51: Giving Your HUSBAND an ALLOWANCE (Happy Valentine's Day!)

Summary

Happy Wife Happy Life – Episode 51: Giving Your HUSBAND an ALLOWANCE (Happy Valentine's Day!)

Release Date: February 10, 2025
Hosts: Kendahl Landrin and Jordan Myrick

In Episode 51 of Happy Wife Happy Life, hosts Kendahl Landrin and Jordan Myrick delve into the complexities and joys surrounding Valentine's Day. As unqualified but deeply passionate comedians, Kendahl and Jordan offer their unique perspectives on navigating relationship dynamics during this romantic holiday. The episode is structured into several engaging segments, featuring personal anecdotes, creative ideas, and insightful listener questions.

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1. Opening Remarks: Mixed Feelings About Valentine's Day

Kendahl and Jordan kick off the episode by sharing their differing views on Valentine's Day.

• Kentahl Landrin (01:04): "And we are two incredibly unqualified but deeply in love comedians who are here to help you with all things relationships."

• Jordan Myrick (01:25): "I love candy, but I don't like the adult pressure in relationships to have to do a big thing."

Kendahl expresses her affection for the holiday, highlighting the joy in thoughtful gestures without the accompanying stress, while Jordan appreciates the nostalgic aspects but is wary of the expectations it brings.

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2. Creative Ideas: Volunteering for Children's Events

A significant portion of the discussion revolves around an innovative idea for an app that connects individuals willing to volunteer for specific tasks related to children's events, such as preparing Valentine's projects or Halloween costumes. This concept aims to foster community service by matching enthusiastic volunteers with parents needing assistance, thereby alleviating financial and logistical pressures.

• Jordan Myrick (02:44): "I think that takes the financial pressure off of it. So it's like a community service."

Kendahl and Jordan brainstorm the potential benefits and challenges of such an app, including the necessity of a vetting system to ensure safety and reliability.

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3. No-Gift Valentine's Day: Emphasizing Connection Over Materialism

The hosts discuss the merits of forgoing traditional gifts in favor of focusing on meaningful interactions. Kendahl shares her preference for conversations that strengthen the relationship, such as discussing favorite moments or areas for personal growth.

• Kendall Landrin (05:54): "We go out to eat 9,000 times a week. We are constantly getting each other gifts."

Jordan supports the idea by highlighting their own relationship dynamics, where frequent outings and gift exchanges negate the need for special Valentine's gifts.

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4. Red Flag, Green Flag: Relationship Dynamics in Action

Continuing with their trademark segment, Kendahl and Jordan analyze "Red Flags" and "Green Flags" within their relationship, starting with driving habits.

• Kendall Landrin (10:00): "My red flag is about you. It's a red flag you have. And it's that you truly are so horrible to drive with."

This humorous yet honest exchange sheds light on how everyday behaviors can impact relationship harmony. They discuss specific instances where driving styles led to disagreements, ultimately emphasizing the importance of communication and mutual respect.

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5. Listener Q&A: Navigating Valentine's Day as the Breadwinner

The episode transitions into a listener question segment, where Kendahl and Jordan address various queries related to Valentine's Day.

First Question: As a woman, who is the breadwinner? Should I plan the day or should I give him a budget?

• Jordan Myrick (16:35): "I think that's great, because then it's not. If you make all the money, it's not like he's going to be like, but where do I get my money?"

They recommend establishing mutual budgets to ensure both partners feel comfortable and valued without financial strain. Kendahl adds practical advice on managing everyday finances, such as using shared credit cards to streamline spending.

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6. Breaking Up Around Valentine's Day: When and How

Another listener asks whether it's better to break up before or after Valentine's Day.

• Jordan Myrick (24:37): "I'm like, if you wrote this question to us, you should have broken up with them two months ago."

Kendahl and Jordan argue that honesty is paramount and that delaying a breakup until after the holiday can lead to unnecessary stress and insincerity. They share personal experiences to illustrate the emotional toll of postponing such decisions.

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7. Celebrating Valentine’s Day as Single: Embracing Self-Love and Friendship

The conversation shifts to celebrating Valentine's Day without a romantic partner. Kendahl reflects on her past experiences of enjoying the day solo, finding sweetness in observing others' celebrations.

• Kendall Landrin (30:34): "It's just jealousy. But I am just like it. I think it's a sweet holiday."

Jordan suggests alternatives like Galentine's Day or self-care activities, emphasizing that Valentine's Day can be a personal celebration of love and friendship.

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8. Final Fun Segment: Would You Be My Valentine?

The episode concludes with a playful exchange where Kendahl asks Jordan to be her Valentine. This lighthearted moment reinforces their affectionate and humorous rapport.

• Kendall Landrin (44:11): "Would you be my Valentine?"

• Jordan Myrick (44:13): "Honestly, I'm gonna hold up for the cookie cake. I'm gonna say TBD until I get the cake."

Their banter ends on a sweet note, encouraging listeners to appreciate their own relationships and traditions.

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Notable Quotes with Timestamps

• Kendall Landrin (02:03): "I do love, like, holidays for children."

• Jordan Myrick (05:07): "An app that makes no money, that connects pedophiles and children, but that's not its intention, unfortunately."

• Kendall Landrin (09:54): "And I want to be Red flag, red flag."

• Jordan Myrick (16:59): "You should just give himself."

• Kendall Landrin (35:38): "You never did your red flag."

• Jordan Myrick (40:10): "Don't go on your first date on Valentine's Day because of that exact reason."

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Conclusion

Episode 51 of Happy Wife Happy Life offers a blend of humor, honesty, and practical advice on handling Valentine's Day within relationships. Kendahl and Jordan's candid discussions and creative suggestions provide listeners with valuable insights into maintaining healthy, pressure-free romantic connections. Whether you're single, navigating relationship dynamics, or seeking fresh ideas for the holiday, this episode delivers thoughtful and entertaining content to enhance your Valentine's Day experience.

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Happy Valentine's Day from Kendahl and Jordan!

Transcript

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[Kendall Landrin]

Welcome to Happy Wife, Happy Life hosts. I'm Kendall Landrin.

[Jordan Myrick]

And I'm Jordan Myrick.

[Kendall Landrin]

And we are two incredibly unqualified but.

[Jordan Myrick]

Deeply in love comedians who are here to help you with all things relationships. And on today's episode, we're talking Valentine's Day. I don't care about Valentine's Day at all.

[Kendall Landrin]

I love it. I love it. I think it might be one of my favorite holidays.

[Jordan Myrick]

I love a kind of cartoonish version of it. I loved handing out the little valentines as kids, picking out which franchise your little Valentine's would be from. Yeah, I love candy, but I don't like the adult pressure in relationships to have to do a big thing.

[Kendall Landrin]

Let's just make a vow, Jord. Just no pressure on anything with you.

[Jordan Myrick]

And I. I don't think I feel pressure in general.

[Kendall Landrin]

I don't either, but I'm like, I don't want sex. Sometimes. I'm like, I know this sounds silly, but sometimes I just wanna like get you a bunch of stuff and not ever think about the fact that it's gonna make you feel like you need to get me anything.

