Podcast
Dating After Betrayal
Hosted by Haelly Kirk, Dating After Betrayal Coach · EN
Dating After Betrayal is a candid, grounded, and deeply honest exploration of love, self-trust, and rebuilding after betrayal.
Through real dating stories, voice-note-worthy reflections, and honest conversations, Haelly Kirk breaks down what’s actually happening beneath the surface after heartbreak. From attachment patterns and mixed signals to people-pleasing, chemistry, discernment, and learning how to trust yourself again.
This isn’t a podcast about “dating perfectly.”
It’s about understanding why betrayal changed the way you see love, men, yourself, and your future.
It’s about noticing your patterns, questioning the stories betrayal left behind, and learning how to date from clarity, confidence, and calm power instead of fear, fantasy, or survival mode.
Come for the dating stories.
Stay for the self-trust.
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Why Children Think Everything Is Their Fault
Nov 1700:34:03Tap to summarizeIn this episode, I share a moment at the airport that completely reshaped the way I see motherhood. After rewatching Freakier Friday, I was reminded of the day Israel thought I was mad at him—simply because I rushed a goodbye on my way to catch a flight. Kids don’t see context… they see energy. And when that energy shifts, they fill in the blanks with self-blame. This episode explores why children think everything is their fault, why repair matters more than perfection, and how one moment of reconnection can rewrite the story in your child’s heart.✨ ANNOUNCEMENT — My New Program: Dating Like a Boundary Baddie ✨If you’ve been listening and nodding like, “God, this is me,” then I created something for you.Is this you?You keep attracting men who love your strength but don’t step up.You overgive, overfunction, and overexplain — and then feel resentful.You fall for potential instead of patterns.You lose your softness because you’re exhausted from being in your masculine.You don’t want to settle, but you don’t fully trust yourself in dating yet.You know you’re magnetic, but you haven’t learned how to receive like a queen.Or do you know someone who keeps repeating the same dating cycle, loves too hard too soon, or struggles to uphold boundaries without feeling “mean”? Send them this episode.Because my brand-new program ✨Dating Like a Boundary Baddie✨ is officially open.This is for the independent, high-achieving, strong-willed woman who is ready to shift into her empowered feminine — slow, receptive, playful, grounded — without dimming her fire. Inside, we’re going deep into boundaries, self-worth, emotional safety, dating standards, and the art of receiving from men with ease and confidence.If you’re ready to date with clarity, softness, sovereignty, and high-value energy… Join me on a quick call. Here’s why:On this call, we’ll uncover your exact dating pattern, identify where your energy gets hijacked, and map out the next steps to become the woman who attracts and keeps emotional, consistent, provider-masculine men. This call alone will shift how you see yourself. And if it’s a fit, you can join the program — if not, you’ll still leave with clarity, compassion, and direction.Click here to schedule. Your next season of dating doesn’t have to be painful or confusing. It gets to feel sexy, playful, aligned, and powerful.Let’s make you a Boundary Baddie.Send us Fan Mail
Transcribe →Learning to Fall Like a Kid Again—“Mommy, Look! I Fell!”
