11-17-25 - WWBD - Her Husband Has Been Cheating w/A Lesbian That Looks Like A Man - His Ex Has Been Texting Him About How Bad Her Life Has Gone Since They Broke Up

Summary

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Holmberg's Morning Sickness – “WWBD: Cheating Husband, Lesbian Lover & Exes with Regrets”

Date: November 17, 2025
Hosts: John Holmberg (Brady), Brett Vesely, Emily, Dick Toledo

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Main Theme

This episode of "Holmberg’s Morning Sickness" centers on the popular weekly segment “What Would Brady Do?” (WWBD), where Brady and the crew field wild and sometimes uncomfortable questions from listeners about personal issues—from cheating spouses to problematic exes and awkward family interventions. With their trademark irreverent humor and banter, the crew debates morality, practical advice, and psychological motivations behind each dilemma.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Cheating Husband with a “Masculine” Lesbian Mistress

Timestamps: 01:45–04:11

• Listener dilemma: A woman finds out her husband of 7 years has been cheating for 6 years—with a lesbian who looks like a short man. She wonders: “Does this mean I was married to a gay?”
• Crew’s Take:
  • Emily immediately answers: “No.” (02:02)
  • Brady doubles down: “It just means he’s into little dudes.” (02:05)
  • Debate on attraction and sexual orientation: Emily points out that it was still a woman, regardless of appearance (02:12). Brady jokes about what this “little fella” might be willing to do sexually that the wife wasn’t (02:24).
  • The “outsourcing” bit: Brady humorously suggests, “He outsourced the jobs you don’t want to do. She’s like a Mexican—she’s doing the jobs you won’t do anymore. Or at all.” (03:28)
  • Emily muses: “The marriage is great, it’s been fantastic,” but maybe the wife is just bitter because the side piece is “ugly” (03:39).
  • Short haircut jokes: They rib on the stereotype of the “breakup haircut” following divorce (04:05).

Notable Quote:

“He outsourced the jobs you don’t want to do. She’s like a Mexican—she’s doing the jobs you won’t do anymore.” —Brady (03:28)

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2. Should You Buy a $7,500 Pizza Oven?

Timestamps: 04:11–05:13

• Listener dilemma: A man wants advice on buying a pricey backyard pizza oven.
• Crew’s Consensus:
  • “You don’t use them as much as you think you do.” – Emily (04:32)
  • “You don’t use them at all.” – Brady (04:34)
  • They discuss the novelty wearing off, the hassle of cleaning, and how it’s only good for an occasional pizza night.
  • Brett calls the cleanup “a pain in the ass” (05:06).
  • Emily admits it could add resale value, but its real-life usage is low.

Tone: Dismissive, with lots of banter about “gay” pizza parties and the impracticality of the purchase.

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3. Ex-Girlfriend Keeps Sending Dramatic Messages

Timestamps: 05:13–08:34

• Listener dilemma: A man’s ex from five years ago still emails and writes letters about how terrible her life is since they broke up. He secretly enjoys it. His current girlfriend is frustrated and wants him to get a restraining order.
• Advice from the Team:
  • Emily: Not a threat now, but keep aware of girlfriend’s concerns (05:45).
  • Brady: “Just text back, ‘Good.’” (06:43)
  • The group hams up escalating responses, suggesting he should gloat in reply and make it clear he’s happy she’s miserable. “That means I won the breakup!” – Brady (06:48)
  • They debate if you should engage at all or escalate to provoke a more decisive end.
  • The humor gets raunchy—Brady riffs about using the ex’s letters as “cleanup material” with his new girlfriend (08:13), pushing the joke to absurdity.

Memorable Quotes:

“Just text back, ‘Good.’” —Brett (06:43)

“My girlfriend and I lay your letters down and make love on them. I’d send her a picture of my wang, like in the hand of another just going, ‘We’re talking about you, and I’m hard as a rock.’” —Brady (08:07)

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4. Thanksgiving Family Intervention for Alcoholic Brother

Timestamps: 08:34–12:34

• Listener dilemma: The family wants to stage an intervention for a brother’s alcoholism during Thanksgiving—though the writer thinks this will ruin the holiday.
• Group Discussion:
  • Emily points out you could just not attend, but if you care, you participate (10:30).
  • Brady sees interventions as inevitable when holidays have been repeatedly ruined (11:04).
  • They riff on the logistics: do it early, so “you don’t miss the good games” (11:28), specifically mentioning the surprising relevance of the Detroit Lions.
  • The crew jokes about just giving the brother a heads-up so he’ll skip Thanksgiving: “Hey, by the way, Thanksgiving’s an intervention and he won’t show up.” —Brady (12:01)
  • The consensus is that if it’s really necessary—do it, but everyone acknowledges it sucks and will likely overshadow the holiday.

