10-03-25 - New Update On Tumor Listener Gary His Wife Who Flew To See Him In Hospital - BO

Summary

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Podcast Summary: Holmberg's Morning Sickness – "New Update On Tumor Listener Gary, His Wife Who Flew To See Him In Hospital"

Date: October 3, 2025
Host: John Holmberg with Brady Bogen, Bret Vesely, and Dick Toledo | 98KUPD

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Overview

This episode revisits the ongoing, sensational saga of Gary—an HMS listener battling aggressive brain cancer (glioblastoma) whose life has become a tabloid-worthy drama. John Holmberg and the crew deliver dark, comic commentary and personal takes as they update listeners on Gary’s deteriorating health, his scandalous marriage, and the latest blow: Gary’s estranged wife bringing her lover (the neighbor) to visit him in the hospital. The conversation is equal parts brutally candid, comedic, and sympathetic, with the hosts unpacking betrayal, human audacity, and family dysfunction against the bleak backdrop of terminal illness.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Recap of Gary’s Ordeal

• [00:08–02:58]
  • Gary, a long-time listener, was diagnosed with a highly aggressive brain tumor.
  • Inspired by stories shared about another listener with ALS, Gary reached out after discovering his wife’s affair—explicitly, he discovered images of his wife with the neighbor.
  • Gary suffered a fugue state, wandered out of his home, and was taken to the hospital by the same neighbor having an affair with Gary’s wife.
  • “[Gary] found a picture of [his wife] bobbing on, inhaling a foot, taking it down.” – John Holmberg [02:18]
  • The neighbor had been using signals to let Gary’s wife know when the coast was clear for their meetings.

2. Hospital Confrontation—The Latest Insult

• [03:01–04:25]
  • Gary’s wife’s visit to see him in Kansas City hospital was not a reconciliation—it was to get documents signed and say goodbye.
  • She brought the neighbor/lover along, escalating family tensions. Gary’s brother, infuriated, physically confronted her and ended up in jail.
  • “She didn’t wait long. She needed some papers signed… and she thought this would be a good way to go to Gary and say goodbye.” – John Holmberg [03:05]
  • “They took the week to go—yeah, we’ll go see your dying husband and we’ll grab some barbecue. Kansas City’s got some great bbq.” – John Holmberg [04:25]

3. Hosts’ Outrage & Dark Humor

• [04:25–08:26]
  • Crew expresses disbelief and outrage at the wife and neighbor’s nerve: “How do you do that to him and bring him to the hospital?” – Holmberg [04:25]
  • Theories floated on her motives: life insurance schemes, spite due to the radio attention.
  • Repeated, biting jokes about the neighbor’s audacity and insensitivity.
  • “That’s a new level of C-word right there. She must be one amazing BJ, because right now, Gary’s seen pictures of it.” – Holmberg [12:50]

4. Speculation and Audience Reactions

• [09:12–10:46]
  • Debate over whether Gary could in any way “deserve” this treatment. The consensus: no—cancer trumps all.
  • Holmberg highlights the cruel irony, “Even still, I can’t imagine what you’ve done in life to deserve that.” [09:12]
  • Listeners write in suggesting the story could be a movie; the crew agrees and riffs on possible titles and scenarios.
  • The segment features dark, hypothetical revenge plots (e.g., Gary trying to infect his wife with a terminal illness in retaliation).

5. Sex, Loyalty, and Public Humiliation

• [10:46–13:39]
  • Hosts mine the story for dark comedy about sexual needs, boundaries, and loyalty.
  • Suggests she could have kept her affair discreet: “You got sexual needs, the neighbor’s there—keep that on the DL. Don’t go all public.” – Holmberg [09:12]
  • The “Eskimo twins”/“igloo brothers” riff – on men sleeping with the same woman.
  • Listeners suggest, jokingly, infecting her with a contagious illness in revenge.

