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Khalilah Holt
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Jonathan
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Khalilah Holt
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Jonathan
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Anna Sale
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Jonathan
Hi everyone. Jonathan here. Heavyweight will be back with a new episode next week, but in the meantime, we wanted to share with you an episode of another show that we really like. It's called Death, Sex and Money and it's hosted by Anna Sale. On the show, Anna interviews her guests about the topics that we usually tend to shy away from in polite conversation, things like the titular death, sex and Money. I recently sat down with Anna. As I was sitting here, I was jotting down some last minute questions and the first one that I wrote down was, did you ask inappropriate questions as a child? Like I'm imagining you approaching your dad's friends and asking them how much they made for a living.
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Adonis Williams
I don't think I did that. I definitely wondered.
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Jonathan
Or how much sex they have or when they were planning to die. Anna has a real gift with people. Whether it's talking to a TV weatherman about losing his job after a sex photo leak, a new father about the surprising results of a paternity test, or to actress Ellen Burstyn about the illegal abortion she had at the age of 18. It's amazing what Ann is able to pull from her subjects.
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Adonis Williams
The concrete questions that other interviewers might find too crass to ask. I just ask it. You know, all of us deal with hard things and uncomfortable things, and rather than retreat into our own feelings of shame around it, let's create a little more conversation and connection.
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Jonathan
Yeah. And I think that you're a very good listener.
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Adonis Williams
Thank you.
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Jonathan
Did you. Did you. I mean, just out of curiosity, parenthetically, did you have a schooling for that listening school?
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Khalilah Holt
Yeah.
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Adonis Williams
No. My school, I think, was being in a big family growing up. I was on the quiet side, in a loud family. So I think that trained me for, like, it's, like, listening and being able to take in a lot. But also I feel like I'm kind of like a little. Maybe like a little bit like a cougar, like, who's, like, waiting for that opening, and then I'm gonna, like, you know, strike.
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Jonathan
It's very primal. It sounds like.
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Adonis Williams
I know. I'm like, what's the metaphor? Someone who really wants a bloody piece of meat.
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Jonathan
The episode we're about to play is about a professional mover in New York City.
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Adonis Williams
Our producer, Zoe Azoulay, was thinking about episodes where we can catch people in a moment. So it feels like you're talking to them when something is happening.
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Jonathan
Yeah.
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Adonis Williams
And she was sort of like, movers are constantly doing that. They're showing up. When people are at that moment of joining together, coming apart, it's change. And so she started to just kind of look around at New York City movers, and she found this mover named Adonis. What I think is really interesting about him, he's a professional mover. That's what he does for work. And alongside that, he advertises his services as being willing to show up and help survivors of domestic violence get out of unsafe situations for free.
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Khalilah Holt
Yeah.
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Jonathan
Well, I guess this is the part where I say, let's listen to the episode and you can find Death, Sex and Money wherever you get your podcast.
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Adonis Williams
Thank you. That was a very enthusiastic throw. I feel.
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Jonathan
It'S as enthusiastic as I get, but I'll give it another go. Let's listen to this episode of Death, Sex and Money, which you can find wherever you get your podcasts. Coming up right after the break.
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Khalilah Holt
I am. Yeah. I'm 6, 4, 248 pounds. My employees use the word brolic a lot when they see me pick up stuff. Like, I literally just pick a sofa up over my head while two of them are struggling with it, you know, And I'll just say, I got it, and I'll just pick up the sofa Bed over my head and start walking with it. And they go, oh, my God, he's so brolic.
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Adonis Williams
This is Death, Sex and Money, the show from WNYC about the things we think about a lot and need to talk about more. I'm Anna Sale. Adonis Williams is a mover in New York City, a job he started more than 20 years ago when he saw a woman crying on the subway. She had two kids with her and all their stuff in trash bags.
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Khalilah Holt
And I asked her what, you know, what was wrong. She explained that she had to make a choice between leaving the bags of clothes and carrying the kids.
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Adonis Williams
Adonis had a van, and he offered to move her for free.
