50: Signs Your Boyfriend is MARRIED (Monthly Q&A)

Summary

Happy Wife Happy Life – Episode 50: Signs Your Boyfriend is MARRIED (Monthly Q&A) Release Date: February 3, 2025

Hosts: Kendahl Landreth and Jordan Myrick

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Overview

In the 50th episode of Happy Wife Happy Life, hosts Kendahl Landreth and Jordan Myrick dive into a series of listener-submitted questions, offering their unorthodox yet heartfelt advice on various relationship dilemmas. From navigating workplace disclosures about marriage to handling transphobic family members, the episode is packed with candid conversations, comedic banter, and insightful perspectives aimed at helping listeners foster healthier and more authentic relationships.

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1. Navigating Workplace Marriage Disclosure

Question: "How do I tell people at my work I'm married? I'm in my early 20s and got married right when I started working there. My boss has negative views on young marriage, and I haven't introduced my spouse to my department. Should I tell them?"

Advice: Kendahl and Jordan address the discomfort of disclosing marriage in a potentially unsupportive work environment. They suggest maintaining confidence and subtly introducing marital status through everyday conversations.

• Jordan (09:08): “The wedding ring, the picture of your wife you have on your desk. Those are things that'll kind of give it away. So I'll say just start putting some stuff out.”

• Kendahl (15:18): “Stay calm that you didn't say anything. Your boss's opinion doesn't really matter.”

Key Takeaway: It's essential to assert your personal life authentically while remaining professional. Subtle cues can often communicate your marital status without forcing uncomfortable conversations.

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2. Assessing Relationship Compatibility

Question: "How do you know if you're with the right person? I've been with my boyfriend for about a year and a half, and I've been questioning things due to minor issues that could cause long-term problems. I feel confused and unsure if I'm being dramatic."

Advice: The hosts emphasize the importance of gut feelings and compatibility beyond romantic attraction. They encourage creating a checklist of essential qualities for a long-term partner.

• Kendahl (17:18): “There is no right person. Every person you're with, you're gonna have problems with.”

• Jordan (19:05): “Kendall has never once in our entire relationship given me the ick.”

Key Takeaway: Evaluate the foundational qualities you seek in a partner and recognize that minor annoyances are natural. Prioritize compatibility and mutual respect over transient feelings.

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3. Handling Transphobic Family Members at Weddings

Question: "My partner and I are having a marriage ceremony in May. We discovered that a cousin is transphobic and we don't want her at the wedding. Should we uninvite her? How?"

Advice: Kendahl and Jordan discuss the delicate nature of uninviting someone due to discriminatory beliefs. They advocate for setting boundaries respectfully and prioritizing the comfort of all guests.

• Kendahl (26:05): “I would just be like, I don't even know what I think. I would probably do the rude thing... but I think I'd probably do the more rude thing, which is just, like, not send an invitation to her.”

• Jordan (26:21): “Tell her it would make my transgender friends uncomfortable. That’s all you need to say.”

Key Takeaway: It's crucial to stand against bigotry by not accommodating individuals who exhibit transphobic behavior. Clear and concise communication can help maintain your values while minimizing conflict.

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4. Advising Friends on Questionable Relationships

Question: "A friend is dating a 36-year-old separated man who hasn't divorced his wife and has four kids. She's moving states soon and claims he's looking for jobs to avoid long-distance. Our group is supportive, but I feel everything about this relationship is awful. Am I being a hater or just a concerned friend?"

Advice: The hosts validate expressing concern for a friend's well-being while acknowledging the complexities of intervening in personal relationships.

• Kendahl (34:49): “No, you're not a hater... she's in a relationship she's gonna look back on 10 years later, be like, oh boy, yikes.”

• Jordan (35:25): “If you're dating someone, they can only have sex with you in their car. Unless they're doing hashtag van life. It's not a good sign.”

Key Takeaway: It's essential to voice your concerns objectively, focusing on observable red flags such as age disparity and lack of transparency. Support your friend without imposing judgments.

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5. Confusion Over Vow Renewal Invitations

Question: "My spouse and I are having a five-year vow renewal. We've invited an ex-girlfriend from high school who isn't responding to her fiancé's messages. We're confused about her attendance and seek suggestions."

Advice: Kendahl and Jordan express bewilderment over the situation, highlighting the importance of understanding the context before offering advice. They recommend reassessing the necessity of inviting someone who isn't actively part of your life.

• Jordan (40:01): “How did you get yourself into this situation? Also, I need more context because the one thing I maybe could potentially see.”

• Kendahl (44:23): “This is the first time on the show I kind of at a loss... I have no idea.”

Key Takeaway: Ensure that your guest list consists of individuals who genuinely contribute to your celebration. If an invitee's presence is unclear or unwelcome, reconsider their inclusion to maintain the event's integrity.

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Notable Quotes

• Jordan Myrick [02:14]: “That's deranged. In what world would they see me and be like, what?”

• Kendahl Landry [03:29]: “Do you think they saw?”

• Jordan Myrick [06:38]: “You're being a huge...”

• Kendahl Landry [15:07]: “Stay calm that you didn't say anything. Your boss's opinion doesn't really matter.”

• Kendahl Landry [22:51]: “And I would ask her to stop using that word.”

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Conclusion

In this milestone episode, Kendahl Landreth and Jordan Myrick tackle complex relationship questions with a blend of humor and sincerity. Their discussions underscore the importance of clear communication, setting personal boundaries, and prioritizing mutual respect in relationships. Whether addressing workplace dynamics, relationship doubts, or navigating familial tensions, the hosts provide relatable and practical advice for listeners striving to cultivate happier, healthier partnerships.

Listeners are encouraged to engage further by submitting their questions via Instagram, email, or Patreon, and to follow the hosts on social media for additional content and discussions.

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Stay tuned for more insightful and entertaining relationship advice on future episodes of Happy Wife Happy Life!

Transcript

[Jordan Myrick]

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[Kendall Landry]

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[Jordan Myrick]

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[Kendall Landry]

Welcome to Happy Wife, Happy Life. We're your hosts. I'm Kendall Landry.

[Jordan Myrick]

And I'm Jordan Myrick.

[Kendall Landry]

And we are two incredibly unqualified but.

[Jordan Myrick]

Deeply in love comedians who are here to help you with all things relationships. And today, we're answering your questions in our Q and A. Hi, Ken.

[Kendall Landry]

Hi, Jord.

[Jordan Myrick]

How you doing?

[Kendall Landry]

I'm good. How are you?

[Jordan Myrick]

Good. I'm excited to do this episode. I always love the Q and A's because we get to read so, so much drama.

