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326 | Is Your Wardrobe Feeling Random? 3 Steps to Make It Click
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It's another exciting day over here. Doors are open to enroll in our next Herstyle Collective cohort. We officially kick off this Monday, May 11, but you can jump in right now and get started today. Space is limited and we will be closing doors as soon as it fills up, so don't wait to claim your spot. And as a special limited time bonus, you'll also receive 30 days of extended access so you can enjoy the slower summer pace and prep ahead for your fall winter wardrobe. With our full support, this is the best time of year to enroll, so I invite you to check out all the details and join us for our May cohort@herstylellc.com collective. If your wardrobe feels totally random right now and you have lots of pretty pieces that just don't seem to work together, or maybe it takes you way too much time to figure out what to wear in the morning, or. Or you suspect that you're missing some key pieces that would make your closet more cohesive, but you can't put your finger on exactly what they are, and so you keep buying more things to try and fix it. Then this episode is most definitely for you. What if I told you there are just three steps that you need to take to make your entire wardrobe? Click. And guess what? Whether you're starting with too much or too little, the same solution will work for you. And in fact, I would bet that what I'm about to share with you in today's episode will solve 99.9% of your wardrobe challenges. So if you are tired of spinning your wheels, going down rabbit holes with ChatGPT, or piecing together tips from people whose bodies, budgets, tastes and lifestyles don't look enough like yours, then listen up my friend, because I think you're going to love what I have in store for you in this episode of Her Style Podcast. Welcome to Her Style Podcast where we're all about empowering you to show up and get dressed every day with confidence. I'm your host, Heather Riggs, a 15 year and counting certified image consultant and color specialist ready to build a wardrobe and a personal style you love. Let's get started. Okay, I'm gonna warn you, I feeling a little fired up today. We just opened the doors to our next collective cohort, which I'm so excited about. I'm eager to support another round of incredible women with up leveling their style and I did something kind of crazy at the end of last week. I deleted my ChatGPT account on a whim. It was prompted over a couple of things. First, I heard a really sad story about something that happened involving Chachi bt. And then I received two messages within like, I don't know, maybe an hour of each other. One came into my inbox and one was a direct response to a message that I'd sent someone who I have a personal relationship with. And they both used the exact same kind of canned line like, it's not you, it's this, and I don't know about you, but I just feel like all my emails coming into my inbox are starting to look and sound the same. Everyone's giving very similar responses to stuff. I feel like marketing copy is all kind of blurring together. And so the other thing is I really don't want to outsource my brain and my creativity. And I have a feeling, and I've heard other people who are much smarter than me and more in tune with all of this saying that we're probably going to see a big pushback in the near future. People who are craving humanity and connection in this very AI generated world. World. So I made the decision. I'm doubling down on the key principle that I have built her style on since day one and that is personalization. This is going to be a big part of today's topic and I'll come full circle on this later in our conversation. And I will also just say as a quick disclaimer, I'm not judging Anyone for using AI or ChatGPT. I just feel like I'm starting to see a lot of the downside to it and the repetition and the disconnection that can come about. And also I was really relying on it too much for just everyday things. And I really want to kind of take back my own autonomy, my own decision making process and make sure that I am exercising that and not just relying on something or someone else to give me the answers. Which again, we will be talking about in today's conversation as it relates to your wardrobe. But for now, let's get into it. I am so excited to break down the three steps. And I'm not going to say three simple steps because they are quite layered. There are nuances here, but I will give you a very clear roadmap that you can follow with or without me to bring your wardrobe together in a way that you probably haven't yet. I hear complaints all the time from women who tell me that their wardrobes feel so random. In fact, in last week's interview with my client Katie, she said the same thing. Her wardrobe felt overwhelming. It was off balance And I think she used the word noisy as well. And she shared some great ideas in that episode of things that you can do. So if you haven't listened to it yet, it is a really good one. I'll go ahead and link it up in the show notes for you. Or you can just go click on the last episode right before this one. But I want to give you a sort of step by step today so that you can stop spinning your wheels and start getting similar results of your own. Sound good? Okay, so here we go. Step one is to define your style strategy. And as I said, this is layered. But the bottom line is that you want to figure out what makes you feel confident, period. You can't effectively bring your wardrobe together or make progress on this without making it personal. And I truly believe that this is one of the key things missing for most women. We're trying to emulate others, and we're often captivated by what we see in an ad or in our favorite stores. And we think that the answer is buying more. It's like, I can't wear these pants until I have the right shoes, and that dress is going to look so much better once I add a belt. And I just need to buy that trendy new style I've been seeing everyone else wear in order to feel confident at the high school graduation I'm going to next month. And not knowing what you truly need is costing you a lot of freedom and peace when you get dressed. So before you worry about what's missing or what's not working anymore, I highly encourage you to put some parameters in place. You've got to define your ideal style and think about what actually makes you feel good. At a practical level, you might think that you love bright colors, and maybe you do. That could be something that you're drawn to. But when it's time to get dressed, you're just reaching for whatever feels comfortable. And so the colors are maybe not the top priority like you might think that they are. Now, I'm not personally on TikTok, but I did a quick Google search which told me that tank top styling is apparently a top trend over there right now. Please feel free