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Khalilah Holt
I'm that way. Even on the way here, I stopped to get me a cup of coffee. And it was a mother with her daughter in Dunkin Donuts. True story. And the little girl was crying because she wanted the strawberry sprinkled donut. And her mother was just going in to get a coffee, you know, And I said, ma' am, I'm gonna pay for your coffee. I'm gonna pay for a donut. And that's just the way I am if I see, you know, people sad or crying, you know, and. But I do have one rule. I don't take care of the homeless in other states. Like, I travel too much, but if somebody comes up to me in a window in Texas or Tennessee, I don't give any money. I know it's sad, but I just can't take care of the world. But in New York City, if you come up to my window, I'll give you $2, $5. And that's every day, all day. Anybody.
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Adonis Williams
Adonis is often in other states because a lot of his moves are long distance. But they mostly start in new.
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Khalilah Holt
On that side, that side.
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Adonis Williams
On a Saturday afternoon a few months ago, Adonis was moving the belongings of Ms. Dixon. She had just retired from her job as a home health aide and was leaving the Bronx after many years. Producer Zoe Azoulay met them at a storage unit where they were packing up her stuff.
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Khalilah Holt
What's the moving plan today? Where are we going? We're going down South. North Carolina. What's there? Family.
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Jonathan
Mm.
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Anna Sale
And are you gonna.
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Khalilah Holt
What are you gonna miss about New York? Not much. Let me sit in the middle. Yeah. Okay.
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Adonis Williams
From the storage unit, they drove in Adonis truck. Ms. Dixon riding shotgun. Zoe squeezed in the middle to pick up the rest of Ms. Dixon's things at her apartment.
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Khalilah Holt
1322. 1322. Gotcha.
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Adonis Williams
Adonis has lived in New York City. His whole life. He knows each neighborhood and how to maneuver through them in a big truck.
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Khalilah Holt
Ms. Dixie, have you ever ate in that Spanish restaurant right there? Which one? Right here. No, never. I guess you never ate there. How you think there?
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Adonis Williams
A while back, when they got to the apartment, there was not much left to pack up.
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Khalilah Holt
I only had seven box and only seven boxes over there. Yes, A fan and a tv. Oh, they already packed up anyway. Okay. Make me feel guilty about taking your money with such a small job. Or on the other end. I may have to give you some money. I have to pay you for the exercise today.
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Adonis Williams
Over his 20 years in the moving business, Adonis has seen people in all sorts of transitional moments. Retiring, getting married, being priced out. Sometimes a person is ready with their stuff in boxes, eager. Other times, Adonis and his team have to help a person pack. It's a mover's job to make this moment manageable, to compartmentalize and help a person move on. This is not a service Adonis had growing up.
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Khalilah Holt
Well, I remember moving as a child between Harlem and the Bronx. And we never hired movers. I didn't even know, you know, I would just come from school and we'd be in a new place. My dad took care of everything and we just did it with pickup trucks, cars, you know, whatever we could, you know, whatever relative could come by. We never ever hired a moving truck.
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Adonis Williams
I talked to Adonis after he'd gotten Ms. Dixon's things to North Carolina. He came into our New York studio the morning before another move. It was still summer, Adonis's peak season. When he does about a move a day, he used to pack in three moves a day. That's a lot of flights of stairs, tight corners and long drives.
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Khalilah Holt
I just did back to back. Florida, Texas, Tennessee, Massachusetts, and now I have a Vermont coming up next week. I've been to every state except for Seattle, Washington and Oregon.
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Adonis Williams
And when you are driving these long haul moves, do you go by yourself sometimes?
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Khalilah Holt
Sometimes I do or sometimes I pick up my dad and he will. Yeah, my dad, he comes and he does the driving. You know, at 70 years old, he's still a hell of a driver and still moves furniture and picks up boxes and stuff. He loves to go.
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Adonis Williams
And are they still living in New York City?