[Kendall Landry]

I know. Which is the deepest, darkest part of us. That that's all we want.

[Jordan Myrick]

I think that's the deepest, darkest part of everyone.

[Kendall Landry]

We want the drama. It's why reality TV is so successful.

[Jordan Myrick]

I also will say you guys are dumb sometimes.

[Kendall Landry]

Oh, my God. I would never say that. You guys.

[Jordan Myrick]

Okay, well, Kendall thinks she's so special, but she says it when the camera's off.

[Kendall Landry]

You guys are so dumb.

[Jordan Myrick]

You guys are so dumb. Yes. Be honest. Sometimes you guys are being dumb. And I'm glad we're here because you guys sometimes will email us a question, and I'm like, you know, this is bad.

[Kendall Landry]

You know, it's.

[Jordan Myrick]

You know, you shouldn't be doing this.

[Kendall Landry]

No, you're being naughty.

[Jordan Myrick]

You're not dumb, but you're being dumb.

[Kendall Landry]

Yeah. And you already know, and that's why you're sending it in, because you know we're going to feature it because we're like, there's nothing people want to see more than someone being dumb.

[Jordan Myrick]

And you need us to tell you. Stop.

[Kendall Landry]

What's the dumbest thing you've ever done in a relationship?

[Jordan Myrick]

Oh, I couldn't even tell you on this podcast, Kendall. I could not even tell you. I. Hmm. The dumbest thing I've ever done in a relationship. Wow. Millions and millions of them. I mean, I think the biggest one that I'm the most guilty of is people just being like, goodbye. And me being like, but stay.

[Kendall Landry]

Yeah.

[Jordan Myrick]

So, you know, that's kind of a common one, I think, man. I'm trying to think of, like, specifics. I don't know. So.

[Kendall Landry]

So do you have one that comes.

[Jordan Myrick]

To the top of your mind?

[Kendall Landry]

Well, I have one that I've shared a million times. So I won't share it again. But where it was, similarly, I was. Someone was like, I am in love with someone else. And I was like, let's keep dating, please. Which is so stupid. And then just general not. I think there's this hard thing when you're young and you know someone isn't as into you as you are to them, and you can't stop yourself from pushing it further. You can't keep being like, hello, hello, hello. Do you. You know? And it's like, you know, you send the fifth text and you're like, they absolutely. This is going to make them feel so much worse. And they're going to be still, like, not wanting to date you in that way. Once again, this isn't people I'm stalking. These are people I am dating, but they're just not as interested in me as I am them.

[Jordan Myrick]

Well, I'll say this, not people I'm dating, but when I was in college, there was someone that I had never met or talked to that I thought was cute. And if my roommate saw them in the dining hall, we lived in the building that the dining hall was in, My roommate would text me and be like, come downstairs there in the dining hall. And so I would go down to the dining hall. I would, like, put on some makeup real quick, put on a cute outfit, run downstairs to the dining hall, kind of saunter around, grab a submarine sandwich, a fountain soda, go back up to my room, never approach them, never speak to them.

[Kendall Landry]

Do you think they saw?

[Jordan Myrick]

Absolutely not. That's deranged. In what world would they see me and be like, what? Like, I don't know. How often are you really, like, seeing someone and being like, whoa, I've gotta talk to them?

[Kendall Landry]

No. I would do a lot of stuff like that, though, too. Like, I had in acting school, there was a person I knew had an off period that I had a crush on, and I would ask to go to the bathroom a lot during that period so I could kind of walk by, and they were just never there. And I would just like, keep kind of like, look, being like, I'm gonna keep walking back and forth from the bathroom to see if they show up, right?

[Jordan Myrick]

Cause that's the dream, right? Like, someone sees you and you're so unbelievably scared, sexy and magnetizing that they just have to stop you and be like, I'm so sorry I don't know you, but I need to know more about you. And you've built this fantasy in your head that, like, you don't even have a crush on this person. Cuz you do not know them.

[Kendall Landry]

Yeah.

[Jordan Myrick]

But, you know, so I would say, like, that kind of stuff is probably the dumbest stuff I've done.

[Kendall Landry]

Yeah, we've done a lot of dumb stuff. I feel like you and I were very similar, which really helped in our relationship, because I feel like you're a little bit older than me. So I felt like by the time that we started dating, you'd kind of been through and healed from where I was kind of at big time. So you, like, saw where I was coming from in a way that no one ever really had. But you also were like, queen. Here's how you need to fix it.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah.

[Kendall Landry]

And you need to go to therapy. And I was like, okay, so versus you just being like, you're weird.

[Jordan Myrick]

Well, for better or for worse, I am a fixer. And I truly mean for better or for worse, because I know that sometimes it's annoying.

[Kendall Landry]

Sometimes it is. I know that.

[Jordan Myrick]

I know that sometimes it's annoying, but.

[Kendall Landry]

It'S also what I love about you.

[Jordan Myrick]

But you know what? It might be annoying, but stuff gets fixed.

[Kendall Landry]

Well, I think it's like anything. It's like. But our life works because of it. It's like we are very different in that. Well, we're very similar in a lot of ways, but we're very different in that way where I think I'm a little more calm and you're a little more anxious. And I think we benefit each other. And also we piss each other off with it.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah. And I would argue sometimes you're not calm. Sometimes I would say you're careless.

[Kendall Landry]

And what did we say about that word?

[Jordan Myrick]

Well, this is.

[Kendall Landry]

My therapist said I should tell you to stop using that word.

[Jordan Myrick]

Kendall doesn't like careless because she's like, oh, because of my adhd, I'm not careless, but this is my thing. Sometimes you are careless. Like, be for real.

[Kendall Landry]

Sometimes everyone's careless.

[Jordan Myrick]

That's my point, though. But.

[Kendall Landry]

But. But I think why people with ADHD get irritated is because they've been labeled careless their whole life. Always. Careless, careless, careless, careless. And it's not true. It's like, why you forget your homework at home? Because. Because you were careless. No, it's because I, you know, went to put my homework in my backpack, and then I saw this, and I did this, and I did this, and I'm. My brain is not. And I'm younger, and my brain is not as. I don't have as many coping mechanisms because I wasn't Medicated for ADHD that I struggle with it. And you're labeled careless so much that you're like, I don't like that word because I have a lot of care. I'm not a careless person. Anytime I forget something, I feel like absolute garbage. Anytime I mess something up because of something, I feel terrible. So I'm not careless. So the word is just kind of like, even if we could find a.

[Jordan Myrick]

Synonym, this is my thing. I would never call you a careless person because you're not a careless person. But sometimes you are careless in the same way that sometimes I am anxious. You know what I mean? Like, I think we have to. I mean, I'll use whatever word you want.

