62: Are We BEST FRIENDS Or Are We IN LOVE? (Q&A)

Summary

Podcast Summary: Happy Wife Happy Life – Episode 62: Are We BEST FRIENDS Or Are We IN LOVE? (Q&A)

Release Date: May 5, 2025
Hosts: Kendahl Landreth and Jordan Myrick
Title: Are We BEST FRIENDS Or Are We IN LOVE? (Q&A)

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Introduction: A Day on the Farm

[00:41 – 07:55]

Kendahl Landreth and Jordan Myrick kick off Episode 62 by sharing their recent experience visiting a farm. The hosts humorously discuss their attempts to navigate traditional and modern lifestyles, highlighting their unique approaches to hobbies and personal growth.

• Kendall expresses her evolving interests, stating, “I feel like, okay, I'm kind of doing the amount of farming I need to do” ([02:33]).
• Jordan jokes about Kendall’s enthusiasm, remarking, “she has to do 100% of the whole thing” ([01:49]), emphasizing her commitment to new interests like horseback riding and baking bread.

The duo reflects on their time at the strawberry fields, depicting it as a controlled and almost surreal environment. Kendall humorously notes, “This is not. This is a Truman show filmed thing” ([04:19]), illustrating the overly perfect setting they encountered.

Relationship Tip of the Week: Always Carry a Little Gift

[09:08 – 11:50]

Introducing a new segment, Kendahl and Jordan unveil their "Relationship Tip of the Week." The tip centers on the idea of consistently carrying small, meaningful gifts to show appreciation and thoughtfulness in a relationship.

• Jordan shares his practice, “I took an extra thing of Cheez-Its from the recording studio and put it in my purse” ([09:55]).
• Kendall echoes the sentiment with personal anecdotes, such as leaving cortisone for Jordan on his pillow ([12:24]).

They emphasize the simplicity and impact of small gestures, suggesting that even a single Hershey's Kiss can make a significant difference: “It costs $0 to $10, depending on what you get. And it really does make you happy” ([10:00]).

Listener Q&A Segment

[14:16 – 49:51]

The core of the episode revolves around a series of listener-submitted questions. Kendahl and Jordan provide candid, often humorous advice rooted in their personal experiences.

1. Overcoming Guilt Over Earning Less Than a Partner

Question: "How do I get over the guilt of making less money than my partner?"
[14:16 – 19:03]

Kendahl advises embracing the dynamics of the relationship without fixating on financial disparities. She states, “It's not about... money guilt is so bizarre to me” ([14:28]). Jordan reinforces the notion of prioritizing the relationship over monetary concerns, recommending open communication and mutual contribution in various aspects beyond finances.

• Kendall emphasizes, “Free yourself from that prison” ([16:46]).
• Jordan adds, “Stop nickel and diming people you love” ([16:13]).

2. Communicating the Desire Not to Have Kids

Question: "How do I let people around me know that I don't want kids and that it's not just a joke?"
[19:03 – 23:16]

The hosts tackle the sensitivity surrounding discussions about having children. Kendahl questions the necessity of openly sharing such personal decisions, while Jordan suggests assertiveness to set clear boundaries.

• Jordan recommends honesty: “I don't want to have kids. You don't have to explain why” ([20:29]).
• Kendall shares her frustration with societal pressures: “The other night, I felt inspired to write her a letter of apology” ([22:22]).

They highlight the importance of prioritizing personal feelings over external expectations, advising listeners to handle persistent inquiries with firmness.

3. Supporting a Partner's Education Goals While Facing Distance

Question: "My girlfriend and I applied to different grad schools three hours apart. How do I support her dreams when it means being apart?"
[23:16 – 28:24]

Kendahl and Jordan discuss the challenges of long-distance relationships, especially when one partner lacks enthusiasm about their educational pursuits.

• Kendall suggests open dialogue about the emotional impact: “I just want to let you know that, like, it's gonna be very hard on me” ([25:21]).
• Jordan encourages creating fun rituals to maintain connection, such as meeting halfway or sending postcards ([25:59]).

They emphasize understanding and supporting each other’s goals while addressing the emotional strains of physical separation.

4. Exiting a Family Group Chat Post-Breakup

Question: "How do I leave an extended family group chat after breaking up with my partner?"
[28:24 – 34:48]

The hosts provide strategies for gracefully exiting social circles after a relationship ends.

• Kendall advises that the ex-partner should inform the family first: “you've got to notify your family we're no longer together” ([30:04]).
• Jordan recommends making a respectful announcement before leaving: “you can just send an email being like, hey, guys, Nick and I broke up” ([30:53]).

They stress the importance of honesty and clear communication to maintain dignity and respect within the family dynamic.

5. Best Friend Love Dilemma

Question: "I'm in love with my guy best friend. How do I navigate my feelings without ruining our friendship?"
[34:48 – 49:51]

This complex emotional situation sees Kendahl and Jordan offering heartfelt advice on balancing deep feelings with the desire to preserve a cherished friendship.

• Jordan underscores the difficulty of resetting post-confession: “It's really hard to reset… it has to be on both sides” ([37:26]).
• Kendall emphasizes self-worth and compatibility: “It's just incompatibility” ([38:12]).

They recommend prioritizing personal happiness and recognizing when a relationship dynamic may be unhealthy or unbalanced.

Conclusion: Wrap-Up and Engagement

[49:51 – 51:39]

Kendahl and Jordan conclude the episode by expressing gratitude for listener engagement and encouraging continued participation through various platforms. They playfully reflect on their own podcast dynamics, reinforcing their commitment to providing relatable and honest relationship advice.

• Jordan remarks, “We really have done it. One” ([50:06]).
• Kendall invites listeners to connect on Instagram and other social media: “Please rate, interview us on whatever platform you're listening on” ([50:47]).

The hosts highlight the importance of community and interaction, inviting listeners to share their stories and continue the conversation beyond the podcast.

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Notable Quotes:

• Kendall: “Why would I like those? Why. Why would you think I liked those?” ([02:15])
• Jordan: “Always carry a little gift” ([09:43])
• Kendall: “Free yourself from that prison” ([16:46])
• Jordan: “Stop nickel and diming people you love” ([16:13])
• Jordan: “I don't want to have kids. You don't have to explain why.” ([20:29])
• Kendall: “It's just incompatibility” ([38:12])
• Jordan: “If you're not wanting to date you, you should not date him.” ([37:26])

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Key Takeaways:

1. Embrace Individuality: Kendahl and Jordan emphasize the importance of personal growth and embracing unique interests without letting societal pressures dictate relationship dynamics.

2. Simple Gestures Matter: Small, thoughtful actions can significantly enhance relationship satisfaction and demonstrate ongoing appreciation.

3. Clear Communication is Crucial: Whether addressing financial disparities, family expectations, or unreciprocated feelings, honest and assertive communication is essential for maintaining healthy relationships.

4. Recognize Compatibility: Understanding and accepting incompatibilities can lead to more fulfilling relationships and prevent unnecessary emotional strain.

5. Navigate Social Dynamics Respectfully: Handling breakups and changes in social circles with grace and honesty helps preserve respect and dignity among involved parties.

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For more insightful discussions and relationship advice, tune into future episodes of "Happy Wife Happy Life" with Kendahl Landreth and Jordan Myrick.

Transcript

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[Jordan Myrick]

Welcome to Happy Wife, Happy Life.

[Kendall Landreth]

We're your hosts. I'm Kendall Landreth.

[Jordan Myrick]

And I'm Jordan Myrick.

[Kendall Landreth]

And we are two incredibly unqualified but.

[Jordan Myrick]

Deeply in love comedians who are here to help you with all things relationships. And today we're doing a Q and A. I think it's important to address that Kendall and I just went to a farm.