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Khalilah Holt
No, no, no. My parents eight years ago moved to North Carolina and I moved them and they said it's because I gave them the cheapest price.
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Adonis Williams
Not because they wanted to patronize you.
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Khalilah Holt
Because I said you move them for.
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Adonis Williams
Free, you won the bid for free. Okay, got it.
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Khalilah Holt
Yeah. I moved my parents out to North Carolina and I visit them anytime I do a move going. Like if I'm doing New York to Florida, New York to Georgia, or New York to South Carolina, I always stop it and use my parents places, the hotel. But yeah, my dad still goes when I go up 95, he, he's always happy to put on his fatigues. Cause that's what he wears when he goes. Yeah, he likes the fact that when he is wearing his Vietnam hat and his fatigues, a lot of people will say thank you for your service. You know what I mean?
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Adonis Williams
Yeah. And it's nice you get to watch those interactions. That's cool. You get to see that. I imagine when you enter into a home where someone is moving out, you know, it means something in their life is changing. Can you tell the difference between a happy move and a sad move?
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Khalilah Holt
Oh, absolutely, absolutely. As a matter of fact, now I get the email, Adonis, you moved me, and let's say, let's use the name Josh into the apartment, you know, five years ago. We're now getting divorced and I just want to know if you're able to help me move so they'll know the kind of atmosphere I'm entering. Like, I won't be like, hey, how's everything going? You know, and it's a sad occasion for them cause they're getting a divorce, you know what I mean? And so I go in there like neutral, not taking any sides. Yeah.
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Adonis Williams
Uh huh. And do you find, like, how often do you find that you need to sort of, I don't know, offer some reassurance or some comfort for somebody who's having a sad move.
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Khalilah Holt
Usually every time, every time you do the move, there is some, you know, they want to talk to you about you become the bartender or the taxi driver that they need to, you know, vent to or at least tell their side. Cause you know, everybody feels they, oh, I'm not the bad person. And you get some, I get some people, guys, both guys and girls that say, adonis, I really messed up, I cheated on him and got busted.
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Adonis Williams
Do you ever find yourself sharing any of your, you know, ups and downs with someone who's having a hard time?
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Khalilah Holt
Absolutely. You can't, you, you, you, you can't go in and just, you know, hear about their life and not have to share part of your life, you know, with them. And that, that happens all the time. You know, I tell them about my mistakes because at 54, I'm always older than the person that I'm moving, you know.
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Adonis Williams
When you come into someone's home and they are packing up all of their possessions, I imagine you see a lot of private items. You know, you see the way people actually live instead of how they present on the street. What's like, does anything surprise you now, having done this for 20 years, what you come across when you're packing up a bedroom, for example?
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Khalilah Holt
No. Now I have on my questionnaire, when I send them a list of tips, moving tips, they'll please check under the beds for anything personal. Because a lot of times the apartments are so small, the rooms are so small that the bed takes up most of the. And you can't move the bed left or right or nothing. It's just up against the wall. And so I ask them to check under the bed because usually whatever falls on the side of the bed or under the bed, they can't get it until the movers come and move the bed. So I moved an Indian couple that had moved before and was familiar with them and everything, but this time they were having a baby and they needed a bigger space. So when we moved the bed and a lot of the Indians and Asians parents come on both sides when they're doing the move, you know. Yes. They both come like it's an event, whatever. They come help do the packing and maybe mind the baby, you know, the small children, so the parents can do whatever they have to do. So, you know, I got ready to take apart the bed, took the mattress off, lifted it up, and they're all talking to me, you know, and I moved the bed and some used condoms were fell on the side of the bed.
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Adonis Williams
Used?
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Khalilah Holt
Yeah, used, used, used. And the girl was pregnant, which was the reason they were moving. And so the husband had no reason to use condoms. And so everybody's staring in the room looking at each other except me. I just put the bed on his side and take it out. But there was a big argument in their language and it didn't end well. You know, she ended up staying at the place and he ended up leaving. And it was a big old argument. I said, oh, man.
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Adonis Williams
Oh, wow.