6. Cultural Commentary & Satire

• [15:36–16:02]
  • Examination of attractiveness and betrayal stereotypes (“The safe bet is ugly all the time…90% of us are hideous.” – Holmberg [16:06])
  • Pokes fun at society’s fixation on lurid tales and grotesque real-life melodramas.
  • “Bone AIDS into that wife of his. That would be great…You think ChatGPT is going to do that?” – Holmberg [17:29]

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• “She puts the whore in horrible.” – John Holmberg [07:33]
• “That’s a new level of C-word right there. She must be one amazing BJ, because right now, Gary’s seen pictures of it.” – John Holmberg [12:50]
• “Even still, I can’t imagine what you’ve done in life to deserve that.” – John Holmberg [09:12]
• “They took the week to go—yeah, we’ll go see your dying husband and we’ll grab some barbecue…maybe catch a Chiefs game or Royals on the way out.” – John Holmberg [04:25]
• “You want to embarrass me, Gary? She’s that bitter and awful that she can’t understand that her actions needed to be. Her name’s not out there.” – John Holmberg [07:15]
• “We got a lot in common. We’re igloo brothers, you know, Eskimo twins.” – John Holmberg, characterizing the neighbor [15:09]
• “Keep that on the DL. Don’t go all public with that nonsense. And try to stay out of the driveway of the home of your whore.” – John Holmberg [09:12]
• “That’s only here. You’re only getting that here. You think ChatGPT is going to do that?” – John Holmberg [17:29]

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Important Timestamps

• Recap of Gary’s bad luck and betrayal – [00:08–02:58]
• Hospital confrontation: wife and lover visit – [03:01–04:25]
• Hosts’ dark humor and speculation on motives – [04:25–08:26]
• Debate over “deserving” harm, listener feedback – [09:12–10:46]
• Crew riffs on revenge, “bone AIDS”, and societal commentary – [15:36–17:29]

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Tone & Takeaways

• Unapologetically irreverent: The crew uses black humor and shock-value riffs to cope with the bleakness of Gary’s reality.
• Empathetic at the core: Despite the jokes, there’s a thread of genuine outrage and sympathy for Gary, the terminally ill betrayed husband.
• Social satire: The saga is treated both as a lesson in human depravity and an absurd, almost cinematic cautionary tale.
• Interactive: Listener emails and wild suggestions are peppered throughout, showing the community’s engagement and dark sense of humor.

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Listeners leave with a mix of disbelief, schadenfreude, and—if they’re like the hosts—a sense that sometimes, reality is stranger and crueler than any soap opera.

Transcript

[John Holmberg]

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It's John Holmberg here from the morning sickness for lifechangerloan.com a guy I know is going through a divorce, which stinks for him. He's trying to figure out how much it's going to take to pay off the future ex wife. You got bills you want to consolidate, you got some stuff you want to take care of, go ahead and do it. Or if you're just really good with money and you want to get out of that mortgage as fast as possible, Life Changer Loan is the way to do it. Average Customer saves about 250,000 in interest. House has paid off in about five years. Life changer Loan. It's not magic, it's just math. Lifechangerloan.com do not listen to this while driving or when full alertness is needed. The rest of homework's morning sickness. This is the Big Red Radio. Now a Gary update. Gary the listener, for those of you who don't remember, emailed us right after Matt, als. Matt. We met him at the Corey Feldman Limp Bizkit show and als. Matt was diagnosed with a very aggressive form of Lou Gehrigs and was standing behind us and has already pretty much had his power of speech diminished fairly rapidly and it was tough to understand him. So he's got that. He's a little bit physically affected that you could see, but still on his feet, smiling, having fun. Funny. His friend was there with him and found out that day that he was getting divorced because his wife was banging someone she worked with at the Texas Girl. That's what, that's what he told us. So how did he find out? Check the phone, something like that. Something was going on and find out that she was, she was on the dirty with somebody from her work while her husband had been diagnosed with the als. And Matt is a very funny guy, emails me every once in a while and it's very funny and we're rooting for him hopefully to pull out of this, but it's, you know, it's a long road. ALS is ugly. So then Gary, another listener, emails us after the Matt stories we told and said I had suspicion he got glastoblastoma or whatever that tumor in your brain is, and it was super aggressive form of cancer. He's in the midst of treatments, he hadn't had it very long. Checks his wife, checks her phone and sees a picture. If I remember Right. Of a dude's wiener in her mouth. Right.

