Episode Overview

Title: Why You're Stuck at the Same Level and How to Change It for Good
Podcast: Healing + Human Potential
Host: Alyssa Nobriga
Date: January 26, 2026
Theme:
Alyssa Nobriga leads a live training session about creating lasting personal and professional change by addressing root causes—not just symptoms—of why we get stuck. She offers a transformative five-step tool, demonstrates it in a live coaching session, and shares her integrative approach that blends psychology, somatic practices, and coaching principles. The episode focuses on building self-worth, shifting subconscious blocks, and taking empowering action, all while fostering self-compassion and responsibility.

Table of Contents

1. Introduction & Context
2. Why Change Fails: The Real Reason We Get Stuck
3. Alyssa's Methodology: Root-Level Transformation
4. Five Steps to Breakthrough Exercise
5. Live Coaching Demonstration with Chantelle
6. Key Insights and Takeaways
7. Notable Quotes
8. Important Timestamps

Introduction & Context

• Alyssa welcomes listeners to Day 1 of her 5-Day Confidence & Clients Bootcamp, designed for those wanting to embody personal transformation, attract clients, and uplevel their leadership. She emphasizes creating change from the inside out and doing the “inner and the outer work.”
• Target Audience: Personal development enthusiasts, aspiring coaches, leaders, and anyone wanting more confidence and results in life or business.
• The approach is multi-dimensional—drawing from ancient wisdom, psychology, somatic therapy, and coaching.

Alyssa:

"You don't need to push harder. This is about a more graceful way to create change. I'm all about change from the inside out, doing both the inner and the outer work." (00:52)

Why Change Fails: The Real Reason We Get Stuck

• Willpower and Motivation Aren’t Enough: Most efforts to change fail because they rely only on willpower (the conscious mind, ~5% of power), leaving the 95% subconscious mind unaddressed.
• Upper Limits & Subconscious Set Points: We all have internal 'set points'—in money, weight, happiness, or love—that keep us at a certain level due to subconscious beliefs or fears.
  • Example Story (19:38): A client couldn’t exceed $250K income despite working harder and spending more on ads. By exploring her root fear (that earning more might harm her marriage, reflecting her parents’ story), Alyssa helped her break the invisible ceiling.
• Competing Intentions: Change is blocked when unconscious fears are at odds with conscious goals ("One foot on the gas, one on the brake").

Alyssa:

"You want it more than you fear it. That's why we're taking the foot off the brakes so that you excel more easily." (29:49)

Alyssa's Methodology: Root-Level Transformation

• Five Levels of Change: Unconscious, Mindset, Emotional Mastery, Somatic, Behavioral. Alyssa employs these to address the whole person.
• Not “One-Size-Fits-All”: Techniques must be matched to the client’s needs; trauma-informed practices are essential.
• Multi-Modal Approach: Blend of somatic tools, mindset shifts, emotional integration, and strategic action.
• Key Principle:

  "A real healing is a change of behavior." (23:42)

Five Steps to Breakthrough Exercise

Alyssa guides listeners through a powerful exercise to uncover and shift the subconscious blocks stopping them from reaching their goals.

Step 1: Name Your Specific Goal

• Get clear on what you want and how you want to feel doing it. Be specific, not vague.
• Example: “$150,000 a year, with ease.”

Step 2: Identify Your Core Fear

• Ask: "If I got this goal, what do I fear might happen?"
• Listen deeply—often the real fear isn't obvious.

Step 3: Find the Hidden Wisdom In Your Fear

• Ask: "How is this fear trying to serve me?"
• See your fear as an innocent protector.

Step 4: Reframe – How Can You Have Both?

• Combine your outer goal with your inner need.
• Ask: "How can I achieve this goal and have the quality my fear wants (e.g., safety, connection, ease)?"

Step 5: Take Grounded Action

• Choose one action that moves you forward while honoring your inner need.
• Example: Reach out for support, offer a taster session, or simply check in with yourself.

