Podcast Summary:

Healing + Human Potential
Host: Alyssa Nobriga
Guest: Olivia Amitrano (formerly Organic Olivia)
Episode: Why Reparenting Your Inner Child Is The Key To Attracting Miracles
Date: November 18, 2025

Episode Overview

In this transformative episode, Alyssa Nobriga sits down with entrepreneur, herbalist, and musician Olivia Amitrano to explore the profound healing power of reparenting the inner child. Olivia shares her deeply personal story of overcoming generational cycles, healing childhood wounds, and why honoring every part of ourselves—especially the ones we’ve hidden—is essential for attracting miracles and living authentically. Themes of forgiveness, radical self-acceptance, nervous system regulation, and the courage to evolve weave through both Olivia’s story and practical coaching tools from Alyssa.

Key Discussion Points and Insights

1. The Butterfly Effect: Olivia’s Journey of Becoming

• Early Identity Shifts:
  Olivia’s childhood passion for music (opera, piano) was ultimately abandoned due to lack of support and health challenges.
  • "As a child, I was an opera singer ... music day in and day out, my obsession, my love. And then ... I stopped singing and immediately kind of developed these health issues." [01:54, Olivia]
• The Detour into Healing:
  Severe health issues led Olivia to study pre-med, experiment with alternative medicine, and eventually form her own herbal business.
  • "Started a blog, studied herbalism, using myself as a guinea pig ... turned into a company." [03:17, Olivia]
• Full-Circle Back to Music:
  Ten years later, a “call from her soul” brought her back to her musical roots, catalyzing a new creative chapter.
  • "Woke up one day and just had this call from my soul ... I needed to go back to music ... I've never been happier." [04:19, Olivia]

2. Parts Work and Inner Child Dynamics

• Recognizing Inner Parts:
  Olivia describes her internal “manager” as the over-functioning, detail-obsessed part that protected her, but exhausted her authentic self.
• Integrating, Not Suppressing:
  The inner child needed visibility and play; ignoring her led to rebellion or burnout.
  • "When you ignore that part, it kind of comes out ... that lack of integration ... can create its own set of issues." [05:47, Olivia]
• Internal Family Systems (IFS):
  Insights from IFS and the importance of every part having a place—but not always driving the car.
  • "All parts of ourselves are welcome ... but not necessarily driving the car." [07:15, Alyssa]

3. Radical Self-Acceptance & Meaning-Making at Rock Bottom

• Acceptance Precedes Change:
  Real shifts begin with radical honesty about where you are; self-love comes through action, not bypass.
  • "Starting with just radical self-acceptance and radical acceptance of the reality in the moment ... is what gives you empowerment." [12:09, Olivia]
• Meaning as Launch Pad:
  The stories we tell about our struggles turn pain into transformation.
  • "Making meaning for me is what always got me to the next thing and the next step." [13:19, Olivia]
• Quote:
  • Alyssa: "If I argue with reality, I lose, but only 100% of the time." [13:57, quoting Byron Katie]

4. Intergenerational Healing & Forgiveness

• Cycle Breaking as a Calling:
  Olivia shares her drive to break her family’s cycles of self-abandonment, disease, and suppressed feminine expression.
  • "A lot of my life has been a study of my mother ... I wanted to make her happy and, in a way, end up doing that for myself." [18:37, Olivia]
• Forgiveness Through Crisis:
  A near-death experience with her mom gave Olivia a profound window of complete forgiveness and compassion.
  • "At that moment ... I just scream, cried, and just asked her to stay ... What a beautiful feeling that is, and how completely I forgave her in that moment." [00:22 & 22:31, Olivia]
• Living Without Anger:
  After forgiving, Olivia experienced a new relationship with her mother:
  • "What a gift to me to experience a lifetime with my mother where I felt no anger towards her and could just see her as a child..." [22:57, Olivia]

5. Reparenting in Practice: Do’s and Don’ts

• Dopamine, Discipline, and Self-Trust:
  Balance comfort (bubble baths) with challenge (doing hard things), understanding brain chemistry helps break cycles of avoidance.
  • "Doing hard things was not actually a punishment ... your brain has to overcorrect by giving you pleasure after..." [29:02, Olivia]
• Building Self-Trust with Tiny Promises:
  Consistency in keeping “small promises” fosters a sense of safety and reliability in oneself.
  • "Your inner child ... needs like the tiniest bit of consistent ... So you need to do the keep the tiniest promises." [32:06, Olivia]
• Meeting, Not Dismissing, Feelings:
  Engage the inner child not by insisting they don’t need to feel, but by validating their experience.
  • "Rather energetically get down on our knees and really be there with that feeling." [33:11, Alyssa]
• Navigating Food and Comfort:
  Olivia’s journey included transforming her relationship with food from emotional crutch to curiosity-driven self-care.
  • "So often what I was looking for in food was like, sweetness in my life and fun in my life..." [34:47, Olivia]

6. Inner Work Translates Into Physical Health

• From Self-War to Self-Compassion:
  Physical ailments (acne, IBS) tracked with periods of self-abandonment; healing self-relationship brought visible healing.
  • "If you're not at war inside of yourself, that stress ... shows up in different ailments in our body." [42:43, Alyssa]
• Consistency Over Hacks:
  Real transformation occurred not from more information, but by applying basic self-care—eating breakfast, nervous system regulation, and honoring one’s needs.
  • "It's very simple things that heal the body ... having the self-relationship and self-worth to do them." [41:45, Olivia]