[Kendall Landry]

Sexy.

[Jordan Myrick]

See, this is the problem. You're like, that would be careless. But then I say careless, and then you're like, say sexy instead.

[Kendall Landry]

But how sweet would that be? Anytime you're trying to say I'm careless, you say sexy. I think that would really create a barrier that would make us both happy.

[Jordan Myrick]

I think it would create a weird tension because I would be mad at you. And I think it would create a weird kind of psychosexual anger situation. It wouldn't be good.

[Kendall Landry]

Sign me up.

[Jordan Myrick]

I don't think it would be good. I don't think. No, I don't think you're careless at all. But I also think you're very reactionary, if that's a word to being like. I'm like, you're being careless about this. And you're like, I'm not careless. People with ADHD are not careless. And I'm like, yeah, relax, relax. Get off the soapbox. I don't think people with ADHD are careless. I don't think you're careless. You are sometimes careless. Like, sometimes you will just do something extremely careless because you don't care. You do not have care for it. You could not care less.

[Kendall Landry]

There's things I don't care about that I am careless about. Like, I.

[Jordan Myrick]

But sometimes I do care about those things. So I think it's like, wait, what? There will be something where I'll be like, hey, can you do this or can you not do this? And then you'll be careless about it.

[Kendall Landry]

But I agree. I think there's things too, and that's hurtful. If you care about something and I decided I don't care about it, and then I'm careless with that. I get that.

[Jordan Myrick]

That's the only time it irritates me.

[Kendall Landry]

Yeah. But I just, you know, I get that. So I think I do But I do. Like I saying, I think I do have defenses about the word care. Fearlessness.

[Jordan Myrick]

You know what? Let me do this. I'll say you're being a huge.

[Kendall Landry]

That's fine.

[Jordan Myrick]

Do you think that's better?

[Kendall Landry]

No, Because I didn't grow up with anyone calling me that because it was the sweetest pie. So there's no. There's no triggering for me. And I want to be clear that I'm not a person who's always like, because I'm adhd, because of my adhd, I just like, go to.

[Jordan Myrick]

You are at home. Not publicly, but you are at home.

[Kendall Landry]

Well, but I think it's different because I do a lot of work constantly on it. But I'm also in therapy with someone who like, specifically works with adhd. So I learn a lot about adhd.

[Jordan Myrick]

I know. So I'm like, got a lot of information to tips and tricks now I'm not allowed to be mad at anything in our house.

[Kendall Landry]

And that's how I've specifically.

[Jordan Myrick]

That's how you've crafted it. Because I'm like, anything. I'm like, hey, sorry. Can you make sure that you don't just, like, eat off a plate and then leave the food covered plate on the couch because the dog's licking all the food off of it. And it's been there for two days because I've been out of town. And then you're like, leaving plates on the couch is a coping mechanism.

[Kendall Landry]

No, I do not. More than anything, I apologize. And then like a fun fact, like, I'm just trying to get like, let you in to be like, I went to put this thing away, and then I saw Angel's dog food and I remembered we have Angel. So then I went to pet angel. And then when I was petting Angel, I saw the remote was on the ground, so I went to pet. You know what I mean? And I'm like, no, I understand. Show you what it's like. It's not an excuse. I'm like, it's annoying. But I'm also just like, excited to share with you. Let you my brain. But I can stop doing that. I'll stop letting you inside. I'll stop telling you what I'm thinking.

[Jordan Myrick]

Kettles and all feisty go today. Why are you so feisty today?

[Kendall Landry]

Turned on.

[Jordan Myrick]

Just kidding. Horny. I love you. I love ya.

[Kendall Landry]

I love you too. I do. I am feisty today, huh?

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah, you got a lot to what's going on.

[Kendall Landry]

But it's fun attitude, huh?

[Jordan Myrick]

It's high energy.

[Kendall Landry]

Confident.

[Jordan Myrick]

You're leaned in. It's very confident. What's going on today? What are you. What's going on with you?

[Kendall Landry]

No, I'm just enjoying. I told you this. I've been really enjoying this season. I obviously loved season one so much, but I've really been having fun with season two.

[Jordan Myrick]

It's so much more comfortable.

[Kendall Landry]

Yeah. Sitting in this chair is nice. Not constantly.

[Jordan Myrick]

Like, I mean, these chairs are so much more comfortable than the old chair.

[Kendall Landry]

The chair is nice. I feel like we've gotten a good groove. I feel like you and I both have a little more time.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yes.

[Kendall Landry]

So we able to. I think we used to come in and just be like, we always had a want for how we wanted to, like, come into podcast recording, and never, not once did we come into podcast recording in that way, because we were always like, we want to really prep beforehand. We want to do this. And we just never had time. So it'd be like, we'd come and be like, what are we talking about? What should we talk about? I don't know. What should we talk about? And we have not done that this season. It feels like we've had time to, like, set up and even just like, I know you're going to laugh because I'm like, I've done my makeup, which it's like, where is the makeup queen? I know I don't look like I'm wearing makeup, but I am. I'm wearing a little concealer.

[Jordan Myrick]

It's a no makeup makeup look.

[Kendall Landry]

It's a no makeup makeup look. Little concealer, mascara. And I did my eyebrows and I, like, blowdried my hair, you guys, like, last season.

[Jordan Myrick]

She doesn't need to do any of it, but that's sweet. I'm proud of you, but I just.

[Kendall Landry]

Feel like I've tried a little. Like, we've both just stepped it up a little bit.

[Jordan Myrick]

We've had more time this year. Yeah, we've crafted it to be that way.

[Kendall Landry]

Yeah. So I feel. I just feel proud. Like, I think most episodes I leave being like, oh, good episode.

[Jordan Myrick]

Well, to keep those good vibes going, I would like to introduce a new segment.

[Kendall Landry]

Oh, my God. I don't even know what this is.

[Jordan Myrick]

Are you ready for our new segment?

[Kendall Landry]

Yeah.

[Jordan Myrick]

This segment is called U Haul One Night Stand Ghost.

[Kendall Landry]

Ooh.

[Jordan Myrick]

It's our version of Mary F. Kill. I can never remember how cursing affects YouTube monetization, man.

[Kendall Landry]

I should be thinking about it more. I'm throwing the F word out.

[Jordan Myrick]

Like, I can never remember. I think you can say it but maybe when it's sexual, it's bad. I don't know. But. So this is u haul, which is Mary One night stand, which is bone or ghost, which is kill. So I want to know Valentine's Day is coming up.

[Kendall Landry]

Yeah.

