Podcast
Dating After Betrayal
Hosted by Haelly Kirk, Dating After Betrayal Coach · EN
Dating After Betrayal is a candid, grounded, and deeply honest exploration of love, self-trust, and rebuilding after betrayal.
Through real dating stories, voice-note-worthy reflections, and honest conversations, Haelly Kirk breaks down what’s actually happening beneath the surface after heartbreak. From attachment patterns and mixed signals to people-pleasing, chemistry, discernment, and learning how to trust yourself again.
This isn’t a podcast about “dating perfectly.”
It’s about understanding why betrayal changed the way you see love, men, yourself, and your future.
It’s about noticing your patterns, questioning the stories betrayal left behind, and learning how to date from clarity, confidence, and calm power instead of fear, fantasy, or survival mode.
Come for the dating stories.
Stay for the self-trust.
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The Dating Mistake that Feels Like "Being Nice": Mr. Styrofoam Explained
Apr 700:32:22Tap to summarizeReady to stop overthinking your dating life and start getting real clarity?Book your FREE 20-minute dating consult here: [Insert Link]If you’re navigating confusing situations, patterns that keep repeating, or you just want expert eyes on your dating profile or current connection—I’ve got you. No pressure, just support, clarity, and direction.Episode:You ever stay on a date way longer than you wanted to… just to be “nice”?In this episode, I break down a recent date with Mr. Styrofoam—where nothing was technically wrong, but everything felt off. While he thought it was going great, I knew within minutes it wasn’t a match… and still stayed for hours.We’re talking about the subtle dating mistake so many women make: overriding what their body is telling them in the name of politeness. I walk you through the exact moments that felt off, what I noticed, where I stayed longer than I needed to, and what I’d do differently now.If you’ve ever second-guessed your intuition, stayed out of obligation, or wondered “should I give it more time?”… this episode is for you.Send us Fan Mail
Transcribe →He Was Everything… Except Available 💔 Mr. Logistically Unavailable, Explained
Mar 2500:33:54Tap to summarizeReady to stop overthinking your dating life and start getting real clarity?Book your FREE 20-minute dating consult here: [Insert Link]If you’re navigating confusing situations, patterns that keep repeating, or you just want expert eyes on your dating profile or current connection—I’ve got you. No pressure, just support, clarity, and direction.My Spring Cohort begins April 6th, and this is your chance to get a feel for what it’s like to be coached by me before joining.I met a man who checked almost every box.Chemistry. Depth. Emotional intelligence. Playfulness. Presence.The kind of connection that makes you pause and think… oh… this is what I’ve been looking for.And I still had to walk away.Not because he ghosted me. Not because he disrespected me. But because he wasn’t available for the kind of relationship I want.In this episode, I break down what I now call Mr. Logistically Unavailable—the man who shows up well, creates real connection… and still doesn’t choose the relationship.I share the full story, including the very real moment where I almost abandoned my standards and sent him flights just to make it work.And how I coached myself through it.This episode is for you if: You’ve ever met someone amazing… but it just couldn’t work You’ve felt tempted to convince someone to choose you You’re tired of confusing chemistry with alignment You want to date with clarity instead of emotion-led decisions This isn’t about settling.It’s about refining your standards.Because the truth is:Compatibility creates connection. But availability creates relationships.And once you understand that… everything changes.If you want support applying this to your own dating life, don’t forget to book your free consult above.Send us Fan Mail
Transcribe →The Internet Says Single Moms Are "Ruining The Dating Pool"....