[Co-host 1]

Sexting.

[John Holmberg]

First she had sexting with three picture, but then he found a picture of.

[Co-host 1]

Her.

[John Holmberg]

Bobbing on, inhaling a foot, taking it down. So. And then he had a little fugue state, if I recall, also and wandered out of the house one day where his neighbor happened to be standing conveniently in the driveway and said, gary, is everything all right? And Gary wasn't coherent and the neighbor took him to the hospital. This was just before he found out everything. Took him to the hospital and dropped Gary off at the hospital. And then a few days later, after the phone thing happened, Gary found out that the neighbor was standing in the front yard to signal that his wife wasn't home. And when Gary's wife was pulling in, she was gonna go to the neighbor's house. And that turned out to be whose wiener was in her mouth in the photograph. In the Ansel Adams moment of the.

[Co-host 1]

Day, using the on deck circle, ready to go.

[John Holmberg]

Yeah. When Andy Leibowitz took the sh of her swallowing that tube, that's what that turned out to be the neighbor. So he found that out. The neighbor even came over. If I now it's all coming back to me. The neighbor came out and knocked on the door and said, I need to apologize to you. And Gary, his tumor started to throb and he was going to kill him. So Gary, update, because we were worried about this, hadn't heard from Gary. I believe the guy's name is Quinn, who emails me, says update on Gary. Gary's whore wife flew to. Oh, yeah. And he moved to Kansas City because he's swish. That's right. And that was right after I came back from Kansas City and I said, oh, I'd rather have cancer than go to Kansas City. So Gary's got two strikes now. So Gary's whore wife flew to Kansas City to see him at the hospital. And guess who she brought? The neighbor. They're now in a full fledged relationship. She didn't wait long. She needed some papers signed and notarized, and she thought this would be a good way to go to Gary and say goodbye. Well, Gary's brother did not like this and got into a fight with her in the hospital. It got physical and now Gary's brother is in jail. He was arrested, he's out. But it's gotten insane. By the way, Gary is not doing great, but actually going home next week after an incredibly aggressive treatment. We'll see where it goes. Keeping you uninformed. Q.

How about she brought the Stunt d with her.

[Co-host 1]

I mean, just leave it out in the waiting room.

[John Holmberg]

You know what that means. They took the week to go. Yeah, we'll go see your dying husband and we'll grab some barbecue here. Kansas City's got some great bbq. Got a couple restaurants. Maybe catch a Chiefs game or Royals on the way out. How do you do that to him and bring him to the hospital?

[Co-host 1]

What kind of bring him to the hospital. We'll do a little victory lap. This dude sign the papers.

[John Holmberg]

This dude, the neighbor. I understand the lady might be.

[Co-host 1]

I'm not stepping in there.

[Co-host 2]

I'm not going.

[John Holmberg]

I'm not going to the hospital, visit Gary. Even though you were neighbors and you're the one who said, hey, if it wasn't for me, you wouldn't have found out you got the cancer. I'm the one who took you to the hospital. I don't know why he's Adam Ray, but all of a sudden, hey, I don't know.

[Co-host 1]

That would be cool.

[John Holmberg]

Hey, bro, I thought it'd be great. Take you to the hospital, you know, I thought I was doing a solid. Hey, f you, man. I thought I was your friend. I mean, come on. I don't. I don't understand the balls on some people, but there you go. It's good to hear that Gary's going home after some treatment she took. Has she not seen Million Dollar Baby? That horrible scene where the mom made her sign with the mouth? You don't take the people that make you miserable to see the dying guy. She's trying to kill him faster. My guess is there's an insurance policy that she gets paid on and she's the benefactor of this divorce or otherwise. And she's just trying to speed up the process because Gary's filed for divorce and stuff. So Gary, Gary's brother immediately get on that insurance and switch out who wins the life insurance.

[Co-host 1]

Or she's just paranoid that, you know, she's going up there by herself. He's like, oh, can't we reconcile and try to talk it in? But I'll bring him in just to ice that.

