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208 | The TRUTH About What It Takes to Revamp Your Wardrobe
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Want me to let you in on a little secret, friend? My 6-step system for building a wardrobe you love isn’t enough to get the job done. I admit it! I can give you the fastest, simplest roadmap and coach and cheer you on every step of the way, but...
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Heather Riggs
Want me to let you in on a little secret, friend? My six step system for building a wardrobe you love isn't enough to get the job done. I admit it. I can give you the fastest, simplest roadmap and coach and cheer you on every step of the way. But there's something else required from you to get to the finish line and I invited two members of my 90 day group coaching program, Her Style Collective onto the podcast today to tell you the truth about what it takes to revamp your wardrobe. Neva and Amberly joined me in this episode to share their experiences of overcoming obstacles, what's been required of them to reach their wardrobe goals, and what they would do differently if they could go back to day one of their Style journeys. This candid conversation is packed with practical advice, relatable roadblocks and revelations that will inspire you to stay committed to your style goals. I can't wait for you to hear it. Welcome to Her Style Podcast where we're all about empowering you to show up and get dressed every day with confidence.
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Neva
Confidence.
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Heather Riggs
I'm your host Heather Riggs, a 15 year and counting certified image consultant and color specialist ready to build a wardrobe and a personal style you love. Let's get started.
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Neva
Real quick.
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Heather Riggs
Before we dive into today's interview with Amber Lee and Neva, I want to offer up a final reminder that my free four day Wardrobe Revamp Boot Camp kicks off tonight. And friend, you do not want to miss out on this event. I'm going to be sharing brand new information to guide you through the exact process you need to find your personal style, streamline your closet, maximize what you own, and shop strategically and confidently in 2025. We're meeting every night this week through Thursday at 8pm Eastern Standard Time to get clarity about your style foundations, think your best styles fits and colors. We're going to master step by step wardrobe planning and uncover some of my best strategies for intentional shopping and styling. Join me live as often as can or you can watch the replays all week long. Hurry and register now so you don't miss a thing. Head to Herstyle LLC.com Bootcamp and grab your seat for tonight's training. Then sit back, relax and get ready to take some notes as Neva and Amberly open up about what their style journeys have been like from start to almost finished.
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Neva
Enjoy. All right. I am so excited to have two of my friends from Her Style Collective on with us. Neva and Amberly, thank you so much for joining me for this really fun and unique roundtable conversation. I've had a lot of one on one interviews with collective members in the past, but it's been a long time since I've had a couple of you on together to really just have an authentic look at what your experience has been inside the program. Any curve balls have come your way throughout, and I really want to focus this conversation on you and the work that you've done to revamp your wardrobes and refine your style and up level in such a big way. I've seen so many successes from you both, and we're going to talk about all of that today. But first, I'd love to just introduce you a little bit, if you want to share who you are, a little bit about yourself so everyone can get to know you just a bit before we dive in.
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Amberly
Hi, I'm Neva. I live in the US I'm in New England, so it's lots of seasons here and weather changes that I need to account for. In my case, I think I struggled with my wardrobe, especially post Covid. I have kids, I work, I'm middle age, and my warranty expired after I hit 40. And so my shape has changed and my body's changed and so. And working from home has made it difficult to. I haven't evolved my wardrobe that much over the past, you know, five, 10 years or so and just really felt stuck. So things that I liked to wear out of the house pre Covid don't fit anymore. I wasn't particularly comfortable in my wardrobe, even just at home, and so I just felt very stuck. So the collective has been such a good way to sort of help me get unstuck.
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Neva
I'm so happy to hear that. And honestly, I think so many people listening are like, absolutely, I can relate to all of that. I mean, it's really common for people to go through seasons of feeling a little stuck in our wardrobes, but I think Covid for all of us just shook everybody's world and kind of reshaped how we spend our time and what really works for us. Everything's gotten more casual, so you are not alone in that struggle of, okay, what's next? Next in this new phase. And Amberly, how about you?
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D
Yeah, hi, I'm Amberly, and I too live in the US and the Northeast. I found the Collective because I was also feeling a bit stuck in my wardrobe. I'm newlywed, early 30s, started trying on some of my clothes and realized that they didn't really feel like me anymore. They felt very young, not professional, not the vibe that I was trying to give off at this point in my life. And so I just did some research and kind of stumbled upon Heather's podcast, and I felt like there was just so much value in it that could teach me how I want to show up in these next stages of my life. And I found the collective from there and just been going with it.
