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302 | Gratitude, Great Style, and This Week's Giveaway Winners
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Merry Christmas, my friend. I wanted to keep today's episode simple, not only because I'm not feeling 100%, as you might hear in my voice, but because in the hustle and bustle of the holiday season, I think we could all use a little break. So today, there's no teaching, no fixing, no pressure to set plans or goals. Just a moment for us to breathe and pause together. I've been thinking a lot about how hard we can be on our closets, how quickly frustration shows up when we look at what we own and feel like it should be better by now. But our closets usually reflect our lives and most of us have been navigating a lot. So today feels like a good day to acknowledge that what we've worn has likely been doing exactly what it needed to do for the season we were in. Even if you're excited to change things up in the new year, and I am too, there's value in appreciating what's already supported you along the way. And that's what this conversation is going to be all about.
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Welcome to Her Style podcast where we're all about empowering you to show up and get dressed every day with confidence. I'm your host, Heather Riggs, a 15 year and counting certified image consultant and color specialist, ready to build a wardrobe and a personal style you love.
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Let's get started. Apologies, friend. I know this. This is not going to be the most pleasant episode to listen to. I don't even have a sexy sick voice right now. It's just gravelly sick. So first, thank you so much for bearing with me. Secondly, happy holidays. I hope you are having the most joyful season. Lots of time to relax and unplug with your loved ones. And of course, I couldn't avoid doing this episode altogether because we have a big announcement to make at the end of the episode, I'm going to reveal our 300th episode holiday giveaway winners. They will be announced, so stick with me if you can bear my voice. I will try to keep this short and sweet, but I wanted to start this episode by sharing a little bit of a personal story. My husband and I were kind of scrambling leading up to Christmas because at first my son started to tell us that he wanted a kid's computer or a Nintendo Switch. And so we were like, great, perfect. We will pick one of those. That'll be fabulous. We can do some other little gifts so he has things to open on Christmas morning. As an only child, it goes pretty fast. And then somewhere along the way, he Started getting the idea that he wanted both of those gifts for Christmas to the point that just a few days ago, he woke up and came into my room and we were talking about Christmas and gifts and those things. And he mentioned that Santa told him he could get both gifts for Christmas because he's been really good this year. So obviously my husband and I had a really big, difficult decision to make. And he had a really clear vision and a high expectation of how he wants Christmas morning to go. And so while we were already planning to give him some wonderful things, we had already picked one of those big gifts. He's not getting both of them. And it was a really tough decision because you never want to disappoint your kids. You don't want disappointment to overshadow all of the good things. And in our household, Christmas is not all about the gifts, but it is an important thing for a seven year old boy. He's very excited for that and we don't want to rain on his parade. So we don't want him focusing on what he didn't get instead of appreciating what he did. And I really do want the day to just feel easy. I don't know, as a mom, sometimes it's like, let's just do the easy thing and get them both and it'll be happy and he'll have a wonderful day. But what kept coming back to us, as uncomfortable as that moment might be. If you're listening to this episode in real time, it's Christmas day today, so this has probably already gone down. If you want, I can update you on how everything played out. But even there, if there is a little bit of disappointment on his end, I think there's an even more important lesson that he will get to learn. He's not gonna appreciate it right now, but most of us don't get everything that we want right away. And learning how to value what you do have, even when it's not everything you imagine everything that you want it to be, that's part of growing up. And truthfully, I think he's gonna bounce back faster than we expect. I certainly hope so. And I know kids are pretty resilient. I think we can just keep redirecting him to all that he has, the true meaning of the holiday. He's gonna probably feel sad and like, look around, where are my other gifts? Where's the other big thing I asked for? And then my hope is that he will move on and we can have a really good, wonderful, magical day. And I really cannot blame him for how I suspect he's going to feel. Because in this Amazon overnight or same day delivery world that we're living in right now, it is easy to get the things that we want immediately sometimes. But I also see this pattern over and over when it comes to our wardrobes. And believe me, I've experienced it for myself too. We get excited about a new vision, a new season, a new year, a new version of ourselves, and. And suddenly what we own immediately feels frustrating or inadequate. And not because it actually is. Maybe there's some things we don't love that aren't working for us anymore, but because it doesn't match the picture in our head yet. So if you are chomping at the bit, if you're feeling a little bit of pressure as we come into the end of the year to give your closet a full makeover and start 20, 26 out right. But that's maybe not practical for you right now. Whether it's financially, logistically, energetically. Maybe you don't have the time that you need to put into developing a ward that you absolutely love. I know that it can feel deeply discouraging. You want the transformation, you want that dream wardrobe. But you're living in the in between. And instead of enjoying what is available to you, all your attention goes to what's missing. One of my mentors used to say, expectation leads to disappointment. And I don't think that means we shouldn't hope or dream or want more. I think it's just a reminder to stay grounded. And in reality, when our expectations are way ahead of our current season, even good things can start to feel disappointing. Like everything you own right now is just a placeholder. Or it's not good enough, it's not intentional enough, it's not you enough. And that mindset can drain the joy right out of getting dressed. Even if your closet is actually serving you just fine, even if you have some really quality pieces in there that you actually do love. I see this all the time with my clients. Once they start to really go through everything, they find so many gems, they develop a new appreciation for what they have. And the part that we maybe don't talk about enough is that your closet usually reflects your life. And most of us have been navigating a lot. We have busy