Notable Quotes:

“Interventions come because family functions have been ruined so often... We can’t even face the holidays right now.” —Brady (11:04)

“Just give your brother a heads up—‘Thanksgiving’s an intervention,’ and he won’t show up.” —Brady (12:01)

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Notable Quotes & Moments

• On the cheating husband:
  “Does this mean I was married to a gay?” “No. He just likes little dudes.” —Brady & Emily (02:03)

• On pizza ovens:
  “You don’t use them as much as you think you do.” —Emily (04:32)
  “It’s a pain in the ass.” —Brett (05:06)

• On exes and spite:
  “Just hit her hard and go, ‘You don’t know how much joy I get every time you tell me your life sucks without me.’” —Brady (07:07)

• Thanksgiving interventions:
  “Boozy’s wrecking it now. Now 13 people have to sit around and play boozy sad games because one dude can’t control himself.” —Brady (10:39)

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Timestamps for Key Segments

• 01:45: Cheating husband & lesbian lover dilemma
• 04:11: Backyard pizza oven debate
• 05:13: Ex-girlfriend’s dramatic letters and malicious responses
• 08:34: Thanksgiving intervention for an alcoholic brother

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Overall Tone

Unfiltered, irreverent, and quick-witted. The crew doesn’t shy away from crass jokes or edgy banter, using humor as a way to address awkward real-life scenarios. Even as they tackle genuine problems, the advice swings between practical, dismissive, and outrageously comedic.

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Summary

In this WWBD-centric episode, listeners bring wild scenarios—the cheating with a masculine-presenting lesbian, the lingering crazy ex, and the Thanksgiving-day intervention. The hosts roast each situation, balancing crude jokes with surprisingly straight advice on boundaries and self-respect. Whether they’re discussing infidelity, spurned lovers, or family drama, the crew offers a mix of empathy, sarcasm, and “just do you” wisdom, always staying true to their raw, no-holds-barred style.

Transcript

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[Byron]

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[Brady]

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[Brett Vesely]

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[Brady]

Great ones. Brady, let's get right to it as you solve the world's problems quickly because we're running behind. Says Dear Brady, married for seven years. Just found out my husband was cheating on me for six of them with a lesbian woman who looks like a short man. Does this mean I was married to a gay?

[Emily]

No.

[Brady]

No.

[Brett Vesely]

Well, that was quick.

[Brady]

It just means that he's into little dudes.

[Emily]

He's with a woman. Wasn't a dude.

[Brady]

Yeah. But I mean, you know. You know, we. So was that.

[Emily]

Yeah.

[Brady]

Lady we saw earlier was technically a woman.

[Emily]

That woman could be doing everything. Very adventuresome. That's my thought.

[Brady]

You think that this little fella.

[Emily]

Yeah.

[Brady]

Is because she's an ugly little man. That she is willing to do anything. You are so you. Emily, you need to step it up is what Brady's saying. The little lesbian man is giving up the back door.

[Emily]

Yeah, probably.

[Brady]

That might mean he's gay if he's pumping a little boy.

[Emily]

Girl could be leaning that way.

[Brady]

Back door.

[Brett Vesely]

Oh, man.

[Emily]

Get to work.

[Brady]

Don't get that butch haircut though.

[Emily]

Six years, you know.

[Brady]

Don't do that.

[Emily]

I don't think he's staying in that. That relationship.

[Brady]

Seven years for six out of the lesbian woman on the side.

[Emily]

You're pretty. Not pretty much. Not quitting that.

[Brady]

And you can also say he's been outsourcing this things. Doing things. Doing things to her that you didn't want to do. Yeah. He's thinking of you, the little lesbian. He think of what he's doing. He's closing his eyes and rag dolling that little weird lesbian boy.

[Emily]

Because things going right now.

[Brady]

Yeah. But like, if she's like, oh, I don't like BJ's and I don't like doing this, but I do like. And he's like, okay, that's fine. He's not going to subject you to that. So we let this weird lesbian boy do it.

[Brett Vesely]

You're welcome.

[Brady]

You're welcome. He outsourced the jobs you don't want to do. She's like a Mexican. She's doing the jobs you won't do anymore. Or at all.

[Emily]

And that's why I was asking like. Well, it is interesting because the marriage is great. It's been fantastic.

[Brady]

We're fine. He's happy. He's got that weird thing. And also you have to ask yourself, are you being kind of bitter about what he's doing on the side because it made you mad. So you look over and go, ew, she's ugly. Yeah. You just pick her up. I wonder how much that short hair doesn't mean he's gay, though. Your question, does it? Is he gay? No, of course not.

[Emily]

What's the term on the. The short haircut. The get, you know, the divorce. A cut.