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Khalilah Holt
Yeah.
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Adonis Williams
Oh my goodness. And I wonder if I'm imagining for your clients who find you and reach out, you also have this very up close view of how New York City neighborhoods are changing because you're noticing who's coming in and who's coming out. What are you noticing right now in New York? Is there anything different or is it the same kind of march of, you know, expensive Neighborhoods getting bigger and affordable, neighborhoods getting smaller, and the racial makeup of neighborhoods changing.
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Khalilah Holt
As that flips, what I'm noticing is nobody, and I mean nobody in New York City can live alone. It's very rare for me to move a place, even if it's a one bedroom, where there's just one person living there just paying the rent. Everybody has to have help. Yeah. The rent is so expensive, and I don't care what kind of job I've moved. Lawyers and doctors and people in advertisement. I once moved a group of girls on Wall street in a very, very expensive building, and it was seven of them. They had so many walls put up, split in this place. So, like, going through a maze to get the stuff out. Oh, they could afford the rent. Yeah. And we had gotten there early, and so there was still a few of the people sleeping. There was actually a girl who slept by the door. The little hallway that leads to the door was a bedroom. So she had to, like, fold up her bed and move it so we could start, you know, coming in and out. I was like, yeah, that's real. Really trying to pay the rent with the seven girls in here.
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Adonis Williams
Mm. Does it ever get you down, like, seeing how hard people are, how hard it is for people to find a comfortable place to live and to be able to afford to stay there?
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Khalilah Holt
No, no. You know, I never. It never gets me down or nothing like that, but it makes me realize that I'm not the only one in that boat. Because growing up, we were very, very, very, very, very. And if I could throw two more verys on there, Very poor. Yeah, very poor. We always thought white people lived better than us. You know what I mean? We lived in the projects and, you know, they lived in Tribeca and Gramercy park and, you know, all those places. But now that I move people, you say to yourself, wow, they're really. People in New York City really, really suffer in their own way. You know what I mean? They just put up a good facade.
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Adonis Williams
Coming up, how Adonis got into the moving business and why, for the first five years, he didn't charge for it.
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Khalilah Holt
The frequency of the phone calls where I was trying to do Fridays, Saturdays and Sundays. People that are being abused can't wait for the weekend. So then I found myself trying to take care of it in the morning before I went to work.
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Adonis Williams
This is Death Sex and money from WNYC. I'm Anna Sale. By the time Adonis Williams was 30, he'd gone through lots of jobs. Supermarket clerk, security guard, summer youth counselor. And dental assistant. But money was tight. He had two sons, one who lived with them. That's why he bought his first van in 2000. He needed a car, and a Dodge caravan from the mid-90s was what he could afford.
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Khalilah Holt
I had that van because that's the only thing that they would give me on my credit.
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Adonis Williams
I see. So it, like, I'm picturing, like, a minivan, which is what? Like, you know, when you've got a couple of kids in the back. But for you, it was the car loan you could get.
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Khalilah Holt
Yeah, can do. That's what they. They. I. I started off in the front with the Dodge Charger, and then I. They, you know, I saw the Dodge pickups, and I started thinking to myself, I had my son with me at the time. But they walked me way, way, way past all that stuff to the back of the yard with this. This van with the leaves on it. Opened it up, and he said, this is what we got for you. I took it. I took it.
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Adonis Williams
Then September 11 happened.
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Khalilah Holt
The government was looking for people to look at the X rays and stuff, and so I was able to identify a lot of small stuff, and they were impressed with that. And the government hired me to train people at the TSA to read X Rays.
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Adonis Williams
He worked long hours at LaGuardia. One night after work, he was taking the subway home and noticed the woman with her two kids carrying trash bags with their belongings. She told him she'd been staying in a shelter because her partner was abusive, but she'd had to leave the shelter. And that night, she had nowhere to go.