Nov 1200:29:54Tap to summarizeThis week’s episode comes straight from a moment at the park with my son, Israel — and honestly, it wrecked me in the best way. We were climbing this giant spider-web rope structure, bouncing around, and Israel suddenly fell. Not a soft fall — a real fall. And instead of crying or getting embarrassed, he popped up smiling like, “Mommy, look! I fell down!” And he wanted to do it again. He studied the fall, played with it, dramatized it, and treated it like an experiment — not a failure. Watching him made me realize how many of us adults take everything so seriously. How many of us shame ourselves for every misstep. Meanwhile, our kids treat falling as part of the game. What would life feel like if we allowed ourselves that freedom?What if every time we stumbled in business, dating, motherhood, or healing, we could laugh and say, “Look! I fell!” instead of spiraling? My coach once told me the more successful she became, the more willing she was to be made a fool of in front of more people. That line hit differently after watching my son. So this episode is your permission slip to fall, laugh, learn, and rise again — with softness, curiosity, and joy.✨ ANNOUNCEMENT — My New Program: Dating Like a Boundary Baddie ✨If you’ve been listening and nodding like, “God, this is me,” then I created something for you.Is this you?You keep attracting men who love your strength but don’t step up.You overgive, overfunction, and overexplain — and then feel resentful.You fall for potential instead of patterns.You lose your softness because you’re exhausted from being in your masculine.You don’t want to settle, but you don’t fully trust yourself in dating yet.You know you’re magnetic, but you haven’t learned how to receive like a queen.Or do you know someone who keeps repeating the same dating cycle, loves too hard too soon, or struggles to uphold boundaries without feeling “mean”? Send them this episode.Because my brand-new program ✨Dating Like a Boundary Baddie✨ is officially open.This is for the independent, high-achieving, strong-willed woman who is ready to shift into her empowered feminine — slow, receptive, playful, grounded — without dimming her fire. Inside, we’re going deep into boundaries, self-worth, emotional safety, dating standards, and the art of receiving from men with ease and confidence.If you’re ready to date with clarity, softness, sovereignty, and high-value energy… Join me on a quick call. Here’s why: On this call, we’ll uncover your exact dating pattern, identify where your energy gets hijacked, and map out the next steps to become the woman who attracts and keeps emotional, consistent, provider-masculine men. This call alone will shift how you see yourself. And if it’s a fit, you can join the program — if not, you’ll still leave with clarity, compassion, and direction.Click here to schedule. Your next season of dating doesn’t have to be painful or confusing. It gets to feel sexy, playful, aligned, and powerful.Let’s make you a Boundary Baddie.MISCELLANEOUS things I mention on the podcast: Picture of the Popcorn spilling from the storyYummy Send a text
Transcribe →50: Lessons From 2024
Dec 31, 202400:38:08Tap to summarizeAs we wave goodbye to 2024, I’m sharing the most valuable lessons I’ve learned this year and the tools that have empowered me to make thoughtful, impactful decisions for the year ahead. From navigating personal growth to celebrating wins, this episode is my heartfelt recap of what worked, what didn’t, and how I’m stepping into 2025 with clarity and excitement. I’ll walk you through my top three game-changers: Atomic Habits by James Clear, the High Performance Planner by Brendon Burchard, and Mel Robbins’ life-changing yearly audit, which is rooted in seven transformative questions. These tools didn’t just guide my year—they supercharged my ability to make aligned and intentional choices.We’ll also dive into how this podcast has grown and connected us this year! From laughs and lessons to the moments that made me pause and reflect, I share the highlights of this journey with you. The numbers are in, and I couldn’t be more grateful for your love, support, and engagement. Whether you tuned in weekly or popped in sporadically, every single listen made a difference. Your feedback and encouragement have made this space a joy to create, and I can’t wait to bring you even more inspiring and empowering content in the year to come.Finally, I’m giving you a sneak peek into my 2025 goals—personally, professionally, and creatively. What’s next for the podcast? How am I planning to grow and keep showing up for you all? It’s all here, wrapped up in gratitude and hope for what lies ahead. Thank you for being part of this incredible journey. I’m thrilled to walk into 2025 with you, ready to dream bigger, live bolder, and make the most of every moment. This is more than a podcast—it’s a community, and I’m so happy you’re part of it! Let’s make this next year the best one yet. ✨Radom things I said I would link lol:Fish Flop Heels PerformanceAtomic Habits Free Resources: WorksheetsBrendan Burchard Planner:High Performance PlannerMel Robbins Yearly Audit Podcast:7 questions to ask yourself 🌟 Transform Your Life in 2025: Join My Full-Year Coaching Program! 