How to Manage—and Motivate—Gen Z

Summary

HBR IdeaCast: How to Manage—and Motivate—Gen Z

Date: December 30, 2025
Host: Alison Beard (Harvard Business Review)
Guest: Tim Elmore, author of "The Future Begins with Z: Nine Strategies to Lead Generation Z as They Disrupt the Workplace"

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Episode Overview

This episode explores the challenge and opportunity of managing Generation Z (born 1997–2012) in the workplace. Guest Tim Elmore, an expert on generational dynamics and author, argues that while Gen Z is often stereotyped as fragile or entitled, their unique upbringing as digital natives means they bring crucial skills, perspectives, and expectations to organizations. The conversation offers insights and practical strategies for leaders seeking to motivate, engage, and retain Gen Z talent—emphasizing connection, flexibility, and mutual understanding.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

How Gen Z Differs—and How It's the Same

• Life Stage vs. Generational Differences

  • Gen Z, like all young people, undergoes a formative period, but current cultural and technological shifts make the gap between them and older generations more pronounced than before (02:13).
  • “People develop a little bit like wet cement... I do think we're facing a little bit a greater difference right now. There's a greater sense of agency that young professionals bring with them and a greater sense of anxiety...” — Tim Elmore (02:13)

• Agency and Anxiety: The Twin Forces

  • Gen Z enters the workplace with more knowledge and confidence, especially in technology, but also with deeper anxiety, partially due to social changes and pandemic disruptions.
  • “The age of authority is decreasing. Young people are coming in knowing stuff that the boss may not know... But the age of maturity is going up socially and emotionally. And the pandemic didn't help us. They're a little bit behind former generations at their age. I've lost count of the number of employers that have said to me, 26 is the new 18.” — Tim Elmore (03:25)

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Stereotypes & Organizational Challenges

• Stereotypes Don’t Tell the Whole Story

  • Gen Z is sometimes seen as “arrogant” or “lacking work ethic,” but these behaviors may stem from genuine enthusiasm or external circumstances, not entitlement (05:28–08:58).
  • Story: Tim recounts Colin Webb, a Gen Zer whose innovative suggestions at General Motors were dismissed due to hierarchy, leading him to leave and become a successful entrepreneur—a story illustrating both Gen Z’s initiative and the risk of ignoring their input (05:31–07:31).

• Connection Over Control

  • Where older generations valued positional authority, Gen Z values connection as the basis for influence.
  • “Gen Z would come in assuming your connection gives you the right to influence... I need to stop thinking gatekeeper... and start thinking guide. Let me be a Sherpa guide as we walk up this mountain.” — Tim Elmore (09:21–10:14)

• They Want a Voice—From Day One

  • Gen Z expects to contribute ideas and participate immediately, rather than waiting for years to “earn” their voice (10:17).

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Why Invest in Gen Z?

• Cultural Intuition & Innovation

  • Gen Zers have strong instincts about social trends, technology, and future consumers, making them invaluable for innovation.
  • “I have discovered that Generation Z is the sandpaper on my leadership I did not know I needed... They don’t put up with the BS” — Tim Elmore (11:41–11:56)

• High Expectations & High Belief

  • Managers who believe in Gen Z and have high expectations can tap into “gold” and foster loyalty and performance.
  • “When I begin with high expectation, high belief, I'm going to find some gold.” — Tim Elmore (11:56)

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Practical Strategies for Attracting, Onboarding & Retaining Gen Z

1. Make the Organization Attractive

• Focus on the individual’s development and interests during recruitment and onboarding.

  • Example: Orange Leaf Frozen Yogurt adjusted their onboarding to nurture employee goals, resulting in longer retention (12:51–14:40).

• “What if you treated us like currency, not commodities?” — Gen Z focus group participant (14:18)

2. Interviewing with “PERKS”

Elmore’s “PERKS” acronym for effective interviews:

• Preferences – What do they want out of this job?
• Expectations – What do they expect from the company?
• Requirements – What do they think is non-negotiable?
• Keys to their heart – What motivates or excites them?
• Salary – Discuss clearly, as assumptions can differ (15:35–18:42).

3. Delivering Feedback: “ALEG” Model

Tim Elmore’s “ALEG” process for feedback:

• Ask – Begin with questions to show you value their perspective.
• Listen – Make them feel heard.
• Empathize – Show understanding and care for their situation.
• Guide – Offer constructive direction after building trust and rapport (19:16–21:18).

4. Managing Expectations About Advancement

• Use metaphors (e.g., “crock pot vs. microwave” careers) to contextualize the slow build of success, aiming to recalibrate expectations for immediate promotions (22:07–22:55).