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Khalilah Holt
And so I came back with the van, and I got her and the two kids and got them pizza and Hawaiian Punch, huh? Yeah. And took them to my house, and I gave them the bedroom, and I used my living room sofa bed. And that's when I realized that, you know, in the shelter system, they don't really help you get in or out.
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Adonis Williams
The next morning, he moved her and her kids and their things back into the shelter system after they'd reapplied for a slot. And Adonis decided he wanted to help more victims of domestic violence move out of unsafe situations, a service he still provides today. He placed an ad on Craigslist and put the word out.
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Khalilah Holt
I got some cards, and then I went around and put them to the shelters. Now that the shelters aren't easy to find, they're meant that way, so the abusers don't find the shelters. And for the first five, I didn't make any money. I didn't get any money and I didn't accept any money for the first five years of moving. Yeah.
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Adonis Williams
Oh. So it wasn't like a job, it was a service that you did.
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Khalilah Holt
And I also have a Facebook page. Still call that a Facebook page? Yeah.
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Adonis Williams
How much were you helping people move?
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Khalilah Holt
I was only doing the job on the weekends. Friday, Saturday and Sunday at the Department of Homeland security. I had 10 hour shift, so I finished my 40 hours in four days. So I had Fridays, Saturdays and Sundays off. And I would just, I had the ad. If I got the phone call, I would just move people. Now, the type of move I was doing was a person with bags of clothes. They even put dishes and forks and spoons and bags of clothes, I mean, in garbage bags. And they were like taking a mattress and maybe a tv, you know, maybe a tv. But those are desperate people trying to get out of a situation where either the abuser was locked up, you know, or at work, you know, something like that. I rushed in, just me and my son. At the time, my son was only nine years old, so it was just me and him.
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Adonis Williams
I want to make sure I'm understanding that the families who are trying to get away from violence in the home, is it primarily, do you encounter them when they're trying to get to a shelter or moving between shelters? Or sometimes are you coming in when the abuser's away, sneaking in, trying to get them out safely?
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Khalilah Holt
Yeah, it varies. And now even sometime the abuser's still there. But now, you know, we're talking, you know, 20 years later, and I have a crew now, not just me and my nine year old son. So now when they see like four or five big guys come through the door, the guy's sitting there quiet and he doesn't say anything and we don't give him the mean face, nothing like that.
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Adonis Williams
Is there anyone in your life, Adonis, that like before you were moving survivors of domestic violence, did you know anyone. Was anyone in your life somebody who'd been through a dangerous relationship?
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Khalilah Holt
Well, my parents, my mom and my dad, you know, used to go through that, you know. And you know what the weird thing is? When my mom and dad were fighting and my mom would be bruised up, it was no name for it. We got a beating from my dad, my mom got a beating from dad, you know what I mean? It was just the way it was. And when the police came, nobody got arrested. They would say, take a walk around the block, you know, or you gotta cool off. They were veterans also, and they understood what he was Going through. So they gave him a break. But once my. Once we got older, I would say between 17 and 20, and me and my older brother could challenge my father because by that time, we lived in Harlem in the Bronx, and we were kind of street hardened. Even though I sound like an easygoing, mellow guy, I have never lost a fight on the streets of Harlem or the Bronx. And I dare anybody to say so, because I come see them, you know? But yes, when I put up my dukes, there was no walking away from that. The person always ended up on the ground, and people had to pull me off from him, you know? So when me and my brother, you know, my dad, he went in after my mom, and then we, Me and my brother, closed. Got my mom out of there and closed the door. When we came back out that day in 1992, dad never did it again. And he gave up the drinking and smoking and stuff like that over the years. He's a great guy now. But, yeah, yeah, he was military trained. It wasn't an easy fight, I tell you that. The military, I learned that day, trained them soldiers very, very well. But we had youth and stamina on our side, and we prevailed.
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Adonis Williams
92. So you were. You were in your early 20s?
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Khalilah Holt
Yeah, I'm born in 69, so. 89, like 22.
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Adonis Williams
It's interesting. You remember the year. You remember when that happened?