[Kendall Landreth]

It's really important. I can feel an anxiety from you, Jordan, that you're trying to get me on a farm as much as possible so I don't try to purchase a farm.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yes, Kendall is becoming very trad wife very quickly in a way that's freaking me out. So I'm like, okay, I'll take her to a farm. I'll, I'll let her bake bread. I keep encouraging her to bake bread, and it does seem to be kind of mentally satiating you.

[Kendall Landreth]

Well, I'm trying to do better in life at scratching an itch instead of going full hog wild.

[Jordan Myrick]

And you're doing an incredible job of this because you do not have good impulse control.

[Kendall Landreth]

No, I don't.

[Jordan Myrick]

And I think you've really been controlling your impulse.

[Kendall Landreth]

You were so turned on by me the other day when I said, I said, I think I'm going to book one horseback riding lesson. And instead of getting the yearly package.

[Jordan Myrick]

Well, I just couldn't believe it because you're so, you know, Kendall is like it. She can't just do a little bit of a thing. She has to do 100% of the whole thing. And I, I love that commitment, but at the same time, it results in things of like, these are the shorts I'm obsessed with. I'm going to buy nine pairs of these shorts. And then like a month later, I'm like, oh, you never are wearing these shorts. You bought nine pairs of. And then she looks me in the eyes and goes, I don't like those I never liked those.

[Kendall Landreth]

Why would I. Why. Why would you think I liked those?

[Jordan Myrick]

And I'm like, well, you bought nine pairs of them, so I don't understand. So when you had the realization that you could do things just a little bit, it did feel like a huge breakthrough for you.

[Kendall Landreth]

Well, because I was like, it was overwhelming me to feel like, I wish I could buy a farm. I wish I could own a farm, but I have no skills to do that. And I don't even know if I really would like it.

[Jordan Myrick]

I don't think you would, but I.

[Kendall Landreth]

Felt this pull to it. And now that I'm doing my horseback riding lessons and we went to the strawberry field, I feel like, okay, I'm kind of doing the amount of farming I need to do.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yes. We took our nephews. We have two nephews. They're very small. We're not sure how old they are. We see them a lot. We don't know how old they are.

[Kendall Landreth]

We're always kind of like, we have.

[Jordan Myrick]

A general idea, but we don't really know.

[Kendall Landreth]

I have no idea how kids are supposed to age either. And, you know, every kid ages differently, too, developmentally, so it's always very confusing to me. Or I feel like I will say things like, my youngest nephew, and I'll be like, so do you watch TikTok or anything? And he's like, I don't speak English. And I'm like, I have no idea.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah, it's very hard to know. You know, one of our friends had a baby recently, and we see him about once a week. So he's always kind of a baby, Right? He's always the same. Our nephews, we see once a month, once every other month, and they seem so different every time we see them. It's very confusing as two people who don't have children.

[Kendall Landreth]

Well, they grow very fast. Well, and it's also intimidating because I, like, this is bad on my part, but it's like, I learned my nephew liked dinosaurs when he was 3, and I was like, that's kind of your thing now. And he's gone through, like, 90 different interests since then. So every time I see him, I'm like, still trying to talk about the thing he was into, but every week they've got something new. They're watching new TV shows. There's a lot going on.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah.

[Kendall Landreth]

But we took him to a farm. It was an absolute blast.

[Jordan Myrick]

We had a great time. I'm like, I gotta be getting out in more stuff like that, because it's a controlled nature environment. And that's what I need, because I love nature. But I am not one to be left to my own devices in nature.

[Kendall Landreth]

No. And I think a strawberry, any, like, picking of a vegetable or a fruit feels so perfect because it almost feels fake. Like they've set up. When we were walking in the strawberry fields, it felt fake. I was like, this is not. This is a Truman show filmed thing for them to. So we can pretend we're farmers.

[Jordan Myrick]

It felt like we were acting in a commercial.

[Kendall Landreth]

Yes. It was just too perfect. All the strawberries are amazing. They're all in these little rows, and they're just all ready.

[Jordan Myrick]

They're like, pick one off the bush and just take a bite.

[Kendall Landreth]

Take a bite. There's no dirt on anything. It was incredible. It was perfect. We picked romaine lettuce. That was one of the best moments of my life.

[Jordan Myrick]

Kendall.

[Kendall Landreth]

It goes. Shouted our engagement. Better than not picking romaine lettuce. I'm sorry.

[Jordan Myrick]

Kendall shouted out loud. We're in a group of people, a full group of strangers. Kendall, the way you pick romaine is it looks exactly like you would buy it at the grocery store. But that's so amazing on top of dirt. And then you twist it until it just pops off and you have a head of romaine lettuce. And Kendall did it and then stood up and shouted, I'm a farmer. And everyone around us looked at her and. But that was all it took, right? Like that. It feels that good. You can. You can scratch that itch. And we didn't have to buy a farm. So I'm absolutely thrilled.

[Kendall Landreth]

I think sometimes I crave a little more fresh air. Yeah, I love, but I don't know if I need it all the time. Maybe I just needed. We've been saying we need more staycations. Let's just. Just drive, like, 45 minutes. Stay overnight at, like, a farm type place. But I think there's something nice about, like, me and my dogs. I just open the door and we just walk along this big drill.

[Jordan Myrick]

There's like a light Southern accent.

[Kendall Landreth]

All of a sudden, it's coming on, isn't it? Yeah, I can feel it. Like, I do feel like, you know, I used to make fun of people that were in my ag department at my school because I grew up in California, but the kids in the ag program all had Southern accents. And I was like, you are an embarrassment. That is so embarrassing to fake a southern accent. But the more I've been on my horse, I'm like, it comes out even if you're not from the South. If you're riding a horse, you start to be like, hey, y'all.

[Jordan Myrick]

Well, what's interesting is that the accent you were doing a second ago. We are both from the south, but the accent you were doing a second ago is not the accent that either one of our families has, because my family wasn't farmers.

[Kendall Landreth]

We lived in North Carolina. But this is my farmer accent that I do.

[Jordan Myrick]

Got it. Okay.

[Kendall Landreth]

Farmer. It does feel like. You can't be, like, say, cattle. Try saying cattle like a Californian. You can't.

[Jordan Myrick]

Cattle. Oh, my God.

[Kendall Landreth]

You can't do it. You got to say cattle.

[Jordan Myrick]

You gotta say cattle.

[Kendall Landreth]

You can't go, oh, I'm getting the cattle.

[Jordan Myrick]

The cattle.

[Kendall Landreth]

What? That sounds like a brand that you would get from Sephora.

[Jordan Myrick]

Sure. Yes. No, you're right. I get that. I. Yeah. I think it's nice to want to be in nature more, but, like, not too much for us. Nature's great for other people. But when we say we want to go on a hike, we want to go on a walk, when we say we want to go camping, we don't want to do that. Like, you know what I mean? It's not real.

[Kendall Landreth]

Well, that's what I love about. I'm sorry, before we start this episode, Jordan said, remember we already talked about the horseback riding in the last episode. And I've continued to bring it up because now it's my entire personality.

[Jordan Myrick]

Sure.

[Kendall Landreth]

But that's the best part of horseback riding, is it is completely. You feel. You're like, I'm a cowgirl. But it is the bougiest and most controlled environment. It's all. But you feel like you're one with the earth.

[Jordan Myrick]

Sure.

[Kendall Landreth]

I'm in charge of this big animal.

[Jordan Myrick]

Hey, you know what? I'll say. Drop in the comments if you growing up were a horse girl. And you have any tips for Kendall, Anything she should know? Any hacks?

[Kendall Landreth]

If you're selling a horse.

[Jordan Myrick]

No, don't tell Kendall.

[Kendall Landreth]

Let me know.

[Jordan Myrick]

We're not buying a horse. We would be rescuing a horse.

[Kendall Landreth]

Well, of course we would rescue a horse.