[Jordan Myrick]

That's fine. You can get me a bunch of gifts if you want.

[Kendall Landrin]

I do love, like, holidays for children. And I think it's the one thing I don't really wanna have children. And I have to constantly remind myself that wanting to put together Valentine's for their class is not enough to make you have a child. Like, that's not responsible. Sometimes I'm like, they should have. Maybe they do like an app where you can like take on a mom's task where you're like, I don't have kids. You have like three put on there. Like, my kid needs all these Valentine's done. I will do them and put so much effort into it because it's like, not a thing I ever get to do. And it's so fun.

[Jordan Myrick]

Like, my kid needs tons of baked goods for a bake sale.

[Kendall Landrin]

Yes. Yes. Or my kid needs a really cool Halloween costume. My kid, like, he has a sixth birthday party and I need someone to plan it for free. Like, there's no payment. That's part of it. It's just someone who, like, doesn't want kids but needs to get out there, like, want to do those things.

[Jordan Myrick]

I think that's an incredible idea for an app because I think it takes a parent or parents need for help. I think it takes a person who loves to do a fun, creative thing, wants to express themselves or do crafts or bake or whatever the thing is. And it takes the financial pressure off of it. So it's like a community service.

[Kendall Landrin]

Yes.

[Jordan Myrick]

Like a way to get involved. You could do it with like, low income parents because it's just volunteering.

[Kendall Landrin]

It's like, it's not even like. And I think there's so many people would want to do that where you're like, I want to volunteer, but it'd be so fun to volunteer for such a specific thing. I mean, I think that's why people love doing and like, people love doing like, Secret Santa or whatever it is where they, like, go and pick out gifts for children.

[Jordan Myrick]

Because it feels like that's not what Secret Santa is.

[Kendall Landrin]

Or what is it? Like, the angel tree, Santana is where you, like, pick out. You shop for Christmas for a child in need. And it's like, feels very like, oh, I'm doing it. And you know, it's very rare in our world where you get to see kind of where your help. You know, you're always not using plastic straws, but you don't really see how that helps at all.

[Jordan Myrick]

You're not meeting a lot of turtles.

[Kendall Landrin]

Yes, it feels good to. Which is a selfish thing, but it feels good to be like. And I see where it goes. And look how awesome that is. I think people would love an app where they're like, oh, my God, this dad needs help with this specific thing. Let me just go help out.

[Jordan Myrick]

I would love to help a fifth grader on like a project where they have to cook a meal from a specific period of history or something like that. I would love that.

[Kendall Landrin]

I guess it gets tedious cuz My instincts be like, yeah, they could put on their, like, my kid needs help shopping for prom. But I'm like, then you're just like, sending your kid off with a stranger.

[Jordan Myrick]

But my kid needs to be dropped off at college and kiss goodbye. It's also hard. It's like, how do you keep pedophiles off this website?

[Kendall Landrin]

That's what I'm saying.

[Jordan Myrick]

You know, it's complicated. Maybe there's some kind of vetting system. I don't know. It's hard, but I think it's an incredible idea.

[Kendall Landrin]

Thank you. Okay, so no, wait. How now we got to cut all this out because I don't want to steal it.

[Jordan Myrick]

Well, don't steal it.

[Kendall Landrin]

This is my million dollar idea.

[Jordan Myrick]

Do not steal it. Everyone, seriously. We're trademarking it right now. Verbally. We're doing a verbal trademark. It's like a citizen's arrest. We're doing it right now. Do not steal this. We're trademarking it.

[Kendall Landrin]

People are like, why do we steal that? It sounds like it's gonna make no money.

[Jordan Myrick]

An app that makes no money, that connects pedophiles and children, but that's not its intention, unfortunately. No. I just don't like. And I guess I'm very lucky because you and I spend an unbelievable amount of time together. So I understand if you don't spend a lot of time with your partner. Valentine's Day being a bigger deal, maybe.

[Kendall Landrin]

Yeah.

[Jordan Myrick]

But I'm like, we simply could not spend more time together. We go out to eat 9,000 times a week. We are constantly getting each other gifts. Like, so I understand if your life is not like that, why Valentine's Day might be more important. But I'm like, still. I just think the pressure to do so much. I'm telling you right now, there's no gift for you this year.

[Kendall Landrin]

That's okay.

[Jordan Myrick]

There's no gift. I planned dinner. There's no gift at my favorite restaurant.

[Kendall Landrin]

And I'm so excited. I do think going and doing something is nice. But, you know, I'm such a fan of, like, talking about our relationship on relationship holidays. Like, on our anniversary. I can never just enjoy a meal we go out to if it's on our anniversary or if it's Valentine's Day. The whole time I'm like, and what's something you think I could work on? More importantly, what's something you think you could work on? What's your favorite moment from our relationship in Alaska? When did you know that you loved me? I love doing those types of Questions.

[Jordan Myrick]

And I want to know from you and also everyone watching or listening to this episode, U haul One night stand Ghost, which is our version of Mary F Kill. We keep forgetting. If you can say fuck Mary F Kill. Valentine's Day, the anniversary of when you started dating. Or birthday. Your birthday. Like, what? What? Like. And when it comes down to, like, these are potentially romantic holidays, right? Like, you go big for my birthday. You're rolling your eyes, you're saying birthday because birthday.

[Kendall Landrin]

I'm sorry, but it's like, gonna win them all. Like, I could never give up birthdays.

[Jordan Myrick]

Okay, so then you. But you don't have to. You have three options. Okay, so it's Valentine's Day, anniversary, birthdays.

[Kendall Landrin]

A u haul birthday. I one night stand Valentine. No, I one night stand, anniversary. And I ghost Valentine's Day. Wow. I think an anniversary feels important to like. I think it is nice to be like five years, you know?

[Jordan Myrick]

I do know what you mean. But I will say I would u haul birthdays. I would One night Stand Valentine's Day, and I would ghost anniversaries. Because there are so many anniversaries. So I'm like, there's the anniversary of when you met. There's the anniversary of when you actually had your first date. There's the anniversary of when you officially became a couple. There's the anniversary of when you got engaged. There's the anniversary of your wedding. There's. It's like, there's so many anniversary.

[Kendall Landrin]

Will we stop celebrating our regular anniversary when we get married?

[Jordan Myrick]

I'm sure we won't because I'm sure you'll make us celebrate all of them.

[Kendall Landrin]

I'm too competitive with, like, how long we've been together. Because I think it's hard when you've been together so long and then you get married and then you have to be like, one year anniversary. And I want to be like. But not one year. We've been together a really long time. We just got married last year.

[Jordan Myrick]

Sure you want the people to know?

[Kendall Landrin]

I need the people to know how long I've been really responsible and did a really good job in a relationship.

[Jordan Myrick]

But I don't think most people are assuming that we met and then that day got married. I don't think people are assuming we're a love at first sight television couple.

[Kendall Landrin]

I don't know. I don't know. What are you most excited for for Valentine's Day this year?

[Jordan Myrick]

Dinner at our favorite restaurant, the bread.

[Kendall Landrin]

At this place we go to. I'm not. I genuinely. I'm never like this. I'm not saying where we go. It's too good.

[Jordan Myrick]

Cuz you don't want it to be crowded.