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Neva
Yeah. And people might recognize your name from our bootcamp coming up. It's actually starting today when this is going to be airing, so It'll be on January 6th. And Amberly has been one of our team leads in there, so you might have already connected with her. She's been so great in supporting everyone, getting ready for the wardrobe revamp bootcamp. And you might have already answered the next question that I had for you, but I really love to hear what are your. Or what were your top goals coming into the collective? And you already touched on wanting to really uplevel your wardrobe in a professional sense. But was there anything else that felt important to you? Making this investment and going from kind of just listening to the podcast to deciding, deciding, I'm ready, I'm ready to invest in this support and take things to the next level.
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D
Yeah, I think that's exactly what it was. I was at a point where I did want to make an investment in myself, figure out how I could show up for myself better in the next stage of my life, and really just define what I want to look like moving forward. So that was. That was the biggest thing for me, just figuring out what my style looks like from here on out.
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Neva
I love that so much. Neva, how about you? What were your top goals coming into the program?
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Amberly
Yeah, so from a sort of high level view, vantage point, I really wanted to just feel more confident in my body and more comfortable. So those are sort of like emotional needs that I was hoping to fill. And from a more practical sense, I wanted to be able to get dressed really easily and have things I can pull together really quickly but also look intentional. Not like I just put on some yoga pants. I mean, nothing wrong with putting on yoga pants, but I wanted to intentionally put on yoga pants, not just because they were there and have outfits that were available. Also to understand what looks good on me, because I. I don't think I ever really understood how to dress my figure in a way that was comfortable and flattering and that I felt represented me. So that was another piece that I was looking for.
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Neva
Yeah, exactly. So many of us are working from home or have the ability to work from home a little bit more so it's bridging that gap between wanting to be comfortable in your day, but also still put yourself together and feel good as you do all the things. So I totally get that. And, ladies, I want this conversation to be, like, super authentic. So my next question for you, because obviously, as you come into the program, there's clear steps to follow. Hopefully I've laid everything out in a way that really comes together and makes sense and is effortless. But life is also lifing as you come into the program. So I would love to hear if there were any hiccups or challenges. And you both have been in the program for a while. You both started back in the summer and renewed for another season of working together, which has been so fun to get to go even deeper beyond just the first 90 days. But through that time, the last five months or so, what challenges have come up for you that could have derailed your progress or kind of taken you away from the program? And how did you overcome those things? Because I want to get real on what it actually takes to build a wardrobe you love on your end and the commitment there.
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D
So, for me, I felt like the most challenging part of the process was the closet audit. Without a doubt. I just feel like, you know, you've touched on this in your podcast before, but there's a lot of emotions that come up. Just not ready to get rid of things, fearing, you know, what if? What if I need this? And, you know, I really am so thankful that you just, like, laid out a system for us on how to go about it. And just what helped me get through with tackling it in small steps, putting things into yes, no's, maybe, and then having the Facebook group to pretty much go through all of my maybes with me. Like, what do we think of this one? What do we think of this one? Just, you know, helping me to see things that maybe I missed or I didn't see to kind of give me some clarity, and also knowing that it doesn't have to be so black and white. Like, I still have a section in my closet that's dedicated for these maybes, these replace items. And that just made it a little bit easier to kind of go through the process, knowing that it didn't need to be so rigid.
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Neva
I love that you pointed out about getting input from the community and making a lot of those decisions, because it can be so hard to think about tackling this all on your own. And I never have been able to fully communicate the benefit of going through this with a group of Women who are working towards the same goals as you and able to really help you, and even if it's just through encouragement to keep going. But I feel like everybody gives some really good practical advice and honest input that can help everybody kind of keep the ball rolling forward together. So I'm really glad that you brought that up as well. And the truth about it doesn't have to be a finite decision. You. It's okay to hold onto some things and give yourself some time and space to really work through it all and take your time with the process. And yeah, we just did a whole episode on tackling some of those challenges around doing your closet audit. So I will definitely link that one up in the show notes if you are struggling with that too, and want to find out some really practical ways to move forward on those goals. Neva, how about you? I know you had some personal hiccups that came into play and maybe some other things that you want to share with us as well and how you overcame that.
