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Mike Birbiglia
Lemonade.
Hassan Minhaj
We did a show together.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah.
Hassan Minhaj
At Andrew Air Force Base.
Mike Birbiglia
Oh, I remember that one.
Hassan Minhaj
Yes.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah.
Hassan Minhaj
So there's a photo in your podcast studio of us.
Mike Birbiglia
This is true.
Hassan Minhaj
Me, you, John Mulaney. I think it's David Letterman.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah.
Hassan Minhaj
Jon Stewart.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah.
Hassan Minhaj
Barack Obama, Michelle Obama, Joe Biden and Jill Biden.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah.
Hassan Minhaj
They're all in this photo.
Mike Birbiglia
Yep.
Hassan Minhaj
It is not AI Generated.
Mike Birbiglia
No, that's real.
Hassan Minhaj
What do you remember about that day?
Mike Birbiglia
I mean, shaking hands with the Bidens and the. The Obamas was quick for me, at least. I don't know about you.
Hassan Minhaj
No, it was very quick.
Mike Birbiglia
It was, you know, barely even anything. The set was good. Performing for military folks is fun.
Hassan Minhaj
No, they were great.
Mike Birbiglia
They're good audiences. Yes. Like, you know, whenever I've done USO shows, like, they're always great audiences. And then what was funny is we were waiting in, like, a line for a long time, and Mulaney brought John Mulaney brought his dad. And I watched his dad just walk up to tall, bearded David Letterman and just be like, you look like Abraham Lincoln.
Hassan Minhaj
Mulaney said this to David Letterman?
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah.
Hassan Minhaj
Oh, that's really funny.
Mike Birbiglia
And Letterman started laughing because, like, everyone. All of us were, like, afraid of.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah, everybody. All the comics were whispering. So Chip Mulaney, John's dad. And then my dad also walked up to David Letter.
Mike Birbiglia
Oh, he did too.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
What did your dad.
Hassan Minhaj
So he had a great question, actually. Everybody's always talking about. And the reason why I wanted to talk to you about this is everybody has an embarrassing story about their dad. Obviously, your new special Good Life talks about your dad. I think Najmi asked him an amazing question, and he was like, who was your favorite president to interview?
Mike Birbiglia
Oh, that's a good question.
Hassan Minhaj
David Letterman was like, that's a really interesting question. And I'm watching this. Like, I'm watching this on the wide through my monitor, which is my eyes, and I'm like, how the fuck is this happening? Yeah, he just. Najmi Minaj beelines to David Letterman, and he's like, hey, man, who was your favorite president to interview? And he goes, you know, that's a really good question. I don't. Golly, you know, Barack Obama was really great. And he goes, you didn't interview Nixon. My dad was like, how could you? It has to be Nixon. Richard Nixon. And he's like, I think I met Nixon, but I don't know if I interviewed him on the show, but I would have loved to. And, yeah, they got to just chat, and then it Was all of a sudden became Peanuts. Voices, like, I couldn't. I couldn't discern the conversation. But my dad was. How could it not be Richard Nixon?
Mike Birbiglia
In some ways, that's what the special is about. When you see your parent being, like, a person.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
You're like, right, They're a person.
Hassan Minhaj
Yes.
Mike Birbiglia
Like, your dad had a good question.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah, totally. And I think he did that thing where I think he really did act on it, which is shoot your shot. Yeah, shoot your shot, man.
Mike Birbiglia
I know.
Hassan Minhaj
And he did.
Mike Birbiglia
My mom gave me that piece of advice once. Once where I told her that I saw Steven Spielberg at a party.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
And she goes, well, did you talk to him? I go, no. She goes. This classic, like, parent logic. She goes, you direct movies, too? Of course you should talk to him. You direct movies, too?
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
I go, yeah, I guess you're right. I mean, obviously with caveats. And so the next time I saw him, I went up to him because I had my mom in my head.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
Hey, I wanted to ask you one question because I've directed some. Two small movies, and I was wondering, you know, I have a daughter and a little girl, and. And how did you raise kids and be a dad and direct these movies at the same time?
Hassan Minhaj
Right.
Mike Birbiglia
This detailed answer about how he brought his kids on location and the kids got to see the world and all this kind of stuff.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
It's a big credit to my mom that she gave me that advice.
Hassan Minhaj
But you really asked, like, a Reddit AMA question, though.
Mike Birbiglia
I did.
Hassan Minhaj
Oh, man.
Mike Birbiglia
I think that's a decent question.
Hassan Minhaj
No, I was going to pitch you an alt.
Mike Birbiglia
What do you.
Hassan Minhaj
Basically, this is the MJ scenario. Okay. Michael Jordan's there.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah. Michael Jordan's there.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah. You're in Italy and MJ's doing what he's doing. He's got. His eyes have jaundice, and he's got the cigar. You're gonna, you know, walk up to MJ or not. This is my thing.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah.
Hassan Minhaj
Is. And I've always felt this. Even, you know, this coming from comedy. If you're at an open mic and you're gonna go walk up to Carlin or whoever Chris Rock or whoever that person is, I think you have to have two. It's two critical things.
Mike Birbiglia
Okay.
Hassan Minhaj
You either have to have, like, a great piece of archival story footage or something to share.
Mike Birbiglia
That's smart.
Hassan Minhaj
That's unique. It has to be something that. Like that. You ever seen those?
Mike Birbiglia
Meaningful to them.
Hassan Minhaj
Meaningful to them. You ever seen those YouTube videos of Nardoir? Like, that kind of, like.
Mike Birbiglia
Yes. Bizarre. I like the Nardo journalist, but he.
Hassan Minhaj
Always gives everybody from, like. Yeah. The creator to Nikki Glazer, like, here's your seventh grade yearbook photo. And people are like, what the fuck? You got to have a Nardoir level. Archival.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah. Okay, smart.
Hassan Minhaj
Or you have to have the question that basically my dad asked me, which is, like, a very specific question that they haven't been asked at the 92nd Street Y.
Mike Birbiglia
That's right. But mine, I think my. I think mine's okay in that it's personal.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
It's like, I'm a director and I'm a dad. Yeah, you're a director and you're a dad. You're an icon. But, like, how do you do that? That seems hard because that was one of the hard things about directing movies is you just go, your life is gone. People who direct movies, it's like, for that period of time they're directing, they're just shells of themselves.
Hassan Minhaj
What would you say that total window was? Like a year and a half?
Mike Birbiglia
You were like, yes. Sort of. Yeah. Like you give over your body and soul till. Well, at least. At least six months to a year. I would say.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
Because the pre. Production. Production and the post, you're just, like, completely consumed.
Hassan Minhaj
I'll tell you this, man. I went to the special, so the special is now streaming. It's called the Good Life. And I watched the special. And this is a very rare thing, but I think it's a unique gift you have. Watching playback of the special was better than watching it in the room.
Mike Birbiglia
Oh, wow.
Hassan Minhaj
And you usually always experience the inverse, which is like. Oh, you have no idea what it was like that night. It was electric that night. It actually translated even better.
Mike Birbiglia
My director, Seth Barish, and our designer, Beowulf Parritt, and Aaron Kopp, our lighting designer, we actually. We designed it for the screen.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
Because the past shows have been off Broadway and on Broadway, and that's really for the audience because, like, 100,000, 200,000 people are ultimately gonna see the thing in person. In this case, it's like 18,000 people are gonna see it live, and then millions of people are gonna see it on tv. So we're like, okay, let's build it for the screen.
Hassan Minhaj
And is that the idea also by just designing that beautiful. Almost like.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah, the painting.
Hassan Minhaj
Painting, yeah. Rockwell means like, Horton Hears a who Meets.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah, it was.
Hassan Minhaj
It was Bob Ross type of, like, idyllic vibe.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah. And it was crazy because the. The painter. The actual painter was this woman Named Irina Portna Gina, who flew in from Ukraine or Eastern Europe to. To just paint it for a month. It's an actual canvas painting.