🌟Are you ready to step into your most empowered, focused, and fulfilled self this year? My Full-Year Coaching Program is designed to help you crush your goals in every area of your life—whether it’s career, relationships, health, or personal growth. Together, we’ll create a customized plan tailored to your unique aspirations, providing the structure and support you need to achieve them.Here’s what you’ll get: ✨ Two private coaching sessions each month to dive deep into your goals and tackle any challenges that arise. ✨ Monthly workshops packed with practical tools and strategies for growth. Can’t make it live? No worries—you’ll get exclusive access to a private podcast feed with workshop recordings, so you can tune in on your own time. ✨ A community of like-minded individuals cheering you on every step of the way, plus my unwavering guidance to keep you on track and inspired.All of this for just $300/month—but here’s the best part: if you sign up by January 5th, you’ll get an early bird discount of $100 off your first mont
Transcribe →49: Why I Became a Homesteader: A Conversation with Alaynia
Dec 27, 202400:47:48Tap to summarizeJoin me as we dive into the inspiring world of homesteading with our special guest and my amazing friend, Alaynia. She shares her incredible journey from a conventional lifestyle to embracing the simplicity and self-sufficiency of homesteading. Alaynia opens up about what motivated her to make this life-changing decision, the challenges she’s faced along the way, and the unexpected joys she’s discovered in building a life closer to nature. From learning new skills to cultivating a deeper connection with her values, Alaynia’s story is a testament to the power of pursuing a lifestyle aligned with your dreams.Whether you’ve considered homesteading yourself or are simply curious about what it entails, this episode is packed with wisdom and practical insights. Alaynia offers advice for those intrigued by the idea of living off the land and shares her thoughts on how this lifestyle has changed her perspective on independence, community, and sustainability. Tune in to hear her inspiring story and learn why she chose to become a homesteader!Ready to transform your relationship with your body? I’m thrilled to invite you to my coaching program, love.your.body. Throughout this journey, we’ll dive into limiting belief systems, uncover the foundations of true confidence, and equip you with the tools to love, nurture, and care for your body. Together, we’ll release body shame and self-criticism, moving toward acceptance—and, ultimately, deep, unconditional love for your body.This program is designed to help you go beyond just accepting your body—by the end of this journey, you will truly love your body, feeling an incredible desire to care for, strengthen, and nurture it.Get in touch with Alaiyna:Growing Roots Farm School IG Program Overview:- Week 1: Understanding Body Thoughts Begin by identifying and exploring your thoughts and beliefs about your body, gaining clarity on where they come from.- Week 2: Creating Compassion with Believable Thoughts Learn how to soften your inner critic and embrace self-compassion, creating space for healing and acceptance.- Week 3: Challenging Cultural Conditioning Uncover the societal influences shaping your body image, and challenge these beliefs to reclaim your sense of self.- Week 4: Reframing Negative Thoughts Discover powerful techniques to shift and reframe negative thoughts, turning them into positive, empowering ones.- Week 5: Cultivating Body Gratitude Deepen your relationship with your body by focusing on gratitude for all it does for you, fostering a mindset of appreciation.- Week 6: Letting Go and Moving Forward Release old patterns and embrace a new, empowered outlook. Step forward with confidence, love, and a renewed sense of body acceptance.What You’ll Receive:- Access to all recordings of the one-on-one coaching sessions- Full slide decks and presentation materials from each week- Practical tools, techniques, and exercises to continue your self-love journey long after the program endsInvestment: $300 for the full 6-week programBy the end of this program, you’ll not only “accept your body just as it is”, but you will love it so much that you’ll feel a powerful and joyful desire to care for, strengthen, and nurture your body from a place of deep compassion and appreciation.Click the link here to schedule a free discovery call and experience how this program can support you. Let’s embark on this empow
Transcribe →48: Quantum Healing: Connor’s Approach to Holistic Psychotherapy and Self-Regulation
Dec 20, 202401:00:22Tap to summarizeIn this episode, I sit down with Connor Wills, the co-founder of Quantum, a holistic psychotherapy practice with an inspiring origin story. Connor shares his experiences working with teens in gangs, providing them with guidance and support during some of the most challenging times of their lives. We dive into the transformative power of holistic practices, including breathwork, self-regulation techniques, and the role of exercise in achieving emotional balance. Connor also offers insights into how parents can better navigate their own emotions, creating a more peaceful and supportive environment for their families.Whether you’re interested in understanding how holistic approaches can change lives or looking for actionable tools to bring more calm and connection to your parenting journey, this episode is packed with valuable takeaways. Join us as we explore the intersection of healing, parenting, and the pursuit of personal growth through innovative and heart-centered therapy.