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Amberly
Yeah, my. My biggest hiccup, I think, is that time crunch that I had some personal stuff come up in my life that had nothing to do with my wardrobe, sadly, because then I could have rolled them together, I guess. And so I just felt like, particularly towards the end of my time, my first. The first 90 days, I should say, that I. I just didn't have the time availability. I unfortunately felt like I had these other things needed to be a higher priority. But it's been great to have the community and to be able to extend my time so that I can, as time becomes available for me, I can actually pick things back up. And everybody's been very supportive and helpful, which is great. And since it's New Year's, one of my resolutions is to try to actually carve out some time and sort of set it on the calendar that every week I need to be able to, you know, dedicate this much to me because it's important to me and it's been helping me feel better. Aside from that, I have a couple. One is that I am a naturally impatient person and I needed to. I wish I had been better about taking a breather and giving myself some space or grace or whatever it is and not just like, jump into wanting to buy things immediately, which is just my natural tendency. And I have noticed other folks in the. The group have. Have the same tendency. So I'm not alone here, but it can be really hard when you're like, oh, I just learned this cool thing. Now I need to go out and Buy high waisted pants without getting to the next step and the next step. So it's very hard for naturally impatient people like me. And then the other thing that comes to mind that was more of an emotional surprise was the body image work. In one of the very first lessons, there's a, like a specialist who talks a bit about body image. And I guess I had. Was not aware how much baggage I had. And, and I don't honestly even know where it comes from, but I like sobbed and sobbed and sobbed for like a day because it was like this wake up call for me. I had this like therapeutic realization about the way I'm shaped and like there's nothing wrong with it. And frankly, I'm shaped the same way whether I £20 less or £20 more or even bigger than that one way or the other. And, and that was just a super helpful period to get through. So I am like very grateful to have made that connection and realized that. And I actually just gave the same information to a good friend of mine yesterday who's had some health issues and gained a, like, significant amount of weight and was feeling very. She said gross. And I was like, hey, I learned this thing in this group that I'm in. And she was like, oh, is amazing. So it's, it's nice to pass that on too. But that was something that was very unexpected to me.
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Neva
I appreciate you sharing all of that. It is so helpful to hear other people's experiences. And I will say, one of the most rewarding things for me, kind of getting to watch all of you go through this whole process is seeing the transformation and how you look and feel and show up in the world and reclaiming that confidence and learning to embrace exactly where you are, exactly how your bodies are, and learning how to dress them in a way that brings out your best and makes you feel good. I mean, for me, that is what it is all about, is just being able to pull anything that you have out of your closet and feel good in it. So I am really grateful that that was your experience, especially right out of the gate. I know it's a lot and it goes beyond surface level of here's some cute clothes to buy. Like, we're actually tackling some of these real challenges that come up for us as women. And so I'm happy that that was such a profound learning opportunity for you and able to shift probably how you move forward through the program. So. And I will say, I think the time piece comes up for a lot of us. You know, we can all be really excited, especially in the beginning, for taking on new things. And they say that about New Year's resolutions. Like, people are usually really solid for maybe the first couple of days or up to a week or two, and things get in the way, and we kind of peter out a little bit. But I just want to acknowledge the two of you were really consistent in coming. Like Neva, even when you had busyness happening, you were coming to the group coaching calls, you were emailing, letting me know what was going on, and that's the best way that we can really team up and work together and make sure that you have what you need to keep moving forward. So kudos to both of you for always being in communication and letting me know how I can help you through every single step. So I have seen so much growth in each of you since the star, and I would love for you to just tell us a little bit about how your style and wardrobe has evolved over the past several months, and let's celebrate some of your biggest wins.