to dispute me if that is incorrect information, but you might be a little caught up in those looks. Maybe you're obsessing about how you can style different tank top outfits in the spring and summer, but you actually feel better in tops that draw attention away from your arms. Maybe you have other features that you prefer to highlight, so I would love for you to just tune Everything and everyone out, even just for one hour, and start digging deep and investigating what really lights you up and makes you feel good. Now, maybe you've heard me talk about the style foundations before. This is exactly where that is going to come into play. I think the most important elements are figuring out your personal style aesthetic. So that could be the visuals, the descriptors, maybe the words that you want to use to describe your style, the feelings that you want your wardrobe and your outfits to have. You also want to think about what flatters your figure, and within that, it's silhouettes, proportions, patterns, all of those good art and design principles that we talk about on the podcast. And then of course, it's so helpful to know your best colors. I am so serious about the impact that understanding your personal coloring and then how you can use a harmonious collection of colors as a starting point, not a limitation, to create the right mood and effect with your outfits. It really does make getting dressed immensely easier. It will bring a more cohesive feeling to your closet when you're working within those kind of clear, visionary points. And so again, under this umbrella of defining your style strategy is pinpointing your ideal styles, your best fits and your favorite colors, everything that lights you up, and then putting those benchmarks in place for all of your decisions moving forward. These can absolutely evolve over time. As I say, over and over. It's not a set it and forget it process. Nothing is set in stone. Also, nothing has to be legalistic. I don't want you operating from a ton of rules. But understanding what brings you confidence will help you filter out anything that doesn't meet those standards super fast. And when you have less choices, the best ones are going to become way easier for you to spot. So that's step one. I know it's a big one, but start there. Trust me on this. It is the most important thing when you're feeling overwhelmed with your wardrobe. So if it's feeling random, if you're feeling like it's overly edited or maybe things are looking outdated, or whatever your number one challenge is, you can insert that here because the likelihood is that your vision for it has gotten fuzzy. So we gotta sharpen that first. And it's really important to start by defining your terms, figuring out what's gonna work for your style, both from a visionary standpoint and also from a practical level, what you need in your actual day to day life. So start there. It is the most important thing. Then once you have a clear sense of what you truly love and don't Love, you can move on to step two, which is to curate with intention. And I've also said many times that shopping is the last thing you want to do when you're feeling frustrated with your closet. It's very counterintuitive. But if your wardrobe is beautifully chaotic at the moment, it's not going to help to bring in more options and more distractions. Once you know what really matters to you and you know what makes you feel confident and you have that clear vision for your style, you know what your priorities are. When you're getting dressed, it's time to remove what no longer aligns with that. So the next thing I invite you to do is a closet audit. Try your pieces on, see what's flattering you and what's moving you closer to your style goals and what's just taking up space. This might surprise you, but I actually don't think you should be too ruthless to start. I have seen so many clients get really eager in this process and over edit to the point that they have little to no options left. And so I think it's really smart to take your time. Don't rush this process. Don't give up on things too easily. I've had some women in the collective recently who will kind of give themselves a little Runway of time to experiment with the pieces that are question marks for them to see what they might be able to pair up in new ways, what they might be able to alter or adjust or try in some kind of new way before they decide it is definitively not working or not going to be a permanent part of their wardrobe moving forward. So give yourself that time and space. You don't have to do this in one weekend or one sitting. You don't have to do it in one season. Just start thinking a little bit differently about what you have and make some of those decisions about what's getting in the way. The bottom line is don't settle either. I want you to take some time doing this process, but I don't want you to keep making excuses for having things with the tag still on that you don't actually love anymore, that aren't moving the needle for you when you go to get dressed. I know there can be a lot of guilt around getting rid of things. I will link up an episode that I think will support you in a big way with that if this is a key pain point for you. But the first aspect of this step is auditing and getting reacquainted with what you have. You might have forgotten about a lot of pieces that are hiding in your closet as well. So once you do that, the second aspect of this step is figuring out what's missing. Because even if you feel like you have more clothes than you could wear in this lifetime, you are likely missing some important things. I see this a lot with my clients, even my beloved Rebecca Bloomwood types that feel like a shopaholic and they couldn't possibly need one more thing in their wardrobe. But you might have option after option for the weekend and then nothing that you love wearing for work. Or you might have all the basics covered, but nothing that makes you feel excited to get dressed in your everyday life. It might not even be that broad. You could genuinely just be ignoring your socks, like Katie said in our interview conversation last week. The point is that you might truly be missing things that will bring your outfits and your wardrobe together more easily. I just don't think you can efficiently pinpoint them until you first know what you like. And secondly, you know what you have. So figuring out those few or many gaps will help you start to curate your closet with intention. Think about it like a boutique that you get to look at every day. When you go to get dressed, you get to shop your own pieces. And so we don't want more impulse buys for a quick fix. This is about getting to the deeper issues and coming up with a strategy to resolve them for good, or at least for the season that you're in. Step three is to shop and dress like your own personal stylist. And I know that might sound like a loaded statement. How can you do that without proper training or experience? Or