[Jordan Myrick]

So I want you to u haul one eye stand, ghost these Valentine's Day date ideas.

[Kendall Landry]

Great.

[Jordan Myrick]

U haul one night stand, ghost fancy dinner, vacation, cozy night in.

[Kendall Landry]

Ooh. Okay. I'm going to u haul fancy dinner because that's what we're doing for Valentine's Day this year. And I like it. I think it feels special. I feel like restaurants are set up for it. There's. You're surrounded by other couples fun. I'm going to ghost vacation because I'm just like, that's too much for Valentine's Day. And it's the time of year. It's just like, we just got off the holidays. I don't want to go on a trip right now.

[Jordan Myrick]

I'm shocked.

[Kendall Landry]

I know. Because I'm a big vacation girl.

[Jordan Myrick]

You're always trying to go on vacation.

[Kendall Landry]

But I am not trying to go on a vacation in February. I feel like February, I'm like, my life is actually together for the first time in a year. I have a schedule. I have a routine. I have all my New Year's resolutions. I'm trying to do, like, I don't want to go on a vacation unless you're like, I get. If you're like, parents or like, we never get to have alone time and you want to go on a. That's different. But if you're just like a regular couple like us, I just feel like that's too much for February. So then I guess that would be that I would. What was it you. You haul was the second one.

[Jordan Myrick]

One night stand.

[Kendall Landry]

One night stand. I would One night stand cozy night in.

[Jordan Myrick]

Wow.

[Kendall Landry]

Because I think it's fun, and we've definitely done that before, and it's very sweet, but I don't know if I'd want it to be a repeat thing over and over and over again. What about you?

[Jordan Myrick]

I would u haul fancy dinner. I would One night stand vacation.

[Kendall Landry]

Okay.

[Jordan Myrick]

And I would ghost cozy night in.

[Kendall Landry]

Yeah.

[Jordan Myrick]

I love cozy night in. But we do it all the time.

[Kendall Landry]

That's all we do.

[Jordan Myrick]

So I don't really care about Valentine's Day in general, but if I have to pick, I think that's what I'm gonna say. If you're gonna make a deal of Valentine's Day, that's what I think.

[Kendall Landry]

And I could See, doing a. I could see doing. Oh, it would be fun. It was like a staycation. Like I could see us like renting a hotel one year and having like an hour away or something.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah, I think that'd be so fun.

[Kendall Landry]

Even like in our town kind of fun. In our town maybe we like literally two minutes away, we just go stay at hotel. Like that kind of is fun.

[Jordan Myrick]

Calling LA a town is very funny to me. In our little hometown in our town it's a quiet vil.

[Kendall Landry]

God, you're so good at singing.

[Jordan Myrick]

No, no, no, no.

[Kendall Landry]

Well, thank you for that segment. We're just loving the segments. How are we feeling about the segments, everyone?

[Jordan Myrick]

Do we like the segments? Tell us what you think about u haul One night stand ghost.

[Kendall Landry]

Okay, and now we're gonna get into our questions. If you are like what the f. Why can't I ask a question? Well, you can. You can go on our Instagram. We always pose our questions there. Or you can email us at hwhlpod?questionsgmail.com. so if we have a specific question for specific topic, you can send it there. Or if you just have a general long story question you need advice on, please send it over there. And you can also ask questions on our Patreon. We got a lot of fun stuff over there. Every episode we do a 30 minute minisode attached onto that episode that's posted to our Patreon and it's a hoot and a holler.

[Jordan Myrick]

It's fun. I love it. Ready?

[Kendall Landry]

I'm ready.

[Jordan Myrick]

How do I tell people at my work I'm married? I'm pretty young, early 20s, and got married right when I started working there. During a casual after work hangout, my boss expressed some pretty negative views on marriage and especially to those who get married young. Now it's been almost two years and I haven't told anyone in my department I married. I was absent for the last holiday parties, so I couldn't introduce my spouse. Then how do I tell them? Should I tell them?

[Kendall Landry]

Well, this is hard. It seems like maybe you're not too close with your coworkers.

[Jordan Myrick]

This is giving me more like, you know, like an office building vibe. Unlike what our jobs are.

[Kendall Landry]

Sure. So I think it's not a big deal. Stay calm that you didn't say anything. Your boss's opinion doesn't really matter. Seems like your boss got married young probably. And it didn't go well.

[Jordan Myrick]

Your boss is having an issue. That's what I'll say. So don't accept the projection of Your boss, right?

[Kendall Landry]

And I'm sure he, like, said that offhanded and, like, forgot. It's like, there's no way that every married person he sees, he's like, that is so embarrassing. Also, I'm assuming it's a he. Did they say he? I'm sorry. Women can be bosses, too, and they. They all should be.

[Jordan Myrick]

And Kendall's part of the problem, and.

[Kendall Landry]

I'm part of the problem, but the boss. So the boss, I'm sure, forgot that conversation even happened. And it's not a big deal. It's not like when you tell the boss that you are married, they're gonna be like, wait, you lied to me? That's so weird. I think it just probably will not be a big deal. But I would say the wedding ring should probably help a little bit.

[Jordan Myrick]

The wedding ring, the picture of your wife you have on your desk. Those are things that'll kind of give it away. So I'll say just start putting some stuff out. Drop some casual. My wife's into the conversation.

[Kendall Landry]

My wife and I are headed to dinner tonight.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah. Anybody doing anything this weekend? My wife and I are gonna be watching the new Spider man movie.

[Kendall Landry]

Right? And really, we're giving, like, a bunch of examples. You only have to really do it once. You don't have to keep repeating.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah, but you can.

[Kendall Landry]

You can if you're really proud.

[Jordan Myrick]

But you can. How do you know if you're with the right person? I've been with my boyfriend for about a year and a half now, and I've been questioning things for a little while. He's a great boyfriend to me, but there are a couple things that bother me about him that aren't necessarily the biggest deal, but I could see them causing problems in the long run. But I can't tell if I'm being dramatic or not. I'm just feeling confused about it all.

[Kendall Landry]

I wish I knew what the problems were.

[Jordan Myrick]

I do, too, because I think there are things you have a gut feeling of whether or not you could be with this person long term. So I think that's the first step. If you don't have that gut feeling, I think they gotta go well.

[Kendall Landry]

But what's hard about that, Jord, is I think a lot of people are, you know, have a lot of trauma and have a lot of feelings and I think.

[Jordan Myrick]

And commitment issues. I knew you're right. And I knew you were gonna say that. I should have. I should have thought about that, because.