[Brady]

Oh, yeah. You get that breakup hair. Yeah. You do the haircut when you break up. Dear Brady, I was wondering if a pizza oven is a good idea for my backyard remodel. I'm looking at one, and it's $7,500. The closer I get to the actual install, the more I wonder how much I'm going to use this. I'm going to leave it up to you, Brian. Pizza.

[Emily]

You don't use them as much as you think you do.

[Brady]

You don't use them at all.

[Emily]

Yeah, you'll use it the first couple of times. And you know, you have kids if you have kids, right?

[Brady]

Or you won't have kids because of a pizza. And let's clear that. That terrible pizza night. You can't get pregnant in a pizza oven. I mean, you can, but it takes two.

[Emily]

You have a fun pizza night, and if you don't have kids, you have. You invite some friends over. Let's make some pizzas. And it's about one.

[Brady]

God, that's gay.

[Emily]

Two times.

[Brady]

Let's make. They deliver pizzas. It's a mess is what it is. And then cleaning it up sucks.

[Brett Vesely]

Pain in the ass.

[Brady]

It's a pain in the ass. I say 7,500.

[Emily]

It's a good selling point. But you really don't use them as much as you think.

[Brady]

Yeah. Dear Brady, if I broke up with someone five years ago and she still texts me to yell at me every once in a while that everything in her life's gone wrong since we broke up, I've blocked her. She actually emails me and then writes letters to the house talking about how bad her life is now, deep down, I sort of actually like this. But my current girlfriend doesn't understand why I don't get a restraining order. I say it's because it makes it look like I care and actually don't. So I'm just going to leave it up to you. How would you handle this, Jared?

[Emily]

I don't see it as a threat now, but I would, you know, think about my girlfriend. Definitely keep that. Try to keep in tune with that saying. All right, you have to believe me on this. I mean, nothing's happening.

[Brady]

I don't know that. She thinks it's going to be a rekindling of love.

[Emily]

Yeah.

[Brady]

She's just like, why do you allow this? You can stop it, you know, with a restraining order or whatever, put her in jail.

[Emily]

Or if it starts getting to the point where, I mean, I. I think it would be okay writing the ex back. The ex girlfriend? The one I'm in a relationship right now?

[Brady]

Yeah. That's gonna drive her crazy.

[Emily]

Well, she's. If she's sounds like she's bananas already.

[Brady]

That'S what I'm saying. But at least contacting her is going to make it worse.

[Emily]

But I don't know if you can. I mean, by doing that, then you can. If she takes it. If it goes worse, then you get the restraining order.

[Brett Vesely]

So she's. She's pissed off at him because her life went to crap after him.

[Brady]

After they broke up. Yeah.

[Brett Vesely]

Just text back. Good.

[Brady]

Yeah. Yeah. That's another thing you should. Good. I'm so glad your life sucks. That's what I would do, too. I'm so happy that your life sucks without me. That means I won the breakup. You lose her, make her hate you, and then. Then if she does the thing next, which is coming at you, then you get the restraining order.

[Emily]

That's what I was saying.

[Brady]

Yeah.

[Emily]

Just writing the letter off.

[Brady]

Hit her hard. Don't write a letter back going, I'm so sorry for.

[Emily]

Blah, blah.

[Brady]

Just hit her hard and go, oh, you don't know how much joy I get every time you tell me your life sucks without me. Because I think maybe that would be like, well, now I can't write.

[Emily]

I think there's a pretty good chance at getting that reaction no matter what.

[Brady]

Yeah, but.

[Emily]

But I think what I was saying is, like, you get saying. Not saying, I'm sorry I did this to you. No, it's just saying sorry. I. Stop writing me.

[Brady]

I wouldn't do that. That's gonna. I would tell her, like, what I think. That's good.

[Brett Vesely]

Yeah.

[Brady]

You just hammer her. Well, keep writing me.

[Emily]

Guarantee. Yeah, by saying, I want more off.

[Brady]

Good. I want more. I'm not apologizing. I'm glad your life sucks. Bring it.

[Emily]

But wouldn't that be harder to get the restraining order if she produced a letter like that?

[Brady]

Well, no, no. I mean, just like, look, you're eggy her on. That's fine. I think she would probably be like, ooh, my letters make him happy, that I'm miserable. You're pathetic ass writing me letters. My girlfriend and I lay your letters down and make love on them. That's what I'd tell her. And I'd send her a picture of my wang, like in the hand of another just going, we're talking about you, and I'm hard as a rock.

[Brett Vesely]

I replaced the tube sock with your letter.

[Brady]

Yeah, I use your letters. I use your letters to wipe off my new girlfriend's mouth. Is that too far?

[Emily]

Maybe a little.

[Brady]

Here's one of your letters before. And here's one after. Hot Dannon. Just send her pictures of her letters covered in your man.