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Khalilah Holt
Yeah. You remember the day you had to go up against the most powerful man on the planet? Because there's no kid who doesn't think his dad is not the most powerful person on the planet. There's not one kid out here. I seen my pop beat up grown men in the street. Just beat him up. Cause that's the way it was in Harlem in the Bronx. You had a problem with somebody and you step out of the bar and I seen them take on two and three guys. What am I gonna do? I'm 10 years old. If my pop told me to do something, I did it. I saw what the other guys got. You know what I mean? Yeah.
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Adonis Williams
Have you and your dad talked about that recently?
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Khalilah Holt
No, I've never talked to my dad about that. But during a drive once, my dad had asked me about why I never cursed. He asked me those. He wanted to know why I never cursed, and he wanted to know why I never used drugs or smoked or anything. And we had a conversation about that, and I explained to him, and he wanted to know what did I do when my mom kicked me out? Because when I was. When I. When I. When I was 20, 4:25. My mom made me leave.
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Adonis Williams
And what did you do?
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Khalilah Holt
I lived sometimes. I lived sometimes in the same building where she put me out of, but on the roof area. And I still went to work from there until a friend of mine had a studio apartment. He was getting married, and he gave me the studio apartment. That was my first apartment in Harlem.
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Adonis Williams
And why'd your mom ask you to leave?
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Khalilah Holt
She found that I had a kid that I didn't tell her about. Yeah, my first son. She was upset. She put me out.
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Adonis Williams
And what did you say when your dad asked you about why you don't curse and why you didn't do drugs?
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Khalilah Holt
Well, I told my dad I didn't do drugs because I saw what it did to him. You know what I mean? You know, the cigarette smoking, the. The drinking, how to meet him. And I was afraid to become that person. And I don't smake to this day. I do not hit women. I do not hit children, and I do not hit animals. Yeah, I never. I never once gave my kids a spanking, and I never had an argument with a girl in a relationship, and I never hit her. And I don't hit animals. They can't defend themselves.
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Adonis Williams
That makes me understand, Adonis, when you describe, you know, being on the subway and seeing a mom with her kids struggling, it makes me understand maybe a little bit about, like, the. The. The depth of feeling you might have to. To want to. Want to help. Look out and help. Help a mom who needed help.
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Khalilah Holt
Yeah. Yeah.
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Adonis Williams
A few years in, Adonis realized he could make more money moving than working airport security. And he started his business in New York City.
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Khalilah Holt
You can get 950 bucks to 1200 just for the one move, you know. And so that money started to look way better than, you know, waiting two weeks for a 1200 check when I can get that in one day. So the math was pretty easy for me.
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Adonis Williams
Uh huh huh. You mentioned your son, who's now an adult. Are you a single man now, Adonis?
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Khalilah Holt
Yeah, I have. I have two boys, you know, and one is 29 and one is 33. And I'm not married, but I'm not single.
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Adonis Williams
Mm.
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Khalilah Holt
Yeah. It's not like I don't have a girlfriend, you know.
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Adonis Williams
You're in a relationship?
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Khalilah Holt
Yeah, I'm in a relationship, yeah. Yeah, I'm in a relationship, yeah. Yeah.
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Adonis Williams
Uh huh. Where did you meet your current partner?
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Khalilah Holt
I was doing a move, and she just walked up to me on the street looking for a job and taught her to wrap furniture. She was terrible at the job, but a pretty girl. And I was like, you don't have to work anymore. But, you know, so that's the way that happened. I don't think. I think, you know, technically, even though we've been together like five years, I think technically I could still get out of it because I had never officially said, I'm your boyfriend. It just. She just happened to be around me when I'm going to the movies and dinner.
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Adonis Williams
Yeah, she just happens to be there.
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Khalilah Holt
Yeah.
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Adonis Williams
So you don't live together?
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Khalilah Holt
No, no, no, I don't live together. I don't want to live with anybody anymore. I have two separate moms. So I've been through that before and it's not a good. It's not good. The breakup isn't good. They know too much about you when it's time to end, you know?