Mar 600:35:40Tap to summarizeSingle moms — or those of you who know and love a single mom — pay attention.I’m hosting a FREE workshop called Love Without Anxiety on March 9th and March 16th at 5:30 PM EST, where I’ll be teaching the mindset and strategies that help single moms date with clarity instead of anxiety.Reserve your seat here: [Click HERE]Some men think single moms are ruining modern dating.Instead of getting offended… I got curious.Recently I posted something online about dating as a single mom, and the internet had a lot to say. Some men claimed single moms are ruining the dating pool. Others said no “quality man” would want to raise another man’s child. And of course, the internet delivered its usual mix of criticism, confusion, and completely random comments.But instead of letting it bother me, I found the whole thing fascinating.Because the truth is… they aren’t entirely wrong.Some men genuinely don’t want to date single moms.And once you understand that, something powerful happens: dating becomes a lot simpler.In this episode, I explore why criticism like this doesn’t hurt the way it used to and how doing deeper inner work completely changes the way we experience rejection, judgment, and dating.Drawing from the teachings of Byron Katie, we unpack why other people’s opinions only have power over us when we believe them — and why dating isn’t about convincing the wrong people to choose you.It’s about letting them filter themselves out.Inside this conversation we explore:• Why some men truly don’t want to date single moms (and why that’s useful information) • The two very different types of men that exist in the dating world • How self-worth changes the way criticism lands • Why rejection can actually be clarityBecause the goal of dating isn’t to be liked by everyone.It’s to find the person who sees the most beautiful parts of your life… and loves you even more for them.Send us Fan Mail
Transcribe →Dating Isn’t Working… Yet: The Art of Wanting
Feb 2400:37:21Tap to summarizeIf you’ve been dating for a while and it hasn’t worked…If you’ve gone on the apps, tried the dates, put yourself out there… and still haven’t found your person…If you’re starting to feel rejected, tired, maybe even a little hopeless…If thoughts like “Maybe I’m just meant to be single.” “Maybe it’s too late.” “Maybe love just isn’t for me.” have started whispering louder than you’d like…I hear you.And I don’t want another year to go by where you quietly harden into those beliefs.Because here’s the truth: the longer you let disappointment sit unchallenged, the more it starts to shape your identity. Your expectations. Your nervous system. Your standards. Your hope.That’s why I’m hosting a free live workshop called Love Without Anxiety.If dating feels like pressure, performance, or panic… I’m going to show you what’s actually happening in your mind and body and how to approach love without that constant undercurrent of stress.You don’t need to be more perfect. You don’t need to try harder. You need a different lens.👉 Click here to register for Love Without Anxiety.Send us Fan Mail
Transcribe →Demystifying Imposter Syndrome: What It’s Actually Pointing To
Jan 2700:26:01Tap to summarizeImposter syndrome is usually treated like a confidence problem. But what if it’s actually information?In this episode, we demystify imposter syndrome by exploring what it’s really pointing to — not as a flaw to fix, but as a signal worth listening to.Through my personal reflection and a recent realization around growth, visibility, and ownership, this conversation reframes the “fraud” feeling as an invitation toward deeper honesty, agency, and self-trust.If you’ve ever felt uncomfortable owning your success, minimizing your wins, or questioning your right to take up space, this episode offers a quieter, more grounded way to understand what’s happening beneath the surface.This isn’t a confidence pep talk. It’s an awareness practice.Send us Fan Mail
Transcribe →Cracks, But Not Broken: Healing with Fire, Faith & Feminine Power with Adlin Morales Aguilú
