Episode Summary: "You SHOULD Break Up" feat. Drew Afualo

Podcast: Happy Wife, Happy Life
Hosts: Kendahl Landreth & Jordan Myrick
Date: February 23, 2026
Guest: Drew Afualo

Episode Overview

This episode sees Kendahl and Jordan joined by social media powerhouse Drew Afualo to tackle the burning question: "Should you break up with your partner?" Mixing sharp wit, candid personal anecdotes, and relationship "expertise" (the kind that comes from actual lived experience and being very online), the trio discusses why breakups aren’t an inherently negative thing and answers listener questions about relationship red flags, couple’s friendships, and Valentine’s Day drama. The episode sets a playful, empowering tone, emphasizing agency, mutual respect, and the idea that sometimes, breaking up is the healthiest route forward.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

Guest Introduction & Credentials

• Drew Afualo is praised as a multi-talented force: author, social media personality, podcast host, and actor.
• [00:54] Drew, on being a New York Times bestselling author: "I should wield it way more...but I just tell people I make fun of dudes on the Internet."
• Humorous take on how older generations are most concerned about income rather than the nature of internet careers ([01:49]).

Qualifying the Unqualified – On Giving Breakup Advice

• The hosts and Drew joke about being “deeply unqualified” relationship advisors while simultaneously asserting experience through their own happy unions and histories with being dumped ([02:44], [02:53]).
• Drew: "I've never been dumped...does it count if it just kind of fades on its own?" ([02:53])

Why They're Pro-Breakup & Pro-Divorce

• [03:42] Jordan: "We're very pro-breakup, pro-divorce."
• [03:51] Drew: "I think it's bad to encourage people to stay in an unhealthy, unhappy situation."
• Discussion on sunk cost fallacy, acceptance, and the myth that time invested means you should keep going ([03:59]).
• Practical takes on the costs and logistics of divorce, including the idea some people stay legally married just to avoid paperwork ([04:09]).

On Marriage, Prenups, and Relationship Practicalities

• Drew and the hosts share their perspectives on long-term commitment, marriage, and financial fairness.
• [05:46] Drew, critiquing the pageantry of marriage: "For people who don't believe in divorce, you guys offer marriage so easily."
• All express the belief that commitment is key, and if divorce were to ever happen, they'd walk away cleanly without bitterness: "Take what you brought into the marriage and just never want to see you again." ([06:47])
• A team mentality towards finances, taking into account fluctuations in earnings and supporting each other during lean times ([08:04]).
• The importance of living together before marriage: “I cannot believe people get engaged and they've never lived together. Insane, sick.” ([08:37])

Fighting Conspiracy & Fan Theories (with Humor)

• The hosts and Drew recount bizarre fan conspiracies—claims that Kendahl and Jordan aren’t really lesbians, or that Drew is a "Nepo baby" whose dad paid for her TikTok fame ([09:44]-[14:41]).
• [14:54] Drew, on TikTok success for women of color: “Famously, it’s extremely easy in general for women of color to get attention in this industry.” (sarcastic)
• The group laughs about speculation over Drew's fashion choices and comments about her being pregnant due to wearing oversized t-shirts, despite repeatedly saying she doesn’t want kids ([16:49]-[17:22]).

On Social Media, Authenticity, and Dealing with Rudeness

• Experiences with social climbing and people targeting the more popular partner in a couple ([12:02]).
• Jordan: "Why do you think someone would like you being rude to their partner?" ([12:14])
• Drew shares stories of dealing with objectification and negative comments online.

Religion, Upbringing, and Skepticism

• The trio muses about growing up in religious environments, the performativity of devotionals, and their personal agnosticism ([18:20]-[21:03]).
• Drew: “Imagine if it would be like, oh, I'm gonna live my life based off Moby Dick.”

Listener Questions & Advice

1. The Flirtatious Trader Joe’s Boyfriend ([24:42]-[45:04])

• Scenario: Listener wonders if she should break up with her boyfriend—a Trader Joe’s employee—who flirts on the job.
• Key Insight: Flirtation vs. Friendliness hinges on intention.
  • Drew: "Men don’t know how to flirt unintentionally...if they're flirting, it's intentional and it's on purpose for something or someone.” ([27:16])
• Advice: If it bothers you and has for a year, break up—whether it’s his flirting or your feeling about it. Either way, it’s not working.
  • Jordan: “Either he's flirting, and that bothers you, or he’s not and you need to take some time on your own.” ([44:48])
  • Drew: “If you're writing into a podcast, mama, we got a bigger problem.” ([45:23])

