, it's not. But same.

[Kendall Landriff]

I know. I don't know what about it kind of grosses me out. I know it's true.

[Jordan Myrick]

If you would use it before I.

[Kendall Landriff]

Bought it, I thought I would. And now I'm looking at it and it scares me. But I'm going to use.

[Jordan Myrick]

You have to.

[Kendall Landriff]

No, I will, I will.

[Jordan Myrick]

It's really good for you. I told me you wanted one.

[Kendall Landriff]

I know, know. I don't know what it's like, the metal on my. I don't know.

[Jordan Myrick]

You're gonna like the way it feels.

[Kendall Landriff]

Oh, wait a minute. I become addicted to that.

[Jordan Myrick]

You make me do it to you.

[Kendall Landriff]

Yeah.

[Jordan Myrick]

All right, let's get into audience questions.

[Kendall Landriff]

So we every single week on our podcast, if you're new, if you're new, welcome, welcome. We talk about a topic and then we go and we ask you guys questions. On social media, there's many forms and places you can ask us questions. We always post the questions on Instagram, so you can ask us there. You can ask us on our Patreon, which I just need to plug really fast because we've got a lot of fun stuff going on over there. In fact, today we're filming a vlog about our first day back in filming that's going to go on Patreon. We do minisodes every single week on our Patreon. We have a bunch of fun stuff going on over there. So you can ask questions there as well or you can email us your questions@hwhlpod questionsmail.com if you especially have a longer question that needs details in them. We are obsessed with that. And. Yeah, so let's get into them.

[Jordan Myrick]

So today we're talking about New Year, New me, relationship resolutions. And this is what the people want to know. Our first question is, I'd love to hear your opinions about how to best handle body image related resolutions, especially if yours differ from your partners.

[Kendall Landriff]

That's a good question, I think. That's a really good question, I think. Okay, here's. I think it's really important to know why you're making the resolutions big time. I think if you have one partner who's like, I want to be. I want to do 75 hard and do the keto diet and juice the first two weeks of the year, and it's all for maybe aesthetic purposes, and then the other partner is maybe really trying to like love themselves the way they are, this gets into a kind of complicated thing. But what I will say is we should all be prioritizing our health. So I think there is a way to connect with any person on goals relating to health. So I don't think they need to be the exact same. I don't think you and your partner, in my opinion, need to have the same habits when it comes to health. We don't. I feel like we. You're healthier in some ways than I am and vice versa. Or we care about different things that we have to. Or, like, even with the teeth stuff, it's like, you need to prioritize that more. I have lupus. You don't. So with a lot of stuff like that, it can get different, and I think that's fine. But there's so many things when it comes to health that every human being needs, which is like exercise, vegetables, water. And I think if you can connect on some of those and push each other, that can create a healthy balance. What do you think?

[Jordan Myrick]

I agree. I think that's really smart. Smart. I also think the big thing for me is just be careful how you talk about stuff. If your partner is, like, really trying to get physically fit, don't talk about it like it's stupid. Even if you don't agree with necessarily what they're doing, as long as it's not unhealthy, they're not hurting themselves. Try to be kind and try to be supportive about it. If your partner is not trying to work on physical fitness, but they're trying to work on their mental health, their relationship with food, hype that up. Just no matter what it is, try to talk about it positively. And even more importantly, I would say try to talk about yourself positively.

[Kendall Landriff]

Yeah.

[Jordan Myrick]

So if you're working out all the time, trying to lose weight and being like, I'm so fat. I'm so fat, and your partner is trying to work on their relationship to food, that is not kind. You also shouldn't be talking about yourself that way. I've noticed that the way that you talk about yourself really affects your partner.

[Kendall Landriff]

Yeah.

[Jordan Myrick]

And it really, to me, at least, feels like it says a lot about me. When Kendall feels something about herself and whether that's good or bad or intentional or accidental, that she's saying these things that are making me feel that way.

[Kendall Landriff]

Yeah.

[Jordan Myrick]

I think it's something worth noting. So talk kindly about yourself. Talk kindly about your partner. Hype each other up, and both of you be like, normal, healthy. Just be normal healthy, you know?

[Kendall Landriff]

Yeah.

[Jordan Myrick]

That's. That's something that has helped us, as both of us, to. Trying to find a healthy middle ground for mental and physical health.

