69: The Ultimate Influencer Wedding w/ Remi Cruz

Summary

Podcast Summary: Happy Wife Happy Life - Episode 69: The Ultimate Influencer Wedding w/ Remi Cruz

Release Date: June 23, 2025

Hosts: Kendahl Landreth & Jordan Myrick
Guest: Remi Cruz

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Introduction to the Episode

In Episode 69 of Happy Wife Happy Life, hosts Kendahl Landreth and Jordan Myrick welcome Remi Cruz, a bride-to-be, to discuss the intricacies of planning an influencer wedding. The episode delves into the unique challenges and creative solutions that come with organizing a wedding in the age of social media and influencer culture.

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Wedding Planning Under the Spotlight

Remi Cruz shares her journey of planning a wedding scheduled just two weeks from the recording date. She reflects on the initial excitement and the subsequent stress that comes with managing invoicing and logistical details.

Remi Cruz (01:20): "I think when you have to pay invoices, that's when the shift happens from excited to, oh, actually, this is hell."

Kendahl and Jordan reminisce about their own experiences attending wedding retreats, emphasizing the shared stress and camaraderie among brides.

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Navigating Family Dynamics

The conversation shifts to managing family expectations, especially when dealing with extended families from different regions. Remi discusses her approach to handling her fiancé's large Midwestern family while maintaining her own smaller family circle.

Remi Cruz (13:18): "My fiance's family is from the Midwest, so it was extended. We sat down and agreed on where to draw the line on who to invite."

Jordan adds humor by sharing anecdotes about his cousin, Jill, highlighting the complexities of familial relationships during wedding planning.

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Embracing Technology: Wedding Websites

Remi emphasizes the importance of utilizing wedding websites like The Knot or Zola to streamline communication and provide guests with necessary information, reducing the need for constant inquiries.

Remi Cruz (15:36): "A wedding website is perfect. You got it on your phone. You can refer to that whenever you have a question."

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Financial Considerations: Splurges Worth Making

The discussion moves to budgeting for a wedding, where Remi advises couples to invest in areas that hold personal significance, such as florals, food, and lighting, while being honest about their priorities.

Remi Cruz (18:52): "It really just depends on what's most important to you."

She shares her strategy of hiring a social media specialist to capture the event's essence without being distracted, ensuring she remains present.

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Unique Wedding Ideas: Korean Night Market After Party

Remi reveals her exciting plans for an after-party themed around a Korean night market, complete with traditional Korean street foods like tteokbokki and cheesy corn dogs. This unique twist aims to create an immersive and memorable experience for her guests.

Remi Cruz (12:17): "I'm gonna build out a Korean night market. I want to have the food that you could get there."

Jordan enthusiastically supports the idea, suggesting playful scenarios to engage attendees.

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Managing Wedding Party Expectations

Addressing questions from listeners, Remi discusses her expectations for her wedding party, emphasizing the importance of their presence and support without imposing financial burdens.

Remi Cruz (41:00): "I expect you to show up to the wedding and bring the fun and just like hang out with me. That's truly all I've ever expected."

She shares her approach to covering expenses for her bridesmaids, ensuring they can participate without financial strain.

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Fun and Unique Wedding Day Ideas

When prompted about making the wedding day enjoyable beyond traditional norms, Remi mentions her plan to "black out" her event, allowing guests to enjoy themselves without the pressure of constant documentation.

Remi Cruz (46:27): "We're actually, like, more traditional than I thought. But we'll be blacking out."

Jordan and Kendahl contribute by suggesting creative entertainment options like live artists who create watercolor portraits of guests, adding a personalized touch to the festivities.

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Overcoming Wedding Planning Stress

As the wedding date approaches, Remi openly discusses managing stress and maintaining excitement. She highlights the crucial role of her wedding planner, Jason, who recently faced a health scare but remains committed to ensuring her big day goes smoothly.

Remi Cruz (50:29): "I keep myself busy. I had a couple crash outs... Honestly, I'm just excited to hang out with Cal all day."

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Conclusion

The episode wraps up with heartfelt congratulations to Remi Cruz on her upcoming wedding. Remi shares her social media handles for listeners to follow her journey, inviting them to connect and celebrate her special day.

Remi Cruz (51:20): "You can find me on YouTube as Ms. Remy Ashton or Mrs. And Rim Life."

Kendahl and Jordan express their excitement and best wishes, affirming their support for Remi as she embarks on this monumental life event.

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Key Takeaways

• Prioritize Personal Values: Focus spending on what truly matters to you and your partner.
• Utilize Technology: Wedding websites can reduce communication stress and keep guests informed.
• Unique Twists: Incorporating cultural or unique themes can make your wedding memorable.
• Manage Expectations: Clear communication with family and wedding party can alleviate potential conflicts.
• Balance Presence and Content: Finding a middle ground between enjoying the moment and capturing it for social media is essential.

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Transcript

[Jordan Myrick]

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[Kendall Landrin]

We're your hosts. I'm Kendall Landrin.

[Jordan Myrick]

And I'm Jordan Myrick.

[Kendall Landrin]

And we are two incredibly unqualified but.

[Jordan Myrick]

Deeply in love comedians who are here to help you with all things relationship. And on today's episode, we're talking all things wedding with bride to be, Remy Cruz.

[Remy Cruz]

Hi, guys. Remy thinks.

[Jordan Myrick]

Hold on. Sorry.

[Remy Cruz]

I.

[Jordan Myrick]

We can keep that in. I hit it in my face immediately. Please keep it in, keep it in. Remy, how are you?

[Remy Cruz]

I'm so good. How are you guys?

[Kendall Landrin]

Good.

[Jordan Myrick]

I mean, I think it's absolutely wild that you're getting married. What are you doing two weeks from when we're now filming this episode.

[Remy Cruz]

Yes. Actually, it did not hit me that it's two weeks from right now, but yes.

[Jordan Myrick]

I can't believe you're here.

[Remy Cruz]

No, I liked. I liked. I should. Honestly, at one point I had one of those little, like, blocks where it's like 100 days till the wedding and I was just like, this is just too much. So I've tried to put it out of my mind.

[Jordan Myrick]

Sure.

[Remy Cruz]

But it's coming up very soon. Yes.

[Kendall Landrin]

When does it shift from like, excited, excited, excited to being like, oh, actually, this is hell.

[Remy Cruz]

You know what? That's a fabulous question. I think when you have to pay invoices.

[Jordan Myrick]

Ah, sure, sure, sure.

[Kendall Landrin]

Cause I've seen that in every, like on the Internet. Also, we went and did like the knot retreat.

[Remy Cruz]

Yes.

[Kendall Landrin]

Which was so fun.

[Remy Cruz]

I did that too. Which one did you guys go on?

[Jordan Myrick]

We went to Aspen. Where did you go?

[Remy Cruz]

That was really recent. I did the one right before, which is where I met my wedding planner, which we will get into in Solvang. So it was like the Santa Barbara.

[Jordan Myrick]

Oh, beautiful. Yeah. Because of the trash.

[Kendall Landrin]

Well, it was so fun. I'm like, we gotta go back to Aspen. Cause it was kinda like, we gotta.

[Remy Cruz]

Go back to Aspen.

[Kendall Landrin]

At the hotel the whole time?

[Jordan Myrick]

Yes.

[Kendall Landrin]

I'm trying to get on a horse there. They had some horseback riding stuff. But we met so many brides there.

[Remy Cruz]

Yes.

[Kendall Landrin]

And so now I follow all these women online who were having their wedding and it was like a month leading up. There is this like, shift in their eyes, like on where they Start to be. When people talk about kind of crazy eyes, it's haunting. Where they'll, like, be on their stories, and they're like, 30 more days.

[Remy Cruz]

Hey, girlies. Hi.

[Kendall Landrin]

I'm doing fine. And you're like, oh, no, they're not doing well.

[Remy Cruz]

That's actually really funny.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah. And they were all stressed, and we had the time our lives because we're not having a wedding, so. And we told them that we felt bad. We didn't want to feel like we were scamming the knots.

[Remy Cruz]

Yeah.

[Jordan Myrick]

We were like, hey, we're probably not have a wedding. And they were like, that's fine. Still. Just come and do it. And we were like, okay, that's awesome.

[Remy Cruz]

When we went, we went. I think it was December of 2023, so it was a while ago now. And I had two friends that also went on the trip with us, and both of them were, like, maybe, like, four months out from the wedding, and then, like, six months out from the wedding. So they were, like, locked in. We hadn't even started conversations yet. So we were just, like, eating the food, making the little treats.

[Kendall Landrin]

That's the best way to do it. Cause on that retreat, I remember there was a couple people who'd already planned the wedding, and then they're talking to all these wedding experts, and they're like, well, this is what we did. And they're like, well, that's a really bad idea.

[Jordan Myrick]

See the couple, we paid it already, so.

[Remy Cruz]

Exactly. I was like, I'm taking it all in, and I am just here to do all the little crafts, honestly.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah, it was very fun. It was very chill. I do want to address that. We all know each other because we went to a vineyard tour of Aldi Wines together in, like, up near Sacramento.