Hassan Minhaj
Oh, my God.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah. We cut it into pieces and it's. We're gonna auction off the pieces and I'm gonna put some of them on my wall and.
Hassan Minhaj
No, it's gorgeous. It's so textured and beautiful and gorgeous.
Mike Birbiglia
I mean, we came up with that idea of walking through it.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
Like, what if I walked through it? Because the audience can't really tell the depth. The depth. Yeah. So that's fun. Like, that's like. That's one of the more fun parts.
Hassan Minhaj
Of the job was that by design, too, where you were. Like, the backdrop itself will also be 16 by 9. Like, it's going to actually be framed beautifully, too.
Mike Birbiglia
Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Hassan Minhaj
In your master.
Mike Birbiglia
Our cinematographer is this guy Graham Willoughby, who's brilliant. And we had so many scouts for this. I mean, it was like a film shoot.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
Whereas most comedy specials, it's like, no, we're just going to go get it right on that day.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah, yeah. You're capturing it that night. And it's interesting.
Mike Birbiglia
Like, there's so many specials right now where it's like, there's. It's like a no budget special. And some of them are great.
Hassan Minhaj
Totally.
Mike Birbiglia
You know what I mean? Like, you look at, like, Shane Gillis's one that has 40 million views. It's on YouTube, and it's just like kind of feels like a camera in the back of the room at a comedy club.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
And you just go, well, great.
Hassan Minhaj
Well, what's interesting about that is also when I first started stand up was 2004, so YouTube comes out in 2005. And there were videos on the Internet from. On YouTube from. Invite them up. This Eugene Merman. So I'm in Sacramento. I'm in Sacramento, California, and I'm basically seeing your generation of comedians kind of take over New York City.
Mike Birbiglia
That's crazy.
Hassan Minhaj
And that, to me, was the first articulation of what the form is.
Mike Birbiglia
Wow, that's really cool.
Hassan Minhaj
Even. Even more than what, like, what was happening on Comedy Central, like, the Comedy Central Presents. I was like, actually, what I'm seeing In these, like, YouTube videos articulates what the form actually is more than. I don't know what the fuck. This game show.
Mike Birbiglia
Right.
Hassan Minhaj
Half hour special thing.
Mike Birbiglia
No, I know what you mean. Yeah. I remember. Invite them up. So. Well, it was a seminal downtown show.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
Mulaney, Kroll, Aziz.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
Like, a lot of great people out of there.
Hassan Minhaj
So what's interesting is, like, some of the stuff that I'm seeing now on YouTube, I'm like, oh, this is just similar to that.
Mike Birbiglia
Oh, yeah.
Hassan Minhaj
The feeling is that like the same.
Mike Birbiglia
The thing that's, I think, the most exciting thing about comedy, like, at this moment. I always try to tell young comics this is like anything could be anything. Because of YouTube.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
YouTube is as big as Netflix.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah, sure.
Mike Birbiglia
YouTube is bigger than Netflix.
Hassan Minhaj
Bigger than Netflix.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah. The reach is infinite, basically. Yeah. Any amount of people in the world.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
So. And the camera technology is so cheap. You know, my phone has a better camera. We were filming Specials with in 2005.
Hassan Minhaj
That's crazy.
Mike Birbiglia
I did my half hour special 20 years ago.
Hassan Minhaj
Right.
Mike Birbiglia
It's better. The quality is better.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah, yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
So it's like you can do anything. Like, if you're a great comic, live comic, and you film a special and put it up, you have a shot of it hitting like a zillion people.
Hassan Minhaj
True.
Mike Birbiglia
More people than on Netflix. More people than any HBO or anything.
Hassan Minhaj
That's a great point. And one of the things I also want to just give you credit for is you're one of the first acts that taught me, if you're going to do a show, what's the point?
Mike Birbiglia
Right?
Hassan Minhaj
And everybody, I think this is. This is your sixth Netflix. Yeah, six kind of.
Mike Birbiglia
Oh, yeah. Theater show, basically.
Hassan Minhaj
Theater. Yeah. Okay. I would say this, like, love him, hate him. The. If Mike Birbiglia has a show up in New York City, you have to see it.
Mike Birbiglia
That's funny.
Hassan Minhaj
No, because of. What. What's the point? What's the. What is it?
Mike Birbiglia
Right, right. What's this one about? Sure.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah. What's this one about?
Mike Birbiglia
That's. So.
Hassan Minhaj
Which actually, like, to your lovers and detractors is like, hey, well, you gotta see it.
Mike Birbiglia
Right.
Hassan Minhaj
I think you also need to add that as an addendum to the piece of advice to the comics.
Mike Birbiglia
Right.
Hassan Minhaj
Which is like, with your iPhone 16 Max Pro, you can shoot literally anything. But may I also advise you, it would be great if there's a.
Mike Birbiglia
It would be great if it was.
Hassan Minhaj
About, you know, it doesn't have to.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah.
Hassan Minhaj
You're one of the people. Careers that I look at where I was like, man, that's an incredible career to have.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah. I think. I appreciate it. I think part of it is the same thing that I talk about my special that my dad was so tough with us. Like. Yeah, he was like, kind of gruff and he would shout sometimes. Fly off the handle. I. It's hard for me to disconnect that from how driven I am to, like, be good at what I'm doing.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
You know what I mean?
Hassan Minhaj
Do you really think it is about being good, or do you think it's about articulating a point?
Mike Birbiglia
I think part of it's about articulating a point, but I think part of it is if you have the luxury to have your job be. To tell jokes and stories, you sure as hell be really good at that.
Hassan Minhaj
Right, Right.
Mike Birbiglia
You know what I mean?
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah. Fair.
Mike Birbiglia
There's something about that.
Hassan Minhaj
Totally.
Mike Birbiglia
I mean, it's just a crazy privilege.
Hassan Minhaj
Yes. Yes.
Mike Birbiglia
I don't take it lightly at all.
Hassan Minhaj
And to do it professionally.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah. That's what I mean. It's just an outrageous thing.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah, it is an outrageous. It is.
Mike Birbiglia
It's outrageous. It makes sense. If someone took it away, tomorrow I go, yeah, that makes sense.
Hassan Minhaj
You know, but, like, you've been enlisted at McKinnon Kinsey. We need you for GDP.
Mike Birbiglia
Exactly.
Hassan Minhaj
Tyrese Halliburton, a player who plays with the Indiana Pacers, got a little bit of flack of the. On this online, where he was basically being gracious. He was saying, I play basketball professionally. I. I am getting paid to play a children's game. And a bunch of. A bunch of dudes in the comments were like, and this is why he'll never be Kobe. This is why he's not mj. And I'm like, are you. Are you stupid? Like, this is actually really beautiful, what he's saying, which is. At its core, it is a children's game.
Mike Birbiglia
And also, Chalamet got made fun of because he was like, I want to be like Kobe. I want to be the really good at this. Yeah. Actors being an actor, I was like, when I saw that speech, I'm like, it's good speech. I don't know. I agree with him. Everyone in the room wants to be great at it. Yeah.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
I don't know.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
As opposed to, like, Adrian Brody, where it's like, all right. It's like, this isn't my first rodeo. Like, what?
Hassan Minhaj
Oh, God, what are we doing?
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah. Wait, wait, I didn't see the.
Mike Birbiglia
You didn't see that?
Hassan Minhaj
No, I didn't. Yeah. I was nodding to the pr.
Mike Birbiglia
Okay, so he won the Oscar.
Hassan Minhaj
Okay. For the Brutalist. Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah. And it was his second Oscar.
Hassan Minhaj
Okay.
Mike Birbiglia
And he walks up and he's like, basically like, shut off the music. Like, this is going to be a few minutes. Kind of like, this isn't my first rodeo. He said, this isn't my first rodeo. Oh.
Hassan Minhaj
Oh. He literally said.