[Kendall Landriff]

Yeah. Well, because, two, it's like when you're dating someone, they're gonna. You can't make them not do a thing they want to do. So if you have a partner who really wants to get ripped, like, they're like, I mean, we've talked about this a little bit because I'm like, gotten a little more into the gym and I'm like, I want to be able to do a pull up. Like, I want to be, you know, I want to be a little more physically strong. They're going to do that whether or not you make them feel like they can talk to you about it or not. And I think if you make them feel embarrassed by that or you make them feel and this could go for anything. You make them feel, like, embarrassed. You make them feel kind of like it's stupid. They're just gonna be more kind of like to themselves about it. And that's like, never positive and good. So if you're open, if they're like, well, when you talk about it, it makes me feel this way. And you guys can talk about it a little more openly and they can understand the importance of hyping you up still, even if it's not a goal they have. Like you said, I think that is really important. But just it. I think sometimes people get like, well, that's not my goal. So I'm just not related to this at all. I think that's doesn't make someone feel supported.

[Jordan Myrick]

I also think this is a little contradictory to what I said earlier, but I think both are important. Even though what your partner says about themselves does affect you, your partner's goals are not about you. Yeah, your partner wants to do XYZ something different with their body that you don't want to do with your body. They're not asking you to do that with your body. They're telling you what they want to do with their body. So try not to internalize that.

[Kendall Landriff]

And if they are asking you to do that with your body, you can be like, hey, I'm not interested in that. Like, that's a different conversation. Like, they shouldn't make you feel like you need to do what they're doing. Unless they're like, I'm trying to cut out soda, please do it with me because I need support.

[Jordan Myrick]

Or like, we both need to stop smoking cigarettes.

[Kendall Landriff]

Yeah. Yeah.

[Jordan Myrick]

Any advice on making a subpar living situation more homey this year? I would love to work on making our house a better environment for me and my partner, but it seems impossible due to monetary restrictions and sharing space with other people. I would love to improve things for us and stop treating our current Situation like a halfway point, always hoping for the next thing and not enjoying what we have. I think that is such a good thing to start out with, is a positive mindset like that. So I feel like you're already on the right track. I think a big thing that I love to do, if I'm feeling the impulse to shop or refresh my space or whatever, cleaning is pretty much free. Even if you don't have cleaning products. Take a washcloth, wet it, run it along the floorboards of your house. It will make your space feel so new and refreshed. Also, I think sometimes Kendall and I both grew up moving around a decent amount. I grew. Grew up moving around a lot. And then in our early adulthood, both Kendall and I had very kind of transient lives. In New York, you don't live anywhere very long because they constantly raise your rent, so you move a lot. And I got into a bad habit with this where I didn't have money and I didn't want to, like, put up paintings or anything because I was like, well, I'm going to move right. In a year. I'm not going to do all this stuff to this space, but just a nice, clean. Maybe moving a piece of furniture, going to Trader Joe's once a week, buying a bouquet of flowers and putting that out. Not very expensive, but a little thing you can do to add some life to your space. Opening a window. I know that sounds wild, but when I'm like, my hands feeling not good and I open a window, I'm like, things are differently. Getting some fresh air into the space. Those are all things that I would recommend if you don't want to spend hardly any money. And then Kendall and I love going to estate sales. It's a great, affordable way to find cool, unique things for your house, not spend a ton of money. You can kind of haggle at a lot of them.

[Kendall Landriff]

Well, and one of our resolutions this year was shopping our closet, which I think can play into this a little bit, where we really just wanted to, like, create less waste and stop buying so many new things. And I think that's why the painting was so exciting.

[Jordan Myrick]

The painting was for us.

[Kendall Landriff]

It was truly, one man's trash is another man's treasure type of treasure.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah.

[Kendall Landriff]

I mean, because it's now the centerpiece of our home. It was on the side of the road. It's the centerpiece of our home now.

[Jordan Myrick]

It's beautiful. We'll post it on the Patreon. Yeah.