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Amberly
One thing that I was actually very surprised by. So I work in, like, an arts design career and field, and I didn't expect the color palette to be as incredibly helpful as it is. So I'm very comfortable and confident with color already. But having this color palette was, like, eye opening for me because everything goes. So now all my clothes have. Everything works together. So I can basically take any single item I have and match it with almost anything else and have it work just naturally. So even as someone who was like, I know color. I'm really good at this already. Like, that, to me, was such a game changer. And one thing I know that I've shared with both of you in the group was I had a trip, work trip a couple months ago, maybe, like, in October, and I didn't know how to plan for it, and Heather helped coach me through it. I put, together, like, a Pinterest board and planned it, and it was so helpful and useful to have that ahead of time. I had everything I needed. I knew what my outfits were for. I knew what to pack. Everything worked together. And similarly, like, the color palette came into to play in that, because everything worked, it was really shockingly helpful. So that, to me, was, like, one of my big wins. I also just feel like everything I have right now feels good, and if it doesn't, I'm able to identify that in a way I wasn't before. Like, stuff would just be in the closet or a drawer, and I'd be like, whatever. But now when I Look in there. I'm like, yeah, I like all of this stuff, and I can see what works and what doesn't in a way that I wasn't doing before. So that's been really great for me.
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Neva
Friend. That is amazing. Just hearing that your closet has so much cohesiveness and everything goes together so easily and that you have the knowledge you need to course correct if something is off and you know exactly what to look for to fill in any gaps that you have. So I'm really thrilled to hear about those results. I do have one quick question for you that's kind of off the cuff, but sometimes I have people reach out and say, like, okay, once I have my colors, how do I integrate those in a way that doesn't cost a fortune? I'd love to hear just because the first thing that you mentioned was really having that color resource. How was it bringing those into your wardrobe in a way that was really achievable so quickly?
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D
Yeah.
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Amberly
I did add a lot of the color in, like, tops, so starting in the summer was helpful in that, like, there's a lot of cute tops in the summer, so I was able to, like. Like, there's some, like, orangey sort of terracotta colors there, and I was able to get, like, a couple tank tops in those colors. So even just pulling them in as little pops here and there was helpful because, like, those pieces themselves weren't super expensive or overwhelming. And so I was able to add those into sort of more neutral things pretty smoothly and easily. I also, I. I tend to have pretty basic bottoms, so like, just denim, black, blue, whatever. So that makes having the color on the tops a little bit easier. I know. Like, I. I would love, like, as I expand to have more, like, fun shoes. So I actually just bought some sneakers that are, like, that terracotta color, and that's been really fun. So those work with everything. But I've sort of leaned into either the. I don't say less expensive, but, like, sort of the smaller pieces that are sort of easier to come by for adding those pops that I didn't have or in things that I use a lot, like sneakers. I wear them. They're like my go to pair of sneakers. So anytime I leave the house, that's what I'm wearing. So it's worth the investment to me to get the fun pop of color there as opposed to trying to mix and match 500 different things. So now all those pieces work much more cohesively.
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Neva
I think that's fantastic advice. Number one, to look at it as a gradual process that you're slowly adding more things in, and also to focus on bringing your best colors near your face, because we talk about that that's the most important place to wear your best colors so that it really does call attention back there and make sure that it works with your personal coloring and brings out your best. So I love that advice. All right, Amberly, I'm going to turn it back over to you. What were some of your biggest wins through the collective so far?
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D
So I feel like my biggest win was just developing this really clear understanding of what my style is and looks like. Right now, I feel like I know which pieces really feel like me and which ones don't. And kind of going off of what Neva said with the color palette, I feel like I have a lot better understanding of what things go together and what don't. Plot, twist. A lot more things go together than I thought. I feel like with my color palette, a lot of the colors were ones that I already owned and were familiar with and were comfortable with, but weren't necessarily as comfortable pairing together. So just feeling that confidence to pair things together in new ways just gave me. It just opened a lot more doors to help put looks together that could feel like me that I wasn't anticipating.
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Neva
That's awesome. I know we all love a good neutral, but it is so fun for me to help you expand your possibilities and be able to bring a lot of color and life into your wardrobe if that works for you in new and exciting ways. So that's so fun, and it's been great to see your outfit of the day post in the group, because everything's like, this is Amberly, I feel like you've nailed your style so well, and I've seen such an incredible transformation since. Since you first joined us back in July. So, yes, kudos, friends. You're doing amazingly. And I would love to know, too, because we've already talked about, like, there are clear steps to follow in the program, but what has it taken from you both to accomplish those results? Because you've got to do the work at the end of the day, as much as I would love to just show up at your house and wave a magic wand and make it happen for you, you really do have to do the work at the end of the day. So tell me what it's required of you to get those incredible results.