[Kendall Landrin]

I don't want it to be crowded. Well, first of all, it already is crowded, so it actually probably doesn't matter.

[Jordan Myrick]

We've also already said the name of it 100,000 times on every.

[Kendall Landrin]

You've got to seek it out.

[Jordan Myrick]

So you got to seek it out on our Patreon. We'll tell it on Patreon. Patreon. You know, we'll tell you on Patreon.

[Kendall Landrin]

I'm obsessed with this restaurant. And it's really funny because it's Italian, which I feel like you and I are really not.

[Jordan Myrick]

We do not care about Italian people. Well, no, we are really not Italian people. No, we don't really care about Italian food. Sorry, it's not our go to.

[Kendall Landrin]

It's not our what?

[Jordan Myrick]

Our go to.

[Kendall Landrin]

Especially you, because you really don't care about an ambiance of a restaurant. No, I can really get into, like, the Italian restaurant vibe where I, like, have a glass of wine and I'm like, oh, it's so warm and cozy. And I can get into that. But in terms of, like, food, I'm always kind of, like, underwhelmed or like, I've just had it before. I'm never like, what is this? But at this place, I am like, what is this?

[Jordan Myrick]

Unbelievable. Unbelievable.

[Kendall Landrin]

And yeah. So Valentine's Day is coming up. I would like to, just to make sure that we are a strong enough couple to even make it through Valentine's Day, do a segment. Red flag, Green flag.

[Jordan Myrick]

Perfect.

[Kendall Landrin]

And I want to be Red flag, red flag. Because I'm fired up this week.

[Jordan Myrick]

All right, let's hear it. What's your red flag?

[Kendall Landrin]

My red flag is about you. It's a red flag you have. And it's that you truly are so horrible to drive with. I cannot even say this more clearly. I've never driven and not gotten into an argument with Jordan.

[Jordan Myrick]

Okay.

[Kendall Landrin]

Jordan's kind of the driver of the family. I'm the passenger princess when I drive it. You would think Jordan was on California Screamin'at California Adventure.

[Jordan Myrick]

The California Adventure roller coaster that doesn't exist anymore.

[Kendall Landrin]

That's now. What Incredicoaster? You think Jordan's on the Incredicoaster? Which they wouldn't do because they get too nauseous.

[Jordan Myrick]

This is my thing. I don't want to be like that, first and foremost. And I'm sorry that it doesn't make you feel good. I am genuinely sorry about that, but I also think Kendall is way too defensive about it, because Kendall sometimes is not being a good driver. And there are things where it's like, Kendall will get right up to the back of the car in front of us and then slam on the brakes, which I get really car sick. So I've expressed like, hey, please don't get right up on the car in front of us.

[Kendall Landrin]

And I'm sorry.

[Jordan Myrick]

On the brakes. It's not like they stop short, whatever. And I'll be like, kendall, what happened? And Kendall will go, I don't know. And I'm like, that's scary to me. I wish you were just saying, like, I didn't hit the brakes fast enough or something, but you go, I don't know.

[Kendall Landrin]

It's because it's so hard to. When you're driving, you're just like. And. And I need you to tell them I'm a good driver.

[Jordan Myrick]

No, you're a good driver, because that's the thing. I'm like, I'm not calling you a bad driver.

[Kendall Landrin]

I know, but I just want it to be clear, because I have no tolerance for people who are bad drivers. I don't think it's funny to be a bad driver. I think it's very dangerous. You're endangering other people. I'm a very good driver. That's the problem. It is not. And this is what I tell you all the time. It's not one thing. Because sometimes she'll be like, why wouldn't you want me to tell you that? I'm like, no, if you did it, like, once, that's fine. We've driven 30ft, and you've screamed, gasped, and told me 80 different things I did wrong. And people who are backseat drivers, I feel like it can get a little manipulative because they're always like, well, so what? You'd prefer I stay silent and then we die in a car crash? And I'm like, no, that's not what I wish. Obviously, I wish you would tell me, but that doesn't mean you can't improve on your overreactions to stuff.

[Jordan Myrick]

I am trying. I am trying to improve on my overreactions, but there are things like, Kendall used to change lanes without looking. Kendall just turned her turn.

[Kendall Landrin]

I did not.

[Jordan Myrick]

Kendall used to turn her turn signal on and then start getting into the next lane. Wait, let me finish. Can you listen?

[Kendall Landrin]

I just can't believe you're lying on this podcast.

[Jordan Myrick]

And you know it's true because we talked about it. And now you change lanes differently. So I know that there was merit to what I said, but you used to turn on your turn signal, start going into the next lane, and then look. And so regularly, we would almost sideswipe the car next to us because Kendall was changing lanes without looking first to see if there was a car there. She was like, well, my turn signals on, so they should know I'm coming over. I'm like, that's not what a turn signal does. So now we've talked about it. Too much protest on your end. Well, and now the way you do it is you turn on your turn signal, then you look, and if no one's there, then you change lane.

[Kendall Landrin]

What I would say is, that's totally valid, and I am like, that type of thing.

[Jordan Myrick]

But two seconds ago, I said that, you said I was lying.

[Kendall Landrin]

Yeah, I'm like. I'm like a. I don't know. I. I'm sure that's true. I just am like, there's there. Yes. I think things like that. Totally fair when I have a problem is that, like, when you're driving, and I think what makes someone a really good driver is the ability to handle things that aren't expected.

[Jordan Myrick]

I agree.

[Kendall Landrin]

Some people are like, I'm a really good driver because I drive perfectly, as my driving instructor told me to, but then whenever anything weird happens, I freak out and crash my car. And I'm like, that's not a good driver to me. So many unexpected things are happening all the time while you're driving, people are doing weird stuff. You're constantly. Whatever. So sometimes I get irritated when I'm trying to handle a situation that really isn't my fault, but maybe I didn't handle it perfectly at first, but then I'm adjusting or whatever, and after, for, like, two minutes, you're like, and why did you do that? I'm like, I don't know. When I say I don't know, I just mean, like, I was doing my best in the moment and was just trying to safely navigate this bizarre scenario.

[Jordan Myrick]

And I completely understand that, and I'm trying to do better with that. I just need you to stop stopping short.

[Kendall Landrin]

Okay.

[Jordan Myrick]

Or sometimes you'll just be telling a story and you'll miss every single exit or turn.

[Kendall Landrin]

But I don't think that's dangerous. So I guess I'm like, that's fine. It's not, and it's dangerous. I just want to spend more time with you in the car.

[Jordan Myrick]

Okay, we're going to questions.

[Kendall Landrin]

Kiss me on the mouth.

[Jordan Myrick]

She's done.

[Kendall Landrin]

Kiss me on.

[Jordan Myrick]

She's done.

[Kendall Landrin]

Although, tell them what happened in that parking lot the other day where that guy. You did have my back because he was really annoyed.

[Jordan Myrick]

Oh, yeah. This guy almost T boned us in a parking lot.

[Kendall Landrin]

And what was on his car?

[Jordan Myrick]

Stop signing. He had a bunch of sexy, big tittied, anime lady cartoon character bumper stickers all over his car. I'm like, man, I would have really torn him a new one if he had hit our car. He really would have no dignity left. So he's very lucky.