Transcribe →47: From Masculine Drive to Feminine Flow: How Lola Manekin Built Tribe Baltimore
Dec 16, 202401:13:37Tap to summarizeIn this episode, we dive into the inspiring journey of Lola Manekin, co-founder of Tribe, Baltimore’s premier wellness and movement hub. Lola shares her pivotal moments, from owning and selling Movement Lab to creating Tribe—a business built on holistic practices and community connection.She opens up about stepping into her feminine power for this second venture, the importance of surrounding herself with the right people, and the transformative impact of her husband’s advice to stop hiding and embrace her light and strengths.Join us as we explore how Lola's evolution in business and self-awareness reshaped her approach to leadership, community, and building a space that prioritizes healing, connection, and authenticity.Perfect for aspiring entrepreneurs, wellness enthusiasts, and anyone seeking to align their work with their inner truth.More About Lola:Lola is Medicine Woman in a quantum, multi-demensional dance that’s rooted in the body and connected with all that is. The language of her Love expressed is creating sacred spaces and transformational experiences for you to truly heal; integrating through your body to become the fullness of who you came here to be.Connect with Lola and Tribe:Tribe BaltimoreLola's WebpageLola's IG Ready to transform your relationship with your body? I’m thrilled to invite you to my coaching program, love.your.body. Throughout this journey, we’ll dive into limiting belief systems, uncover the foundations of true confidence, and equip you with the tools to love, nurture, and care for your body. Together, we’ll release body shame and self-criticism, moving toward acceptance—and, ultimately, deep, unconditional love for your body.This program is designed to help you go beyond just accepting your body—by the end of this journey, you will truly love your body, feeling an incredible desire to care for, strengthen, and nurture it.Program Overview:- Week 1: Understanding Body Thoughts Begin by identifying and exploring your thoughts and beliefs about your body, gaining clarity on where they come from.- Week 2: Creating Compassion with Believable Thoughts Learn how to soften your inner critic and embrace self-compassion, creating space for healing and acceptance.- Week 3: Challenging Cultural Conditioning Uncover the societal influences shaping your body image, and challenge these beliefs to reclaim your sense of self.- Week 4: Reframing Negative Thoughts Discover powerful techniques to shift and reframe negative thoughts, turning them into positive, empowering ones.- Week 5: Cultivating Body Gratitude Deepen your relationship with your body by focusing on gratitude for all it does for you, fostering a mindset of appreciation.- Week 6: Letting Go and Moving Forward Release old patterns and embrace a new, empowered outlook. Step forward with confidence, love, and a renewed sense of body acceptance.What You’ll Receive:- Access to all recordings of the one-on-one coaching sessions- Full slide decks and presentation materials from each week- Practical tools, techniques, and exercises to continue your self-love journey long after the program endsInvestment: $300 for the full 6-week programBy the end of this program, you’ll not only “accept your body just as it is”, but you will love it so much that you’ll feel a powerful and joyful desire to care for, strengthen, and nurture your body from a place of deep compassion and appreciation.Click th
Transcribe →46: Holiday Harmony: Three Ways to Help with Holiday Stress
Dec 11, 202400:19:56Tap to summarizeThe holidays are here, and while they bring joy and celebration, they can also bring stress, tricky family dynamics, and overindulgence. In this episode, we’re sharing three practical ways to navigate holiday stress eating, deal with difficult relatives, and make the most of every magical moment. Whether you're looking to stay mindful at the dinner table, set boundaries with ease, or fully embrace the joy of the season, this episode has you covered. Tune in and find your holiday harmony! 🎄✨
Transcribe →45: Why Small Wins Matter: 3 Beliefs That Are Making Your Goals Harder to Achieve
Dec 5, 202400:37:21Tap to summarizeDo you ever feel like your progress isn’t enough, or that you should be further along by now? Maybe you’ve caught yourself thinking, “That’s it?” after a small accomplishment—or even hesitating to start something because you can’t do it perfectly.In this episode, we’re diving into three sneaky beliefs that could be making your goals harder to achieve:1️⃣ “That’s it?” – How dismissing small wins can rob you of motivation.2️⃣ “I should be further along by now” – Why comparison and unrealistic expectations hold you back.3️⃣ “If I can’t do it perfectly, it’s not worth doing” – The all-or-nothing mindset that keeps you stuck.Join me as we challenge these limiting beliefs, reframe them into empowering perspectives, and explore how embracing small wins can fuel your long-term success. By the end of this episode, you’ll see why every step forward—no matter how small—deserves to be celebrated.