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D
Sure. For me, I felt like it came down to a matter of a lot of self reflection and a lot of inspiration as well. So, you know really taking the time, doing the research, looking through Pinterest, figuring out like, what outfits I really liked, but then digging deep to figure out what I liked about those outfits. And then once you figure out what you like, it's about getting creative to figure out, well, that might not work for me, but how can I implement those things that I do? Like, in a way that does work for me? You know, I'm sure you remember a lot of the outfits we found on Pinterest that I loved were on people with different body shapes, different coloring, and it was taking those outfits figuring out, well, how could I do this differently, achieve the same look, but different colors, different proportions to make it work for me? So yeah, I think the biggest things are you just have to be willing to do a lot of introspection and a lot of thinking.
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Neva
Yeah, it's almost peeling an onion.
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D
Right?
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Neva
Like, there's so many layers to it. And not just saying, okay, this is a cute outfit, I'm just gonna copy this. But know what exactly do you like about it and what are some of the similarities between the different things that are inspiring you and then how can we take it and make it work even better for you personally? And so it is quite a process and really digging deep to figure out exactly what you love and what's going to light you up? And I'm so proud of you for taking that on and being willing to do the hard work to. To figure it out so thoroughly.
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Amberly
Yeah, yeah, I completely agree. That self reflection piece is huge and you've said that much more clearly than I had in my head. So yes, self reflection, that's it. Yeah. Like, what came to mind to me was like realizing it's not my body that's the problem, it would be the clothes that I'm putting on them might be a problem, but that's not me, that's the clothes. And that like, that piece is what sort of for me, the self reflection came into play. I also, just as far as learning, would like, review the lessons, ask questions, move to the next step, realize there's something I was missing, and go back and revisit those previous lessons to try to really fully grasp the overarching concepts that I was trying to get. So like I remember having to go back and. Or not having to, but remember going back and re listening to the body shape class because that I hadn't fully like digested and internalized. So that was really helpful. And then for me, patience. I know I said before I'm impatient, but like, that was my Biggest. My biggest hurdle internally that I needed to accomplish and get where I am.
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Neva
I feel like I need to remind everyone almost weekly in the program, follow the steps, follow them in order. It's this way for a reason. And I think you brought up a really great point that sometimes you've got to work backwards as well, especially for the two of you. You came in at an interesting time where we were already kind of mid summer, and so you were really focused on your summer wardro. And then maybe halfway through, we were transitioning into fall winter. And so you almost did have to kind of go back to the beginning again just to revisit things for your fall winter wardrobes, especially being east coast friends. We all have some big seasonal changes where we live, and so you can't necessarily incorporate all of your spring summer pieces throughout the whole year. So it's great to realize that it's okay to pause, go back, relearn something, or revisit it as you keep moving forward. And that is my goal for you now as you both kind of graduated the program is that you can be able to just go back and work through the steps, you know, each and every season and just quickly refine things so that you never fall into a wardrobe rut again or feel stuck. So, ladies, I know we all still have room to keep growing and up leveling, myself very much included. And you're both still in the programs and kind of reworking things a little bit for the winter. But how does it feel to have a wardrobe and outfits that you love? And has it been worth all of the effort to doing the self reflection and being committed to getting the work done and asking the questions and continuing to show up?
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Amberly
I mean, I signed up for the extension, so I definitely think it was worth it.
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D
Appreciate it.
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Amberly
I mean, I. One thing that you helped me with is looking for a few special pieces and one was like this dress. For I also am a part time performer and it was this like amazing, sparkly, beautiful, blinged out gown that I was able to wear. And I have never felt so good at a performance before. I got so many compliments on the dress at the after this concert. And so like even just like those moments, I'm like, oh yeah, look at this. Like, I don't think I've ever gone to some event and had everybody talk about my outfit before. So not only did it like fit the the bill for what I was supposed to be wearing, but it apparently looked so good that like it literally everybody commented on it, including the other people. Who were performing with me were like, wow, look at that dress. And so stuff like that really has helped me about. Like, I really do love that. Now I'm like, when can I wear this again? Like, I need a fancy party so I could wear this blingy dress somewhere soon. And, like, having those. Those things has been real. Those are, like, fun wins. I definitely have room to keep growing, but I've moved from the stage where I'm like, what in the world is an overshirt? Like, Heather kept saying, overshirts would be great for you. I'm like, what is that? Turns out it's a shirt you wear over other shirts.