[Kendall Landrin]

But, like, what he did in that parking garage, there's no way I could have known that was gonna happen.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah, but I didn't say anything about you in that situation.

[Kendall Landrin]

No, you didn't. I'm saying. But sometimes I'm, like, trying to just handle a situation the best I can.

[Jordan Myrick]

But I don't need you to be, quote, unquote, handling the situation of the car in front of you already being stopped.

[Kendall Landrin]

Yeah.

[Jordan Myrick]

And then you pulling up behind them. Do you know what I mean? Like, that situation's already handled. You just need to stop earlier.

[Kendall Landrin]

Kiss me on the mouth.

[Jordan Myrick]

Don't. Don't. All right, are you ready?

[Kendall Landrin]

Yeah. We're getting into questions. If you were like, where can I ask questions? God. If you listen to this podcast every week, you're so exhausted of this speech.

[Jordan Myrick]

You'Re like, stop explaining where questions go.

[Kendall Landrin]

You're like, where do you get questions? Where do I ask a question? You can ask us on Instagram. Please follow us there, and you can ask us in our email@hwhlpod questions gmail.com.

[Jordan Myrick]

What will it take for you to remember the email address?

[Kendall Landrin]

Every week I go, is it pod or is it podcast? And honestly, I don't even know. But we're receiving questions, so it feels like I'm saying it right. Hwhlpod questionsmail.com you can message us as much questions to your heart's desire.

[Jordan Myrick]

You are having a real tough time getting through all this.

[Kendall Landrin]

I. My grammar today is. Is. My brain's not. Are you okay fast enough? Who knows? We'll find out. All right, if you have a really long story you need to tell us, the email is the perfect place for that. If not, you can head on over to our Instagram or you can ask us questions in our Patreon. One thing I will ask of you today, right now that would really help us is if you go and you follow us on Spotify, because we get a ton of you wonderful listeners on Spotify, but Apparently, we are learning every day about technology. It's really helpful if you follow us on Spotify. So we'd really appreciate that. And leave us a little review while you're there. Five stars. We'd appreciate it. Let's get to the questions.

[Jordan Myrick]

All right, our first question is this. As a woman, who is the breadwinner? Should I plan the day or should I give him a budget? And he plans the day. And I'll tell you right now, you shouldn't give him a budget that feels like sending your kid to school with lunch money. Should I give him a budget? Brian, you're allowed to spend a thousand dollars on me for Valentine's Day.

[Kendall Landrin]

Well, just give yourself. What about you give each other. You give both of you a budget? So you say, this year, for Valentine's Day, let's each just spend max, 50 bucks.

[Jordan Myrick]

I think that's great, because then it's not. If you make all the money, it's not like he's going to be like, but where do I get my money? I'm also like, it feels like you could probably just trust him to spend the right amount of money. Unless he's like a compulsive overspender and you're like, I'm scared he's going to spend $10,000. I don't think you need to give him a number. I think you can just be like, let's plan. You could always plan together. You could plan if you really want to plan. But I think it feels extremely condescending to be like, I'll let you plan Valentine's Day. And as the breadwinner, you can spend $100.

[Kendall Landrin]

I have a question. How does he buy other things?

[Jordan Myrick]

So it seems like this is probably something you'd run into regularly. Right.

[Kendall Landrin]

Because it seems like it. The way the question's phrased is like, Valentine's Day. This is the first moment we've had to figure out how to get this man money. This poor man is like, every year on Valentine's Day, I get a hundred bucks.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah.

[Kendall Landrin]

So I think probably whatever you do year round. Yeah. Like you said, if he's a big, big spender, has a problem with it, that's a different thing. But probably just, I mean, maybe get. If you have a credit card that they can get two credit cards. Like, that's what like, we have that. Where it's like, it's to the same account, but there's two credit cards. That's helpful for that situation, I think.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah. But I'm also like, just talk about the vibe, too. Like, let's say if you don't want him to feel like he has to spend a bunch of money on you on Valentine's Day, you can just say, I just want to do a really chill Valentine's Day. Let's just hang out at home. Or you could be like, let's plan it together. Or if you want something really fancy, be like, I want to go all out this year. Like, whatever it is, I. I don't think you have to assign a number to it. Yeah, but Kendall's right. What are you doing? Normally?

[Kendall Landrin]

How does this man buy food?

[Jordan Myrick]

How do y'all get groceries? Yeah, what's going on? What is going on? But the idea of giving your husband, I mean, a huge power play. I love it. I absolutely love it. If I saw it in a movie, I'd be obsessed with it.

[Kendall Landrin]

You get a. You get $2,000 for my Valentine's Day.

[Jordan Myrick]

So I imagine them walking into the room, taking a huge stack of cash out of their pocket, counting out $5,000 in $100 bills, handing it to their husband, who's extremely short in my mind. Right. Extremely short husband, extremely tall wife. Wife's also wearing heels.

[Kendall Landrin]

He's wearing a T shirt with her face on it.

[Jordan Myrick]

Exactly. Hands him $5,000 in a hundred dollar bills and goes, okay, you're allowed to spend this today. And then you send him on his way, and he gets on his scooter and goes out like, I like that. His razor scooter. Yeah, razor scooter is what I meant. Wow. Very funny. Didn't even think about that. When I read this question that I want to know how they normally do money stuff. I'm like, oh, yeah, just normal. Just be normal, you know? Right. Cause if you're the breadwinner.

[Kendall Landrin]

Well, I think there is that awkward thing of, like, when someone. And I've heard people say this before, where it's like, one of the people in the family is the breadwinner. And then a holiday like Christmas, it's kind of like every gift you receive, you're kind of like, and I bought this. Which is only hard if, like, you got, like, the KitchenAid, but it wasn't in the color you wanted. And you're kind of like, what's this song and dance? Just let me buy my KitchenAid.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah. I think that it's not weird because the gifts, in my opinion, should be.

[Kendall Landrin]

Thoughtful.

[Jordan Myrick]

Thoughtful. They should be what you want. So I'm like, it's not really about the money.

[Kendall Landrin]

Right.

[Jordan Myrick]

It's that they took the time and effort to, like, get the right thing. That exactly you want. So it's not about the money. In my personal.

[Kendall Landrin]

No, I totally agree.

[Jordan Myrick]

That's what I think. I'm not materialistic like Kendall.

[Kendall Landrin]

No, I am not.

[Jordan Myrick]

How do you make it special but cost effective.

[Kendall Landrin]

Oh, easy peasy. I think anything can be special. I think that it just is about being intentional and about, you know, even, like, every birthday, anytime we celebrate a birthday, what do I always do?

[Jordan Myrick]

Questions.

[Kendall Landrin]

Ask my questions. Everyone hates it, and I make everyone do it. But if it's your birthday, we go around and everyone says what they love about you. We ask you, you know, what you learned the last year.

[Jordan Myrick]

You know what we should do? We'll do a set of Valentine's Day questions. We'll post them on Patreon.

[Kendall Landrin]

Oh, there we go. Ask your partner.

[Jordan Myrick]

You can go through them, and you and your partner can ask each other those.

