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317 | 7 Things My Most Stylish Clients Do Differently
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You know that woman who always looks pulled together, the one who seems to get dressed effortlessly, and you find yourself thinking, how does she do that? Here's what I've learned after working with hundreds of women over the last 18 years. She's not more talented than you, she's not more disciplined, and she definitely wasn't born with some magical style gene. But there are things she does differently, and today I'm pulling back the curtain on exactly what those things are. I'm breaking down the seven things my most stylish clients do that set them apart. Not because they're Maybelline level, born with it, but because they've learned a few key shifts that change everything. And here's the thing. These aren't about buying more or following trends or having a bigger budget. They're about how you think about style, how you approach getting dressed, and what kind of support you give yourself along the way. By the end of this episode, my hope is that you'll walk away thinking not only, oh, man, I want that level of ease when I get dressed, but more importantly, that you can have it. Because you know what, friend? You absolutely can. And in this episode, I'm going to show you how. Welcome to her style podcast, where we're all about empowering you to show up and get dressed every day with confidence. I'm your host, Heather Riggs, a 15 year and counting certified image consultant and color specialist, ready to build a wardrobe and a personal style you love. Let's get started. Okay. Welcome back to her style podcast. Before we jump into the seven things that my most stylish clients do differently, I want to tell you a quick story. Just the other week, one of my clients inside her style collective was expressing that she has all the right base pieces for her wardrobe, and she's experienced so many incredible wins since starting the program. But she admitted that her style was still feeling a little bit flat, like it was missing something, and all of her outfits kind of felt the same. And as I coached her, we got to the fact that she was holding herself back because of her age. She had made up this belief that she just couldn't wear certain things anymore. And so I gave her the homework assignment to create a fantasy mood board. No rules, no limitations. I wanted her to pin all of the outfits that she was drawn to in, even if she didn't think she could actually pull them off, it didn't matter. I wanted to see what she was loving, what she was most excited by, and where her style might be without all of these self Imposed rules. And she came back to me feeling so lit up. She was excited, she was feeling inspired, and she was starting to see glimpses of her older style again, the one that she had let go years ago because she didn't think she could wear those things anymore. And of course, it felt updated and fresh and some new things that she's really been loving and having her eye on. And we were able to sit down and brainstorm some ways that she could recreate some of these looks in a way that felt really appropriate for her with her existing wardrobe. And she could not wait to dive in. It just gave her all of the ammunition that she needed to start kicking her style up a notch. And since then, she's been experimenting with her existing wardrobe. She's been posting photos in our group and having the best time just playing and getting dressed again. And she has been looking absolutely next level, yet still practical, totally age appropriate, and most importantly, like herself, just getting that clarity around what was holding her back unlocked a missing piece that she really needed to bring it all together. It's been so incredible to see. And I even joked with her that she needs to start an age jar, kind of like a swear jar. If you say a bad word, you've got to put money in the jar. So for her, if she starts thinking that her age is a limitation, if she starts using it as an excuse not to try something, I told her to put some money in her age jar. And of course, we had a little laugh about that. I'm saying it on the podcast because it's something you might want to do as well. It might not be your age. It could be another limiting factor that you're letting stop you from looking and feeling your very best in this season of your life. But the most important thing in that story, and the main reason why I shared it, is because that shift didn't happen to me because she got more confident first. What changed wasn't her age, it wasn't her body, it wasn't the wardrobe that we have to work with. It was that someone helped her question a rule that she didn't even realize was holding her back. And that's really what today's episode is about. The women that you think are effortlessly stylish, it's not effortless. They've just learned a few key things that make getting dressed feel easier, faster, and way more fun. So I wanna help pull back the curtain today, show you some things that might be missing or stopping from your own most stylish outfits, your best wardrobe and Showing up as the next level version of who you are. So let's break this down. I want to talk about all of these seven things that I think are so important for you to see, understand, and start to adapt in your own life and wardrobe. All right, the first thing is that these women don't isolate themselves with their confusion. You know what most women do when they're stuck? They spiral. They stay stuck. They don't want to admit it. They don't want to reach out for help. I don't know if you're like that. I can definitely be stubborn. If I'm going through a hard time, I tend to isolate myself. Some of my friends will text me just to reach out if they haven't heard from me in a minute. Because I am the kind of person who naturally wants to withdraw when I'm feeling really confused. It's taken work for me to become the kind of person who reaches out, raises my hand, and asks for help when I feel like I'm drowning. So if you are someone who just tends to spiral out on your own. If you find yourself googling capsule wardrobe checklists at 11pm or saving tons of outfit inspiration on Pinterest, but never actually recreating any of that with your own pieces, or if you are buying courses and programs but you're not implementing them, or this is a big one, I hear this a lot. If you're convinced that you should be able to figure this out on your own, or you should know all of this by now, here's what I've learned over the years. And seeing this with countless women, Style confusion thrives in isolation. When you're alone with your closet and your thoughts and your doubts, everything feels harder. You will continue to second guess yourself, overthink your outfits, try something on, decide it doesn't work, and you have no idea why it doesn't work. So you throw it on