schedules, fluctuating bodies, shifting priorities, emotional seasons that require comfort over creativity at times. So if your wardrobe has felt simple, if it's repetitive, if you feel like it's too safe, that's not a failure or a disappointment. It's Just good information. Those clothes showed up for you for your real life. They helped you get dressed on mornings when your energy was low. They made things easier when you didn't have the bandwidth to think about your style. And they've supported you in ways that might not be flashy or the most fashionable, but they were very real, and that matters. And I think gratitude in this context isn't about pretending you don't want change. It's not ignoring the problems, the growth opportunities. It's not about letting dissatisfaction run the show or settling or saying, this just has to do, or I have to wait until I have all of this money or I have the perfect body. I've talked about that so many times on the podcast. It's about saying, okay, this is what I have. This is what I have to work with today. These are pieces that worked for me at one time. This is what got me through. And I can learn something from this. I can look at the patterns of what has worked and is still working here. And I can take that information and apply it with intention as I do evolve and move this forward and get closer and closer to my goals inch by inch by inch. And I think that that shift alone is going to create a lot of clarity for you. And clarity is where confidence actually starts to grow. And I don't want to get ahead of myself, because we're going to talk about that a lot more next week. But all in all, contentment doesn't mean you're done evolving. It just means you're not chasing confidence like it's hiding in the next purchase or the next overhau. When you're content, you make decisions from a steadier place. You can stop impulse shopping out of frustration. You can stop comparing your real closet to an imagined one. And you can start trusting yourself again. Again. I see this over and over in the work that I do. The moment women stop trying to fix everything all at once, something relaxes. First of all, it's way less stressful than trying to overhaul your wardrobe overnight. But they can really slow down and start to notice patterns instead of problems. They can see what they like instead of focusing on what's missing. And from that place, change actually becomes easier, not harder. So as this year wraps up, I'm not thinking about style wins or dramatic transformations. As I said, I have some big goals for my wardrobe in 2026 as well. But for starters, I'm thinking about awareness. The moments that I caught myself before I bought something just because it promised a fresh start, or the days that I chose to feel comfort or simplicity and I didn't immediately talk myself out of it. I just let that be okay and what I needed in that moment and the times that I realized my closet is not failing me, it's not so far behind from where I want it to be. It's just reflecting the season of my life that I'm in. And I hope that you can learn to feel the same way. Maybe you already are and kudos to you for the rest of us. I think that awareness is going to be really powerful and even if nothing outward changed something, internal will and that matters so much more than we tend to give it credit for. So Christmas and the holiday season doesn't feel like the day to critique ourselves or put ourselves on a self improvement plan. And that's why I just wanted to give you some quick thoughts and reflection points that are hitting home for me this year in particular at this time. So there's no to do list. There's no action steps. I'm not even going to give you reflection questions because I don't want to add more to your to do list. I just want you to take this as a day to soften the pressure that you might be feeling and to acknowledge what has gotten you here. To let enough actually be enough. At least for today. We can want more later. There's time for that. We've got big things happening for us in the New year and we can make those plans when the time is right. But today, appreciation is more than sufficient. As you head into the New year, I do have something really fun and free that's coming for you. I have a couple free fun things coming for you in the month of January. But I am so excited to share more with you, to support you in achieving your style goals with clarity, with ease, with intention, with excitement and fun and joy and passion. And all of these things are really designed to help you see your style more clearly first without fixing or forcing anything and without that all or nothing energy that tends to show up this time of year. So again, we're gonna let go of the pressure. There's no need to overhaul things overnight. I will share more to come very, very soon. I hope you're excited. And before we wrap up this episode, I wanna say the biggest thank you to everyone. Our 300th episode giveaway this past week. Who left a review for the show or shared it with someone you love. That support truly means more than I can ever fully express. And I also want to congratulate our big prize winners. So without further ado, our third prize, a $100e gift card to the store of your choice, goes to Clara Cowden. Congratulations Clara. Our team will reach out to you to get that set up. Our second prize, a private 60 minute wardrobe strategy session with me, goes to Shelley Lynch. Congratulations Shelly. And our grand prize, a full scholarship to Her Style Collective, goes to the one and only Shaina Calloway. Congratulations Shayna. I am so excited to team up with you inside this 90 day program to get you a fully custom color palette of your best hues. And congratulations to all of our winners. Thank you again to everyone who submitted for the chance to win one of these prizes again. I have so many more goodies coming your way in January that you will be able to get your hands on no matter what. So friend, I just want to let you know how much I appreciate you. Thanks again for being here for putting up with my voice today and for letting me be part of your life and style journey in this small but meaningful way. And today, friend, let yourself be exactly where you are without needing to fix a thing. The goals will come. We have plenty of time to work on all of the wardrobe goals that you have in the New year. So for now, I am so glad you joined me for this episode. Episode. I'll look forward to meeting you back here next week.
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Thank you for listening to today's episode. If you want to stop copying everyone else's style and start dialing in your own swoon worthy signature look, head over to take my free 5 minute personal style quiz which you can find at the link in the show notes. If you've enjoyed our time together, please be sure to rate, review and subscribe to her Style podcast so you never miss an episode. Finally, I invite you to make this a two way conversation and send me a DM over on Instagram eatherriggstyle to let me know how I can best support you on your style journey. I'm always here for you in style and service. Until next.
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