[Kendall Landrin]

Make it special. Special. Dim the lights. Light some candles.

[Jordan Myrick]

I'll tell you what really makes it special for Kendall. If you're like Kendall. Kendall wants a long card. Kendall wants the longest card ever in the history of the world.

[Kendall Landrin]

Honestly, just skip the card. Go straight to lined paper.

[Jordan Myrick]

No need for a card.

[Kendall Landrin]

4 pages.

[Jordan Myrick]

Journal. Fill a journal. Fill a diary with your thoughts about the other person.

[Kendall Landrin]

Come on.

[Jordan Myrick]

Really cheap. But they would love that.

[Kendall Landrin]

Yeah, they can do you. There's so many things I think, just being, like, intentional and don't be like, well, we can't even celebrate Valentine's Day because we don't have enough money to do it. Just be like, we're going to celebrate Valentine's Day big this year, but just do it in your house and do go on a long walk. I feel like it's super, super easy.

[Jordan Myrick]

I also am, like, do a Taco Bell cravings value menu.

[Kendall Landrin]

Take the hot sauce, put it in a heart. Yeah.

[Jordan Myrick]

And, like, do a picnic in your car. And bring, like, a little fake candle. Put on some Italian restaurant music. Like, make it, like, corny and fun.

[Kendall Landrin]

That feels more special than, like, going out to a fancy restauran.

[Jordan Myrick]

100%. 100%. Are gifts necessary? Is just dinner. Okay, this is coming from someone who's been married for two years.

[Kendall Landrin]

Yeah, of course. I feel like we do it so different every year. I feel like we've had years where we're, like, out of town. I feel like last. Yeah, last Valentine's Day, we were out of town.

[Jordan Myrick]

Where were we?

[Kendall Landrin]

We were in Chicago performing.

[Jordan Myrick]

Oh, yeah.

[Kendall Landrin]

Show. And so we didn't do gifts and we didn't do. But I think the day of Valentine's Day, we were like, happy Valentine's Day. And we were just like, I think.

[Jordan Myrick]

We got room service in our hotel room.

[Kendall Landrin]

Yeah. Oh, I guess that was. That was nice. So. But I think we just don't have any expectations for it. I think there's a difference. If you feel like your partner is constantly not showing up for you, and you feel like everything is, like, underwhelming, and they never, like, try to do anything special, and then Valentine's Day feels like the same thing. That's totally different. But I also am like, you shouldn't be dating that person anyways.

[Jordan Myrick]

But, yeah, it's like that. The problem then is not Valentine's Day. Right. So it's like, if you're, like, worried about Valentine's Day specifically, maybe something is a bigger issue.

[Kendall Landrin]

If you're waiting for Valentine's Day to prove that your partner loves you, it's just maybe not it. Or you're really excited because you're like, on Valentine's Day, he really shows up. For me, it's like, that's not great. So I feel like for us, it's pretty low stakes because it's kind. So it's really fun because it's just like, you know, if I see something that reminds me of you and I want to get it for you for Valentine's Day, it just feels like a little extra. Like, oh, that'll be fun and funny and cute, but nothing too stressful. But I think that's something we've talked about before that I think is really important. Where it's like, when you're in a bad relationship, holidays feel really important and really, like, you're supposed to prove yourself, and you're supposed to show that and for yourself, you're, like, waiting for them to screw it up because you, like, need them to prove themselves, and that's just bad News Bears.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah, I agree. This is a question that I do not know how to answer.

[Kendall Landrin]

Okay.

[Jordan Myrick]

I rarely feel unsure in my life, and I don't know about this one. I would love for people in the comments to weigh in on what they think about this.

[Kendall Landrin]

On the edge of my seat, if.

[Jordan Myrick]

Valentine's Day is approaching but you want to break up with your significant other, do you do it before or after Valentine's Day?

[Kendall Landrin]

You do it before.

[Jordan Myrick]

Okay.

[Kendall Landrin]

You really do. You don't have an opinion about that? Oh, I feel like you're, like, the second you feel any anger, break up at the person.

[Jordan Myrick]

So that is My thought. And that was the first thought I had to, to be for me. I'm like, if you wrote this question to us, you should have broken up with them two months ago. Like, I'm like, the second you're like, I want to break up with this person, break up with them. You will either work it out and get back together, or you'll find someone who's a better fit for you. But being like, I'm thinking about breaking up with you but not breaking up with you. Disgusting, devastating, horrible for the person who's not being broken up with, and also stressful for you as the person who wants to break up. So it's just not a good situation.

[Kendall Landrin]

Like, most people aren't celebrating. Like, a lot of people, not most people, but a lot of people are not celebrating Valentine's Day. A lot of people are single. It's not like, I, I think there are things about, like, not breaking up with someone the weekend before their birthday that they've planned all this stuff. Like, I sure. But at the same time, I've always been like, but they don't want to spend their birthday with the partner who's sitting there being like, when am I gonna break up with them? Like, it's just, I think it sucks in the moment, but at the end of the day, it's just better off. It's like, there is nothing kind about waiting to do that.

[Jordan Myrick]

Can I present one counterpoint?

[Kendall Landrin]

Yeah.

[Jordan Myrick]

This is why I felt a little confused, scared, unsure of what to say. I think you should do whatever is more considerate to the other person, to the person you are breaking up with. And I think most of the time that is breaking up with them immediately. There are certain things that I'm like, you should never wait. If you're like, but we're about to go to France for two weeks. Which happened to me. This is from personal experience. Well, I dated someone who things were like, not going well. And I was like, I think maybe we should take some time apart. And they were like, you're being crazy. That is insane. What are you talking about? Then we went to France for a week. They were so clearly unhappy with me, not nice to me. We did not have a good time. And then when we got back from France, while kind of still in France, they broke up with me immediately. And I was like, why did you let me go on a week long trip with, to France with you, with your family?

[Kendall Landrin]

And what did they say?

[Jordan Myrick]

And they were like, well, I didn't want to take a trip to France away from you. And I was like, I don't want to go to France with someone that doesn't want to go to France with me. And I don't want to go to France and argue for a week. That's like, a waste of my time. So all of this is leading to my point, which is that person should have broken up with me before we left. I did not need to take a week off work, spend all that time, hang out with their family, whatever, for that week. Now, let's say I had a huge. My impulse is to say a huge dissertation. And I'm gonna be really honest with you. I don't even know what that is or what that means.

[Kendall Landrin]

That's like a college thing.

[Jordan Myrick]

I guess so. Or like a graduate school thing. Like, I'm like, if that speech. I don't know if it's a speech. I don't know if it's a paper. I don't know what. It's a combination.

[Kendall Landrin]

I got it. Something big.

[Jordan Myrick]

If it's something big that is not related to romance.

[Kendall Landrin]

Yes. It's. Really? Yeah.

[Jordan Myrick]

Sometimes I'm like. You could pause for a second.

[Kendall Landrin]

Yeah. If your partner's about to take the bar.

[Jordan Myrick]

If your partner. That's a perfect example, Kendall. If your partner is about to take the bar, I'm like, you know, if it's six months out, breakup. But if they're about to take the bar next week, wait one more week, I agree.

