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202 | Making Time to Work on Your Wardrobe (And Other Goals) When Life Gets Crazy
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Anyone else feeling a little stressed out and overwhelmed this holiday season? Are you trying to work on your wardrobe or other goals, but life keeps getting in the way? Having a hard time making time for yourself and the things that matter to you...
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Heather Riggs
Anyone else feeling a little stressed out and overwhelmed this holiday season? Are you trying to work on your wardrobe or other goals, but life keeps getting in the way? Having a hard time making time for yourself and the things that matter to you most? I know the feeling, friend. In fact, I'm right there with you. And in today's episode, I'm humbly sharing some of my recent struggles to do all the things and how I'm shifting my approach. As we head into the new year, let's get strategic about our time and what to do with our goals when life gets crazy. Welcome to Her Style podcast where we're all about empowering you to show up and get dressed every day with confidence. I'm your host, Heather Riggs, a 15 year and counting certified image consultant and color specialist ready to build a wardrobe and a personal style you love. Let's get started. Well, admittedly this is not even close to the topic that I had planned for today, but I've been struggling so much with time management this month as evidenced by the very late delivery of this episode. And I know for a fact that I'm not alone. I woke up to at least three messages from clients in my inbox just this morning about how they're feeling overwhelmed with life and falling behind on our work together and looking for more support and encouragement and a plan to stay, stay on track or get back on track. And to a degree, I think there's usually some busyness at the end of the year. The holidays bring a lot of extra events and tasks to check off and you might be preparing for some vacation time from work or extra travel this season, or hosting and gift giving and all the things and I think that's to be expected. And it can also be hard to manage. But I also see a lot of extra life happening for my clients and myself. I I'm talking about unexpected things, the stuff that we don't plan for. Speaking personally, my son has been having a really hard time with his health the last few weeks. Thankfully he's okay. It's nothing super serious and we definitely have it under control. We have seen major improvement over the last few days and I think we've officially turned the corner on some of what's been going on for him. So I am definitely praising God for that. But it was a rough couple of weeks. We had some interrupted sleep sleep and extra doctor's appointments during the day, lots of cuddles and I really had to put on my mom hat in a bigger way than I typically do. And so that's the first thing that I think I want to say in this episode is that if you are in a hard season of life, if your focus is not where you want it to be or where you planned for it to be right now, please give yourself so much grace. You can only do what you can do. I don't know if you're like me in this way, but I generally think that I can do it all. I underestimate how long things take sometimes and I will try to squeeze every last little thing onto my calendar until I have not just zero margin left, but I will have negative margin and things are almost stacked upon each other to the point that I will take a step back and then look at my calendar and I'm like, there's no way that all of this is happening. I have to drop some balls this week and the first things that I drop are generally self care things like my exercise routine and quiet time in the morning and sleep. I will stay up extra late to try to get some things done and taken off my plate. And I'm not saying this as a martyr, truly. I'm saying it from a very vulnerable place to let you know that I do not have it all figured out. So I am 100% preaching to the choir when I say that we need to give ourselves grace in these times because I hate dropping the ball on things. I do not like letting anyone down. I want to take care of myself and do all of the things that feel important to me and I can really beat myself up about it if I don't keep myself in check. But I know that that's not a productive way to process things and handle it. So I do want to share what I am doing to stay focused on what matters to me right now. And I want to share it with you because I do think that in ways this is relevant, especially if you are trying to work on some style goals like a lot of my clients right now and you're just feeling frustrated that you're being interrupted from that and you've had to deviate from what you're trying to accomplish in this season. And if this or anything related has been coming up for you lately too, I just want to give you some encouragement that you are not alone. We're all figuring this out and my hope is that what I'm putting in place for myself might open up some new possibilities for you too. Some different ways of looking at things and how you're going about your goals right now because what you are trying to accomplish for Yourself, no matter how personally it is, does impact the other people in your life, and it does matter. So I don't want you to give up up on your goals. Let's try to rework some things and make it a lot easier for you. So the first thing that I'm doing and that I would also encourage for you is to get clear on your priorities. I say this to my clients constantly. Your style is important, and in their case, they've made the investment to do something about it and to get the support that they need to reach their wardrobe goals. But it should never be the most important. Life is going to happen, and I build extra time into my program and my services to account for that as best I can. But there are always going to be seasons when you get a little derailed from your original plan. So the best thing you can do is to put your priorities first. These last few weeks, that has been my family, My son has definitely come first, and I'm taking care of my clients, but maybe not going above and beyond the level that they're accustomed to or delivering some extra support as fast as I normally would. And