[Remy Cruz]

Yeah. Yeah.

[Kendall Landrin]

That was such a funny trip.

[Remy Cruz]

That feels like yesterday. It's really crazy.

[Kendall Landrin]

I know.

[Jordan Myrick]

Well, that's like, I can't keep track of anything. I keep telling people we've been doing this podcast for years. We started doing this podcast in February of last year. And then that not trip. You were like, well, ours was in December of 2023. And I was like, well, ours was in 2005. So how is that Right. Yeah, I can't keep track of anything. So. But now it must have been, what, over a year?

[Remy Cruz]

I think so. I think it must have been, like, last year. So, honestly, actually, I have no idea.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah.

[Remy Cruz]

All I know is that Cal and I still reference. And I'm sorry if we need to cut this, but your cousin literally, all the time And I also see her. What? All over tv. Your cousin.

[Kendall Landrin]

I do. Everywhere.

[Remy Cruz]

Yes.

[Kendall Landrin]

That is so funny. Well, now she's on that show with Nicole Kimmel. I've talked about this.

[Remy Cruz]

Wait, yes. The new one.

[Jordan Myrick]

No.

[Kendall Landrin]

What's it called? Okay, you.

[Jordan Myrick]

I don't think you've seen. I think it's called Lion.

[Kendall Landrin]

Lioness.

[Jordan Myrick]

Lioness.

[Kendall Landrin]

She's on Lioness.

[Remy Cruz]

Good for her.

[Kendall Landrin]

It's so funny. So I don't know if I talked about this. I must have. I must.

[Jordan Myrick]

Don't talk about. I feel like we haven't talked about this on this and we don't talk to her, so. Jill, reach out if you're watching.

[Remy Cruz]

It's quite possibly my favorite story I've ever. We reference it all the time at Coachella. We were leaving one of the sections and it was like sardines packed. And Cal yelled something at me and I yelled, he lost something. And I was like, wait, what? And then I look and turn and someone answered, and it was Rhett. And from Rhett and lit. And I literally almost went, Joe Wagner.

[Jordan Myrick]

Jill Wagner. This woman has so much lore.

[Kendall Landrin]

My cousin. I know. It goes. We should just do a full episode. It can't even now. It's infiltrated your work. Yes, but my cousin was the host of Wipeout, and it was like, my family is not like that. Like, I feel like that makes me almost sound like a nepotism baby. Actually, no, it doesn't.

[Jordan Myrick]

Your cousins never speak to.

[Kendall Landrin]

Used to host Wipeout, but she used to host Wipeout. So my family, that we were just a small town family. That was huge. Rest. So, like, when you would go to my aunt's house, she would just have cardboard cutouts of Jill everywhere. And it was just huge for our family. But then now she. Then she kind of, like moved to Tennessee. She does a Hallmark stuff now she's on this.

[Jordan Myrick]

Well, between this, she went to college and she went to college and lived in the housing on campus across the, like, hallway or whatever from my two bosses at Mythical, Rhett and Link. And they had a big crush on her.

[Kendall Landrin]

They would call her Ms. Perfect.

[Jordan Myrick]

They called her Ms. Perfect. They've had her on GM at one point, like, years ago that I had no idea. I know. Like, so random. It just came up in conversation one day that Kendall was Jill's cousin and Rhett and, like, freaked out.

[Kendall Landrin]

They've given me the only response. Most people are like, oh, I don't know who that is. They literally give me the response I've always been looking for, which is like, oh my God, she's so famous. And I was like, oh, yeah. On tv, they're like, no, not because of that. Because of our college years. They like, loved her.

[Jordan Myrick]

Have you only met her one time?

[Kendall Landrin]

Like two times.

[Jordan Myrick]

And she took you to Olive Garden?

[Kendall Landrin]

She did take me to Olive Garden. Wait, it wasn't just me. She took, like, the family to Olive Garden. And I do remember being like, Wipeout was paying big.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yes.

[Kendall Landrin]

I remember being like, rich. And I remember at the end of the meal, she came over and she had asked for an extra cup of those Olive Garden mints.

[Remy Cruz]

Like the Andy Mint, of course.

[Kendall Landrin]

And I was like, God, she's rich.

[Jordan Myrick]

Like, I remember just being like soup, salad and breadsticks.

[Remy Cruz]

Uh huh. Honestly though, a pasta at olive garden's like 35 bucks now.

[Jordan Myrick]

It's great. Ooh, don't get me started on these. Change these chain restaurants. They're so expensive.

[Remy Cruz]

It's criminal.

[Jordan Myrick]

It's wild.

[Remy Cruz]

All to say, one of my favorite stories I've ever been told. It also was obviously just the way you guys told it, but we reference it at least once a month in our house.

[Kendall Landrin]

That's how it. That's how it. I hope Jill feels proud.

[Remy Cruz]

Well.

[Kendall Landrin]

Cause it was a jump scare. Because I, once again, don't keep in contact. I don't think. Honestly, it's sad. I follow her on Instagram. She does not follow me.

[Jordan Myrick]

Jill, Jill. That's not how you treat family.

[Remy Cruz]

What about that time in Olive Garden?

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah, I know.

[Kendall Landrin]

I thought that was a huge formative moment for you. It's embarrassing. I literally remember when I went to the Olive Garden. I had a photo and I brought it to show and tell to my class. And once again, my whole class was.

[Jordan Myrick]

Like, we don't know who that is.

[Kendall Landrin]

And I was like, this is my famous cousin. But it was jump scare. Cause she's on that show. Lioness. Dressed like the biggest lesbian you've ever seen in your life. I couldn't believe it. I was like, who's that?

[Jordan Myrick]

And I was like, she has a very homosexual haircut.

[Kendall Landrin]

Homosexual haircut. She wears like muscle tees. Ripped. Oh, and they're jacked. Just fully jacked. And I was like, this is crazy. Anyways, but I'm glad you enjoyed.

[Remy Cruz]

No, I need you to know I think about it a lot.

[Jordan Myrick]

Wow.

[Kendall Landrin]

Wait, before we. When we sat down, you're like, I've got a really good story.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah, tell the story.

[Remy Cruz]

Oh my God.

[Jordan Myrick]

What is it?

[Remy Cruz]

I. I've been on a full podcast tour about this and I Do have permission from my. But the planner that I met who planned the knot trip that we went to, it was planned so perfectly. I really just hit it off with him. And then after, I was like, do you want to plan my wedding? He's like, let's do it. So we've developed a friendship. His name's Jason. He's amazing. I love him so much. We're obviously in crunch time right before the wedding, and we. My bachelorette was about a few weeks ago now, at this point, I think, like, almost a month ago. And we were in Vegas.

[Kendall Landrin]

Fun.

[Remy Cruz]

He had told me that he was also gonna be in Vegas for, like, a convention. I was like, come out. Hang out with us. Let's hang out. And he was like, no, no, no. Like, I've got work.

[Jordan Myrick]

And then he was like, it's not like that.

[Remy Cruz]

I don't want to be there. Trust me. And then he, like, posts the next day, and he's being wheeled out of the hotel in a wheelchair. And I'm like, what happened? Are you okay? Why are you doing Vegas better than I am?

[Kendall Landrin]

You're like, if you went to another.

[Remy Cruz]

Bachelorette party, yes, I better be the therapist. No, he's getting wheeled out. I'm like, are you okay? And he's like, oh, my God. I just woke up, and my muscle, like, one of my leg muscles, like, I think I pulled it. Something happened. I was like, oh, my God. No. I'm so sorry. He's like, don't worry. Have so much fun. Like, I'll see you soon. We go to our catering tasting, like, a week and a half ago, two weeks ago now, and he. I walk in. He's on crutches. I'm like, are you okay? He's like, oh, my God. My legs been hurting still, but don't worry. I'm gonna be okay. Fast forward a few days after that. So now it's like a week ago. We were supposed to have a big meeting to, like, plan a lot of stuff, like, make final decisions. And I'm supposed to go. And he calls, and he's like, I'm so sorry. I have to go to the emergency room. Fast forward. This poor man had been told by his doctor time and time again, it's just like a. A muscle sprain. You're fine, you're fine, you're fine. He had actually fractured his femur. It hadn't been taken care of properly. It got infected. He then developed pneumonia from the infection and almost went into sepsis. He was then hospitalized for, like, four days. Yes. And he literally just got out of the hospital. This was, like, as of yesterday.

[Kendall Landrin]

Did the doctors know your wedding was coming up?

[Remy Cruz]

That's what I'm saying. No, I'm just like. I was like, please prioritize your health.

[Kendall Landrin]

Like, that's wild.

[Remy Cruz]

We need to take care of this just in case you can't make it. What should I do on that wedding day? You let me know. You give me a list, and I'll handle it. But literally, at one point, we were gonna do a zoom to talk about everything. I was like, just like, let me know. Like, let's talk to your assistant. Like, whatever. He zooms in from the hospital.