[Jordan Myrick]

And we're not going to get a horse.

[Kendall Landreth]

We'll see. The sick thing is, you give me whatever I wanted, and I know that. I know if I want a horse. The second I want a horse, you're going to be touring the stables with me.

[Jordan Myrick]

Oh, I'm pretty scared of horses.

[Kendall Landreth]

You are? I feel bad. You're scared of horses and you're scared of birds, and I want both of those things. I don't want birds. I want chickens.

[Jordan Myrick]

I'm scared of nature. That is not oceanic.

[Kendall Landreth]

Yeah.

[Jordan Myrick]

You know, I grew up near the ocean. That's what I'm accustomed to. I grew up near the swamp. I'm also fine with that.

[Kendall Landreth]

You love. That's crazy. That's a crazy aspect of nature to be okay with.

[Jordan Myrick]

It really is. I grew up around, like, a lot of alligators and snakes and things that are actually scary. Does not bother me. But I find chickens to be extremely haunting. I think horses are very scary. But out of respect, I think horses are very beautiful and strong. I don't want to bother them.

[Kendall Landreth]

Sure, sure. I think they're so smart. In my one experience of Montana, No.

[Jordan Myrick]

I think horses are extremely smart. To me, it takes kind of a delusional level of confidence to sit on a horse, and I think you have that, so you're the perfect person to do it. But when I see that, I'm like, who do you think you are sitting on a horse?

[Kendall Landreth]

I know.

[Jordan Myrick]

One of God's most beautif creatures. You know what I mean?

[Kendall Landreth]

And the funny thing is the horses give the same energy. They seem like they agree with you. They're like, how dare you?

[Jordan Myrick]

Exactly.

[Kendall Landreth]

I was getting so many side eyes from Montana. I wonder if she's still thinking about me.

[Jordan Myrick]

But people who ride horses are like, the horses love it. My friend Tanner grew up around horses, and he's like, the horses love it. They love the stimulation. And you play games with them, and you know what I mean? I. But I just. I don't know. I'm scared of them and for them, and I just want them to have the best.

[Kendall Landreth]

Well, Jordan, I'm desperate to know. We're doing a new segment today.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yes.

[Kendall Landreth]

Called. What is it? Relationship tip of the week.

[Jordan Myrick]

Relationship tip of the week, where every week we're gonna give you a new little fun relationship tip.

[Kendall Landreth]

And you've come up with this. I don't know what it even is gonna be. So I'm gonna be learning along with you.

[Jordan Myrick]

Pretty straightforward. It's kind of exactly what it sounds like. No tricks, no. No confusion. Every week we just have a little relationship tip of the week where if, let's say, you forget everything that's happened in this podcast and you can just walk away with one little tidbit of something that you into your relationship this week to enhance it.

[Kendall Landreth]

It's this.

[Jordan Myrick]

It's this.

[Kendall Landreth]

Here. Let's hear it.

[Jordan Myrick]

Always carry a little gift.

[Kendall Landreth]

Oh, my God. What are you with you at all times.

[Jordan Myrick]

At all times. And it could be anything. It could be a singular Hershey's Kiss. It could be a sticker of an animal she likes.

[Kendall Landreth]

Do you have one right now?

[Jordan Myrick]

100% in my bag. Well, I took an extra thing of Cheez its from the recording studio and put it in my purse.

[Kendall Landreth]

All right.

[Jordan Myrick]

Because I know later you're going to want a snack and I'm going to go, I got this for you. And you're going to scream because it shows I was thinking about you in the moment, even in small ways. It costs $0 to $10, depending on what you get. And it really does make you happy. And if you're in a fight, could be huge. Imagine you're fighting. You pull out one singular Hershey's kiss and you're like, I got this for you.

[Kendall Landreth]

We've done that before in arguments. I feel like we've been arguing and you've been like, do you want a birthday present?

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah, I just have a box of birthday presents that I put in year round for Kendall in our office. And then sometimes when she's really upset, it's not even when we're fighting. Like, I feel like I've done something wrong. It's just like when you're really upset, I'll be like, do you want a gift? And then I'll give you a gift.

[Kendall Landreth]

Yeah.

[Jordan Myrick]

But I think you could do that in small ways. I think, like, isn't it so fun? My family and I've brought this up on the show before. Everyone makes fun of me and laughs at me, including Kendall. My family calls them a happy. Yeah, they're just a little happy. It's just like, it's not a full fledged gift.

[Kendall Landreth]

Right.

[Jordan Myrick]

It's just a little happy. I thought about you. It's something that will make you happy. I think they're genius and I love them.

[Kendall Landreth]

Yeah, it's very sweet because. And Charles always makes fun of me because whenever we go anywhere, just the two of us, I'm always like, I got to get something for Jordan. He's like, that's so insane. You guys live together and always together. But we went to the zoo recently and I was like, well, I got to get something for Jordan. It's like, you don't need something from the zoo gift shop. That's mostly for children for Jordan. And I did, and I got you. What did I get you?

[Jordan Myrick]

You got me a tiny figurine of a giraffe, which is your favorite animal. And now it sits next to my bed and it reminds me of you, which I don't need because you're asleep right next to me. But it is nice.

[Kendall Landreth]

But how sweet is it? I come from Zoo. I say, I got you something.

[Jordan Myrick]

It's just nice, but once again, you don't have to spend any money on it. If your partner, like, loves a certain type of mint or gum, just always carry that mint or gum on you. And then as soon as you finish, you can go, hey, I got you something. And you give them one of their favorite mints. It's kind of giving, like, Pavlov and a dog, but I think it's fine. I don't think it's bad.

[Kendall Landreth]

It's very showboaty, too, I think. You see this. I saw this a lot in acting school where someone would kind of, like, not prepare, and then they would kind of, like, make up. You know where I see it on all the time, Top Chef. Someone will make, like, the most basic salmon, and they'll be like, I wanted to take you to the keys. I'm like, this is so dramatic. Like, you clearly just made something normal, and you're trying to be like, I came up with something crazy. But I do feel like with gifts, you can do a similar thing. Just have a little happy and then be like, guess what? I have something for you that I thought about, and it feels really. Especially, you know what I did the other day? I got you cortisone.

[Jordan Myrick]

Oh, yeah.

[Kendall Landreth]

And I laid it on your pillow, and I said, go check your pillow.

[Jordan Myrick]

And I went in there, and she said, that's for your dry thigh skin, and it's nice.

[Kendall Landreth]

You threw me down on the bed. Yeah.

[Jordan Myrick]

And I had my way with her. I couldn't control myself. I said, cortisone for my dry thigh skin.

[Kendall Landreth]

That's a great tip. I think that's awesome.

[Jordan Myrick]

Thank you. All right, into the questions for this Q and A.

[Kendall Landreth]

Here we go. If you're like, I want to ask a question for the Q and A, you can. You can always go to our Instagram. We're always posing questions you can slide into our DMs, but we also always are checking our email, especially if you have a really long question. It's hwhlpodquestionsmail.com if you just have a saga you need to tell us about, you can send us an email there anytime, and we will answer it on a Q and A. Also, please join our Patreon. We have a lot of fun stuff going on over there. A great group of people, and we just have a blast, so make sure to go check that out. For extra content.

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[Jordan Myrick]

All right, the first question is, how do I get over the guilt of making less money than my partner?

[Kendall Landreth]

You have to just take, take, take. You know what I mean?

[Jordan Myrick]

Yes.