5. Mental Health & Work-Life Balance

• Gen Z is transparent about needing mental health days, partly in reaction to seeing previous generations overworking.
• The key is to address absence empathetically while explaining how it affects the team and aligning individual and collective needs (23:22–26:49).

6. Motivating Gen Z

• Reframe work as something meaningful and potentially fulfilling, akin to a hobby or devotion.
• “What if work did feel like a hobby?... I wanted to be there. I didn’t have to be there.” — Tim Elmore (27:09–28:19)

7. Developing Gen Z Leaders

• Balance the desire for individuality with a sense of belonging; foster ownership of their work and the broader mission (28:23–29:27).

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Timestamps of Important Segments

• 02:13 – Gen Z’s unique upbringing and psychological traits
• 05:31–07:31 – Story of Colin Webb at GM (innovation vs. hierarchy)
• 09:21–10:14 – Connection over authority as key to influence
• 12:51–14:40 – Onboarding example (Orange Leaf) and “commodity vs. currency” metaphor
• 15:35–18:42 – The “PERKS” framework for interviewing and onboarding
• 19:16–21:18 – Feedback conversations with the “ALEG” model
• 22:07–22:55 – Adjusting career expectations: “crock pot vs. microwave” metaphor
• 23:22–26:49 – Addressing mental health and attendance issues
• 27:09–28:19 – Motivating through meaningful work (“work as hobby”)
• 28:23–29:27 – Developing leadership and ownership in Gen Z
• 29:53–31:42 – Organizational examples of success (Enterprise, Chick-fil-A) and the importance of relationships

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On Gen Z’s Agency:
  “26 is the new 18. And that's a little scary...cause we need them to be 26 if they're 26.” — Tim Elmore and Co-host (03:25–04:13)

• On Connection:
  “I need to stop thinking gatekeeper... and start thinking guide. Let me be a Sherpa guide as we walk up this mountain.” — Tim Elmore (09:43)

• On Retention:
  “What if you treated us like currency, not commodities?” — Gen Z focus group participant (14:18)
  “Somebody says, well, what if I invest in them and they leave? Why? I would say, what if you don't and they stay?” — Zig Ziglar, quoted by Tim Elmore (12:14–12:22)

• On Giving Feedback:
  “I've earned it through a bridge I built, not a badge I wear.” — Tim Elmore (20:31)

• On Managing Mental Health Days:
  “It’s not a guilt trip. It's a reality check.” — Tim Elmore (24:15)

• On the Value of Relationships:
  “Everyone is more important than their job. No one is more important than the mission.” — Tim Elmore (31:10)

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Examples of Companies Handling Gen Z Well

• Enterprise Car Rental:
  Hires college graduates and puts them on a leadership track, fostering early development and responsibility (29:53).
• Chick-fil-A:
  Focuses on values-based leadership, scholarships, and building belief in young employees (30:15).
• Tim’s Personal Story:
  Support for a team member in crisis led to remarkable loyalty and organizational strength (30:46).

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Conclusion

Main Takeaway:
Managing and motivating Gen Z requires a shift from hierarchy and control to connection, guidance, and investment in individual growth. By understanding Gen Z’s unique strengths and anxieties, embracing their perspectives, and building authentic relationships, organizations can unlock their full potential and build more innovative, agile teams.

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For leaders, the call is clear: listen, connect, and adjust your leadership style—not just for Gen Z, but for the evolving workplace as a whole.

Transcript

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[Alison Beard]

I'm alison beard and this is the hbr ideacast. Every generation has complaints about the ones that follow.

[Interviewer (possibly Alison Beard or another host)]

The silent generation thought boomers were too freewheeling.

[Alison Beard]

Adi's not here to defend himself and other boomers. Boomers saw Gen Xers, that's me, as cynical slackers. They were only half right. I am very cynical, but not a slacker. And then Gen X has dismissed millennials as lazy and entitled. Today, the youngest generation in the workforce is Gen Z people born between 1997 and 2012. And a lot of bosses and organizations are having a hard time managing them, in part because of some unhelpful stereotypes. Maybe we think that Gen Z is overly fragile when we don't have time for coddling or too demanding of work, flexibility, pay and promotions without paying their dues. But our guest today says that we need to do a better job with Gen Z. First, because they're a large and growing part of the talent pool now outnumbering boomers. Second, and most importantly, because they're the people, the digital natives who are best equipped to help companies understand social media, AI, and all the other technologies and trends they need to be innovative and successful. Tim Elmore is author of the book the Future Begins with nine Strategies to Lead Generation Z as they disrupt the workplace.