[Kendall Landrin]

You guys, brave dedication.

[Jordan Myrick]

This is an ad for a hero, a wedding hero.

[Remy Cruz]

I was like, you don't need to be here right now. He's like, oh, actually, I'm getting a scan right now. I'm come back and I'm in the CAT scan.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah. He said, sir, get off your phone. It will explode. Yeah.

[Remy Cruz]

Poor guy. He's been absolutely amazing. Like, truly. I'm like, please take care of yourself. But it has been crazy. But honestly, adds to the lore. And, like, the wedding's gonna be perfect. It's gonna be amazing no matter what.

[Jordan Myrick]

Well, I love that.

[Kendall Landrin]

That's kind of what's fun about weddings. I've never had one, but I've been to, like, two. But I'm like, there's this point in the wedding where it's like, if you've planned enough, you're like, if anything goes wrong, now it's just a story.

[Remy Cruz]

Exactly.

[Kendall Landrin]

It's just fun.

[Remy Cruz]

Yeah. For the lore. Absolutely not. And, like, I really also take it on the idea that no one actually knows what you plan, so, like, who actually cares? And let's say it rains and you have to put a tent up. Like, okay, that's fine. No one. I mean, people would know, but at the same time, it's fine. Whatever.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah. I think if you have good music. So, like, let's say your DJ doesn't show up. Just throw in a good playlist.

[Remy Cruz]

Yeah.

[Jordan Myrick]

And you have to have enough food. Let's say your caterer, I don't know, gets into a car accident on the pch. There's spanakopita everywhere.

[Remy Cruz]

Yeah.

[Jordan Myrick]

They're not making it to your wedding. Just order a bunch of pizzas.

[Remy Cruz]

Absolutely.

[Jordan Myrick]

You know, it.

[Remy Cruz]

Like, it'll. As long as everybody are fed. I'm taking the food very seriously. I will say, though, as. As foodies.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah.

[Remy Cruz]

I love your food content.

[Jordan Myrick]

Thank you.

[Remy Cruz]

Like, regarding menu and everything. Oh, my God. Okay, so we did the tasting for the appetizers, which I'm an appetizer girl. Like, I can make a full meal out of an appetizer, A list of appetizers. So we're doing, like, a short rib, grilled cheese, like, little mini ones, a little beef Wellington, a little spicy little beef, like, little. They brought out, like, the Mac and cheese and, like, little baby, like, little pots. That was so cute. For the food itself, like, for the actual, like, meal, I feel like it's cut, copy, copy paste. You know what I mean? Like, chicken or beef, like, it's the same thing. Desserts, we're gonna do a brownie sundae bar and an ice cre cookie sundae bar, which are my favorite. And then actually, what I'm really, really excited about is, again, and my planner's Korean as well, so I was like, he. He just gets it. I love Korean night markets. So for the after party, I was like, I want to build out a Korean night market. I want to have, like, the food that you could get there, because I've been to Korea this year and last year with my family, and, like, it's my favorite thing there. So we're doing, like, tteokbokki, which is the spicy rice cakes. I want to do the cheesy corn dogs, and I want to do tong hulu, which isn't Korean, but I love tong hulu.

[Jordan Myrick]

Still popular in Korea.

[Remy Cruz]

Yes, exactly. So I was like, let's just build it out like that. Or do, like, I'm getting merch made. Like, I want.

[Jordan Myrick]

I.

[Remy Cruz]

Like, this is gonna be. I'm truly the whole night. I'm just gonna be looking forward to the after party.

[Kendall Landrin]

Right?

[Jordan Myrick]

That is so fun.

[Kendall Landrin]

Someone's gonna tap you on the shoulder and be like, there's two women trying to get into the Korean night vision.

[Jordan Myrick]

Over a fence outside, dressed in all black with night vision goggles on.

[Remy Cruz]

I'll be like, give him a wristband.

[Jordan Myrick]

Like, all right, I think we can just get into the question.

[Kendall Landrin]

If you're like, what the heck? I didn't get to ask a question. It's cause you're not following us on Instagram, so maybe look inward, because that is a you problem. Follow us on Instagram and we always pose the question. If you go on our Patreon, we even tell you who the guest is going to be. So if you're on Patreon, you knew Remy was coming, and you got to ask Remy specific questions. So join our Patreon. We do a Lot of fun stuff over there. Or you can email us@hwhlpod questions gmail.com.

[Jordan Myrick]

All right, our first question. How do you go about not inviting family you don't like? Who still expects to be invited? Did this happen to you?

[Remy Cruz]

To be honest, my family is actually four people. Like, I have such a small family. I didn't have that issue. I will say my fiance is. His family's from the Midwest, so it was extended. Extended billions. Exactly. Yes. So I will say he and his parents sat down, and we're like, okay, where do we draw the line of, like, what we feel comfortable as a family? With which I totally respected. I was like, look, if you want all 100 cousins, that's totally fine. If you want two cousins, that's totally fine.

[Kendall Landrin]

Like, it's your family.

[Remy Cruz]

Do whatever. I was like, do whatever you want. I will say, because I'm more of, like, a friend person. Like, because I have such a small family now, we are whatever you want. Yeah. Whatever you feel comfortable with. Whatever will cause the amount of family drama. And that's how they went about it. But again, I have literally three people, so there were no issues.

[Kendall Landrin]

That's nice.

[Remy Cruz]

I will say, my uncle can't make it or my grandma can't make it to my wedding. So my family of four is down to me and Cal. It's just very, very immediate. My uncle's on a business trip. My grandma was like, it's just a little bit too far, and she's getting a little too old. So we're gonna do, like, a little private thing at her home.

[Jordan Myrick]

Sweet.

[Remy Cruz]

After the wedding, which.

[Kendall Landrin]

That's how the grandmas get you. They always. They're like, I can't come. You'll have to do just something.

[Jordan Myrick]

A private event. You'll have to do a VIP meet and greet me, which I love for her.

[Remy Cruz]

I was like, okay, Grandma, that's great. I was FaceTime. She's like, no, I don't have a.

[Kendall Landrin]

Phone, but thank you. I do feel like Midwest families, too. It's wild. Cause they'll be like, well, he's my fifth cousin. I'm like, okay, well, you don't know him that well then. They're like, no, we see them. Like, we see them up together every week.

[Remy Cruz]

Yeah.

[Jordan Myrick]

They actually all live together in one big house. It's actually true.

[Remy Cruz]

It's so true.

[Kendall Landrin]

Yeah. Every Sunday we had a potluck. I'm like, that is crazy.

[Jordan Myrick]

It's wild.

[Remy Cruz]

Beyond. Truly. Like, we went to the lake. We would lake every summer. I'M like, okay, okay. Do whatever you want. I am here to support treating Lake is a verb.

[Jordan Myrick]

How dare you? It's so rude of them. Yeah. For me, it's just me and my parents mostly.

[Remy Cruz]

Okay.

[Jordan Myrick]

And then I have, like, a small spattering of extended relatives that I like most. I don't though.

[Remy Cruz]

Understandable.

[Kendall Landrin]

But a cousin, to me, I was like, oh, a cousin. I met her once when I was three and I never met her again.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yes. Who is a cousin.

[Kendall Landrin]

And we have friends on Facebook. Jill. Jill.

[Remy Cruz]

Follow me back.

[Jordan Myrick]

Jill, we'd love for you to be a cousin and a mutual.

[Kendall Landrin]

You know how embarrassing it is how much I talk about Jill. And then if someone were to go, look, I don't know who would do this, and see that I follow her and she doesn't follow me. They're like, kendall's a pathological liar.

[Jordan Myrick]

Jill does not care if you live or die.

[Kendall Landrin]

Truly.

[Jordan Myrick]

Truly. Okay. Thoughts on wedding websites like the Knot Zola, has anything like that been helpful for you in your wedding planning process?

[Remy Cruz]

I love a wedding website. As a guest, I've taken any knowledge from Weddings as a guest and just applied it to my wedding because, I mean, I've learned and I want to be so gentle and kind. Weddings make people stupid.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yes.

[Remy Cruz]

And me included as well. Like, as a guest, you're like, can I wear this? Can I wear that? Like, oh, what? Just put all the information on the website. Do not bother the bride or the groom. Figure it out yourself. So I think a wedding website is amazing. No one's going to bring their physical invite to the wedding and know where to go and what time and, you know, when the bus is picking you up or whatever it is. So I do think a website is perfect. You got it on your phone. You can refer to that whenever you have a question. Anything that's not on the website. Then maybe you could talk to the maid of honor or, like, someone who's close, where they're like, oh, they can nudge them, like, hey, a lot of people are asking me about this. Maybe put it on the website. Yeah, done.

[Kendall Landrin]

So nice.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah, I do want to know. You said you've taken all the information from weddings you've been to and put that onto your wedding. What's the best wedding you've ever been to?

