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Her New Lens with Dr. Tricia Rose Stone
Hosted by Dr. Tricia Rose Stone · EN
"We don't see things as they are. We see them as we are." — Anaïs Nin
Dr. Tricia Rose Stone spent 20 years as an optometrist correcting how people see the world — then she realized the most important lenses we wear aren't in front of our eyes. They're the beliefs, stories, and identities we've been looking through for a lifetime. And there comes a moment, for many women, it arrives in midlife, when the prescription simply stops working.
Her New Lens is for the woman who knows it's time for a new one.
Each episode brings together leading experts and Tricia's hard-won wisdom to help you examine the lens you've been living through—and change it. Through the New Lens Method's four pillars — Heart-Led Transformation, Empowered Vision, Authentic Integration, and Radiant Embodiment — you'll stop seeing yourself through everyone else's eyes and start living a life that's unmistakably yours.
Every guest leaves you with one thing: the lens they recommend for seeing yourself more clearly. Because when you change the way you see, everything you see changes.
Step into focus. This is Her New Lens.
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Stop Waiting for Clarity — Move Anyway
1w ago00:20:57Tap to summarizeStop Waiting and Move Anyway: From Measurement to PossibilityIn episode eight of the Empowered Vision season, host Tricia Rose Stone confesses she began Her New Lens with no audio experience, audience, or plan, and nearly listened to an inner voice urging her to wait until she was ready. Drawing on Rosamund and Benjamin Zander’s The Art of Possibility and Ben Zander’s nursing-home story, she argues that clarity and frameworks often appear only after taking action. She contrasts the “world of measurement” (comparison, scarcity, fear, and waiting for proof) with the “universe of possibility” (openness, contribution, and willingness). Tricia shares personal examples—starting the podcast, envisioning a relationship after an eight-month dating pause, and building a Boston practice—showing how committing to a vision and moving step by step creates momentum and invites outcomes that couldn’t be measured in advance.00:00 Confession And Vision02:08 Book That Shifts Thinking02:52 Nursing Home Lesson04:21 Invented Limitations06:01 Move Before Clarity08:01 Two Worlds Explained09:41 Rock Bottom To Vision12:49 Be A Contribution14:12 You Are The Board16:41 Frameworks Through Movement17:35 Personal Proof And Practice19:28 Final Call To Move
Transcribe →The Relationship You Desire Begins as a Vision
2w ago00:30:54Tap to summarizeBuild the Vision for Love: Naming the Old Pattern and Creating a New Felt SenseIn episode six of the Empowered Vision season of Her New Lens, Tricia Rose Stone shares how she once feared love after repeated dysfunctional relationships that left her feeling unvalued, and how a rock-bottom relationship forced her to confront the “vision” of love she had unconsciously been recreating. She explains that relationship lenses are inherited from early family dynamics and cultural narratives, shaping a self-image that repeats patterns like abandonment, drama, or unworthiness. Tricia describes her own childhood imprint with an alcoholic, unavailable father, and a later emotional breakdown that led her to stop dating and focus on healing, nervous system awareness, and deliberate creation. She outlines building a new relationship vision from the inside out—prioritizing desired feelings like safety, security, and being valued—using journaling, reminders, gratitude, creative visioning, and identity work, then letting go with trust; eight months later, she met her husband, whom she has been with for nine years.00:00 Fear of Love01:53 Inherited Relationship Lenses04:26 Patterns and Self Image06:54 My Father and Abandonment08:27 Name the Old Vision09:38 Rock Bottom Clarity11:45 My Rock Bottom Story17:09 Building a New Vision22:23 Daily Practices to Align26:40 Letting Go and Trust28:48 Weekly Takeaways and Close
Transcribe →The Moment You Can No Longer Abandon Yourself
3w ago00:40:14Tap to summarizeThis episode of Her New Lens focuses on “empowered vision,” defined as seeing truthfully when old identities no longer fit, and features guest Kim Korven, who shares her recent decision to end her second marriage after 15 years due to boundarylessness and feeling like her husband’s emotional support person. Kim describes recognizing patterns rooted in childhood programming around earning love, choosing to end relationships without making the other person the enemy, and recalling earlier reinventions, including peacefully divorcing her first husband, raising children, and returning to law school with unexpected support and scholarships after “jumping off the cliff” in faith. She discusses how tension in a home harms kids, practices that build self-love (breathwork, Miracle Morning SAVERS, and alphabet-based gratitude), and her work helping families navigate divorce peacefully and strategically with resources like journal prompts, scripts, and educational modules.00:00 Empowered Vision Intro01:29 Meet Kim Korven02:28 Choosing Yourself Again04:07 Peaceful Divorce Mindset06:27 Law School Leap of Faith09:25 Reframing and Being Caught11:47 Seeing Your Growth Clearly14:14 The Guitar Boundary Wakeup18:40 Ending Without Making Enemies19:44 April Fourth Reveal20:01 Trusting The Leap20:53 Proof From Past23:06 Morning Practices26:27 Alphabet Gratitude28:33 Advice For Mothers34:13 Courage To Stay Or Go35:42 Helping Families Divorce38:38 New Lens Closing