[John Holmberg]

Evidently not reconciling. And the brother, I don't know if the brother beat up the dude or her. That's a full fledged rage. Think of that. You got a family member in the hospital with a tumor that's eating his brain. The wife who's done nothing to help out as far as, like, care or. What she's done is just. She thought that blowing the neighbors was the cure for cancer at home. Evidently, that was her method of operation. If I can blow a hundred guys, maybe his brain tumor will go away. She confused what giving head means. I was trying to give head, so yours got better. Take that guy with. How do you climb on that plane? I only know already. It's a direct flight with Southwest to Kansas City, and that's already tough enough.

[Co-host 2]

How do you do?

[Co-host 1]

I'm gonna stay back here at the hotel. You go get those papers signed.

[John Holmberg]

Was he going as bodyguard in case.

[Co-host 1]

The brother busted saying he got a.

[John Holmberg]

Guy in a hospital bed. How much is he gonna lose it.

Like the brother, maybe.

[Co-host 1]

Were they going in cop or something?

[John Holmberg]

Bring the security in with you, but you don't bring stunt D with you.

Ah, this guy says the spite of Gary's wife, she did this because everything that's happened has been on the radio. There may be truth to that. She's like, you want to embarrass me, Gary? She's that bitter and awful that she can't understand that her actions needed to be. Her name's not out there. But again, if you know Gary, the. You know, the brain tumor guy who had to move to Kansas City, that's his wife, and she's a.

[Co-host 1]

Wait. I know Gary that's in a bad.

[John Holmberg]

Situation and his wife. Yeah. Hey, that's the Gary I know. Rochelle says, can we get the rights to Gary's story? This is going to make a great movie. My heart goes out to him and his wife. All the words you're using for her accurate. They need to invent a new word for whore. Whores are decent sometimes. Like Harry's wife. Sometimes whores are fun. This whore's horrible. Like whore without a W. Like horrible. She puts the whore in horrible. And the dude. I'll go. I'll keep an eye on that brother, make sure he doesn't get too out of line while you make your dying husband sign some documents and say goodbye to him and remind him of all the things in his life that weren't true or right. Right. Right before he passes. I'll be in the. I'll be in the lobby waiting.

[Co-host 1]

Rolls in in the tank top, hats on the shoulder.

[John Holmberg]

Probably big Johnson tank top from way back.

Oh, Jesus.

He's got a holding a yellow jacket that the hospital says, sir, you can't have that here. Yeah, well, it's almost gone, so you'll see. Yeah, back off. Or if somebody's going to the hospital. Yeah, it's not me. All right. See what I did there? The guy with the yellow jacket and the big Johnson shirt's gotta go. I'm running security for my. My girlfriend. Your girlfriend here? The wife of the guy who's dying of the brain tumor. That's her sweet little ass on her, huh? A matter of time. Fush is all mine. Just gotta get one thing out of the way. What a group of assholes. Except Gary. Or maybe, though I don't want to speak ill of the dying. But what if Gary deserves this? We don't know Gary very well exactly. What if he's the worst person ever?

[Co-host 1]

That there are three, you know, relationships they had prior or whatever.

[John Holmberg]

Well, so what? I mean, still, the cancer trumps all the things you've done wrong when you get it.

[Co-host 1]

When you get the ultimate, ultimate payback.

[John Holmberg]

It's John Holmberg here from the morning sickness for lifechangerloan.com I had a friend text me the other day, and he was skeptical. He was like, there's got to be a catch, man. Math is absolute. It can't lie. So we went to the computer, put his info in the little [e-mail] and found out that his loan, which he owes $523,000 over the next 27 years on, could be paid off in eight years, and he will save 389,000 in interest. That's insane. You should be skeptical. Ask questions. Then you'll see for yourself. It's not magic. It's just math. Lifechangelone.com Holmberg's morning sickness. You get a brain tumor, and the wife's like Godfrey and like, she's long gone at that point. She's not blowing. Yeah, but maybe Gary was a horrible. I don't know. But even still, I can't imagine what you've done in life to deserve that. I understand. You know, your husband's head's throbbing, and you've got sexual needs, and the neighbor's there. Keep that on the DL. Don't go all public with that nonsense. And try to stay out of the driveway of the home of your whore. Is that a. That's reasonable, right? Like, just don't go wandering out and flagging her down like you're one of those guys at the airport bringing in one of the planes to the. The Jetway. Wait at home.