2. Breaking Up with Another Couple ([54:55]-[64:10])

• Scenario: Listener wants to “break up” with another couple (husband's co-worker and wife) because they’re annoying.
• “Just keep saying no, make something up every single time until they just stop asking.” ([56:48], Drew)
• The hosts and Drew acknowledge ghosting in friendships is sometimes necessary, especially when social signals are being ignored.
  • Drew: “There’s, like, cues. We've come up with humans to, like, initiate that without having to do that." ([57:34])
• Women are expected to stomach uncomfortable social situations more than men (“Every road leads back to misogyny,” [57:55]), and it’s okay to not take responsibility for everyone’s feelings ([59:17]).
• Splitting off from your partner for different social activities is healthy: “If your husband enjoys himself, by all means.” ([63:41], Drew)

3. Long-Distance and Valentine’s Day Gifting ([65:10]-[73:19])

• Scenario: Listener in a long-distance relationship sent a rose and chocolates, but received nothing for V-Day.
• Wait for the full day before making assumptions—timing and expectations matter ([66:05]).
• Importance of communicating which holidays matter to you and what you expect for them: “You have to get on that same level with your partner.” ([66:47], Jordan)
• Caution about unlabelled relationships on holidays: “If they're treating you like a partner, but you have no label, you're just doing charity work.” ([68:00], Drew)
• On meaningful gifting: “Intimacy in relationships is in the seeing and the noticing.” ([71:53], Drew)
• As relationships evolve, gifts shift from things to experiences or disposables due to space and practicality ([72:58]).

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• [03:51] Drew: "Just because you lost five years doesn’t mean you can’t gain the next 10 back."
• [06:47] Drew: “Whatever we brought in is what we take out. Anything we start together, after, split down the middle.”
• [15:21] Kendahl: “I have comments all the time...someone was like, ‘Kendall already spoke about this months ago—she’s sick with cancer.’ ...I’m not, to be clear.”
• [33:10] Drew: "Men humiliate themselves willingly and for free every single day. Treat them accordingly."
• [34:33] Drew: “It truly is decentering them entirely. Making peace with being alone...If a man accessorizes your life, great. If not, you’re still fulfilled.”
• [36:28] Drew: “Loneliness is not the problem. But you, it’s. You’re not alone. Those are two different things.”
• [39:02] Drew: "Only respecting women you're attracted to isn’t respecting women."
• [43:47] Drew: "Your man will never feel bad about you being better at something than him if he doesn’t already believe he’s better than you."
• [45:23] Drew/Jordan: "If you’re writing into a podcast, it's already, mama, we got a bigger problem."
• [57:55] Drew: “Every road leads back to misogyny. Women are expected to stomach [uncomfortable social situations].”
• [66:47] Jordan: “You have to get on the same page early on in a relationship about what holidays matter to you and how you express that.”

The Throuple Bracket & Guest Pitch ([75:09]-[81:45])

As a playful closing, Drew is invited to pitch herself as the theoretical "third" in Kendahl and Jordan's relationship throuple bracket.

• Drew: “I would add diversity to the group...I make really good money. I have a very healthy dose of fear inside men.”
• Matching shoe sizes is a plus ([76:09]), and extensive star sign discussion ensures comedic compatibility.
• Drew’s pitch also includes: “I come with a good man, a quiet man that we can make lift things.”
• Ultimately, Drew wins this round of the throuple bracket, edging out the season’s previous guest, Ash Perez.

Timestamps for Important Segments

• 00:35 – 02:34: Guest intro, Drew’s multifaceted internet career
• 03:42 – 04:54: Pro breakup/divorce, sunk cost fallacy
• 05:46 – 08:43: Nuanced prenup and marriage talk
• 09:44 – 14:41: Conspiracy theories and internet myths
• 24:42 – 45:04: Trader Joe’s boyfriend: flirting or friendly? Advice on trust and breaking up
• 54:55 – 64:10: How to "break up" with another couple
• 65:10 – 73:19: Long-distance and Valentine’s Day expectations, meaningful gifting
• 75:09 – 81:45: Throuple bracket: Drew’s pitch and astrology rapid-fire

Tonal Highlights

• The tone is irreverent, direct, and empowering; full of sarcasm, camaraderie, and hard-won wisdom.
• The speakers celebrate loving relationships but never shy away from the realities of breakups, boundaries, and setting higher standards.
• Humor is a key vehicle for making difficult social and emotional dynamics less intimidating.

Conclusion

This episode of “Happy Wife, Happy Life” is a must-listen for anyone wrestling with the question “Should I break up?” The trio delivers both laughter and clarity, encouraging listeners to ditch the shame around quitting a bad relationship, advocate for themselves, and embrace the joys of independence. Their signature blend of warmth and tough love ensures you’ll walk away with practical tools, a few savage one-liners, and the reminder that sometimes, yes, you absolutely should break up.