[Kendall Landreth]

Get as much money as you can. This is not a. It's. It's not about. I think money guilt is so bizarre to me. I think it's very ingrained in our society to be like, what I give in. This can be measured in income, but it doesn't matter. And so I think if you're in it for the long haul with someone, let the money stuff go. I would be so stressed out if I was constantly trying to calculate who technically gave more money to our house or to our. It would be so exhausting. And it's like, who cares? And I think there's also, you know, there's always that question of, well, what if you guys break up? What if you break up? And I'm like, well, I don't want to be in a relationship where I'm preparing for that at all times. But also, I'm not a spiteful person. And I genuinely mean this and don't get any ideas, but. But even if you, like, cheated on me or something. Okay, enough. Even if you cheated on me, I would not be like, I want my money back. Like, I want equal split Like, I want to. I want Jordan to have nothing. Like, I still would be like, I want you to live a nice life. I don't need to even just for my sake to just let Myself not care about you struggling financially. I just don't care about it.

[Jordan Myrick]

Stop nickel and diming people you love. Your partner, your friends, your family. Just stop. If you're in a bad financial place, that's one thing. And I think always be open about that. If your friends want to go to the Bacchanal buffet in Las Vegas and you can't afford it, just say, hey, guys, stuff's a little tight for me right now. I can't afford to do that. There should be no issues. And if your friends have an issue with that, they're assholes and you shouldn't be friends with them anymore.

[Kendall Landreth]

But what's so annoying, because it's never those people, though. It's never. It's always a girl. A girl off her flight from Cabo. She has all new clothes. She's whatever. And then you go out and get coffee and she's like, well, I didn't eat really a lot of the scones, so maybe I don't venmo for that.

[Jordan Myrick]

I'm like, I noticed you got an extra ranch dressing, so maybe you could tip a little more than. It's like, shut up. It's so annoying. Don't do it to your friends, but don't do it to your partner either. Like, it's not going to be an even split unless. Unless you guys keep a spreadsheet. And that's not fun.

[Kendall Landreth]

Free yourself from that prison. Yes.

[Jordan Myrick]

And if you feel like you're in a relationship where you're spending a lot of money and your partner is never spending money, have a conversation about that. And I think there's different ways to look at it. I think, like, yeah, the person who makes more money is probably going to spend more money on stuff. Just get used to it. If one of you has a lot of money from, like, birth, from family, that's free.

[Kendall Landreth]

That's. Everyone should have access.

[Jordan Myrick]

That's community money.

[Kendall Landreth]

That's community money. You can't trust fund money. That's not your money.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yes. That's not your money. That's my money. That's everyone's money. Like that.

[Kendall Landreth]

That's your dentist money. That's everyone's money.

[Jordan Myrick]

Everyone involved in your life's money. You should be paying for literally everything. If you're filthy rich, you should pay for literally anything. And I firmly believe that if you're really rich and have family money, like, I'm talking, like, you don't have to worry about stuff money. You should be paying for everything. But also, just, like, make sure you're Both contributing in ways to your relationship. Kendall and I have been together for five years. We've gone through periods where I make more money, where you make more money, where me make the same amount of money, where both of us make no money, and we both just kind of operate the same. And it's making sure that both of us are contributing to the things that need to be contributed to. So we make sure the house is staying clean. We make sure the dog is being cared for. We make sure we're emotionally caring for each other. We're making sure the rent is getting paid. There's no reason to feel guilt. I. It's. If you make less money than your partner, it doesn't matter.

[Kendall Landreth]

It's just so. It's too much stress. Like, I would take. Even if I looked back on our life, I'm not saying this is the. What it is, but if I looked back on our relationship and someone could calculate what each of us spent and it was still like, I'd spent way more, I would still take that over, like, the anxiety of making sure things are even. I also think, you know, it goes back to that feeling of, like, whoever makes more works more, which is so not true.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yes.

[Kendall Landreth]

So it's like, to me, I'm like, we both work jobs. Like, we both have jobs, and we work all the time. So it's like the money is just, you know, you're not owed less money because we. We work the same amount. Do you know what I mean?

[Jordan Myrick]

100. Now, that being said, if your partner is a piece of not doing anything, spending all your money, dump them.

[Kendall Landreth]

Right.

[Jordan Myrick]

You know what I mean? But if that's not the situation, then everything's fine and just relax.

[Kendall Landreth]

Right? Totally.

[Jordan Myrick]

How do you let people around you know that you don't want kids and that it's not just a joke or something. You're just saying in the moment. I feel like my parents, co workers, and friends who all have kids get offended when I say I don't want kids and explain why. Like, I'm judging or condemning them for choosing to have kids. I try to say it in a casual, joking manner to get the point across without being aggressive, but I always just get told that I'll change my mind.

[Kendall Landreth]

Here's what I think is hard about stuff like this. I'm like, from my perspective, why do you need people to know this about you? Yeah, like you're saying, like, I'm trying to get it across in a. What did they say? Like a.

[Jordan Myrick]

In, like, a joke so it doesn't come off aggressive, but it's like, well.

[Kendall Landreth]

Nobody'S sitting there with, like, a fertility kit being like, this is the time. So I'm like, why do people need to know that you do or don't want to have kids? I understand, like, every time you go, like, your mom's like, constantly, like, when are you having kids? When you're having kids, you're like, I'm not gonna have kids. And your mom just keeps being like, but when? Then it would be like, I'm not. And I need to make you understand that it's not a joke and it's not something. Something that's serious to me. So you're not prepared for that, and you don't keep asking me about it. But I feel like when it comes to just people, we are surrounded by. A lot of people have kids. I feel like in the last couple years, all of our friends have had children.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah.

[Kendall Landreth]

Like, we are surrounded by so many kids. And I don't feel the need when I'm with those people to be like, I'm not planning on having kids. And here's why. Because I do think, like, I don't know. To be honest, I feel like a lot of people with kids are kind of stressed out.

[Jordan Myrick]

Sure.

[Kendall Landreth]

And it does feel like, why do I need to remind you what it's like not having kids? Like, you enjoy aspects of having kids. I'm sure it's stressful at times, but this is not about, like, you don't need to know my place in having kids. Do you know what I mean?

[Jordan Myrick]

Yes. I will say, though, if you're interacting with people that are putting pressure on you to have kids, I always think you should just be rude. And I know that feels like extreme advice. But if people are badgering you about it, if you're. When are you gonna have kids? When are you gonn. You do it in a joking manner to not be aggressive. Why don't you want to be aggressive? I think be aggressive. It's like, if they're being annoying about it, I think you can also say, I don't want to have kids. You don't have to explain why. If they're like, why say, because I think it's selfish to have children and leave it at that. And then if they're like, well, I had children, be like, great. You clearly don't think it's selfish to have children. That's the choice you made. This is the choice I made. I'm like, sometimes people have to be put in their place a little bit. And I think that that's fine to do. Even if it's people you love, you know, like, sometimes you just gotta set them straight. And then if they're like, that's rude that you said that. You can be like, well, I felt the need to say that because you keep pushing this thing on me, and I think that's rude. So I think that moving forward, you know how I feel. I know how you feel. We just don't have to talk about that. We can just enjoy talking about your beautiful children, and we don't have to worry about the fictional children I don't have. You know what I mean?

[Kendall Landreth]

Yeah. I mean, and maybe I'm not used to, like, we do not live. We live in Los Angeles, obviously, and we're in this industry, so we're not. I think whenever someone has a kid, people are like, oh, my God, that's crazy.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah.

[Kendall Landreth]

So I don't feel like we deal with that as much. Like, I think if we started trying to have a baby, people would be like, whoa, that's. Wow, that's wild. So maybe we don't deal with that as much. But I think, yeah, just being like, I don't want kids. And honestly, I don't know, you could just, like, having kids, to me is a sensitive topic. I feel like people would back off because maybe it clearly is a sensitive topic, and they could be like, I don't know what that means, so I'm not gonna ask any more questions.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yes, I'm a big proponent of lying also in situations like that, like, if. Do you know what I mean?

[Kendall Landreth]

Well, that's the advice I give because Jordan's much more comfortable being aggressive.