[Kendall Landry]

I think gut instinct is so hard to separate from just your brain playing Tricks on you. And I think the reality, in my opinion is, and this is an opinion, there is no right person. I think every person you're with, you're gonna have problems with. I think every. And not big problems like we. We've talked about. Any problem I have with you, we've talked about in this podcast. You know, it's so small and silly that we can also laugh about it and same the other way around. So any little annoyance, it. It will exist in your relationship no matter who you're dating. So I think it's about really, like, making a checklist of things that you need in a long term relationship separate from, like, romantic feelings. It's like you need a kind person and you can make your own list. But for me, it's like a kind person, a supportive person, someone who can make me laugh, someone who, you know, is there for me when I need it at a drop of a hat. And it's like if they check all these boxes, I think you gotta work through it a little bit because you're looking for a life partner. You're not looking for someone who always makes you super giddy. I mean, you make me super giddy, but, like, that's not, to me, the top priority.

[Jordan Myrick]

This is what I'll say, though, if you don't struggle with commitment issues, all those things that Kendall just said, if you have a gut feeling that it's wrong, it might be wrong.

[Kendall Landry]

Yeah.

[Jordan Myrick]

And if your impulse is to not deal with the things and fix them and make them better might be a sign. Also, one thing that I'll say that I think is really helpful when you're trying to figure out if a person is right for you or not. Kendall has literally never once in our entire relationship given me the ick.

[Kendall Landry]

Oh, ever.

[Jordan Myrick]

Kendall has never given me the ick. That's crazy.

[Kendall Landry]

I almost have a hard time believing.

[Jordan Myrick]

That everything you do that would give me the ick if someone else did. It doesn't bother me when you do it.

[Kendall Landry]

Yeah.

[Jordan Myrick]

And I think that's something to really take into account. I feel so differently about Kendall than I do about anyone else because she's never icked me out. And I know that seems superficial, but I think it's a small, interesting thing I've noticed in that any weird, bizarre, you know what? She does stuff that makes me angry. She does stuff that makes me mad. Confused, confused, bewildered. But in terms of just, like, feeling, like, have never gotten that. And I think it depends on what the problems are with your boyfriend. You didn't List them. But if you're constantly getting the ick from someone you're dating, hard to move past that. And I think maybe you should listen to it, even if it's not like they're doing something wrong.

[Kendall Landry]

Yeah, totally. Sometimes there's just incompatibilities, too.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah.

[Kendall Landry]

Where I think it's like, we. We've talked about this before, but I think what's so nice about me and you is, like, the way we live our lives and see our lives and the trajectory of what we want for our lives is really similar. And that has nothing to do with us being good at a relationship. It's really just by chance. Because also, like, I don't even know if I was asking you that when we started dating. I think it just. Like, we happen to be really similar. So that is really helpful. Like, it's helpful to not have someone who you just completely. Like, they're talking about their views on politics or their views on a situation that they saw on the street or they're talking about, and you're just sitting there, like, fully disagreeing and being like, wow, I don't see the world that way. It's really nice to have a partner that I feel like, no matter what. Even if, like, I feel like times when there's something that happens in the world that we almost feel a little differently than we usually would feel, we're on the same page about it.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yes. I also think even if you are someone with commitment issues who's like, I always run away. I can't tell if this is the right person, you're still probably wasting that person's time. I think for yourself, you should figure that out so you can move forward and start having constructive relationships with people. That being said, I still feel like you're kind of wasting that person's time. If you have commitment issues and you're like, I don't know if this is the right person. I'm like, just break up because you're wasting that person. Maybe set.

[Kendall Landry]

Some be like, let me see how I feel in six months. Even. I think it's.

[Jordan Myrick]

I think that's a waste of time. I don't agree with that.

[Kendall Landry]

I think it's hard. I. I just think it's hard because some people really, it is harder to identify things. I think if every person with commitment issues was like, I can identify this is my commitment issue, that would make everything easy. But that's not what issues like that. How they present themselves. They present themselves in the most sneaky ways where it's like, Your brain convinces you this thing is irritating you, or you convince yourself that this thing isn't gonna work. And it feels so real. And that's like, what? It's not like most people have commitment issues. They're like, oh, I'm breaking up with you. Because I don't like committing. Most people in their head are like, I want to commit. I want to do this. But every time I'm with someone for a longer period of time, this thing about them starts bugging me and irritating me and pissing me off. And that is like, then they end up breaking up. And that's how it always manifests. Obviously, it's different for everyone, but I think with that, it's hard to know yourself and give yourself a little bit of time. So you might just disagree on that. But I think, like, it is. It is tough, but I think it is a little trigger happy to, like, just break up with someone the moment you feel something negative.

[Jordan Myrick]

You know, I don't think it's the moment you feel something negative. But this person seems like they've been dating for a little bit. There's multiple things that annoy them. They're not sure if it's right. They're like, am I being dramatic? I'm like, we're not being dramatic. It's the way you feel. But if you keep feeling like there are things that bother you about your boyfriend that you're not. You would rather write into a podcast than talk to your boyfriend?

[Kendall Landry]

Well, I think that.

[Jordan Myrick]

Well, I think it's something to think about.

[Kendall Landry]

First of all, zero judgment for writing into the podcast.

[Jordan Myrick]

No, I prefer it. I love it. But I think there is something. I'm like, these issues are bothering you enough that you are seeking outside help and not just being like, hey, Brad, when you do that, one thing kind of bothers me. Can we talk about it?

[Kendall Landry]

And I would start with that because I would say too, there's been, like, I can only think of like one or two times, but, like, something you've been doing and I'm sure you've had the same with me, where it's, like, irritating me and, like, I don't even know why. It's just like, that thing is kind of annoying me. Like, it's irritating me. And then we, like, talk about it, and then your reaction to it makes me like, oh, my God. I, like, didn't think about it like that. Like, of course that's why you do that. Like, that doesn't bother me at all. And, like, my feelings on it completely change. And so I think these things could build up, build up that you're like, that's just how he is. And then when you talk to him or her about it or him, I guess, him about it, either you get a new perspective on it that shifts the way you think about it, or he's like, oops, sorry. I'm not gonna do that anymore. Sorry about that. I had no idea. And it's, like, really not that big of a deal. But I also think the reality is, if you do break up with him, everything's gonna be fine. I know that's, like, dumb advice, but I am just like, if you're really like, is this the right decision or the wrong decision? I think the one that got away is. Unless you, like, were such an asshole to, like, Angelina Jolie when you were children, and now you're like, God, man, that was so stupid. Like, I guess that's a little bit of the one that got away. But I think that's a mentality that you don't need to, like, worry about, because it's just like, we date people, and at the time, it didn't make sense. And maybe you look back and are like, I could have made that better, but then just make it better with someone else. It really is not a big deal. So. So there will be sadness and heartbreak. And I know this is so much easier said than done. I know this is like, ending a relationship is such a scary thing. But you will be okay no matter what you choose. And even if you look back and are like, that was me running away from security, or, that was me, this. That's still valuable. You learned that, and you'll move into the next thing with that knowledge.