[Kendall Landriff]

I mean, I'm truly. I'm obsessed with it. And so I think looking inward first, looking in your house and being like, what do I love? What's a thing that I love and work? How can I display it in a better way? Because I think when Jordan and I first met, that was one of my issues with the way Jordan was kind of decorating their home is I was like, you. It's not that you have a ton of stuff you do, but it's that you have a lot of these things where I'll be like, do you want this? Do you like this? And Jordan be like, that's really special. Like, I got this at this estate sale. It was so cool. And I'm like, great, Then why is it in the corner covered in dust? Like, then let's put it on a shelf and display it. Like, let's. Let's give it the reception respect it deserves. You know what I mean? Or there'd be something, like, stored under your bed that you were like, well, I was like, this is beautiful. And I know it's important to you, but giving it away is showing it more respect than what you're doing with it now. I'm like, let's display it. So I think looking in. Sorry to roast you, but looking in. But I think we do better about that now. Like, we really display our little tchotchkes and things in a way that feels really fun and cool. And when we walk in our house, I feel like, oh, it's so us. It's just all of our stuff and the things that we love and the things that we've collected over the years. And so I think finding the stuff you like, displaying it a little more cleaning is such a great tip. And going to estate sales. And I also. This is more of a, like, an idea to help you mo get motivated. But sometimes I really think it's important to, like, find one day a month or every couple months to invite a couple people over to your house, because I think it makes your brain have to be like, how am I going to make this a space I'm proud of? And maybe you're a person who's not motivated by company and then don't take this tip. But I know for me, when I know people are coming over, I really want to set up my space the way that I'd want to present it, and it can just motivate me a little bit.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah, absolutely. I think that's a great tip. So I've been in a relationship for a little over a year. I love that we've gotten into a routine Together. But I want to make sure we don't get into a rut or lose the spark. What are some things you guys do, slash, would recommend for us to stay spontaneous and fun in 2025?

[Kendall Landriff]

Well, what I will say is you will not always have your spark. I think a spark comes and goes, in my opinion. I like, you know, I think we always have a spark. Like, I don't think there's ever been a time where I'm, like, black. Well, I don't even. I'm not interested in Jordan at all. Like, obviously that's not happened, but we definitely go through periods, I'd say, where we're. Do you agree? Like, a little more work. Like, we're working a lot and we get into kind of a routine versus moments where we're like. It just. It's ebbs and flows.

[Jordan Myrick]

I think. For me, I wouldn't say we ebb and flow in our spark. I would say we ebb and flow in our spontaneity and in our funness.

[Kendall Landriff]

I think that's what I mean. Cause to me, a spark is kind of like, we get along very well and we're very close and we're good friends, separate even from being in a relationship. So I think it's like, we always enjoy our time together. But I think there can, you know, when you get into a place, like, I feel like we had this little bit at the end of the year, it's like, work was really stressful. Life was kind of stressful. Just a lot was stressful. So it becomes kind of just like we're both separately trying to get through the day. And I think, don't panic in moments like that.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah. Don't see it as a reflection of your relationship. Just see it as a reflection of, like, what's going on in your lives. Because there's always going to be times when, like, something bad happens or things are really stressful or really, really busy, really crazy, whatever. Like, where it might not feel like the number one most important thing in my life right now is spontaneity and fun in my relationship. It doesn't mean you're not in love. It doesn't mean you don't love each other. You're not taking care of each other. It doesn't mean you're being bad to each other. I just think you have to realize that, like. Like anything else, it's like, not every moment of your life is, like, right now I'm having the most fun with my hobby, or right now I'm working the hardest on my mental health or whatever. It's like, you can't be firing on all cylinders all the time. All the time.

[Kendall Landriff]

And I think people do that sometimes. I'll see. Not that that's happening in this question, but I see sometimes people, however their life is going, they make it a reflection of their relationship. Like, if their relationship is, like, if their life is good, their relationship is good. If their life is bad, the relationship is why it's bad. Like, it's very connected in a way that I don't feel like we do very much. Like, we can have a bad week. And I'm like, it's not related to our relationship because we. Our relationship isn't bad. And then we'll have a couple weeks where we're arguing a lot. And then I'm like, yeah, our relationship is having something going on right now versus when I'm just stressed because tax season is happening. That has nothing to do with us. Do you know what I mean?

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah. But even though I will say I think it is always helpful to acknowledge what you're doing, because most of the time, when we have a couple weeks where we've just been kind of like. Like more than normal, we have to stop and be like, what's going on that's making us be like this right now?

[Kendall Landriff]

Yeah.

[Jordan Myrick]

And a lot of times it's like, oh, this thing is stressful. This thing is stressful. I'm struggling with this thing. Whatever. And you got to talk it out before you walk it out, of course. But I think to stay more fun and spontaneous in 2025, I will recommend something that Kendall's always yelling at me about. You got to put your phone down. You gotta put your phone down, and you gotta get out, and you gotta go do something. Even if. If it's a walk around your neighborhood at night.

