Podcast Summary: Healing + Human Potential

Episode: REPLAY: How to Never Be Afraid of Failure Again + Unlock Easy Success

Host: Alyssa Nobriga
Date: December 16, 2025

Main Theme

This episode centers on transforming one’s relationship with failure, moving from fear and self-judgment to embracing failure as an essential pathway to growth, freedom, and authentic success. Through vulnerable storytelling and practical tools, Alyssa Nobriga shares how she navigated personal and professional failures—and how listeners can do the same—by integrating lessons from psychology, spirituality, and embodied coaching.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

Reframing Failure: From Fear to Freedom

• Alyssa’s Backstory:
  Alyssa opens up about having ADHD, dyslexia, and a learning disability label, detailing her journey from feeling “not smart” to running a successful, multi-seven-figure business (00:00).
• Failure as Feedback:
  Successful people don’t avoid failure—they keep going and use it as a learning opportunity rather than a personal flaw (03:36).
• The Mindset Shift:
  Alyssa highlights adopting a learning-oriented approach, taking personal responsibility, and avoiding blame post-failure. Instead, she focuses on learning and continuous improvement (03:36–04:30).

Stories of Failure and Resilience

• Live Event Flop:
  Alyssa recounts running two live events: the first Mastermind pitch was a success, the second—with much greater numbers—was a flop when no one stood up. She resisted her old shame spiral, practiced self-compassion, clarified her offer, and ultimately filled the program (05:23–08:25).

  “I knew I needed to embody that. I needed to lead the way… and I like meeting my edges. It’s not always comfortable, but I like how my life gets bigger by doing that.” — Alyssa Nobriga (05:16)

• Risky Business Launch:
  She shares about nearly losing $500,000 in a launch, her only revenue stream at the time. Alyssa describes the tension between controlling outcomes and surrendering, finding peace with any possible result, and how success flowed once she truly let go (10:37–15:19).

  “It ended up being the most successful launch we had to date, but only after I had really given up control and surrendered to what was.” — Alyssa Nobriga (14:39)

Navigating Triggers and Cultivating Truth

• Processing Triggers:
  Alyssa explains the importance of not making major life or business decisions from a triggered place. She first works through her emotional charge before clarifying the right course of action (09:47–10:37).
• Somatic & Multilevel Approaches:
  Her healing methodology integrates five levels: somatic (body), emotional, mental, behavioral, and unconscious (31:18–32:58). She encourages addressing the root pattern, not just the person or circumstance causing upset.

  “If I can resolve that at the root, then it doesn’t matter where it shows up. I feel a lot freer.” — Alyssa Nobriga (33:46)

• Discernment & Intuition:
  Alyssa distinguishes between fear-based reactions and truth-aligned decisions. She shares a pivotal moment when she abandoned her planned life (relationship, grad program, city) to follow a knowing that made no rational sense—leading to extraordinary life transformation (37:27–39:48).

Healing Childhood Wounds & Identity

• Overcoming Early Labels:
  Alyssa recounts the enduring impact of being labeled with a learning disability—her feelings of shame, comparison, and insecurity—and how she came to view these as gifts and unique strengths in her work (00:00, 19:06–21:44).
• Bullying & Belonging:
  A moving account of being bullied by 30 girls in middle school, losing her friend group, and learning to stand up for herself—even in the face of threat and rumors (23:14–28:30).

  “Having a voice, having my own back, standing up for myself... even if it required me to fight and not win… that was so teaching for me.” — Alyssa Nobriga (25:18)

• Healing Through Reparenting:
  She details inner-child work: meeting and assuring the younger, scared parts of herself, bringing them forward to see how life turned out, and offering them the sense of safety they previously lacked (29:04–30:41).

Tools and Practices Shared

• Working With Triggers:
  • Address just one pattern at a time.
  • Identify and work at the root (not just with people or situations that trigger you).
  • Approach from the presenting level: somatic for body sensations, emotional for feelings, mental for thoughts, etc.
• Building Intuition:
  Keep an intuition journal: note when/how intuition arises, act on small hunches, and track outcomes for self-trust (40:11–41:32).
• Self-Inquiry:
  Question deep-seated beliefs, including those about identity and worthiness. Alyssa cites teachers and practices, e.g., Adyashanti, Byron Katie, Eckhart Tolle’s "A New Earth" (43:02–44:06).