[Remy Cruz]

Oh, my God. I would have to say, I think my best friend's wedding, which was last April. Lauren Laur, diy. Just because, I mean, it was beautiful, but also it's so special going to a wedding that you feel so you are actually so close to the bride and the groom. Like, you just feel so connected. You're so happy. Like, you're genuinely so excited for them. And so I think that was my favorite wedding ever, just because I love them so much.

[Kendall Landrin]

That's sweet. Was there ever a wedding you've been to where you were like, I'm doing that at my wedding. And then you did honestly, a.

[Remy Cruz]

Yes. She's a coffee cart. And I was like, oh, that's nice. That was amazing, because everyone was like, after eating delicious food, you're just kind of, like, tired. You're like, wait, I'm ready for a nap. Boom. Coffee cart came out. It was perfect timing. I love that she did that. I'm trying to think of anything else. That was, like, the first thing that I called my planner, literally after the wedding. I was like, get me a coffee.

[Jordan Myrick]

That's happening right now. Latte art. Ooh, are you doing latte art?

[Remy Cruz]

You know what? We have not locked down the coffee cart yet.

[Jordan Myrick]

Okay.

[Remy Cruz]

Because of the hospital. But I do know that there are.

[Kendall Landrin]

Yeah, call him right now. He's like, I'm going to surgery, but I'll call the coffee cart.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah. Well, we went to a wedding. We've talked about this wedding before. Our friends are Tun and Kristina. They had the most unbelievable wedding that anyone's ever had in the history of the world. But they had a coffee cart, and they had latte art of their faces on the coffees. And that is probably a million dollars. And I'm not recommending anyone go out there and do that. But there is a real wow factor to it.

[Remy Cruz]

That is. My question is, though, how long did it take to get your coffee?

[Kendall Landrin]

I think it was pretty fast.

[Remy Cruz]

Okay, well, maybe I'm wrong.

[Kendall Landrin]

I was drunk, so time moved really fast, so that's something to think about.

[Jordan Myrick]

But I feel like they brought it out kind of early, and then it was there for a while. So I feel like it wasn't just like, this is the one thing people are doing right now. Yeah. I feel like you could kind of, like, mosey over whenever you want it.

[Remy Cruz]

I like that. Because the only thing. I love the idea. I would rather just have a plain coffee than wait 20 minutes to get a coffee with someone's face on.

[Jordan Myrick]

And I agree with that. I. You know, I'm not recommending the coffee with the face on it. It was just unbelievable.

[Kendall Landrin]

Wow.

[Remy Cruz]

Nice little touch.

[Jordan Myrick]

It was a wow factor.

[Remy Cruz]

I am very impressed by that. Did they have, like, the literal, like, the machine that, like, does it?

[Kendall Landrin]

I Don't.

[Jordan Myrick]

I don't know. So, once again, we were both drunk, so I don't know how we were drunk.

[Remy Cruz]

You were drunk to. Now you're. Now.

[Kendall Landrin]

If we went back to a. If we had footage of this, it could have been like, we waited two hours for it, and we just had no idea.

[Jordan Myrick]

And there was no latte art on it. They just gave us a plain coffee, and I was like, it's their faces. I'm like, high out of my mind. This person wants to know, if you're balling on a budget, what are some splurges that are 100% worth it?

[Remy Cruz]

I think it really just depends on what's most important to you. It was funny because my maid of honor and I had a conversation in the beginning where we're like, Like. I mean, us as, like, very extra people could really convince each other that every single fashion of the wedding is worth it. Like, the florals are the most important. The food and then the lighting, obviously, if. If no one can see it, then what does it even matter? So, like, I do think you have to be honest with yourself. For me, something that I really did want to invest in was the content portion of it. So, like, the. The photographer, the videographer, I invested in a social media girl whose sole job is just to get vertical content, which I know sounds insane. No.

[Kendall Landrin]

But that you're getting your money back.

[Jordan Myrick]

That's your job. That will. Yeah, that money will end up back in your poc.

[Remy Cruz]

Also, I was just like, even more than any, like, the. The money aspect of it, I was like, to not have to think. I was like, I don't want to be like, hey, can you get this TikTok of me? Like, oh, can we do this? Like, oh, I didn't get that one. I'm like, it's all going to be handled. I. Very rarely. I just had a call with the videographer, and she just was so amazing and, like, put me at ease with everything because she was like, we're doing. We have this whole plan. This is this. I was like, wow. I've never been. I don't want to say on a shoot because my wedding's on a shoot, but, like, I've never been to an event where I'm not thinking about, oh, I need to get this, or I need to make sure I capture this or whatever. Especially when it's like. Like a birthday party, like, of mine or something like an event of mine. I've never fully let go of the reins, and I think I feel very at Peace. And, like, I really do want to be so present. There was a wedding that just happened this weekend in New York. It was jazz, incredible. Like, so fun to watch. But I looked at it, and I was like, oh, I wonder. Like, as dumb as this sounds and it feels so stupid to say, but, like, as an influencer, like, what's the content strategy? Like, what's going to be the rollout of content? Because I've been really going back and forth, and, like, I love that it looked like everybody. Like, people could actually feel like they were there in real time. But then also, I don't want to be thinking about posting in that time, of course. So I'm really trying to figure out the happy medium between the two.

[Kendall Landrin]

Well, that was why even when we were first deciding whether to do a wedding, people were like, well, you could just get it, like, sponsored.

[Jordan Myrick]

Just get it. I was ready to send Kendall down the aisle looking like a nascar. Yeah. I was like, let's put whatever we can on her. Get this wedding for 100% free. But then Kendall brought up a very.

[Kendall Landrin]

Good point of KC written across my.

[Jordan Myrick]

Chest, which you would have had anyway, regardless of whether or not it was sponsored.

[Kendall Landrin]

My dream dress.

[Remy Cruz]

I love that.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah. But a big thing that we kind of realized was, like, even if we can get a lot of stuff paid for, I feel like we'll end all of it being like, oh, we still have to pay $1,000 for napkins because we didn't get the napkins sponsored.

[Kendall Landrin]

Right. Right. Well, but also, I was like, I don't want to. I don't want. But just to see what you were saying, I don't want to be filming on my. My wedding day.

[Remy Cruz]

I don't want to be working because.

[Kendall Landrin]

It'S just, like, even down to, like, if I were to. I'm feeling so good. I'm feeling so beautiful. I'm so present. And then someone takes a photo of me, and I'm like, oh, I have to see it, so make sure I can post the thing. And then I'm like, oh, I don't like that picture. It's just too much.

[Remy Cruz]

It's, like, too much.

[Kendall Landrin]

Too much stress and feel like I can't. And it already goes by so fast. I'm sure.

[Remy Cruz]

I feel like, yeah, you blink and it's over. Even, like, the guests aspect of, like, oh, I want people to be present as well. Like, I want to all just be there in the night, enjoying each other's company. We could all post it the next day. I think that's what I'm leaning towards. But I will say, like, following her content. As it was going on, I was like, this is amazing. This is so fun.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah. But people won't necessarily know when the wedding is if people post it the next day. Do you know what I mean?

[Remy Cruz]

Yes.

[Jordan Myrick]

Right?

[Kendall Landrin]

They might still. You could just pretend.

[Jordan Myrick]

Just pretend.

[Remy Cruz]

I mean, that's true. A Sunday wedding.

[Jordan Myrick]

I'm always pretending that I'm places I'm not. And I'll be like, I can't come to work today because I'm sick. And they're like, are you in Belize? I just saw a video. I'm like, that video is from three years ago. I'm trying to stretch my content. And I also don't ever want anyone to know where I am for safety and also mysterious mystery. Oh, my God, this is so embarrassing.

[Kendall Landrin]

And so you can't take it back.

[Jordan Myrick]

Where Kendall made. Kendall revealed that she was keeping a list of words that I say wrong. I pull up the list, tell her.

[Kendall Landrin]

Well, there was only two. I can't keep a secret. So of course I started this list. And then two days later, I was.

[Remy Cruz]

Like, I gotta tell you about it. That's so me.

[Kendall Landrin]

But it was like, the main one was seduction. Jordan was trying to say seduction.

[Jordan Myrick]

We were having a serious conversation. I was trying to say seduction, and I said sedution. And then it was scary because two seconds later, I accidentally said it again, and I was like, something's wrong with me. I have to go to the hospital.

[Remy Cruz]

Okay, so you do know how it's pronounced. You just.

[Jordan Myrick]

We had a flu seduction. But then a lot of people were like, actually, sedution is, like, pretty similar to how you pronounce it in Spanish. And I am in the process of being able to Spanish, So sorry about it. Be by sorry. Okay, back to the questions. Should toasts be funny or sincere?

[Remy Cruz]

I think a push and pull. I personally do. I like, obviously the. The speech of who you're speaking to cares about it the most, so obviously that's what matters most. But I like a little, like, make me laugh, make me cry. Keep it short and sweet. Three minutes and under.

[Jordan Myrick]

Short.

[Remy Cruz]

Let's keep the show going.