[Jordan Myrick]

Sure.

[Kendall Landreth]

I could not. I could not. Like, I will, like, joke until I. My. I'm, like, exploding out of the ears. And so I think I would be more likely to be like, oh, I can't. You know, I. I can't. I just don't want to talk about it.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah. I just think, you know, especially, obviously it's harder to lie to friends and family, but I think that, like, if you're interacting with, like, co workers or, like, random people, just, like, lie.

[Kendall Landreth]

Yeah.

[Jordan Myrick]

Like, if they're like, well, why don't you want to have kids? Be like, I've tried, and I've had six miscarriages, so I can't.

[Kendall Landreth]

Because they don't.

[Jordan Myrick]

You don't owe them the truth, and they're pushing into your business, and if they keep doing it now you've said something that they'll finally stop asking well.

[Kendall Landreth]

And that could be the truth. That's the thing that I find. I feel like to me, talking about pregnancy, it's like, just stop.

[Jordan Myrick]

Why don't you know?

[Kendall Landreth]

You don't know? Because I think something like that, too. It's like you might have just saved someone who actually had that experience from having to deal with this person. Because when you're in, kids aren't even kids. So I think that is a great tip. But I also. I think that if you are someone. Because I have also met people where it's like, they cannot be around kids without being like, I don't want kids. I don't want kids. God, this is a prison. This sounds terrible. God, how do you get any sleep? It's like, you don't need to do that. You don't need to express your thoughts on kids. It's like, when I go to someone's house who's a cat, I'm not. Like, I have a dog. I don't have a cat. I picked a dog because I like dogs more than cats.

[Jordan Myrick]

Like, shut up.

[Kendall Landreth]

Right? It's just so. It's so. You don't really need to share. So unless you have people who are just pestering. Pestering you.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yes. Next question. My girlfriend and I have been dating for four years and now live happily together. This year, we both applied to grad school and got into different schools that are three hours away from each other. My program is a huge financial investment and takes four years to complete. My girlfriend's program doesn't cost any money. She can drop out in two years with a master's degree, and she doesn't seem like she likes school very much. My question is, how do I continue to be supportive of her dreams when they are taking her far away from me and she doesn't seem that enthusiastic about it? I think that's an interesting question. I think it's very hard to show support for someone when they don't feel like they want to do the thing. And I feel like we encounter that a lot with Kendall will come into the room, and she'll be like, I would rather do anything than go to the gym. And I'll be like, great, then don't go to the gym. And she'll be like, you can't say that. You have to tell me to go to the gym. Well, And I'm like, okay, that makes sense.

[Kendall Landreth]

Yeah. But I think that's hard because it's like, there are things you should do for your health that you're like, I don't Want to do. Like, it's like you. There are things that you have to do. Like, if I came in the room was like, I don't do my taxes, you wouldn't be like, well, then don't. You know what I mean?

[Jordan Myrick]

Sure. But I think this could be a similar situation. I think maybe she doesn't like school, maybe she doesn't want to do this program, but she feels like she has to do this program to enhance her career or whatever. So I think it is. I think it is hard watching your partner do something they don't seem enthused about.

[Kendall Landreth]

Well, especially if it, like, I think it would be more on the same page if I was like, I'm gonna go to the gym every day and I have to move to three hours away.

[Jordan Myrick]

I have to move to Oklahoma. Yeah. I'd be like, wait a second.

[Kendall Landreth]

I guess to me it's like, it's not a big deal for me to go. So if I'm on a day where I'm like, oh, I just wish I didn't go, it's like, well, it takes an hour and it's not a big deal versus this is life alter. And it's not. It doesn't really affect you versus, like, this is a big life affecting thing. So I think it is hard because I think you could have a conversation that's like, I obviously will do anything. If you want to be long distance, we can do it. But I just want to let you know that, like, it's gonna be very hard on me. I think it's. And you could even say, like, I'm not trying to come off as guilting you, but I just want to be clear. This is the thing you want.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah. And I think be clear about motivation too.

[Kendall Landreth]

Be like, you can even say, it seems like you don't. I think maybe it's best to be upfront because to be like, it seems like you're not that interested. Because I feel like we've had stuff before where one of us, like, it seems like you don't really care about this thing. And the other person is like, oh, that's not true. It's literally just that I feel anxious about it or I feel nervous or scared or whatever, or sad that I'm gonna have to leave you. So it's like, hard for me to get that excited, but it is what I want. And then it's like, great conversation done versus this, like, build up of, like, it seems like you really aren't into this. And if they're not into It. I wish I knew what the program was because I'm like, can it just be closer?

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah. But it's hard because with grad schools and stuff, it's like you get money from the school and it's.

[Kendall Landreth]

I'm not the one to be giving advice on that. 100% about college.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah. I think make it fun and sexy that you're doing long distance.

[Kendall Landreth]

Oh, yeah.

[Jordan Myrick]

You know what I mean? Like, both of you meet in a town in the middle, rent a hotel room and just go to town on each other once a month. You know what I mean? Have it be fun. Have that be your little ritual. Send each other postcards.

[Kendall Landreth]

Yeah, well, and you milk enough, you've been together long enough that I don't think long distance is that big of a deal. I think the longer you're together, it's the easy. It's easy. I think some people would think it's harder, but I think we started long distance and that was hard because it's like we're getting to know each other. We're going on our dates long distance. We're, you know, trying to find out about each other's life from so far away versus you've established so much. It's like, I think just take it as like a time to really find yourself. Like spend way more time with friends, pick up a hobby that you wouldn't usually do. But I think it's. It is a big life change. And I think if you were moving across the country for something, although three hours isn't too bad, but you were moving really far away for something. I was like, you don't even seem like you really want to do this. That would be a bummer. But sometimes with jobs you have to do stuff. I think especially with school. I don't know. Once again, don't know a ton about this, but I feel like people will have a job, but they have to go through these prerequisites to, like, get to that job. And you kind of just have to like, bite the bullet and do it sometimes.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah. But I think you can also vocalize, like, hey, this thing's happening that's really changing our life. I'm really sad about it. And you just don't seem like you care about it that much. So sometimes that really bums me out. And I would like to talk to you about that. I think you could just have a normal non heated conversation about it.

[Kendall Landreth]

Right. Like, remember when I went to Tiktoker school?

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah.

[Kendall Landreth]

How long distance was so hard?

[Jordan Myrick]

That was so hard.

[Kendall Landreth]

My grad school. I have a master's in tick tocking.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah, it's incredible. Just kidding. Kendall went to, like, no school. Kendall barely finished high school.

[Kendall Landreth]

That's not true. I graduated high school easy peasy. Not easy peasy, Kendall, but I graduated high school. I got there. I walked down the aisle.

[Jordan Myrick]

I guess it probably was easy peasy because you didn't do most of it.

[Kendall Landreth]

I didn't do most of the work.

[Jordan Myrick]

And just a question. You walked down the aisle at high school?

[Kendall Landreth]

Yeah, I actually think I might have accidentally got married, but I have. No, no. I walked down the. I walked down the aisle. It's an aisle. It's an aisle.

[Jordan Myrick]

I don't know. I did not walk down an aisle at my high school graduation or my college graduation.

[Kendall Landreth]

Well, we walked. We had. We had a big. You. Well, you probably had a big graduating class, too.

[Jordan Myrick]

There were, like, 600 and something people in my graduating class.

[Kendall Landreth]

Yeah, we were on the shield. We were on the trip. I did graduate. I could show you the pictures. I did graduate from high school.

[Jordan Myrick]

Like, a staged photo shoot of Kendall from, like, last year?

[Kendall Landreth]

Yeah. That my mom made me do to feel better about myself. She was like, you don't need. It's fine. Just get the gown.

