Episode Summary: "We Upset You...And We're NOT Sorry"
Release Date: December 2, 2024
In the episode titled "We Upset You...And We're NOT Sorry," hosts Kendahl Landreth and Jordan Myrick of the podcast Happy Wife Happy Life confront and respond to hate comments and criticisms from their audience. This episode delves into the challenges of handling negative feedback, personal insecurities, and the dynamics of their relationship, all wrapped in their characteristic humor and candidness.
1. Introduction to the Episode
The episode kicks off with Kendahl expressing her nervousness about reading hate comments live for the first time:
[00:55] Kendahl Landrin: "I'm a little nervous. I don't know what any of these are."
Jordan attempts to lighten the mood by reassuring Kendahl and the audience about the nature of their fans:
[01:08] Jordan Myrick: "What bothers me about this comment is that, first of all, it's not talking about what we're talking about. If someone said, 'I'm shy, how do I meet people?' there's lots of answers."
2. Addressing Personal Insecurities and Anxiety
The hosts delve into their personal insecurities, particularly focusing on intelligence and anxiety. Kendahl shares her fears of being perceived as unintelligent based on past criticisms:
[01:59] Kendahl Landrin: "I can be insecure about my intelligence, so I think I worry. I have seen comments on, like, my other podcasts where people are like, 'She's so dumb.'"
In contrast, Jordan maintains a more resilient stance regarding criticisms:
[02:28] Jordan Myrick: "Nothing could make me upset at this point."
3. Reading and Responding to Hate Comments
The core of the episode revolves around reading and addressing hate comments from platforms like Spotify and YouTube.
a. Shyness and Dating Women
A significant portion of the discussion centers on a Spotify comment criticizing their take on shyness related to dating women. Jordan defends their perspective by emphasizing that shyness should not be equated with fear or abnormality:
[05:00] Jordan Myrick: "If you're shy, say I'm shy. Women aren't scary. If you feel scared by women, something's going on with you."
Kendahl adds her thoughts on conflict avoidance and personal growth:
[10:19] Kendahl Landrin: "I think it's conflict avoidance. Being mad at me saying that is equating people who act like women aren't normal... that's as much an attack on their identity as it is on us."
b. Conflict Avoidance vs. People Pleasing
The hosts explore the nuances between being conflict avoidant and people-pleasing, discussing how these traits affect relationships and personal well-being.
[12:40] Jordan Myrick: "Most people are conflict avoidant. Most people don't want to have conflict."
[13:05] Kendahl Landrin: "If you're letting your anxiety get the best of you, and you're putting down your feelings, that's not people pleasing. That's conflict avoidance."
c. Lesbians and Sexual Identity Policing
A recurring theme is the policing of lesbian identities within the LGBTQ+ community, where comments question the authenticity of one's sexuality based on personal preferences or attractions.
[24:43] Kendahl Landrin: "If you've been with men before, you can't be a lesbian? That's so bizarre."
[32:05] Jordan Myrick: "Lesbians just don't meet the right men. It's so unfair and invalidating."
4. Coping with Grief Through Humor
A poignant segment addresses the passing of Kendahl's father. The hosts use humor to cope with their grief, discussing where to place her father's urn amidst their collection of tchotchkes.
[53:20] Kendall Landrin: "I would put him on the center of our console... underneath our TV. It felt like he was watching us have sex."
Jordan shares their internal joke about not wanting to move his Furby:
[54:02] Jordan Myrick: "Don't fucking move my Furby. The Furby doesn't move."
This humorous yet heartfelt discussion highlights their mutual support and coping mechanisms in dealing with loss.
5. Community and Online Interaction
Kendahl and Jordan discuss the impact of online negativity and the importance of maintaining a supportive community. They address the difference between real-life interactions and online behavior, emphasizing that most people are supportive and kind in person.
[21:58] Jordan Myrick: "There's so much internalized misogyny in the way people deal with us on the Internet."
Kendahl reassures listeners about the authenticity of their relationships and the importance of fostering positive interactions:
[24:50] Jordan Myrick: "That's wild that you're scared of the haters. I think the people listening to this love our podcast and love us."
6. Encouraging Positive Engagement
Towards the end of the episode, Kendahl and Jordan encourage listeners to leave positive comments and support their podcast. They acknowledge that responding to hate comments can be cathartic and stress the importance of community support.
[57:25] Kendall Landrin: "Criticism is not what we have a problem with. I have about 80 comments to prove."
[58:07] Jordan Myrick: "We love you. Thank you so much for watching the podcast. You're wonderful."
Notable Quotes with Timestamps
- [01:59] Kendall Landrin: "I can be insecure about my intelligence..."
- [05:00] Jordan Myrick: "If you're shy, say I'm shy. Women aren't scary."
- [10:19] Kendahl Landrin: "I think it's conflict avoidance..."
- [24:43] Kendahl Landrin: "If you've been with men before, you can't be a lesbian?"
- [54:02] Jordan Myrick: "Don't fucking move my Furby..."
- [57:25] Kendall Landrin: "Criticism is not what we have a problem with..."
- [58:07] Jordan Myrick: "We love you. Thank you so much for watching the podcast. You're wonderful."
Conclusion
In "We Upset You...And We're NOT Sorry," Kendahl Landrin and Jordan Myrick offer a candid exploration of handling online hate, personal insecurities, and relationship dynamics. Through humor and vulnerability, they address complex issues within the LGBTQ+ community, promote self-acceptance, and foster a sense of resilience against negativity. This episode serves as both a therapeutic outlet for the hosts and a source of solidarity for listeners navigating similar challenges.