Hot Mess – Get Real With Me | Stassi Schroeder

Host: Alix Earle
Guest: Stassi Schroeder
Date: February 20, 2026

Episode Overview

This episode of "Hot Mess: Get Real With Me" brings together TikTok sensation and podcast host Alix Earle and reality TV icon, author, and self-proclaimed “OOTD girl” Stassi Schroeder. The pair settle in for a candid, laughter-filled “get ready with me” session, discussing all things beauty, confidence, reality TV, life transitions, internet culture, motherhood, and personal growth. In classic Alix and Stassi fashion, the conversation is lively, authentic, and endlessly relatable, creating a space where glam routines meet real talk about self-image, growing up in the public eye, learning to be alone, and the joys and challenges of evolving womanhood.

Key Discussion Points

1. Getting Ready Drink & Beauty Routines

• Aperol Spritz Obsession:
  • Stassi: "Aperol spritzes. And they both run through my veins like water. I don't even feel it." (01:31)
  • Alix jokes about allergies and how she sometimes gets hives from alcohol. Stassi relates by saying this is her "worst fear." (02:18)
• Alcohol and Motherhood:
  • Stassi defends the mom’s right to a drink: "What do you think moms of two are doing just sitting around sober every night? No, I still need to live." (03:23)
• Old Clubbing Days vs. Now:
  • Stassi reminisces: "I used to drive myself to the clubs by myself and be like, I'm sure I'll know someone there... I was here when Hollywood was so fun." (03:41)
  • Both lament that LA nightlife isn’t the same—blaming phones and social media.

2. Makeup Routines and Trends

• Insecurities & Internet Commentary:
  • Stassi reveals insecurity after internet comments on her “2016 makeup routine.”
    • "The last time and only time I did a get ready with me with, like, makeup, everyone flooded my comments with being like, okay, 2016. So I got really insecure about it and I never did one again." (04:24)
• Foundation & Eyebrows:
  • Stassi swears by Estee Lauder Double Wear: "It's like concrete. It doesn't move from your face. I'm not into, like, oh, let my skin show through." (06:05)
  • She stands by her "porcupine eyebrows," discussing lamination and her approach to trends.
  • "Sometimes people look better with thin eyebrows. Sometimes people look better with porcupine eyebrows. And I happen to fall into the latter category." (05:53)
• Contouring:
  • Alix details her nose-contouring process and self-doubt about it looking "orange," while Stassi shares her own blush-on-the-nose mishaps.
  • "This is what I do in lieu of getting a nose job." – Alix (15:43)
  • They joke about the pressure to look a certain way online and the fear of changing features.

3. Beauty, Skin, and Confidence Tips

• Best Beauty Advice from the Internet:
  • Stassi: “Probably to, like, get your color seasons done… It said that I was a true summer.” (25:59)
  • Alix emphasizes the importance of priming and skin prep.
• Rosacea and Psoriasis:
  • Stassi honestly shares about her struggles with skin conditions: “My dermatologist says I have rosacea. I also have psoriasis. I take injections for that. Shout out to Skyreasy. I could show you the craziest photo… It looks like the map of the world.” (27:36)

4. Life Transitions: Hair and Identity

• Going from Blonde to Brunette:
  • Stassi offers advice as Alix considers a hair change:
  • "You were just like known for being the iconic blonde. So we gotta let that go... You gotta let that rip. Rip to who she was before." (11:23)
  • Alix expresses anxiety about seeing her ex after changing her hair, leading to a discussion of “girl math” and timing beauty changes. (12:16)
• Changing with Age:
  • They relate on how different eras of their lives have called for hair, style, and self-presentation transitions.

5. Deeper Dive: Reality TV Life & Fame

• Stassi’s Reality TV Journey:
  • “My dad put me and my brother on the Amazing Race when I was 16 during my wannabe goth ugly phase. Before my chin implant… Then after that, I moved to LA… We have this show called Queen Bees… And then after I graduated college, I started working at this restaurant, Sur… reality TV gods just found me again… Vanderpump Rules.” (20:27–21:15)
  • She reflects on the highs and lows, calling it "like being in a really fucked up co-ed sorority." (21:26)
• Advice to Alix on Her Reality Show:
  • “Nothing worth it or great ever was easy… You really just need to not think about what other people are gonna [think]. That's the only way to survive.” (19:37)

6. Social Media, Criticism, and Momentum

• Handling Haters & Public Perception:
  • Stassi: "Only fucking weirdos do that. And I don't wanna be friends with weirdos. So what weirdos think about me? It doesn't matter." (22:26)
  • They discuss how fast things move online and how momentum is fleeting but powerful. (22:44)
• FOMO vs. JOMO:
  • Alix admits to FOMO; Stassi claims “JOMO” (Joy Of Missing Out): “I don't even need invitations. Like, I'm not one of those people that's like, I just like to be invited. But I like to say no, you don't even have to invite me.” (17:57)