[Kendall Landriff]

I want us to start doing that more.

[Jordan Myrick]

I know.

[Kendall Landriff]

I want us to be.

[Jordan Myrick]

I said it. I just told everyone.

[Kendall Landriff]

But we don't do that. But I would love to go on, like, nightly walks because we take the. I take angel out anyways. I'm like, just come with me.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah. So a walk around your neighborhood. Go see a movie. And then after the movie, even if you don't want to spend, like, a million dollars on a dinner, go sit at a coffee shop and, like, have one coffee. Go have, like, one drink, whatever, and talk about the movie. Like, do stuff. Because sometimes it is really hard to have fun, spontaneous, stimulating conversation with someone you were with 247 if you're not doing anything else. And it's, it's the same thing with anything. It's like if you're trying to be creative in your own life, you have to go out and do stuff because you have to have stuff to pull from. You can't just like exist in a vacuum. So don't get stuck in the habit of like being in your house too much, not doing anything.

[Kendall Landriff]

Yeah.

[Jordan Myrick]

Even if you're like, I'm trying to spend less money this year, there's like tons of ways to do fun stuff without spending money.

[Kendall Landriff]

Well, like a couple weeks ago. Well, this is spending money, but a couple weeks ago I love to spend.

[Jordan Myrick]

That's true.

[Kendall Landriff]

A couple weeks ago on your lunch break, you came and grabbed me and you were like, hey, can I pick you up for lunch? And I was like, oh my God. Okay. And we went out to sushi and it was so nice and it was quick and we both went back to work after and it didn't take up versus I think sometimes I look at my calendar, I'm like, we need to go on a date. When's the day I have fully free? It's like, you don't need a full day to go on a date, but it feels. You could do 30 minutes, it doesn't really matter. But I think that's nice. I also think though, on that, just to add to that is to find peace in the silence. Non spontaneity, like the comfort, the comfort of that. Like, I think there is something really nice about being like, here's a person that knows everything about me. I don't really need to tell them anything right now. I don't feel pressure to talk to them on this car ride because we have a peaceful, stable relationship. I don't feel like I need to prove anything and like enjoying that peace, but also knowing that like that type of. Stagnant's the wrong word, but that type of, you know, I think it's relaxation. It's not going to last forever.

[Jordan Myrick]

Oh, wait, say it again.

[Kendall Landriff]

I try to word it right. That type of like, oh, we don't have anything to talk about right now. It's not always going to. That's not it for. Oh.

[Jordan Myrick]

So I enjoy the calmness. I think just like, enjoy the calm moments because there will be so many moments that aren't calm.

[Kendall Landriff]

Yeah. And it's not like you're never gonna have anything to talk about again. But how special is that? Instead of viewing it as a negative thing, it's kind of like, that's peace. That's like a Person knows everything. You don't feel pressure to say anything. Like, I. Sometimes we drive to Spotify, and I'm playing games on my phone, and we're not, like, gabbing about our dreams. But I think when we first started dating and I dealt a little more with, like, anxious attachment, I did feel this pressure to be like, I need to have really stimulating conversation with you all the time, because I wanted to, like, show you I was a cool, fun partner. And I don't feel that way anymore. Clearly, I've really gone off the deep end. Just kidding. I don't feel that way anymore. So I do feel comfortable. I want to play games on my phone. Unless you want to talk about something, and then we can talk about something, because I feel peace, which is really nice.

[Jordan Myrick]

I think another way to keep things fun and spontaneous is to chase each other around the house.

[Kendall Landriff]

We do that a lot.

[Jordan Myrick]

I know that sounds silly, but sometimes Kendall will just be doing the dishes or something, and then I'll just walk over and I'll just kind of give her a little. A little goose or a little tickle, and then she'll kind of jump, and then I'll chase her around the house.

[Kendall Landriff]

But be careful, because stubbing your toe is very easy if you live in a small.

[Jordan Myrick]

Kendall has this insane fear of stubbing her toe.

[Kendall Landriff]

Well, it's not insane. I broke my toe doing it.

[Jordan Myrick]

No, you didn't.

[Kendall Landriff]

Yes, I did. What are you talking about? Last year, I will show you a picture of my phone. Jordan. My toe was broken. It was broke bad. It was literally black and blue. Last year, I stubbed it before a zoom meeting and cried the whole zoom meeting with my microphone off. Do you not remember how bad it was?