[Kendall Landrin]

So you're not wanting anyone to do, like, a rap.

[Remy Cruz]

Here's the thing. I think I would not be shocked because my maid and matron of honor, my two best friends, are doing their speech together. And I was like, I would not be shocked if they try to go for a viral moment.

[Jordan Myrick]

They do, like, a mamma Mia.

[Remy Cruz]

Type dance costumes, like a Hamilton. I could see that they both really like Hamilton. So I'm like, maybe I wouldn't be a puzzle.

[Jordan Myrick]

They both really like Hamilton.

[Remy Cruz]

I would not be shocked. All right.

[Kendall Landrin]

If they're doing Hamilton, that will not be under three minutes.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah.

[Remy Cruz]

It's so true. So we'll see. I'm not opposed, but I do think short and sweet is best. Rap is fine, but short and sweet.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah. I feel like, as someone who's been a guest at weddings, I think that the one thing I never want to see is it's always uncomfortable because this is what I don't like about weddings. No offense.

[Remy Cruz]

It's fine.

[Jordan Myrick]

I think your wedding's gonna be perfect. But in general, I find weddings unsettling because it's like, my best friend from college and then my great Aunt Judith, and then my. And then, like, a girl I know from childhood. It's like, such a weird smattering of people who all have different reference points for you. And I feel like I have seen multiple speeches where it's like, yes, someone's best friend from college or whatever gets up, and they're like, well, we all know that Janice was a slut, and so it's so crazy that she's settling her fat ass down, and I'm like.

[Kendall Landrin]

And the grandma, like, gets up and.

[Jordan Myrick]

Leaves and is like. It's such. It's so weird in mixed company. So I think the toasts are hard, but I would say stay away from inside jokes. As someone who's been a guest, I don't want to hear your inside jokes. I'm sorry. I know that it's your wedding, but just having someone stand up there and be like, let's just say, remember Cabo leaders here tonight or whatever. And you're all just like, what, okay, just let me eat my fish. Or whatever I have, you know? And then. Yeah, nothing too, like, upsetting. Don't bring up something that someone wouldn't want their grandma to know because their grandma's probably there.

[Remy Cruz]

Yes. Or like, exes. I've seen people online, like, bringing up exes, and it's like, now is not the time to bring up an ex right now.

[Kendall Landrin]

Yeah. Unless that's what I did at my sister's wedding, because I was. I was, like, 17, and she was like, give a speech. And I was like, I've never. I don't know what. I've never. I've never been to a wedding. I was like, I don't know. And I have, like. I was teen angst. He was my sister's wedding. I'm gonna just be so moody. Whatever. And I was like, my sister, let's just say she had a lot of weird exes. But honestly, the speech hit. I will say it was actually a great speech.

[Remy Cruz]

I will say also, I brought it home. Coming from a sister, I think is fine. I do think if it's, like, coming from someone else sometimes it could be a little.

[Kendall Landrin]

No, it's too much. I wouldn't give that same speech today.

[Jordan Myrick]

But when you hear about it. Job.

[Kendall Landrin]

No, actually, a lot of people came up to me afterwards, and we're like, that was really good.

[Remy Cruz]

You crushed it. You crushed it.

[Kendall Landrin]

But once again, might be a moment we look back and it's completely different.

[Jordan Myrick]

I want to know.

[Kendall Landrin]

But what you were saying, too, I think is so true about, like, family and friends together. Because I feel like people are. When we were trying to decide whether to have a wedding, people kept being like, but it's the only time you get to have, like, everyone, you know, together. And I was like, actually, that's what I'm desperately trying to make sure doesn't why I want, like, you, my gay friend from acting school, like, trying to get. Get my mom to do poppers.

[Jordan Myrick]

Like, I'm not interested in that. Like, it's not necessary for us.

[Remy Cruz]

Personally, I think the idea of it is so beautiful. But it's true. When you, like, really boil it down, it is kind of a crazy idea. And I know they say, like, it's the only. The only two times in your life where, like, everyone will be in the same room that love you are your wedding and your funeral.

[Kendall Landrin]

Right?

[Jordan Myrick]

Not my funeral.

[Remy Cruz]

Morbid.

[Jordan Myrick]

No, not my funeral. What do everyone be doing poppers separately.

[Remy Cruz]

At my funeral, respectively.

[Jordan Myrick]

This person wants to know. Kids. No. Kids. Kids. Some kids.

[Kendall Landrin]

Oh, some kids is crazy.

[Jordan Myrick]

Interview each kid.

[Kendall Landrin]

No.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah, it's sit there for 20 minutes and see how you will see if you can come. Well, because I think some people are like, I'm not having kids, but my niece is going to be the ring.

[Remy Cruz]

Like, having kids. We're talking about the wedding.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yes, at the wedding. Yeah.

[Remy Cruz]

Yeah. Oh, some kids makes more sense.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yes.

[Remy Cruz]

We'll be having one kid, and that's my nephew.

[Jordan Myrick]

Okay.

[Remy Cruz]

And we have an exit strategy for him because he is ready to go. Like, I believe the ceremony will end probably very close. Maybe he'll maybe hang out for, like, a cocktail or two, and then he'll, like, head on home.

[Jordan Myrick]

He loves a big drinker.

[Kendall Landrin]

Yeah.

[Remy Cruz]

He requested the espresso martini bar. And he'll go Home because it's his bedtime. But yes.

[Jordan Myrick]

Well, that's the thing. I'm like, no kids. But for the kids, it's boring for them. They don't want to be there. Unless you're having like a Sunday brunch wedding at a playground. Yeah, children don't want to be at a wedding. It's like when someone brings their dog to like a beer garden or whatever. It's like, leave your. Your things where they want to be. Leave your kids. I think what people should do is get a really cool and fun babysitter for all the kids and then get like, whatever. Have it in like one hotel room or like a. I don't know if there. If there's like a play place at the hotel or whatever. Yes. And just have a babysitter or two with all the kids. You can go visit them and you can feed them. Yeah, you can feed them your hand. If you put a quarter in the machine, I will say.

[Remy Cruz]

My planner said he just did a wedding where they took over like a whole hotel for the weekend. And they did like a bunch of different, like, events there. And obviously because they were away for a weekend, everybody brought their kids. But they hired a service where like babysitters will come stay at the hotel and like, watch the kids.

[Jordan Myrick]

This is what I'm saying.

[Remy Cruz]

So the parents can actually have fun. Because like, my big thing was I want my nephew there because it's like, it's my wedding day.

[Jordan Myrick]

It's a family event.

[Remy Cruz]

I don't want him to. I don't want him to have a bad time. I don't want my brother and sister in law to have a bad time because they're like, I know they want to have fun. So I was. We figured out a way where my sister in law's parents are the, the best. They're gonna come up, I got them a hotel room, and they're just gonna watch him in between all the events where it's like, oh, so he's gonna want to sleep.

[Jordan Myrick]

Like he's gonna want to do that. He does not want to be at your wedding. No offense, once again. I do, but he doesn't. So I think, like, yeah, that's my thing with kids. I'm just like, people are like, it's rude to not have kids. And I'm like, the kids don't want to be there.

[Remy Cruz]

No.

[Jordan Myrick]

Should parents have a say if they financially contribute to your wedding?

[Remy Cruz]

Oh, this is such a good note. And this is something they talked about on the note trip when I Was eating all the food and not listening.

[Jordan Myrick]

Wait, us too. I want to know if they told us the same thing because I imagine we have different, like, wedding planners on our different trips. So I want to know what your people told you, and we can say what our people told us.

[Remy Cruz]

Oh, I love that. This is great. I. I truly, like, walked away with this information. I was like, this is amazing. So any girlfriend that I have that's getting married, I'm like, do this, do this, do this. They said to take the money and run and apply it to, like, one specific thing of the wedding. So it's like, let's say your parents give you X amount of money. They're like, okay, thank you so much.

[Jordan Myrick]

Much.

[Remy Cruz]

We're actually going to take this money. We're going to put into the floral. So do you want to have a say in the florals? Like, you know, or we're taking. Beginning the taste testing. Do you want to help us out or. Oh, it's this money's actually going to go to the dress. Like, do you want to come to the try on? Do it like that. Where I. I will say I have friends, though, where the parents are funding the entire wedding and they have, like, they want a lot of say in things. And I understand, like, that's so stressful for my friends, but I'm like, oh, like, I get it, but, like, I don't agree with it, but I get it.

[Jordan Myrick]

I think it's so hard because especially depending on what culture you're coming from, some weddings are a familial celebration and not just, like, about the bride and groom. So I think that's one thing, and I'm not trying to speak on that, but I'm like, you're a bad parent if you are. Like, I'm paying for the wedding, but everything's gonna be the way I say. I'm like, you're a loser. Go have your own wedding. Once again. Unless it's a cultural thing. But in general, I'm like, relax. Like, why do you need to have this? It's so weird.

[Remy Cruz]

Like, living vicariously.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yes, but that's so sad. And you have to know that's sad. And someone needs to tell that's sad and it's me.