7. Relationships, Breakups, and Being Alone

• Breakup Advice:
  • Alix: “I would say right now I'm a little bit happier when I'm, like, with my friends. Every time I'm alone, not so much. And talk to other people. Distract yourself.” (28:46)
  • Stassi: “It ended up being, like, the best time of my life because I learned how much fun it actually can be to just, like, be alone." (29:05)
  • Stassi offers empowering reminders to Alix about her accomplishments and potential:
  • “You have such an awesome life. You can literally do whatever you want… You are so smart. You are so brilliant and beautiful… you could just be alone forever just knowing that information.” (29:30)

8. Psychics and Astrology

• Both Alix and Stassi share their love for astrology and psychics:
  • Stassi: “I love psychics. I love psychics. Go talk to one.” (30:39)
  • Alix reveals she used to treat psychics as therapists in high school.
  • Stassi: “Every little decision we make… led you to exactly where you are now. So like that psychic, send him her some flowers. Just be like, thanks, I'm on top of the world now because I listened to what you told me to do.” (31:08)

9. Motherhood, Growing Up, and Changing Priorities

• Changing Social Life:
  • Stassi describes missing getting ready with girlfriends and how motherhood alters priorities.
  • Alix reflects on the pressure to “do it all” and enjoy the moment.
• Subtitles & Adulting:
  • Jokes about “becoming a subtitles girl” and never expecting to be that adult. (33:43)
  • Stassi notes: “Just like your 21 year old self never thought that you’d be a subtitles girl. Your 25 year old self can't ever imagine not going to clubs…” (34:06)

10. Games, Fun Segments, and Memorable Quotes

• Get Ready “This or That” Game:
  • Hilarious rapid-fire choices about wine vs. cocktails, astrology vs. psychics, Botox vs. filler, and more while Stassi, blindfolded, attempts to do Alix’s eyeshadow. (38:01–39:25)
• OOTD Origin Story:
  • Stassi describes buying National OOTD Day and embracing her "OOTD girl" reputation.
  • “Every day I would constantly just take a mirror selfie of my outfit and just write ootd... So you are the OOTD girl.” (24:00–24:17)

11. Pop Culture & Current Obsessions

• Stassi:
  • “Brooklyn Beckham, what he did to Posh Spice. The whole Blake Lively Justin Baldoni thing… …People coming for Taylor Swift because she called him a little bitch. Are you kidding me?” (32:21–32:40)
• Alix:
  • Talks about wanting to see new Jacob Elordi films and Wuthering Heights adaptations.

Notable Quotes & Moments

• On Social Media Criticism:

  • "Only fucking weirdos do that. And I don't wanna be friends with weirdos." – Stassi (22:26)

• Girl Math and Hair Change Anxiety:

  • "If I get my hair done now and then I see my ex boyfriend, shit could go wrong… Let's not take the risk." – Alix (12:27)

• On Breakups:

  • "It ended up being, like, the best time of my life because I learned how much fun it can be to just, like, be alone." – Stassi (29:05)

• On Embracing Change:

  • “Rip to who she was before. I think 100% you should be getting lowlights and trying something new.” – Stassi (11:23)

• On Reality TV:

  • “Vanderpump Rules was traumatizing at times. But it is really cool that I have all of my 20s documented, for better or for worse, and all the experiences that have come from it.” – Stassi (21:26)

• On FOMO & JOMO:

  • “I've always had Jomo, and that is joy of missing out.” – Stassi (17:57)

Timestamps for Important Segments

• 00:45–02:32 – Drinks, alcohol routines, and motherhood
• 03:41–04:14 – Nightlife stories, LA vs. old Hollywood
• 04:24–06:53 – Makeup routines, handling criticism, foundation, brows
• 09:46–11:49 – Hair transitions, identity, style evolution
• 15:07–15:57 – Nose contouring tips
• 17:21–18:16 – Getting ready with girlfriends, FOMO vs. JOMO
• 19:21–21:26 – Stassi's reality TV journey
• 22:26–22:44 – Dealing with online criticism
• 25:59–27:36 – Best beauty advice, skin condition talk
• 28:38–30:16 – Breakups, learning to be alone, empowerment
• 30:39–31:53 – Psychics and life guidance
• 32:21–32:48 – Pop culture obsessions
• 38:01–39:25 – “This or That” game while doing makeup blindfolded
• 39:48–40:04 – Uplifting outro: “You're a queen. Always remember that.”

Tone and Style

The episode’s tone is candid, sisterly, and irreverent: equal parts heartfelt empowerment and relatable messiness, with both women mingling vulnerability, humor, and the joy of bonding over “girl talk.” It's a potent mix of beauty know-how, hard-won wisdom, and unfiltered realness—an invitation to get ready, get vulnerable, and get inspired.

For listeners who missed it, this episode is a masterclass in glam, growth, and honest girlhood—celebrating the glow-ups, meltdowns, and everything in between.