[Jordan Myrick]

I remember that you hurt your toe when you stubbed your toe.

[Kendall Landriff]

I'll show you a photo of it.

[Jordan Myrick]

Never went to the doctor because you don't go.

[Kendall Landriff]

No, no, no. Quite enough from you. You listen. It was broken. I can tell you. I know what a broken toe looks like. You don't go to the doctor for a broken toe.

[Jordan Myrick]

I know what a broken toe looks like. I do.

[Kendall Landriff]

My mom broke her toe. I know what a broken toe looks like. I broke my toe. It was black and blue and swollen. I couldn't walk on it. But you don't go to a doctor for a broken pinky toe because they cannot do anything for it, Jordan.

[Jordan Myrick]

Okay, maybe that's.

[Kendall Landriff]

And in the moment, you also agreed it was broken, and your mom looked at it and said it was broken.

[Jordan Myrick]

She said it could be broken.

[Kendall Landriff]

Yeah, well, absolutes, as we've learned, is not a good way to talk.

[Jordan Myrick]

But I'm just saying anything.

[Kendall Landriff]

But I'm scared. Anytime you walk, I'm like, be careful, Jordan. You're gonna stub your toe. It scares me. I don't want you to feel pain. God forbid. Sorry. I'll let you just stub your toe and you see how it feels.

[Jordan Myrick]

Kendall's just very dramatic, as you can see from that last statement, but Kendall ran into the car door yesterday with her shoulder and immediately looks up at me, and she goes, do you think it's broken?

[Kendall Landriff]

Well, tell them what happened. It was a very traumatized.

[Jordan Myrick]

Well, Kendall was in the car wearing a wig, filming a video, and then our neighbors walked out of our house, and Kendall got scared, so she threw the wig off and tried to hide behind the car, and I hit my.

[Kendall Landriff]

Shoulder, hit her hard, and I stormed.

[Jordan Myrick]

And she immediately looked at me and said, do you think it's broken? And I was like, no. As someone who's broken many, many bones, no, it is not broken. From running into the car door. Your shoulder.

[Kendall Landriff]

Well, ask a biker who's broken his entire body from running into a car door. That and see what happens.

[Jordan Myrick]

You didn't run into a car door like that.

[Kendall Landriff]

I hit it.

[Jordan Myrick]

You hit your shoulder onto the side.

[Kendall Landriff]

We don't have a lot of information. We don't know what my bone density is. Would you just, you know, be sweet for two seconds?

[Jordan Myrick]

We're gonna get a bone density test after this, just to be sure.

[Kendall Landriff]

But.

[Jordan Myrick]

No, but.

[Kendall Landriff]

Kind of like bones are like uncooked noodles.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah, they're like. They are. They're all broken. Whoa. Sorry. Kendall just always thinks she broke something. But you never had a big bone break.

[Kendall Landriff]

That's not true. I broke my arm when I was growing up on the monkey bars, and it was. I had to have surgery. It was broken in two places. My arm looked like this. I can show you the cast.

[Jordan Myrick]

But don't you remember then when you broke your arm, it was like blinding pain.

[Kendall Landriff]

Well, sure, but a toe is not breaking my arm into three pieces.

[Jordan Myrick]

But your shoulder, if you broke.

[Kendall Landriff]

Yeah, the shoulder was traumatic. Maybe I was seeking some attention.

[Jordan Myrick]

Okay. And that's.

[Kendall Landriff]

Maybe I needed some attention because you weren't giving me.

[Jordan Myrick]

Okay. And that's what I was looking for. I love you. Thank you.

[Kendall Landriff]

Next question.

[Jordan Myrick]

My crush rejected me, and it's cool, but he's still texting me. How do I get over him in 2025?

[Kendall Landriff]