[Jordan Myrick]

Well, I'll even say that, like, the concept of the one that got away is, like, kind of selfish, right? Because it's like, they got away from me. And it's like, yes, if you both feel like the other person was the one that got away, get back together. But you might feel like they're the one that got away, but they're perfectly happy with their own life. That should tell you that they're not the one that got away. Yeah.

[Kendall Landry]

Yeah.

[Jordan Myrick]

They have a good life, and you wish you hadn't messed something up, but you did, and now, like, move on. That's how I feel about it.

[Kendall Landry]

Totally.

[Jordan Myrick]

My amazing partner and I are having our marriage ceremony in May. We got legally married in December. For insurance coverage and tax purposes, we have sent the save the dates to family and friends earlier this year, but I have yet to send real invitations. My partner was just perusing Instagram and noticed their cousin's Instagram story was particularly transphobic. And after some digging, we realized she's a liberal, turf, straight, white CIS woman from Texas. We don't want to have her at our wedding with our trans friends. How should we uninvite her? My partner's mother thinks we should have a conversation with her since we would be inviting almost everyone but her, including her mom, and she doesn't want to start family drama. Should we say something about why she isn't receiving an invitation? How do we even say anything? Help who?

[Kendall Landry]

I mean, it's as hard because the reality is, if we were in this situation, I just think you'd probably handle it.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yes, I would. So that's why I'll help you here today. Kendall has nothing to say about this because she'd never have to handle it.

[Kendall Landry]

I would just be like, I don't even know what I think. I would probably do the rude thing. I mean, it's like, who cares about being rude to a transphobe? Who cares? But I think I'd probably do the more rude thing, which is just, like, not send an invitation to her and then, like, never say or speak to her ever again.

[Jordan Myrick]

To be honest, I don't think that's a rude thing, though.

[Kendall Landry]

Okay.

[Jordan Myrick]

I think that that's fine. I think if you want to not send her an invitation and not speak to her, you're well within your right. She might then reach out to you and be like, why am I not invited to the wedding? And then I think you should say, oh, after seeing some things you posted, we are not morally aligned. We have lots of trans friends, and I don't feel comfortable having you at our wedding with our trans friends after seeing the things that you said about trans people. There's nothing wrong with that.

[Kendall Landry]

Plus, it doesn't seem like the two of you are that close because you didn't even know you had to do, like, social media digging. So I feel like if they reach out to you and are like, why didn't you invite me to your wedding? It's like, no matter what you say, it doesn't really matter because you guys weren't that close anyways.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yes. You also don't want to maintain a relationship with this person. Sounds like you barely have a relationship with this person. And also, it's not, like, a legal right for them to be invited to your wedding. Like, who cares? And if they hate trans people so much, they shouldn't want to go to A wedding with trans people there, so don't come. That's how I feel about it. I think that a lot of those types of people are very like, I hate this, and these are my feelings. Da, da, da. But then they're like a party, but I want to be invited to the party. And I'm like, well, the party is the antithesis of everything that you stand for, so why would you want to come to this party? And it's like, well, I don't feel that seriously about it. I want to come to a party. Like, I think that's kind of the vibe. And I'm like, if you tell her a lot of our friends are trans, they will be at our wedding. I don't feel like it's a good idea to have you there because I don't feel comfortable with you being around our trans friends because of what you say about trans people. And they're like, well, I don't dislike trans people. I'd be like, then you're unwell. The stuff you're posting is so bizarre. And that makes me want you not there even more. But it doesn't have to be a long conversation.

[Kendall Landry]

And I don't think you owe her anything. I don't think you owe her any conversation.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah.

[Kendall Landry]

I'm also just like, this is the problem with people like, this is it's like, I think she probably posts these transphobic things, and there's a lot of assumptions in the statement I'm about to make. I don't know this woman, but she probably posts these transphobic things. And she probably knows not a single.

[Jordan Myrick]

Trans person probably almost never thinks about trans people.

[Kendall Landry]

No. And that's what all this is. So, like, when you look up the statistics of what percentage in every state is trans people are alarmed to find it's like, less than 1%. Far less than 1%.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah.

[Kendall Landry]

And it's just used. Trans people are used as a pawn in this political game. And so I think she posts these terrible things about trans people and does not even think about. About the fact that anyone she knows has a relationship with a trans person. Has. Has no thought about. It's just like me posting that, like, I hate dragons almost, because it. To them, it's just not. It's not a real thing in real life. And I think it would be, you know, and once again, you don't owe her this, but a good wakeup call to be like, when you post those things. People who love trans have loved ones who are trans people see that. Trans people see that they exist and they are here and they are real.

[Jordan Myrick]

And you don't know every single person who's a trans person and you probably.

[Kendall Landry]

Don'T know anyone who's trans. So the fact that you feel the need to post and even give it any time of your day and vote for a candidate because you are so scared of trans people, it's just ridiculous.

[Jordan Myrick]

I think it's so funny because Kendall and I are going viral on conservative Instagram right now with a clip from this podcast where I make a joke about conservatives and say that they're bad people and then talk about vote ownership. And it's really stupid when you say it like that. But so many of the comments are like, I thought liberals were the party of love and acceptance. Oh, why can't we all just get along? Why can't we have friends with differing viewpoints? And this is probably preaching to the choir because if you're listening to this podcast, I'm sure you feel the same way. But if you don't feel this way, I implore you to think about this. Having different opinions is. I think Modest Mouse is a good band and you don't. That's having different opinions, right? Like, that's a different opinion. Me thinking that McDonald's doesn't taste good and you loving McDonald's, that's a taste based difference of opinions. If you think that trans people should not exist, if you think gay people should not have rights, if you think immigrants don't deserve to be treated fairly, if you think that people with diabetes don't deserve medicine, like, that's not a difference of opinion. Something is wrong with you. So I think that's a really important thing to remember.

[Kendall Landry]

Well, because we have friends with differing political views. Because we have friends. I mean, it's not that there's. I know that we are in a two party system, but it's not that everyone in each party 100% agrees with each other. Like, we've had debates with people who we're friends with, who agree with everything, like with us on everything you just said. But in terms of a certain event that happened or a certain this that we are kind of like, oh, I think it's more like this, or I think I would, if I was in that position, I would probably choose it. You know, we have little. But I could not be right. I don't need to be friends with someone who doesn't think I should be able to get married.