the floor and you move on to the next thing. And you end up with a big pile of clothes in the reject pile at the end of the day that you've got to then go and clean up. But when you can say out loud, why does this not work? And someone helps you see what you're missing, you can finally move forward without spinning. So please stop isolating yourself in your confusion. Reach out, ask for help, and get the support that you need to get unstuck. All right, number two, my most stylish clients personalize everything, and this is where we get to knock down some outdated narratives. The women that I see really thriving in Their style are no longer asking, is this trending? Can I pull this off? What will people think of this? Instead they're asking, does this feel like me? Does this support my life? Does this align with my style and make me feel amazing? They've stopped consuming general advice as universal truth. They question everything and they filter it through their own blueprint. Because here's the thing. You can read all the blog posts, you can watch all the YouTube videos you want, you can check out all the TikToks. But until you know your best colors, your most flattering proportions, what your signature style is, and you've married all of that with your actual lifestyle needs, until you get to that point, you're just guessing. You're taking lots of shots in the dark. You're trying what everybody else is telling you to do or what they're doing. And guessing leads to a closet full of things that look good on the hanger but don't feel right on your body. Personalization is the difference between I should wear this and I love wearing this. And that differentiation is absolutely everything. All right, now the third one might surprise you. One thing that I can see consistently in my most confident clients is that they know their default patterns. Let me give you some examples of what I mean. It might sound like, okay, I always grab black when I'm feeling overwhelmed. That is a safe color for me. That is my go to. Or it could be I panic shop before events. I wait till the last minute and I buy something just to get dressed because I don't have anything in my closet. Or I avoid fitted pieces. I like to hide my body a little bit. My default is to wear things that hide my figure. Or I buy beautiful statement items but never the basics, so that it's hard to put my pieces together. Most women experience these patterns, or maybe not all of them, but one or two might stand out for you. Or you might be thinking of similar things that you can relate to. My most advanced clients can name them, and here's why that matters. When you can name your pattern or patterns, you can stop shaming yourself for them. So instead of getting frustrated and saying, what's wrong with me? Why do I keep doing this? Why do we keep making these shopping mistakes? It becomes, oh, okay, I slipped into my default mode. I can work with that. I know how to get out of this. I know what to do differently. One of my clients realized recently that she buys what she knows. Dressing for her weekends feels really easy, so she naturally wants to buy casual dresses and pretty tops for dinner. Dates and things like that. But then she avoids the area of her life where she feels like she needs to be a little bit more buttoned up and reserved, like at work. And once she named that pattern, once we looked at her wardrobe and we realized that she buys the things that feel equal, easy for her. She could address it with intention instead of just feeling frustrated every morning when it's time to go to work and she has nothing to wear that brings her joy. So we've been able to focus on that. And now she's playing outside the lines a little bit. She's wearing some of those pretty tops with classic trousers and embracing softer colors and more structured pieces and finding ways to infuse her style in a work appropriate way that still makes her feel good when she gets dressed. So you've got to figure out what are those patterns that so that you can break out of them. This is where education plus reflection changes everything. Your wardrobe isn't a problem. You just have some default patterns, and those patterns can start to shift once you're aware of them. Okay, let's talk about number four, which is that they repeat on purpose. I want to challenge a big myth here. Stylish does not equal constantly new. Do I need to say that again? Looking stylish does not equal having constantly new things, new outfits, new pieces, new trends. Here's what separates women who feel stuck from women who have mastered the art of getting dressed. They're not afraid to repeat their best outfit formulas. They repeat silhouettes. They repeat color combinations. They build signature elements into their look, but it feels effortless because it's intentional. The contrast is that most women think repetition means being lazy or looking boring or feeling uncreative with your style. But repetition is actually what creates recognition, ease, speed, getting ready, identity, feeling really solid and grounded in who you are and how you show up in the world. And I want you to think about it. When you see a woman who has a signature look, maybe she always wears gold jewelry or she's known for her amazing scarf collection, or she has a go to silhouette. Even a celebrity that you love. She might play with different things, but she always shows up looking like herself. You can recognize who she is by her style, and you don't think, ugh, she's wearing that again. She looks so boring. No, you think she has great style. She's secure in who she is. She is confident. She always shows up looking flawless. And typically we have style icons because we love their look. They have a defined signature style, and it's because she's not reinventing the wheel every day. She's repeating formulas that work well for her. And this is where you might be feeling like, okay, yes, that is the level of ease and confidence that I want to have in my life. Because when you have a few go to outfit formulas that, you know, work for you. And yes, of course, you're gonna play and you're gonna mix things up, and you're gonna have fun when you get dressed. But that's what really helps you stop feeling like it's a creative beast every single morning. Like, you're always reinventing the wheel and starting from scratch, and you've got to chase trends and shop all the time. You can let go of that pressure. You can start remixing what you have with greater intention, and this will actually free you up to be so much more creative in the long run. All right, I want to go a little deeper with this next one. Number five is that the women I see really thriving have learned to separate their self worth from their style. A lot of women carry these beliefs, like, I'm too old, I'm too busy. I've gained weight, so I can't look good right now. And those beliefs make getting dressed feel really heavy, like