Mike Birbiglia
He literally said it.
Hassan Minhaj
Oh, you're not doing the tldr. Basically. Okay. Got it.
Mike Birbiglia
This is my first rodeo. Like, what?
Hassan Minhaj
Wow.
Mike Birbiglia
Like, talk about. I don't know. He's a really good actor and seems nice, but those wouldn't be my words in a speech.
Hassan Minhaj
Okay.
Mike Birbiglia
If I won an award, I'll say this.
Hassan Minhaj
I didn't see his speech, but I do love him on Instagram.
Mike Birbiglia
He's good on Instagram.
Hassan Minhaj
His Instagrams are incredible.
Mike Birbiglia
I hope you're doing well where you are. Yeah, I'm here. Yeah, you're there. Okay. Have a blessed day. We're out here. Keep smiling. Keep being you. I'm gonna do the same.
Hassan Minhaj
God bless.
Mike Birbiglia
It's a beautiful day.
Hassan Minhaj
Can't believe I'm still here.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah. That kind of thing.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
That is roughly. That's an estimate. Yeah. Yeah.
Hassan Minhaj
But it kind of does make sense.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah. Yeah.
Hassan Minhaj
What he is saying. He has gotten that. People satirize it, but I'm like, every video he does make is an Instagram reel of the POV of it is what it is.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
Agreed.
Hassan Minhaj
And so you can't argue with that take.
Mike Birbiglia
And his performance is great.
Hassan Minhaj
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Hassan Minhaj
Do you mind if I give away what the point of the special is?
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah. Yeah.
Hassan Minhaj
Is that okay?
Mike Birbiglia
You can say anything because it's out. I can.
Hassan Minhaj
Specials out.
Mike Birbiglia
Spoilers. Spoilers. Glore.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah. Okay, so watch the special. Watch all six of his specials that are on Netflix. But I will say that the point that I took away from it is it's about you and your dad, but really the good life is the appreciation of these, like, little small moments that are within your control or agency or purview.
Mike Birbiglia
Mm.
Hassan Minhaj
That's what I took away from it. Based on the. The final lines of the show. When did you come to that conclusion?
Mike Birbiglia
Oh, that's a good question. Yeah. Like, I worked on the special for two years, and early on, the special was all about my relationship with my daughter and feeling like, you know, at the time when I started it, she was 8. And I just started to feel like, oh, I don't know how to answer a lot of questions. I don't know. A lot.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah, yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
You know, and then my dad had a stroke and I was like, oh, man, this is an even harder thing to explain. You know, life, death, you know, illness. And then I would say probably Six months into talking about my relationship with my dad and visiting my dad in a hospital, I started to talk about just, like, rubbing his shoulder and how when he was in the hospital, like, to rub his shoulder. And it hit me, like, and you.
Hassan Minhaj
Guys didn't do this growing up?
Mike Birbiglia
No, it hit me like, oh, the reason why this feels weird is that there was no physical affection growing up. So then it's like a reverse engineer. I go like, okay, wait, I'm rubbing my dad's shoulder. It's a deep feeling of connection. I didn't feel this as a kid.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
And then I started going to flashbacks of like, okay, when did I feel like this as a kid? Oh, well, actually, when I. When I was hypotonic in the hospital, my dad brought me a Curious George. Jolly rub my shoulder. I remember that. And then, like, there's another time where, like, I asked. I thought. I thought I had cancer because I was a hypochondriac as a kid. And I was like. Took off my shirt. My dad felt my nipples, which is absurd thing in the special.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
And, like, took a while with audiences to, like, make it work.
Hassan Minhaj
Right.
Mike Birbiglia
Because it's such an awkward story to tell.
Hassan Minhaj
I love that story about that.
Mike Birbiglia
Thanks.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah. Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
But it's, like, awkward the first few times you tell that. You're like, and then my dad felt my nipples, and. And you're trying to navigate, like, it's not, like, abuse. It's just actually like, he was examining me.
Hassan Minhaj
Yes.
Mike Birbiglia
As a doctor.
Hassan Minhaj
Yes. As a physician.
Mike Birbiglia
As a physician. Yeah.
Hassan Minhaj
But the audience is trying to figure out. I'm like, is this a molestation?
Mike Birbiglia
Is this a molestation? Is this story?
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
They don't know.
Hassan Minhaj
Totally.
Mike Birbiglia
I mean.
Hassan Minhaj
Right. They're in the microbiglia show.
Mike Birbiglia
You trying to walk them through it, like, in a way. But. But the first few times, I think the audience was like, whoa, where is this going?
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
So. So then it's like a reverse engineer. So I would say, like, I probably had that ending of the special maybe like nine months ago, 10 months ago. And then I'm doing it on the. On tour, and I'm trying to see, like, is that connecting with people? Because you can kind of tell in a room full of a thousand people, like, is this connecting or not?
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
And then it started to connect and.
Hassan Minhaj
But you believed it that many months ago. Right. There's always that moment. And we'll have these conversations backstage in the green room where. And to me, this is when I feel like the show's the best Actually, comedians, we will have these moments where we're talking backstage, and there will be these, like, little cracks where I'll be talking to you or I'll be talking to, like, a Lewis Black or Colin, whoever it is.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah.
Hassan Minhaj
And they'll be like, da, da, da. And I'm like, oh, that's what you actually believe. And that's. That's what this is all about.
Mike Birbiglia
Totally.
Hassan Minhaj
Do you know what I'm saying?
Mike Birbiglia
Yes. And with this one, that's part of the reason I didn't take it to Broadway and off Broadway was two. Two reasons. One, I wanted to capture the feeling of it.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
In. In the moment that I was still experiencing the feeling.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
So it wasn't like a long. In the past kind of thing.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
The other thing is, I didn't. I couldn't perform it anymore because it felt painful to talk about my dad, who's, you know, now still alive, but with AIDS and, like, medical aids and, like, I just thought, why don't I. Instead of going to Broadway or off Broadway, why don't I just bring this to the Beacon? Do three nights, four nights. It ended up being, like, six nights, and I'll film it, and then I'm gonna let it go.
Hassan Minhaj
How did you navigate the whole. My dad is sick, my dad is recovering. I'm processing this tough bump in the road, family wise. That's deeply personal.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah.
Hassan Minhaj
I'm living through it, and I gotta make a show about it.
Mike Birbiglia
Right.
Hassan Minhaj
Like, how did you navigate that part of it? And also, you had to very much, I'm sure, navigate the. When you were going through it, there was also a possibility of your dad passing.
Mike Birbiglia
That was very. That's very true. And then the Pope, who's in the special, who I met a year ago, did pass away.
Hassan Minhaj
Yes.
Mike Birbiglia
So we acknowledged that in the credits. And, you know, special thanks, Pope Francis. First. First ever. First ever.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
Shout out to the Pope.
Hassan Minhaj
Prayer hands and. Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah. But, like, no, that. That. And that crossed my mind. Like, my dad could die at any stage of this. And basically about five times we thought my dad might die in the last, like, year. That were pretty hard. And I. Yeah, it was. It's hard. You know, I. I'm lucky because I'm. I have very supportive siblings. My brother Joe works with me professionally. He's one of the producers. My sister Gina kind of introduced me to comedy when I was younger. My sister Patty's very funny. They're all super supportive of what I'm doing.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
And I think that they would tell me if it was over the line. But I don't call them to vet it with them. Know what I mean? Like, I don't.
Hassan Minhaj
You just invited. You invited to the Beacon.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah, this is.
Hassan Minhaj
They see the Netflix little.
Mike Birbiglia
This is the show insignia at the bottom. Yeah, they. I mean, they all saw and gave notes on, like, the show at different stages, particularly Joe, who's a producer.
Hassan Minhaj
Right. So Joe B. Is Mike bir's brother.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah. 20 years.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah. He's been a co producer and co writer of many things.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah, yeah, yeah. He's written a lot of stuff, so that's hard. I mean, look, it's. I feel guilt over it, but then I. But then at a certain point.