[Jordan Myrick]

My partner and I broke up in January after being together for eight years. We still live together. We're riding out the lease until it ends in July. No bad blood. Very roommate vibes now. A tiny sprinkle of awkwardness every once in a while, but overall, the situation is as good as it could be. My ex has not told his family that we broke up. We live about 2 ish hours away from them, and he's not super close with them. My question is, I'm still in their extended family group chat. Parents, siblings, cousins, aunts. This chat is mainly used for coordinating holidays together. How and when do I get out of this group? Do I just remove myself? Do I ask him to remove me? Do I make a final statement announcing my departure? It just feels weird since I've been in these people's lives for eight years to just ghost them and never speak to them again.

[Kendall Landreth]

Oh, that's hard. I think those are two different problems, though, because I'm like, he has to be in charge of this.

[Jordan Myrick]

Sure.

[Kendall Landreth]

To me, I would be like, jordan, you've got to notify your family we're no longer together.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yes.

[Kendall Landreth]

And you need to have them start a new group chat. I am not going to take part in that. But also, I think you could send, like, separately to people you know, people you're close with, like, you have definitely relatives that I would not feel the need to be like, hey, they'd be like, who are you? Yeah, but if you met a relative that was really you you met a couple of times, I think you totally send an email or a text that's like, hey, we're not together anymore. But it was really nice knowing you. Yeah, but the group chat, he's gotta remove you.

[Jordan Myrick]

He's gotta tell them. I do think you can make an announcement and then leave the group chat. I think that's very confident and very cool. If you were to just be like, hey, guys, Nick and I broke up. I've really loved getting to know all of y'all. Thank you so much for all your kindness. And then leave the group chat. I think that's extremely classy.

[Kendall Landreth]

Very classy.

[Jordan Myrick]

But I also think that, like, you cannot leave the group chat and have him eventually kick you out. But you can just send an email being like, hey, guys, I just wanted to say thanks, because if you have a nice relationship with them, I completely understand. Being like, it feels so weird to just never speak to them again. I feel like if you and I broke up, I would send your mom an email or a text or a phone call.

[Kendall Landreth]

Yeah.

[Jordan Myrick]

Just being like, totally love you, queen. I feel like I would have to.

[Kendall Landreth]

See your parents, to be honest.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah, My parents like you more than they like me, so that is what would happen.

[Kendall Landreth]

But it is hard when you get close to people. I've always found that really alarming. And I've heard where people, like, will break up with their partner of, like 10 years, and the mom is like, you're my everything to, like, the daughter in law or whatever, and then just like, never speaks to them again. I think that is unless, like, there was cheating involved or.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yes. But I have friends who stayed in relationships longer than they probably should have because they liked the person's family so much.

[Kendall Landreth]

I think that's really hard. Well, I think especially in, like, really hetero relationships.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah.

[Kendall Landreth]

Because a lot of time, like, that's who you're spending the most time with. It's like when I see these families in the mid. What?

[Jordan Myrick]

Just the concept of really hetero. Like. Yeah, well, your husband's out golfing all the time. Who are you gonna spend time with other than his sisters?

[Kendall Landreth]

I mean, though, like, really hetero families where it's like, okay, we had kids and now it's like the husbands do stuff. Whenever there's like, we're always. Some people are Always at their family's house. The girls are together. I love the mom, I love the sisters. We're so close. We all have kids together. And then I like go home with my husband. It's like, who cares? Like just, you know, ride it out.

[Jordan Myrick]

I guess that's true. Okay. I don't really think about that.

[Kendall Landreth]

It's like the concept of sister wives. I think like a lot of on that show, it's like they're just like, these are my girlies.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah. They're like, I love friendship and I have to marry a man, but it can really life. I guess that's true. I. Yeah, I feel like my family is very homosexually aligned where, like, it's not like that I have a relationship with so little of my family. But I feel like when we see my parents, it's like I go in the kitchen and cook dinner for everybody. And then my mom is building a piece of furniture in the backyard and.

[Kendall Landreth]

Her dad and I are always sitting in silence drinking a margarita.

[Jordan Myrick]

Uh huh. And what are you watching on tv? Underwater camera footage. It's like all my dad is watching. He's either watching an architectural video about some building that was built a million years ago or footage of like a camera that's been attached to a pier and there's a dream fish swimming by.

[Kendall Landreth]

It's my favorite thing. Like, I will go to your. I will. To your house. And your dad and I, he'll make me a margarita and we sit and we watch a YouTube video, or I'll read my book in silence. Eight hours go by, we stand up and we go, what a nice day.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah, it's really nice.

[Kendall Landreth]

God, that. And he'll say, kendall and I had such a nice time.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah. Yeah.

[Kendall Landreth]

I wish I was doing that right now, to be honest.

[Jordan Myrick]

I know. My dad told me the other day, and Kendall loves this. She has to try to steal my thunder. I was talking to my dad on speakerphone. He didn't know she was in the room. Sorry, dad, you shouldn't do that. I know, I know, but we weren't talking about anything serious. And my dad was like, I haven't seen you in a while. And I was like, oh, what, you miss me? Knowing he's not going to say yes, because that's just how he is. And he was like, yeah, sure. And then Kendall's like, ask him if he misses me. And I'm like, kendall wants to know if you miss her. And he was like, yes, but not as much as you, because you're technically my daughter. I was like, what do you mean? I'm technically your daughter.

[Kendall Landreth]

On paper, you're my daughter. But so in energy and spirit, him and I.

[Jordan Myrick]

It's so rude. It's so unbelievably rude. And then my one ally in our families up and died.

[Kendall Landreth]

Who? Oh, my.

[Jordan Myrick]

Your dad.

[Kendall Landreth]

It's like, who died? I thought you were announcing a death.

[Jordan Myrick]

In your family right now. I was like, yeah, yeah, yeah. Our family. The Pope. No, I feel like my one ally in our family that always chose me was always Team Jordan.

[Kendall Landreth]

You always had your back.

[Jordan Myrick]

Damn. Now he's living in a little vase on my countertop.

[Kendall Landreth]

Up. You talk to him. He still backs you up from there.

[Jordan Myrick]

I know. We do talk to Kendall's dad's earn a lot, and I can feel his energy supporting me even now. Love, Eugene.

[Kendall Landreth]

Next question.

[Jordan Myrick]

I'm so in love with my guy best friend. We met two years ago and we lived a few states apart and we were casually seeing each other. We both had recently come out of relationships and neither of us were really in a spot to date. So although we talked often, we didn't see each other much and we ended up bickering a lot. And then the whole thing just fizzled about a year ago. We ended up moving to the same place and are now in the same friend group. We are really close friends and we see each other very often. We get along much better now and don't really get into tiffs and even travel together in small groups and it goes well. He has a very black and white way of thinking. Like, we tried this once and it didn't work out, so why would it work out now? Whereas I feel like I have gotten to know him better. We're in a very different place in life, and I think things could work out between us very well. We have some unspoken boundaries where we don't go into more emotional conversations, talk about dating with each other, so it feels really difficult to bring up. I want something to happen between us, but I don't want to risk hurting our friendship and the larger friend group. Since we all hang out so often. I've tried dating other people, but I cannot seem to get over my feelings for him. And then this person included WWW H W H L D which stands for what would Happy Wife, Happy life do? And I love that. And you should all be ending your questions with that. I think that's great. It's like, what would Jesus do? But more important, wow.

[Kendall Landreth]

Well, this is what's hard. I feel like there's so much you Guys already have so many boundaries in place that even if you dated and broke up and still hung out in the friend group, it would be shockingly similar to what it is now.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yes.

[Kendall Landreth]

So I'm like, just go ahead and do it. The only thing is, if he's not wanting to do it, it's like, screw it. I'm also like, I'm not trying to be rude. This friendship doesn't sound that great to begin with. Seems like it's kind of like a half friendship, half your dating already. So it's like if you can't talk about dating or emotions in that way, you're kind of left with something really surface level, which to me is still can totally be fun. I've had friends like that where I'm like, we just joke and we don't ever talk about anything serious. Very fun. But you could seems like do that after if you broke up anyways. Yeah.