Dec 2100:50:52Tap to summarizeIn this powerful and heart-opening episode, I sit down with clinical therapist, woman of faith, and fierce advocate for healing, Adlin Morales Aguilú, to talk about her book Cracks, But Not Broken.Adlin shares her deeply personal journey of emotional healing, spiritual restoration, and reclaiming identity through faith, compassion, and feminine power. We explore what it truly means to heal layer by layer, how God can transform wounds into living testimonies, and why softness is not weakness, but strength.Through meaningful metaphors, lived experience, and grounded wisdom, this conversation invites you to stop seeing yourself as broken and start recognizing the beauty, purpose, and power that can emerge through the cracks.If you’ve ever felt worn down, invisible, or unsure how to rise again, this episode is a reminder that restoration is still possible and often more beautiful than we imagine.Connect with Adlin Morales Aguilú: Website: https://www.aguiluhealingservices.comEmail: adlin@aguiluhealingservices.comPhone: 480-904-8132Follow her on social media:TikTok: aguiluhumanservicesInstagram: @aguiluhumanservicesFB: aguiluhumanservicesSend us Fan Mail
Transcribe →Presence over Perfection: The Christmas We Actually Need
Dec 1800:29:39Tap to summarizeChristmas has a way of convincing us that it has to be bigger, better, and more beautiful every year. In this episode, Haelly uses How the Grinch Stole Christmas as a mirror for modern holiday pressure, reflecting on Martha May Whovier energy, Betty Lou Who stress, and the chaos that comes from trying to make everything perfect. When the focus shifts to decorations, gifts, and performance, the real spirit of Christmas can quietly slip away, leaving even the most well-intentioned hearts feeling overwhelmed and disconnected.This year, Christmas looks different for Haelly as a single mother who will not have her son on Christmas Day, and instead of forcing cheer, she shares an honest conversation about disappointment, emotional waves, and choosing presence over perfection. Drawing on wisdom about emotions as energy and offering practical ways to create a supportive holiday game plan, this episode is for anyone whose Christmas does not match the picture in their head. It is a reminder that Christmas is not something we perform, but something we feel, and that meaning can still be found when we honor ourselves exactly where we are.✨ ANNOUNCEMENT — My New Program: Dating Like a Boundary Baddie ✨If you’ve been listening and nodding like, “God, this is me,” then I created something for you.Is this you?You keep attracting men who love your strength but don’t step up.You overgive, overfunction, and overexplain — and then feel resentful.You fall for potential instead of patterns.You lose your softness because you’re exhausted from being in your masculine.You don’t want to settle, but you don’t fully trust yourself in dating yet.You know you’re magnetic, but you haven’t learned how to receive like a queen.Or do you know someone who keeps repeating the same dating cycle, loves too hard too soon, or struggles to uphold boundaries without feeling “mean”? Send them this episode.Because my brand-new program ✨Dating Like a Boundary Baddie✨ is officially open.This is for the independent, high-achieving, strong-willed woman who is ready to shift into her empowered feminine — slow, receptive, playful, grounded — without dimming her fire. Inside, we’re going deep into boundaries, self-worth, emotional safety, dating standards, and the art of receiving from men with ease and confidence.If you’re ready to date with clarity, softness, sovereignty, and high-value energy… Join me on a quick call. Here’s why:On this call, we’ll uncover your exact dating pattern, identify where your energy gets hijacked, and map out the next steps to become the woman who attracts and keeps emotional, consistent, provider-masculine men. This call alone will shift how you see yourself. And if it’s a fit, you can join the program — if not, you’ll still leave with clarity, compassion, and direction.Click here to schedule. Your next season of dating doesn’t have to be painful or confusing. It gets to feel sexy, playful, aligned, and powerful.Let’s make you a Boundary Baddie.Send us Fan Mail
Transcribe →For That Day When Shit Hits the Fan… Yeah, Listen to This.