Transcribe →The Stories Blocking Your Vision
4w ago00:27:36Tap to summarizeIn episode four of the Empowered Vision season of Her New Lens, Tricia Rose Stone explores self-sabotage through Gay Hendricks’ “upper limit problem” from The Big Leap: an unconscious “internal thermostat” that pulls us back when success, love, joy, or abundance exceed what we believe we can allow. She shares two personal upper limits—fear that visible success will lead to isolation and fear she can’t balance success with wellness, relationships, travel, and interests—then describes common upper-limit behaviors like picking fights, worrying, blame and criticism, procrastination, and mindless scrolling, often appearing right after breakthroughs. She outlines Hendricks’ four underlying barriers (feeling fundamentally flawed; disloyalty/abandonment; burden; capacity) and connects the pattern to staying in the “zone of excellence” instead of the “zone of genius.” She offers steps to dismantle it: name the barrier, catch the pattern in real time, complete the vision (especially for capacity fears), and question isolation fears, including learning from “expanders,” and closes with a weekly challenge and a teaser for next week’s guest episode.00:00 Season Recap Setup01:05 Personal Upper Limits02:21 Inner Thermostat Explained06:21 Upper Limit Behaviors13:04 Four Hidden Barriers17:25 Zone of Genius21:46 Dismantle The Ceiling24:52 Weekly Challenge Wrap25:43 Closing Next Week
Transcribe →The Art of Seeing It First
Apr 2700:32:15Tap to summarizeTricia Rose Stone presents episode three of the Empowered Vision Series, focusing on visualization as a deliberate, trainable, science-backed skill rather than wishful thinking. Inspired by Maya Raichoora’s book Visualize and supported by ideas she cites from Joe Dispenza, she explains that the predictive brain can’t easily distinguish vividly imagined experiences from real ones, making anxiety a form of unconscious negative visualization, and that deliberate visualization can create new mental patterns. She shares personal examples of manifesting her husband after 7 months of focused visualization, and of manifesting an optometry practice in Boston after recognizing the city and finding a practice one block from a park she’d stayed near. She outlines outcome, process, and creative visualization, recommends a daily “ideal day” rehearsal, emphasizes small, consistent practice, self-belief, and writing down bold visions.00:00 Series Setup01:06 Why Visualization Works02:42 Brain Prediction Patterns05:32 Anxiety as Visualization07:30 Athletes Proven Rehearsal08:32 Manifesting True Love13:25 Three Visualization Types18:56 Boston Practice Manifestation24:09 Daily Ideal Day Routine27:34 Self-Belief Matters29:53 Weekly Takeaways Outro
Transcribe →Into Me See: The Art of True Intimacy with Xanet Pailet
Apr 2100:37:19Tap to summarizeOn “Her New Lens,” Tricia interviews Xanet, a sex and intimacy educator, coach, and author (and former healthcare lawyer/executive) who spent 26 years in a sexless marriage, left at 50, and then began a 15-year career helping individuals and couples rebuild connection.They discuss how emotional safety underpins desire—especially for women—and how lack of safety, trauma, shame, and disconnection from the body can shut down libido, while men may feel emotionally safe after sex, creating a common mismatch.Xanet explains what safety feels like (being heard without judgment or fixing), emphasizes that intimacy and sex are learnable skills, and highlights conflict repair as key to long-term relationships.They address menopause and libido myths, noting bad or performative sex and “obligation sex,” and describe how new relationship energy can revive desire at any age.Xanet shares guidance for singles on examining patterns and red flags, and introduces her books, “The Sex and Intimacy Repair Kit” and “Living an Orgasmic Life,” offering lenses of pleasure and vulnerability.00:00 Welcome and Setup00:28 Meet Xanet02:13 Her Turning Point06:08 Safety Drives Desire09:03 Men vs Women Safety11:16 What Safety Feels Like13:28 Intimacy Skills Learned16:38 Menopause Desire Myths17:15 Bad Sex and Obligation19:06 Long Term Connection20:21 Attunement Equals Safety21:15 Attachment Wounds Explained22:09 Preparing for New Love25:09 Patterns and Red Flags27:37 Relationships as Healing28:39 Pressure to Pick Right30:15 Healing Takes Time31:43 Inside the New Book34:06 Two Lenses to Try36:37 Final Reflections
Transcribe →Before the Vision Board — There Is You