[Interviewer (possibly Alison Beard or another host)]

Tim, welcome to the show.

[Tim Elmore]

Hey, Allison, it's an honor to be with you.

[Interviewer (possibly Alison Beard or another host)]

First, I have to ask, is Gen Z really all that different than, you know, young people of any other era? Is it generation or is it life stage?

[Tim Elmore]

Some of it is life stage, no doubt about it. But Gen Z has grown up in a different culture than the millennials before them, and certainly more than Gen X or the boomers. People develop a little bit like wet cement, you know, the brain. And so we're really shaped as our neural pathways are growing in those first 20, 25 years. Young people are young people, and they're going to have to learn some life skills along the way as they enter their careers. But I do think we're facing a little bit a greater difference right now. There's a greater sense of agency that young professionals bring with them and a greater sense of anxiety that young people bring with them that we didn't see 25 years ago.

[Interviewer (possibly Alison Beard or another host)]

Are those the two things that most sets Gen Z apart from different generations?

[Tim Elmore]

Yeah. And as employers, as leaders, we're facing what I call a Peter Pan paradox. So we all remember that winsome character from the book and then the movie, Peter Pan, right? He could fly into London and make magical things happen as he sprinkled pixie dust everywhere. The other side of the coin is Peter Pan wanted to live a Neverland where he didn't have to grow up. He could stay a boy, not a man. In many, many ways. Not always, but in many ways, Alison, something magic and tragic is happening in culture today. I think the age of authority is decreasing. Young people are coming in knowing stuff that the boss may not know. You know, they're intuitive about AI and smart technology. The last data I read, 42% of companies are leveraging Gen Z to use AI for their company. So the age of authority is going down, but the age of maturity is going up socially and emotionally. And the pandemic didn't help us. They're a little bit behind former generations at their age. I've lost count of the number of employers that have said to me, 26 is the new 18. And that's a little scary.

[Co-host or Contributor (possibly Adi or another guest)]

Cause we need them to be 26 if they're 26.

[Tim Elmore]

So we're, we're gonna have to listen more than we ever used to listen to that 22 year old, but we're gonna have to coach more than we ever used to coach.

[Interviewer (possibly Alison Beard or another host)]

How have those twin competing forces, the idea that they know more because of their access to the Internet and their willingness to experiment with new tools like AI and their sort of immaturity, maybe because of COVID because of social media, how has it informed their approach to work?

[Tim Elmore]

Oftentimes a young team, I always want.

[Co-host or Contributor (possibly Adi or another guest)]

To say oftentimes because there's 59 million.

[Tim Elmore]

Gen Zers and they're not all alike. Well, the last thing we want to do is stereotype. But oftentimes a Gen Z member will come in and they'll just blurt something out and it sounds like arrogance to their supervisor. And really it's not always arrogance. It's they know something and they're kind of excited that they might get some respect on week one. The other ways it plays out on the maturity side is, you know, they might come in with flip flops on and you're going, what if a board member comes in right now? What are you gonna do? Or they might just not act very professionally. Showing up 10 minutes late to a meeting, not realizing what that did to their teammates who need them to be there on time to start the meeting. So I tell a story early on.

[Co-host or Contributor (possibly Adi or another guest)]

If you don't mind Alison, I'll just jump into it.

[Alison Beard]

Yeah, please.

[Tim Elmore]

The story is such a picture of what's happening too often. I've known Colin Webb since he was in high school. Smart young man, Graduated from high school and went to MIT. When he finished, you can imagine he had a number of job offers. Well, he decided to move to Detroit, Michigan and work for one of the big three, General Motors. They put him in the smart car division. But immediately he looks around and sees some, may I say maybe a little more traditional models of getting things done. And so he starts scribbling down some ideas on how they can get better. Notice the audacity. We need to do professional development better. We need to do this system better. He takes the ideas to his supervisor but again you can imagine they didn't go over very well. He was told to just keep his head down, get your work done. Well, I'm sure Colin said yes sir, because he's very respectful. But he wasn't done yet. He emails the CEO of General Motors.

[Co-host or Contributor (possibly Adi or another guest)]

Mary Barracks, and says I've got some ideas. And he shares the ideas over email with her.

[Tim Elmore]

She replies back and she says, colin, these are actually very good ideas. Let me take them to my executive team. She takes them to the exec team. They agree but again as they make their way down the org chart down to the middle manager and the supervisor, they die on the vine. Colin in fact was told you need to be around here eight years before you can lead anything. Well, you might have well have said you just should leave Colin. Because this entrepreneurial spirit that Gen Z has, by the way, I should point out 72% of public high school students in America want to be an entrepreneur. Colin by the end of the year, leaves GM has since then started three companies, just sold the second one. He's doing quite well financially. I do think Colin's a little different but I do believe we're gonna have to manage this maybe high arrogance thing.