[Jordan Myrick]

Why do you want to be friends with someone who is not morally aligned with you And I'm happy to admit there are tons of things I don't know about. I have absolutely no clue what a farmer needs. So I understand me having a discussion with a farmer about what a farmer needs when I don't know that. I'd be happy to be educated on that. I don't need to have a conversation or a friendship with someone who's like, I hate gay people and don't think they should have rights and vote for political figures who are anti gay, anti trans, anti immigration. All these. I'm like, yes, having a difference of opinion. That's having a huge gap in your moral system. And if your cousin is that morally opposed to trans people, she should not want to be at your wedding. Just like I would not go to the wedding of someone I know is transphobic.

[Kendall Landry]

Right.

[Jordan Myrick]

But I think a lot of these people have a lot of feelings about things that don't affect them at all. So they're like, why can't we all just love each other? But that's. Why can't we put politics aside?

[Kendall Landry]

That's my point, is that she, I feel like, could be like, when people are like, it's just politics. Let's put politics aside. It's like, now you're seeing why. Because you want to come to my wedding now. And I have trans people. They're not just an idea that exists on Fox News to scare people. I have friends who are trans. And that is why politics is not let's put politics aside. It is. Your life is politics, man.

[Jordan Myrick]

We're really on one right now.

[Kendall Landry]

But you know what I mean. Of course, now you have to come to an event where we're not all just white, straight CIS people, where it's easy to put politics aside. You now are an event with. Where there are people that are affected by these decisions. That's why you cannot. It's ridiculous. It's just.

[Jordan Myrick]

So your day we popped off. Let's just end by returning to the question, which is the only thing I could see her think is like, are you going to let something like this. Are you going to get. Let politics come in between us? And I think, don't let her gaslight you like that. If she tries to do that, return to the reality of the situation, which is tell her it would make my transgender friends to have someone come to this wedding that hates transgender people. That makes me uncomfortable. That would make my friends uncomfortable. That's the reality of the situation. You have made me feel uncomfortable. So I do not want you at my wedding. And that's all you need to say, right? Okay. Amen to that. My friend recently told our friend group about a guy she's been seeing for the past five months. She's 23 and he is 36. He is separated, not divorced from his wife, which they share four kids together and the oldest is 16. She told us they have not gone on an actual date since being together and they only have sex in his car because he still lives with his wife and kids while she lives with her parents. And she is moving to Missouri from Pennsylvania to start school soon. She keeps saying that he is looking into jobs there so they don't have to be long distance. The rest of our friends are supportive and I bravely said that everything about this relationship sounds awful and unrealistic. Everyone is saying I'm a hater and jealous of their relationship. Be honest with me, am I a hater or am I just a concerned friend?

[Kendall Landry]

No, you're not a hater. I mean, the reality is you don't have to like, you don't have to like jump in front of the train and put this to a stop. She's gonna do what she's gonna do.

[Jordan Myrick]

And she's made that clear. And she's fine.

[Kendall Landry]

I mean, she's fine. She's fine. Like she's in a bad. She's in a relationship she's gonna look back on 10 years later, be like, oh boy, yikes. Or she'll be married with a bunch of kids. With him, I don't really know. But I have a feeling that's not gonna happen. So it's, you can have your thought a nice way, but don't feel like the pressure to be like, I am in charge of making sure she doesn't go through this because you just ultimately don't have any control. I think there's so many funny things about this.

[Jordan Myrick]

It's like, hey, I'll tell you right now, huge red flag. If you're dating someone, they can only have sex with you in their car. Unless they're doing hashtag van life. It's not a good sign.

[Kendall Landry]

That's a red flag in itself.

[Jordan Myrick]

It's true. It's not a good sign. Why can you only have sex in your car? Why as a 36 year old man are you having sex in your car?

[Kendall Landry]

But I also think, can I say.

[Jordan Myrick]

You can I think a red flag.

[Kendall Landry]

On your friend's part.

[Jordan Myrick]

Of course.

[Kendall Landry]

That I think. Well, and I'll say I think the red flag to me, if I met someone and I fell in love with Them and they had three kids and I. Or four kids or however many kids they have, I would never ask them to or want them to move to where I am, away from their children. Maybe that's a hot take, maybe that's wrong, but that's what I feel. I would feel so guilty for my own selfish, sorry reasons of being. Like, I want to be closer to my boyfriend. You've been dating for five months and you want him to move away from his children. That's their father. And obviously he's got a lot going on and obviously I'm sure he's not perfect, but he's their father and unless, you know, we don't know him. So maybe he's absolutely the worst and they're better off with him living in another state. But either way, I would feel like that is so not, of course, a red flag on his part that he's even talking about agreeing to it, but I would be like that. The fact that you're even thinking about moving away from your kids is giving me the ick because you're clearly a bad father and you should not move. The age thing doesn't really freak me out that much. But I also think it's like, you.

[Jordan Myrick]

Know, I think combined with everything else.

[Kendall Landry]

I think combined with everything else, I think they're in such different places. I think if like, you're 23 or 24 and you meet a 36 year old and you guys are working at the same job and you both are kind of in the same place, you.

[Jordan Myrick]

Both just came out of the closet recently, I think, like, I think that's a big one. Like sometimes I'll see like age gap couples to a certain extent, where I'm like, oh, you both just came out of the closet. And it feels like they're very much on the same playing field rather than like, I'm like, you are a young person who's about to start graduate school, it seems like, and he is a father of four going through a separation, not a divorce, a separation. I don't have enough experience with this, so please feel free to educate me in the comments. If you're separated but not getting a divorce, what is that? To me, in my mind, I'm like, if you're separated but you're not getting a divorce, if it seems like maybe there's hope of reconciling or something, that could be wrong, I don't know. But I'm like, this man's not even divorced and it doesn't seem like he's pursuing A divorce.

[Kendall Landry]

Right. I mean, you know, you're right. You know, the advice is. I have to remember, the advice is from the friend who already thinks that this is an insane situation. It's true.

[Jordan Myrick]

So the friend could be agree we.

[Kendall Landry]

No, I'm saying the advice is just, we agree with you.

[Jordan Myrick]

Oh, yeah. But I also. I'm like, I understand, like, we're not getting the situation from the people who are actually in it. So obviously, as always, this podcast has some bias. Duh. But I think, like, no, you're not being a hater. I would say say your piece, but then you're one and done. Like, you do not need to go on. You can tell her, hey, I don't want to really talk to you about this. I think this situation's weird. And what I have to say about it, you're not gonna like and nip it in the bud. But constantly rehashing it with her, constantly giving her advice about it. She knows this is not a good situation. She knows that. Everybody knows that. If all your friends think it's great, they're either lying or maybe they have bad taste, or maybe you're not being 100% truthful. Maybe there's something we're missing here. If everyone thinks that's great and you don't, I think it's hard to tell, but from reading what you've sent me here, you could just let her do it. There's no secret. There's no secrets. It sounds like, to me, this man is still fully married. I'm sorry, do we know if he's actually separated? That's what I need to know.