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Adonis Williams
Uh huh, uh huh. And I wonder, Adonis, when you come home to your place and you look around at things that you have, you know, when your work is to see all the stuff that people have and, you know, like, do you find that the objects that you keep in your house, are there a few things that you really treasure or do you find that you're less attached to stuff?
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Khalilah Holt
Yeah, I am very less attached to stuff. I don't think I have anything in my house that I pay for. Not even my own bed. And I got a nice comfy bed that costs a lot of money that I didn't pay for. I got a big screen TV, one of those nice curved TVs. I don't know what they cost. Maybe 2,500 these days. Well, I got it for free.
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Adonis Williams
How'd you get that nice TV for free?
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Khalilah Holt
One of the clients, they were upgraded or they're moving. Like they consolidate. They got married or in a relationship and they're moving and they don't need two beds. They don't need two TVs. You know, so I get a lot of stuff all the time.
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Adonis Williams
Oh, that makes sense because you're for people who are just trying to be done with moving stuff. Like you taking that off their hands.
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Khalilah Holt
Yeah, I used to try and sell it, but it's just too much hassle to sell it. So I donate it. I donate all the furniture to victims of domestic violence. I still have my ad up. I will take a picture of it and if it can move out, I'll deliver it for free.
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Adonis Williams
When you think about the next five, 10 years, how long do you think you'll be working on moving sites and doing the moving yourself.
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Khalilah Holt
I think I could go. Based on my father, I can go at least a 75.
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Adonis Williams
So another 20 years.
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Khalilah Holt
Yeah, but I, I'm going to be the person to point the finger to lift that up probably in the next five years, if not sooner. As opposed to actually doing the work myself. I actually jump. It was a four flight walk up. I take a flight myself to this day. And when those guys complain about what they're lifting and how heavy something is, I'll always go, come on, I'm double your age and I'm still doing it. I'm not even sweating yet. But when I sit, and I hope they never hear this podcast, when I sit in that truck, I'm going, why the hell did I do that? Oh my God, why am I still doing it? But then when I open that truck door, I'm like, let's get back to work.
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Adonis Williams
That's Adonis Williams, a mover in New York City who now lives in Queensland. Death, Sex and Money is a listener supported production of WNYC Studios in New York. This episode was produced by Zoe Azoulay. The rest of our team is Liliana Maria, Percy Ruiz, Amy Pearl, Lindsay Foster Thomas and Andrew Dunn. Thank you to Jason Isaac for engineering help. The Reverend John Delure and Steve Lewis wrote our theme music. We're ethsexmoney on Instagram and subscribe to our Weekly newsletter@deathsexmoney.org Newsletter thank you to Laurie McCaskill in Brooklyn, New York for being a member of Deaf Sex and Money and supporting us with a monthly donation. Join Christine and support what we do here by going to deathsexmoney.org when Adonis does retire, he plans to move out of New York City to the country to live close to his parents.
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Khalilah Holt
It's nothing like looking at the sky and listening to the crickets and having your dog. Like they have two dogs. But the dogs love me. When I come by, they recognize me right away. They even jump up and down like little kids. You wouldn't believe these two dogs. They didn't jump up and down. They get the wagon, you know, and they love me. So I get me a dog and live out my days in a rocking chair with all like my dad.
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Adonis Williams
I'm Anna Sale and this is Death, Sex and money from WNYC.
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Jonathan
ChatGPT is free for college students now through May. That means you have no limits on how many ways you can prompt ChatGPT. To help you through the worst part of the school year, I spoke with producer and college graduate Khalilah Holt.
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Khalilah Holt
Yeah.
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Jonathan
You can create any image you can think of in any style. Quick, give me an image.
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Khalilah Holt
Sylvia Plath doing stand up comedy.
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Adonis Williams
Ding.
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Jonathan
Sylvia Plath happy at last. Thanks to ChatGPT. ChatGPT plus free for college students through may restrictions apply.
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Khalilah Holt
You're listening to an iHeart podcast.