[Co-host or Contributor (possibly Adi or another guest)]

And again, I wanna be so careful.

[Tim Elmore]

Here but it isn't always arrogance is what I'm saying. This book is a summation of both quantitative data and qualitative data. So I surveyed 2014 members of Gen Z and then I did 21 focus groups from California to Georgia. I know they can be fragile snowflakes.

[Co-host or Contributor (possibly Adi or another guest)]

I know they can be seen as lazy. And what's wrong with this generation? They don't seem to wan.

[Tim Elmore]

But as I dug a little deeper I thought, ah, they are just different. And if I can tap into that strength that's inside of them and it is, I think we really get something. So I'm talking to a young lady in la and I said to her, many employers are saying that they find Gen Z just doesn't really care about work. They want to leave as soon as the clock strikes five and not a minute later, they don't even finish the task they're working on. What do you say to that? And she very respectfully said, Dr. Tim, can I tell you why I leave right at 5? She said, I have to leave at 5 to rush over to another job. I don't make enough here to pay the bills here in la. And then after that second job, I rush over to take care of my mother who has stage four cancer. Suddenly I realized she did not have a work ethic problem. And what she may have had is a connection problem at work with her supervisor. So we need to begin with Belie and start that connection. Don't think, control, think, connect. And I think we're going to get where we need to get to as leaders at our workplace.

[Interviewer (possibly Alison Beard or another host)]

Yeah. So don't start with stereotypes. Don't start with assumptions. What problems specifically do you see in how organizations, bosses, even colleagues of different generations handle their Gen Z coworkers or employees?

[Tim Elmore]

One of the big ones is that when we've been around a workplace for even five to 10 years, we pretty much assume that your position gives you the right to influence. Right. If you're the president or the executive vp, you have a right to influence. Gen Z would come in assuming your connection gives you the right to influence. Now, neither are wrong. Right. I mean, your position does give you.

[Co-host or Contributor (possibly Adi or another guest)]

The chance to say something and people.

[Tim Elmore]

Should listen and implement it, but they're so longing for connection. And I need to stop thinking gatekeeper as a leader, meaning I'm the gatekeeper of the budget and the power and the people here, and start thinking guide. Let me be a Sherpa guide as we walk up this mountain. And I'm going to lead you up, but I'm going to build a connection with you. I'm going to make sure you make it. I think they leave because connection doesn't happen and their ideas are not welcome. They desperately want a voice from day one. And Alison, I'll be honest with you. I would have never assumed that when.

[Co-host or Contributor (possibly Adi or another guest)]

I was, when I was young. I'm not gonna, I'm gonna have to.

[Tim Elmore]

Earn my voice over a year of production and performance. But it's a very, very different day today.

[Interviewer (possibly Alison Beard or another host)]

So there's no. I'm just gonna tell you what to do because I'm your manager, it's first I'm gonna understand you, then I'm gonna explain why you need to do it. That seems like a lot of work for a manager who has earned their title and paid their dues. Particularly when the labor market is tight, particular bosses are strapped for time and they have other workers of different generations to manage. What do you see Gen Z as a whole bringing to organizations that previous generations haven't? Why should I spend that time beyond wanting to be a nice person?

[Tim Elmore]

And you know, obviously, yeah, no, that's absolutely true. And I, I, I hope that the listeners listening would say I first want to be a good human being. I, I really do believe that's where good leadership starts. But I would say I really do believe by and large, with some exceptions, they bring an intuition about where culture is going. When I hire these 22 year olds out of college, they seem to know tomorrow's consumer better than I do. They seem to know where culture is going and how we ought to market to them. Let me share something that may be counterintuitive, but I have discovered that Generation Z is the sandpaper on my leadership I did not know I needed.

[Interviewer (possibly Alison Beard or another host)]

Okay, I like that metaphor.

[Tim Elmore]

Yes. So I think my 22 year olds or 23 year olds have made me a better leader. If I can be forthright here, they don't put up with the BS that older generations say.

[Co-host or Contributor (possibly Adi or another guest)]

Ah, that's just Bob, that's just Bob.

[Tim Elmore]

You know, he does that. They'll go, I'm out of here. And maybe you go, good, I don't care. But I actually think when I stay with them and I find that gold inside of them where they bring that intuition that I just talked about, we capitalize on it. When I begin with high expectation, high belief, I'm going to find some gold. And I love what Zig Ziglar used to say. Somebody says, well, what if I invest in them and they leave? Why? I would say, what if you don't and they stay?