[Brett Vesely]

Oh.

[Brady]

These are great suggestions, Brad. I've missed you. Brady would never come up with the idea of on some girl's letters. Milk those things and send pictures back. Oh, that's glorious. Hey, I'm all out of letters. You want to write me another crazy, pathetic I'm loser letter? I got a. I got another batch I need to shoot on my new girlfriend and we got to towel it off somehow. Nothing better than using your tear soaked papers. I'm enjoying that. I hope somebody writes me a letter soon. Dear Brady, my family is evidently going to stage an intervention for my brother on Thanksgiving. I don't think it's appropriate to do and ruin everybody else's holiday. He does have a huge drinking problem. I suggested let's do it Friday. Can we enjoy the turkey in the games? The family thinks he's going to wreck Thanksgiving if they don't do it on Thanksgiving. I also think that not inviting him would have been an option. But they already did that. They're mad at me for not wanting to participate. Now it's a big problem. What would you do? The intervention.

[Emily]

What's the intervention person that's with you?

[Brady]

Don't they have a family? Like, there's got to be an intervention doctor showing up on your Thanksgiving. They should be closed. There shouldn't be interventions on Thanksgiving Wednesday or Friday.

[Emily]

I guess it's. I mean. I mean, I know the goal is to have close friends and family around you on the intervention.

[Brady]

But he's flying in and it's a good way to fool them.

[Emily]

Yeah.

[Brady]

To think that they're just going to a Thanksgiving party.

[Emily]

But I would. I'd give those people. I think I'd give my relatives or loans a heads up.

[Brady]

Oh, they all know that.

[Emily]

He clearly knows then if they want to make it happen that day, you would know. If no one's coming over Thanksgiving, you.

[Brady]

Don'T have to go.

[Emily]

I. I think you could pass on, but at the same time, if you care about that person, you do.

[Brady]

But it's Thanksgiving. I care more about my turkey and my stuff.

[Brett Vesely]

Boozy don't wreck it.

[Brady]

Boozy's wrecking it now. Now 13 people have to sit around and play boozy sad games because one dude can't control himself. I say you don't invite him to Thanksgiving and say we're having it on Friday. Everybody have a good Thanksgiving Friday.

[Emily]

Unless this guy's ruined Thanksgivings in the past.

[Brady]

Oh, he.

[Brett Vesely]

That's why.

[Brady]

That's why you'd have an intervention as a dude. They're afraid to have family function.

[Emily]

I would have no problem on that.

[Brady]

Like usually the intervention is because going.

[Emily]

To take care of Jeff.

[Brady]

Right. The interventions come because family functions have been ruined so often. It's like, look, we can't. We're going to. We can't even face the holidays right now. So. Or that do it on Thursday with the promise that once he's off to Malibu to go to his rehab that day you have a big Thanksgiving. The next day you're going to miss out on football.

[Emily]

Well, but yeah. The night game.

[Brady]

Yeah. You got good games. Really good games.

[Brett Vesely]

Do it earlier.

[Emily]

You know, one game.

[Brady]

The Lions are good.

[Emily]

It'll probably be. I would go. I do it early.

[Brady]

Great game. Yeah. So get. The Lions are actually relative. Like they're good. They're relevant.

[Emily]

Which game you want to miss and.

[Brady]

Hope it only lasts for like a halftime.

[Emily]

Yeah.

[Brady]

And turn the TV off because you can't side eye a game while you're.

[Emily]

And I would do it Thanksgiving only because pretty much have the rest of the weekend after that. Yeah.

[Brett Vesely]

They got leftovers.

[Brady]

Yeah.

[Emily]

Rather than doing on Friday or Saturday. Is true.

[Brett Vesely]

I think. Boozy, selfish.

[Emily]

I wouldn't.

[Brett Vesely]

No way.

[Brady]

I think you should. I think you should give your brother a heads up. Go. Hey, by the way, Thanksgiving's an intervention and he won't show up. Yeah.

[Brett Vesely]

There you go. I love that.

[Brady]

Well, I guess we just got to eat. He didn't come.

[Emily]

We're doing our part.

[Brady]

Yeah. And we. I did my part. I'm here. But, you know, where's the knife? Let's get to work.

[Brett Vesely]

Somebody here has got a suggestion.

[Brady]

That's a good one. I like that. Interventions. Brutal. Can't they effing. Let the brother have fun till the end of the year. Maybe help them out on the new year. Why are they doing it on Thanksgiving?

[Brett Vesely]

New Year's resolution.

[Brady]

There you go. Some people just knew you. I don't know, silly. Anyway, there you go. That, my friends, is exactly what Brady did. And he solved all your problems. Especially the one where you get to spunk all over your ex girlfriend's letters. It's 98. It's out of control. Now.

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