without feeling 100% confident about what goes with what and all the different ways you can put your pieces together. I realize if it were that easy, you'd probably already be doing it. And so you might think I'm going to say join my program. And of course you can. That is definitely one option that's available for you. But either way, it comes back to exactly what I said at the top of this episode, which is personalization. Please hear me, friend. I beg you to stop buying the exact outfit that you saw on that adorable influencer last week and to stop letting the saleswoman at your local boutique talk you into things that you are not 100% sure about. Stop listening to all the rules you've been told or telling yourself to follow, even if I'm the one that said it or planted that seed in your mind. Maybe it's I can't wear this anymore at this age or in this season of my life or that thing that you used to love doesn't work for you anymore. Or you have to wear this exact set color palette that someone handed you without even asking what your favorite colors are to wear. No matter what you do next, please start trusting your own style intuition. I have an entire episode on this as well, which I will also link in the show notes for you. But the fact of the matter is, no one knows your life like you do. No one knows what fits within your family's budget like you do, or what makes you feel good as you're going about your day or as you catch yourself in the mirror like you do. So please don't sell yourself short. You have great taste and I know that you can figure this out. It is truly a muscle like anything else that you just might need to exercise a little bit more often. And we can admit that you're probably going to put together some outfits that are not celebrity stylist level at first. That's okay. I want you to try it anyway. I want you to get in your closet and play dress up. Take photos of your outfits and look at them objectively, not critically objectively. Make adjustments as you need to try things on that you haven't worn together before. Surprise yourself, laugh and have fun. This is fashion. We don't have to take it too seriously. It is a process to get there, but it's definitely worth all of the effort. You are going to learn a lot about not only your personal style, but yourself. My clients tell me this all the time. They get reconnected with themselves in a way that they never saw coming. They learn to appreciate their bodies and the things that they love. And they realize how important it is to tune out influencers and ads and all of the noise and start leaning into what makes them excited to get dressed. So this might be a really bad business decision for me, but I truly do want you to become your own best stylist. I love doing this work, but I really love when my clients feel empowered to do it themselves. I don't want to catch all of the fish for you. I would rather teach you how to fish for yourself. And I'm sorry, because I understand that these steps are big and they're not simple, but they are doable. And they will solve the style challenges that you're experiencing right now with a permanent solution, not a band aid. And I promise this was not meant to be one big long sales pitch. But as I said earlier, the doors are open to her style collective right now. And I'm not going to pretend that I wouldn't love to personally walk you through this process. I absolutely would. I would be so honored and delighted to come alongside you to shorten the learning curve, to answer every single question that you have along the way. We have so much fun going through these steps together, and I know with 100% confidence that we can get you to your goals and get you there quickly in a way that is personalized for what you need. But I also want you to take these steps without me too. I am not letting you off the hook. Even if this program isn't the right fit for you right now, after this episode, you know what to do. I just laid out the steps for you. So if you want to start with ChatGPT, have at it. Like I said before, no judgment. I know it's very helpful for a lot of things. If you want to do your own research and take this process and run, by all means, please do. I really genuinely want you to get into action today. Personalize it as best you can. Take the extra steps to question things and make sure that what you're doing makes sense for you. So don't default the work to someone else, but start tackling the randomness of your wardrobe today, whatever that path looks like for you. I think life is too short to be frustrated with the unavoidable everyday act of getting dressed. This gets to be joyful and easier and be even some small way of celebrating and showing the world who you are and what matters to you. We can communicate so much through the way we show up in the clothes that we wear. I have hundreds of tips and solutions for you right here on this podcast. So if you want to dive a little deeper here, first go ahead and search the podcast for whatever's going on with you and your wardrobe right now. Or you can go back and listen to every episode if you'd like and make sure that you please implement what you learn. And of course, if it makes sense for you, you can absolutely jump into our May cohort of Her Style Collective where I will guide you through these exact steps. If you'd like my support with this, and I mean that, I pour everything into this program and the women who choose to work with me. You are not just a number here. In fact, we are closing the do to the program once the space is filled, because it's becoming more and more important to me that we have a manageable group, that you have the most phenomenal high touch experience inside this community. And like I said, I am serious about doubling down on the human connection and the personalized coaching that's provided inside her style collective. So if that is something that you're craving, if you want hands on support throughout this process, then let's do this. You can join us right now@herstylellc.com collective. If this isn't your season for that, I just want you to keep moving forward in the way that makes sense for you. But follow these steps. They will work for you. The order of them matters and I know that you can do this. Thank you so much for joining me for today's episode. I will talk to you again soon. Thank you for listening to today's episode. If you want to stop copying everyone else's style and start dialing in your own style swoon worthy signature look, head over to take my free 5 minute personal style quiz which you can find at the link in the show notes. If you've enjoyed our time together, please be sure to rate, review and subscribe to her style podcast so you never miss an episode. Finally, I invite you to make this a two way conversation and send me a DM over on Instagram eatherrigstyle to let me know how I can best support you on your style journey. I'm always here for you in style and service. Until next time.