In this week's episode we're answering one of YOUR questions with a combination of expert tips and personal experience.

The Question: "I’m in my mid-20s now, but I still feel like my breakup from high school is affecting the way I show up in relationships. Like… my attachment style, my trust issues, the way I react when someone pulls away. It all kind of traces back to that first heartbreak. Shouldn’t I be over it by now? It feels silly sometimes, but it also feels so real. Am I broken or is this just… a thing?"

What We Cover in This Episode:

The breakup that still haunts you (yes, that one). We revisit the heartbreaks that shaped us and why your pain from that relationship is still valid.
Why your younger self didn’t need to “know better." A compassionate reframe for those moments when you look back and think, “Why didn’t I know better?” (Spoiler: it wasn’t your job to know. It was your job to do the best you could with what you had.)
Validation is not weakness—it’s healing. We talk about why needing to feel seen in your pain isn’t dramatic, it’s human.
Unpacking what breakups really bring up (hint: it’s not just about your ex). From attachment wounds to trust issues, we explore how heartbreak echoes in other areas of life.
How to offer yourself the compassion you never got. Step-by-step reflections on how to talk to yourself like someone you deeply care about.
Letting go with grace and a little bit of rage. We normalize the complexity of closure and what it actually takes to move forward.
Creating rituals that honor your healing. Whether it’s a playlist, a letter, or a literal ceremony, we explore ways to mark the end of a chapter.
Why your sadness makes sense. A gentle reminder that you don’t have to defend or downplay your grief—especially when no one else understood it at the time.

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