[Kendall Landrin]

Yeah.

[Jordan Myrick]

You know what I mean? Because you're not making them do, you know? So for me, I'm like, Valentine's Day. Break up with them before Valentine's Day because you don't want to go to dinner, sit there, they tell you how much they love you, you're pretending, and then the next day, you have to be like, I didn't mean any of that. That's not good.

[Kendall Landrin]

And that's upsetting for them for the future, too.

[Jordan Myrick]

Absolutely. But if they're taking the bar, if they're really sick temporarily.

[Kendall Landrin]

Well, I think you're spot on with anything unrelated to romance. Because I'm even like, if they're about to have. If their whole family is coming into town for a week, the next weekend.

[Jordan Myrick]

I can't decide on that one because.

[Kendall Landrin]

They'Re gonna be staying in their house.

[Jordan Myrick]

But part of me is like, let me go ahead and do it so I can get out of the way so your family can be here when I don't need to, like, form further bonds with your family.

[Kendall Landrin]

No, I understand.

[Jordan Myrick]

Or whatever. But I also understand that Like, I think that one could kind of go either way. Yeah. Because I'm like, maybe you don't have a good relationship with your family, so you don't want them to be here for three days. And then that whole time you've just been dumped and you're upset. So I could kind of like, as a friend, as a person that cares about you, be there for you for those three days and then we can handle our stuff after. I think that one could go either way, depending on what the vibe is. But, yeah, I think it's just like romance things do not wait. Things that, like, are life things. I think you can feel that out. Yeah. Like, and do whatever's less selfish.

[Kendall Landrin]

I think if they're like, my daughter just went to the hospital. And then you're like, also, I'm breaking up with you. That may be just not the title.

[Jordan Myrick]

Wait a second. Yeah. Don't make a thing that's not about you about you to ease your feelings of guilt.

[Kendall Landrin]

I think you're super right about that because I think the romance thing is just where it's like, it doesn't matter.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah. You don't need to, like, simulate romance with someone you don't feel romance for.

[Kendall Landrin]

Totally.

[Jordan Myrick]

Just so you can be like, I'm making them not feel bad or whatever. Those are my thoughts on that. How do you celebrate Valentine's Day as someone who is not in a relationship and isn't looking for one?

[Kendall Landrin]

Well, I mean, it's not for you.

[Jordan Myrick]

It's not for you. It's not for you. I don't celebrate Hanukkah. I'm not Jewish.

[Kendall Landrin]

Right. It is kind of like if you're not in a relationship, there's no. I mean, you can do whatever you want. I mean, obviously gallon's time. Galentine's Day people do a lot.

[Jordan Myrick]

Well, I think that that's the big thing, you know, Obviously I'm being silly. Anyone can celebrate Valentine's Day, but I'm like, do Galentine's Day. Do a self love evening where you watch your favorite rom com, you order your favorite takeout meal, you take a bath, you go to pound town on yourself.

[Kendall Landrin]

Okay.

[Jordan Myrick]

But if you're doing these things and you're still like, I'm not getting the most of Valentine's Day, I'm like, yeah, there are just sometimes holidays you don't celebrate if they're not relevant to you 100%.

[Kendall Landrin]

Yeah. I think the hate towards Valentine's Day is very interesting. And I never had that before I was dating you. When I was single, I spent many Valentine's Day alone. Valentine's Day was still one of my favorite holidays because I just thought it was sweet. I liked watching all my friends post their partners. I liked, you know, seeing people walk down the street with flower. Like, I just thought it was very sweet.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah.

[Kendall Landrin]

So I've always been like confused by this anger towards Valentine's Day that is just like, I think most of the time kind of joking and it's just jealousy. But I am just like it. I think it's a sweet holiday. I've always thought that, I think hating on it because you don't like that other people are in relationships. It's kind of bizarre.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah. But I think it's hard. I think post getting dumped Valentine's Day is hard.

[Kendall Landrin]

Oh, sure. You know, so you've been a, you've been angry at Valentine's Day before.

[Jordan Myrick]

I'm trying to think. I really can't remember most things before you came into my life, but Valentine's Day. I was never a person who specifically cared about Valentine's Day. So that's.

[Kendall Landrin]

Even when you're in a relationship.

[Jordan Myrick]

Even when I was in a relationship, Valentine's Day has never been like, this is my thing. Yeah, I liked it when I was little because of the cards and the candy.

[Kendall Landrin]

It's fun.

[Jordan Myrick]

I loved being like, I'm giving everyone a nightmare before Christmas Valentine's Day card or whatever. Like, I love those little packs. And honestly talking about this, I'm like, maybe we go, maybe we go to Walgreens and we get a pack of fun, cute little Valentine's Day cards and we give them to our friends.

[Kendall Landrin]

Well, they've got nuts ones now. I have seen all over the Internet, you know, because mommy vloggers go wild. When I was a kid, it was just those little cards and ever so often someone would attach a piece of candy to it. But it was mostly just like from Derek to Kendall. It was kind of pointless actually.

[Jordan Myrick]

If you think, no, it's sweet and it's fun.

[Kendall Landrin]

It's like nothing. That's true.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah.

[Kendall Landrin]

It would be like Spider Man. I'd be like, oh, Derek love Spiderman. Which is fun. Now it'll be like play doh's attached to it. Like, like a mini, like a mini tiny, like pocket sized Game Boy. Like crazy stuff is attached to it now they go really big.

[Jordan Myrick]

A pocket sized Game Boy.

[Kendall Landrin]

I invented that. I don't know, but I'm trying to think just like a fun game, like games are attached to it. Toys are Attached to.

[Jordan Myrick]

It's always been pocket sized. Right. Isn't that.

[Kendall Landrin]

I was kind of picturing, like, a fake Game Boy. That was tiny. It was a terrible example. Let's just move on. I'm just kidding.

[Jordan Myrick]

Great. No, I think it's Perry. Any fun gift ideas? I've never had a partner on Valentine's Day before, and I'm excited.

[Kendall Landrin]

Oh, that's so sweet.

[Jordan Myrick]

I think that's really sweet.

[Kendall Landrin]

I feel like it's good to go classic.

[Jordan Myrick]

And what does that mean to you?

[Kendall Landrin]

I think you walk down the CVS aisle. That's what you did for me on my first Valentine's Day. And you get a cute little stuffed animal. You get. I think you do flowers, you get a nice card, some chocolates. Like, I think classic is always really sweet.

[Jordan Myrick]

I think you could go classic because it's cute, because it's cheesy in a fun way. I think you could also go hyper personalized.

[Kendall Landrin]

Sure.

[Jordan Myrick]

You know, once again, control. You could get anything on Etsy, which is so incredible.

[Kendall Landrin]

Oh, yeah.

[Jordan Myrick]

But you could also get their favorite Jersey Mike sandwiches. Do them in the shape of a heart on the kitchen table.

[Kendall Landrin]

Well, there we go.

[Jordan Myrick]

How fun is that?