there's something at stake beyond just putting on clothes. And my most stylish clients have learned that clothes are not a reflection of your worth. They're not a measure of how put together you are. They're actually just a resource that you can use strategically. And when you start seeing them that way, everything lightens up. You stop attaching so much emotional weight to whether an outfit works or not. Or if you have the most expensive wardrobe, you can experiment with your pieces without feeling like you're risking something deeper. You can try something, maybe decide it's not quite right. You can make adjustments, or you can move on without that spiral. Remember the client I mentioned earlier with the age jar? She had a belief that she didn't even realize was there. Once we named it, we could work with it. And that is the shift that emotional detachment creates. So much freedom to play, to experiment, to figure out what actually works for you. It's when you can separate who you are from your style. You're using it to enhance who you are instead of limit who you are in some way. All right, number six is. Is really kind of spiraling off of that one, which is that they're willing to experiment. They try silhouettes they never would have before. They're willing to test new color combinations or prints, or they're ready to play with proportions and ultimately willing to risk having a miss. And the reason that they're willing to do that is because they have a place where it's safe to try. They can get some feedback. They have reassurance. And I know most women avoid experimenting because they don't want to get it wrong publicly. They don't want to feel embarrassed when they leave the house. They don't want to show up to the event and feel like they're out of place or they miss the mark. But my clients get to play privately first. They can post a photo in our community and ask, okay, does this work? What do I need to adjust to make this even better? And they get real kind and helpful feedback before they ever leave the house. And that experimentation, whether you're doing it in a room like a community with our program, or if you're doing it on your own, maybe you invite a friend over and just play and have some fun dressing up in your closet. That experimentation is going to help you build confidence way faster than consuming more content ever could, than scrolling on Instagram, than comparing yourself with influencers and other people that you see online. Because you're not just learning in theory, you're learning by doing and you're doing it with support and a lot of love behind it. So you gotta get out of comparison mode and be willing to experiment and ask some feedback from the people who love you most and who are there to guide, encourage and help you up level. Okay, the Last 1, Number 7. The client who feels the calmest and most grounded in their wardrobe is knows that style isn't set it and forget it. They don't treat their wardrobe like a one time project where they figure it out once and then they're done forever. They see it as something that continues to grow and evolve with them. Your life is going to change. I've talked about this so many times on the podcast. Your body is going to fluctuate. Your priorities will shift over time and your style has to evolve too or you're going to end up in a rut. And so you don't want to start from scratch every time something shifts. My clients are building on what they already know. They've learned the foundations, they know their best colors, they know their most flattering proportions, they're clear on their style identity and now they just get to refine. They get to take what's working and continue making it even better. It's like learning any skill in life. At first you are thinking really hard through every step. But the more you practice, the more it just becomes second nature. My most stylish clients have practiced. They've honed their eye. They've been willing to make mistakes and learn from them. And they've also, by proxy, learned to trust themselves. And they keep growing one small baby step at a time. And it might sound exhausting, but that is how you build confidence. That's true mastery. And the best part is that once you have the frameworks, you're not reinventing the wheel. You're just getting better and better at using what you know. And you can have that two Friend so here's what I want you to sit with for a second. What would it feel like to walk into your closet and know exactly what to reach for? To put on an outfit and feel like, yes, this is me. I know this works. I cannot wait to wear this to stop second guessing, overthinking and buying things that don't fit your actual life. If you're listening to this episode and you're thinking, I don't want to figure this out alone anymore, then I would love to support you. Her Style collective is my 90 day group coaching experience. Experience where we walk through this entire process together. You get coaching feedback, clarity and community. You get to stop spinning your wheels and start feeling like the most stylish woman in the room. If that sounds like what you've been missing, you can learn more@herstylellc.com collective all right, my friend, that's what I've got for you today. I hope this episode gave you some things to really sit and think about. I hope it made you realize that the women you admire aren't doing anything that you can't do. They're just doing it with just support, with intention, and with a few key frameworks that make all the difference. You deserve to feel this good. I want you to love your closet and I cannot wait to see where you'll go from here. Before we wrap up in our next episode, I just want to give you a heads up. I'm going to be covering the spring 2026 fashion trends. I know these episodes are always so much fun. They're some of my top downloaded episodes every time we talk about the trends here on Her Style podcast. So I'm going to break down what's on going coming up this season, what I think is worth paying attention to and as always, how you can personalize it and make the trends work for you and your style. So make sure that you're subscribed to her Style podcast so you don't miss that episode coming next week. Thank you so much for being with me today, friend. I'll talk to you soon. Thank you for listening to today's episode. If you want to stop copying everyone else's style and start dialing in your own style swoon worthy signature look, head over to take my free 5 minute personal style quiz which you can find at the link in the show notes. If you've enjoyed our time together, please be sure to rate, review and subscribe to her style podcast so you never miss an episode. Finally, I invite you to make this a two way conversation and send me a DM over on Instagram eatherrigstyle to let me know how I can best support you on your style journey. I'm always here for you in style and service. Until next time.