[Jordan Myrick]

I think it's so hard because it's like, if he does not want to date you, you should not date him. Even if you finally convince him to do it and then you guys end up doing it, it's just not going to work out well and it will make you feel pathetic. Speaking from experience, like, don't beg someone to date you. I know. Sometimes you're just like, God, I'm right and they're wrong.

[Kendall Landreth]

It doesn't matter though.

[Jordan Myrick]

It doesn't matter. It doesn't matter. If you're right and they're wrong, it's still not going to make you feel good. So I think you either have to. This is what I would do if I were you. I would do a big confession of love.

[Kendall Landreth]

That's. I was in the same boat. I agree.

[Jordan Myrick]

I'm in love with you. Let's try this. If he's like, I don't know. Bye. Go immediately have sex with someone really hot. Because you know what that is to me? Yeah.

[Kendall Landreth]

That's incompatibility. That changed my life when I started thinking of rejection is just incompatibility. Maybe that makes me sound delusional and.

[Jordan Myrick]

Insane, but no one has ever rejected me. It's just incompatibility.

[Kendall Landreth]

Everyone likes me. We're just incompatible. Yeah, but I really had to start being like you. Like, when I list my five things I need in a relationship, you wanting to date me has to be one of them.

[Jordan Myrick]

Gotta be number one.

[Kendall Landreth]

I would say that sounds crazy, but God, I'd never done it before. I literally was only interested in people where it was like they were attracted to Me? I mean, come on.

[Jordan Myrick]

Of course.

[Kendall Landreth]

Could you not be? But it was just like, they were not ready to go all in, or there was something holding them back, or they were just not as into me as I was into them.

[Jordan Myrick]

Hung up on an ex.

[Kendall Landreth]

Yes. And stop thinking about it as you doing something wrong. It's just incompatibility. Because I really do think, at the core, it is. I feel like why we were able to date each other was because we are the same in that way where we were both like, I like you. Let's only ever date each other now.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yes.

[Kendall Landreth]

And I think that is compatibility. Like, there are people who can date and go back and forth for a year and a half and then finally get together. That's not me, and it's not you, and I can't do that. And it made me, by the end, feel completely desperate and pathetic. And so I am like, if you. You have to start thinking of it as someone being equally interested in me is compatibility and is necessary.

[Jordan Myrick]

But I think you're 100% right, because even if someone's not attracted to you, that is ultimately an incompatibility. Right. Like, you're attracted to them and they're not attracted to you. And I think you're right about that, because I do think there is this thing of just being like, oh, if he just got over his ex, he and I would be perfect together. And, sweetheart, a man who's obsessed with his ex is not perfect for you. That's just the reality of the situation.

[Kendall Landreth]

Also, to be honest, it's not even his ex, because I feel like I've also had relationships where it's like, when I was younger, where it's like, my partner's obsessed with their ex. My partner's upset. We're like, we're not official because my partner still has these feelings for his ex. If I could just. Her ex. I dated a man. Yeah, her ex. If I could just make them realize that, like, I'm better than the ex and the ex is gone and they can just get over it, then we'd be fine. And then we stop talking and they immediately are official with someone else who's not their ex. It's like, it's not even the ex. It's you. Unfortunately, like, I. They don't want to be with you. If anyone wants to be with you, they will be with you. And, like, I think there's so many things of, like. But they don't know what they want. Probably. Yeah, probably.

[Jordan Myrick]

Then you should not want to be with Them. Right. You know what you want, and someone else does not know what they want. You two are not in the same place to be dating right now. And I think that's true with anything. I don't think that's just true with romantic relationships. If what you want and what your friend wants are not compatible in terms of friendship, one person wants to hang out all the time. One person never wants to hang out. Not a productive friendship. If what you want from your job and what your job wants from you are not compatible, there's going to be more stress at your job than if you found a job that was more aligned with your lifestyle and what you were looking for. So I think you have to keep that in mind of, like, you have to figure out what you want and then seek people that want the same things. Yeah, fundamentally.

[Kendall Landreth]

Yep.

[Jordan Myrick]

You know?

[Kendall Landreth]

Yes, I do. I totally agree.

[Jordan Myrick]

That's what I think.

[Kendall Landreth]

I agree.

[Jordan Myrick]

I think, you know, so I think.

[Kendall Landreth]

You got to just tell them and then be like, you know, it's. It is what it is.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah. And we've also said this before, but I'll literally never stop saying it. I'm sorry. He's not your best friend. He's not your best friend. I'm sorry.

[Kendall Landreth]

No.

[Jordan Myrick]

You guys have to set boundaries where you can't talk about. Talk emotional about things that are you.

[Kendall Landreth]

This is.

[Jordan Myrick]

This is a quote from you, and I love you, but I'm being real with you right now because you asked. You had to make unspoken boundaries. So you're not having good and clear and honest communication. That's a red flag already for a friendship. Then those boundaries are not having clear, emotional conversations. What is. What. Huh? What are you even talking about? Then you also can't talk about dating with each other. So if you're dating or he's dating, you have to actively keep that secret from each other as to not irritate, concern, upset, whatever the other person. That's not a friend. That's not a. That's not even a friend. That's definitely not a best friend. Right.

[Kendall Landreth]

I know. Best friend you would supposedly have as your maid of honor in the wedding. Imagine that. They would have to not talk about the wedding at the wedding.

[Jordan Myrick]

I'll tell. Tell you right now. My best friend has waxed my butthole.

[Kendall Landreth]

Okay, okay. Your best friend has seen my butthole. But I mean, truly.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yes. So I'm just like, this is not your best friend. Do you know what I mean? Like, you. You can't. I understand what you're saying. You're like, you're really close and you get along, but I really think a lot of what you're feeling is not friendship. I think you guys are in a weird pseudo relationship that it feels intoxicating. And I have been there for sure, and it feels good. And if you want to live in it, that's totally fine.

[Kendall Landreth]

But if you're then be having sex, at least. Sure.

[Jordan Myrick]

But even if you don't, even if.

[Kendall Landreth]

You don't, these weird pseudosexual relationships with like. But we don't speak and we just kind of look at each other. I'm like, get in there and bone men. I don't agree with you.

[Jordan Myrick]

I don't agree with you because I think it can be tantalizing to not. I think it can be very tantalizing to not. So. But I'm just like, be getting enjoyment out of it. Don't hold yourself back from other relationships if you don't want to. Don't be worried about, oh, I'm worried I'm gonna mess up the friend group. Literally none of your friends care about this. And If I'm being 100% honest with you, my guess is that your friends find this whole thing annoying. I think you and this man are probably adding more conflict and tension to your friend group at large, and they wish you guys would just figure it out.

[Kendall Landreth]

Right.

[Jordan Myrick]

And once again, I don't think there's anything wrong with having that type of relationship. If that type of relationship feels good to you.

[Kendall Landreth]

When you say you've gone on dates and just no one compares, what I would say is to just give yourself some sense of relief that I promise you, this man is not the only man for you. And the reason you're not liking other people is because of this person. It's just because you're like, emotions attached to this man. And I don't. You know, that doesn't feel good now. But I promise you, it's not like a sign that he's the one that you haven't been able to get. I mean, I love you more than anything, but if you broke up with me, I'm sure I could find someone eventually.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah.

[Kendall Landreth]

And I think it is just knowing that that is not a truth that you can't find someone else. I think there's a million people you could have a wonderful relationship with. Yeah.

[Jordan Myrick]

Because once again, if you and I broke up, it would be because something is wrong.

[Kendall Landreth]

Right.