they've been amazing about that. I have the best clients in the world. A lot of them are moms, and they just understand that life happens and we've got to do what we've got to do because you have to do the most important things first. Sometimes it's about taking a quick pause and a step back and getting clear about what that is, what matters to you most. Right now, it's okay to focus your attention there, but you've got to be clear about what your top priorities are, so you can really tackle those first in your week. The second thing to do is don't give up on your goals, but you might wanna think about simplifying them. I just confessed that I like to try and do all the things, and I don't know if it has to do with turning 40 this year, but I'm realizing a little bit each day that I can't. And I also don't want to. I wanna have more peace and margin in my life, and I don't wanna give up on the things that matter to me. But I am looking for some ways to simplify and streamline them. Just like I encourage you to buy less but better, it might be time to do less but better. If working on your wardrobe is important for you, but it's not a top priority right now. Maybe you're dealing with some family drama or an unexpected illness or an extra project at work. That doesn't mean you have to forget about your personal goals altogether. You might just need to simplify or refine them a little bit. If you had the big goal to finish auditing your closet before New Year's Day and that seems suddenly overwhelming to you right now, what small win would be the next best thing? Instead of tackling your whole wardrobe, could you just pare down the overflow of athletic wear that you own or clean out and organize one small section of your closet? Maybe you can't do as much as you hoped, but can you still find a few minutes to do something this week? Make it your goal to keep the momentum going, even if it means scaling back on how much you can do. I think slow progress is better than no progr. All right. Third, ask for support. This is honestly very scary for me to admit on the podcast because of course the perfectionist in me wants to look like I have everything together. I want to show up calm, cool, and collected all the time. I mean, I am an image consultant, for crying out loud. But I put a call in for an emergency session with my business coach this week because I'm feeling very overwhelmed with life and I want to move forward on all of my goals, but I'm recognizing my own need to simplify, and I want some guidance to do that in the most effective way possible. I want someone else's opinion who isn't as close to things as I am. I think it's so helpful to seek wisdom from people who, number one, want the best for you, number two, who are ideally an expert in the thing that you're trying to accomplish, and of course, who can also help you see clearly. Because when you're in a state of stress or when life feels really hard, it can be tough to keep a clear perspective. And sometimes talking things out is the best thing that you can do. So I always have a coach in my corner and a few good friends on standby. And of course my husband is an amazing soundboard as well, because when we're trying to accomplish things in our lives, we need some extra accountability and encouragement to keep going. I love being that for my clients. I love helping them come up with a plan to keep going. And maybe we need to simplify things at times and slow down, as I said. But that support system is so critical to keep moving forward. So can you call a friend this week and just say, hey, I'm trying to accomplish this thing that feels really important to me right now, and I'm having a hard time putting my focus and attention on it. Can you check in with me at the end of the week just to ask how it's going? I could really use some cheerleading right now. And friend, you can do this for anything. If you're on a weight loss journey or trying to organize your home or whatever goal has been maybe tucked away on a shelf somewhere because life feels too busy, I want you to take it out and dust it off and invite a few friends or maybe a coach into it with you. Just say it out loud to someone, let people know what it is that you're trying to accomplish and then surround yourself with people who are rooting for you to achieve that thing, no matter how big or small it is. 2025 is coming in hot and I know you don't want to spend one more year struggling over what to buy, what to wear and how to put it all together. This is the time to break out of the same T shirt and jeans you default to every day. You're ready to uplevel your style, streamline your wardrobe and find exactly what you want and need when you go shopping so you can step out with confidence and put your outfits together together quickly and stylishly every single day. And I want to help you make this happen. Because, friend, it is so much easier than you think. That's why I've decided to host my first ever wardrobe revamp boot camp from January 6th through the 9th so we can dial in your signature style, audit your closet and take a deep dive into wardrobe planning and shopping strategically together. And the best news is that this live four day training event is completely free. Yes, I said free. There are no strings attached. Just come hang out with me, get the chance to win some incredible prizes, have your questions answered and walk away with brand new style tips and advice I've never shared before, even with paying clients. So yes, her Style Collective members and grads, there is something here for you too. I'm going to teach you the surprising secret to having great style. And don't worry, you don't have to be born with it. I certainly wasn't. But this is a skill anyone can learn. I'll be walking you through three simple design principles to create more flattering outfits, plus the most important design principle I've never shared until now. I'm revealing an essential step most people mistakenly skip during their wardrobe revamps, along with four things you must do before your next shopping spree to help you save so much time and money. And of course, I'm giving you all new style tips to Take what you already own and put them together in basket. Better ways I know this is something we all want to master, so I invite you to grab your seat for this amazing event right now