[Co-host or Contributor (possibly Adi or another guest)]

You know, it's better to invest and make them better.

[Tim Elmore]

And I believe when we invest in them, we actually keep a good person most of the time.

[Interviewer (possibly Alison Beard or another host)]

Okay, so let's start from the beginning in terms of how to better attract Gen Z. How do you interview them? How do you welcome them when you're trying to bring them on board so that they don't depart within a year because they're bored or unhappy with how the organization runs?

[Tim Elmore]

Yeah, let me throw out two or three ideas real quick and listeners can Eat the fish and spit out the bones. Here one is, I think we need to work to make our organizations more attractive to a new kind of team member. I'll give you one example. Orange leaf frozen yogurt. Years ago, was getting frustrated that they would hire a 18, 19 year old young person and they leave in a year and a half. So they did all this time onboarding and getting ready to sell frozen yogurt and then they would leave. They decided to say, you know what, what if we capitalized on who we're attracting, it's this young person. And say to them in the interview process, we want to make this the best first job, the best launching pad you could ever have. So suddenly the focus was on them, not just the business and the revenue and so forth. So they would say in the interview process, we want to help you sell frozen yogurt really well, but what do you really want to learn while you're with us? And if some person said, well, I really want to work marketing, they would say, oh my gosh, I need to introduce you to Susan. She's our marketing wizard. She is so good. I want you to get with her. She'll teach it. Or I want to learn bookkeeping. As they started doing this kind of or taking this approach, they kept them longer, you can imagine, because the person thought, I'm getting mentored here, I'm getting coached. So it's a weird reverse psychology thing, but it's a bet we make. Some of the Gen Z' ers in my focus group said, I feel like I'm treated like a commodity. A commodity is something, you know, it's raw material. You use it up and then you throw it away. And they said, I feel like they don't pay much money for me. They use me up and then they throw me away or I want to leave. One of them said, what if you treated us like currency, not commodities? And that set me thinking and I put this in the book. Currency is valuable.

[Co-host or Contributor (possibly Adi or another guest)]

In fact, I want to invest that currency. I want to invest in that currency, you know, make it bigger.

[Tim Elmore]

So it's a whole different mindset that I have as a leader. And maybe that investment was well worth it because I later see they were way worth More than $48,000 at the beginning. They were worth much, much more because I did that seeking. So think currency, not commodity. Think connect, not control. Think why not what I think Gen Z, we need to explain why we're doing this. Not just what I don't think they're satisfied with here's what I want you to do, Josh. Go do it. Once I tell them why, now they are incentivized.

[Alison Beard]

Yeah.

[Interviewer (possibly Alison Beard or another host)]

It sounds like in the interviewing and the onboarding process, that listening piece that you're talking about is very important.

[Tim Elmore]

Yeah.

[Interviewer (possibly Alison Beard or another host)]

You have to engage and ask what they want to do and then figure out, you know, how that fits into what you're hiring for and what your needs are.

[Tim Elmore]

Yeah. In fact, I have another acronym. I use the word perks. There's five items that ought to happen in the interview process where you're not only telling them about the job you want them to do, but you're asking them questions. So the letter P reminds me, ask them about their preferences. What do they prefer to happen or what do they wish to happen at this job?

[Interviewer (possibly Alison Beard or another host)]

You might also find out that their preferences aren't aligned with the job description, in which case it's a short conversation.

[Tim Elmore]

Exactly. That's a win, too, right?

[Interviewer (possibly Alison Beard or another host)]

Yeah.

[Tim Elmore]

The letter E is stronger than preferences. It's expectations. Conflict expands based on the distance between expectations and reality. The bigger the gap, the more you're going to experience conflict. So I want to find out right away, what are your expectations of this workplace? Is it that we're going to march for this cause every march or whatever? And you might need to say, like you just said, that's never going to happen here. I'm so sorry. Or you might find, okay, I see what you're gonna expect. And it informs. What's gonna happen six months from now if we do hire them and we don't have a fight or an argument or a debate on our hands, that we did need to have the letter R's requirements far more coming in with a sense of audacity and agency. I'm demanding that I make six digits, or I'm demanding that you do this or do that or work from home. Yes. Yes. I just Talked to a HR manager from a major Fortune 500 company, I might add, who said he was hiring a fresh graduate. And she said, so do I get paid more for the days I actually come into the office? And he goes, no, no, that's normal. But it's just a different assumption that they have. I want to find out what you're requiring, because I may have to say that's never going to happen or that's going to inform our leadership. The letter K in perks is. I think we ought to take a few minutes in the interview to talk about the keys, the keys to their heart. This has little to do with a job but you might find out they just love the Boston Red Sox or they whatever, I'm making this up. But I find out about them as a person and now I've got someone to bring up in the hallway conversation real quick, hey, do you see that Sox game last night? You know, blah, blah, blah. It's that connection again. To a result production oriented person like I am. This seems like a waste of time. I'm assuring you, my experience tells me it is not a waste of time.