Hassan Minhaj
Oh, I'm not. I'm asking. I don't have a.
Mike Birbiglia
No, no, no. I don't think you're telling me I should feel guilt, but I'm volunteering. I do feel guilt about it. Sometimes I think maybe that's my Catholic upbringing about being confessional about my dad. But I. But ultimately, I'm like, it is my story to tell.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
If. If you've had this relationship with your dad that's somewhat stilted, like, that is your story.
Hassan Minhaj
Right.
Mike Birbiglia
And by sharing that story, people are able to process their relationship with their parents. And. And so I think it's more healing than hurting. But. But I do think about it a lot, and I also think about. In relation to my daughter. Like, I like my daughter.
Hassan Minhaj
And your dad's seen the Special, right?
Mike Birbiglia
No.
Hassan Minhaj
Oh, he hasn't seen it.
Mike Birbiglia
No. And I wrote a piece in the New York Times the other day. He hasn't read that either.
Hassan Minhaj
Wow.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah. And I don't know by choice. I don't know. I don't know.
Hassan Minhaj
Your father's name is Vince? Yes, Vince.
Mike Birbiglia
Vince Rebiglia.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
Dr. Vince Birbiglia.
Hassan Minhaj
When I read it. So you just wrote this New York Times op. Ed?
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah.
Hassan Minhaj
And when I read that his name was Vince, I'm having this weird brain fog thing where I'm like, there's no way that an older gentleman is named because Vince is so. It feels so contemporary.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Hassan Minhaj
It doesn't feel like a. Dr. Vincent Paul Birbiglia. Okay.
Mike Birbiglia
Grew up in Bushwick over here.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah. I mean, it's a bigger deal that your dad has not read the New York Times op. Ed. A New York Times op. Ed is.
Mike Birbiglia
It's a big thing, right?
Hassan Minhaj
Oh, yeah. It's like my dad missing a Fareed Zakaria op. Ed. I mean, it's a big deal.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah, it's a huge deal. This is catnip.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah. No, I don't.
Hassan Minhaj
For men in their 70s or plus. Yeah, yeah, yeah. New York Times dot com.
Mike Birbiglia
No, I know.
Hassan Minhaj
Huge deal. Do you think. I think it's a love letter. I think this is a love letter.
Mike Birbiglia
I do think it is. I intended it that way.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
I do love my dad. I feel like. I feel like he loves me. I think he. I think it's hard. When I was the youngest of four.
Hassan Minhaj
Okay.
Mike Birbiglia
And so I think I was a little bit of an accident, which. Nothing wrong with it. Right, right. But. But also, I think he was a little bit, like, done with parenting.
Hassan Minhaj
Oh, interesting. Like, you tell a great joke. You were like, your dad basically became a physician and got his. Got his. He got his J.D. and his M.D.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah, that's. And the joke is that's how much he didn't want to be a dad.
Hassan Minhaj
That's how much you don't want to be a dad. But I. I would have loved for you to empty the clip on just the JD, MD. Thing. It's crazy because it's two wildly different things. It's like, hey, do you love social studies and microbiology, like, equally? And how about you go really deep on both?
Mike Birbiglia
It's crazy. He got. He basically got his law degree, like, in his free time for fun.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
He never practiced law. He didn't take the.
Hassan Minhaj
Which is insane.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah. It's very strange.
Hassan Minhaj
Who are these people? I wanted you to.
Mike Birbiglia
Who are these people?
Hassan Minhaj
Analyze that.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah, yeah, totally.
Hassan Minhaj
And then what type of essay? I always think about the JD, MD Essay. They're always like, why do you want to do this?
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah, no, totally. And so anyway, so that's. I think that's part of what. What makes me meticulous about the shows too, in some way is because I'm. That's my background. My background is this person who's really, really academic.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah. Do you mind if I ask this? So you wrote this really great New York Times op ed. And in one of the opening lines, one of the opening paragraphs is, I got into this political discussion with my dad and we had a disagreement.
Mike Birbiglia
What is the political.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah. And then I walked away. What was the political discussion? What was the political disagreement?
Mike Birbiglia
It was terrible. I don't say it in the op Ed because it's so polarizing.
Hassan Minhaj
Okay.
Mike Birbiglia
Like, because I was like, I don't want.
Hassan Minhaj
Your dad was pro segregation. And you were like, I can't have this.
Mike Birbiglia
Like the, the this. It was, it was. It was just a nasty Conversation.
Hassan Minhaj
Okay.
Mike Birbiglia
It was. It was probably 2010. Ish.
Hassan Minhaj
Okay.
Mike Birbiglia
Whatever it was. So it was. It. And it was like email forwards.
Hassan Minhaj
Okay.
Mike Birbiglia
Of like, Barack Obama conspiracy theory.
Hassan Minhaj
Oh, got it. The birth certificate one or which one?
Mike Birbiglia
Maybe. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Hassan Minhaj
Oh, God.
Mike Birbiglia
Maybe. Right.
Hassan Minhaj
And who knows?
Mike Birbiglia
I think we know.
Hassan Minhaj
Okay, we know. We know. Birth certificate.
Mike Birbiglia
I think it's locked down.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah, we know. We know that he was born in the United States of America. Yes.
Mike Birbiglia
And it was that thing that people do, and it's very common.
Hassan Minhaj
Oh, I'm just asking the question.
Mike Birbiglia
Just asking questions. I don't know.
Hassan Minhaj
Interesting.
Mike Birbiglia
I don't know. I read this thing. I don't know.
Hassan Minhaj
Got it.
Mike Birbiglia
And it's like, no, but we know. And what's. What are. What's the end game here?
Hassan Minhaj
Oh, what are you getting at?
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah, what are you getting at? The thing I learned from talking to my dad about political stuff through the years is just, like, it's not worth it. Like, it's like, I have the line in my show, like, all these years, I wanted to be my dad. At a certain point, I realized I wanted him to be me. And, like, that was the point where I was like, I can't do that anymore. Like, it's not. He's not gonna be me, and he shouldn't be.
Hassan Minhaj
Right.
Mike Birbiglia
He's just. He's on his own journey. And, like, it's. It's a weird thing to realize that.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah. That he's not going to be you. Yeah. That was. That's. That was a very interesting thing to read. It's also, before I forget, you always have in your specials, there is one run where it's really fucking good. And I'm always like, surely between Jim Gaffigan, Jerry Seinfeld and all the greats, somebody has, like, scraped the meat off this bone.
Mike Birbiglia
Right.
Hassan Minhaj
You empty the clip on Urban Air, which is basically like, you probably have one of the best three to five minutes on just children's birthday parties.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah. Yeah.
Hassan Minhaj
And I cannot believe this has not been mined.
Mike Birbiglia
It's insane, I think.
Hassan Minhaj
Crazy that. It's insane that it was just sitting right there this whole time.
Mike Birbiglia
I think about that. Yeah. Because I basically say, like, I go to 2, 300 children's birthday party.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
And I hate. And I hate it. It's my least favorite part of my life.
Hassan Minhaj
Yes.
Mike Birbiglia
Because I don't like my daughter's friends. And. Yeah. It's funny how when you stumble upon a bit that you feel like someone must have hit this, and then you do. I do sometimes Google, like, Is there a joke about, blah, blah, blah, comedian joke about. Yeah, yeah, yeah, it was. I got lucky. I hit a thing that people didn't.
Hassan Minhaj
I mean, it, it is, it is such a rich vein. And it would be in the pilot episode of the 20, 20, 25, like everybody loves Raymond pilot.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah.
Hassan Minhaj
That you would shoot for cbs. I'm like, this is so. And I could not believe that it hadn't been hit. And then I'm watching this at the Beacon and I'm like, leaned in and I'm like, one, enjoying the bit. But then two, I'm like, how the fuck has this not been done?