Integrative Approach: Psychology Meets Spirituality

• Alyssa consistently blends psychological growth with spiritual inquiry—using business and relationships not only for external success but as “paths to awakening” (44:21–45:54).
• She calls the process “stillness and stilettos”—grounded presence in the midst of ambitious, modern life (45:54).

Vulnerability and Real-Time Healing

• Caring What Others Think:
  Despite her success, Alyssa admits to still feeling the urge to play small, care about others' opinions, and default to control or perfectionism under stress (46:03–48:52).
• Somatic Integration:
  Her real-time tool: feel the physical sensation of insecurity or rejection directly, embrace it, and allow it—without getting lost in the accompanying story (49:21–50:18).

  “The thing I’m afraid to feel holds the key to what I deeply desire... If I’m pushing a part of me away, I’m not going to feel whole. As I welcome that, I feel more wholeness.” — Alyssa Nobriga (48:45)

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• “People who are successful just keep going. They have a learning orientation to life.” — Alyssa Nobriga (03:36)
• “If I go into blame, I know that then I’m stuck.” — Alyssa Nobriga (04:05)
• “Failure, having a healthy relationship with failure… does not mean anything about us. Maybe our skill, but not about us.” — Alyssa Nobriga (08:25)
• “Work the trigger first… then the clarity of what’s true for me is revealed.” — Alyssa Nobriga (10:25)
• “Feel failure as a sensation, not a story.” — Alyssa Nobriga (14:16)
• “I’ve never regretted following my truth, my intuition. It’s always turned out and I had to develop that muscle.” — Alyssa Nobriga (39:46)
• “Most of my life was, ‘oh, I’m not good enough.’ And I saw both the ‘I am enough’ and ‘I’m not enough’ are just stories. Who I am is prior to those stories.” — Alyssa Nobriga (41:45)
• “If I cower, my life gets smaller. And so it’s not easy but I think it’s harder staying in the fear.” — Alyssa Nobriga (27:28)

Timestamp Guide to Important Segments

• [00:00] – Alyssa’s learning disabilities, intro to the episode’s frame on failure
• [03:36] – Reframing failure; the learning orientation
• [05:16] – Event pitch success and failure stories; emotional navigation of public disappointment
• [10:37] – The $500,000 launch story & surrender practice
• [14:39] – The turning point: surrender leads to results
• [19:06] – The origin of the “not smart” belief and reframing ability/disability
• [23:14] – Childhood bullying and building resilience through adversity
• [29:04] – Using inner-child work to heal old wounds
• [31:18] – Alyssa’s five-level methodology for working with triggers
• [37:27] – Discerning truth vs. fear; story of leaving her planned life path
• [41:45] – The impact of self-inquiry and questioning identity
• [46:03] – Ongoing struggles with caring what people think and using somatic work for integration
• [48:45] – Fully feeling difficult sensations as a key to wholeness

Actionable Takeaways

• See failure as feedback, not a verdict on your worth.
• Work with triggers before making major decisions—never from a reactive state.
• Integrate healing at the deepest level (root pattern), not just with surface events.
• Use self-inquiry and somatic practices to navigate difficult emotions.
• Develop intuition with intention, starting with small, low-risk decisions.
• Remember: The parts of yourself you struggle with most hold your greatest potential.

Final Reflections

Alyssa closes with heartfelt acknowledgment of her own vulnerabilities, the continued work of embracing her fears and insecurities, and the invitation for all listeners to practice self-compassion and self-trust on their own journeys. Her lived example models the episode’s central message: that true success is an inside job, unlocked by befriending failure and reclaiming every part of ourselves as fuel for authentic growth.

For more tools and resources
Alyssa frequently references her free solo podcast episodes and her Coach Certification Program for those seeking deeper transformation.
Website: alyssanobriga.com