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Neva
But then, literally, what it sounds like. But we can easily over complicate things. I know. Yeah.
- [28:01]
Amberly
And now I'm at the, like, okay, I've got the overshirts, and I think I'm doing good. But, like, I'd love some help taking it to the next level and styling them differently. And so I. I definitely feel like there's. There's. It's been worth the effort, but there's still space to grow.
- [28:14]
Neva
Yeah, we all have that, and that's why, selfishly, I love keeping you all with me forever so we can just continue working on things and having fun, teaming up together. But, yeah, my goal is always that you get exactly what you need in the first three months, and then, if you want, we keep going season after season or continuing to uplevel and refine, because with everything in life, there's always room for more improvement. So, Amberly, how about you, friend?
- [28:36]
D
Yeah. Something that has absolutely been worth it to me and something that I feel like I've actually been talking about with some of the ladies in the boot camp is just the way it changes your confidence and the way you show up. It just feeling like how I'm dressing feels like a reflection of me and who I am. It really just makes such a difference in how you feel and how you can show up in the world. And there was, you know, just such a disconnect before I started in the person that I wanted to be and how I was trying to be that person. And now it's just. It's really given me again. It's just confidence and feeling like the person that I'm showing up as matches the person that I feel like.
- [29:29]
Neva
I love that. And it is so natural now that you are just showing up as that woman that you've been wanting to be. And it was such a gradual thing, but here you are now kind of looking back at where you Started. And I know for both of you, hearing the compliments is so validating to all of the hard work that you've done, but even more importantly, that you are feeling confident and excited about your choices. And the knowledge that you have in your style just means the world to me and makes it all worthwhile for sure. So a question I've never asked anyone before, but I think would be so fun to cover, is if you could go back to day one of the program, would you do anything differently?
- [30:07]
D
Well, I guess for what I figured out that what I would do differently, it wouldn't take me back to day one. It would probably take me back to like day 45. But I feel like we all have areas that we just need to be more realistic with ourselves. And I feel like I probably could have been a little bit more realistic about the budget that I made for myself. We got into December and I didn't really account for holiday shopping for people. And I was like, well, now I'm out of money for myself and my own shopping. So, you know, I think everybody encounters that one area at some point where they're just like, oh, I didn't really think about this, but that was mine. And, you know, now I know I've got more time going forward and I'm just going to be a little bit more realistic about that this time.
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Neva
Absolutely. And I think the first time we do anything is the hardest. And if you're new to budgeting for shopping, it can be tricky to factor that in with all of the other expenses that you have going on. Because I can help you budget for your wardrobe shopping, but I, I can't really help you budget for your whole life. You realize that. And you still were able to pick up a lot of amazing needle moving pieces for your wardrobe. So you've been able to take your outfits really to the next level even without having maybe as much as you had hoped starting the process. And hopefully you were able to get some holiday gifts from others that I know you were hoping for. And yeah, now you can scoop up some really great after season sales as well. So you still have that list to work from and it might just take you a little longer to cross everything off of it.
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Amberly
And Amberly, I think you had some success with pieces you actually already owned. Right? Like, you found some stuff that you owned and were like, oh, this actually does work.
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D
Yeah, things I forgot about, things I didn't think would work. But as I started getting some new pieces, it's like, oh, well, this will help me better Integrate, like, fill in the missing piece for the things that I already owned. So that was simple.
- [32:12]
Neva
Yeah. Even if you still have the goal to replace some of those things or bring in new pieces, it's really empowering to be able to better utilize what you already do have and make it work nicely for you.
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Amberly
Yeah. For me, I wouldn't actually change much, but I. I think there's a theme here, because what I would do is set aside designated time in my schedule. Like, I actually have a calendar hold for the call, the coaching call. And that has helped me make sure that I'm available for it the majority of the time. And I think I maybe would put a calendar hold because I just get busy for actually just focusing my time on wardrobe stuff. But the theme that I'm hearing is thinking about our actual lives and how to fit the time and make the time for what we need as far as our wardrobes go into that schedule. So whether it is thinking about financial availability, time availability, I felt pretty confident about, like, looking at the events that I had and learning how to, like, find clothes or outfits or plan for those, but wasn't thinking as much about, like, the way life just gets in the way of doing stuff.