Mike Birbiglia
Do you go to them, the birthday parties?
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah, of course.
Mike Birbiglia
They're awful.
Hassan Minhaj
They're terrible. Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
I mean, I don't think I've enjoyed one.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah, every part of it is pretty bad. Every part of it is bad. And all of it, like this bit surely has been done. But we're all at the age where we don't have to do this. This is not about us.
Mike Birbiglia
Right.
Hassan Minhaj
Like you have your friends and they're in Boulder and I have my friends and they're in Sacramento.
Mike Birbiglia
I went to another one last week.
Hassan Minhaj
It's this weird UN diplomacy thing where we have to maintain the peace for our respective civilians of our state because our children and your children have this alliance through, you know, Ms. McKenzie's class, which will be over in two months.
Mike Birbiglia
I went to my daughter's one last week, my daughter's birthday. It was at an escape room. Except because it's modern times. You can get out of the escape room. The door is open.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah. Right.
Mike Birbiglia
All right, well, what are the obstacles here?
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
And then at one point, like imagine this wall just opens up. And then there was. One of the clues was baked into. There was a. You have to shoot a rifle. It's like a, it's like a rifle. It's, you know, it's not, it's not actually you have bullets or something, but. But it's the, it's the, it's the weight of a rifle.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah, yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
And all the kids, bunch of 10 year old girls going, we don't know how to shoot a rifle.
Hassan Minhaj
Oh my God.
Mike Birbiglia
And I was right. All right, well, I'll give this a shot. Yeah. And so then I, and then I shot the things. I was like, okay, 2, 1, 9, 5. And then we moved like, I was the rifle shooter, you were the bunch.
Hassan Minhaj
You were the second amendment guy.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah, apparently that's really.
Hassan Minhaj
Okay. So you also have this thing in your shows where a common thing and at least four of your six specials. Is your health true you are always on the verge of death?
Mike Birbiglia
Seemingly.
Hassan Minhaj
Seemingly, yeah. Has this been a thing that has just loomed over you for your entire life? For real? Even when you were a young man.
Mike Birbiglia
The first sign of that I was gonna die was, yeah.
Hassan Minhaj
So it has been. So it has been.
Mike Birbiglia
I had a bladder tumor when I was 20.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
Which is crazy.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
What a crazy thing to happen. Blood in my pee, you know, I went home, told my parents, they took me in to the hospital. Next morning, they put me under. They looked in, there was a tumor. They took it out.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
I was very lucky because my dad's a doctor and sort of has good instincts. He was like, I don't think Mike should do chemo or radiation. So I didn't actually have all the stuff that's really painful.
Hassan Minhaj
Oh, wow.
Mike Birbiglia
And then it didn't come back. And I go for, like, regular checkups. So that was like the first thing that happened. And then I ended up with. I sleep walked through a second story window.
Hassan Minhaj
Right.
Mike Birbiglia
And I was like, 25.
Hassan Minhaj
Wait, so. But the thing that I wanted to just ask was, at that age, then, does death become a looming thing?
Mike Birbiglia
100.
Hassan Minhaj
Really?
Mike Birbiglia
100%. Not as a joke. No. I was literally like, I was facing down death. I mean, I really was like, all right, I guess. I guess that's it for like, the. Before the. Before the biopsy came back on the tumor.
Hassan Minhaj
Right.
Mike Birbiglia
I was like, I guess that's going to be a wrap on me. It's been a good run. And then when, you know, when I found out that it was. It was. It was it actually, I should say it was malignant. But they got all of it, so I was very lucky. And then I was like, oh, well, we can always. We could drop over tomorrow. It was like, because I'd seen death. I'd seen that for 10 days. Like, I guess I'm gonna die.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
So it really made me go hard at goals because I was like, I want to be a comedian. So I think it just, like, it amped me up by like 2 or 3x.
Hassan Minhaj
Really, I do.
Mike Birbiglia
And then I. I think too far, you know, jump through a second story window. Maybe I was a little too amped up, you know, I was like, sleep deprived. I was driving around the country in rental cars and doing seven colleges in five nights kind of thing. It was crazy.
Hassan Minhaj
Have you ever had this really dark conversation with your friends? Which one of us is going to die first?
Mike Birbiglia
No. I like that, though.
Hassan Minhaj
A buddy of Mine has dropped that into the group thread, and it is pretty wild where, like, you're. The boys will tell you pretty candidly who's going to die first. It's very funny.
Mike Birbiglia
That's interesting. Do you think that their theories are accurate?
Hassan Minhaj
100% accurate.
Mike Birbiglia
Really?
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
Where do you land in it? I feel like you'll live long.
Hassan Minhaj
No. They're like Du Bois, when they roast me, they're like, if you have to. If you're not taking the MTA to work every day and you're driving, they're like, you're gonna die within 24 to 48 months.
Mike Birbiglia
No.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah. The running joke is, and it is true, I am kind of a. I am a notoriously bad driver.
Mike Birbiglia
Wow.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
But other than the driving accident, do they think you die because you seem in good health?
Hassan Minhaj
No, I'm in good health.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah.
Hassan Minhaj
Then there's another buddy of mine that I'm not gonna name. I'm not gonna just, like, ruin his LinkedIn life. But, yeah, he's. We have a buddy on the thread that does not take good care of his health, and we're like, you're for sure dying.
Mike Birbiglia
I could see that.
Hassan Minhaj
But it's a very funny, very dark bit that is sequestered to iMessage between six fellas.
Mike Birbiglia
No, I get it.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
You and I had a very good conversation on my podcast about who's the fastest kid in your school.
Hassan Minhaj
Yes.
Mike Birbiglia
And to this day, people are commenting.
Hassan Minhaj
The video goes so hard.
Mike Birbiglia
Who? The person fastest. Yeah. Full government name. Fastest kind of school. You texted me last night. Do you remember the fastest kid in your elementary school? I remember the government name of the fastest kid at elementary school. Because people are watching this at home or listening to it, and they're in there immediately thinking, the fastest. Right.
Hassan Minhaj
In the comment section, write down the full government name.
Mike Birbiglia
Oh, yes.
Hassan Minhaj
Of the fastest kid in your school.
Mike Birbiglia
Come on. The comments. I think there's thousands of comments at this point of, like, the fastest kid. I mean, it's almost like you can make a document.
Hassan Minhaj
Totally.
Mike Birbiglia
You could do a Google Doc that has like.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah, yeah, totally.
Mike Birbiglia
That clip is great.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
I hope you do that as a bit in your next special.
Hassan Minhaj
I did, I did. But the thing that's good. That needs to take it to the next level of. Okay, this is true. Now what? Yeah, the place where it's. It's. It's still. I've been working on it. It's pretty surface level, which is like. You guys remember when it's a. You guys remember when.
Mike Birbiglia
Sure.
Hassan Minhaj
But if you can flip that on its head and take it to a new place. So the two new places that I've taken it to, that I've kind of figured out, which is, why was that such a big flex? It had no real value. But then I started to realize speed is kind of important at varying points in your life. Elementary school, who's the fastest. Like, it's not about being in the NFL, but I can get from that tree to that tree very quickly. But then in high school, it's. Who has a car? Who can get the. So it's like, Ryan has a Forerunner, and we can go to Chipotle at lunch, and it's a big deal. And then as an adult, it's TSA PreCheck.
Mike Birbiglia
That's right.
Hassan Minhaj
Which is, like, clear. Yeah. Clear is huge. And Global Entry. Global Entry, like, when you're returning and you just walk past these peasants.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah.
Hassan Minhaj
I mean, it's a pretty powerful.
Mike Birbiglia
It's huge. It's a huge flex.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
I can't get my wife to get Global Entry. It drives me crazy.
Hassan Minhaj
Really. She just doesn't want to do this.
Mike Birbiglia
Like, going to government office. Ah.