Alyssa’s Prompt:

"A real healing is a change of behavior. What’s one grounded action step you can take because of this insight?" (31:45)

Live Coaching Demonstration with Chantelle

[Begins at 36:09]

• Alyssa coaches Chantelle, who wants to grow her business to $100K this year.
• Step 1: Chantelle claims her goal out loud.
• Step 2: Alyssa gently invites Chantelle to notice any fears that arise—Chantelle identifies a core fear of abandonment.
• Step 3: Through guided inquiry and somatic presence work, Chantelle traces this to childhood memories of her mom choosing work over time with her, feeling unsupported and unseen.
• Step 4: Alyssa helps Chantelle resource her inner child, practice compassionate self-forgiveness, and acknowledge the deep need for safety and connection as she grows her business.
  • Powerful moment: Chantelle visualizes embracing her younger self and committing to a daily check-in to provide the presence she once lacked.
• Step 5: Chantelle sets an outer action: to consistently reach out to her support system and show up more with accountability.

Alyssa:

"What was an insight that you got from this that you want to implement?"
Chantelle: "We put these limitations on us...it doesn't have to be so hard." (54:27)

Key Insights and Takeaways

• Inner Work is Non-Negotiable: Sustainable change comes from addressing subconscious blocks, not pushing harder.
• Honor the Wisdom in Fear: Fear is usually trying to protect something—when acknowledged, it becomes a guide rather than an obstacle.
• Ask Better Questions: Instead of “Why am I stuck?” ask, “How can I have both my goal and what my fear wants?”
• Behavioral Change = Real Healing: Lasting transformation requires actionable steps, not just insight.
• Personal Responsibility: You must show up for yourself; no one else can do the inner work for you.
• Supportive Community: Consistency and community accelerate growth.
• Self-Compassion and Forgiveness: Integrating childhood wounds is key to moving past upper limits.

Notable Quotes

On Sustainable Change and Root Causes:

• "If you want to help others change their life, you got to work on the law level of worth and identity. And when you do that, it changes your entire life." (09:05)

On Competing Intentions:

• "We say we want to grow our business, but we’re scared of being seen or judged. We want to fall in love, but we’re scared of being hurt... One foot is on the gas, that's the conscious mind... The other 95% is your subconscious, which is responsible for behavior change." (17:31)

On Fear as Protector:

• "What does your fear want for you? How is it trying to serve you?" (28:54)

On Self-Forgiveness (Coaching Demo):

• Alyssa: “I forgive myself for buying into the misunderstanding that if I prioritize work, I'll be abandoned or I'll abandon myself.” (47:27)
• Chantelle: “It’s more welcoming and I don’t want to push it away. I want to bring up those emotions because I know when I do, then I can move forward.” (52:28)

On Healing:

• "Compassion is productive. We do the inner work and it shows up more powerfully on the outer." (56:29)

Important Timestamps

| Timestamp | Segment/Event | |-----------|--------------------------------------------------------| | 00:00 | Introduction, context & orientation | | 07:08 | On the importance of inner work and self-worth | | 19:38 | Story: Client stuck at income upper limit | | 23:42 | On “real healing is a change of behavior” | | 28:54 | Step-by-step: Unpacking and reframing fear | | 36:09 | Live coaching demo with Chantelle begins | | 41:20 | Unpacking childhood abandonment memory | | 47:27 | Self-forgiveness and integration | | 52:28 | Chantelle on the importance of feeling emotions | | 54:27 | Chantelle’s key insight: "It doesn't have to be so hard"| | 55:00+ | Alyssa’s closing tips and summary |

Summary

This episode is a hands-on immersion into conscious change, demonstrating how most people’s blocks are rooted deeper than motivation or strategy. Alyssa Nobriga guides listeners through a process to lovingly uncover and shift subconscious fears—illustrated powerfully in a live, vulnerable coaching session. The tools given are actionable and relevant to any growth area, from business to relationships.

“You use your mind or it will use you. Ask more intelligent questions.” (30:59)

Listeners are encouraged to show up courageously, do the inner work, name their real desires, compassionately meet their fears, and ground insights with action—because lasting change starts from within.