[Kendall Landry]

Well, he's definitely married, but separation is not married. But I think.

[Jordan Myrick]

No, no, but he. They've never been on a date. They can only have sex in his car. He still lives with his wife.

[Kendall Landry]

Yeah. I don't know.

[Jordan Myrick]

Are they separated? Maybe. I don't know. I'm not there. I personally would say, huh, huh. That's what I would say. I would say, yeah, huh.

[Kendall Landry]

I mean, it's not going to end in wedding bells. That's what I'll tell you. And if it does, listen, I would not skip out on that wedding because I have a feeling there's going to be a lot of fun stories from that wedding.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah.

[Kendall Landry]

So just try to, if you've said your piece, just enjoy watching the train wreck.

[Jordan Myrick]

Just enjoy watching the train wreck. My spouse and I dated the same girl in high school.

[Kendall Landry]

Oh, that's funny.

[Jordan Myrick]

Her and I aren't close, but we are friends. My spouse has already tried to keep in touch with her amicably, but she never replies to his messages. We're having a five year vow renewal in May and she and her fiance are both invited. Suggestions, tips, general thoughts on the situation. I'll give you my first thought. Why are these people invited to your vow renewal? A girl you both dated in high school that you're not that close with, who won't speak to your husband. Why are they invited to your vow renewal?

[Kendall Landry]

Yeah, that's the part that I got a little confused by. So the. The ex girlfriend does not respond to the text. That's what I'm a little confused by. Or the DMs.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah, I guess so.

[Kendall Landry]

Bizarre. Interesting. Well, I mean. Oh God, I feel like I need to see the dms. This is.

[Jordan Myrick]

Well, but how? No, no, we have to start at the beginning. How did they even get invited? How did they get invited to your vow renewal? Are 9,000 people coming to your vow renewal?

[Kendall Landry]

Some people go big with it.

[Jordan Myrick]

But still, this seems like a wild person to invite to your vow renewal.

[Kendall Landry]

I don't know. I. I have no. That. That's a funny situation. I don't know. I really. This is the first time on the show I kind of at a loss. I'm like, I have no idea that. I mean, they are so unnecessary for them to be at the vow renewal. What is the question? Asker's question though.

[Jordan Myrick]

Suggestions, tips, general thoughts on the situation? General thoughts. General thoughts are, how did this even happen? How did you get yourself into this situation? Also, I need more context because the one thing I maybe could potentially see. It sounds like you're bisexual and the girl you dated in high school is bisexual. It seems like you're married to. Well, I don't know. It's just my spouse or.

[Kendall Landry]

Or the person's gay now, but they just had a boyfriend in high school.

[Jordan Myrick]

Maybe. I am so deeply confused for the first time in my life.

[Kendall Landry]

I need you to send a follow up and we will answer it in a future episode.

[Jordan Myrick]

I gotta know more. I'm gonna look this up to see if there even is more. Cause I am so. So I'm gonna google it. I'm Google, see if there's information. I'm just so confused, I guess. Hold on, hold on, hold on.

[Kendall Landry]

It's just like one of those. I kind of understand what's happening, but I need. So I have so many more questions. I feel like I cannot give proper advice.

[Jordan Myrick]

Maybe there was more context to this that I missed. If I did send us another Email, please. Because I have to know more. The only thing I could think of, and I don't know if this is how these people are gendered because I don't have the information. The only thing I could see is if you are a bisexual woman and she is a bisexual woman and your spouse is a man and her spouse is a man, and maybe her spouse is like, I don't feel comfortable with you interacting with that man you used to date. Because sometimes people can be weird about like, yeah, oh yeah, you can talk to that girl you dated if you're a girl, but you can't talk to a guy you dated if he's a guy. Because I'm also a guy. I literally am making up fictional.

[Kendall Landry]

That's what I'm just like, possibilities of.

[Jordan Myrick]

What this could be.

[Kendall Landry]

So much for your question, but we simply need more information and I'm so sorry. But I'm also excited for your follow up email.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah, this is what I'll say. If she never responds to your spouse's messages, but you're her friend and you really want to know, just ask her. Be like, michael has like emailed you and you've never responded. What's up with that? Yeah, I would literally never hesitate to ask one of my friends a question. Or you're not actually friends with her, then why is she invited to your vow renewal?

[Kendall Landry]

Well, a vow renewal is hilarious because I'm like, that feels like there's no one there. I've seen vow renewals I think I thought was just the two of you.

[Jordan Myrick]

I am truly at a loss. For the first time in this podcast, I do not understand. I have no clue what's going on.

[Kendall Landry]

I know.

[Jordan Myrick]

Wow. Wild to end on such a bonkers one.

[Kendall Landry]

Sorry, we were just absolutely terrified.

[Jordan Myrick]

I simply don't know what's going on. Don't invite anyone you're not really friends with to your vow renewal. I guess I'll walk away from this episode saying that a vow renewal should.

[Kendall Landry]

Be the two of you and an Elvis impersonator.

[Jordan Myrick]

Amen to that, sister.

[Kendall Landry]

Thank you so much for watching. If you're on Spotify or you're on Apple Podcasts, please make sure to give us a rate and a review. It helps us so much.

[Jordan Myrick]

Also, a new thing that I didn't even realize on Spotify. Make sure you're following this.

[Kendall Landry]

There we go.

[Jordan Myrick]

I didn't even realize that was a thing, but apparently it's important. So make sure you're rating and you're reviewing and you're listening, but you're also.

[Kendall Landry]

Following and you're also hearing and you're also loving and you're thinking and you're.

[Jordan Myrick]

Changing and you're expressing yourself, and we.

[Kendall Landry]

Love you so much. And if you're on YouTube, make sure to, like, comment and subscribe. And just because I'm a proud fiance, make sure to go subscribe to Jordan's YouTube channel, too, because they are making hilarious content right now. It's awesome. Making really cool content.

[Jordan Myrick]

Kendall, you stop. I love you so much.

[Kendall Landry]

I love you, too. And if you. What else are we freaking on any social media platform? We're on. Yeah. Follow us at HWHL Podcast. We love you so much.

[Jordan Myrick]

Happy Monday.

[Kendall Landry]

Happy Monday. Goodbye.