Hassan Minhaj
She just wanted the. The interview with the government.
Mike Birbiglia
Like, the. The. The rigmarole of it. It's hard.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
You must find this in marriage sometimes where you're, like, revved up. We're gonna get Global Entry. We're gonna get clear. We're gonna get this. But then you got. You get your wife or husband to do it also.
Hassan Minhaj
Right.
Mike Birbiglia
Because otherwise, what's the point? Yeah. Yeah.
Hassan Minhaj
Equal.
Mike Birbiglia
Go through the Global Entry line. Then your wife and daughter are in the. In the regular line.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
Who needs it?
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah. Yeah, yeah. That's the toughest thing. Yeah. How do I get this?
Mike Birbiglia
Obviously, obviously, that's the most challenging thing about marriage.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah. Yeah. And vice versa, by the way, where she's just like, I can't convert you on this.
Mike Birbiglia
Oh, yeah.
Hassan Minhaj
I don't think I. I'm just not buying the premise.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah. For sure.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah. Yeah. And especially being comedians were uniquely stubborn about certain things.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah.
Hassan Minhaj
Just from the itunes user agreement, I'm like, I actually don't buy into this at all.
Mike Birbiglia
No. And Jen's a poet, which is, like, almost more extreme.
Hassan Minhaj
Oh, interesting.
Mike Birbiglia
Like, poets are even. They don't even engage with human beings.
Hassan Minhaj
Oh, right.
Mike Birbiglia
They're just like. No.
Hassan Minhaj
Oh, right, right. Institutions at all.
Mike Birbiglia
No.
Hassan Minhaj
Right.
Mike Birbiglia
There's no even end game with being a poet. There's no. There's no. Like, we all know the best poet.
Hassan Minhaj
Right.
Mike Birbiglia
You know what I mean.
Hassan Minhaj
Oh, yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
Kind of like this super subjective thing.
Hassan Minhaj
Oh, wow. What a wild hall of Paris. But then for you to be a comic, which is, like, you have to be so dialed into your pov.
Mike Birbiglia
I think so.
Hassan Minhaj
Specifically with stand up.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah.
Hassan Minhaj
Oh, that's really fascinating. I never thought of that. Hey, so you empty the clip on Catholicism?
Mike Birbiglia
Sort of, yeah. You said that to me backstage. You go. You go. Are you ready for the Catholic people to come at you?
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah. I was like, why ruin the one thing.
Mike Birbiglia
My one.
Hassan Minhaj
Your target demo. 55 and up.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah, yeah, totally.
Hassan Minhaj
But people were getting oddly, like, really uncomfortable in their kind of chairs during the taping.
Mike Birbiglia
I like that.
Hassan Minhaj
Okay, so what got you to that point? I mean, was it all the stuff that came out about the church and the boys? What made you come to this point?
Mike Birbiglia
I think what probably radicalized me on the Catholic Church was the kind of.
Hassan Minhaj
Spotlight era stuff, specifically with the priests and.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah. And I was. I, fortunately, was not treated that way, but, you know, we definitely. When I was a kid, like, there was a kid, there was a priest that they moved. They're like, father. You know, I'm not gonna say his name, but, like, father Patrick is gone. Oh, yeah. Where did he go? Like, it was like our favorite priest. Where'd he go? Oh, no, he's at another school now.
Hassan Minhaj
Right.
Mike Birbiglia
And looking back, you're like, he is. You know what I mean?
Hassan Minhaj
Oh, no.
Mike Birbiglia
Like, they move. They just move him to. The other thing is.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah, yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
Awful.
Hassan Minhaj
He's been traded to Dallas. Should he be.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah, he plays for the Sun.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah. He should be out of the league. He shouldn't go play for the Mavs.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Hassan Minhaj
But, like, be in that organization. Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
You know, the evolution of it was I. At a certain point with the show, I took down Catholicism, but I took down all religions. Like, it. Like, I was going after everybody. At a certain point, I was like, I don't think I can really go after everybody. You know what I mean? Because it was like, it's. It's my. It. Like, you can go after your own religion. I. I don't know if you can go after. Well, south park did it. Went after all religions. Sure. But it's a. It's a bold move.
Hassan Minhaj
It's a bold move. You know, we. On this show, we had Rain Wilson on the show. Oh, yeah. Rain is. Is very open, very spiritually. He's very open. He's very spiritual, and he's very behind, but he is. He's willing to pair. His Bluetooth is open. And he's willing to pair with almost like every faith. But he had this pretty interesting take, which. Which was about expecting perfection from religion, where he's like, in no other part of your life do you expect perfection in your partner or. Yeah, but why do we expect.
Mike Birbiglia
Well, that's fair.
Hassan Minhaj
Perfection.
Mike Birbiglia
I totally get that.
Hassan Minhaj
My only pushback to that is that they are offering you divine salvation. Salvation.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah.
Hassan Minhaj
And eternal.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Hassan Minhaj
It's the number eight sideways, right? Infinite salvation, infinite utopia and salvation for infinity.
Mike Birbiglia
No, I get that. And I. And I have, like.
Hassan Minhaj
But it is a very interesting point.
Mike Birbiglia
I have an extraordinary amount of respect for my friends, like you, who pray. You know, I think prayer is really powerful. I mean, well, my.
Hassan Minhaj
My only thing with it is, like, I've lived long enough to be like you. You tr. You guys trust this?
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah, yeah, totally.
Hassan Minhaj
You trust this?
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah, yeah.
Hassan Minhaj
Like, how many. Yeah. You trust all of this?
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah, yeah.
Hassan Minhaj
You know, not to sound just as building. Yeah. Not as conspiracy theorist, but it's just like, how many recessions have we been through?
Mike Birbiglia
Some guy named Lance sign a paper that barely read.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah, totally. And I'm like, believe all of this.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah, totally.
Hassan Minhaj
I from.
Mike Birbiglia
I completely agree with you.
Hassan Minhaj
So I'm like, there has to be something that makes more sense than whatever this is.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah.
Hassan Minhaj
And that's really what it is. It is that.
Mike Birbiglia
I get that.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah. It is a form of the serenity.
Mike Birbiglia
I might take this up in my next special. Was like, I think at some point, I think. And maybe I'll run it. Maybe you can run it. I think we have an all global, all world conference about what all the religions believe in. And just so we know, it's like, what's our take on gay people? What's our take on women? And then we have real conversations. You know, we go, yeah, I'm Catholic, but I'm like, level three. I'm not with that guy.
Hassan Minhaj
Got it.
Mike Birbiglia
You know what I mean?
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
There's a lot of qualifications, so.
Hassan Minhaj
You know, there's a lot ofbishops on YouTube. I'd love for you.
Mike Birbiglia
I didn't know that.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah. There's all these bishops on YouTube. Yeah. So. So Maya Hawke and Ethan Hawke did this, like, podcast with the bishop. And I'm, by the way, really. I'm trying to get booked for real. Yes.
Mike Birbiglia
Okay.
Hassan Minhaj
And he's bishoped up really full black. Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah, no kidding.
Hassan Minhaj
The red. The red doping. Oh, it's great.
Mike Birbiglia
Is it a podcast?
Hassan Minhaj
It's a podcast. I want to be on the show.
Mike Birbiglia
Wow.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
But don't you feel like we should have a referendum just on the world religions of like, I don't think we even know what religions believe in.
Hassan Minhaj
Do you want me to do the better? Do you want me to be, be for real? If I'm going to be real. If I'm going to be for real. The, the gamut for each of all the fates. It's, it's, it's too wide.
Mike Birbiglia
No.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah. Between people that are really orthodox to the most secular like that, that delta is huge.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah. It's true.
Hassan Minhaj
Here's the one thing that gives me hope in regards to religion. Okay. If you look at the Internet comment section about any religion, it is a cesspool. But if you look at the Wikipedia of religions, it is actually very pretty clean. It's pretty, it's, it's pretty even tempered and I, I feel like it gives a fair assessment of all.