[Jordan Myrick]

So you would go find someone that was more compatible with you. And I always say this, and I wish someone would cross stitch it on a pillow and send it to me. There are only two outcomes in breaking up. One, you break up. They were the love of your life. They were the right person. So you guys inevitably get back together, but you've had time, clarity, space to see that, and you can come back together stronger than ever. Or you break up, you're not right for each other, and then you both find people that you're more right for. And that's a great situation too.

[Kendall Landreth]

And here's what I'll say. I hope you have a massive pillow because if you're gonna cross stitch that on it, that's a lot.

[Jordan Myrick]

I challenge you to do it. I know our gay fans are crafty. I know there are some lesbians that listen to this podcast that could cross stitch that bad boy in 30 minutes to an hour. And if you do it, I'll pay for shipping.

[Kendall Landreth]

Oh, God. I agree with you though. I think you're totally right. Yeah, I think you're totally right. I think especially like, like, it's also funny because you guys have already dated. So it's like, I understand if you're like, I have a best friend. It's this friendship. You know, we've given advice on this a million times, so I won't continue repeat myself. But I get being scared to ruin a friendship. But your friendship is already based on the fact that you've already dated. So we really can't change past this. Like, we're already there. Like, the only changing would be that you guys would possibly have a great relationship. And I hope you do.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah.

[Kendall Landreth]

But I don't think you will.

[Jordan Myrick]

All right, we got one final question.

[Kendall Landreth]

Yeah. Hello, you wonderful people. Okay, first of all, so much love for being sent the new year and new season. I hope you're staying safe down there with the crazy winds and fires. Thinking of you both lots and sending good vibes from Mormon land. Here's my question. Last year, I went through a situation with a close friend. She was getting divorced. I was in a tough situation and we became close. I developed feelings for her which turned out to be one sided. In order to save the friendship, I accepted her decision and tried to move on. I'll admit that I struggled, but what it led to was a growing apart that's still in place. The other night, I felt inspired to write her a letter of apology. My quandary, however, is whether to send it or not. I know sometimes writing a letter like that and never sending it is the way to go, but I'd really like to try and repair Things with her. And I feel like the letter kind of explains and takes responsibility for my actions and poor choices.

[Jordan Myrick]

Okay, here's my thought.

[Kendall Landreth]

Oh, sorry. They also said if you want a copy of the letter, please let me know.

[Jordan Myrick]

Okay, first of all, send us a copy of the letter because I'm nosy as all hell.

[Kendall Landreth]

That'll just be for us to read privately.

[Jordan Myrick]

That's just for us to read privately and chat about. Yeah, because we just want to know. This is my thing. What is your intention? First of all, you said you're apologizing for your wrongdoings. Is sending this letter to this person going to be more upsetting to them than beneficial? If you're the one that's done the wrongdoing, I think you have to come of prioritize them over prioritizing yourself first and foremost. If you've been bad, if you've done wrong. Secondly, I think that you have to determine what you want out of this situation. Are you fully over this person where you could just go and have a normal friendship with them? Great. If you secretly inside are kind of still obsessed with them, but you're telling yourself, no, this is like a letter to apologize and then we'll just be friends. But your. Your heart of hearts intention is to make them fall in love with you. I think go in your backyard and set the letter on fire.

[Kendall Landreth]

Especially because, to be honest, once someone's writing a letter, you know it's romantic.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah.

[Kendall Landreth]

This is not Bridgerton. If you're writing a letter, you want that to be kept in a keepsake box for your children to open later.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yep.

[Kendall Landreth]

If you don't care, you're writing a.

[Jordan Myrick]

Text, send an email.

[Kendall Landreth]

Maybe an email. But even that feels a little too romantic. I'm like, you're sending a text, but I think mostly if you're over it, you're not reaching out. But if you're genuinely like, I would love. I loved our friendship. I missed our friendship. I think that. I don't know, it's really hard. I think sometimes you just have to unfortunately take what you learned in some friendships and move them on to another friendship.

[Jordan Myrick]

Just find another friendship. No friendship is that precious. If you've been in love with someone, the friendship's not that good. I'm sorry. I know we've said this before and people got upset about it. People were like, of course you can fall in love with your friends or whatever. I think you can fall in love with your friends. But I think if you've fallen in love with a friend and it didn't work out romantically. I think it's really hard to reset. And I think if there's going to be a reset, it has to be on both sides. It can't be a one sided reset. And I think you both have to be on the exact page together of how you're gonna reset. I think it's like a much bigger thing that you both need to do as a unit. So I think it's very hard. And I think a lot of people are just really quick to be like, actually, no, our friendship was great, so we're just gonna keep being friends. And I'm like, friendship is so much more than that.

[Kendall Landreth]

And the power dynamic is always gonna be weird. It's always gonna be like one of the person is in a higher place of power, which is hard and makes the other person resent that person. And I just think it's too. It's too weird. And I don't know. I think it's a red flag to want to be friends. If someone told me they were in love with me, I think I wouldn't want to be friends with them because I'm in a relationship. But I also think I don't need that type of attention. You know what I mean?

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah. Because that's the type of person. Someone who only wants to be friends with people who are obsessed with them and have crushes on them. That's a toxic person.

[Kendall Landreth]

It is.

[Jordan Myrick]

Sorry. That's the truth.

[Kendall Landreth]

It is.

[Jordan Myrick]

Sorry.

[Kendall Landreth]

Sorry.

[Jordan Myrick]

That's the truth. Sorry, sorry, sorry, sorry, sorry. Wow, another truly incredible episode.

[Kendall Landreth]

I love that we say that about our own podcast at the end of.

[Jordan Myrick]

Every really stimulating, thought provoking, incredible episode.

[Kendall Landreth]

You've done it.

[Jordan Myrick]

We've really done it. One.

[Kendall Landreth]

Wow. More time.

[Jordan Myrick]

One more time.

[Kendall Landreth]

And I have a feeling we will continue.

[Jordan Myrick]

Absolutely.

[Kendall Landreth]

I'm so grateful you guys write in. You have no idea how exciting it is for us to read your little drama that you've got going on. That wasn't supposed to sound condescending.

[Jordan Myrick]

Your little stupid, little stupid, silly gay drama you write us about Kendall. You're so rude.

[Kendall Landreth]

I really do love reading it. I feel like I don't every time. I'm like, I don't have enough drama in my life. I gotta get something going.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah. You gotta start making worse decisions.

[Kendall Landreth]

Yeah. Decisions. Thank you so much for being here and sending me your questions. We always appreciate it so much. Thank you for trusting us.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yes.

[Kendall Landreth]

With your deep, dark secrets.

[Jordan Myrick]

And you can always continue to send in questions because we try to do a Q and A pretty much every month.

[Kendall Landreth]

Yeah, we have the best time doing it and we really appreciate you. Please rate, interview us on whatever platform you're listening on at this moment. It really helps us so much. If you're on YouTube, make sure to, like, comment and subscribe.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah, make sure to follow us everywhere. Tik tok, Instagram, YouTube. Did you know that you can follow people on podcasting networks?

[Kendall Landreth]

Come on, now you can.

[Jordan Myrick]

We recently found that out and found out that it's important. So please do it to help us keep having this podcast, because we're fully independently funded and produced.

[Kendall Landreth]

And if you're on our Instagram, it's also always great because we do a lot of updates there. For example, when we struggled the last couple weeks with getting a studio, we were doing all the updates there. So if you were just like, where are they? You would have been probably crying way less if you'd been on our Instagram, because we would have told you where.

[Jordan Myrick]

We were and we were doing giveaways and all kinds of stuff.

[Kendall Landreth]

So get over there. Get over there. Thank you so much for being here, and we hope you have a wonderful, wonderful week. Happy Monday.

[Jordan Myrick]

Bye. Happy Monday.