so you can come hang out with me before it even gets started. You don't have to wait until January 6th. Doors are open now for the Bootcamp community. I'm giving away prizes every week leading up to this event. I'm going live with bite sized trainings and Q and A times and offering tons of support between now and the Bootcamp. If you've been loving what you're learning here on the podcast, you do not want to miss this. If you want to revamp your wardrobe and take your style to the next level in 2025, head to herstylellc.combootcamp and register for this free four day training event today. I'll see you inside. The fourth thing that I'm trying to do a little bit differently right now and I I really work to be a glass half full kind of person. I do tend to try to see things on the bright side, but when I'm in a funk or a difficult season, it can be really hard to do this. What I'm talking about here is celebrating the small wins. When we have our sights set on big things, I think it can be easy to miss the little wins along the way, especially if things are feeling a little bit more challenging or frustrating or not going exactly as you planned. One of my clients has made so many leaps and bounds since we started working together, but she's also been moving the goal post along the way. I love seeing her up level and continue to raise her standards because it really is about building a wardrobe she loves. She was settling for a long time and she's been gaining more and more insight about what she feels best in at every stage and step of the program. And I'm so proud of her and she admitted the other day that she knows she's accomplished so much, but she has a hard time recognizing that because she knows she has more room to grow. And the truth is we all do. We always have room for improvement in every area of our lives. I am all for having big goals and reaching for more, but friend, we also have to stop every once in a while and just see how far we've come and acknowledge and appreciate that. Maybe your wardrobe isn't exactly where you want it to be yet, but if you've implemented even one positive change since finding this podcast that is something big to celebrate. Yes, I've been having a hard time balancing motherhood and my business and all the other things that are happening this month. But my son is feeling better and I am celebrating that. And my clients are posting their fabulous holiday outfits in our private community and I am celebrating that as well. Did I drop the ball on sending an email out this weekend? Yes. Yes I did. Am I late on publishing this podcast? Yes, yes I am. But I can still find some positive things that are going right to be happy about and to be grateful for, even in this overwhelming season. And I can also remember it's only temporary. All right, the fifth and final thing that I'm striving to do differently as I head into the new year is being willing to make changes. We can't do the same things that we've always done and expect different results. I reached out to my business coach for help this week because I'm ready to change some things that aren't working. I have a willingness to reevaluate and to do things differently, and it might be necessary for you to do the same. If you are constantly complaining about having nothing to wear, maybe it's time to start making a plan before your next shopping trip. If you're tired of defaulting to the same outfits over and over again, you might need to start experimenting with new ways of combining your pieces. Your goals, wardrobe related or otherwise, are not going to happen for you. My goals are not going to happen for me. And if life feels hard right now for you too, you might need to take a different approach to how you're going about them. Instead of dedicating three hours on a Saturday to take an inventory of what's in your closet, could you spend just 10 or 15 minutes at the start or the end of each day this week to catalog a small section of what you have? You may not be able to do it all perfectly, but even messy action is going to get you a whole lot closer to where you want to be. All right, friend, I don't know if this served you at all. Like I said, this was a very spontaneous episode. But maybe just hearing that you're not alone in your overwhelm has brought you some comfort or relief. Because I am here with you. I'm in the mess doing it imperfectly right alongside you. And if you are looking for accountability, encouragement, and maybe some new ways to think about and tackle whatever it is that you want to accomplish with your wardrobe and your personal style right now or in the year ahead, I would love to offer you that. Come and hang out with me at my Upcoming Wardrobe Revamp Boot camp it is 100 free. I've never done anything like this before. I'm working really hard to make it truly impactful for you. I'm going to be giving you the roadmap to building a wardrobe you love in 2025 and we're going to do it in a way that feels simple and fun, that you can fit into the little pockets of your day and that allows you some flexibility when life gets hard and that celebrates the wins along the way. If you want to join me for this four day event, you can head to hearthstylellc.combootcamp and we can connect right away inside the pop up group over on Facebook. It's gonna be so much fun. I'm already giving away prizes and answering questions and my team and I are there to encourage you over the weeks ahead. So I hope to see you there. But whatever you do, keep taking those small steps forward and don't put your dreams on the back burner for too long. You may not be able to do it all in the most perfect way that you envisioned, but with lots of messy action, you will get there. I promise you that. Thank you for listening to today's episode. If you want to stop copying everyone else's style and start dialing in your own swoon worthy signature look, head over to take my free 5 minute personal style quiz which you can find at the link in the show notes. If you've enjoyed our time together, please be sure to rate, review and subscribe to her style podcast so you never miss an episode. Finally, I invite you to make this a two way conversation and send me a DM over on Instagram eatherrigs Style to let me know how I can best support you on your style journey. I'm always here for you in style and service. Until next time.