[Co-host 2]

You know, there's texting.

[John Holmberg]

Can't text Gary. He'll find out. What's Gary gonna do about it? You're all right. Just, you know what? Stay in your house. I had to get in the driveway and let her know that nobody's Home at my place. Don't go home yet. You can park in my garage, blow me, and then go home to your dying husband. That's pretty cool. I can't. I'm getting hard thinking about it.

[Co-host 2]

I can't take you to the hospital.

[Co-host 1]

I gotta do a shift.

[Co-host 2]

I got. I gotta stay late.

[John Holmberg]

She's not the one at Texas Girl. Oh, yeah. It's a different lady. You're confusing them. Poor Gary.

I can't believe the guy decided to go, though, too. I mean, the nuts on that guy, the neighbor.

[Co-host 1]

I mean, what the hell?

[John Holmberg]

This is a good. This is a good solution right here. A final solution, if you will. You know what she needs to keep her affair alive? A beeper. We should get her. We should get her one of crazy Benji's beepers. And. And then when she gets that message that says six, nine question, Gary outlives her. Would have lost the fanduel on that one.

[Co-host 1]

Or it's an update on Gary.

[John Holmberg]

No.

[Co-host 1]

How he's doing it is over.

[John Holmberg]

Hey, Gary didn't make.

[Co-host 2]

I didn't get to finish. Is he alive?

[John Holmberg]

No, you're not.

[Co-host 1]

So we're good.

[John Holmberg]

Not saying she should be killed. I'm saying that some horrible fate should. Oh. But if it happened, nobody's gonna be crying. That's a tough way to go out.

[Co-host 1]

But the nuts on both of them.

[John Holmberg]

The neighbor and her.

The neighbor especially. She has to see him, right? For. Probably for paperwork or some. Fine. I'm sure you could probably do that.

Remotely, do that FedEx or something.

You could probably. But there might. Or whatever might be something that the both of you have to be there for. And she went to.

[Co-host 1]

Maybe the reason why it worked so well is he was a notary.

[John Holmberg]

Oh, that could be. Save some money on a notary. Yeah.

Gary could do it for you guys.

[Co-host 2]

All right, Gary, put the stamp in your mouth, and I'll press against your head.

[John Holmberg]

Oh, my head.

[Co-host 2]

Sorry, Gary. I forgot about how much your head hurt.

[John Holmberg]

That's a new level of C word right there. She must be one amazing BJ, because right now, Gary's seen pictures of it. So that's true. Maybe. Maybe that again. Maybe that's why Gary's head's exploding. Maybe she gives that maybe and some sort of cruel twist of humanity and fate combining together. It's the greatest head you'll ever have. But unfortunately, you get tumors from it. Is it worth it? We can only hope. We need to. Yeah, we need to fly Gary back here. Can we start a GoFundMe page for Gary's? Family and all the bail they're gonna need. How about we just send money to Brett and have one of his people provide protection? That ain't a bad idea. Have a couple bodyguards standing outside of Gary's door.

What's happened?

Meanwhile, when the crazy bitch shows up.

[Co-host 2]

I need him to sign some papers. I would like to say goodbye to my husband, if you don't mind.

[John Holmberg]

Who's this with you?

[Co-host 2]

This is my concubine. This is the man I keep along with me. He's. He's my lover.

[John Holmberg]

You want to bring your lover and say goodbye to Gary?

[Co-host 2]

Well, we were neighbors. He was close. We had barbecues.

[John Holmberg]

Okay.

[Co-host 2]

We had a lot of meat on spits, if you know what I'm saying.

[John Holmberg]

Yeah, yeah, they said, John, are these losers douchebag of the year award people? I mean, think about it. How low can you. You know what? Maybe if we had a name, we could put her out there. I don't really have a name.

Well, they do live here, so.