[Interviewer (possibly Alison Beard or another host)]

You sound like you're Gen X. Yeah, that's true.

[Co-host or Contributor (possibly Adi or another guest)]

I do. I do.

[Interviewer (possibly Alison Beard or another host)]

Okay, go ahead.

[Tim Elmore]

Yeah, so the letter S is salary. And even though salary probably was posted on the website, I am finding too many times they come in needing to talk about that because they had a different thought about the number. The last data I just read, it was 2024. But the last day I just read, 4 out of 5 Gen Zers are bringing their parent with them to the job interview. Now they may be out in the parking lot, but they're there. And oftentimes mama wants to come in.

[Co-host or Contributor (possibly Adi or another guest)]

And negotiate the compensation because she knows.

[Tim Elmore]

More than her son does or her daughter does.

[Interviewer (possibly Alison Beard or another host)]

That's extraordinary.

[Tim Elmore]

So weird to me. Yeah, but think about it. Wouldn't you rather find out now? Preferences, expectations, requirements, keys and salary. Once I settle those issues and it goes both ways, I should share my preferences in an employee as an interviewer or as a hiring manager. I'm telling you, we all fare better. But it's relationship driven.

[Interviewer (possibly Alison Beard or another host)]

Talking about potentially tough conversations, how do you deliver feedback to a member of Gen Z in a way that you know will actually motivate them instead of causing them to want to run for the door?

[Tim Elmore]

This is a gigantic issue. I have an acronym that I have used and used and reused in my own life and it's a leg. You know how we've said for years and years, this is the leg you got to stand on? These four words that spell A, L, E, G, A leg are what I carry with me when I have to offer some very difficult feedback to a young team member. The letter A reminds me I need to start by asking, not telling them what they did wrong. Think about it. When I ask a question of someone they feel valued, I'm wanting their response.

[Interviewer (possibly Alison Beard or another host)]

Yeah, it's not what were you thinking?

[Co-host or Contributor (possibly Adi or another guest)]

Yeah, that's right. Yeah, that's not a legitimate question. That's exactly right.

[Tim Elmore]

Tell me that thought process, which may be faulty, but at least I'm finding out the letter L. Listen, I have come to believe that Half of leadership is listening. I used to not think that. In fact, I love what John Wooden once said, the more you know, the harder it is to listen. Isn't that true?

[Co-host or Contributor (possibly Adi or another guest)]

If I know a bunch of stuff, it's very hard to be listening to nonsense from somebody else.

[Tim Elmore]

But when I listen, they feel heard. And Alison, I'm telling you, this is the number one request I heard from gen Zers that I interviewed. I want to have a voice. I want to have a seat at the table. I want to be heard. So ask, they feel valued. Listen, they feel heard. The letter E. Empathize. This is a learned art form for me. I'm not good intuitively about this. When I empathize, I'm now learning to respond verbal and non verbally with cues like, oh, my gosh, I had no idea. Thanks for sharing that. Or I bet that made you feel awful when that happened. But when I empathize, the receiver's thinking. She gets me. Or he understands me. I've asked and they feel valued. I've listened, they feel heard. I've empathized, they feel understood. Now I've taken away their defenses. Right now I've earned my right to practice letter G, which is to guide them, But I've earned it through a bridge I built, not a badge I wear. This is the key to the future. I think we can keep those young entrepreneurs, maybe even create an internal gig economy. Well, we have an entrepreneurial zone where we have them solving a problem that we need to solve, but they still do their job. There's ways to keep them, but we may have to lead differently than we did even 10 years ago.

[Interviewer (possibly Alison Beard or another host)]

Yeah, and we talked about expectations. But I think that is one of the big challenges that particularly my generation, Gen X has with Gen Z, that they start and they do well, and then they immediately think that they should get a promotion or get a raise or be able to have more flexible hours. How do you handle that in the moment? You know, how do you make sure that those people who you do think are doing a great job, you know, understand, just. It takes time. Takes time to progress in your career.

[Tim Elmore]

Generally speaking, I use a metaphor to start that conversation. I call it crock pots or microwaves.

[Interviewer (possibly Alison Beard or another host)]

Okay.