Remember that? He's a loser. Here's What? I'll tell you. I have known people very well who surround themselves with only people who have crushes on them. I've known multiple of them, and they're psychotic. People. Think about that. How weird that is. People like, oh, my best friend. They told me they had a crush on me a year ago. I'm sorry. Yeah. If you're my best friend, you told me to crush on me, I wouldn't be your best friend anymore. I. That's not a best friend. Like, and it's unfortunate. It doesn't mean the person did anything wrong. But I think people like, what if I tell my friend that I have a crush on them and then it ruins our friendship? Your friendship's already ruined. Like, you don't have a real friendship. A friendship is someone, like, a true. And, okay, you can have a casual friend, but a best friend. You cannot have a crush on them and not be a good best friend. There's too many layers. It's too weird. I. I don't know. But also. Also, when they start dating someone, you're gonna be a bad friend. It just doesn't make sense. So I've known multiple people where all their friends are people who have a crush on them, and they know they've had a crush on them, but they're like, I can make this work. Like, we can still be friends. That is weird. That is a person who needs to be the. The most powerful person in every room. That is a person who cannot have a friendship without an imbalanced power dynamic. That is a person who's obsessed with attention, and that is a person who is ultimately a loser. And guess what? A bunch of people don't have a crush on them because they're cool and because they're amazing. People have a crush on them because they are manipulative people who make you feel like they're. You're grasping at straws for anything from them, and your trauma has caused you to be attracted to them. So they've attracted this small group of people that needs that one specific thing from them, and it's weird.

[Jordan Myrick]

She's right.

[Kendall Landriff]

Period. Done. Next. She's right.

[Jordan Myrick]

She's 100% right. And I think in terms of you getting over them. Block their number. Block their number. Unfollow them on Instagram. Goodbye. Stop looking. They need to stop texting you. That's so weird. Tell them to stop texting you. Like, none of that. Absolutely none of that. That's ridiculous. This. How do I inspire change in myself when I'm bringing so much from 2024 into the new year. I think this is hard because ultimately, new year is fake, right? Like, it's all. It's all just kind of the same amounts of time, and there are arbitrary things that we've made up. That being said, I really do like to envision the new year as a new little period of time. A refresher, a reset, whatever. Whatever helps you when you're thinking of it. I think, mentally make that change. Be like, Last year was 2024. This year was 2025. That being said, you got to make a pros and cons list of last year. You have to make a list for this year then, too. That is manifestations, goals, resolutions, whatever. Like, really set yourself up for success and put fun ones on there. Like, one of my manifestations for this year is that I want to receive one piece of fashion. PR probably won't happen, but I would like to. Would be fun. Could be fun, but I probably won't. But it's still fun. Not all of your resolutions, goals, manifestations, whatever. Need to be like, get into the best shape of my life. Like, you can have fun ones. I want to read one book a month. That feels fun to me. I want to watch more movies that are not in English. That's fun. I want to get back to cooking more. Like, put stuff on there that feels fun. And don't feel like you have to leave everything from 2024 in 2024. But just try to be like, I'm still me. I'm just doing a refresh.

[Kendall Landriff]

Well, and just remembering that you're completely in control. Like, I feel like last year, poor Jordan had to sit through a. Our anniversary dinner where I just cried the whole time. You remember that? I do, because Jordan was like, how are you? I was like, how do you feel? Like this year when I was like, it was terrible. Nothing to do with our relationship. Our relationship was great, but my. My year was not good. And it was hard because I was like, on paper, my year should have been great. Like, if we wrote down everything I did, it's like, oh, my God. Best year of your life? No, because my brain was not letting me have the best year of my life. I was not letting myself have the best year of my life. And I remember at that. And this was months ago, so I felt like I had to figure it out over the next couple months and why 2025 is going better. I was like, whatever I did last year is not working. Like, I cannot do that again. And I think there's, like, A saying. I'm probably saying it wrong, but it's very general. But I feel like it's true, which is like, nothing changes if nothing changes.

[Jordan Myrick]

Oh.

[Kendall Landriff]

And I think it's like, yeah, your life will not change if you do not change. I think people sometimes set the goal without setting the little goals in between that are going to help them get there. And it's like, get in better shape. Okay. In what way? You're just going to get. If you keep living the same way you've been living, like, well, you won't get in better shape. I want to read more. But you have put in no small things that are going to make you, like, okay, I'm going to read one page every day. You've done nothing like that to make yourself get to that goal.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah. Set the smaller goals to build a bigger goal.

[Kendall Landriff]

Yeah, they talked about that in, like, I think it was the book 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens. I don't know. I read it in, like, middle school.

[Jordan Myrick]

Okay.