Mike Birbiglia
Gotcha.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. YouTube comments. Very different than the Wikipedias.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah.
Hassan Minhaj
Of the great faiths of the world. You met Pope Francis.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah.
Hassan Minhaj
Okay.
Mike Birbiglia
Similar to the Obama Biden thing, though.
Hassan Minhaj
It's like, really?
Mike Birbiglia
No, I used to shake hands and take a photo.
Hassan Minhaj
I would say, man, rip To Pope Francis, though, as one of the goats. There was this really beautiful montage that I saw that was put together about Pope Francis that moved me a lot. There was this photograph of him where he met these two rival political leaders in Sudan, I believe. And he kissed their feet. Oh, yeah. To be like, that's beautiful. Yeah. Like, let's put an end to the violence. And one of the things that I felt, this is just for me personally is that pettiness, anger, pain, suffering, murder, war. There is no shortage of that in the world. He was one of the few people that was incredibly popular that represented the opposite of that. And that is a, that is a very rare category.
Mike Birbiglia
No, whenever people criticize him, I always just go compared to what you got. You got to go compared to what? Compared to the other popes, he's great.
Hassan Minhaj
Oh, interesting.
Mike Birbiglia
You know what I mean? Yeah. The joke in the special is like, if you met him at a party, you'd be like, this guy.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
But like, compared to the other. Some of the popes were Nazis, like literally Nazis. And so, yeah, you got to incrementally look at him. Yeah, the, you know, the Sudan, Sudan story. That's beautiful. There's a lot of stuff like that. There's a really beautiful documentary. Before I decided to go, I watched this documentary on him called Pope Francis, A Man of His Word, which is A great, great documentary.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
But it did, like, really express, like, the interfaith efforts he made. He. He really, like, visited like, religious leaders of all faiths and, and went to all parts of the world that were war torn and struggling and, you know, go to children's hospitals and things. I mean, to me, he didn't feel like a photo op.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah. To me, he's one of. He was one of the most popular people that genuinely did, in his dying days, care about the poorest and weakest.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah.
Hassan Minhaj
From what I understand.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah, from what I understand, exactly. Yeah.
Hassan Minhaj
I haven't been informed of other further. Okay. You considered not going?
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah, yeah. Why? I feel like in some ways my comedy is in. Is so much a reaction to being raised Catholic.
Hassan Minhaj
Okay.
Mike Birbiglia
Like, I feel like it was. I feel like I was. My upbringing was so repressed. I never felt like I could express how I feel about things. Like, and I think that that was very Catholic. I felt like that was very baked in. And then when I saw Spotlight, the movie, you know, Tom McCarthy's incredible Oscar award winning movie, it really hit me hard. And so when they were like, do you want to come to the Vatican? I was like, I don't. I mean, I don't know if I support the organization and all that, but I also felt like it's really, in a lot of ways, it's for my parents and, you know, they grew up. My mom grew up going to Latin mass and Buffalo, New York, and the idea that her son would meet the Pope is an outrageous concept.
Hassan Minhaj
Right. You brought back rosary beads.
Mike Birbiglia
I brought back rosary beads that were blessed by the Pope. And my dad was struggling and, you know, he was raised Catholic, went to a Catholic high school, Xavier in Manhattan. And like, so it was a big deal for him. And he was. He was just out of the hospital. So that's sort of. I mean, I would say that's a majority where I went.
Hassan Minhaj
So you went out of guilt, which is the most Catholic thing you could do.
Mike Birbiglia
Exactly. Ira Glass said something to me one day. He goes, the thing you're not saying in your show is that your parents wouldn't have gone for you.
Hassan Minhaj
Oh, that's so funny to see, like, Richard Pryor. Right?
Mike Birbiglia
You know what I mean?
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah, yeah, totally. Totally. They're like, why would you go see him? Yeah, he does one liners.
Mike Birbiglia
He has one liners. Yeah.
Hassan Minhaj
Watching the show, man. I don't know if you've gotten this feedback, but it definitely got me to start thinking about why I don't know more about my Own parents.
Mike Birbiglia
Good.
Hassan Minhaj
Why don't we know more? I don't know about our parents. Why don't we.
Mike Birbiglia
I, for me, I think, and I think some other people have this too.
Hassan Minhaj
I have a theory, but you tell me your theory.
Mike Birbiglia
Well, I just think like you, it's like you sort of think, you know, and at a certain point you're like, wait, do I? And then also like, I think part of it is you don't quite. Or I don't. For a long time I didn't quite view my parents as. People viewed them as my parents.
Hassan Minhaj
Yes.
Mike Birbiglia
Which is kind of crazy. But it's. I think it is something you experience. People experience.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah. I think the problem is there's just two hard gears and they're wildly different.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah.
Hassan Minhaj
Which is. There is. It just seems like it is a never ending period of your life where your parents are the cops. Yes, they are the police state.
Mike Birbiglia
Right.
Hassan Minhaj
Like you're reading 1984, you're like, this is the same. Okay, yeah, they're the cops. And then on a dime.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah.
Hassan Minhaj
You come home one day for like winter break and you're like, you're old.
Mike Birbiglia
Right.
Hassan Minhaj
And that is a tough thing.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah, it is a tough one.
Hassan Minhaj
You're their parents now.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah.
Hassan Minhaj
And that's, that's the thing.
Mike Birbiglia
Right. That's what people keep saying to me, that I'm in. I'm a sandwich generation comic. Like, I'm living in the my. I'm taking care of my parents and taking care of my daughter.
Hassan Minhaj
But. But actually at its core, I think to open this part of our convo to a more empathetic channel which is trying to understand who they were and are in the context of the lives that they lived. What do you think his core operating system, like, values were?
Mike Birbiglia
I think a lot of what he was trying to do was simply achieve, which, like, achieve and succeed and then I think do well by people. Like, I think whenever I would meet his patients, they would come up to me on the street sometime and be like, your dad is a great dad. You know, wow. Or I'm sorry, your dad's a great doctor. Yeah, your dad's a great doctor. I was like, oh, okay. And they would even literally say, like, he had. He has great bedside manner. You know, I've gone to a lot of doctors and your dad is different. He's really special. So I think, like. And that was just almost without fail, people would compliment him and how kind he was and. But then I think he had this thing that he was just so motivated that he was, Yeah. I mean, I think he wanted to succeed. I think he did view his life as a success. He was a doctor. You know, he had a family of, you know, four kids and everyone. He was very serious about education. We all went to college and, you know, that was like a huge part of his life because he. He lived in Bushwick and completely as a fluke. And I found this out when I was visiting him in the hospital, just asking him a lot of questions. Completely as a fluke. He applied for the entrance exam for Xavier, which still here. Catholic Jesuit School in Manhattan. Because his friend did it. He's like, my friend, you know, my friend goes, I'm doing. What are you doing Saturday? I'm doing this entrance exam for his high school. Oh, I'll do that too. He scored really highly, got a scholarship. He's at Xavier. He's taking the training from Bushwick. Where are people applying? Colleges, Holy Cross Catholic College in Worcester. And then he gets in, and then he goes there, and then he goes to med school, University of Buffalo. And that's where he meets my mom. It's like a series. I think the thing that you don't realize about your parents is it's a series of flukes. Whereas from the kids perspective, you're like, he planned it this way right now. He didn't plan any of it.
Hassan Minhaj
Oh, interesting.
Mike Birbiglia
He was just doing his best in the moment.
Hassan Minhaj
Oh, wow.
Mike Birbiglia
Kind of like, you are totally right. And then you go, oh, okay.
Hassan Minhaj
Taking in information and then making a decision in real time.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah. And then he blinks and he's 80, 84 years old and he's, you know, could die any day just to give.
Hassan Minhaj
Your dad his flowers. Do you have a story about your dad, Vince, where you go, I'm proud to be his son.