[Tim Elmore]

Many, many, many gen zers want their career to be microwaved. You know, I want to be VP when I'm 25, own the company when I'm 35. I'm. I'm being facetious here, but they do want to accelerate it, and we want to go. No, a great career is in A crock pot. If I put a hot dog in a microwave and it's done in minute and a half, another minute and a half, I don't even want to eat that rubber thing.

[Co-host or Contributor (possibly Adi or another guest)]

You know, that's just been outside.

[Tim Elmore]

That's how a career is. You speed that thing forward. You're not really worth the title you've been given if you rush it. But you put good food in a slow cooker. Remember Mama used to do that.

[Co-host or Contributor (possibly Adi or another guest)]

It was three hours later, you were smelling it all over the kitchen. Now you can hardly wait to eat it.

[Tim Elmore]

It gets better and better and better with time. I think good careers are in a crock pot, not a microwave. Good marriages, crock pot, not a microwave. Good friendships. So I try to start the conversation with, you're not slow, you're not behind. But this is going to take some years. Keep doing what you're doing, execute what's in front of you, and it will pay off. Now, some will still leave, but I think we need to right size their expectations, and that's usually how I start that conversation.

[Interviewer (possibly Alison Beard or another host)]

Gen Z is also, I think, probably the first generation that will just tell you straight up, I need a mental health day. You know, all of us probably want one from time to time, but just don't think we're allowed. So how do leaders accommodate that, you know, while still making sure that everyone is being productive and not slacking off and then making sure that other employees don't resent it?

[Alison Beard]

Yeah.

[Tim Elmore]

Oh, my gosh, I'm glad you brought that up, because there is resentment that happens on teams. My wife was just at the Atlanta airport getting a coffee and she noticed there was a long line. And when she finally got up to get her coffee, she noticed it was because there's only one worker, one person taking the credit card and then making.

[Co-host or Contributor (possibly Adi or another guest)]

The latte and then getting back.

[Tim Elmore]

And she goes, where's your teammates today? And she goes, well, they both called in and said, I was at a party late last night. I'm not my best self today. I won't make it in.

[Co-host or Contributor (possibly Adi or another guest)]

Now, I've had a few days. I went into work and I wasn't my best self either.

[Tim Elmore]

But you went in because you realized there's a ramification on the team members. So she was resentful. That clerk. Sometimes Gen Z needs to learn. Let me tell you why showing up late or not showing up at all affects the rest of the team. This is not a guilt trip. It's a reality check. But here's what I would say next. They are Quick to take a mental health day. Part of the reason I learned in the focus groups is they look at older generations who were indeed workaholics. I'm guilty. And they go, oh God, I don't want that to happen to me. I actually found out they do want to work, but they're so afraid of becoming my generation who work is their whole identity. But they also noticed over the years, well, dad ruined Christmas because he never was there. He was tending to his laptop. You see what I'm saying? It's a reaction to overdoing. Here's my advice. We need to have a conversation about this mental health day and we need to empathize with where they are. But I think the conversation needs to be personal before work. Hard before easy, Big picture before details. When I have a conversation with them, I'm such a production oriented person, I want to jump right to the job that didn't get done right or that won't get done. If they take a day off, I need to do personal first. Tell me how you're doing. Are you okay? You see what that screams to them. I care about you as a human, not just a worker. It's going to take a little time, but I think it pays off in the long run. I will get to work and I will get to. We kind of need you today that we're releasing a new product. This is a go to market week and I need you, you know, I need you to be here, not your best self. When we have to have a hard conversation like the one we're talking about. It's so easy in our human nature to jump to easy topics first and then get to the hard. They can smell a rat a mile away.

[Co-host or Contributor (possibly Adi or another guest)]

They can tell we're about to get something really hard. And they know we're just, you know, faking it till we make it.

[Tim Elmore]

So I think courageous leaders say, you know what, I gotta talk to you about something that's hard. Let's get to a solution together, let's problem solve together. But then I get to close the meeting with easy. And then lastly when people are anxious, and that's what we're talking about, a Gen Z' er that's anxious. Big picture before details. I need to show them the box top to that jigsaw puzzle. Here's the big picture. Then talk about where their puzzle piece fits into that box top. Along the way when I do this, they get perspective.

[Interviewer (possibly Alison Beard or another host)]

So if this is a generation that sort of works to live, not lives to work, how do you motivate them to really care about the job and care about the career.

[Tim Elmore]

Okay, I'm going to say something zany, but stay with me listeners, before I.

[Co-host or Contributor (possibly Adi or another guest)]

Make this, before I finish this comment.