[Kendall Landriff]

They made us read it. And they talk about, you put your big pebbles in a. You picture a jar. Take your big pebbles first. These are, like, your huge goals. Like, if I was like, I want to be on snl, that'd be a huge rock. Because, like, what are you going to. What are you going to do this year that's going to help you get on snl? And then you get your smaller pebbles that kind of fall in between those, and you put those in next, which are like, okay, what are the kind of bigger things that I'm going to do? And then the little pebbles. And then, like, the sand. And the sand is like, every day. What are you going to do that is going to help? Maybe it's writing every day. I'm going to write for 10 minutes a script. And that stuff is, I think, what's actually important. And the big goals, really, you have to kind of just set in a closet and be like, that's none of my business, because hopefully the little goals will help me get there. But I think when it comes to just being inspired in the new year, you have to be like, this is up to me. No one else cares. Like, no one else cares what I do. I am in charge of making my life good. And I think when you realize, like, and of course, we could get into how healthcare in this country sucks and everything sucks and whatever. Yeah, that's all out of your control. So I'm not saying if you think for a better life for yourself, everything will be resolved, but you are in charge of a lot. And what I will say as a person who, you know, had a great year on paper last year, who felt mentally really bad, my year this year has been much more mundane in the first six days, and I've had a such a better time because of what's going on on the inside. So I think just remembering you're in.

[Jordan Myrick]

Control, and if you do all those things, you will be able to have what everyone wants. A jar full of pebbles and sand.

[Kendall Landriff]

And you can polish that, and you can polish. And you can set that on your website.

[Jordan Myrick]

You know, if you polish a pebble with sand, it turns into a diamond. A lot of people don't know that.

[Kendall Landriff]

You'Re gonna be rich by the end of this year. A millionaire by the end of this year.

[Jordan Myrick]

All right, well, those are all the questions we have for this episode. If you want to hear the answer to more bonus questions, you can head over to our Patreon, where we do weekly minisodes, where we answer additional questions, talk about more additional private, secret Patreon stuff. It's pretty good. There's a bunch of tiers. You should go join.

[Kendall Landriff]

And before we head out, get ready for yet another segment, which is a really quick couple of the week. Couple of the week can be anyone. But this week, we're starting out with Zendaya and Tom Holland, who just got engaged.

[Jordan Myrick]

It seems like they're engaged. They haven't announced it, but she's wearing a huge rock at the Golden Globes.

[Kendall Landriff]

Oh, my God.

[Jordan Myrick]

Really excited. People kept coming up to her being like, oh, my God. And people kept being like, let me see. Like, those are the kind of reactions and faces I've seen. So apparently they're engaged, and I'm really happy for them, and I think it's cool. They haven't said anything about it.

[Kendall Landriff]

Very private, very healthy, very cute. And their house, you can look at it online, is gorgeous.

[Jordan Myrick]

I love that. If we were as famous as they were, you would never know one singular thing about me.

[Kendall Landriff]

I know. It's. I really am working until I get to one specific place, and then I will disappear off the face of the earth. I will ride off on my horse.

[Jordan Myrick]

It would be incredible.

[Kendall Landriff]

I will own a farm. I will have goats. I will sheep my alpacas. Finally. It's gonna be incredible. So there are a couple of weak congratulations and something to know about.

[Jordan Myrick]

Couple of the week is, as Kendall said, it could be any celebrity. It could be anything. It could be any person, including you and your partner. So feel free to message us at Happy wife, happy life, pod Questions. If you and your partner want to be couple of the week and you just might be.

[Kendall Landriff]

Yeah, just submit. What do they submit? Photo of themselves.

[Jordan Myrick]

Whatever you want. Whatever you think will make you a couple of the week.

[Kendall Landriff]

I love that.

[Jordan Myrick]

You can send a photo, you can send a story, you can send whatever. And you might be our couple of the week.

[Kendall Landriff]

I love it. Thank you so much for listening. As always. We're recording in the wonderful Spotify offices. We are so grateful and excited for our new studio that we have. We literally love it. We feel so profess and finally have an angle that doesn't make me want to die.

[Jordan Myrick]

Oh, this angle is good. And it gets so much of the outfit. I love.

[Kendall Landriff]

People always comment. They're like, the angle of this is terrible in season one. And we're like, you think we don't know that?

[Jordan Myrick]

We wish we've seen it.

[Kendall Landriff]

You think we said, that's the best tank.

[Jordan Myrick]

Thank you so much.

[Kendall Landriff]

So this is incredible. We feel so excited. We love Spotify. If you're listening on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, anywhere you get your podcast, make sure to rate and review. And if you're watching on YouTube, thank you so much for being here. Make sure to, like, comment and subscribe. And we can't wait for season two. We have so many fun things planned. And Jordan, I just adore you and I can't wait to do this podcast.

[Jordan Myrick]

I love you so much. We'll see you next Monday. Bye.