Well, somebody that knows them might be able to fire over. I do think they walk amongst us. And the neighbor. I would like the neighbor's name. He needs to be kind of out there at a certain point if you're still getting hard because the ladies escaping. He's asleep from all the medicine. It's time for a blowey. All right, I'm on his rock. Is he dying? Oh, so dying.

[Co-host 2]

It's disgusting. I had to clean out one.

[Co-host 1]

I'm just going over there.

[John Holmberg]

You can't help who's you love. Just gotta wait for his head to finally soup up and then I can have her as my own standing in the driveway waving her down. Gary comes out. What's going on, Gary? Shouldn't you be in some sort of bed or tied to an iv? I gotta get this some bitch to the hospital.

[Co-host 1]

Who knows in his mind he feels he saved his life.

[John Holmberg]

I'm a goddamn hero. I'm a hero. Your wife treats me like a kebab. I mean, she. It's pretty great, Gary. We got a lot in common. We're igloo brothers, you know, Eskimo twins. Yeah, you just keep blabbing along. Gary, you remind me of your wife. You sound just like her. When I'm with her, the whole family sounds like that with me.

I want to see a picture of Gary's wife. I want to see what this.

Because if she's really hot, you're like, well, what are you going to do? I don't think she is. No, we're assuming that Brady started them? No, but he wouldn't say it out loud. You don't think she's hot because you think this is hillbilly. But classy people do, you know, look great looking. Rich people do the same thing.

[Co-host 1]

I know. Yeah, there's exceptions.

[John Holmberg]

Yeah, but you don't think she's hot at all.

[Co-host 1]

That's where my fanduel bat would.

[John Holmberg]

It's again, you're taking Luca or DeAndre. You're taking DeAndre. I mean that's.

I've seen society. The safe bet is ugly.

[Co-host 1]

Yeah.

[John Holmberg]

All the time. And anything, it's like, have you seen this girl? It's like 90 of society is ugly. I'm in there, so I'm not. I'm not calling anybody ugly. I'm with you. You 10% decent looking, 4% really good looking and that's high numbers. I'm given a lot of benefit of the doubt to give 10% of the population the thumbs up. You're pretty status. You're not. You're just tolerable. 90% of us are hideous. Visually ugly. This one says. John, I've got a question for you. How did Gary meet her? Maybe she was married and blowing Gary. That's a trend for her. That's true. There could be some of that. We don't know their background. What if this tumor is causing Gary to imagine he had a wife and family? Oh, this could all be Gary's mirage.

[Co-host 1]

Now that's a movie.

[John Holmberg]

Except for his brother beat up the imaginary wife and family. Unless Gary did that. But Gary's not the one emailing me somebody Gary knows it. Gary's by the way, Gary's friend. If I recall correctly, the first email he did give me her name. But I'm not going to go back and look for that.

Steven says Gary should go out, contract a get. Get aids and ask his wife for one last shag beforehand.

Hey, what's he got to lose? Exactly. He's already. Yeah, ask the doctor to give him some full blown.

[Co-host 1]

Man, I've been, I've been going at it for a month. I still can't come up.

[John Holmberg]

Well, he's got to get something worse than that. He's got to get like mpox on his mouth just in case Gary's dick doesn't work anymore. And then, and then like. And have his brother go, he wants to perform oral on you one last time, if you wouldn't mind. You are his wife. And then have him do that with the mpox in his mouth and give her like a terrible case of it. Great idea. Get a terminal contagious illness and then go try to reconcile with your wife. Gary. Can we give Gary some cocaine, methamphetamine, shots of adrenaline. Just give him one 24 hour period where he feels gangbusters and go bone AIDS into that wife of his. That would be great. These listeners and their ideas. You know what phrase you've never heard on the Beth show? Bone AIDS into his wife. That's only here. You're only getting that here. You think ChatGPT is going to do that? What would you rather have your terminal wife end up? Would you rather bone AIDS into her or cancer waffles or pancakes? Our consultant said that's a good idea. Nope. Bone and AIDS into folks. That's what the, that's what the gen pop wants to hear. Proven by our number one rating, Arizona's most powerful rock radio station. He said fully erect 98kt.