Apr 1400:37:39Tap to summarizeTricia Rose Stone introduces season three of “Her New Lens,” titled “Empowered Vision,” and explains that the work begins before goals or vision boards with updating self-image—what you believe you deserve and what’s possible for a woman like you—drawing on Maxwell Maltz’s “Psycho-Cybernetics.” She contrasts “I’ll believe it when I see it” with Wayne Dyer’s “you’ll see it when you believe it,” arguing that proof follows an inner decision and that circumstances can’t outpace self-image, illustrated with examples from La La Land, Love Actually, and lottery winners. Stone shares her own journey from divorce and single motherhood to meeting her husband at 44 after years of visualization and identity work, and outlines three practices: an identity audit of inherited beliefs, a future-self letter, and seven days of daily mental rehearsal, drawing on neuroscience that shows vividly imagined experiences shape the nervous system.00:00 Season Premiere Setup00:38 Vision Before Goals03:41 Believe Then See07:15 Movie Proof Lala Land09:32 Self Image Creates Life11:22 Maxwell Maltz Explained12:47 Why We Can't Hold It15:17 Deposits Into Identity17:10 Visualization Neuroscience19:14 Inherited Beliefs Lens21:51 Self Image Changes23:53 Her Story: Divorce To Love27:24 Decide To See Beyond31:12 No Permission Needed32:02 Three Practical Exercises36:03 Wrap Up And Next Week
Transcribe →The Lens You Choose Now
Mar 2400:19:11Tap to summarizeAs this season comes to a close, there is a question quietly waiting beneath everything we’ve explored:What lens will you choose now?Throughout this season of Her New Lens, we’ve looked at the beliefs we inherit, the patterns we repeat, and the ways our past experiences shape how we see love, identity, success, and possibility.But awareness alone is not the transformation.Transformation begins the moment you realize that the lens you’ve been looking through is not fixed — and that a different way of seeing has always been available to you.In this season finale, we step back and gather the deeper thread connecting these conversations:how perception shapes emotional experience…how identity shifts when we question old prescriptions…and how choosing a new lens can quietly change the direction of a life.We explore:• why many of the lenses we live through were never consciously chosen• how attachment patterns, past experiences, and unconscious beliefs influence what feels possible• why clarity often arrives gradually, not dramatically• how small internal shifts create meaningful external change• what it means to begin seeing yourself — and your life — through a lens of possibility rather than limitationYou may find that nothing outside of you has changed — and yet everything feels different.Because the moment the lens shifts, the landscape does too.If this season has resonated, this episode offers a space to reflect, integrate, and choose how you want to move forward.The lens you choose now becomes the life you begin to live.
Transcribe →The Prescription You Inherited: Seeing Yourself Through a New Lens
Mar 1700:17:59Tap to summarizeThe script uses an optometry exam as a metaphor for how people live with “inherited” psychological lenses—beliefs about worth, relationships, and desire formed early in life from the emotional climate of the home and cultural expectations. Drawing on attachment theory (internal working models; Bowlby and Ainsworth), it explains that these prescriptions were absorbed before we could question them and become the default way we interpret life. The speaker shares her own lens shaped by parental addiction, abandonment, fear, instability, and feeling responsible for others’ emotions, and describes how her divorce revealed long-held expectations about marriage. She outlines emotional effects of wrong prescriptions (self-doubt, people-pleasing, fear of visibility, imposter syndrome) and introduces the “New Lens method” to identify beliefs, trace origins, test usefulness, and write a truer lens, ending with five reflection questions.00:00 The Lens Clicks In01:13 The Prescription You Inherited02:04 Where Our Lenses Come From03:33 The Science Behind It05:09 My Inherited Blueprint09:09 When My Lens Broke11:48 Symptoms of Wrong Lenses13:54 The New Lens Method15:52 Five Reflection Questions16:45 Seeing Life Clearly Again17:18 Closing and Next Steps
Transcribe →What If It Was Never Personal?
Mar 1000:33:38Tap to summarizeIf you’ve ever wondered why some relationships feel easy while others feel confusing, tense, or emotionally draining, this conversation may change how you see them entirely.In this episode of Her New Lens, we explore how misunderstanding — not incompatibility — often sits at the heart of relationship tension. Together, we look at difference through a softer lens, moving beyond labels and into deeper awareness, compassion, and connection.We talk about why we so quickly make meaning out of behavior, how easily we take things personally, and what begins to shift when we understand how differently people move through the world. Because often what feels like resistance is simply a misunderstanding.This conversation with Marita Littauer offers a calmer, more spacious way to understand conflict — not by changing others, but by changing how we see.If you take one thing from this episode, let it be this:👉 The people in your life are not difficult. They are different.Learn about Marita Littauer here.00:00 Origins of Personality Work02:05 Identity and Baggage03:38 Finding Your True Self05:23 Types and Color Wheel06:48 Words and Definitions08:23 Using Type for Growth12:01 Strengths Not Excuses14:02 Marriage and Opposites18:53 Reading People Without Tests24:23 Do Personalities Change25:28 Applying Your Type Today28:20 A New Lens for Peace32:21 Closing Takeaway
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