Tonya Lester, LCSW, is the author of Push Back: Live, Love, and Work with Others Without Losing Yourself and a Brooklyn-based psychotherapist and writer known for her work with relationships and communication. Her essay “Couples Therapist, Heal Thyself” was published in the Modern Love column in The New York Times, and she has been writing the popular Staying Sane Inside Insanity blog for Psychology Today since 2020. She has been featured as an expert in The Guardian, Newsweek, Well+Good, HuffPo, Fatherly, and the Bumble site The Buzz. Here she and Dawson cover:

Conflict aversion
Assertiveness
Jealousy
Question: “Where do I have resentment and the other person would be surprised?”
Value of a script
Reciprocity, reliability, and communication
Should partners do therapy together or separately?
We don’t need to process absolutely everything, we can let some things go
Core vulnerabilities: incompetence, unloveable, unworthy
Noticing where you overreact
A “dread list” of things
If your emotions are getting above a 5, take a break
Speaking for your feelings not from your feelings
Reframe conflict from what divides us to what brings us closer

For more information about Tonya and her work: https://www.tonyalester.com/ Find host Dr. Dawson Church at: http://dawsongift.com/ To purchase Dawson's latest book, Spiritual Intelligence: https://www.amazon.com/Spiritual-Intelligence-Activating-Circuits-Awakened/dp/160415294X/ #mindtomatter #blissbrain #spiritualintelligence #eft #meditation #highenergyhealth #sq #relationships #communication

Uncomfortable Conversations: Tonya Lester and Dawson Church in Conversation