Dec 1200:22:25Tap to summarizeToday was one of those days — and if you’ve ever had a moment where everything collapses at once, this episode is for you.My car literally died in the middle of the road. A stranger in a giant truck rescued me. NTB held me hostage for three hours, then dropped a $445 bill on me. My toddler was down to one diaper. I had one nerve left. And when we finally got home… the back door was wide open.If you know my rat saga, you KNOW why my nervous system screamed.But here’s the magic: I let myself be human. I named the emotions in real time — “I’m frustrated, I’m overwhelmed, this feels disheartening.” I didn’t bypass it. I didn’t pretend. I didn’t collapse.I used the Feel to Heal Framework right in the middle of actual chaos — car trouble, toddler urgency, overwhelm, fear, and all.This episode is for the mom who’s doing her best. The woman who’s learning emotional regulation. The person who’s had it up to HERE. And anyone who needs a reminder that you can stay grounded, honest, and powerful even when life feels like a full-blown novela.For that day when shit hits the fan… yeah, listen to this. 😂✨Send us Fan Mail
Transcribe →Dating Like a Scientist: The Art of Experimenting Without Losing Yourself
Dec 600:23:52Tap to summarizeWhat if dating didn’t have to feel heavy, confusing, or high-stakes? In this episode, Haelly breaks down the simple shift that transformed her entire dating journey — moving from pressure and performance mode into pure curiosity.Learn how to date like a scientist: observing behavior, gathering data, running micro-experiments, and staying grounded in your worth instead of getting swept into fantasy or overgiving.This framework makes every date a win — even the awkward ones, even the disappointing ones — because everything becomes clarity, not chaos.If you’re ready to stop spiraling, stop performing, and start enjoying dating again… this episode will change the game.Tune in, take notes, and let dating be fun again.Send us Fan Mail
Transcribe →Let Them Be Wrong About You, Pumpkin 😉
Dec 400:30:24Tap to summarizeThis episode began with my son being sick… and somehow turned into a spiritual masterclass on identity, boundaries, motherhood, and one very wise pumpkin.In Episode 90, I share the slow, quiet day that cracked my heart open — the day I stopped hustling long enough to meet my child exactly where he was. And how a simple children’s book, It’s a Pumpkin, revealed one of the most powerful lessons I’ve ever learned:You don’t have to argue with people who misunderstand you. You don’t have to shrink to fit their expectations. You don’t have to perform a version of yourself that’s expired. Let them be wrong about you.And because I’m seeing Wicked this week, the Elphaba energy jumped OUT. This episode breaks down what the pumpkin and Elphie have in common — the unapologetic power of knowing who you are, even when the world doesn’t.Inside, we explore: ✨ why slowing down reveals your truest identity ✨ how motherhood activates both your softness and your boundaries ✨ why being misunderstood is actually a sign you’re evolving ✨ how to hold your center when people project onto you ✨ the difference between letting people be wrong and letting them cross you ✨ why identity isn’t a prison — it’s a spell you can rewrite anytimeIf you’ve been feeling mislabeled, underestimated, stretched thin, or ready to step into a new version of yourself… this episode will feel like a warm hand on your back saying, “You’re allowed to become someone new.”Let people misunderstand you. Let yourself evolve. And whatever you do, don’t let anyone — including your past self — eat you alive.Come listen, Pumpkin. 😉✨ ANNOUNCEMENT — My New Program: Dating Like a Boundary Baddie ✨If you’ve been listening and nodding like, “God, this is me,” then I created something for you.Is this you?You keep attracting men who love your strength but don’t step up.You overgive, overfunction, and overexplain — and then feel resentful.You fall for potential instead of patterns.You lose your softness because you’re exhausted from being in your masculine.You don’t want to settle, but you don’t fully trust yourself in dating yet.You know you’re magnetic, but you haven’t learned how to receive like a queen.Or do you know someone who keeps repeating the same dating cycle, loves too hard too soon, or struggles to uphold boundaries without feeling “mean”? Send them this episode.Because my brand-new program ✨Dating Like a Boundary Baddie✨ is officially open.This is for the independent, high-achieving, strong-willed woman who is ready to shift into her empowered feminine — slow, receptive, playful, grounded — without dimming her fire. Inside, we’re going deep into boundaries, self-worth, emotional safety, dating standards, and the art of receiving from men with ease and confidence.If you’re ready to date with clarity, softness, sovereignty, and high-value energy… Join me on a quick call. Here’s why:On this call, we’ll uncover your exact dating pattern, identify where your energy gets hijacked, and map out the next steps to become the woman who attracts and keeps emotional, consistent, provider-masculine men. This call alone will shift how you see yourself. And if it’s a fit, you can join the program — if not, you’ll still leave with clarity, compassion, and direction.Click here to schedule. Your next season of dating doesn’t have to be painful or confusing. It gets to feel sexy, playful, aligned, and powerful.Let’s make you a BoundarySend us Fan Mail
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