[Kendall Landrin]

It's so funny how it really becomes. They say, like, parenting your parents, you have to then parent your parents.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah.

[Kendall Landrin]

And it's like, when you're describing, like, well, we're going to say, okay, we're going to put it towards this one thing.

[Remy Cruz]

So you get parenting.

[Kendall Landrin]

And I'm like, that is how people talk to children. But that is literally, like. I'm like, that's a genius tip. Like, that's exactly what you should do. But I said the other day. But I'm sure it would. I wouldn't be able to. If I was a parent, I would be the exact same way. But I would really love to think if I had a kid, they wouldn't have to, like, gentle parent you, gentle parent me. But it probably would happen, I guess.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah. I think it happens to us all.

[Kendall Landrin]

I always wonder what our generation's thing will be of, like, when our kids are talking bad about us, what is it going to be?

[Remy Cruz]

It's true.

[Kendall Landrin]

I don't know.

[Jordan Myrick]

I think there'll be, like, a new social media thing that we don't know about. And even now, I'll find myself, like, not knowing how to do things on my phone and my intern at work being like, oh, this is how you do it. And I'm like, okay, relax. You're like five years younger than me. Like, chill.

[Kendall Landrin]

No, but it happens fast. Like, it happens really fast. Like, even I was realizing the day because I was a kid. I remember being like, my parents just listen to, like, the same music they've listened to. Like, they listen, like, the same six songs. It's like, I have not learned a new song since 2018. Like, I don't. I am, like, still just listening to riptides over and over again. Like, it's so embarrassing.

[Jordan Myrick]

You love that song.

[Kendall Landrin]

Yeah.

[Remy Cruz]

Oh, my God. No. It's a really good point, though. It is.

[Jordan Myrick]

When it comes to weddings, what is the most common waste of money and things you should not actually spend money on?

[Remy Cruz]

A lot of people say party favors or, like, little wedding favors, like, little gifts and things. That's why I. I was really. I was like, I. I just love a merch moment. And more than anything, I was like, I'm gonna get cold. So I would like a sweatshirt or, like, something to wear. But I was like, I'm gonna. So I made sweatshirts to give out at the wedding, and I'm gonna get a T shirt can and just shoot it at people. But I want people to actually, like, want to wear it.

[Kendall Landrin]

Yeah. Such a businesswoman.

[Remy Cruz]

Thank you so much. I was like, I'm trying to be as, like, not wasteful. So I was like, I'll just. I actually. I was literally on the phone with a guy on the way here who's helping me, but I designed, like, a little merch logo for it. Like, put on There where it's like, people can keep wearing it. I made it look like merch that I've already released. And I was like, I'll get extras. I'll give them, like, do a giveaway after. Like, then hopefully people will actually wear it. So I'm, like, hoping that it's, like, it hits. We'll see. But I'm like, I've seen people say, I think, like, little favors, like, the matchbooks are really cute match boxes, like, the little, like, little things like that that people can put in their purse versus, like, people do. Like, I've seen bigger favors where they're like, well, I don't want to take this home now.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yes.

[Remy Cruz]

And then it's just a waste of money.

[Kendall Landrin]

Well, especially if you. I mean, if you're having a small wedding, it's like, our best friend's getting married. I'm like, okay, but sometimes you're a guest at a wedding and you're like, we know them, but we're not. Like, we don't need a plaque in our home that says the day they got married.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah, absolutely. I think it's like, I think an edible or consumable favor is always the best. Like, I've gotten honey or that would be a good one. Things like that. I'm like, that's perfect. Because who wouldn't use a small jar of honey? It's such a usable thing. Yeah. Honey, jam, a tiny bottle of champagne, Anything like that. I'm like, oh, people are definitely gon use. And I even think a sweatshirt. I'm like, a nice quality sweatshirt for someone that I like. I will still use it. Worst case scenario, I'll put it in the trunk of my car and it will live there for when we, like, randomly go to the beach.

[Remy Cruz]

Exactly.

[Jordan Myrick]

You know about the. The beach sweatshirt.

[Remy Cruz]

Yes, the beach blanket.

[Jordan Myrick]

I get it. Absolutely. But I'm like, I think sometimes people will give out really bad quality things to give out something. And I'm like, nobody wants anything that's bad quality. So I would just not give that away.

[Kendall Landrin]

Or you can tell. Yeah, they, like, didn't have maybe the budget for it, so they were like, let me diy, which is great, but DIY this thing. And you can tell they. Not bad for me, but bad for them. Took like five days, probably, and it ended up being like $200. And it's like a little thing that has their name on it. And it's like everyone just kind of throws it away. And it's like, you didn't have to do that.

[Remy Cruz]

Like, imagine them leaving the wedding. They're all still there. Like, oh, no.

[Jordan Myrick]

Heartbreaking.

[Remy Cruz]

I would feel so badly.

[Jordan Myrick]

I don't go to a wedding expecting something.

[Remy Cruz]

Yes. Oh, no, that's. Here's the thing. I'm a gift giver, though. Like, that is my love language, which is nice. So that's my only thing where I was pudding. So for. So Cal Sauce name is Parsons. So I'd made, like, a cute little logo with Parsons where I was, like, it. You would buy that. You could buy that, like, at a store. Like, that's the vibe that I was going for, where it's like, you know us, but it's not like Remy and Cal, June 14, 2025.

[Jordan Myrick]

Like, yeah, yeah, absolutely.

[Kendall Landrin]

People just be like, that's a beer brand or something.

[Remy Cruz]

Yeah. Well, it is make it. We'll make it like a nice, like, logo.

[Jordan Myrick]

Parsons is literally a college.

[Remy Cruz]

That's the thing in New York City. It is.

[Kendall Landrin]

Now, wait a minute.

[Jordan Myrick]

That's where they used to do stuff on Project Runway.

[Remy Cruz]

Is that where they would.

[Jordan Myrick]

At Parsons? Yeah.

[Remy Cruz]

Oh, my.

[Jordan Myrick]

Huge.

[Remy Cruz]

Good. I knew about the fashion school. I didn't know Project Runway.

[Jordan Myrick]

Okay, on our next question, what is the first step of wedding planning?

[Remy Cruz]

Ooh, I guess. I really do think. I guess picking a venue. Because with the venue, you also pick the date, and then from there, you can pick the dress because you don't want to. Like, I do think there needs to be some sort of. You don't have to, but, like, some sort of cohesion between, like, the dress and the venue. You want to make sure, you know, it kind of matches if you want, and then you can kind of pick, obviously, all the other vendors once you have the venue. So I think the venue is probably the most important thing.

[Jordan Myrick]

And some venues do food, some don't. So I think a lot of that can be, like, built in. So I think that's a great point.

[Remy Cruz]

Yeah.

[Jordan Myrick]

How did you know the venue that you chose was right for you?

[Remy Cruz]

So I went through 85 venues. Oh, my God.

[Jordan Myrick]

Did you visit all of them?

[Remy Cruz]

No, I only visited four. Five. I only visited five.

[Kendall Landrin]

Okay. That's. That's normal. That was. I. I was like, what, did you take off eight months of work.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah.

[Remy Cruz]

My. Again, Jason, I love you. My planner has been amazing, and he's been so patient with me because I've always said, like, I have not. I was not the little girl that was like, I dream of my wedding, and I want this, this, and that. I simply chose a June wedding because of Brad Wars. I'M gonna be so honest.

[Jordan Myrick]

The movie with Anne Hathaway.

[Remy Cruz]

Yes. And Kate Hudson. And Kate Hudson. It ain't June and it ain't the plaza. Like, ever since. I love that movie. And so I was like, my whole life I was like, I want a June wedding. Never thought a step further than that. And so. It's insane. It's insane.

[Kendall Landrin]

I love.

[Jordan Myrick]

I love that stuff. I think that's perfect though, because that's so you it.

[Remy Cruz]

Thank you. I appreciate that. I also love June. I'm like, it is wedding season, so it makes sense. But I was like, I never knew what I wanted. And I honestly didn't even know what I didn't want. It was more like my wedding planner made a list of like. I was like, well, I like the beach. I like the ocean. I don't want to be on the beach. I don't want sand up in every crevice. But like, I like the idea of like looking at water. I grew up in Southern California, so I was like, maybe that. So from there, he found all along the coast, 80 venues, like 85 venues. And I just went through the website of each and I just pick it. I'd be like, no, no, no. But I was like, waiting for it to exactly be what I wanted. And then after looking through all of them, through finding out what I don't want or didn't want, I found out what we wanted. So it was a lot of trial and error. And he again, is an absolute angel.

[Kendall Landrin]

Did you do one of, like a venue where I know they have like the kind of blank slate venues or the ones where they have, like, more stuff already there? Which. Which one did you go with?

[Remy Cruz]

We ended up picking completely bl. And I will say the one no that I had was. I'm not a ballroom wedding person.

[Kendall Landrin]

Okay.

[Remy Cruz]

I.