[Kendall Landrin]

That's really cute. That's a lot of sandwiches.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah. Meal prep. That's meal prep for the week. That's incredible. But I think that, like, anything like that, I don't think you have to spend a lot of money. I also think this is your first Valentine's Day with a partner. So I don't know when y'all started dating. Maybe you started dating February 15th of last year. So now you've been together for almost a year. That's a normal time to get a really sentimental gift. Maybe you started dating one month ago, so you want to get something less personal. Maybe you started dating two weeks ago, but you're lesbians, so you guys already live together.

[Kendall Landrin]

Yeah.

[Jordan Myrick]

It. You have to fill out the vibe of your personal relationship, I think is an important thing. But I don't think you can ever go wrong with something that feels sweet. I don't think you have to go expensive. I don't. And I think, like, yes, obviously you can go personalized, but I think, like, really personalized to me is birthday.

[Kendall Landrin]

Oh, sure. Well, because to me, Valentine's Day is about the couple.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah. So I'm like, go out to dinner. Go on a trip. A trip feels like too big a staycation.

[Kendall Landrin]

Yeah.

[Jordan Myrick]

Go on a staycation.

[Kendall Landrin]

Go on, rent a hotel next to your house. Sure.

[Jordan Myrick]

Like, anything like that. Feels good to Me. But I'm like, you don't have to get them, like, oh, they've really been needing a new laptop.

[Kendall Landrin]

Yeah, that's.

[Jordan Myrick]

I'm gonna get them a new laptop. You know what I mean? Like, to me, that, that's giving birthday.

[Kendall Landrin]

Valentine's Day is cheesy. I think it's supposed to be cheesy. It's supposed to be about a relationship. I think, like when you see those things that are like a framed photo of what the moon looked like when you met is like so stupid.

[Jordan Myrick]

I love it.

[Kendall Landrin]

But then it's like perfect for Valentine's Day. It's like, yeah, that's the only thing you could ever get. You would only ever get that on Valentine's Day. It would be weird any other day of the year.

[Jordan Myrick]

But it's so sweet. Yeah, I love that.

[Kendall Landrin]

Wait a minute. Jordan, I'm so sorry to be bouncing all around, but you never did your red flag.

[Jordan Myrick]

Oh my God. I didn't.

[Kendall Landrin]

Do you have one?

[Jordan Myrick]

I didn't even think about that. My red flag of the week. Are you ready? Yeah, I'm thinking of it now.

[Kendall Landrin]

Here we go.

[Jordan Myrick]

Everyone buckle up. It's gonna be a wild one.

[Kendall Landrin]

Here we go.

[Jordan Myrick]

It's coming. It's really good. You. I'm gonna say it and you guys are gonna be like, wait, I've never even thought about that before.

[Kendall Landrin]

Don't say it yet. Cause I'm not ready.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah. Everyone take a second to kind of buckle in. Brace yourself for my red flag. It's gonna be awesome.

[Kendall Landrin]

Do we need to do one more question? You can think about it during that.

[Jordan Myrick]

No, no, I'm ready. I just wanna make sure you're ready.

[Kendall Landrin]

Oh, wait. I'm not ready yet. Can I have a couple seconds?

[Jordan Myrick]

Just take another second.

[Kendall Landrin]

I'm just gonna take one deep breath.

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[Kendall Landrin]

Do you have a Red flag.

[Jordan Myrick]

My red flag is something you do.

[Kendall Landrin]

Okay.

[Jordan Myrick]

I think people who prefer to hide things in their home instead of actually cleaning and organizing them are toxic.

[Kendall Landrin]

So here's what I'll say. I agree with you, But I also know that there's a landing in our house right now next to our washer and dryer that is covered in stuff.

[Jordan Myrick]

This is so manipulative. Why is it covered with stuff? You know why. You know why. The stuff is still there.

[Kendall Landrin]

It's been covered in stuff for two years.

[Jordan Myrick]

No, it has not.

[Kendall Landrin]

Yes.

[Jordan Myrick]

You are such a liar. Why is it covered in stuff right now?

[Kendall Landrin]

Well, we're in. Well, we're about to have an office, so stuff is gonna be moved into there.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yes, that's why I said that place.

[Kendall Landrin]

Has always had stuff on it.

[Jordan Myrick]

Not like that. And you're not like that, too?

[Kendall Landrin]

No. 100. But I'm a crammer. But I know you don't like me.

[Jordan Myrick]

To cram stuff, so we cannot open any drawer or cabinet in our house because they are, like, stuck.

[Kendall Landrin]

I've been getting way better about that.

[Jordan Myrick]

You've been a little better, but it's still bad because Kendall is like, if it's clean, that means it's out of sight.

[Kendall Landrin]

Yeah.

[Jordan Myrick]

If you look around and there's nothing on any surface, that means that it's clean. But if you. Am I boring you? Sorry.

[Kendall Landrin]

Sorry. I've heard this all before.

[Jordan Myrick]

But it's like, if you open a drawer, it's like, you can't open a drawer. It gets stuck because it's so full of stuff. And then you cannot find anything you need because you will set something down for one moment, and then Kendall will walk over, pick it up, and, like, put it underneath the dishwasher, and you're like, I can't find this thing I need. And Kendall's like, oh, I don't know where I put it. I just didn't want to look at it, so I put it away.

[Kendall Landrin]

Yeah. I'm like, no, I get it. It's annoying. But I also will say, I think how I handled that in the past, before we were together, is I just owned such little stuff.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah, but that's not how you want it to be. You love buying stuff now. You always want me to buy you stuff.

[Kendall Landrin]

Yeah, it's true. It's hard. I. Well, that's why I said I need.

[Jordan Myrick]

A bigger house, but I think that's with everything. Right. To me, it feels, like, indicative of a bigger problem. And I think this is why you should look out for this as a red flag is because you're not actually tackling the root cause, the issue. You're just kind of putting band aids on things to make it more visually pleasing.

[Kendall Landrin]

Yeah.

[Jordan Myrick]

And you're not actually handling the root cause. So I think if you notice that about someone, they're really into the aesthetic look of cleanliness, organization, but they're not actually clean and organized. I think that's a red flag.

[Kendall Landrin]

I would call it a host, but that's fine. A good host who wants their house to seem clean for guests. But that's understandable. No, I do. I'm trying to do better about that. I'm a big crammer. I also always have. I have one space in my house that's always, like, unusable because it's filled with stuff, and I wish it wasn't that way.

[Jordan Myrick]

I know. I'm sorry, babe. Are you ready for the next question?

[Kendall Landrin]

Yeah.

[Jordan Myrick]

This is our final question.

[Kendall Landrin]

Oh, my God.

[Jordan Myrick]

Is Valentine's Day a good time to ask someone on a first date, or is it too cheesy?

[Kendall Landrin]

Oh, I don't think anything's too cheesy. If you feel like it sounds fun to you, I say go for it. Because if they think it's too cheesy, then maybe they're not cheesy enough for you.

[Jordan Myrick]

I agree. Now, this does present a question for me. Are you asking someone on a first date on Valentine's Day, are you asking someone to go on your first date and that first date is on Valentine's Day, or are you asking someone to, like, be your girlfriend on Valentine's Day?