Mike Birbiglia
Oh. I mean, the thing that my dad, I think, got right in such a deep way was just education. He got himself out of the situation he was in through education. And then with us, with. With his kids, he's just super intent on no matter what, anything costs, education wise. You know, all these schools we went to are so expensive. Sure.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
I think he really believed that that was the path, you know, that was kind of the only, you know, way was just like higher education. And, you know, as I get older and I look around, I go, like, I think he was right. And at the time, it felt snobby. And in hindsight, I'm like. Like, a lot of my best friends are people I met in college. A lot of the people I work with Professionally. People I met in college. And it's like. I don't know. Like, it's. In some ways, I do. I do think it's snobby, but I also think, like, he had a real strong inclination that. That that was what we needed.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah.
Mike Birbiglia
It'S a hard one.
Hassan Minhaj
So you criticize him for his drive?
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah. Yeah.
Hassan Minhaj
You know that you kind of have his drive, right?
Mike Birbiglia
Sure, I've been told.
Hassan Minhaj
Do you see that or no.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah, yeah. No, I'm accused of it by my siblings all the time.
Hassan Minhaj
Got it.
Mike Birbiglia
They call me Vince Jr. Oh, interesting. Yeah.
Hassan Minhaj
Oh, got it.
Mike Birbiglia
Okay.
Hassan Minhaj
Oh. So this is the whole Simba Mufasa thing. You are him.
Mike Birbiglia
Yeah. Yeah. There's something there. Yeah.
Hassan Minhaj
But you. You made him seem like he was scar, but you actually are.
Mike Birbiglia
Maybe. I don't know. I guess so. I mean, there's a case to be made for it, and certainly my wife would make it for you, but I'm not here to make it.
Hassan Minhaj
Mike. Thank you for being my friend. And thank you for being an inspiration.
Mike Birbiglia
Oh, thank you.
Hassan Minhaj
I didn't even know how to end. That's.
Mike Birbiglia
That's so fun.
Hassan Minhaj
Yeah, man. That was it.
Mike Birbiglia
Awesome.
Hassan Minhaj
That was rad.
Mike Birbiglia
That was great. It was deep. That was the deepest interview I've had. Hurry right away.
Hassan Minhaj
No delays are make your daddy glad to have.
Podcast Summary: Hasan Minhaj Doesn't Know – Episode: "Dads, Death & Popes with Mike Birbiglia"
Release Date: June 6, 2025
Host: 186k Films
Guests: Mike Birbiglia
Distributed by: Lemonada Media
In this heartfelt and introspective episode of Hasan Minhaj Doesn't Know, Hasan Minhaj engages in a deep conversation with acclaimed comedian and storyteller Mike Birbiglia. The episode delves into personal narratives surrounding fatherhood, confronting mortality, and reflections on faith, all while exploring the nuances of comedic storytelling.
Early Memories and Personal Connections (00:02 - 01:19)
The episode begins with Hasan reminiscing about a memorable event at Andrew Air Force Base where he and Mike Birbiglia performed together alongside notable personalities like John Mulaney, Jon Stewart, and even former President Barack Obama and his family. Mike shares his experience of briefly interacting with the Bidens and performing for a military audience, highlighting the camaraderie among comedians and their shared humorous observations about their fathers interacting with David Letterman.
Mike Birbiglia (00:32): "When you see your parent being, like, a person. You're like, right, they're a person."
Mike’s Father and His Influence (01:24 - 02:37)
Hasan brings up Mike’s special "Good Life," focusing on Mike’s relationship with his father. Mike recounts a poignant moment where his father posed a thoughtful question to David Letterman: "Who was your favorite president to interview?" This story underscores the complexity of father-son relationships and the deep impact of parental influence on personal and professional trajectories.
Hasan Minhaj (01:25): "Everybody has an embarrassing story about their dad... you didn't interview Nixon."
Advice from Parents (02:37 - 04:20)
Mike shares a personal anecdote about his mother's advice to "shoot your shot," illustrating how parental guidance shapes one's approach to opportunities. He reflects on how this advice propelled him to engage more proactively with influential figures like Steven Spielberg, demonstrating the lasting imprint of parental wisdom.
Mike Birbiglia (03:44): "It's a big credit to my mom that she gave me that advice."
Filming Specials and Creative Process (04:20 - 11:55)
The discussion transitions to the intricacies of producing a comedy special. Mike details the meticulous planning involved in filming "Good Life," emphasizing the importance of designing the show for both live audiences and screen viewing. He highlights the collaboration with his team, including director Seth Barish and cinematographer Graham Willoughby, to create a visually engaging experience.
Mike Birbiglia (06:20): "We designed it for the screen... it's an actual canvas painting."
Hasan and Mike further explore the evolution of comedy with the advent of platforms like YouTube, noting how accessibility to high-quality filming equipment has democratized the process, allowing comedians to reach wider audiences without traditional media constraints.
Mike Birbiglia (09:29): "YouTube is bigger than Netflix. The reach is infinite."
Confronting Mortality and Familial Ties (17:05 - 27:02)
Mike opens up about his personal struggles, including his father's stroke and the emotional impact it had on his perspective of life and relationships. He shares candid stories from his special where he navigates the complexities of showing vulnerability, such as rubbing his father's shoulder in the hospital and reminiscing about childhood moments that reveal deeper connections.
Mike Birbiglia (18:30): "There was no physical affection growing up. So then it's like, okay, wait, I'm rubbing my dad's shoulder. It's a deep feeling of connection."
Hasan and Mike discuss the delicate balance of portraying personal and sensitive topics in comedy, emphasizing the therapeutic and connective power of sharing one's story with an audience.
Dealing with Loss and the Passage of Time (21:55 - 25:01)
Mike reflects on the fragility of life, recounting the passing of the Pope who was featured in his special. He discusses the emotional toll of creating art while facing potential loss, illustrating the intertwining of personal pain and creative expression.
Mike Birbiglia (22:10): "We thought my dad might die in the last, like, year. That were pretty hard."
Catholicism and Its Impact (38:00 - 43:35)
The conversation shifts to Mike's relationship with his Catholic upbringing. He critiques the Catholic Church, especially in the wake of scandals like those depicted in Spotlight, while also expressing admiration for Pope Francis's interfaith efforts and compassionate actions.
Mike Birbiglia (39:07): "I think what probably radicalized me on the Catholic Church was the kind of... spotlight era stuff, specifically with the priests."
Hasan and Mike discuss the challenges of navigating faith in personal life and comedy, contemplating the balance between critiquing institutions and honoring personal beliefs.
Hasan Minhaj (43:35): "That is a love letter... because pettiness, anger, pain, suffering, murder, war. There is no shortage of that in the world. He [Pope Francis] represented the opposite of that."
Juggling Personal and Professional Life (46:03 - 52:00)
Mike delves into how his personal experiences, particularly his relationship with his father and his health challenges, shape his comedic narrative. He discusses the concept of being a "sandwich generation comic," balancing responsibilities toward both his parents and his daughter, and how these dynamics influence his storytelling.
Mike Birbiglia (49:10): "I think a lot of what he was trying to do was simply achieve and succeed and then do well by people."
Hasan encourages Mike to further explore these themes, highlighting the universal nature of familial bonds and personal growth within the comedic framework.
The episode concludes with a mutual appreciation between Hasan Minhaj and Mike Birbiglia, celebrating their friendship and the profound insights shared throughout their conversation. They reflect on the healing power of vulnerability in comedy and the importance of understanding one's roots to fully embrace personal and professional identities.
Hasan Minhaj (54:13): "Thank you for being my friend. And thank you for being an inspiration."
This episode of Hasan Minhaj Doesn't Know offers a profound exploration of personal loss, familial bonds, and the intricate balance between life’s challenges and the art of storytelling. Through candid conversation, Hasan and Mike illuminate the shared human experiences that underpin both comedy and deep personal reflection.