[Jordan Myrick]

What are the options?

[Remy Cruz]

I just wanted to do something like outdoors or like something. I don't know why. I just, like, don't. I think because a lot of my, like, school dances were also like ballroom vibe about prom to me. So I was like, I want something different. I will say it's. There's like pros and cons to everything though. Obviously, like, doing a ballroom means no noise ordinance. You can go as long as you want. It's temperature controlled. Like there are a lot of pros and cons. But I will say with doing it outdoors, I was like. Or being able to build our own thing. I liked the freedom of that. So it was kind of a toss up between everything. But that was the One thing from the get go, I was like, no ballroom. Because I like the idea of whether it's, like, being under the stars or, like, building something could be really fun, like a tent or, like, a little, like, structure or something. I liked that.

[Jordan Myrick]

Did you have anything now that you're like, this would be a hard no for me, me, from the beginning, if I went back, like, anything that you learned that, like, this is a common thing people do for weddings. Someone was asking about the cringiest thing you've ever experienced, like, going to a wedding or seeing in wedding planning.

[Remy Cruz]

I'm not gonna say after being to a wedding, because obviously I love everybody's weddings, that I. Thank you for inviting me. Thank you for paying for me to attend your wedding. I would say, like, looking online, though, and, like, seeing people's. What? I feel bad saying that because I'm also someone who, like, does not like to yuck people's yums. And you paid the money then. Absolutely. Absolutely.

[Jordan Myrick]

Ah.

[Remy Cruz]

I'm gonna stick with that answer.

[Kendall Landrin]

That's good. I think that's perfect.

[Jordan Myrick]

That was actually a test, and you passed.

[Remy Cruz]

Oh, yeah.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah.

[Remy Cruz]

I'm nice.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah, I know. I feel like the only, like, really cringy thing is, like, weird, inappropriate family stuff. Do you know what I mean?

[Kendall Landrin]

No.

[Jordan Myrick]

Like, yeah, like, kind of like a family.

[Kendall Landrin]

Like the kids.

[Jordan Myrick]

No. Like, I've seen things where it's like, as the groom and the bride are coming down the aisle, like, the mom steps out and, like, hugs the boy. Very, like, boy mom energy. I feel like those are the wedding things that I've seen that have really made me.

[Kendall Landrin]

I've never seen that in person.

[Jordan Myrick]

No, no, no. Never seen that in person. I've only been, like, weddings. No, no. To be clear, we're not lying about you. Weird stuff with our mom. I haven't been to that many weddings either, but I've seen stuff like that online.

[Kendall Landrin]

We watch Four Weddings all the time.

[Jordan Myrick]

We watch Four Weddings a lot. I. I also think people wanting to act like they're richer than they are through their wedding, I do think that's a little cringy because I'm like, just live your life like, your wedding's your wedding. Do what you like. But when people are like, no, I'm really gonna, like, show off, I'm like, relax. You know what I mean? This isn't the Grammys. Like, it's your wedding. Just do what you like. Don't worry about, like, impressing people financially. Unless you are so rich and, like.

[Remy Cruz]

A duchess, like, when they have like Rihanna perform at their wedding. Was Ambani's when they had or like Beyonce. Yes, I understand.

[Jordan Myrick]

Sure. Yeah. But I'm like, you guys are like genuinely rich. Whatever. You're going to do what you want. But I think with you bringing up four weddings, I see a lot of people like that. They're like, I want my wedding to look super Lux, so I'm gluing rhinestones to everything so people will think it's diamonds or whatever. And I'm like, I don't think people are expecting your wedding to cover. Yeah, I'm like, like, it's just too rhinestone. Just be like, these are rhinestones and I like rhinestones. I don't know. Okay, this person wants to know what are the expectations of people in the wedding party? For example, how would you feel about a wedding party member missing your bachelor bachelorette party or missing a welcome dinner? Do you expect gifts from them? Would love to hear what you generally expect for them to do slash pay for.

[Remy Cruz]

Oh, good question. I expect you to show up to the wedding and bring the fun and just like hang out with me. That's truly all I've ever expected. I had my sister in law and my future sister in law couldn't make it to my bachelorette because my future sister in law's bachelorette was literally the same weekend. And my sister in law, my nephew's birthday was that weekend, so they couldn't make it. And I was like, well, obviously we both had our own bachelorettes. And like, we were so sad to miss each other, but like we facetimed each other. Like we literally got each other's like dinners and things so that we could like still be there to some degree. And yeah, there was like, there's no drama with it. Like, obviously people are busy. I've been feeling. I had, I did the bachelorette party and I also just recently had a bridal shower we saw and it was so amazing, so fun. My best friends killed it, but it was really. I just, I have a hard time accepting things from people or like again, expecting people to pay money for me where I'm like, I feel like I'm burdening you. So even them coming, I'm like, oh my God, you took a whole Saturday out of your day, like to come here. Like, this is crazy. So it's been like a lot to try and not feel badly about that. So I've been really trying, like my. I. I guess it's different for everybody. And like, it's so funny because I, for my Bridesmaids, I was like, oh, I don't want them to have to pay. Like, I was like, I'll do whatever so that other people don't have to pay. So for, like, my bridesmaids, I was like, I'll buy the dresses and I'll buy their shoes. Like, just like, give me your address and I'm just gonna ship it to you. Because, like, I. I don't want anyone to spend money on me. Especially people already spending money to, like, get gas to drive there or they're flying out or hotels. Like, it's already a lot to ask people. So that's my comfortability level. But also, I've been in weddings where my best friends keep reminding me. They're like, it's normal when you say yes to be a bridesmaid to buy your dress. But still, I'm just like, it's okay. Don't worry about it.

[Kendall Landrin]

Well, I think what's nice about weddings, it's the same way I feel about driving people to the airport where it's like, everyone, for the most part, their wedding comes as well, and you have to go do it. So it's kind of like, like. And I say the airport thing because we have, like, a group of friends where I feel like I'm so comfortable being like, you have to drive me to LAX because I've driven you to LAX 15 times and I don't feel as bad. But I think I would feel so bad asking just a random person who's never. I've never driven to LAX to drive me there. But I think you can rest knowing that, like, you're not. You're not the. You're going to have to go to all their weddings.

[Remy Cruz]

Great comparison. Yeah.

[Jordan Myrick]

You know, but I. I do think you are doing it the classy way. No, I agree.

[Kendall Landrin]

I think with the money stuff. That's very nice.

[Jordan Myrick]

I really do think if you have big expectations for your brid and you have money, especially if people of your wedding party don't have money.

[Remy Cruz]

Yes.

[Jordan Myrick]

I think that paying for the things is the way to go. I think if we were having a wedding, I would be paying for all these things that we were doing. Because I think it just. It is an event for you. I think to me, sometimes it feels like inviting people to your birthday party and then venmoing them and being like, hey, can you give me insane whatever, like, money for, like, the soda at my birthday? Do you know what I mean? Because it's not a group event. It's not like, especially because you can.

[Kendall Landrin]

Say no, but you can't. It's like, if your best friend is like, I'm having a wedding, will you be my bridesmaid?

[Remy Cruz]

Yeah.

[Kendall Landrin]

It's like, you can't say no. You have to say no. So it's like an option, but you can't.

[Jordan Myrick]

And you can't. It's so weird to be like, I want to say yes, but I have to say no because I can't afford it. And then what? Your friend is just like, that sucks. Like, I don't know. It's just like, that doesn't feel realistic to me. So for me personally, once again, someone who's not having a wedding, but I do have a million friends. And I will say that I think that if you are a lower income person and your wedding is going to be really familial, whatever, have it feel really communal, have it feel like a potluck, have it feel like, have. I know, like in Pittsburgh, they do the cookie table where like, everybody brings different types of cookies. And that's like a big Pittsburgh tradition that I've heard about. I think things like that are so nice. I think, like, don't hesitate to ask people to contribute in a nice, reasonable way. I think now people have gotten where they're like, you have to get a dress, but these are the dresses, and the dresses are $2,000 each. You have to come to my bridal party. But we're going to Abu Dhabi and we're going to be there for two weeks. And it's like, it's too much.

[Remy Cruz]

It's like, we need to get back to the core of what a wedding is. And I'm like, I have been really trying to remember that throughout everything. Like, I'm excited for the party aspect. I'm excited for all, like, the dec. Like, to see it all come together. At the end of the day, it's just two people who want to get married. Like, that's truly all that matters at the end of it. But I agree. I think we need to, like, manage expectations. I have literally, I just don't want drama. And like, even my Bachelorette, I was like, oh, my God, there's a lot of people. Like, I hope there's no drama. It was amazing. It's like, so much love, so much excitement, and that was. That was it. Like, it was my dream. So I'm hoping for the wedding and I believe it because it's like, who we surround ourselves with. There's no drama. It's just fun. We're just having a good Time. And that's all that matters.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah. And I think you enhance people's ability to do that when you take the financial stressors out of it. Yeah. Once again, if I'm paying to go to Abu Dhabi for two weeks, I'm gonna have a lot of thoughts. I'm gonna have a lot of feelings if you're paying for me to go to Abu Dhabi for two weeks.