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Neva
Yeah.
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Amberly
So I think maybe I would think a little bit more about when I'd have more availability, when I love less, and how to make sure I'm designating time for. For myself.
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Heather Riggs
Yeah.
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Neva
That's so good. It's really helpful to make those kind of sacred appointments for yourself, even if it's just something that feels important for you to work on, to really block out and schedule the time. That's something I'm still learning, too. I've been very transparent in my own time management challenges over the last month or so, and realizing even for me, it's like scheduling some white space. In my day, even, it was just like a little block of, you know, time to kind of fill between activities or if something unexpected comes up. And so it is really helpful to account for that and about how you can make this process work within the constraints of your actual life. So I love all of this advice for people who are just coming in. Is there anything else that either of you would want to share about your experiences or that you would want people to know about? You know, what it really takes to build a wardrobe you love?
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D
I would give advice to people, but it's also hard because I feel like you already cover all the advice that I would want to give.
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Neva
So I'm sure that's not true, but you're very kind to say so.
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D
Thinking about, you know, the biggest thing for me was approaching the journey with a system in place. But you, through the collective, put the system in place. And it was just so much easier to go about it that way, to get in touch with what I wanted, what I needed before taking the steps to shop, to style, to just everything is put together systematically in a way that works. And even if that wasn't in place, that would be the advice that I would give to somebody. So be ready to approach things in that way. Luckily, I think a lot of us in the collective, our brains already work that way. I think we've had discussions at length about all of the type A people in the collective right now. But even if people, people don't naturally work that way, you just have such a great system set up to help people go about it in that way.
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Neva
I appreciate you saying that. And I think that is the advice is to take advantage of the system and not feeling pressured to figure it all out on your own. Because you can absolutely figure it out on your own. You might just take a really windy, curvy path to get there rather than just grabbing the opportunity to have the clear cut steps and system and support to get from point A to Z in the most efficient way possible.
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Amberly
Yeah. And I think for me to build on that a little bit. Like, I also, I am one of those overly systematic or very systematic type A people. And I think it also is a helpful way to get me unstuck from maybe some more rigid perspectives on shopping or dressing myself. Where there's especially having the community of people who would be like, oh, you know, I don't, I know you said you needed a black whatever, but like maybe that brown one is fine. Like it doesn't have to be exactly the thing you put on the shopping list. I mean, maybe it does, but what would you think about being a little more flexible there? This would work for these reasons as well. And so I also think having that system in place has actually helped me be a little more flexible, which sounds a little strange and counterintuitive, but I have appreciated it too. And I think I would just tell anyone who's starting out, I have found it very valuable to take this breather and think about who I am and how I want to present myself and what makes me feel good and it was really worthwhile to me. And so I would just encourage people to give themselves that gift of time and focus to think about themselves and what they need to make themselves feel more confident and comfortable.
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Neva
I think that makes so much sense and it really doesn't take a ton of time. If you can just allocate maybe an hour a week to work on the steps in addition to if you can make it to the weekly group coaching calls that are another hour, I would say even just two hours a week week. You can make so much traction in your wardrobe having that consistency and just continuing to show up for yourself. So if you could block that out for the first three months, you will make so much progress. And also I think you brought up a really great point of adding on to what Amberly said of being willing to learn and to follow the system. Also being willing to unlearn the things that you think you know about your wardrobe and being open to flexibility and possibility and maybe it actually working a little differently than you had made up in your mind coming in. Especially if you're coming in thinking about building like a strict capsule wardrobe and it's got to look a certain way. It's there's so much fun and freedom and making it really work for each individual person. Everybody's wardrobes look so different, but you're all following the same steps to make it your own and that's what's such a cool thing for me to get to see and be part of. So friends, I'm so grateful for you. It's been absolutely a blast working with you both. I'm glad we're not ending here. We still have more time together. Thank you for giving us some of that and sharing your experiences so vulnerably on the podcast.
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Heather Riggs
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