[Kendall Landrin]

Well, here's what I'll say. I actually do think having a first date on Valentine's Day in public can be a little intense. I think being like, I feel like I've had this before, but for some reason, like, I feel like I have a memory of being like, I know it's on Valentine's Day, but it is. That just happens to be the date that I'm available.

[Jordan Myrick]

There's a whole episode of 30 Rock about it.

[Kendall Landrin]

Oh, really? Maybe that's what I'm thinking of. Maybe it didn't happen to me. Yeah, but so I think then, like, you know, going to your house, watching a movie, whatever, making it casual. I think going on a first date on Valentine's Day is hard because people assume you are a couple, and that can be awkward. Or like, even just little things. Like, the waiter will come up and.

[Jordan Myrick]

Be like, hello, lovers.

[Kendall Landrin]

Yeah.

[Jordan Myrick]

Or something.

[Kendall Landrin]

We're like, oh, the happy couple. I don't know why they would say this, but you know what I mean, there's just weird little interactions that could kind of be awkward. If you're, like, on a first date and the person is like, this person is not for me.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yes.

[Kendall Landrin]

And now you're on this, like, really intimate thing where they're, like, bringing out champagne and being like, oh, the desserts on. On the restaurant. Because we just. You guys are so cute. It's just, like, a little awkward. But I think also you can just laugh about it. It's not like the end of the world, but I think it could be a little intense.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah. I would say don't go on your first date on Valentine's Day because of that exact reason. Unless you're going to, like, see a movie or something that is just fully not really romantic. There's no, like, romantic scenario. You're not gonna have to talk to anyone who's gonna ask you questions about romance or dating or whatever. I think you could do that. But all in all, I'm like, I think on Valentine's Day I could be like, hey, would you like to go on a date with me next week? Totally normal. I think a first date on Valentine's Day wasn't. Doesn't feel cheesy. It just feels like it could present awkward situations. If you don't know the person. Let's say this is someone that you've been vibing with for a while. Maybe your friends, maybe your co workers, you know, you already like them. I think asking them on a first date on Valentine's Day is totally fine.

[Kendall Landrin]

I totally agree, because I was thinking of. The waiter comes up and is like, how long have you two been together? You can, like, it's funny versus being like, no, no, thank. No, help me.

[Jordan Myrick]

I don't think you should meet for the first time on Valentine's Day. That's what I'll say. Yeah, I think that's too much. And I think asking someone to be your partner on Valentine's Day, extremely cute.

[Kendall Landrin]

But then you only get one celebration.

[Jordan Myrick]

Pick another one too. Then what?

[Kendall Landrin]

Based on what?

[Jordan Myrick]

Whatever you want.

[Kendall Landrin]

The first time we had intercourse, that's gonna be the same day.

[Jordan Myrick]

Why would you say intercourse?

[Kendall Landrin]

I don't know what we're allowed to say. We can't say the F word. So I don't know if sex was.

[Jordan Myrick]

Well, we did say the F word. I said the F word.

[Kendall Landrin]

Coitus. That probably be the same day if you. If you're asking them to be your girlfriend on Valentine's Day, then you're probably gonna have sex at night.

[Jordan Myrick]

I do think it's fun if your anniversary's on Valentine's Day, because then I'm like, do a big blowout weekend. You know what I mean? Like, be like, it's Valentine's Day. It's our anniversary. Every year we go on a trip.

[Kendall Landrin]

Well, because sometimes it does get overwhelming.

[Jordan Myrick]

Where you're like, oh, my God, Valentine's Day. And we got your birthday and then my birthday, and then we got all our friends birthdays, and then we got Christmas. It's like too much. Consolidate the holidays and go big. Consolidate the holidays, go big.

[Kendall Landrin]

I love it.

[Jordan Myrick]

Date someone whose birthday is on Valentine's Day.

[Kendall Landrin]

Okay.

[Jordan Myrick]

Ask him to be your girlfriend that day. Every year you go on a week long trip to a different country.

[Kendall Landrin]

My God. There you go.

[Jordan Myrick]

What do we think? I think that's the perfect scenario.

[Kendall Landrin]

Well, we have absolutely just mastered Valentine's Day. I think it's very clear. I hope you all have the most amazing Valentine's Day, no matter if you're celebrating on your own. Celebrating with a partner. Thank you so much. I heard you all just wish us a happy Valentine's Day.

[Jordan Myrick]

I want to know what all of you were doing for Valentine's Day. So please leave in the comments. Tell us what you're doing, because we would love date ideas from y'all.

[Kendall Landrin]

Yeah. I have one more question. Can I ask a question?

[Jordan Myrick]

Of course. I should have known. I fell for it. I really fell for it for one second. Yes.

[Kendall Landrin]

Would you be my valentine?

[Jordan Myrick]

Normally, you get me a cookie cake that asks me.

[Kendall Landrin]

I know it's coming. I just thought it'd be fun to. So do it on the podcast.

[Jordan Myrick]

Honestly, I'm gonna hold up for the cookie cake. I'm gonna say TBD until I get the cake.

[Kendall Landrin]

Wow.

[Jordan Myrick]

It's our tradition.

[Kendall Landrin]

I know it is.

[Jordan Myrick]

Feels crazy. What? I undermine the tradition.

[Kendall Landrin]

No, don't. I just figured I could ask you twice.

[Jordan Myrick]

If I'm getting asked twice, then I'll say yes.

[Kendall Landrin]

Okay. Okay, great. And do you want to ask me.

[Jordan Myrick]

Or do you want to be my valentine?

[Kendall Landrin]

Yeah, usually I get, like, a necklace or something.

[Jordan Myrick]

No, you've never gotten a necklace. This is what happens every year. Kendall gets me a cookie cake that says, will you be my valentine? As a joke. And then I say yes, and then Kendall goes, anything to ask me, and then I ask her. That's how it goes every single year, so. I can't believe we're breaking the tradition.

[Kendall Landrin]

I'm so sorry. Are you upset?

[Jordan Myrick]

I'm furious.

[Kendall Landrin]

Oh, my God. Thank you so much for watching. We really appreciate it. Thank you for being my Valentine every year. Jordan and I just am just over the moon. God, here comes my big.

[Jordan Myrick]

Here comes her big spiel.

[Kendall Landrin]

If you're listening on Spotify or Apple podcasts, make sure to rate and review. And if you're on YouTube, make sure to subscribe and check out our Patreon. We're about to record a 30 minute minisode that's gonna go live the same day you're listening to this podcast, so make sure to check it out. And Jordan, anything else to say?

[Jordan Myrick]

You said follow us on Spotify.

[Kendall Landrin]

I sure did.

[Jordan Myrick]

You said tell all your friends and family about the episodes.

[Kendall Landrin]

I sure did.

[Jordan Myrick]

You said buy your lover a Patreon subscription to our Patreon for Valentine's Day.

[Kendall Landrin]

I did say that. You didn't hear that?

[Jordan Myrick]

We're gonna be doing a sale for Valentine's Day for Patreon. Okay, we'll discount.

[Kendall Landrin]

There we go.

[Jordan Myrick]

Keep an eye out for that.

[Kendall Landrin]

Amazing. Well, thank you so much for being here and happy Valentine's Day.

[Jordan Myrick]

Happy Valentine's Day.