[Kendall Landrin]

No thoughts, no feelings. No thoughts, no feelings.

[Jordan Myrick]

I'm just a beanie baby, essentially. I'm cute and I'm there for the ride.

[Remy Cruz]

A sunny angel on a phone.

[Jordan Myrick]

Exactly. 100%. All right, I think we have time for about one more question, and let me see what that is. This person wants to know, what are ideas for fun on your wedding day? Say if you find the traditional wedding kind of boring. So, like, maybe let's say you're not into dancing or you're not going to have a traditional ceremony. Is there anything that you would say feels like a fun, unique thing, maybe that y' all are doing or that you've seen before at a wedding?

[Remy Cruz]

I'm gonna be honest. We're actually, like, I'm more traditional than I thought that I would be. In regards to, like, the bridal party. The, like, walking down the, like, all those things. I guess I've been leaning more. I don't know if it's necessarily, like, what I want or just like, oh, this is what people do, and I like it.

[Kendall Landrin]

Yeah.

[Remy Cruz]

But I. I don't know if I have any specific ideas, because I do think it's going to be a decently traditional wedding. We will be blacking out. You will be blocking.

[Kendall Landrin]

You're going to. Okay, that's uncommon. I feel like people get like, I'm not gonna drink on my wedding.

[Remy Cruz]

Oh, I will be. Well, I hope I don't black out, because I want to remember. But, like, I will be. I will say we're doing it, though. It's so funny. I, like, knew this, but then when I looked at the website, it literally goes from like, 4pm till 2am like, on the time. And I'm like, oh, I forgot we're going till 2:00am I, like, we need to. We do need to pace ourselves. But the after party is going to be on site, and that's from 10pm to 2am and people can come and go. I will be there till 2am I will be there because I'm get my money's worth. Yeah. But I, I. And I think during that time is when I can start actually, like, drinking and like letting loose. So I'm like, that's the time, I think, where I'm gonna really, really have fun. But other than that, like, yeah, I don't really have anything to add.

[Kendall Landrin]

Do you guys know that's gonna be so fun. I was gonna say on the drinking thing, because people have been like, oh, I'm not gonna drink at my wedding. If I had a wedding, I would do the exact same thing. I would have to drink and I even supposed to drink because I have lupus. But I would, I would take, I would, I would do it because if I don't drink, I would be. It's so much socialization. By 8pm I would be in the bathroom playing a game on my phone, being like, no one talk to me.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yes, you got to have a little go go juice.

[Kendall Landrin]

And if I. But if I have had some alcohol, I'll be like, I.

[Remy Cruz]

That's so she'll. Exactly. I'm like, I think I'll have, have like a, a couple drink, three drinks during like up until the night time and then boom, let's go. Right?

[Jordan Myrick]

Two drinks.

[Remy Cruz]

I'll say too.

[Jordan Myrick]

I'm obsessed with having someone draw you in any capacity. I've. We've been to a couple events where there's a person there doing like a watercolor of you or like someone's doing like a one minute portrait or whatever where they draw like you as a couple in one minute. And I've seen people with caricature artists too. I think that's wrong. Don't do that. But other than that, like you could hire a nice local artist. Literally. I have one of my best friends from high school is getting married and he's talking potentially to my cousin about doing this of just having like a nice local artist because she's an artist come to your wedding and just do like little 1 minute watercolors or whatever of your guests.

[Kendall Landrin]

People keep those forever.

[Remy Cruz]

And that's a good favor to take home.

[Jordan Myrick]

It's a good favor because you want to. You'll take it, you'll post on social media, whatever. It's like good promotion for the artist. It's a thing people actually want. I think it's really, really a nice thing to do. Now I do have one mini question. I know I said that was the last question, but someone asked and since you're having such an incredible after party, they wanted to know if it is acceptable to only INV some people to their afterparty.

[Remy Cruz]

Oh, I.

[Jordan Myrick]

No, right.

[Remy Cruz]

No, because like, how do you handle that too? Like A secret party fold. It's like.

[Kendall Landrin]

And you just invite the people you think would be fun.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yes, it's super. So if you're like, I think that's fine, but Aunt Diane, we love you.

[Kendall Landrin]

But you're just not a very good dancer. Like that's so rough.

[Remy Cruz]

You have auditions for who can come to the party or not. I will say I. I'm also aware though that I like it kind of like weddings naturally. They kind of like people wean off. Like the older people go home. So like it is the party people that stay as it is. So.

[Kendall Landrin]

Right.

[Remy Cruz]

I do think that's mean.

[Kendall Landrin]

It's.

[Jordan Myrick]

But it's self selecting. You feel like. So it's like you don't even need to worry about it. They'll fall off.

[Remy Cruz]

Absolutely. My parents will not be going till 2am as much as I would love for them to, they just won't. So.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah. But if you're just trying to have your brother's wife not be there because she's a bitch, I do think you ultimately have to invite her. I'm sorry.

[Kendall Landrin]

And she is a good dancer. So just undercover.

[Jordan Myrick]

And she is a bitch. Whatever. Get over it.

[Remy Cruz]

Do the splits.

[Kendall Landrin]

Let her do the split. There's always one.

[Jordan Myrick]

Exactly.

[Remy Cruz]

It's gonna be me.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yeah.

[Remy Cruz]

I will be doing the split.

[Kendall Landrin]

Can you.

[Jordan Myrick]

Well, I can't wait to see the photos of it. Of all of it, but especially the splits.

[Remy Cruz]

The splits.

[Kendall Landrin]

Thank you. Oh, I'm so sorry.

[Jordan Myrick]

What? You wanna ask more about the split?

[Kendall Landrin]

One more question. No question. It's actually two weeks away that we're with you at such a monumental time in your life.

[Jordan Myrick]

It's really exciting. We're so excited for you.

[Kendall Landrin]

What are you like, what are you feeling right now? Like two weeks out? How are you doing?

[Remy Cruz]

Good. I will say I think what's good is I keep myself busy. So I like, I really have not had. I've had a couple crash outs. Let me be honest. I did cry recently because an outfit didn't fit. And I was like, I know this is not the outfit not fitting.

[Jordan Myrick]

This is.

[Remy Cruz]

That happens a lot. This is something more than that. But I think that it was just a lot of stress. But I'm excited. I'm like, again, things are gonna get done. It's gonna be amazing. I hope my wedding planner is gonna be okay. He is. But I know that's the top of.

[Jordan Myrick]

The Jason pulling for you.

[Remy Cruz]

I know that's my main thing that I'm worried about. Just. But other than that, like, I'm really excited. And again, I'm just excited to, like, hang out with Cal all day. Truly, like, that's what I'm okay.

[Kendall Landrin]

So no cold feet?

[Remy Cruz]

No cold feet.

[Kendall Landrin]

Okay.

[Remy Cruz]

Yeah. All good. We're. I will be there and hopefully he'll be there too.

[Jordan Myrick]

Well, congratulations to both of you. We are so excited to see everything that comes out of the wedding. I know it's going to be so cool and you're going to have so much fun. So we're so, so happy for you. Where can people find you if they don't already know about how amazing you are?

[Remy Cruz]

Oh, my gosh. Thank you. I am. Okay, So I am Ms. Remy Ashton on socials, but you guys let me know. I've held Mrs. Rami Ash as a handle for a long time and I thought, what if I do a little switcheroo the day after the wedding?

[Jordan Myrick]

I think it's nice. I think it's cute. I think you should do it.

[Remy Cruz]

Honestly though, yesterday I was like, it's a funny bit, but like, at what point do I stop laughing? Like, is that is like, how long does it go for? So potentially miss Maybe misses Look up both when this comes out. I have a podcast, pretty basic podcast called Basically Unfiltered. You can find me on YouTube. Ms. Remy Ashton or Mrs. And Rim Life.

[Kendall Landrin]

Oh, my gosh.

[Jordan Myrick]

Incredible. Well, thank you again so much for doing the episode.

[Remy Cruz]

We're gonna har go soon.

[Jordan Myrick]

Yes. Y you get married. I have a lot of things I'm gonna take you out to do.

[Remy Cruz]

No, I'm really excited.

[Jordan Myrick]

It's gonna be great. All right. And thank you so much for watching this podcast. As you know, this is a fully independently created and made podcast that Kendall and I fully pay for ourselves. So if you're a fan, join our patreon. Like, Comment, Subscribe. Follow us on all the social media platforms.

[Kendall Landrin]

This is our guilting part of the podcast.

[Remy Cruz]

I love it.

[Kendall Landrin]

Just guilt.

[Jordan Myrick]

Sorry, we were really hard work. It's just us and John here.

[Remy Cruz]

Let's go, John.

[Jordan Myrick]

All right, well, thanks again and have a wonderful Monday.

[Remy Cruz]

Bye.

[Jordan Myrick]

Bye.

[Kendall Landrin]

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