✨ Progress isn’t about perfection; it’s about persistence. Let’s make those small wins count!Ready to transform your relationship with your body? I’m thrilled to invite you to my 6-week coaching program, love.your.body. Throughout this journey, we’ll dive into limiting belief systems, uncover the foundations of true confidence, and equip you with the tools to love, nurture, and care for your body. Together, we’ll release body shame and self-criticism, moving toward acceptance—and, ultimately, deep, unconditional love for your body.This 6-week program is designed to help you go beyond just accepting your body—by the end of this journey, you will truly love your body, feeling an incredible desire to care for, strengthen, and nurture it.Program Overview:- Week 1: Understanding Body Thoughts Begin by identifying and exploring your thoughts and beliefs about your body, gaining clarity on where they come from.- Week 2: Meeting Thoughts with Compassion Learn how to soften your inner critic and embrace self-compassion, creating space for healing and acceptance.- Week 3: Challenging Cultural Conditioning Uncover the societal influences shaping your body image, and challenge these beliefs to reclaim your sense of self.- Week 4: Reframing Negative Thoughts Discover powerful techniques to shift and reframe negative thoughts, turning them into positive, empowering ones.- Week 5: Cultivating Body Gratitude Deepen your relationship with your body by focusing on gratitude for all it does for you, fostering a mindset of appreciation.- Week 6: Letting Go and Moving Forward Release old patterns and embrace a new, empowered outlook. Step forward with confidence, love, and a renewed sense of body acceptance.What You’ll Receive:- Access to all recordings of the one-on-one coaching sessions- Full slide decks and presentation materials from each week- Practical tools, techniques, and exercises to continue your self-love journey long after the program endsInvestment: $300 for the full 6-week programBy the end of this program, you’ll not only “accept your body just as it is”, but you will love it so much that you’ll feel a powerful and joyful desire to care for, strengthen, and nurture your body from a place of deep compassion and appreciation.Click the link here to schedule a free and quick discovery call and experience how this program can support you. Let’s embark on this empowering journey together!Miscellaneous mentions in the podcast:Creatine Podcast Discussion
Transcribe →44: The Gift of Grief: Healing Through Loss with Celest
Dec 1, 202401:00:47Tap to summarizeIn this heartfelt episode, I sit down with my best friend Celest to explore the raw and transformative experience of grief. After the recent loss of her grandmother, Celest shares her personal healing journey, the ways she has processed her pain, and the lessons she's learned along the way. I also open up about my own experiences with grief and share insights from David Kessler’s renowned workbook on grief. Together, we discuss how loss, while deeply painful, can also be a gateway to growth, connection, and meaning. This episode is a gentle reminder that you’re not alone, and healing is possible.Learn more about Celest:Business IGPersonal IGlove.your.body ProgramReady to transform your relationship with your body? I’m thrilled to invite you to my 6-week coaching program, love.your.body. Throughout this journey, we’ll dive into limiting belief systems, uncover the foundations of true confidence, and equip you with the tools to love, nurture, and care for your body. Together, we’ll release body shame and self-criticism, moving toward acceptance—and, ultimately, deep, unconditional love for your body.Click the link here to schedule a free discovery call and experience how this program can support you. Let’s embark on this empowering journey together!
Transcribe →43: Sculpting the Soul: How Problems Are Gifts
Nov 29, 202400:19:44Tap to summarizeProblems. We all have them, and most of us wish they’d disappear. But what if these challenges are actually gifts in disguise? In this episode, Sculpting the Soul: Why We Should Be Grateful for Problems, we explore how life’s struggles act as tools to shape our souls, building resilience, compassion, and inner strength.Through personal stories, timeless wisdom, and practical advice, we’ll uncover:Why problems don’t last forever, but the growth they bring does.How to reframe struggles as opportunities for transformation.The power of gratitude, even in the face of life’s toughest moments.Tune in to discover why the challenges you face today might just be the greatest blessings for your soul’s journey. By the end of this episode, you’ll see problems in a whole new light—one of gratitude, growth, and purpose.Listen now and let your soul be sculpted by life’s masterpiece-making moments.Love.Your.Body.Ready to transform your relationship with your body? I’m thrilled to invite you to my 6-week coaching program, love.your.body. Throughout this journey, we’ll dive into limiting belief systems, uncover the foundations of true confidence, and equip you with the tools to love, nurture, and care for your body. Together, we’ll release body shame and self-criticism, moving toward acceptance—and, ultimately, deep, unconditional love for your body.Click the link here to schedule a free discovery call and experience how this program can support you. Let’s embark on this empowering journey together!
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