7. Shedding Old Identities & Embracing Authenticity

• Letting Go of Performative Masks:
  Social media and professional identities can reinforce the “performer” self—true authenticity requires shedding this layer.
  • "Turning your everyday life into content ... is performing your life instead of really being in it." [50:33, Olivia]
• Embracing All Parts for Wholeness:
  Judgment of performative or people-pleasing parts keeps us stuck; integration and acceptance are key.
  • "Whatever I judge or identify with, I'm stuck with ... Love moves towards everything." [51:44, Alyssa]

8. Practical Reparenting Exercises

• Voice Dialogue & Parts Conversations:
  Olivia uses voice memos to let the “manager” and “inner child” have conversations, leading to breakthroughs and even song lyrics.
  • "Some of the lyrics in [my song] are direct quotes from that 47-minute recording..." [56:24, Olivia]
• Collaborative Planning Between Parts:
  Alyssa recommends giving “the mic” to each part in brainstorming, then designing solutions that meet their needs together.

9. Courage to Answer Your Calling

• Expect Discomfort, Choose Discovery:
  Letting go of old careers/identities is hard, but necessary discomfort paves the way for emergence.
  • "You're going to have to grieve some things, but you're going to grieve them because you're ready to." [58:41, Olivia]
• Quote:
  • "A full send is better than a half send. ... It will be so worth it to meet that version of yourself who went all the way." [59:05, Olivia]
• Honoring Ancestral Possibility:
  "A lot of times our ancestors didn't have the choice. We have the choice." [60:00, Olivia]

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• "When you ignore [your inner child], it kind of comes out ... and that lack of integration ... can create its own set of issues." — Olivia [05:47]
• "Radical acceptance of the reality in the moment ... is what gives you the empowerment and launch point." — Olivia [12:09]
• "If I argue with reality, I lose, but only 100% of the time." — Alyssa [13:57, quoting Byron Katie]
• "I just scream, cried, and just asked her to stay and asked her to live ... and how completely I forgave her in that moment." — Olivia [00:22, 22:39]
• "Your inner child ... just needs like the tiniest bit of consistent [love] ... so that you can learn that you're a reliable reparenter." — Olivia [32:06]
• "Turning your everyday life into content ... is explaining your life and performing your life instead of really being in it." — Olivia [50:33]
• "A full send is better than a half send ... It will be so worth it to meet that version of yourself who went all the way." — Olivia [59:05]

Timestamps for Key Segments

| Timestamp | Topic | |---|---| | 00:00–00:42 | Olivia shares the story of a pivotal moment with her mother’s illness—forgiveness through crisis | | 01:48–04:52 | Olivia’s Butterfly Effect: Leaving and returning to music | | 05:03–07:38 | Inner child dynamics, manager vs. child, parts work | | 11:22–14:25 | Rock bottom, radical acceptance, meaning-making | | 17:56–23:34 | Intergenerational cycles, breaking family patterns, lineage healing | | 28:48–33:11 | Reparenting, dopamine, self-discipline, scientific understanding | | 34:47–40:14 | Food as comfort, building self-relationship, curiosity vs. judgment | | 41:03–43:11 | Physical healing, nervous system, applying inner work | | 50:33–53:19 | Shedding performative identities, authenticity, social media pressure | | 54:32–56:24 | Integrating creative and manager parts, songwriting from parts work | | 58:30–60:00 | Courage to change, embracing discomfort, honoring ancestors’ limitations |

Actionable Tools and Takeaways

• Voice Dialogue: Letting inner parts (manager, child, rebel, etc.) have a “mic” and an internal conversation, either in journaling or voice memos.
• Curiosity Over Judgment: Replace self-critique with genuine curiosity—ask “What are you here to teach me?”
• Small Promises: Build self-trust with tiny, consistent actions—like eating breakfast or going for a 10-minute walk.
• Radical Self-Acceptance: Begin with honest acceptance of current circumstances. Acceptance is not complacency; it’s the basis for real change.
• Forgiveness Ritual: Allow yourself to grieve and feel anger before reaching forgiveness, especially in your family system.
• Inner Child Care: Treat your needs as you would a beloved child—offer both structure and comfort (not just one or the other).
• Creative Integration: Collaboration of “manager” and “creator” parts leads to synergy and flow in work and art.

Closing Thoughts

This episode is a master class in integrating the wisdom of our inner parts, practicing self-leadership, and courageously shedding outdated identities. Olivia’s journey offers practical tools and deep reassurance: everything you need to manifest miracles is within, waiting to be accepted and reparented. As Alyssa notes, “We have choice and we have tools. And with those two—unstoppable.” [60:18]

Connect With Olivia:

• Instagram: @oliviaamitrano
• Herbal Supplement Company: @organic_olivia
• Music (as O Livia): Spotify, Apple Music

Further Learning:
To dive deeper into coach training and Alyssa’s tools, visit alysanobriga.com/apply

This rich, multidimensional conversation is a powerful resource for any listener on a healing or creative journey, offering both heartfelt inspiration and actionable guidance for stepping fully into your authentic self.