[Tim Elmore]

So as I talk about the different approach to work they have. Thank you people over 45, they wanted work to feel like a hobby. So this is problem number one because the first thing I wanted to say was it's not your hobby, Josh.

[Interviewer (possibly Alison Beard or another host)]

Right? That's why we pay you.

[Co-host or Contributor (possibly Adi or another guest)]

That's right, yes, exactly.

[Tim Elmore]

So let's double click on this idea. What if work did feel like a hobby? Remember the last time you had a really good hobby? I remember when I was 12, I had a electric train set in my basement that had homes and hotels and electric train going around. I rushed to work at that hobby after school. Right? I mean, I worked at the hobby harder than I did my math at school. And I wanted to be there. I didn't have to be there. I wanted to be there. What if we could reframe their job as not duty but devotion to a hobby? In other words, we need them to get the work done. No doubt. But we had it feel like what if you developed a passion for what we're doing here and what you're specifically doing on this job? When I have done that with my Gen zers and we began to think of it that way, made a total difference. They did more than what was on the job description.

[Interviewer (possibly Alison Beard or another host)]

So let's talk about development too. How do you start training these Gen Z workers to become leaders, you know, to develop the, the resilience that they need to grow in their careers.

[Tim Elmore]

As I watch this generation of young people grow into adulthood, I have find there's two tugs at their heart on the inside. I want to be me and I want to belong. And I think maturation means we have conversations about how can you find out who you are and then make the appropriate sacrifices on behalf of the whole to reach the goal. That doesn't mean I compromise who I am. I'm bringing my whole self to this team, but I'm doing it on behalf of a larger vision or big picture. But I think next is ownership. Gen Z is going to have to learn to own their work and to own the mission of the company. I don't think you can be a great leader unless it goes from renting my job to owning my job. And now I'm taking it to a whole nother level because I own it and I'm getting to the goal the way that I would best use my talent to get there.

[Interviewer (possibly Alison Beard or another host)]

And ultimately, you know, if bosses and organizations get this right, what do you see as the payoff? Are there particular companies you would point to to say, yes, the managers in this company have made this investment. Have they listened, they've coached and now, you know, this is the result.

[Tim Elmore]

I think Enterprise Car Rental is a great example who hire many and maybe most of their new team members right out of college, but they put them on a leadership track. Now, not all are going to be brilliant leaders, but they assume you're going to influence well, you're going to move up the ladder. And that's very appealing to a gence. They're starting with belief. Right. I think Chick Fil a restaurants do a great job with young team members. They have 100,000 team members working at their restaurants around the country. And they tend to be values based and believe in those young people offer college scholarships to them, which is a sign of we believe in you. But most of the time, when I think about what all of these companies have in common, it's what we said, it's relationship before results. They do care about results, but they believe we're going to get to those better through good relationships. One statement we make at our workplace is this, everyone is more important than their job. No one is more important than the mission. I think that's a healthy balance. So I remember one particular year we had a young team member that had a boyfriend that was toxic. It was an abusive relationship. They were living together. And our team stopped our work that day and we rushed over to her apartment and got her out of there and got her resettled somewhere else. And I'm getting a little teary now.

[Co-host or Contributor (possibly Adi or another guest)]

Because I'm thinking.

[Tim Elmore]

You might say we didn't get any work done that day, but we really got some work done that day because, man, we were able to show that we care for her.

[Co-host or Contributor (possibly Adi or another guest)]

And I mean, she went to the mat for our organization.

[Tim Elmore]

You can imagine we love daughter that way. So I think that's gonna be key in the future is that we're able to do those kinds of things that are counterintuitive but show that we actually care.

[Interviewer (possibly Alison Beard or another host)]

Well, Tim, it's been such a pleasure talking to you. Thank you so much, Alison.

[Tim Elmore]

Great to be with you. Thanks for the honor.

[Alison Beard]

That's Tim Elmore, author of the book the Future Begins with z. Next week, Adi speaks with the head of McKinsey about the organization's 100th anniversary and where the consulting industry goes next. If you found this episode helpful, share it with a colleague and be sure to subscribe and rate our IdeaCast in Apple Podcasts, Spotify or wherever you listen. If you want to help leaders move the world forward, please consider subscribing to Harvard Business Review. You'll get access to the HBR Mobile app, the weekly Exclusive Insider newsletter, and unlimited access to HBR Online. Just head to hbr.org subscribe thanks to our team, Senior Producer Mary Dew, Audio Product Manager Ian Fox and Senior Production Specialist Rob Eckart. And thanks to you. Thank you for listening to the HBR IdeaCast. We'll be back with a new episode on Tuesday. I'm Alison Beard.